Mean Girls Suck! Tips for Dealing With Relational Aggression.

🤔 ⁉️Want to know a little secret? Mean girls, suck!
⁉️And the thing is, the term ‘mean girl’ actually applies to females at any age.
Female rivalry is boundless. It can happen to anyone, anywhere and frequently starts at a very young age. It’s unbiased, doesn’t discriminate, and no age, culture or demographic is off limits. A formal name for this sneaky type of mean girl behavior is called, ‘relational aggression.’
It’s a type of behavior where feeling can be expressed without bringing a lot of attention to oneself because it’s typically passive aggressive in nature.
📘The vlog, “Mean Girls Suck: Tips For Dealing With Relational Aggression” unveils what mean girl behavior looks like, and shares tips about how to address the ugly behavior if you’re dealing with one.
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[@lovelylisa-tw2kg]

I walked away. It was the only thing i could do. I went to therapy too because as a highly sensitive person it impacted me much more severely.

[@dr.ambertichenorphd]

Walking away can be so hard, but sometimes it's the best thing you can do, to help yourself. (I've been there). And yes, it can be very impactful and hard. Therapy certain helps. Thanks for sharing!

[@amyj.4992]

Alot of adult ass children, behave like this. I catch receipts on everything

[@little76boo1]

I have 9 sisters and a core group of them do exactly this. If we don't all agree with their outlooks on every subject and area of life, we are bullied into changing our rhetoric. If that doesn't work, the next step is small comments to belittle our views. They use the term 'we' if I'm having a disagreement with one of them as a way of making me feel like I'm on my own and I'm the one in the wrong because the masses all agree with her. When none of that works... full on accusations that are fealty hurtful and just plain lies but said with so much conviction they are generally believed or at least not called out by others because they don't want the spotlight to land on them! They will NEVER apologise, NEVER back down and only get more aggressive the more you try and get them to understand your views. It's exhausting and damaging. I can only remove myself from them and hope that the others in my family (9 brothers) see the truth. Counselling has really helped me to see these patterns.

[@patriciafry8634]

Building your own support group helps. Not engaging with the “popular girls” also helps. Btw, these are not “lovely girls”.

[@dr.ambertichenorphd]

Having your own support group is huge and so important for your personal well-being.

[@Patsanford220]

What’s ironic is that the popular girls are actually super insecure which is why they have to be part of the clique, they can’t validate or think for themselves. They don’t know what to do if a high value woman comes along who is also kind, empathetic and self-confident and can express their own uniqueness freely. Usually they’ll feel threatened by her (“she thinks she’s better than us!”) and bully her out of the social situation. They self select for the most toxic and conforming ones.

[@maroonpilgrim]

I am in a group situation. In the end, in a calm, confident non aggressive way, I simply called out the behaviour and said "we've got to stop being mean to each other"

[@dr.ambertichenorphd]

@maroonpilgrim I am sorry you are experiencing this behavior. Being calm can be hard to do - good for you!! I also totally agree with calling out the behavior. Did it help to do so??

[@graceyoung516]

to call them out openly !!!

[@dr.ambertichenorphd]

Yes! I think that is a good strategy! It also can be hard to do.

[@graceyoung516]

​@@dr.ambertichenorphd correct - but otherwise, the narc believes he/she has a an easy play at your costs. I know it by experience - and then it never ends !!!

[@cheescakeluv]

I had situations like this through all my life but only a few years ago I learned the term to name this. Honestly atm I think I may be on my way to another situation with relational aggression from a person in my circle and the worst part is that even though I know what it is i still second guess myself and assume it’s nothing until *bam* some comment happens and I freeze not knowing how to react. I think a big struggle, at least for me, is knowing when something is actually an agression and when it is just me reading to much into it :(

[@dr.ambertichenorphd]

I'm sorry you have and are experiencing this again. One thing I always say, listen to your gut, if it feels off, it probably is. Which means, you're also probably not reading too much into it.

[@kated999]

That is very helpful. Thank you!

[@Guildofarcanelore]

Previously I had referred to this as "emotional violence". Where physical violence is illegal, emotional violence can be as abusive but tolerated, if not accepted in society.

[@rubberbiscuit99]

Trust yourself. Your body signals you when something is "off" about another person and how they interact. Write down the date and time of each incident, what was said and done, and how you felt. This way, you will see whether this type of behavior is a pattern for the person, and not have to rely only on your memory. If it is a pattern, then walk away. The person will not even know there is something to fix if you just keep on tolerating mistreatment. And tolerating mistreatment leads to a wide range of losses, including self-respect and self-esteem, health and a zest for life. It drains you.

[@marcellarivera6409]

Love the advice.

[@dr.ambertichenorphd]

Thank-you!