4 Things a Man NEEDS TO FEEL to Fall in Love with You

[@Mat_Shaffer]

→ Sign up to get access to my weekly email exploring love, life and relationships you won’t find anywhere else here 👉 www.matshaffer.com/ QUESTION OF THE DAY: what have you noticed is the most important thing a man needs to feel to open his heart to you? Did I miss anything?

[@jamiehawkey3129]

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[@hukeaz]

1. Respect 2. Acknowledged 3. Safety 4. Excitement

[@Mat_Shaffer]

yesss you got it!!

[@irawise8315]

1. Respected for his purpose and mission / what he's doing in the world 2. Acknowledged for his actions 3. Emotional Safety 4. Excitement for the relationship he has with you.

[@Singinbluebird]

These are only if he's pursued and captured you ladies. If a man is hot /cold and not committed, nothing you do will make him come close. These 4 things are with men who have already earned your time, heart, body and commitment ❤️❤️❤️💯🙏🙌

[@Sportsproet]

Such an important addition🙏

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Appreciated. ❤️✨

[@lydiakehiloe544]

Still teaching men to "earn" women? Catch up.

[@mariarossi6719]

I remember watching a fascinating podcast called Diary of a CEO with Lewis Howes a few months back. Lewis talked about how he was completely upfront with his girlfriend at the start about how she was never going to be his number one priority. First was his health, then his purpose and then her. She respected him for this as all her previous relationships had been with men who hadn't had any sort of purpose. It was one of the most interesting podcasts I've listened to for a while and I was gripped from start to finish. This ties in with what you were talking about when it comes to honoring and respecting his purpose and men equally respecting ours.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

YES to all of this!!! such an important aspect of creating polarity with a man :)

[@winxclubstellamusa]

This is off topic, but the long hair is your LOOK! It suits your look and personality so much. I absolutely love it. I don’t understand why more comments aren’t being made about your beautiful hair. I love the Jesus as a spiritual healthy relationship guru look.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

aw THANK YOU! I love my hair too :)

[@anamarie76]

This is really new from the usual dating advise we have on the internet. This guy really always makes sense., keep it up!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you! Will do!

[@sky_3023]

I like that you use real life examples of you and Callie, it helps a lot! 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad it was helpful!

[@cynthiathurman6991]

I just discovered you and you’re now my favorite relationship coach. I’ll be slowly bingeing on your videos and looking forward to new ones. Thank you! ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much! ❤

[@flaviaalves7455]

Your videos are so enlightening! For years I excluded my influence from the equation, and now I see better how I can be myself and still be able to hear the other. Valuable lessons, thank you!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

so so appreciate this feedback Flavia!!

[@flaviaalves7455]

@@Mat_Shaffer it's just means your mission is being achieved. Thank you and keep on the amazing work

[@ronda1977]

I've watched quite a few of your videos. I gave everything all over to God. In his timing. Since 2014, to be exact. I have a man now (that found me) who is amazing! I find some of your tips, I've already demonstrated. In which gives me relief! However, I have learned so much, and I'm happy I finally found something like yours & Callie's marriage. Thank you!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wonderful!

[@Faith-mv2yj]

God bless you and your relationship. I have done the same and have met the most beautiful Godly man, I feel so blessed and thankful 🤍

[@cathywalas9860]

Matt..this was such a nice video (as always ❤) thanks for your balanced,caring and well chosen words. I appreciate you! (And Callie) 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@SandraWalters-fe1iz]

I am an older woman I apply a lot of your stuff to my own relationship it works thank you so very much

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so glad this helped you!

[@spiritofhonuguidanceforlife]

All of this goes for us women too...we want to feel all of this from the masculine.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@anyabelle]

Hi Mat. I've heard your earlier version of this lesson before, and I prefer the word "Appreciate" for the letter A than "Acknowledge", actually, hehe.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

HA so glad you appreciate that! ;)

[@anyabelle]

@@Mat_Shaffer Haha, nice.

[@leahjanulgue7200]

Thank you so much Mr. Shaffer I will definitely apply your advice!. Let's see what happens.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Best of luck!

[@becomebrightwithin]

This was a great video! Do you have any suggestions for where to find high quality men? I don't like dating apps, I've left the bar scene and I feel a little lost on how to meet guys now.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much! I always recommend going to gatherings/meetups around things that you are interested in or passionate about... it's an awesome way to meet people you have common ground with :)

[@leighannfleming8670]

By the way I always try and listen to all your videos you are the best.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Fantastic! Thanks so much!

[@reemsaif3105]

Love it. You're advice is super clear😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad it was helpful!

[@antonettereyes5468]

hi, hello, I'm from Manila, I subscribed you! great teaching! and you look great too!. ❤️😊👍

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for subbing!

[@Jackie-g2p]

Matt those girls didn't know good Guy they had ❤Thank You for all Guy tips help Us Women greatly !!! Found Your CALLING IN LIFE

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so glad this helped you!

[@crystaldance5731]

Great video mat thankyou 😊❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so glad this helped you!

[@hindi4521]

Hi, Matt. Love your content. Could you please help us ladies with Bantering. All the videos on youtube are more focused to help men.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Sure thing!

[@mariarossi6719]

Brilliant points. I gained a lot from this as with all your content, Mat. I'd love to see you one day do a collab with Jake Woodward who talks about the importance of us embodying our masculine and feminine energy. Since I discovered his channel, I've learned a lot about this topic which I previously knew very little about but it's SO important, especially for us to be able to have thriving relationships.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you! 😊 So happy to hear you’re finding the content valuable. And yes, Jake Woodward is great! Balancing masculine and feminine energy is such an important topic for thriving relationships. I’ll definitely consider a collab. In the meantime, if you’d like to explore this more, I’m hosting a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨

[@susiehernandez8530]

Hi I just love your videos ♥️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

thanks Susie! so appreciate that and YOU!

[@lamisericordiadejehovaesgr260]

Ohi really like you your speech is deep from your heart

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks much la misericordia de Jehova es Grande❤️ Glad to hear that🙌

[@marymarseglia4536]

Well a woman needs to be respected as well for what she is doing or has done as well. Unless you are rich most woman work at something. So he needs to give her respect as well

[@Mat_Shaffer]

couldnt agree more!

[@ramonaedwards5338]

If you are feeling this way then you are over giving to him. We should give without worrying about receiving.

[@geraldinehughes4490]

My beautiful question: Dear Mary, Were you born naturally from a woman out of her womb?

[@winxclubstellamusa]

Respect being mutual goes without say! It’s common sense. All emotionally mature people know this.

[@Yviechen]

"he" still can't fall in love with me. Just watched some of your vids about that topic. The man I want to fall for me, just doesn't. He says he's not capable of feeling love at this point.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don’t give up on love Jessi🙏 I promise there are still good guys out there❤️❤️❤️

[@briangonsalez2173]

Excellent video!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you very much!

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

The me do good? Made me laugh 😂😂😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like it!

[@newgvan555]

Ok dude, you had me at the cave man thing! So true! 😊🙏

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you liked it!

[@antonettereyes5468]

hi, you look great!. 😊❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you!

[@antonettereyes5468]

yeah, I like your style! You look romantic!. 😍

[@lilliankillian7366]

Hi Matt .what if my guy does not like questions and clams up I try to ask him centen things we are togeather for a couple of years and are in our sixtys I care about him but would like to have a little more times a week togeather and be a little more affectionate. I can I get him to let me his feelings ty any help would be appreciate

[@Mat_Shaffer]

you get to express your needs around how important quality time and vulnerable communication is to you! men truly do need boundaries, I promise!

[@leighannfleming8670]

Hi Matt I guess my original message didn't make it there, I'm in a long distance relationship he lives in Argentina and he's a psychologist . We have never met, anyway we met on a dating site, he loves me and I love him, the only problem I have is he won't get an email so we can talk there instead of on a dating site where it cost money. He's the most wonderful man in the world I know he loves me but there has to be some reason why he won't get an email and I've asked him several times and he won't say anything he won't give me an answer he won't tell me why. I am so bewildered by this any help you can give me would be deeply appreciated thank you Matt

[@Mat_Shaffer]

If email isn't an option for him, consider exploring other communication platforms that offer free options, such as messaging apps or video calling services. Find a solution that works for both of you and allows for more direct and cost-effective communication. Good luck LeighAnn Fleming🙏❤

[@leighannfleming8670]

Thanks for the info Matt, I appreciate it

[@daniellealexandra237]

​@@leighannfleming8670pretty sure you have to use an email address to sign up to a dating site? 🤔

[@leighannfleming8670]

@@daniellealexandra237 yes you do, but I don't know it

[@mjrussell414]

@@leighannfleming8670I really hope you have moved on. That isn’t a relationship and he doesn’t love you - not really. Please take care of yourself and certainly don’t give him any money. You are worth more than a vague internet “romance.”

[@leighannfleming8670]

Sorry for the errors in spelling it wouldn't let me edit

[@Mat_Shaffer]

That's fine, LeighAnn Fleming❤

[@ingridkhajeh8982]

Hey Matt Lovin the long locks bro

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your kind words ☺

[@helendag]

John Gray says that man should not ask how it make him feel,feelings are female energy.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback!

[@margaret7500]

Unfortunately divorce has created a weird dynamic in some men and they become obsessed with their daughters, probably out of loneliness but it's messed up. I'm not going to support that, no thanks.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@BiancaSwindlehurst]

Yeah, the question is if it this can work for any woman to get a man vibrating with ecstasy. Well, there's this cheat sheet that might spark some exciting ideas, read it in Celestine Dessike's latest. Maybe try go'ogling her or something.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yeah thanks for sharing

[@marymarseglia4536]

Well we aren't your mother's or maids so you should clean up after yourself. It's not up to us

[@Mat_Shaffer]

mutual support is a key aspect of healthy relationship :)

[@BooKitty9274]

Mutual respect. Make em your best friend yet you can have sex with them 😂

[@geraldinehughes4490]

Thank God

[@julieb6624]

I totally have a crush on you 😻 You are so handsome as always and you seem to be a great person too. Your girlfriend is lucky. ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that!