8 Reasons Men Fall In Love | How to Inspire His Attraction

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@tigerpepper111]

8 Reasons Men Fall in Love 1 He can relax/be himself around you. 2 He feels emotionally safe around you. 3 He feels ready to emotionally invest in someone. 4 He deeply believes that he can make you happy. 5 You fit well into his current life. 6 He can see his future with you. 7 You have passion and purpose in your life. 8 He genuinely has fun with you.

[@linagirl8817]

Thank you ❤️

[@crystalthow5533]

Wow i didnt know i am eligible to all the 8 points. Thank you

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that!

[@sandyg173]

Be yourself. Be vulnerable. Tell him your truths. Be open.. Be kind. Be loving. Be affectionate. But mostly realise if it's meant to be it will be.. I found the one after years of abuse from a shitty relationship.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

[@valeriem7005]

Hey, Mat. I am an older lady and have been married for 41 years to my college sweetheart. Your videos provide insights into the masculine and feminine dynamic that I enjoy learning about. You help me see how and why our relationship has worked well all of these years. But I also learn about ways to improve our partnership and to connect on a deeper level. It is never too late to learn how to improve. Keep up the good work!

[@moonchild66]

So glad u have had a long happy relationship!!! Xx

[@DaBeautifulKey]

How long did it take him to fall in love?

[@evelinehaanstra9069]

@@DaBeautifulKey more important: is he still in love with you...

[@valeriem7005]

@@moonchild66 Thank you!

[@valeriem7005]

@@DaBeautifulKey We started off as good friends and fell in love gradually.

[@pureeraco.9177]

Just being myself!! I think that is a golden rule :) also realizing when a man is opening up, and appreciating him for it ♡

[@marthadillard5536]

Lb.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad to hear that.

[@patriciamasuda2506]

Two complete people coming together. Not two people completing each other. Most powerful point of all, no doubt. Your outline so well laid out, you could write a book based on this video alone.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback!

[@laurapreston348]

He worked his way into my heart...i didn't see it coming! We are very happy!

[@dorothysmith7226]

so how did he do that??

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy to hear that!

[@GodIsLove7377]

APPRECIATION means a LOT to a man. It’s a sign of RESPECT. I make him feel like my HERO everyday and it makes me SO happy to give him that respect.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@wendybrown2189]

I was a stranger and He fell in love with me cos i was soo caring and kind to him, even more so than his own family. Esp wen he was going thru a hard time. Stranger to friend to the love of his life!

[@Vibrantly_Monochromatic]

Fascinating

[@wendybrown2189]

@@Vibrantly_Monochromatic indeed it is natasha. Thank u!

[@leahjanulgue7200]

Wow

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love that share!!:)

[@wendybrown2189]

I feel privileged to hear from u matt. Yes..mine is an inspiring story

[@nathlete87]

O my gosh Mat, I found you through Helena and you’re a blessing. So many things I want to say, but mostly, thank you for bringing a male perspective that is based on feelings and genuine emotion. So many male coaches teach from a place of manipulation and strategy. You’re so appreciated.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So glad my content supports you:)

[@Curiamacabre]

He is spot on about everything!! Amazing insight, how does he know all this?? Haha!! My boyfriend told me he realized he loved me because he could be himself around me, I am very open and have learned over the years to be ok with being vulnerable and honest and it does attract a real love. Sometimes we are not even aware of who we really are or what we really want unless we go through some relationships that end. Instead of closing ourselves off, we must move forward with what we’ve learned and be honest with the next person we meet. Always be real and don’t blame the new person for what the past person did!! Move forward together and the man will drop his guard and real intimacy will come out of it!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!

[@alonagsofly]

You’re smart. I have watched other male relationship coaches but you’re different. You’re good. You know exactly what you’re talking about and it shows how you talk with a heart, with real emotion. Just watched one of your video. Then watched one again.. I’m your fan now. Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

[@alonagsofly]

@@Mat_Shaffer _you’re welcome.❤️

[@keshakellogg5995]

Three phenomenal things, Mat: 1) Advice 2) Hilarious video cuts 3) Bookshelf styling I super-appreciate your presence here on YT and offering your perspective. My friends and I benefit from it so much. 🙏♥️

[@barbaranavarro197]

I think we women do have needs as well and lately I have felt that men are the only ones in the relationship who need support. Its like they are babies! I am a woman and I want someone who knows who he is and what he wants. If he is insecure or he needs too much from me I'm out. I have done it before and it didnt go well, he cheated on me and i felt really stupid. Last time! If they need help, they learn first before trying to be in a relationship with a real and serious woman.

[@BA-hb9hh]

Bárbara Navarro it may be the type of guy your attracting. We usually attract the same type of guy time after time. Depends on your vibrational frequency and the types of guys uve dated in the past. Maybe try something new. 🙂

[@vhayashi7369]

@Barbara Navarro I completely agree!!!! They are BABIES! My last relationship he was a total baby Covert Narcissist and my ex husband was an alcoholic Narcissist. My best friend said this new guy I like doesn't want a relationship because he is insecure. You can't win. I give up. 🤷

[@sheilatolbertcamp8066]

No kidding. It is hard to see through the master manipulator and liar immediately. We put it all out in honesty and then get used. Then they are the victim. I never thought older men act so childish.

[@LEfaHB]

Why does your one experience make all men babies? You said it yourself. You need to figure out how to become a good enough judge of character to see when a man has himself figured out before the relationship phase.

[@crystalthow5533]

I can not 100% agree to your comment. Yes men do need support, dont we women do the same? I mean, it is important that you know he needs support, and they are glad that yoi are there to support them. Isnt that what matters in a relationship?

[@reginareneerobertson]

omg lol, Mat why are you sooo funny?!? "aaaaare youuuuu open to luh-uuuv?" hahaha love how you integrate humor while you're giving us ALL the tea!

[@glenngimao4287]

THIS IS THE MOST TELLING MEN... I HAVE HEARD TO DATE ! SO GLAD, I FOUND YOU. ❤😍

[@pamelamidlane1506]

This is the most telling man, about men... I have heard to date! So glad I found you, thank you🥰❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@glowwithdanzdow242]

Listening to him is key.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Great point!

[@CharlotteKyle-b4z]

All of Mat’s advice of how to just happened to me. Spot on Mat!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@julierose9624]

Awesome. I love this Mat. You hit the nail on the head with me and my man. He also tells me that He loves the way I live my life and that I have done well for myself. 🥰

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@noreensix283]

Mat, I have been using your advice with my man and it has been a complete turn around. Thank you

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing my dear so so happy for you!

[@Sacrednightrosehealing]

I do find what you are saying to be resonating with me. I feel like I have learned so much from my last relationship that it has led me here to truly understand what I want in a relationship with a man and helped me feel better about myself so I can hold more space for a man.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

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[@MarilynEVANGELISTA-u9r]

How beautiful it is to be in a relationship where both can be their authentic selves. Enjoy the simple things in life, a walk, eating ice cream, telling jokes... I still dream about it. ..❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

AMAZING love that share!!:)

[@thash5]

I have been married for 15yrs. My partner & I are never on the same page. Always want different things, Its very challenging all the time. Thank u for your videos, great info.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@juliesmith4086]

My man enjoys me because I just be myself. I laugh at myself, so he laughs with me. He says I'm a crazy English lady as I'm also unpredictable and it takes him off guard, as he laughs too, as i dont pretend to be perfect. We sometimes act like teenagers sliding down a dusty bank on trails, he eats his ice cream then snitches some of mine, lol, I throw him a smiling cheeky look. We greatly support each other in our ups and downs with total respect. We are best friends and tell each other that. Most of all, we are ourselves which makes being together .....easy!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@araceliscollazo5067]

Your impressions are hilarious 😂 this is good stuff, thank you!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed!

[@pandoramagic6070]

My man loves me because he can completely be himself and doesn't have to change to fit my ideology. I never ask him questions when he wants to spend his time with his friends and family. And he can completely choose what he wants to do with his time. He also loves it that I'm playful around him, and not serious most of the times. And he loves it that I'm independent and all my happiness is not dependent on him.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so happy for you my dear!

[@christinesoto3283]

Making sure he feels comfortable and safe 🌈💖

[@Jackgritty28]

Let's reverse that role⚛️

[@christinesoto3283]

@@Jackgritty28 🌝

[@allisond5669]

@@Jackgritty28 safe to open up is what he means. Not physically.

[@kingCy1]

I just have to say you are awesome and I appreciate your enthusiasm when delivering your content! Thank you!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

[@lanettabard8446]

Hi Mat just came across your video I’m in a second marriage what makes our marriage so special is that he is so loving and always there for me in the past year have been a lot with the death of a brother he is former Military he tells each and everyday how much that he loves me before in my first marriage I felt so unloved and unwanted.When something important comes up we can sit down as husband and wife and discuss before I couldn’t do this with my first husband.We never go to bed angry or mad at each other Thank you for your advice We are both in our 60’s and we hold hands in public never did that before.

[@mannimafi1222]

+:2:3:4:9:0:5:5:5:7:4:9:4:4 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much dear! :) and thanks for sharing! ♥ :)

[@estefaniac21]

I realized the more I’m thriving to be a better woman and self growth it attracts my man, and he wants to be with a woman whose confident and a go getter in any aspect in my life. And accepting myself, will help me act him. Which helps a man fall in love I feel. Bc there’s no nagging, pressuring, but instead there’s acknowledgment and gratitude.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback! Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

[@narrymanpina7889]

Hello Mat. I enjoyed watching your videos so much. You are such a great communicator with an amazing energy! Thank you for supporting women and/with love. 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

[@jacalynclemons351]

Always be yourself! Be open and honest always. Be supportive goes both ways. I do believe when you say a man has to be emotionally ready in his life to be truly in love with someone. Acceptance in family and friends

[@jacalynclemons351]

Important, but this is a stumbling block in a true relationship and the way it grows.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

This is an inspiring story!

[@delululoompi]

i think it's been inviting them into my world, even if it's a mundane thing. my first longterm relationship was with a roommates friend and i was doing my skincare routine. he was asking questions about what all the products were for and i just asked him if he wanted to join me and explain it to him. nurturing is a big part of my personality, so it gave me the opportunity to do something in my comfort zone with a stranger confidently. i genuinely didn't think anything would come of it, so i was busy just having a pampering moment with him. and he actually really liked it because he would not only do it with me, but also started investing financially in products too. which was great because skincare is expensive. but it was always a positive experience because we had a passive, relaxing activity that took up time where we could just talk and goof around.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

This is an inspiring story!

[@vaksehund2]

A relationship is like a journey both parties are on. Take it from situation to situation, experience everything together, be genuine & present in every moment. Don't focus on the past or the future, but the here & now. It bc light, fluffy & fun & creates space to grow together. ❤

[@MarilynEVANGELISTA-u9r]

What a beautiful relationship where both enjoy being themselves. That's beautiful. Congratulations.❤😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you

[@sanchez9552]

I am a vegan and try to stay away from all fast foods. I also believe that our thoughts can create our realities. My boyfriend definitely eats animals regularly, and has a depressed mood most of the time.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@pritalaras]

Man will love if you support his dreams. When I noticed that my crush (now bf) was so much in to fitness business. I did my research and gave him some ideas about his business, and showing that I am equally excited with his dreams. Another way is to always relax and never judge him. Sometimes his business failing, I encourage him and showing positive attitude like "you can do it. You are the best. It wasn't a big deal, let's find another way together" 💗😃

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@raquelt5342]

Omg thank you so much for saying the sleep schedule thing! I didn’t know if that was being too picky but it’s super important to me 👏👏

[@claudiaclaudia8599]

For me too.I mean I wake up at 5:00 am not 9:00am.

[@shirlyllemos1213]

Taking a big risk,.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@b.g.v.96]

Amazing and meaningful tips, thank you✨️🙌🏻

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You're so welcome! 🤗

[@karinzdailyhustle8194]

Thanks Matt! This is by far the best ever explanation and description of how men fall in love with women I've heard. So spot on and true. Keep them coming!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

[@r.lynnsteinberg2775]

For me, it wasn't magic. We just laugh together and ferl comfortable with each other and know that we each want to support each other. We love each other. We've been through hard timrs, but support each other.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

[@konfettibaby9676]

I really like the quality of your videos btw! I feel that they have improved so much and now they are one of the best dating videos out there! Best wishes from Germany :)

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much Konfetti, Baby!! 🙏❤️

[@msbronzegoddess3166]

@@Mat_Shaffer You're so smart and handsome😍.Thanks for the great advice. I have a man in love with me in less than a week.😂I'm 39 and he's 31 I thought he was too young, but he paid my bills w/o touching me, first time ever. He wants me to visit his farm in Antigua and I'm from Mass. He told me i'm not single anymore and he wants to take care of me lol. I'm watching your videos for my new man. Thanks so much.👑💕💕💕 I also never ask for money, so he just says here's 300 for your hair, my girl gotta stay stay looking good"❤. Keeper right?

[@linda.ll.7744]

Hi! "LOVING INTERRUPTION!" Amazing way to put it, as usual Mat!! Thank you for making things interesting, clear, and easy to achieve! Sometimes we just need simple instructions spelled out for us.... "Lather. Rinse. Repeat." 🥰

[@carmenestep-felix8187]

Everything about you Ii accept you for who you are...i promise to be faithful to you 100 %".What blows me away is that the times that we were together we talked ,laughed and we teased(foreplay)was great between us.The last time I was over we sat at the table and talked teased and sarcastically flirted our way into a for play that was fun.I know what I felt and I know you felt it also...we have chemistry.i want you to know that I find you to be the sexist man I've ever seen. I LOVE YOUR BODY! You make me feel so safe.i would be proud to walk in anywhere and say your my guy ...you sexy motherfuc*ker...heeheehe. I crave you all day long** I want you now....no more time wasted being apart ....lets do this

[@carmenestep-felix8187]

...i hurt deeply inside without you in my life we have so many things in common. It would be unfortunate if we never gave this a try...

[@teriblaumer3742]

OMG my new love and I laugh all the time. We can make fun of each other and see the humor and not take it personally . He loves the fact that I don't get pissy if he laughs at me because I laugh right along with him. He's comfortable in his skin and I am in mine, so far so good. Love your videos and your energy.

[@evelinehaanstra9069]

... sounds more like mates that meet now and then for some fun, instead of a deeper connection.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

So glad my content supports you:)

[@donnahale1011]

These are GREAT TIPS!!!! I am seeing that I do a lot of these, but I am still taking notes and will apply them...

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@DyanLZBB]

With number 5... I remember a past relationship where he didn't want to get invested in a relationship with me because I dreamt about living abroad and apparently it was all I talked about.

[@joyceanderson8648]

Jack Gritty No she did not!! She has a right to what she wants and if he did not want the same then she will find a guy that does

[@mingsmakeup3854]

I low the structure of each of ur videos. Highest quality I've seen so far and I've seen a lot, keep it up and thank you very much for the great service! 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like them!

[@ilikestampy5919]

Mat, you put your heart and soul into this video. Great stuff. Thanks!

[@maragirl1658]

Thank you Mat! This explains so much. Wish I knew these things before. It would have saved me a lot of confusion and heartache. I’m in a great relationship now but a couple of years back I met someone with whom I shared strong attraction and connection but we never got off the ground. Now it makes complete sense!!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. ❤️👏🏻

[@Mat_Shaffer]

wonderful glad it served you!

[@kurisutaru206]

12:50 🤣 Played that a couple of times...hilarious!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

😂

[@Lifes_Frosting]

Seeing a different side of Mat Shaffer! Love it!

[@survivingcovid-19onagourme5]

Great advice!

[@survivingcovid-19onagourme5]

Thru my experiences, most men go into relationships strictly for physical reasons.

[@lyzoi671]

LOL, IKR ! super hilarious 😂

[@NovafyT]

Sometimes when you are really in love you respect the differences too. If you only looking everything to match at sometime it will break because down the road there will be many that don't match. People change, grow and evolve. Look for a mature man

[@rosbillie3215]

Hi Matt you explain everything so well. I have really learnt a lot . I understand much more the fact that to be vulnerable but also positive is a huge step thank you

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Wonderful!

[@thecatisoutofthebag83]

Really love your videos. They are inspiring and genuine. 💕🙏🏻🌺

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much!

[@ilikestampy5919]

when I acknowledge that he has made me happy, he relaxes instead of doing more of it. I regret acknowledging it

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad to hear that. ♥

[@pingmiller6654]

Your so good Mat in giving all what you can to us ladies to make our love life forever💕

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@meljstephan]

My last more significant relationship ended because he had kids and I always felt guilty taking up any of his free time that he could have spent with them and he always felt guilty cancelling plans because he had a sick kiddo at home or had a football game to go to. We hadn't been in a serious committed relationship to where I would have been comfortable meeting his kids, so in the end it just didn't work out to move forward. It wasn't a nasty end to the relationship at all, it was just incongruence in our lifestyles. I still very much respect him, in large part because he's a great dad, and hopefully he doesn't have hard feelings about me ending things. We haven't talked since but I hope he's just been able to focus in his kids or maybe find a girl who was more able to understand and handle single parenthood.

[@Professional_Nobody]

Melissa Stephan nice to hear you met a great guy though :) some dads don’t care at all and only see their kids for an hour a week.

[@richardjames9918]

Soon to be exwife sent this to me. And I have to say he's pretty spot-on. My ex got only one out of eight things.

[@user-jk4jj4nm1q]

How did you two get to marriage?

[@carlafast6358]

I have meet a guy on online dating site. He's great. We have been dating 8 months and I have met his sister's and brother. He's told me he loves me 4 or 5 times. It bothers me that he doesn't tell me all the time he loves me. I love him too. I never dated a nicer guy before. I'm very lucky to have him. He does a lot for me and I try to do a lot for him. I was abuse, lied too and cheated on by my late husband and this guy is nothing like that.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Yay! You deserve a great guy:)

[@kellycovington3493]

That was awesome!!! You should be a rock star! I giggled...thanks your the best!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@lisacohen790]

Excellent video Matt. I love your videos. Thank you for creating this video.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@newbeginnings1543]

Mat this is absolutely incredible information! Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@margaretchristian7215]

Great video Matt

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@atyehatyeh6257]

Good morning Matt I learned so thank you I keep learning

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so glad this helped you!

[@les3682]

Great stuff, Mat! Loved it all!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@erinhappy-go-lucky5040]

Thanks again Matt 😁. In my own awareness in watching this video, all of the wisdom that you are sharing is reminding me of how similar men and women experience falling in love. I am realizing that I have childhood traumas that need to be healed, in order to fully embrace love and partnership. I have a fella in mind, and he is very patient with me. I am very grateful 😍. It feels so wonderful to be able to be authentic, make him laugh when I’m being quirky, while not even trying, and fully appreciate all of the little things that he does that makes me smile and glow on the outside and tingle within. It’s the little things that make a big difference 🥰.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@catboxcleaner3532]

Hello. These are great. Might I add that women might like this treatment extended to ourselves in a relationship, as well? Thank you.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Many thanks!

[@jenniferguadilla]

You make me laugh when you are changing you're voice..and I loved watching you when giving advice thank you and God bless you and your family 😊

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

[@faa1412]

I just love your videos ... I watch a lot of dating coaches on here but your videos seem to "stick" in my mind lol

[@BrwnSgr5]

I love Mat, as well. But, I would encourage you to have discernment for which coaches you follow for your heart's direction. Follow & Take the advise of coaches that resonate with your spirit, b'c there are a ton of dating coaches on " The Tube". I pray you find what your heart desires.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*Spend a few minutes a day really listening to your spouse. No matter how stupid his problems sound to you.*

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for sharing!

[@reemsaif3105]

Your advice is gold. Sometimes I feel like you're talking about meeting a leprecon. That's how far away I feel from men and dating.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for the compliment! I'm glad you found the advice valuable.🙏❤

[@nadaudsmith9571]

Well spoken! Your energy is motivational! #GreatStuff💜

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you so much!

[@taymarrogers326]

Acknowledge and Praise Provide comfort and support through their hardships BE OPEN TO LOVE Love is a two way street!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate your opinion on this!

[@lauracabe]

Wow so much value, you spoil us

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so glad this helped you!

[@a.h.2667]

I'm assuming these only apply to men who are emotionally available or have a secure attachment style? I have tried to do all these things, but it seems it was with men who were wounded.

[@DaBeautifulKey]

A. Holmes exactly!

[@jacquelinerosecoriana1039]

Same girl

[@Professional_Nobody]

A. Holmes yes, great point...these won’t work on men with narcissistic brain damage. Like if they play a lot or sports and get hit in the head or if they drink a lot, that’s all the same type of brain damage (damaged prefrontal cortex).

[@haizzzz7486]

Iv found with all the men iv been attracted to,connected to usually show me something within me that needs to be acknowledged. Have you found with each one a part of yourself you wouldnt of seen without meeting them? Because if your still attracting the same tendencies that made you upset with the previous guy, that thing that aggravates you is actually in you. It's not always what you think it is, it's more thinking from your shoes, keeping yourself in yourself, focusing on your reaction. The more you criticize men, the more you see within them, that criticism. It's easier to accept men as they are. Let them be who they really are. And it helps by accepting yourself as you are.

[@haizzzz7486]

@@Jackgritty28 isnt the word "wounded" criticism? What if they wernt wounded? What if you were the one who's emotionally unavailable? Who's wounded? . It's so much easier to see the problems in others than to see it in ourselfs. We are the ones reacting out of some sort of emotional upheaval going on inside, yet its everybody elses fault for what's going on inside🤔 Ironic dont you think?

[@Sound7heWarCry]

This is amazing content btw, Matt. You’re always acing it. Number 7 is my issue I lost myself somehow although at first I brought all my passions and purpose into it. Unsure really of how I lost touch. Thanks again I have a better understanding of why that’s important now

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@bobettabrown1199]

I love listening to you because your always bubbly and fun

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

[@ethelflavin2963]

You are amazing Matt! I’m learning so much from your videos. Thank u so much!,

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much for your feedback!

[@crisbergh6218]

Fantastic Video, as always Mat! Very Current & Important information! You're the best!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I appreciate that!

[@claudiapurcell8687]

Because I'm mentally healthy I agree with these 8 points; my exfiancee didn't appreciate it. He was looking for glamorous women, for self validation... I loved him dearly but I ended drained of hope after 7 years of relationship.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks for sharing!

[@fatimaakel5052]

Hi Matt, just came across your video, omg I loved them. I've been married for 11 years, unfortunately my husband passed away 15 months ago. It was and still is hard, but I met a guy, we exchanged phone numbers and been texting here and there. He asked me if I wanted to come and spend some time with him, and go places. I was reluctant but I accepted, he never said he liked me or when I try to get him to say something he doesn't. I really dunno what to think. I haven't date in so long, I dunno if he's just shy or he just want us to be friends.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You got this Hon!🙂

[@kathypayne4380]

So helpful. Thank you Mat

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lauraruddy4525]

I watch your videos all the time. Great information. Thank you ❤

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@uroojfatima4899]

Hi , u r dynamic. Really like your videos .

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Hey, thanks. Glad you like them🙂

[@sillonelove]

Bro your cut outs are hilarious!!! Not the banza pasta Hahahah 😂

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like them!

[@stormchylde3999]

The singing part made me laugh out loud; love it!

[@stormchylde3999]

@@Jackgritty28 It does if it's meant to be humorous. :D

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@LisalovesMichael]

This is good. Thank u.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like it!

[@valentinanocross8677]

Your videos are do good. Fresh and new

[@landriahm6161]

❤️❤️❤️love this! We have all that! 😊 thank you for this

[@Mat_Shaffer]

You are so welcome!

[@jaceem4175]

Good advice! GREATS TIPS on how to figure out mens lo. Not in relatioship right now but very helpful if i can find that right gentlemen in the longrun. Not looking for commitment after so many wrong choices. Just like enjoying my freedom right now. Taking things slow and loving myself by stepping back and waiting. No sexs unless the lord is ready for me to marry. Sex ruin my life because i got with some real losers who was players and cheaters who did not care for me. My heart is now trying to heal so i will just stay single and have fun doing things i like to better myself.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I’m so glad this helped you!

[@Jennybeeeeee]

I just love you thank you.... getting ready for a date and the was a real booster!!❤️

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Thanks so much my dear!

[@galemeyer8431]

Yes I am open but scared.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Don’t give up on love sister!

[@lorynn1993]

Matt, I'm so grateful to have you in my life. Thank you so much!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

My pleasure!

[@pavlovsdog]

you are great Mat!!! from Rome Italy

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Hey, thanks!

[@24deathstalker]

I thinkthis is applicable to anyone in general, not just men. Great video btw!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Amazing! love hearing that!

[@winxclubstellamusa]

Why would a night owl and an early bird not be a good match? We would both have space to have alone time and do our routines at our own respective paces, and then be able to come together when we feel lonely at the middle to end of the day.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

[@winxclubstellamusa]

@@Mat_Shaffer you’re welcome 😊

[@II-qp8lg]

The 5th thing really stuck with me ur right thank you

[@nicoladouglas4059]

Great info.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Glad you like it!

[@christinaheart2238]

We met in a very unlikely setting and I feel like we're still healing and traumatized by our past, but we're both opening up and being vulnerable from day 1... goofing around like old friends and talking about our future hopes and dreams already. If you were in my shoes, would you press on with the intent to move forward together? I'm having a hard time seeing the signs because I'm not fully open, yet, withholding nothing G the same time.

[@Mat_Shaffer]

I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

[@sevenheaven3992]

I’m learning!!!

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Happy I could be of help.

[@dawnnicholson5962]

Thanks again

[@Mat_Shaffer]

Always welcome 🤗