Does she really love you? - Being duped by bad Filipina's in the Philippines

One of the biggest reasons people get duped by bad Filipina's is down to trust. The phrase "she told me she loved me" is normally the most common phrase I hear after someone has pretty much lost everything that they willingly gave away to someone they hardly knew.
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[@fidelitycheckonline6601]

Talks cheap, believe what people do not what they say. These girls know all the right things to say and when to say them.

[@LanguageSkillz]

Let's volunteer then, for instance, April's husband: not my husband. Dave's girlfriend: not supposed to be April, or anyone I'd know either. Thanks Christopher Wray, to keep clearing it up like that.

[@carvercapitalequitypartner122]

Its amazing how wrong you can be about a person sometimes. Periodically evaluate your situation and consult with friends. Don't assume others think the way you do.

[@TeJessyDK]

I agreed to all what you`ve said, luckily i`m not one of those filipina`s. And i`m ashamed that they`re doing that kind of manipulation you got my attention. The best you can do observe….observe...before you get into the worst situation. Thanks for sharing, your welcome to watch me back

[@Sleevethrottle]

Just my two cents. It's a different thing when it comes to online dating. That's why most foreigners fall into the lure of bad Filipinas. Internet is not a serious venue when it comes to relationships in the context of Filipino courtship. If you didn't know already, Filipino dating scene requires courtship. A guy has to meet the girl in the house of the girl where he can meet the family. You should win her heart and it should be in the house where you meet the family and get to know them. If a Filipina girl just meet you in the street or a cafe and you didn't get the chance to see her at home and meet her family, chances are you are doing it wrong or you might be falling for the wrong girl.

[@mattwilkie]

+chris toper agree, the internet is like reading a book it opens peoples imagination but also allows manipulation. Wouldn't say its impossible to meet someone good online would say that over time its got harder. As more people have access to computers and more people are aware of how easy it is to scam people online its becoming harder. Etiquette is still important but also depends on the family as things have been gradually changing. Not saying all for the better but the expectations are lowered. You will still come across many traditional families but it may not be "enforced" for courtship, at the same time it doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated as its a sign of respect.

[@silverfox2957]

Even if you do meet the family that does not guarantee she is a good fillipina some time even the family can be in on a scam.

[@theflyinghamster8442]

EXCELLENT !! Please listen to Matt, he has really nailed it, don't trust these Filipino girls, I live here and Iv met so many really nice genuine down to earth guys from the U.S and Canada who have met girls online and more currently on Face-Book, and have just been ripped off and dumped once they arrive here and the money has gone, just exactly like Matt has said, and I have ended up lending them money, feeding them, getting them back to the airport etc etc, sure there may be a few genuine girls, but unfortunately most are not , take heed of this presentation, it will save you a lot of heartache !!!

[@jwpecana]

Be careful. There are more hustler filipinas more than there are good ones. Most of them are online and say all the lies they could. Beware!!!!

[@jeanlamb5510]

This time it's the opposite. I talked to some men on the internet, but most of them asked me for money. About 90 percent were scammers. They take advantage of women--especially if they know that the woman is retired with income from retirement and/or social security. Can't really trust anyone on the internet. The Best thing to do is meet the person face-to-face and go from there. I still chat with men on the internet, but once they mention money, they're gone--blocked and deleted.

[@mattwilkie]

I agree it's not just a guy thing. As it's an industry that began even in a letter or holiday romance but now a full blown money making machine. Meeting the right person takes time and others may find it dismissive so easily getting rid of people but it's part of recognising the bad.

[@jeanlamb5510]

That was fast! Thanks for replying Matt!!

[@stateofmind4341]

This is not a philipina problem this is a world wide issue. Men and women do the same.

[@targetguy777]

There may be a few good ones there but I got ripped off so bad by listening to these fake health storys to find out later she had a 20 yr plus younger bf. You are correct these gals will lie love foreigers to death.

[@LanguageSkillz]

That's some undeniable humor in trends. There's medleys of families in the states, and areas where generational migrations come up, even to specific cultures. I find it very funny for men to actively scout so much. Of course everyone has family interests, but why do such guys not learn to better play up their personalities?

[@NTagomi]

A lot of sense spoken in this video; an interest in the life of the other person is the crux of it - it's harder for the romantic extortionist to counterfeit genuine interest and depth of dialogue than it is for them to gush with false affection. If dialogue revolves around compliments and a stoking of limerence followed by requests for cash or items, those are colossal red flags. While Filipinos are naturally affectionate people, a girl who is genuine of heart follows up their affection with real emotion, focus and respect and will most definitely introduce the Westerner to family and friends in a dignified way. In PH, purposeful isolation often feels 'off' even to a lovestruck foreigner; it's at this point that the victim commonly snaps out of the haze and break things off, hopefully without having lost too much cash and without getting too distressed or ashamed.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Gordon Shure very well said!

[@jonalyntarrojapacifico7513]

Not all Finlipina are bad if you found a good one you become happy.Anywhere in this world have a lots of bad people, but there are some good, choose the right one. before anything else we can think very well, be fair, thank you.

[@kennethdelancey1236]

its not hard to tell if a woman loves you or not.you just have to step back from the situation and look at it with subjective eyes.i see so many men here on youtube with their g.f and I can tell immediately wheather or not the girl really loves the man.let me tell you that I would tell half of these guys to run away as fast as they can.

[@ottoellison2832]

Q: What's the difference between a good Matt Wilkie video and a psychotherapist? A: About $100 per hour. Cheers mate. I hope one day our paths cross.

[@kalideres9680]

I know a good pinay who refuses everything, even help for the cost of her illness, even refuse to accept two rooms in appartment which will be offered to her when we getting married, she just says please take care of her and love her. I say I am not rich but enaugh to live a simple life even not working.

[@stateofmind4341]

Why are you taking about my wife? 😁 Guess i was lucky too. If i were to see videos like this b4 i met my wife i probably still be singel . Blessings

[@peppaybolivar2501]

Sorry not all Filipina is bad. I been chatting a foriegner for almost 5months which is his place and place is quiet near.but he dont have time to meet.and i never ask anything from him i am so really good to him ,and i understand him coz he's telling me he is not rich no money etc..since i am kind and understanding person so ok wait him etc..until i decided to met him and i offer to treat him coz he dont have money.. But 3days before we meet he's telling me his with another girl he can't met me..he lie to me and etc..so not all Filipina is really bad... Now need to careful to choose i can trust..someone who's honest and caring and a loving person just like me...hurting someone feelings is really bad...choose the rite one..cheers

[@peppaybolivar2501]

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[@peppaybolivar2501]

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[@GoodGuy-hf5qj]

peppay Bolivar hey I need your help about my filipina she has left me 😭 please talk to Me and help me about it

[@aceroandaluz9405]

peppay Bolivar all phili women say that hahahaa

[@veronicaswann1360]

Peppay Bolivar sorry to read this. I hope that you're doing better!

[@rejzbaltazar6571]

not all pilipina is bad,,,dont give up,,more good heart and true give love frist friend step okey dont excited ,,not good to fast ,, dont sad,,take care,,,

[@Sleevethrottle]

there's a thing called "inggit" that foreigners don't understand. some filipinas ask for money or material things not because they like but because they want to prove something. For example: We know a someone(a filipina) who is married or in a relationship with a foreigner. This foreigner buys her everything and the Filipina lives in extravagance. And this will be the standard thing for every Filipina-foreigner relationship. If Filipina 1 has a foreigner boyfriend that buys her stuffs, why Filipina 2 who also has a foreigner boyfriend doesn't get so much? Most of the time it happens only with foreign men for they are perceived as money machines.

[@mattwilkie]

+chris toper the English version of "inggit" is ENVY and it would be more relevant to foreigners due to the majority of foreigners having incomes or savings well above the average Filipino. In the UK its often termed as keeping up with the Jones's as it becomes a false competition of extravagence. Trying to out do each other on material things and pretty much everything else. But it does go on in the Filipino communities overseas as well, e.g. someone gets a new iphone within a group so the next thing is everyone has to have it regardless of financial troubles. In the Philippines when I first moved to Minglanilla none of the other houses were painted, everyone was "grey". I painted the exterior of our home and now every house is painted. The reason it stands out as "expats" is simply they are spending more in a smaller space of time.

[@mattwilkie]

Will add to the growing list :) its getting good recently as the more videos I do the more ideas for more are coming.

[@Sleevethrottle]

+matt wilkie the thing is everyone in the family of the "filipina" asks her why isn't your boyfriend giving you so much? And then they go back to the proposition that westerners have tons and tons of money. The Filipina has to prove her family and friends that her boyfriend means something by asking him lots of things. This is true for some Filipinas. I don't generalize though. There is a big difference between perception of good life between westerners and some filipinos considering Philippines is a developing country. Given your example of a newly painted house in the neighborhood. It might be normal in the west (or in the entire world). So a foreigner believes that a house should be painted without the thought of it being fancy. But since you are painting a house in a "rural" area in the Philippines, everyone will believe that you are bringing a good life since a painted house is already a luxury in that area. Hence the perception that all foreigners is a key of upgrading a lifestyle when you are actually just doing and thinking what is normal to you.

[@mattwilkie]

+chris toper that is an important point regarding bringing wealth, but where people go wrong is getting caught up in the envy of others. I know someone's brother in-law who spends most of his time in my friends car for example as if he owns it when he's actually only supposed to use it when picking my friend up from the airport etc. But the perception of everyone benefiting to suit "themselves" is where I draw the line as its part of the problem of holding the Philippines back. An uncle of my wife is a very successful business man in Cebu. He does cockfighting and if he wins people will knock his gates expecting to share in his wealth. If its their birtthday (bearing in mind he hasn't seen them all year) they will do the same. I have a simple phrase that I ues to define how I deal with this "If they don't expect it I will buy a gift, when its expected I get them nothing". Because it has to be valued in the first place. If its just expected then its worth nothing. Which when you're the one working for and paying for it I don't agree with giving it away because someone wants something for free. It has been devalued by the hangers on. At the same time my father and mother in-law don't ask for anything, had issues with some of the extended family previously but if they were allowed to "milk" the cash it would have ended in everyone being dragged down. Because lthey don't value you earning the money in the first place or the gifting. Did it have a negative affect? Answer is no, as several other people sided with us who are also far better off by cutting out those who were riding on the back of everyone else. Did the ones who were cut off get badly affected? Answer is no as they now stand on their own two feet and now in America. Would they have done the same if using other members of family as a retirement fund and construciton fund for themselves? Answer is probably not, would they have given back in return if successful? Probably not. Which gets back to the point that if its expected its of no value.

[@mattwilkie]

+justme154 other relatives (Cousin's)

[@garrylafferty100]

Philipina you never really know if it love or money after hearing I love you 18 months a 2 month vist. You will help her and her child if you think she loves you. The good one are worth that risk it only money she will cost you more if your married. That can take years to know if your being played. "westernized " If you cant trust her in states you dont trust her in Philippines ether.

[@jonalyntarrojapacifico7513]

In my comment on this situation is, we will choose wisely and smart to be chosen the right one person you want desired..

[@cincinnatiking8008]

Thanks for the help mate!

[@hirofan]

I've wasted years of my life on "bad" Filipinas.. I think I've found a good one now..

[@jeanettejavier5252]

Even some foreigners men are scammers too. I experienced American and British man, they tried to get your trust then eventually they wanted me to send them money. They have strange reason to convince you to send them money. But I'm not saying all foreigners are bad. Because I met good man also. Just like Filipina, not all are bad, whatever nationality you have or country you came from. Some of them are bad and good. So just careful to talk to them. When it comes to money, you will find out if they are bad or good.

[@joek5161]

Most the time those American or British men are actually from somewhere like China or Africa...or even the Philippines. They will often go through and scam dating sites looking for lonely women. Not saying that there are not scammers in western countries - there are lots of them. Just, the payoff from scamming someone in the Philippines wouldn't even cover rent.

[@alibacchus607]

western women do the same , try dating , who spend money on the dates in Nortn America .

[@aceroandaluz9405]

Or six months later " My grandmother's sick she needs bla bla bla for medication " even though its true lol but when grandmothers got some well off daughters working abroad .

[@nakazziamina7097]

ACERO ANDALUZ ANDALUCIAN STEEL THE HIGHEST ART your right they do so

[@alwyn626]

I fell for the " i love you " trap. You believe it after 8 months of saying it. I met and stayed with her family and all seemed good. Of course she wanted money. I sent 4.000p one day .. she was pissed at me.. not enough she said. She called it quits 3 weeks before i was to go and meet her. I paid for the doors and windows in her house. Now she pissed me off. But they forget.. i know where she lives.

[@mattwilkie]

thick skin can be a common problem.

[@alwyn626]

@@mattwilkie if it happened to you .. you'd know how it feels. But lesson learned.

[@frodohammer7066]

Just my humble opinion if you want to marry a Filipina you've first to know about culture and traditions of the Philippines as much as possible and from my European perspective it's absolutely different. So can it fit, of course but will both be happy - probably not unless one agree with abandon the own way of life. If this works for you it's fine

[@alwyn626]

@@frodohammer7066 i wasn't going to drag her away from her country. I was gonna retire and live with her. Support her and family. But it was a scam. Thats all it was .. a fucking scam.

[@biggerbear1406]

Theyll use you if you let them. Dont let them. Be the man.

[@lucykeofw946]

Just Be careful not Only Filipina Woman talk Sweets But not On LOVE .HAVE MORE WOMAN TRANS GENDER ..BECAREFUL MUCH .ANALYZE THE WAY WOMAN TALK , ....Bless you

[@nakazziamina7097]

I'm an African but all I mind about is love that's all

[@bobmustari6087]

Excellent advice, geography excluded.

[@ericsoles2080]

i get that allot on Facebook asking for money from Philippines women i block them a

[@mattwilkie]

Know the feeling as its a but frustrating that they are even too lazy to read my profile to see I am happily married.

[@bellamartin4522]

Lol. You think if man asking sex on camera. Do you think that woman don't get frustrated.. Lol.. Woman love money.. Man love sex..

[@imeldaaarcilla9554]

Not all woman asking your money

[@meahpepe2804]

Any girl have on personality.. ...styles of life......

[@rockyalvarez520]

Camera is in front of your face whay are you looking down and to your right? It looks weird

[@sguiaoph]

I'm a matured woman looking for a matured man...i am educated and still working,,i want a serious relationship I am a widow with no kids,,,,

[@ernestoflores1057]

I meet this Filipina online, never meet her fiscally. She seems a very hard working woman, a real catch. She is into me as I believed till today. We made a "pact" where we agreed of not keeping secrets. We've been cheating online for quite some time, and only once I saw her on live chat. Long story short, we both think fall in love, I like an independent woman with strong values and secure about herself. Her problem is that she avoids telling me things that I consider important as engaging in a relationship like she says she trusts me, but not enough to tell me anything I want to know, nothing demining or shameful. Just want to know how come i never knew when she have a new job, or what is she doing? Some questions to move forward in a conversation. I told her what i do, even the not so good things sometimes i have to do to get money, i am 100% into her like that, cause I do like her and I wish I can be with her. But when I ask her cause I am confused or ignorant of what's going on, she played the victim and turns things around to make me look like I'm disrespecting her or been rude. She turned around and stop talking to me. My question is, is Filipinas are arrogant people, or just don't like to be bothered with questioning? Remember what I said we made a pact, to share our secrets, why is she so private and get mad when is ask in a nicesest way possible???? Can someone educate me in this matter?

[@GrantandShirley]

Good Advice Matt thank you :-)

[@OrtonHeadXIV]

You know Matt my friend as what you had said earlier is really true but i wonder why to those foreigners they knows already whats the characters of those Filipinas still they coteneuing to make a friend and either sometimes victims of cheating....

[@mattwilkie]

I agree as I warn people about things I know from experiences others have had. As I am sure you would be able to recognise a lot of traits that are common in the way some people act. The large majority are easy to spot but often the person you are trying to warn would rather argue with you than accept there is a problem.

[@jweu6168]

My Filipina wife can buy what she want, After she earn her money. My Wife i met in Europe. cost me a mountain of kilometers and money to get her in my house. BUT it was the best investment ever!!She like to work and Hard, chainsaw? big air drill, building a garage 60 sqm go on the roof to fix it? Than I say come I do that. okay the first year I try that. Now I even do not ask. She get Pitbull. So we can work together. and she is no barbie type. A normal hard working woman, from the province a Barangay woman. Now she go 7 weeks home to see her daughter and family. I stay in EU. Can't travel and need to care for the animals. I try she can go home every year. If we have problems yes sure. And yes I can shoot her on the roof some times.. but in what relationship it go perfect?

[@FastEasyLifeTips]

Billy Connolly reference at 1:10 ;)

[@jindasukbunma9657]

Hello, am Thai by birth,live in Canada, why is that am Asian,wormen most of us, find westerners man, relly desire able, And kind, Hart,s and understanding, amazing, to me at Thai wormen,

[@YYC403NOYP]

MORAL of the story. Look for a girl YOUR OWN AGE. Young girl + old man = OPPORTUNISTIC RELATIONSHIP.

[@biggerbear1406]

YYC403NOYP thats not at all the moral of the story

[@garrylafferty100]

Not about age gap as much as maturity of philipina. If your 65 she 30 with a couple of children she probably mature enough to love a man twice her age. She has lived life having two children. If she has no children and you dont wont any dont go there she will wont children.