How Age Can Affect A Relationship | Kingsley Okonkwo

[@nikkicreary]

Thanks, PK. My husband is 11 years younger than me. We have been friends for 11 yrs married for 4 years. My ex-husband and I were the same age, and he was very immature. Age don’t make relationships it 2 people committed to make it work...just my opinion and my reality respectfully.

[@Sudio51Babe]

Thank you!!!!!

[@josephineamgbolley7503]

Awwww l am so much inspired by your testimony,God bless your home forever

[@leadiabe2634]

Thanks for sharing 👍❤

[@KingsleyOkonkwo]

I love that!

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

Personally, as a woman I don't disclose my age. If you are my family, friend or partner you will already know it but if I dont know you...its not your business.

[@lizzyfresh07]

Age is just a number. What matters is maturity, flexibility, and adaptability between the male and female. Forget pressure from society and do you! 😊

[@christianaadie8653]

Nice topic

[@nonyetobe1912]

All correct. According to research, the younger you are, the less likely your relationship is to work, but there are few exceptions to it. The most important thing is for the man to lead well and for the woman to submit well. Thank you Pastor.

[@onlinelearningguide]

You are right! As a tip on the idea, man should acquire vital knowledge to help him lead the relationship well. His woman must respect and submit to his rules and share him her ideas if there are wrong idea.

[@mwanamrembo]

I am totally blessed from this teaching. I am the older woman. Financially though...he is better off so its not about money. Thank you for touching on all the points that matter. Its good to hear a Man of God from Africa teaching in this way. I pray you expand and grow richly continuing to spread your teachings throughout Africa and the world. I guess the time for me to discover you is now and I thank the Holy Spirit for guiding me to you and your wife. You are a blessing and a power couple. Keep shinning! Blessings from KENYA.

[@BenefitXX]

I didn't need this to know I'm on the right path...yea my wife to be is older than i am, Good to hear from you MOG..

[@MoyinoluwaDorcas]

Wow. This is great

[@timxdesign]

How many years?

[@BenefitXX]

@@timxdesign just 1

[@timxdesign]

​@@BenefitXX Thanks for the swift response, mine is 2 years

[@BenefitXX]

@@timxdesign sure bro, I've marriages the woman is 10years older but the respect is there for the man.. Besides psychic maturity too has nothing to do with age

[@agnesgomez9391]

Despite the fact that people say age is just a number ,getting married to someone I’m older than is something my brain can’t condone 😢it’s weird to me

[@preciousmulenga2230]

True

[@obiomandubisi-igwilo4351]

Yeah, me too

[@jennyslounge8689]

Same here

[@gloryawhaire7154]

I use to think and feel this way 😂 until I met and fell in love with a younger guy who is way more matured than the older ones I have met. NEVER SAY NEVER! 😁

[@agnesgomez9391]

@@gloryawhaire7154 you say 😂😂😂

[@gideontech2281]

In a nutshell, this is awareness of the inherent issues, so it's a question of "can you handle it?"

[@itzcaseykc]

I was married for 13 yrs until she passed away. I married later than expected, but we enjoyed each other's company immensely... despite her being 16.5 yrs younger than me. Our age difference was not one of concern. There was no power play in me over her and she liked how I was patient with her on many levels. She also appreciated that I could share my perspective of life as a whole with her without being arbitrary, etc. Maybe it was due to her being a little more mature than many others in her family (partly as a result of being disabled) and for me not always acting my age (according to some people). Overall, it was our faith in God that had a lot to do with how well our lives merged. It was a BIG thing for both of us.

[@tmbrightfuture2023]

Since I started listening to Pastor K. I have learnt a lot about marriage

[@seighatuks4704]

If others got it right with this... Why did you think you can't get it right... Age doesn't matter, perfect love is the key....

[@afinikiamos8806]

Thank you pastor k...but I have my reservations about a lady dating or marrying someone younger than her... it's a capital NO for me abeggggg sir... I cannot marry a man I'm one second older than...Adam was created before Eve nahh...😆 It feels so weird dating or marrying my younger brother kinda age.... abeggggg...🙄 But thank you for the highlight sir...😊

[@seighatuks4704]

People should just make themselves flexible with life... There's nothing wrong with older or younger... Dont be myopic... Love covers all..

[@Sudio51Babe]

I don't have a see a big deal in marrying a younger man. Intelligent men with the ability to lead is always my spec. Once we have that much, who am I? You become the master without questions. 😊

[@joyce744]

I don't want enter in a relationship with a guy that loves me so much because he is younger. But he is always there for me. Motivate me to be good.

[@regalchic]

Honey.. please enter.. I had one and I regret shooting him away with age. If he is able to lead and motivate you age regardless and takes good care of you and you don't look older than Him. Heck! carry on

[@chiomaokonkwo9046]

Take a chance with him. If it works, great! If it doesn't work, at least you know you gave it your best. We regret the things we didn't do more than the things we do in life.

[@victorwinner491]

Finally, someone addressed this issue!🤗

[@Aypantsula]

Finally bro

[@lucymuzungu7258]

Well articulated. Can a woman respect and submit. And a man can love no matter what. I agree it can be done.

[@nnekafaith8489]

Very, very.if u love the guy my dear if the qualities u want in a man is in him,no body will tell you , especially when he is taking authority/leadership ,u will obey him willingly.

[@kingdomtalk2526]

I've been waiting for a message like this ever since. Thank You Papa ❤️

[@margarethnyamushonongora7522]

Thank you sir, Wiseman. Nomatter the age the man is to lead and the woman enjoy being led and respect the leader.

[@emekaabuah6029]

Essentially, Pastor K is saying that if the woman ticks all the boxes and is older than you it's fine.

[@EssenceofGod5657]

Amen age is just a number ☮️

[@Dorismom]

A friend of mine referred me to Dr Baba dada the man that fixed my broken relationship without any effects I really appreciate you Baba dada the great spell caster

[@blessedadjoa497]

I found this quite interesting. In my church they generally are not really in favour of marriages where the man is more than 10years older than the woman. They believe the couple cannot "flow" well enough.

[@jeannettekomya7017]

My husband is 12 years than me, i’m happy and good with it, but my parents only know he is 9 or 10 years older. I really don’t know how they will take it if they know the truth since my parents are only 3 years gap. I’m 24 he is 36 ❤

[@obiomandubisi-igwilo4351]

You both are still very young

[@O.A-hc2dt]

Young how??? He is 36, she is 24 what do you mean by young

[@spanishfly7709]

I'm 45 my girlfriend is 24 and things are great.

[@okoliconfidence5777]

I am 24 my man is 50 yrs am really confuse

[@AtlasCorry]

​@@okoliconfidence5777don't be . Listen to the message again , if you can manage what was said , no problem ..

[@raelisr5688]

When a woman is older,I kindly request for scriptural references.God bless you

[@ChristaMeleha]

Best teaching ever. Age us just a number. Though pressure from outside the relationship but it takes the 2 people to make it work. Thanks Pastor God Bless.

[@nzoputachukwunnamezie7566]

Wow! I have being longing for this. But in terms of respect, women also need respect as well. Thanks

[@jesusmavericks]

SO IF BOTH ARE THE SAME AGE, & THE MAN HAS TO GROW VERY FAST TO MEET THE WOMAN, WHAT MATERIALS AND THINGS SHOULD BE ABSORBED BY THE MAN. THE PATIENCE LEVEL OF THE WOMAN TOO, HOW CAN THE MAN TALK TO HER TO REASON WITH HIM THAT SHE SHOULD WAIT, NOT FOR LONG BUT WAIT A LIL FOR HIM TO GET THINGS RIGHT IN PURPOSE AND LIFE? THANK YOU PASTOR K

[@rubymoore5875]

I truly Love Pastor Kingsley And Pastor Mildred and the God I see in them both. Truly you both are such a blessing. I love the knowledge God has given you both. I so need this kind of knowledge in my life♥ Thank You Both for truth..

[@lawalgrace6927]

I am 17years old and i have listen to many of daddy kingsley and mummy and i belive that if I keep myself with right information and i do something with what i know by the time I'm around 25 i should be a relationship coach i suddenly start having burdens for teenager around me with relationship. I wish to meet mummy and daddy

[@ikeholisa6837]

Wonderful I have been following them for awhile wish I new them before now You must have gathered so much experience I will like to hear from you I believe you will impact such value Looking forward to hear from you

[@lawalgrace6927]

@@ikeholisa6837 Good evening did, I just received the notification that someone responded. Yeah I have and I'm working towards being a valuable person

[@lawalgrace6927]

I meant Good evening sir

[@toluekwe]

I love listening to you and PM as your wealth of knowledge and insight on relationships is remarkable. Thank you Pastor for this video. I wish you specified age ranges for the statistics when you said “the younger you are, the less likely the marriage will work, and older you are the more likely the marriage will work”. Are there no limits to these statistics? If someone marries at age 21 or at age 55 for the first time do these stats still apply? God bless you for all you do to enrich and empower the body of Christ Sir

[@mrbennett]

Statistics are based on the general experience of people. It doesn't mean you cannot be an exception if you have the features he mentioned like maturity, flexibility, willingness to respect your husband regardless of age, patience, etc.

[@ejamemarvelous5331]

Thanks a lot PK for drawing our attention to things that really matter.

[@charleskay1]

May your days be long Sir.

[@jeremyhodge6216]

I'm in a relationship with a far younger woman and we get along well so far. We have plenty in common what I like about her the most she's a "Traditionalist" and that's very important to me ☺️👌💯

[@emildaadamu7742]

Man of wisdom, thank you sir!!🙌🏾

[@DevinObi]

I’m 23 she 22, luckily people tell me I’m mature for my age, I’m well on my way 😊

[@NdiAche]

Thank you Pastor Kingsley. I have leant from your wordings. Age is just a number. Maturity, flexibility and adaptability between the male and female is the key🔐

[@xeik7482]

You are so right about those around the same age ...100%

[@BubbasJuice2145]

😊 pastor you are on point with that the man has to be flexible but at 15 my maturity was in tact and I knew where we were headed and that’s right there were still times I wanted to go and did the club and partying but when I did, it was with his children, or our parent, you know we would go… the oldest daughter was two years younger than me and as I told her and her sister that I am not here to be their mother, I will be their friend because they have mothers. I’m here to love my husband and that’s what I’m gonna do. It worked out well there’s always bumps though.

[@sheillahnambafu8500]

Personally...it even comes down to why you want to marry an older person. Many young women want an plder man because they hope he is already settled hence security. With him, they hope that there will not be worries about life. Basically they think he is rich and can take care of them,so that they are not pressurized to wprk or dream bigger. It comes down to God...what does He say about that man or woman...is your choice His choice too?

[@cygwanfogbe246]

The younger you are when you make a decision of who to marry…..it’s true!

[@kimberlyjessicah9145]

God bless you Man of God. I was waiting on a message like this.

[@emekavictor714]

Hello Kim

[@oluchiblessing7811]

Thanks so much Sir! Thanks for always handling some problems that people are not talking about.

[@nikiwek.h6728]

With a generational difference especially if the woman is older, it needs a different kind of grace. And I mean a man at 21 or 22 years and a woman at 38years and above. I have seen the challenges in this type from a close friend and I don't know if such can work. Is there anyone in this kind of set up?

[@KCD8595]

I was in one recently w/ a guy 15 yrs younger...i gotta tell you..i was very self conscious as well as flatterd that he was attracted to me.. i enjoyed the attention,his company and the intimacy was fiery🔥...but yes i felt a lil insecure abt meetn his friends or family as well as bringn him around mines...we felt comfortable in each others presence but thats far as it got.......im older and i had to admit to my self that we really didnt complete each other in a way i could live with & be comfortable with....we werent on the same wavelengths in my opinion as a couple with a big age gap.

[@nikiwek.h6728]

@@KCD8595 Thank you for your honesty. And it's true, when the gap is too big it's hard to bridge that, especially in terms of opinions and outlook on matters of life. Because they still need more experience and exposure to life.

[@jayaustin1939]

Well from my point of view as a man the generational gap doesn’t really exist because I’m quite in tune with the times. Consequently we tend to be on the same wavelength when discussing different subjects be it fashion, music, politics, etc. I do not belong to the category of older people that are completely oblivious to the mindset of a younger person. Understanding and appreciating the mindset of your partner and making the necessary adjustments while also carefully introducing your wealth of wisdom is key. I’m 47 she’s 30.

[@god563616]

American Men think old starts at 30 and have been dragging negatively 30 and 40 year old women who want relationships really bad for the last few years which is disgusting and insane to me because those ages aren't old. There is nothing wrong with anyone having preferences but the superficiality of humans have really reached it's peak which is affecting the marriage rate significantly. Men act like they don't want women and women the same yet they need each other! Relationships have never been this divisive.

[@AtlasCorry]

How old are you

[@Okoliesamuel101]

Thanks for the teaching, Pastor K. You did justice to the topic.

[@sportingarenatv7495]

GREAT WORK MORE GRACE SIR MORE BLESSINGS IN JESUS NAME .

[@BubbasJuice2145]

Pastor everything you’re saying is just on point I have to write a book about it age ain’t nothing but a number will be the title

[@pandorabox8765]

Hello good day I've listened to what you said and you said the man should lead and have a woman should have a patient and respect if she's older and hes younger but what happens to the respect and loyalty honesty trust commitment when the woman is older and the guy is young I understand the role of playing a position as a woman no matter what age you R but where's the respect for the woman of an older age where's the understanding of a woman when she's older that a man is supposed to give her I only heard you talk about how a woman is supposed to respond to her mate versus hermit responding to her

[@hopeamadichukwu8781]

bravo, you are the best mentor Pastor K. more grace

[@confidenceagochukwu8520]

I feel like I'm not supposed to be my age😂 Like a 28year old in a 20year old body. I now understand why I have certain preferences in a relationship. Thank you PK

[@laurajaff1203]

Same as me dear

[@punila8671]

Same

[@mklovlif]

The thing is we turn to be in denial as we go older 😅 we don’t want to accept our older age

[@nkechiezeala]

​@mklovlif no, It is not denial. Sometimes I literally forget my age when asked and have to calculate in my head because I feel way younger than my actual age by God's grace.

[@allenmirabel5445]

Same here as well I look so younger than my age , that when I tell people my age, they don't believe me 😅

[@gemezuonuoha4977]

Thank you so much sir, this video has given me clarity

[@enumangene6914]

Thank you so much PK for opening my eyes to the reality and complexities of age differences, this definitely gave me more clarity!!!

[@PhilipThrives]

Thank you for sharing Sir.

[@MomentswithFlorence20]

Thank you so much for this Pastor Kingsley. It’s very timely for me.

[@Sflowwzz]

Age is nothing but a number... Nice one, Pastor K!!

[@mavisakomea3895]

Woow... always been asking myself dis questions... Thank u Soo much for impacting us

[@benoric3865]

I learned something. Thank you Pastor.

[@okafoevelyn7587]

Thanks for this message Pst K. This is honestly the issue I'm facing right now, my parents are refusing to accept my man because he's 20yrs older than I am. I honestly don't know what to do, he's intentional about everything he does and a very disciplined person which is something I find rare in young men. I honestly don't see myself being with someone who doesn't know his left and right or still trying to know his purpose, I'll rather be with someone who I can learn from everyday. I need advice 😟

[@mzSte]

Read Pastor K’s book - I love you but my parents say no. It will specifically address this dilemma. I hope this help Evelyn

[@ladyjulkt6133]

20year is alot. Please please pray and listen to your parents advice pleeaase

[@obiomandubisi-igwilo4351]

Listen to your parents oh, their refusals saved me

[@okafoevelyn7587]

@@mzSte Thank you

[@okafoevelyn7587]

@@ladyjulkt6133 Thank you

[@Giftfolktales2024]

Thank you Pastor Kingsley. God bless you.

[@chrispinacrispinsamu1208]

Thank you sir 🙏🙏

[@phanieproperties7180]

Nice piece. Blessed

[@nanaessy4304]

God bless you

[@divinefavourgiftsamsondeen609]

Thank you so much for this powerful enlightenment message. God bless you sir

[@sylvabiam1438]

Indeed, men worldwide love respect!

[@vanessaaniefo8226]

Age is truly just a number indeed.💯

[@etinosaevbuomwan8101]

Such an amazing watch. I know better now, Thank you PK

[@Aypantsula]

❤❤ I love this man

[@fitswemilastephanie6347]

This is apt!

[@ThatMega]

This is now clear to me now, Thank u sir

[@zeeckymande1084]

All points, on point👌🏾

[@esthershine2486]

Thank you so much Man from God 🙏

[@katebenduba7027]

Thank you man of God.

[@alexedem4987]

Thank you for this enlightenment.

[@emmanuelchibueze5854]

Thanks for this teaching God bless you.

[@kikinora6201]

Thank you pk🥰

[@segnokosi1878]

Thank you Pastor. There's a lady I've been thinking about. Mostly I get discouraged bcs I'm 7 years older than her. I pray she understands this when I shoot my shot.

[@edwin-21grace]

Go ahead and shoot your shot she'll definitely understand

[@jayaustin1939]

Hahaha! You’re funny man. 7 years gap is absolutely nothing. As a matter of fact it’s negligible. Go ahead and shoot your shot. You’ll be alright I guarantee you. I’ve got 16yrs on my girl (46/30) and we’re getting married soon. She’s more excited of the prospect than myself. But I must say genetics favours me because I literally look early 30’s and I’m also a health and fitness enthusiast. Bottom line is depending on the couple involved, age is literally just a number.

[@tayooluwa1616]

Thanks pastor k for this enlightenment, I am really blessed sir..God bless

[@Lizpearly]

Nice message...Thanks sir

[@razberryaj6746]

Sweet! Great insights here!

[@floraapi9431]

Beautiful. And very understandable. Thanks for sharing❤❤❤❤

[@thelmalum7990]

Thank you pastor K...i keep learning from u every day🤗🙌

[@BubbasJuice2145]

My 40 year marriage ended in 2018 when I lost my husband age is just a number I was 15 and knew what I wanted and he was 35 it took me a lot to convince him that he would not regret marrying me and we did our thing for 40 years and we had a good life

[@adeolaadebiyi7618]

😮

[@MiyzP]

How do you convince an adult to date a child 🤨 this is a classic case of grooming .. where were your parents. You had no business dating at that tender age. You were a teenager. That shouldn’t even be legal 😮

[@mzSte]

15 years old. Which country please and what was the age of consent in your country when you met him ?

[@olufunkekolajo3747]

Age really matters in a relationship but the gap shouldn't be so large. I totally agree about flexibility..

[@nnadozieonyemairo4387]

Thanks PK. More grace dear.

[@maryannchiamaka1323]

I have seen this video long before now but I have refused to watch it. I have a brother whom am sensing that he is God's will for me,but my biggest challenge is he is between 12-14 years older than I am. And that's very scary for me. Seeing the comments here is quite encouraging yet I don't know. I feel ashamed of what my friends will say. I hope God deals with my mindset to accept his will.

[@daniellaibe]

Go for your happiness,you don't have to be bothered about what anyone says talk more of your friends.. my own man is 15 year older than i am

[@blessingarchibong833]

God Bless you Sir

[@chituruoji8939]

Thanks Pk. Love this video so much.

[@emmanuelsamuel2283]

Well said sir...thanks sir

[@tamboumiebi9486]

Good one

[@omolabakeadekoya335]

Thank you so much for this PK...God bless you Sir!!!

[@foyinlolasworld6072]

Thank you for sharing 😊 much needed

[@emekavictor714]

Hello lola

[@NextGenwithFo]

Please help please am currently dating a lady who is older than me by 3 years am. I don't feel comfortable with that age.but the only reason am kind of tolerating it is because apparently she talk with a certain prophet who told her am her man and that God is gonna use us mightily in ministry. So am confused and i have actually been asking God to take me back home as in just die cos how could he have given me an older woman

[@chineduanyanwu3387]

Depending on one’s values system…

[@daniel-vn9tq]

The cashless thing is to ensure the no buying & selling part of the mark of thebeast which is out now as the c19 💉❌🧬. Put your house in order, Jesus returns no more time. Jesus comes. Repent and ammend your ways. Put your house in order. No more time. Don't take c19💉, it's the mark. There are signs in the skies. Lk.21:25. The 💉tech is in the air, water, food, mosquitoes, cover up with THE BLOOD

[@TobiMoniola]

Well elucidated

[@sakerlyfri5182]

I have been waiting for this 🙌🙌

[@maryjanedayo174]

Same here

[@similoluwaoyepeju3534]

Thank you pastor k

[@ariandmary]

I have a 26 year gap with my amazing boyfriend and we couldn't be happier; we're going strong for 5 years now and have built something beautiful. :) We started speaking about it on our channel. It's good to be proud of yourself in this way; what anyone feels about your relationship isn't meaningful if you're actually happy.

[@ecotastv]

Just dey play

[@ecotastv]

Just dey play

[@ariandmary]

@@ecotastv I’m not sure I understand what you’re saying

[@ecotastv]

5 yrs of be in a relationship and no commitment of getting married. That's ungodly. If you have truth in you, hope you understand

[@ariandmary]

@@ecotastv not everyone wants to get married, friend 😀

[@musah09068]

pastor k u ar too much sir May God increase you in knowledge Can't wait 🕺

[@kesienaemefe4582]

Thank you for this pastor 😊

[@maduokafor]

Hi