Great Advice Brother! I'm 46 years old and every day in the dojo is a challenge.
@attkdriver9 ай бұрын
Exactly the same for me! Turn 46 in two months and been training for almost a year.
@johnthree16116 ай бұрын
I'm 39 and started three weeks ago, very tough.
@ohdude6643Ай бұрын
Why go then?
@MegaAwsometurtle6 ай бұрын
As a 145lb purple belt whos been struggling with my attitude this video really helped brother! Cant thank you enough.
@JamesSpurgeon-w6pАй бұрын
I am 61 years old. I started at 58 and have lost time due to multiple injuries that put me out for weeks at a time. I saw the guys I started with promote well ahead of me and it was mildly discouraging. I earned my 4th stripe 6 months ago and never quite felt as....dominant.....as I should have when rolling with new guys. I still feel that way now and I still feel like (know) that I totally suck. But, apparently, I suck less. That's what the OG's tell me. I had my first class as a blue belt last night and got absolutely DESTROYED by everyone I rolled with. Granted, these were a black belt, 3 purple belts and a 4 stripe blue belt, but I still did not even feel competitive. It was VERY discouraging. I think my biggest problem is "imposter syndrome." I roll with higher belts CONSTANTLY and rarely get advantageous positions, let alone the occasional (super rare) submissions. Now that I am a blue belt, I still feel like the worst guy on the mat. Last night did not help that insecurity. I try to give myself a break because I realize most of these guys are 25-40 years younger than me and it's kind of a miracle that I'm even on the mats. However, I still see the world through my "Young Man's Eyes." Hopefully, resilience, practice and continuing to "show up" will help my game. Its all I think about. I train 3-4 days a week (not counting the weight room at the gym) and still get crushed on nearly every roll. I'll never quit though.
@badgerbob71Ай бұрын
Same here mate. 59 yr old 3 stripe blue. I just get exhausted by all the heavy young guys. Very discouraging 😢
@Octopus3698 ай бұрын
I’m a 64yr old blue belt! That makes most of the people I roll with 10 bazillion degree black belts.
@alexkehoepwj2 ай бұрын
More like 10 Brazilian degree black belts
@briankane64008 ай бұрын
55 and started 2 weeks ago. I love it!
@mercercraft72243 ай бұрын
65 year old, 3-years of training, one-strip Blue belt, 160 lbs. I get killed by everybody...
@momentum86404 ай бұрын
Thanks for this post. I really needed to hear this. I'm a 55 year old white belt with 1 stripe. Thanks again Matt.
@lim-v7 ай бұрын
Hey Matt, Thanks for that video. I’m a blue belt in my mid 40 and everything you said is so truthful. It brought me a new perspective for what I considered to be a failure and gave me the motivation to keep on training.
@FR-ty5vn9 ай бұрын
Great 👍🏼 advice that still applies today, the Boyd Belt System - 56 year old 3 stripe purple - in the arts since 1987 - still go from feeling like Superman to getting humbled 😂
@ghijklАй бұрын
170lb 40 yr old purple belt. Back after a year off. Getting tooled by big blue belts at my new gym. I’m getting better quickly now
@fat2fitdad75810 ай бұрын
48 year old 1 stripe blue belt here… really needed to hear this AGAIN! I’ll be visiting the chiropractor tomorrow. Damn early 30 year olds..😒🤣
@JpocalypseHD5 ай бұрын
White belt newly started. Fair play for getting the blue belt 😄
@lowbatt32354 жыл бұрын
When you're a black belt, you might try and make it look easy on the lower belt, but you know inside it's a struggle. . . it's always a struggle..
@daveclifford78955 ай бұрын
Fantastic video ! Awesome advice Matt 💪
@mattkieffer39948 ай бұрын
Thanks Matt. 53yrs young, 220lbs one stripe white belt....its gonna be a looong road, but you know, Im enjoying ever step. Thanks for the encouragement.
@kzumazuml Жыл бұрын
Love your videos bro! Keep em coming.
@AirelonTrading3 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this. Started at 52. White Belt. Two Stripe now. I personally don't care about the belts or stripes speed for myself? But it's a CONSTANT reminder how old I've gotten. I LOOK young, maybe 41. These 23 year old guys coming in, most current Military. Collegiate Wrestlers. Have 30 lbs of muscle on me. Plus the age. Make two stripe in 3 months. I'm sitting here struggling to not get hurt more than anything else. SCREW the belt and the stripe. I just don't want to get blasted by 3 month white belts who are STILL spazzy, not light rolling ... then I'm hurt, and out for a month and not learning to catch up. And then their BRAIN is working faster and in a more creative way. I grew my beard, as it comes in completely white, just to remind these kids how old I've gotten. I'm staring at 60 in 8 years, and 8 years passes by REALLY fast. AND ... I'm not a 52 year old 3S Blue Belt, that can handle it. I'm still learning myself and trying to reframe my thinking. So freaking discouraging at times.
@jamesnapier38029 ай бұрын
Wise words, Matt.
@DC-uw8hp3 ай бұрын
Thanks for the reality check definitely helped me feel good since Ive basically fresh. 🙏👍
@williamfisher4886Ай бұрын
Please make a video about being discouraged as a white belt, especially one passed the 1 year mark.
@ZakH6442 ай бұрын
My biggest problem, I’ll openly admit I’m not humble and I don’t like doing things that I’m not somewhat naturally good. I did boxing and some kickboxing. While I was never excellent or world beater, I was somewhat naturally adept at striking and I’m able to pick up the techniques quite quickly. I won 2 ammy bouts and could piece the other beginners up in sparring fairly handedly and although getting beat, could hold my own against the experienced people. The people that would really F’ me up in sparring were usually very good with a ton of experience, so I felt no shame in losing to them. Once my gym closed down and BJJ and Judo were the only gyms near me I had to switch to that. And I had BJJ experience in the past and I didn’t enjoy it. I am just ROTTEN at grappling. I have absolutely no natural abilities. People will come in on their first day and give me one hell of a fight. I have never pulled off a proper submission, the people who started with me at the same time are miles ahead of where I am and way better than me. Finally a couple weeks ago, a 42 year old who was smaller than me, had zero martial arts experience, and was joining the class to get in shape after he quit smoking, was able to pin me down and hold me there. After the roll I said fuck this, I have no business doing this. I leave class just wanting to shoot myself every time, I can’t stand how bad I am at this stuff, and I just don’t think I have the interest or enjoyment to want to get good at it.
@mattwhite90464 ай бұрын
45 years old and hoping to promote to blue soon. My objective is always to simply make the young guys, the big guys & upper belts (most of the gym) work a little harder every time they roll with me. As long as they’re sweating & getting surprised on occasion, I’m making progress.
@tededo3 жыл бұрын
If you are discouraged with BJJ also remember that very many young students who are submitting you today, were probalby high school teens who whould have lasted a few seconds against you, many years ago.
@x426x4 жыл бұрын
Two months in as a rookie white belt and I’m feeling discouraged like my progression has stalled
@PaulErwin-sc6cs9 ай бұрын
Be patient!! It comes in time!! You will see!! Oss!!
@ivahihopeful4 жыл бұрын
Boyd belts! ♥️
@michaelwilson241910 ай бұрын
Excellent advice. Also, if opponent has years of experience in Judo or Wrestling that matters a lot too.😊
@Bry-rl3ll4 ай бұрын
Feeling very discouraged. Been training for a month. I’ve gotten a couple submissions on white belts. Have rolled with a few blue belts and managed not to get submitted. Tonight I got Absolutely mauled by a white belt.
@StevenTejeda-j3u2 ай бұрын
Overall I agree with one exception: there’s no excuse for being out of shape. There are older guys who are 40 lbs overweight, gassing out, and blaming it all on age. Then skinny guys who get tossed around. Both would do so much better if they lifted weights and cleaned up the diet.
@steveamoni6419 ай бұрын
True I'm a blue belt and I'm old but I'm big at 6 ft 240
@PaulErwin-sc6cs9 ай бұрын
Correct!! Weight = higher belt!! Technic rules!!
@Paul-mq5yn9 ай бұрын
OSS thanks coach for your words of wisdom. what about if your a purple and a white gives you a hard roll and they 20lbs lighter than you and only couple years younger
@Noslack4124 ай бұрын
I'm close to quitting. Can't stand people that started after me passing me up. I'm finding myself getting more frustrated than having fun.
@ijrebuck2 ай бұрын
Did you stick with it?
@Jiu-JitsuJourney25711 ай бұрын
Ya I’m 145 purple and we have 200lb blue belts. I definitely feel it lol
@maddhatta67773 жыл бұрын
All the children I have been tapping as a purple belt I have been telling them this!!! Hey your 10 years old I'm 30 your a purple!!! 🤣🤣🤣
@truecowboy11 ай бұрын
I'm 47 and rolling with teenagers and 20 year Olds. I'm holding my own. I sometimes roll with a black belt who's in early 30s I hold my own with him.
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@andybortega5 жыл бұрын
This is the exact thing I needed to hear brotha! Thanks!
@bws20511 ай бұрын
So as a 48 yro 1-month white belt....I should be getting smashed by everyone for a very long time
@davidtatelo10 ай бұрын
As a 41yo 155lbs 1y white belt i tell you, i think we'll be smashed... Probably forever. But thats irrelevant, aint it? ;-)
@metaphysicalphilosopher23566 ай бұрын
And we’ll stay white belts forever.
@HellBxtchzr0028 ай бұрын
i quit two months ago used to get made fun of always got beat by this kid and i felt like sht all the time i like jiujitsu but the experience was not nice im thinking of trying it again but idk well see
@andym1594 Жыл бұрын
52 this year and coming back from7 months off the mats as purple. Talk about lesson in swallowing your pride.
@ayurvology75374 жыл бұрын
I have a harder time with smaller people since they are faster and sometimes very squirmy...Size makes you stronger, but speed can beat strength sometimes...In the end good technique always prevails
@fantasyfootballbrowserbowl3474 ай бұрын
I’m 40 and weight 140. Just started BJJ and almost everyone I roll with us like 60 lbs+ and getting crushed is the worse and has hurt my ribs. This a good video to keep u motivated tho.
@mikeguthleben21254 ай бұрын
Thanks Matt, I am a 52 YO 170 lb blue belt and I have a lot of trouble with the younger bigger guys for sure, this will help me keep it in perspective.
@mouthguardcomic5 жыл бұрын
I came back from a 5 year layoff as a Purple Belt and the white belts seemed Bigger, Stronger, Faster and more technical than I remembered. I had to start stapling them down to keep them from smashing me.
@AntoineFabri10 ай бұрын
I never understood this. I'm a 40 yo white belt and I'm MUCH more competitive against a 20 yo my weight than against a 40 yo purple belt. maybe it makes more sense for some belt/age intervals but for me I really don't see it.
@Pfunkybear10 ай бұрын
Im a 37 yro, 182lbs, blue belt, every roll is hard!!
@germizor14 күн бұрын
36 yr old 59kg female vs 16 yr old 60-73kg teenage boys , all of us white belts tho im more senior by 12 months, sometimes they go full ham on me and i just let them have the submission
@frankruiz18349 ай бұрын
The Boyd Belt System. Thanks for everything you do, it is greatly appreciated. 🙏
@yo2stix3 ай бұрын
I’m 2 months in and 46. Wrestled 28 years ago in high school. I’m getting worked and frustrated most days how bad I suck.
@user-bj8mm4lv6b2 ай бұрын
It’s extremely frustrating and humiliating
@ricksanchezrosallini34823 ай бұрын
💯 age and weight makes a huge difference! I'm 44 and roll with the youngsters and the big boys.
@jexiebarrios1073Ай бұрын
I just started at my gym with 2 weeks experience and I was getting smashed majority of the time and this purple belt that hadn’t trained in about 8 months and is was a man in his late 30s with a 5 inch size advantage and I tapped him twice and I kinda felt bad
@mr.dephiant97139 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! This really puts things into perspective as a 45 yr blue belt going against guys 15 & 20 yrs younger than me. BJJ is a way of life. OSS! 🤙🏽
@craigholfeld91797 ай бұрын
You're a great coach, man!
@cvs7684 ай бұрын
This is so true. I’m 46 and I’m a brown belt. Trained since I was 16 on and off, so I’ve gotten to see what it was like. Coming back after I got older. Blue belts who are 30 pounds muscle more than me and 20 years younger are matching me now or beating me. Very humbling.
@FR-ty5vn5 ай бұрын
57 year old 3 stripe purple testing for brown soon according to my coach - this Boyd Belt System was great to hear when I watched that same video of Rener & Gyron, yet I still feel I should beat younger, bigger lower belts 😂
@taylormuddin29 ай бұрын
It's not that. Bjj competitive is very boring to watch. Gordan ryan fights are mad boring for like 25 mins
@glock_9ine9569 ай бұрын
I’m 17 and 140 pound and constantly get smashed by people 25-35 and 160 plus pounds 😂
@ynnkm85739 ай бұрын
😔
@asbel2516 Жыл бұрын
bjj math
@cam.actual3 ай бұрын
As a 50 year old blue belt, I really had to embrace this reality. Especially when you add a significant injury and recovery. Good training partners and coaches are the key.