The Husband & the Hermit: A Powerful Story of Saving Love

[@zoeynorman6563]

I don’t have words except thank you thank you thank you!! it was definitely Our Lords intervention I saw this video. Im in this dark night of my marriage, its the hardest thing I think Ive ever gone through. Ive been tempted to suicide and am trying to find my footing on the rock of Our Lord. I had heard Kevins story before but hearing it in this interview I realized I had to get his book. I was so sick I was anticipating I would die also and just like kevin, then I discovered what my spouse was going through. My world has been torn apart and turned upside down. I needed this so much, thanks to Kevin and Krista for being vulnerable enough to share this. Please pray for my husband

[@kragar4]

Matthew Leonard is a great interviewer

[@MatthewLeonard]

You are very kind:). God be praised.

[@holyhoff8521]

Second that 👍🏼

[@dawnm6666]

Thank you for this conversation. Will definitely read Kevin’s book! Feels like he described my own marriage. HOPE = perseverance.

[@nwright2126]

This was a wonderful witness of living a sacrificial life . Kevin Wells, you were so blessed to have a priest understand the sacrificial life. I remember that Pope John Paul the Great asked that his priests study mystical theology . The book The Simple Path to Union with God is a great help in that area for laity, especially without the spiritual direction from a priest , because of shortage of priests .

[@LoudandClearChastity]

Warm greetings from Australia 🦘. Fantastic and very grounded, practical interview. Very thoughtful and great questions asked by Matthew. I also found the spiritual "tips" really, really useful. But why aren't there more people listening?? Thank you Kevin for having the courage to speak about your pain and redemption. The book is also about your own healing, though the mechanism for that was your wife, Krista's addiction. Maybe all of that marriage messiness and pain was part of God's plan.

[@MatthewLeonard]

You are very kind. Thank you. I'm trusting the Lord will bring it to the people who need to hear it.

[@margarethainey3521]

I’m old and I clearly remember all of the assassinations. Unforgettable! Younger generations are not to be blamed for not knowing hidden truths and we all have our wounds. I am more hopeful now than ever that we are turning toward a better future. It’s an upward struggle and we all must pray.

[@ajmeier8114]

I can't wait to read this book. I have thoroughly enjoyed Kevin's other books.

[@lindaruss3772]

I totally get why you would go far away, to fulfill a calling and mission. I know from experience, that decades of sitting in the same house hoping and praying for a change, that never happens, putting faith in 12 steps, that many will never agree to, I wish this book had been around in the 70’s, when we first married! God bless!!

[@thisgirl5933]

I like the part about the palace in the desert. I will pray for that. There is no consolation right now as I suffer through a dark dark hopelessness. It will take a miracle because I messed up my life and have no good marriage, no fulfilling job, no joy in my parenting, no satisfaction of a job well done in anything. Just fear and contempt for myself and my lack of courage and resilience. I'm scared that I will not persevere or will go crazy in the process. It is torture. I relied on antidepressants for ten years and they hurt my mind and my spirit. Mother Mary and all the Angels and Saints - intercede for me, don't let me descend into utter despair, help me grow strength, help me hold on. I'm barely staying afloat and it is so scary. Don't let me drown my Blessed Mother!

[@MatthewLeonard]

Hang in there. Jesus is at your side...he's really there. Trust me.

[@kragar4]

My parents were both alcoholics. My dad went to AA in 1961 but my mom drank til1967. In the meantime all they did was fight. My dad tried to fix my mom’s drinking but he was the worst person to fix her. She got sober after I told her about an alcoholic that I knew and she called him to be her sponsor to AA

[@tonygville2969]

To all my fellow Ragamuffins (RIP Rich Mullins), don't ever give up when you fall down. Get up and confess, and keep going. You are Not Alone. Viva Cristo Rey

[@MatthewLeonard]

I had lunch with Rich when I was 14 (before he got huge) and lived with one of his bandmates for a few days right after Rich passed away. I pray for him all the time. RIP Rich Mullins indeed.

[@tonygville2969]

@MatthewLeonard I get so much helpful tools for my journey Home from my Dear Brother Rich Mullins. I heard Dr Scott Hahn say that he was working with Rich Mullins and he was about two weeks from entering the Holy Mother Church. Rich Mullins has taught me to except the suffering and go right through it. I know that Matt Marah sp? lived with Rich Mullins for a while too. It's cool to see some of the old videos of a much younger Matt. I lived the Jesus Revolution and I remember when Lenny came to Miami back in the late 70's. I was helping out with Campus Life Youth for Christ. The main goal was to get the Catholics out of their Church. I'm guilty. But I did tell Deacon Ralph Poyo, when he was in our club, to say put at St Louis Catholic Church and he did. He became the Youth Minister and the Holy Ghost did some powerful works in his time there. I believe that he's up in your area now. If you know him and see him, tell him Tony is so proud of the Good Work he is doing for The Kingdom of God. It was Steve Wood who spoke with me in the early 90's and helped me come back Home. No turning back, no turning back. Viva Cristo Rey And I so look forward to seeing Rich and You and many more people who have been helpful in my journey Home. To party with Jesus and His Holy Family and the rest of YA'LL, I don't want to miss it. Glory to The Father and The Son and The Holy Ghost. Praise God Almighty

[@thereseschmidt3038]

I experienced “Mother wounding. My mother did not want me when she found she was pregnant with me. She continued to reject me as a child after I was born. I ignored me, wouldn’t feed me etc… I made the assumption that there was something wrong with me, that’s why I wasn’t wanted or loved. Years later I marry a man who has ADHD, dyslexia, and is definitely narcissistic. I did not know this at the time of marriage. Two months after marriage his son committed suicide almost in front of us. Then a month later his daughter tried but was found before she died. I went into a very dark night. 28 years later I am still married. The only thing that has saved me was contemplative prayer. It was being in the TRINITY’S presence. One point I would like to make is that God created this man as he is and does not change a tiger into a zebra. He will remain a dyslexic,ADHD, narcissist. God is changing me, healing me. But what do I do with a very unhealthy relationship?

[@3176sue]

I hope Matt or Kevin answer your question. Personally, I question if your marriage is even valid. Did your husband truly enter into the covenant of your marriage? I question if most marriages today are valid. People under contract of a marriage license for the purpose to get something out of it for themselves. I believe/hope that Kevin’s book has insights. I would think separation from a spouse can be an answer if they are pulling you into the darkness with them? You can still pray, fast and sacrifice for them, but it’s so much harder when you are dealing with your spouses demons. I Don’t know your situation. God does. I pray you find a priest or spiritual director to guide you. I do know Kevin and Matt say there’s always hope. Pray for God to show you what you need to do. Focus on your spirituality! God bless you and help you! 🙏🏼

[@kragar4]

Wow!!! God bless you and give you grace

[@RobertLord-cu8vu]

HOW ABOUT AA OR ALANON

[@jaymewukmir2047]

My marriage is recovering seems to me. The cross came from all the 70s got the loudest to have all the sin we could possibly indulgent we brought that into our marriages recovering heroin addict. My wife was worse than me. I just kept saying Jesus I trust in you church every dayrosary every day making atonement for all of my sins and the sins of the world knighted with Jesus is perfect passion, death and resurrection, the triumph of the immaculate heart of Mary around the corner. I have hope.

[@MsSeckert]

Why would the husband of an alcoholic wife (& father of young children), leave his suffering family ... to travel 1000 miles away to do missionary work for others? That makes absolutely no sense, especially since he was so worried about her & them. It's kind of like scheduling the home dinner with a priest yet completely forgetting about that commitment right after making it.

[@nic32174]

How well do you know Kevin and his family and their situation?