Mediation 101: What to expect at mediation

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[@steeveekeys1904]

Mediation in 3 weeks, thank you for this!

[@jsegura525]

Hello Steve - how did your mediation go.

[@Flexyourmemes]

Right? They just disappear and dont update. I have mediation on the 27th of February for my lawsuit thats been going on 2 years

[@jsegura525]

@@Flexyourmemes- thanks for the reply. Two years is a long time. Are you still at the EEOC level or in a lawsuit? Best of luck. Hope you have an attorney.

[@Flexyourmemes]

@@jsegura525 lawsuit. My first lawyer passed away

[@Flexyourmemes]

@@jsegura525 i never went through eeoc. Went straight to a lawyer and started a lawsuit. Its taken so long in part hecause my first lawyer passed away and the defense has been stalling. Took them 6 months alone to respond to the initial lawsuit filing

[@nofacenocase1357]

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[@JobAttorney]

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[@jacobmorales1563]

Did you go into mediation with or without a lawyer? I’m going into mediation with my former employer for discrimination due to a disability and being forced to quit, and I want to get an idea of how yours went (if you’re allowed to speak about it)?

[@kennethnicholson9222]

Vince you have done a great job and showing me and teaching me how to handle my case

[@mercygodtv7577]

How was mediation?

[@MarcellaLewis-gf7lo]

Hello Vince! I need your help ‼️‼️Is the Client required to pay their mediation fee or does the attorney representing you front that fee? This is an employer discrimination case Non Contingency fee agreement. The courts ordered mediation we did not. I’m so grateful for any help or advice on this matter. Mediation is coming up and the mediator needs her fee paid two weeks prior to mediation. Thank you so much.

[@annielin2894]

Thank you!

[@ProSePlaintiff]

For what? Why are we thanking Mr. White? Do we thank him for his 1200 videos?

[@itsreallyher_]

I have mediation coming up. I don’t want to seem uncompromising during our mediation, but I’ve literally tried every single thing to encourage my ex husbands presence in out kids lives. I’ve even gone as far as to provide groceries and money for outings when he has the kids. I requested his physical involvement in lieu of child support due to his income being inconsistent. Even with all of these accommodations he is still an absent father and oversteps boundaries that we have agreed to for our children. I finally requested the courts help, but also asked to implement AA/NA, parenting classes and anger management before we can renegotiate custody. I really don’t want to seem harsh in mediation or that I “know it all”, but it took ALOT for me to finally come to this decision and I strongly feel that I’ve done my part to help. At this point, I need what I need from him. One or our kids are on the spectrum so consistency is imperative. How could I present myself during mediation as to not seem unwilling to work with or come to a resolution outside of what I have outlined in the paperwork? I really don’t want to be difficult, but my kids deserve so much more than the bare minimum.

[@biancae88]

this was very helpful, thank you!

[@annielin2894]

So adorable endearing baby cat 🐈 she’s checking in her friend!

[@ProSePlaintiff]

You missed Mr. White's birthday video.

[@annielin2894]

@@ProSePlaintiff I am sorry about that when was his birthday?

[@ProSePlaintiff]

@@annielin2894 Are you serious? 2 days ago.

[@cancercrh025]

What if the the former employee denies to have a mediation and requests a full investigation? What happens next?

[@jacobmorales1563]

I have just been assigned mediation for a discrimination case I filed with CA civil rights department on my former employer. This video helped a ton! But I have to know, do I need a lawyer going into this? And because my former employer decided to move forward with mediation after receiving word of my monetary amount requested, is it too late to go into mediation asking for more? I believe I have a strong case

[@123NopeNotMe]

How is mediation SUPPOSE to end if it's decided that a "pause" is needed and follow up with the mediator would be needed? (but they never respond 👀) and the counselor just emails you ur NOR letter while you're still under the impression that you're still awaiting a response. 😅😅

[@123NopeNotMe]

Heyy Vince 👋🏾 👋🏾 Outside of filing with the OFO and waiting months for a response from submitting Petition for enforcements.. What other recourse do you have when an employer isn't compliant with an EEOC No contact order btwn employees and you have evidence of the hostile work environment but the agency is simply saying they're compliant bc they issued the order even though it's being violated? 👀

[@jsegura525]

Does the plaintiff have any say in defendants request for extension to answer the charge. Can plaintiff limit employer to only one 30 day extension?

[@TWforever665]

Vince the EEOC issued me a right to sue letter that says , my complaint is untimely and in other words I waited to long to bring the matter to their attention. Then six months later I received a letter from the Illinois Department of Human Rights saying that they will investigate and to send copy of EEOC determination. After I sent that I received a questionnaire to write out answers to the my complaint/charge cross filed with both agencies. I completed that questionnaire and returned it to the Illinois Department of Human Rights. What are possible outcomes. I filed discrimination claims and retaliation claims and wrongful termination claims in my complaint that occurred a little over 3 years now. Will the IDHR actually do something to bring justice

[@ramonahudson984]

I was offered an early mediation by EEOC's atlanta branch on 6/3/24. We have not heard anything from my employer. What's taking them so long to respond

[@tallchicknvegas]

😁 "It's a whole vibe" (so cool it's unbelievable. you gotta have Black friends or bloodline 🤭)

[@jsegura525]

And soul.

[@terramckee935]

I have mediation today. I am a federal employee now placed on administrative leave by my supervisor, as of yesterday, in retaliation for today's eeoc meeting. My supervisor began papering my file in January...about a week after I found out that he had my team lead serving as my supervisor. She is not authorized to do this. To my surprise, he is my only supervisor. And I asked workforce relations to meet with us to establish healthy workplace boundaries... I literally ended a meeting with him and requested assistance. No one with a duty to act has done anything... I refused to meet with him the next day, so he docked my pay...which I just found out last week that he cannot do...via my union. He has done this on several occasions when I missed a meeting with him. Any suggestions? I am late in asking... I am interested in finding an attorney. In retaliation, he made me start meeting with him 3 times per week. All discriminatory...

[@whataboutit643]

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[@danalauren9898]

If there is an EEOC investigation instead of mediation. Do i have to be directly involved? Im nervous.

[@ken90004]

What would be the reason to rescend mediation? Both parties agreed and then defendant changed their mind. Going back to enforcement. I'm little confused

[@JobAttorney]

Could be any number of reasons, most common one would be one party entered the mediation at an initial demand that was too high for the mediation to have a realistic chance of being effective.

[@jsegura525]

Hello Vince - what chance does a plaintiff have of getting reinstated if that is their main goal? If no reinstatement then the mediation is done.

[@Flexyourmemes]

Then you talk money damages. Your lawyer should be able to advise you

[@Adehead]

Does you cat travel back n forth with you when you go to the city? Thanks for videos!

[@JobAttorney]

Yes, I don't like to leave her alone. The Farm Captain and his little boy look in on her if I am just gone for a day or two, but if it is longer she travels with me.

[@Starbeoghtuser3475]

@@JobAttorneyShe’s a BOSS cat! 🐈

[@BachelorCigarTalks]

"we're getting caught up from the people on vacation" No vacations allowed, only money making ! 😏🤨😎

[@queenofyoworld]

I survived work abuse. I am poor and can't afford a lawyer. I did go to the eeoc. I did make a paper trail of the evidence. Emails and pictures . Any advise?

[@ramonahudson984]

i found an attorney that would wave all fees until a settlement is reached.

[@horaceprince3449]

What if you are asking to be reinstated during mediation?

[@jsegura525]

What if reinstatement is main goal, of course $$ is also part of the agreement.

[@cmritchie04]

how Can I become a mediator specializing in Radio communications and Aviation?

[@JobAttorney]

I don't know! I'm not familiar with that field of mediation.

[@danalauren9898]

My eeoc claim states i can mediate but i don't think i want to. Do i have to??

[@JobAttorney]

You are not required to mediate in the EEOC.

[@ebylib]

Going into EEOC mediation without an attorney - part-time job with a public entity, failure to hire, max damages - about $25k (so I don't think an attorney would be interested). Also, could you talk about confidentiality - are discussions confidential? Settlements?

[@user-hq8fd3ox3d]

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[@nataney2487]

is normal employer take 5 months to respond to the position statement?

[@JobAttorney]

Not unheard of

[@alex0304able]

Yes, most of the EEOC mediators are careless and less trained

[@TYLYNNKING]

How do you report retaliation after EEO contact?

[@JobAttorney]

If you have an open EEOC case, amend to add it. If they don't let you amend, file a fresh EEOC case for the retaliation.

[@TYLYNNKING]

Is it still possible to amend if I already sent off my request for hearing form?

[@TYLYNNKING]

@@JobAttorney Thanks for your response I already turned in my hearing request form how do amend my complaint?

[@Katavicta]

How different are mental disability suits from physical disabilities?

[@thenosepicker]

Give em hell Vinny P

[@viralsheddingzombie5324]

Preparation M.

[@ProSePlaintiff]

What does M stand for?

[@viralsheddingzombie5324]

@@ProSePlaintiff Mediation, of course.

[@ProSePlaintiff]

@@viralsheddingzombie5324 Thank you. From a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate the quality of Mr. White's video today?

[@viralsheddingzombie5324]

@@ProSePlaintiff Vince's score is infinity...and that's on a bad day.

[@ProSePlaintiff]

@@viralsheddingzombie5324 Is this higher or lower than LawByMike?

[@BachelorCigarTalks]

Vince needs a shaved head 🪒.

[@ProSePlaintiff]

You didn't give us a video yesterday. Please post two tomorrow. You owe it to @AnnieLin2894