Marty (3/10) Movie CLIP - A Big Night of Heartache (1955) HD

[@Themaxxrad99]

"I chased after enough girls in my life, I went to enough dances." A movie made in 1955 is more relatable to me now than any movie made in my time.

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

@@itstenebro I don't think so.

[@itstenebro]

@@nocturnaljoe9543 Your name is Nocturnal Joe. It's a cool name

[@honkhonk5181]

Never seen this. Does he end up going to the dance or not?

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

​@@honkhonk5181 Yes, he goes. Watch the movie, man.

[@Morra5472]

@@honkhonk5181 It's a good film. The actor won an Oscar for it.

[@MelancoliaI]

"I got hurt enough. I don't wanna get hurt no more." this is a guided missile to the heart

[@varletconstundefined]

I thought i passed the point of being hurt. Oh man i almost cried this whole video explain my current situation

[@michaelcornacchione8993]

@@varletconstundefined Been thought it.

[@Reclusi_Ark]

Just dump some flares

[@cjrciadt]

Not even Airwolfs Sunburst can thrwart that weapon of destruction

[@BudokaiTH]

More like an elite sniper's scope

[@AdvogadoFalido]

Sometimes being alone doesn't hurt as much as being rejected.

[@mamaheartbasti]

i feel u bro

[@AdvogadoFalido]

@@mamaheartbasti but the most important thing is being happy with ourselfs, don't mind the past ou the future too much. I hope you guys are fine.

[@mart1484]

Still hurts but hurts less my man

[@alcoholic2652]

"I set my standards pretty low so I'm never disappointed." - Otis B. Driftwood

[@ferd1572]

@@alcoholic2652 good point

[@neganOG]

"you are not ugly" every mom says that trying to make their kids feel better about themselves but that just hurts a lot more cuz we know that ain't true

[@The_ready_guy]

My mom is savage she doesn't give a damn and tell me the truth right in front of my face.

[@neganOG]

@@The_ready_guy i wish my mom was that honest to me

[@The_ready_guy]

@@neganOG I don't think you actually want that. It's brutal if you are young. Now I am 20 and have accepted my fate so telling me stuff like that is like beating a dead horse. I just cope on daily basis so I don't rope.

[@Grandmaster-Kush]

@@The_ready_guy Same here, ugly from a beautiful family, i've been told since day 1 I was ugly and unplanned, still had hopes for some sort of love but now i'm in my mid 20's and I gave up, saving for a house in the woods so I can be alone.

[@The_ready_guy]

@@Grandmaster-Kush Good luck brother. I am a brown arab and my brother has dirty blode hair and he looks white. He is a prettyboy and gets simped over by girls on tiktok. Genetics work in an unexpected way....

[@MrKago1]

"There comes a point in a man's life where he's gotta face some hard facts. And the fact I gotta face is what ever women want, I ain't got it." I felt that down to the bottom of my soul. Never been able to put it in words so effectively.

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

How have you been, man?

[@dewok2706]

@@nocturnaljoe9543 He's gone, man.

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

@@dewok2706 How de wok do you know?

[@Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387]

Rip

[@TheSeanoops]

You might not have it now, but you could.

[@Oorakhhye]

I think the double whammy here for Marty isn’t just him being hurt...but seeing his mom also hurt from him being alone and he feels powerless to do anything about it.

[@AndreNitroX]

Nice analysis

[@AmeliaThatsMe1]

Empathy, which you have or you don't.

[@johnsmith-fk7fw]

idk whether it was intended or just coincidental, but it really shows hes a loser. as you said he feels powerless, but he realizes hes fat and still there stuffing his face

[@intimpulliber7376]

Exactly. Knowing how bad it must be to have a loser son, investing so much money, resources, care and love into one child only for him to turn out a reject filled with anger and angst is so much worse and so much more painful than simply being those things. She wasted her youth, her opportunities, her everything, only to get old while seeing how miserable your son is and being helpless, having no way to help him. Thats what really kills me inside. Not the rejections and personal failures, but the failure of making my mom happy. She deserves the world, and I cant even give her the happiness of a mother seeing her son living his life well.

[@derrick.t4031]

@@johnsmith-fk7fw "stuffing his face" he's literally just eating a normal portion of dinner. I know ya hate to hear it, but fat people gotta eat too.

[@RickACG]

Do you know what I like about this scene? How after the meltdown he quickly puts the mask back on, like most people hide their true feelings behind a fake smile

[@shalariel24]

I do the same thing, day in, day out… I am fine, I am ok, it is what it is… Living in the motions, and the sad part is… You try to open up and you quickly get shut down, ignored or even betrayed, used or even manipulated… No wonder why some guys can’t take it any more and try to find the nearest and quickest exit… :-(

[@Two_Wheel_Therapy]

@@shalariel24 You summed it up perfectly.

[@robertsullivan7080]

LaMancha. One reply stated that after his outburst he puts the mask back on. I disagree. Marty fell back on a true 1st generation Italian mother. I was raised with these beautiful people in steel mill towns around Pittsburgh.On Thanksgiving the turkey went uneaten. I remember at the table Mrs. Fratangelo saying,"My sister knows nothing about turkey. It don't wanna digest! I know she wanna poison us all. Toss that bird puts the back door and get the squirrels sick. As with every year, your mama think ahead. Carmella in downstairs oven l gotta big cooker with a real food, pasta, sauce, meatballs, sausage. Get it so we eat real food. Who's idea this stupid bird". That wonderful mother of Marty oozing love, Heya Marty,why you no go to Moonglow Ballroom and dance with the pretty girls. I hear they gota some "hot tomatos there" Marty is so bowled over with his mother's attempt at using a bit of "with it" lingo his hurt melts instantly. I believe l am most pleased with Borgnine winning best actor, #2 is Broderick Crawford for "All the King's Men"

[@joeyoung1973]

And there first worry is how others feel dont wana be the source of any pain

[@psmpvshorts4600]

@@joeyoung1973 can't agree more

[@Blank85289]

Absolutely hate the people that say “oh just love yourself” as if wanting just one singular person on this planet to care about you is to much to ask for.

[@derrick.t4031]

Big agree. I hate being told that.

[@searchthetruth1981]

That phrase of : you just gotta love yourself is really hollow There are times in life you like yourself and. There are times i life you hate yourself....and thats just human... Not a single human being can always be in love with him /herself Thats just nonsense...

[@rafaelpais970]

"Just love yourself" = "I don't like you so you better cope"

[@centralintelligenceagency9003]

@@rafaelpais970 "You'll find the one, just wait." = "Shut up and go away."

[@rafaelpais970]

@@centralintelligenceagency9003 They just mean "You better like yourself, because I'm not gonna like you".

[@smithsj227]

"Whatever women want, I don't got it"- Wow, that just...really hit home a lot more than I care to admit

[@jamesfarnarkler]

I've known that about myself for years. It's not something I can control so I don't sweat about it.

[@Tebony2]

So on behalf of all the good ladies, pls where are the good men cause everyone seems to be claiming they are and we can't find y'all

[@Tebony2]

@@Heybigsambo to be honest I don't use all these online apps. I think they are so weird.

[@tolom9258]

@@Tebony2 I'm not blaming all women but so many can be so utterly cruel to unattractive men, I've been brutally rejected and humiliated by women so often that I simply gave up going to discos and bars

[@Tebony2]

@@tolom9258 oh no I'm so sorry. They will surely regret it someday because as one gets older, you realize it's not really about looks anymore. It's more about who treats you well

[@Big_Steve11]

"I don't wanna download Tinder again Ma, I've matched with enough bots, I've been ghosted enough. I don't wanna get hurt no more"

[@sledge2742]

Bro ain't this the truth, I've uninstalled and reinstalled tinder too many times

[@harryh875]

😂😂

[@harryh875]

@@sledge2742 damn and i though I was the only one having issues with t1nder.... Maybe cause we're just ugliii lol.... Yep we're all ugliii 😂

[@sledge2742]

@@harryh875 nah man its just the way the app works, loadssss of guys swipe almost every semi decent looking girl but girls rarely swipe, so you know, unless you pay for gold youre screwed for matching

[@harryh875]

@@sledge2742 lol

[@segevkrespi8609]

The worst part about this is not only you are unhappy because you got rejected multiple times, but you have to live with the feeling of letting your parents down

[@DarkPhoenix19]

@Basedlander well, you are taking the easy way out by saying it’s not your fault it’s their fault, that is stupid because you were born the way you are and in a life that god chose for you and now you have free will to do the things you want to do, my advise is stop blaming everybody but yourself because even if your parents didn’t care about you or didn’t buy you the things that you wanted eventually you might get kids so try to do what your parents couldn’t

[@anton_c8gur]

​@@DarkPhoenix19gaslighting... some guys wont even have girl friends what more for kids

[@maxmulsanne7054]

Letting your parents down is becoming a career criminal, ripping off family members of money and/or valuables, or killing someone while drunk driving - not because of "failure" of obtaining relationships with people strung-out-on-stupid with their self-inflicted issues of vanity created by our materialistic society.

[@honkhonk5181]

@@maxmulsanne7054ultra based and truth pilled

[@maxmulsanne7054]

@@honkhonk5181 Ultra based & pilled.... elaborate if you will.... Let's see what further context you desire to claim that remark that you casually desired to make ... by all means my dear boy continue this discussion if you will...

[@resmith66]

The most powerful and devastating scene in the film. Marty's words of frustration, resignation and pain tears into your soul.

[@briankearsey1836]

This scene had a monumental impact on me when I saw it years after I lived "Lord of the Flies" in Catholic school, and my heart still breaks every time I see it. I'm not disparaging the church - my wife's experiences in government schools was worse because they didn't pretend to aspire (don't get me started on etymology - ponder that the root of aspire seems to be related to inspire, i.e. literally breath in the life force) to any higher authority other than the gov't, whereas I got to live the stark dichotomy of promoting Godly virtues while allowing the seeds of endless scenes such as this to be planted and nurtured right under the blind eyes of the nuns. I'm blessed for the dark experience that opened my spiritual eye and made me the teacher I've been in my 40+ years teaching in rebel private schools I ran that put emotional intelligence on par with (actually above) intellectual development. I shared this clip and my experience with many high school students over the decades...

[@joselaw6669]

@@briankearsey1836 You are living the life!

[@jmw9904]

Maybe not in just this film, but more so than a lot of the modern day movies too.

[@lepetitchat123]

What gets me about this film is how selfish the people around marty are. They only think of themselves, never what makes Marty happy.

[@raidenjack_tr8789]

Every men and males that are already been through it also feel the same

[@diegoviniciomejiaquesada4754]

After more than 6 decades later this scene summarices the emotional and romantic situation of many of us.

[@NoBonesNoLife]

It’s over for many men

[@HypnoChode74]

@@NoBonesNoLifefeminism truly killed it for everyone

[@RG-qc7dh]

​@@HypnoChode74wtf are you talking about? Feminism has nothing to do with this, I'm a woman and i relate to all of this

[@1994g0]

@@RG-qc7dh Feminism indeed has nothing to do w this. Marty`s plight comes from a worldwide belief and practice of emphasizing physical appearance.Woe unto the person -male or female- who is ugly.A life of rejection, lonliness and humiliation awaits you.

[@BigChacco]

@@RG-qc7dh now me and you both know good well you don’t relate to any of this. You mean to tell me that there’s no person out there that genuinely wants to be with you and you’re just not giving him the time of day.

[@noahnewcomer5180]

It never ceases to amaze me how a 2 minute clip in a movie from the 1950s quite literally made the most relatable moment to every man to have ever lived on the face of the earth.

[@MrPSP-ry1qn]

A movie scene from 67 years ago relatable to my 20 year old self. This scene is a truly masterpiece.

[@simsportif]

Because what was true 67 years ago still holds true today, even more so now that the dating scene is like london after the blitz.

[@CrewDrastically]

Was your name inspired by Sony PSP?

[@MrPSP-ry1qn]

@@CrewDrastically actually thats first letters of my lastname and middle name combined. People call me firstname_PSP

[@wierd774]

You’re 20 my man. Plenty of time.

[@that-guy213]

​@@wierd774yep plenty of time to get hurt constantly and rejected don't give a man false hope for he will run with it a come out the other side with war scars

[@JamieStallingsworth]

what a great actor he was.

[@sublimeaudio]

and person too.

[@fodsaks]

He was truly brilliant.

[@elderkime]

Nice profile pic

[@stevenbeoethy4049]

Won him an Oscar!

[@bighuge1060]

I love Marty patting his mother's wrist to let her know he appreciated her.

[@lordtrill7731]

Yeah, To show her he felt bad about raising his voice

[@RejectedSpiritX]

@@lordtrill7731I like how she also remained calm and nonjudgmental because she understood just how much of it he’s heard and what his experience is like. The people in the film make him feel like a failure for not getting married at 35, while no woman was interested in him simultaneously. It’s sad when everyone makes you feel like a failure and treats you like one.

[@sni18per]

whats even more emotional than his heartbreaking internal struggle, is the fact that even when he is sad and angry about his situation, he still made sure not to storm out or yell att his mom to make her upset or sad. instead he sits down, despite all the pain he is going through, claps his moms hand to show compassion and proceeds to eat his dinner while making a joke to lighten up the mood. what a chad

[@Loewemon25]

It all built up and the pressure valve release and once he could he slammed that mask back in place. I know the technique well. No one teaches it but every man knows it to some extent

[@justcallmechris3987]

Never did I think I would be relating to a 1955 movie so much in 2023

[@Charon58]

When he read for the role, this was the scene they had him read. He said later that he knew he had the part when he looked up after reading it and director Delbert Mann had tears in his eyes.

[@innitmate6574]

Hi, do you have a link of the audition video, i really want to see that, thanks

[@TheSaintRevolver]

Also after they stopped their tears everyone clapped

[@jasongarcia8893]

@@TheSaintRevolver i mean the story is true

[@anthonymead4359]

I'm not surprised. Watch bad day at black rock and you see his massive potential coming to the boil. Marty was perfect timing!

[@lightmage2968]

I keep coming back to this video... only time I ever feel like someone really understands me.... it hurts, it hurts so damn much

[@ashiqahamed7740]

Yup same feeling

[@em23]

I wish you well. I know this feeling.

[@Qcxm]

The whole comment section is able to understand each other in this video your not alone

[@InsideUCLA71]

The way he tears away after saying "a big night of heartache" is one of my favorite things an actor has ever done on film. You can't teach that.

[@virginiaclark2476]

Wow. And I thought only women felt that way- still single women

[@johnmilius3031]

@@virginiaclark2476 Are you kidding? Women never suffer loneliness like men do. Nobody cares about men, not even other men.

[@danyyilbun6736]

@@virginiaclark2476 interesting, you get this feeling? I always wondered, but kinda harsh, I mean most girls are somewhat attractive, like guys would be interested in relationships with them maybe, while many guys don't have that choice

[@destructivebean1]

@@johnmilius3031 our generation is changing that. Always check up on your boys

[@rafaelpais970]

@@virginiaclark2476 POV: You have 0 social awareness.

[@KilroyWasHere83]

Every man watching this clip knows exactly what this feels like. We feel every word of this deep in our soul

[@someone-ji2zb]

Eh, some men perhaps, but most guys end up married by the age of 30 at least, and in decades past (especially when this movie was made) it was before the age of 25. So it certainly was not the norm back then, but rather a representation of the few who are left wanting.

[@CarlosEmilioEsq]

Two and a half minutes of genius. Marty getting a kick out of his mother suggesting, or even knowing about the Stardust Ballroom. Then nonchalantly confessing to her that he's accepted that he'll always be a bachelor. After she persists, confessing out loud all of the years of hurt and rejection he's already endured in silence. To finally losing his temper and revealing to her his insecurities and his "heartache." After bearing his soul, I love how he taps his mother's arm as if to apologize for having yelled at her, or having shared his burden with her. Comforting her even though he's the one in pain. And chuckling again about the Stardust Ballroom being loaded with tomatoes. After that emotional roller coaster, he puts on his blue suit and does what his mother says and goes out dancing.

[@kidkieran77]

So much in just 2 and a half minutes. It captures what life is like as a self-aware average/below average dude. Not just when it comes to dating but so many other aspects too

[@29subhra]

A mother's love for her son is unreasonable

[@giovannicosaro9456]

A lot of guys feel like that

[@westy229]

It's lucky to even have a mother have so much faith in an ugly bug of a son. They're either wrapped up in so much delusion to not see what the rest of the world sees or genuinely love something unlovable and just wish that thing shared the same love of life. Not Marty of course just felt this scene was too real and related to it.

[@Josh-fp2qn]

Great now I don’t have to watch the film clip.

[@patorikum]

it's sad how many men these days life this scene over and over again.

[@patorikum]

@@harryh875 what why? those are sexdolls? why would I look them up?

[@harryh875]

@@patorikum trust me bro, once you see them your jaw will drop to the ground.

[@thekittenfreakify]

@@harryh875 those dolls look pathetic.

[@harryh875]

@@thekittenfreakify well if you're not on the same boat as Marty then these d0lls wouldnt obviously matter to you cause you can easily get the real thing lol. But these d0lls aren't pathetic at all, they're incredible and can k1ll the lonely feeling for ugliii mennn

[@thekittenfreakify]

@@harryh875 outside of the social thing. They just look horrible. They need more work.

[@LPJack02]

RIP Esther Minciotti (May 20, 1888 - April 15, 1962), aged 73 And RIP Ernest Borgnine (January 24, 1917 - July 8, 2012), aged 95 You both will be remembered as legends.

[@ethanjensen7967]

There are so many men out there who have been rejected their whole life and feel worthless. And then they're blamed for society's problems.

[@xt4977]

Well men like this are seen as disgusting and evil so it's understandable why they are blamed

[@maliknova6063]

@@xt4977 How is it understandable?

[@gatoloco3949]

​@@xt4977Yeah I'm sure these short grotesque men are so dangerous to America. 😂😂😂

[@RG-qc7dh]

What about women dude

[@ethanjensen7967]

@@RG-qc7dh yes, women too

[@TheDarkGraven]

As someone who has tried time and time again to find a girl, to put my heart out there only to have it stomped, crushed, or tossed aside, this resonates with me. People ask me why I am still single... I don't wanna be, I want someone to share everything that brings me joy, I want someone to love and to hold through those long nights. But life isn't like the movies, its not like the books, its a cold miserable place and we don't get what we want. We never find the one true love, we deal with heart break over and over again till we grow so sick of it we either settle with someone we don't love or we just stop trying. All we can do is keep it together and cling to the few social connections that keep us from ending it all.

[@ghostfacedude93]

I feel the same way. I hate life

[@idunno1471]

Looks are everything

[@darksider2903]

@@idunno1471 nope. Money and power is everything. With these, everything is available

[@idunno1471]

@@darksider2903 yes you'll get fake love from women. Or if you had a decent base you could use surgery to make urself gl

[@darksider2903]

@@idunno1471 women loves you as long as you can provide enough. In the end all comes down to Money and wealth. You shouldn't expect true love from any women. Only a mom loves her son, nowadays that too getting ruined by so called feminism

[@segevkrespi8609]

Every line his monologue was like a knife to the heart

[@susanb2015]

This scene was the screen test. After the scene the men there were crying and he knew he got the part.

[@Ladylubber]

Susan B just saw that interview! That’s what brought me here!

[@steveconkey7362]

He came from the set of Bad Day at Black Rock to read it in a hotel room.

[@susanb2015]

@@steveconkey7362 I just saw the interview where he said Spencer Tracy told him he'd get the part and he did and he also beat him at the Oscars.

[@ferskay]

Is that actually true?

[@susanb2015]

@@ferskay Yes. But this is a scene from the movie and not the screen test. I heard everything from Ernest Borgnine (Marty) interviews.

[@dsztiger3158]

At 34 with no relationship ever I resonate Marty's feeling. Tried to put my heart out with pure intentions to every girl i spoke or went on date, but only ended up hurting myself. Some girl's don't reply, some only want to chat, some will never meet and those who meet will never want to meet again . I guess some guys like us have to accept that starting a relationship, family are not for us . Sooner we accept this , we can save our self from more humiliation and pain. I hope all guys like Marty out there who are seeking their companion, may they find peace and purpose in their life's.

[@japanesesamurai4945]

The thing is that i can accept it, but deep inside i will never be able to get rid of the need to be loved

[@RiruKrypto_]

@@japanesesamurai4945 pets might cure that but you gotta take care of it.

[@bornanime3255]

Thanks for the heads up man. Was thinking of giving up on relationships too. Still young right now, but always did know it's a life I wasn't meant to have. At the very least I want to embrace that fact. It's tough.

[@nin5057]

You only think about this scene but have you seen the end of the movie

[@JamesGalaxy41]

​@@RiruKrypto_ yeah exactly! So what if I never have a partner? I can always have a companion

[@BruceJC75]

You rarely see this quality of acting anymore. It’s so real and completely relatable! This movie is a real encouragement, and I think it gives lonely hearts a reason for hope.

[@edgregory1]

"Hope can drive a man insane; its got no place in here" (Shawshank)

[@AndreNitroX]

Well said when you watch older movies like this, you know these actors weren’t in it for just the fame but were in it for the art

[@moonage_]

There are so many films that feature actors who have acting skills as good as this. Stop generalizing things. Go look for good, modern films.

[@AndreNitroX]

@@moonage_ Perhaps art house films but not mainstream. care to give me some recommendations.

[@aniym21000]

​@@AndreNitroX yep, now most movies are dudes getting $20m to put on a mask and cape and claiming that they're just telling 'human stories in a fantasy world' lmao

[@goPistons06]

Just one of the great things about this fantastic little scene: it's not just that Marty is alone, and that he's been rejected. It's that he feels unloveable, it's more than the difficulties he encounters, it's the deep frustration and despair.

[@spoolyboi9434]

I can relate I've been single 3 years and not that I haven't tried but I get no attention from women and have resorted to online dating I have no idea where else to look for single women I don't do clubs or parties nor bars I work and come home, not that good looking short, a little round in the mid section and get no love from women

[@goPistons06]

@@spoolyboi9434 it's tough, i guess you gotta have patience and be a bit creative. That's what i'm trying right now

[@thebull004]

​@@goPistons06 patience is worthless.Every year becomes harder for a man.If u can't get a gf now u probably won't be able to get when u'll start to bald and to lose ur youth.

[@goPistons06]

@@thebull004 screw that. that's just the sort of attitude that holds you back.

[@nathanchilton8917]

@@goPistons06 i call it being realistic. you can have hope but it's gotta be in line with reality. otherwise, it's just delusion.

[@johnnyatmosphere3460]

This is literally me explaining to my mother why I’m still single. Seeing this really broke my heart because it was just a reflection of what my life looks like.

[@Limerick502]

There is no way Marty could ever be ugly. God bless you Ernest Borgnine, you were one of my favorite actors ever.

[@m.e.d.7997]

Ernest Borgnine really wasn't and neither was Betsy Blair.

[@deensaid7762]

Unfortunately though, Marty predicted the rising of virgins and forever aloners in today's world. And the rising of mental illnesses among the men.

[@taketheblackpillneo3940]

@@deensaid7762 its over, rope or cope!

[@ezraelreynolds3442]

@@taketheblackpillneo3940 never began

[@orlandojohnson3039]

Yes.

[@donovannewman8462]

That little pat of his mother's hand to let her know that he's sorry and didn't mean to take it out on her, just frustrated with his lot in life and that he still loves her........touching man!

[@retroverdrive]

01:03: "I figured I was past the point of being hurt" hits far harder than it should.

[@GalacticExplorer_Edits83]

It’s so true😢

[@stiv.2809]

“Whatever women want, I don’t got it.” Me too brother. Me too.

[@TheFockerizer]

The thing is , women don't know what they want So it's best to ignore them

[@Grandmaster-Kush]

Attractive face, that's the one.

[@spinx5943]

@@TheFockerizer they want good face and height, its not rocketsience

[@cbacigaluppi]

​@@spinx5943they don't all want the same. Tons of women out there marrying short guys. Women out there marrying guys you look at & think, "how did he get her". Women out there with poor guys. Which is why the line, "whatever women want, I don't got it", hits so hard to some of us.

[@UserRobot215]

@@cbacigaluppiwomen married those short or ugly guys because they had no other option and had to settle, otherwise they’d be with tall chad

[@myleswooten1188]

Those weren’t just some lines on a script he had to memorize… Those came from a real place somewhere deep down inside his heart.

[@jonnyteutonic5290]

I've watched this scene so many times it never stops hitting me. "I'm miserable enough as it is." And "You'll know what I'll get for my trouble? Heartache. A big night of heartache." Props to this actor. He crushed it during a time when film was only for the brave.

[@dryde1509]

Sadly I can relate to this. Im in my mid 20s and each time I express myself and tell a woman how I feel about her I get the short end of the stick. I was taught my whole life to treat women well, be respectful, responsible, considerate, and emotionally available. All I've wanted was a mature-minded woman that I can love but it never seems to work out and it really makes you feel like you're not good enough even though you know how much you have to offer as a person. I'm just at a point where I'm completely locked in on my goals and I'm learning to love my own company because every time I pour my heart out and show a woman that I care for her I end up hurt.

[@dreykenv2163]

being kind and honest gets you nowhere these days , everyone will say you're a good person but no one will respect you and no one will care but you know its how we humans are, and i will continue to be what i am .

[@Rohit.Gaikwad]

Introverted ?

[@onekill31]

Having a good intention these days will make you look more suspicious to people. I gave up being kind to everyone and only cherish those who really know your worth.

[@dickonmanwoody7599]

You were lied to. Your entire life people lied to you about what women like/respect. I'm sorry. It happens to all of us.

[@massimoforesti]

You basically described me. The one difference is that I fear the day that the girls I wanted come back begging for a chance.

[@BilingualPorcupine]

I hate how much I relate to this. Hope anyone else who is here in a similar fashion find their happiness. Much love

[@ramansingh7949]

Life of a man is a real hell in this world if you are poor or middle class there is no love. I'm an orphan spend more than 25years alone and at 26 started feeling alone so i thought i should share my problems with a girl i did and she laughed on me and said you should learn to love yourself and learn how to live alone

[@4ka07_muhammadrizky]

Omg dude i'm really sorry for you

[@name-jl6kt]

Hope you're doing good my man

[@SirAuron777]

“Women love vulnerable men” “Women want to listen to men’s problems” nothing but lies, sorry that happened to you bro

[@lawrencer908]

Im getting that too

[@ShimaTheCatto]

I mean she isn't wrong.. U don't want to be the only one vulnerable in a relationship. Learn to love yourself and try again I am sure u will succeed

[@Varrock45]

So many men have been where Marty is in his emotional journey. The worst part of rejection isn’t the rejection itself. It is the insidious feeling that you aren’t good enough. Which makes you start to feel worthless and inferior.

[@ulysses4989]

*Whatever it is that women like, I ain't got it.*

[@lorgaraurelian4076]

WiitwLiagi

[@enriquearellano3643]

Chad genes.

[@Diz2Drippy]

Felt that on a spiritual level

[@Jonathan-dg6ey]

@@enriquearellano3643 Yup

[@bertroost1675]

Fact

[@Shipwreck8l8]

Story of my life , every word he said.

[@Sameoldfitup]

"You can only avoid regret by switching off your imagination."

[@martinbench3657]

My god , this man is all of us

[@EliHank]

One of the most Black Pilled videos i've ever seen and it's from 1955...wow. I feel you Marty....I really do. Never began for people like us

[@DarknetDude]

It’s kind of amazing that this phenomenon always existed.

[@Josh-fp2qn]

Yeah, but it has only gotten worse for the average man.

[@zairman]

Yep. He speaks truth, and it's exactly how I feel.

[@davitofarito]

His Mom was just trying to help like mine was circa 1995 when I was 40 and she hounded and pestered me to try a dating service. After a series of failed first dates that reminded me why I gave up trying, she said "I'm sorry...I wanted to help, but I can see I've made you even sadder".

[@ytbasketball101]

That hurts to read man I hope that you have lived a fulfilling life regardless.

[@Hyrule409]

The big thing is that your mom tried. Even if it was a failed attempt, please be big enough of a man to recognize that it was a genuine attempt.

[@Toxic2T]

My mother just understood that, I'm 27. I gave up since monogamy is dead, I don't have problem picking up women, the problem is avoiding getting c*cked.

[@centralintelligenceagency9003]

@@Hyrule409 The road to Hell is paved in good intentions.

[@blackpilledchad1927]

@@ytbasketball101 How can you kive a fulfilling life without getting b*tches? Of course, he's been coping his way until the reaper comes to collect

[@azto1-ht5sm]

“girls made me feel like i was a bug”

[@SPACEDOUT19]

this one hurts cause of how true it is

[@HenryGarcia-oq6sl]

Real life, real pain, even on a Saturday Night

[@820monster]

A tough conversation to have with family especially your mother who is blind to many or your flaws. But that quote, "Whatever it is that women like, I don't got it." is a powerful line that hits home. It's how I feel, I'm happier now that I accepted it. But I do wish I could know what its like to be loved even once before my death.

[@ColinStephens-f3o]

the only difference is in real life, its not just cause you been chasing the wrong girls. in real life, you don't suddenly magically find someone that actually wants you. You die alone. Either accepting it, and embracing your own pursuits or not and till the bitter end being desperate for companionship you'll never have. I accepted it.

[@mecarr]

Don’t give up.

[@justiniani3585]

Incredible how relatable this is for a 50s movie. Even down to the mom trying to be hip and use modern slang to persuade the son to go out. It's really sad. Parents try to make dating out to be pleasant and fun but in people like Marty it only carries negative connotations.

[@BumGodinez]

29 years later and this is still me one day ill just end it. One day then maybe I can stop being sad.

[@yanisamirat630]

Don’t say that my friend, try to do things that make you happy, exercice and try to be a better person everyday, don’t focus on having a relation but focus on loving yourself and maybe one day that special someone will see how amazing you are!

[@innitmate6574]

I met my current wife when I was 24 and before that I felt exactly like Marty and was about to give up for good. I cannot guarantee you that you will definitely meet someone in the future but just remember that there`s ALWAYS hope as long as you live.

[@AndreNitroX]

There is always hope

[@taketheblackpillneo3940]

ill see u on the other side bruv.

[@RomanianBoyz]

We all hit our breaking points eventually. Hope the process is as smooth as can be for you. Best of luck with whatever you do.

[@zhongwa]

I watch a scene like this, and then I think about some villainous parts Borgnine played and I'm just blown away by his acting ability. Really a great actor (and a great performance here).

[@keysersoze657]

This literally incapsulates any man who struggles at dating, get laid, etc. Pure honesty

[@hungrygarfield]

It’s never been so over. In fact, I’m inclined to believe that it never even began.

[@ianmorrisonmovienutcase5713]

This is me. After being rejected too many times and never being given a chance to prove myself, I don’t even wanna try anymore.

[@anderson-gb8rp]

Same, Im trucel.

[@Votanw]

Brutal

[@matthewvaneyk4713]

You know Marty ends up with a girl in the end right?

[@ianmorrisonmovienutcase5713]

@@matthewvaneyk4713 I do. But it’s a movie. You can write a happy ending in a movie. Doesn’t always work out that way in real life.

[@matthewvaneyk4713]

Doesn’t always, but giving up makes it a certainty.

[@TheAmmarp41]

29 year old male here never been in real relationship despite having a stable job,ok personality and not so bad physically when he says"Whatever women likes I ain't got it"i felt those lines.

[@cbacigaluppi]

That hopelessness of not knowing what the problem is, is rough.

[@kamartaj3010]

@@cbacigaluppithis man. I think everyday everytime what went wrong? What am i doing wrong? Still no answer snd this thing is eating me up

[@azto1-ht5sm]

@@cbacigaluppiproblem is your genes, your height and facial features. That is the only things that matter. Everything else is a lie.

[@cbacigaluppi]

@@azto1-ht5sm wtf you talking about?

[@rangers199487]

Truly phenomenal film.

[@chrisbryan2539]

Good thing my mother knows it and doesn't expect me to keep trying for something that won't happen.

[@thatoneguy3883]

For my short years on this earth I haven't seen a scene that hit so close to home. I'm almost 22 and I have never dated a girl. I've been single for so long that the idea of being in a relationship is completely alien to me and I can't for the life of me picture myself being romantically involved with a girl. I look at those around me and they seem to (for the most part) find someone who matches themselves in more ways than one but for me, nothing clicks.

[@richardy2071]

Gentlemen, you are both young. Stop looking for women. Worry about yourself until you hit 30 and then by that point women will be coming to you if you make yourself into a successful man

[@thatoneguy3883]

@@richardy2071 Don't worry I haven't been looking for anything from any woman.

[@aminm7714]

@@richardy2071cope , feeling validated is one of the most important things in life . Nature is juste brutal .

[@corsaircarl9582]

And someone says this these days they get made fun of...

[@luisvelasquezjr]

Probably. But I guarantee you they will still relate on the inside. Either you're experiencing this, have experienced it, or are one of the lucky few to never have and never will

[@luckylosergames]

Because people are insecure

[@fauberkaupfmann982]

@@luckylosergames dont dismiss this as insecurity, thats too naive. this is plain old bitterness and malicious intent of people who do this crap, and they should be vilified for it. saying its insecurity undermines the problem as something casual, but in my personal opinion its not. these people already have too much on their backs to be treated like this. imagine not a single girl ever showed sexual interest in you your life, how would you feel? pretty bad, i suppose.

[@luckylosergames]

@@fauberkaupfmann982 I'm ace bruv

[@fauberkaupfmann982]

@@luckylosergames wdym?

[@PeteMcCorvey]

I saw this clip on TikTok and decided to look this movie up. Apart from living with my mother, I identify a lot with Marty. I'm in my mid 30s and have always struggled with relationships. Everybody around me has kids and a significant other but I can't seem to make it past the 3 months in relationships. I get so sick of people saying "you're not ugly" I may not be but like Marty said in this video: "Whatever it is that women like, I don't got it." I would like to get married and have children but I come to terms every passing day that it may not happen for me and have made peace with it.

[@astrobricks3220]

This scene just hits different.

[@AndreNitroX]

Relatable

[@phamhuuphuoc275]

Even though it's just a movie but the moment he stood up and shouted really showed that he's in deep pain. Never in my lifetime that I've ever resonated with that feeling that much, I'm actually going through a break up right now even though it's been a year already but I don't think I'll ever be able to get over that.

[@skieth9999]

I kind of started crying during this movie, it just happened without me realizing it. I feel like I was suddenly remembering every dance I'd been to, every time my lack of social graces made me feel like I'd never be able to get a girlfriend, and the times I was dumped. At some point you just want to stop being told by people that they don't want you

[@kirkmcclean9686]

You get accustomed to being alone and the hurt of rejection is 1000 times worse than being alone.

[@reallydarlings-se2xf]

Poor Marty. Such a sweet and well-meaning man. It turns out all right for him in the end, thank goodness, but so heartbreaking to watch. Every time.

[@Weshopwizard]

That’s because it’s a movie. In the real world we get the shaft 24/7.

[@TheBeast-ub9jo]

I am Marty now. He’s right, you think getting rejected gets easier, it does when a really good looking woman does it because you’re expecting it but when it’s no one special, that cuts deep. But like always, I switch off and put on a mask like it’s no big deal and move on by talking about something else when my brain is going 100mph trying to figure out why, while acting like it no big deal being rejected.

[@SirAuron777]

Exactly, no big deal when you know the rejection is 99% likely because the woman is very attractive, but when a woman is around your level of attraction or lower and rejects or ghosts you, it just kills your soul

[@robertfreestone414]

I wonder how many dateless permanent bachelors watched this movie in the theater were thinking to themselves:"Damn. That's how it is."

[@Gangstalker88]

Marty is a bit of all of us. Im saying this as a 30 yr old who lives with his mom

[@AlienCel1]

Same

[@SaundersE5]

@@AlienCel1stop that, there’s a nice girl got you

[@username094]

Same

[@EliHank]

I'll be 30 on the 2nd of February and I'm in the same boat as you brother. Never had a girlfriend and never will.

[@AlienCel1]

@@EliHank we have to stick together were the only ones who understand each other

[@kmatthews1867]

Loaded with tomatoes 😂😂😂 it’s cute how his mom is speaking the slang of the day

[@eddyspagetti9899]

she's just repeating what her nephew told her a scene or 2 prior

[@donaldsmith9642]

If any mothers or grandmas or any other type of guardian reads this, when your kid says " im ugly " dont reply with " no your handsome/cute " or whatever because trust me you kids knows because they interact with people their age every day at school and can see how other people treat them.

[@SansaStarkw]

Even since elementary school, I was always sitting alone and no one seemed to care. I was a loser and an outcast. No surprise I was never good with women and yes I was not attractive either but maybe I can beat the odds of life.

[@chainsawpanda2]

My mother once told me the worst a girl could ever say to me was "no". The first time I really tried to ask a girl out all I got was "ew, gross don't talk to me". Made me feel like less than nothing. To this day I can't bring myself to try anymore. Yknow I got called handsome by only one person in my life who wasn't my mom. She was my auntie. Only thing I got is my singing voice, but it's not even that good. Stay strong brothers, we gotta support eachother out there cuz no one else will.

[@DarknetDude]

All we really have is ourselves and each other. And don't let society gaslight you either.

[@corsaircarl9582]

Had one tell me she'd rather walk into traffic.

[@DarknetDude]

@that one dude Respectable.

[@luaiderar6600]

@thatonedude6247 Same, I didn't even bother because I was called ugly and get made fun of in public, not some whispers, people loud and proud proclaiming my hideous face. Guess I'm just going to studymaxx

[@danielsurvivor1372]

Brutal man.

[@ZetaReticuli_]

One of the things that always got me about this scene in particular, is when he realizes after sharing his true feelings, and how hurt his mother is seeing her son in pain, he tries to brush it off and fake laugh about the "loaded with tomatoes" bit. Children also try to protect their own parents, and often times from what is hurting them. On the one hand it seems noble, but on the other, it is internalizing your own emotions which is never good. It may hurt for your loved ones to know that you are hurting, but if they truly love you, they would want to be there for you and help you through it, as you would for them. It may be hard, scary and painful in the beginning, but that is only temporary. It gets better from there.

[@cbacigaluppi]

I think the line, "whatever it is women want, I dont got", hits so hard, because we see all kinds of different guys, with women. Rich guys, poor guys, handsome guys, ugly guys, tall, short, fat, skinny, muscular, all in a relationship. Then there are the guys who for some reason, there's just something not there, and not knowing what it is, so we can fix it. Man, that's what hurts. A lotta guys will say they're a good guy, but can't find love. Some of those guys are delusional, or lying, because they're not good guys. But theres the ones that genuinely are, & get grouped in with the liars & cheats, & whatnot. Oddly enough, that reminds me of the movie, "Can't Hardly Wait". Where Jennifer Love Hewitt's character is dumped by her high school sweetheart on graduation. So all these guys come at her in the most disrespectful ways. Meanwhile, Ethan Embry's character, is just trying to give her a heartfelt note, & she embarresses him by giving him the riot act, in front of everyone, because she assumes hes just another POS guy trying to get in her pants.

[@panzerken]

Great scene.I tear up every time.

[@isfakiqbal4927]

I guess some of us are destined to be lonely forever.

[@memesday4605]

Correct brother we are indeed

[@kamartaj3010]

🫂

[@RileyWuzzHere]

“Whatever it is girls like, I AINT GOT IT.”🎯🎯🎯

[@jonathanpalma9657]

Some of us were just born to be alone, that hurts a lot. Hope the rest can get a better life.

[@ricardomilos3464]

Just the average guy in 2022.

[@dandcc9192]

This is such an honest and introspective scene from the 1950s. One would think everyone from that era were lady's man.

[@devildogus2187]

“Girls made me feel like I was a bug!” Story of my life 😢

[@elliotchandler3872]

This movie is very hard for me to watch. I am a 40 year old Marty. I have been suffered for too long wondering when my life will change.

[@ShaneM321]

Life change when you do m8.

[@zairman]

@@ShaneM321 Sometimes people just are who they are. There is no changing.

[@cristi-luciansarban470]

@@ShaneM321 Change for what? You just lie to yourself... Some of us are just meant to be alone. It sucks but it is what it is. Nothing matters anyway...

[@ShaneM321]

@@cristi-luciansarban470 nice defeatist attitude you have there :)

[@HDbacon]

I'm turning 31 and feel the same...why does everyone think everyone gets to "win". Just because you are brought up to think and get treated where everyone wins...doesn't mean that's how life plays out for everyone.

[@TomJupiter]

This just hurts too much. It hurts so much wondering whats wrong with you, whats missing from you, whats preventing you from getting that person you like.

[@aminm7714]

You’re not good looking like Chad .

[@siruristtheturtle1289]

Outside dating, this is the part that hits the hardest... You always wonder what exactly went wrong with you, what's that broken part that prevents you from being normal.

[@antsygorilla2835]

i go watch this everyday before i go to bed. I'm at the point in my life that I've tried so many times that I've given up. if i die in my sleep alone I'm strangely alright with it.

[@japanesesamurai4945]

You are not alright with it, you just make yourself belive that you are alright with it. I know how it feels

[@lordtrill7731]

Bruh take ALL that grief and WORK OUT! Get your body and mind right so they will come to you!

[@gerryyaum]

What a performance, no wonder he won the Oscar. Will rent and watch this movie next week.

[@strahinja9760]

,,Girls made me feel like a was a bug"

[@quisqueyanguy120]

I can relate.

[@centralintelligenceagency9003]

It's that look. That mix of disgust, shock, pity and annoyance the second you address them.

[@STOMPaaa]

It's crazy how long ago this movie was and it's still relatable as hell.

[@rodolfotepoxtecaalvarez2649]

Just had a similar conversation with my mom this week, I’m 40, this is too real

[@scottfree6479]

We've got an entire generation of Martys right now

[@jh6y06]

I've never had a scene that hits me so much, that i didn't know i could relate so much to it.

[@AndreNitroX]

I spent all of high school feeling like I was invisible, and I soon became comfortable with that. Now in college I want to make something of myself, not just for a girl but for me.

[@braysway10]

"Whatever it is that women like, I don't got it" I felt that to the core.

[@Iloveflowers2024]

This is such an amazing movie. One of my favorites. It makes me tear up every time.

[@gb213]

"you never know, she might just be right around the corner" is what people tell me. and there is always a woman around the corner, but always was for someone else.

[@ace_2k3]

Who else gets teary eyed watching this ? 😭

[@anderson-gb8rp]

85% of men.

[@luisangeldiaz3637]

Definitely me

[@tweed0929]

Hits like a hammer.