What I’ve learned about life by observing the ENFJ

[@brandonwilliams3777]

Ive always wanted an enfj friend. You have a way of kicking me into action. You guys are also a lot more active in dealing with people, and are a lot better at diffusing sitiuations

[@schelleanne]

I definitely get passionate when talking about wanting to changing society for the better and how frustrating it is when it feels like the majority of the population is okay with its current state and doesn’t have the time/energy to change. -ENFJ, love your channel 💕

[@LMEL756]

Very interesting video. You have a lot of passion, and it’s clear that you invest a lot of time, energy, and emotion bettering yourself and the world. -INTP

[@MeghaMuse]

Thank you!!

[@azizayusupova3377]

I am exactly like u! I am an real ENFJ! I wish people knew the true passion of the ENFJs'!

[@JonasAnandaKristiansson]

Loved this video! ENFJs are amazing, and you are one great, intellectual and aware one! :)

[@lisajohnson1072]

Thank you for making me laugh! I went on one of these rants the other day! It's great to see someone else with such a passion for creating a beautiful, harmonious world! - Sending you love, & peaceful energy! - Lisa ENFJ

[@ReeThealien]

God, I have always wanted someone to mix spirituality/self-awareness and MBTI. Seeing you do that makes me so happy! I'm learning so much from your videos! Thank you Meghan.

[@drawntoicehockey]

Finally someone said it! I'm so sick of people thinking I'm gonna be a pushover and tryna get something from me for free, and then getting upset when I say "No." I'm so tired of standing up for kids who get bullied in school and everyone treating me like it's not a normal thing to do. My dad tells me I'm too negative all the time because I complain about the way that the school system stifles creativity and the freedom to explore and learn stuff in your own way, but someone needs to make a way for creative people to not feel wrong and useless in school. I dropped out just over a month ago because it was getting to me. I was depressed, I was contemplating the point of my own existence... creative people shouldn't have to feel like that just because we're creative. I mean, once you get to college, it's fine (or so I've heard, I'm starting in September), but we shouldn't have to go through 13 odd years of school feeling different and wrong and weird just because we don't work the same as other people. I honestly wish there was a way that I could fix that, but I don't know how to do it. Another thing that annoys me is the school system having anti bullying policies that don't work. They act like they're gonna stop bullying from happening at all by showing us videos about how it affects victims, but bullying's gonna happen whether or not you tell people it's wrong. I was bullied all my school life. Those kids weren't thinking about those videos while they were alienating me for not following what they were doing because I thought it was wrong, or verbally abusing me for it. They thought they were justified in what they were doing. A lot of them would gang up on someone they decided they didn't like, and I'd be right there defending that person. Last year, people starting following what I was doing which felt awesome, tbf. It just felt good to have a bunch of people standing with whoever was being targeted, and not being the only one. Schools generally provide no support for victims of bullying and I wish I could change that but I can't. Anyway, enough with the negative stuff. I've been helping my mum cut down on snacking because she wants to be more healthy, and she gets really annoyed with me when I see her going into the cupboard to get a biscuit or something and I run in and say "NO!". She's always like, "How did you hear me?" but the cupboard door is quite loud and I'm a highly sensitive person so my hearing is on point. I can hear her open the cupboard from a different room lol. But yeah, people get surprised when I have rules and boundaries for things, but that's just me. Even people who don't know about mbti. That always makes me feel weird because I start wondering if I've done something wrong.

[@drawntoicehockey]

I've started looking at what will matter to me in the long run recently rather than worrying about how it'll look to other people, and I'm feeling a lot more fulfilled.

[@svn1242]

You said it soo right Meghan! I’m an ENFJ too. It is all about not being a conformist, it’s important to say what is not working that well in the world (or in a more micro perspective)In the best way possible, and “caring enough” about things that have to be changed.

[@liamabean3532]

Ok yes I’m an ENFJ. I loved your rant. WE HAVE ALL THE TOOLS TO MAKE A BETTER WORLD.

[@iwasanMBTInerd]

I like ENFJs even more now! I see a lot of myself in that, even though I'm not an ENFJ. You articulate things so perfectly. I will subscribe to you. You are also correct in saying that Te makes NFPs need to get some sort of value from doing good things.

[@briandorsey6437]

Yup. I've left a few jobs abruptly and emotionally as the feeling building up was just absolutely unacceptable and not changing or seemingly fixable with tbe personalies and mind sets involved. And no regrets at all - though it's taken time to rebuild in my new job (real estate) which I'm enjoying more and more as I commit to it full time and put my energy into it. It fits my person to person style well and I want the best for my clients and am ambitious etc. I was a political science major and have larger intersts and dreams than just real estate commissions but the independence is beautiful and fitting for me. Just freedom to go all over Connecticut and work with different people of all backgrounds and wealth levels and help them with their dreams etc.

[@juliansthoughts5641]

God, I love ENFJs. Also, I'd say that unhealthy Fe looks like people pleasing, while healthy Fe is like, "there is no peace, we gotta do something about it." As an INFJ, I know exactly what your talking about. And this is why I love ENFJs because they are bold enough to make the truth of pain known. And that is really what I've struggled with. Letting what I know about the pain in the world be known. And now I don't feel anything at all. Like you said, "it's better to feel negative emotions, than to feel no emotions at all." I tried to explain how much I value the sensation of sorrow. They didn't get it. And now after thinking on that and enduring similar situations, I feel powerless. They just thought I was depressed, when in the etraverted feeling reality is that if you feel intense sorrow, that means you care and love the world enough do be pained by its pain. I wish I could say exacly how I feel. And after these months of people not seeing the beauty and importance of negative emotions have caused me to default to not caring at all. And as a result, I feel virtually nothing at all. We all need to recognize the importance of negative emotions. Because those people didn't understand that sorrow is an emotion, which depression is the void of emotions, they caused me to ignore emotions all together, even the ones of love like sorrow. Anyway, I really needed your inspirational words. And I greatly appreciated it. I know this was over sharing, but I don't care. It needed to be said.

[@BeyondSustainableLiving]

This is BADASS Meghan!! I LOVE THIS! INTJ here who agrees with everything you said. I feel like you are channeling INTJs too! This is wild how much I relate!

[@Amira-z6k]

As an ENFJ every single thing you said resonates with me

[@flipletape9706]

"If you care about something, you can do something good" ILY

[@pitch22perfect]

Loads of RESPECT for you Meghan

[@someonerandom713]

1:17 Yes, that idea would be interesting, go for it! :D 9:32 True that. Misconceptions. I read into and followed mbti stereotypes for quite a while, a way too long while, even so long that I considered being an ENTP, before I got to know the functions. And I love debating ideas with an open mind. I've always stood for my standpoints adamantly _and_ respectfully. It's not that hard. I don't think any ENFJ would dislike a debate, as long as it stays friendly, or is about a topic of interest or importance. Honestly, almost no ENFJ I have ever met would chose a fake smile over defending important truths. In certain enviroments that were, let's say, uncomfortable for me, I had been a somewhat bitter person for a certain time during my life. Looking back on that, I can't say that this was any way near to the "typical ENFJ". But definitely Fe/Ni/Se/Ti, for my whole life. Stereotypes are off. And about typology, stereotypes should be ended, they ultimately help no one. Back in school, it was always a good friend of mine, who is an ESFP and a really smart guy, who helped me during math lesson. Now try to sell that to the stereotype sources ^^ Great video, Meghan, you're someone to truly look up to! =)

[@MeghaMuse]

exactly!! because ENFJs don't CARE about Si comfort. And at the end of the day, important truths add to harmony MORE than shoving things under the rug and being fake. Fe PLUS Ni is there for harmony in the LONG haul. :D :D thank you so much for your kind words!

[@UnknownUser-xp1dp]

A meta-being is the term you are referring to when discussing the phenomenon of observing what your personality observes. You have an overview of your personality - I agree with your interpretation of the soul and personality as distinct. Noticing the distinction is important, it gives rise to self-improvement.

[@MalanShort]

I love this series Meghan 💕

[@MeghaMuse]

Thank you!!!

[@ShanellPetersonOfficial]

I’m an ENFJ 😊

[@MeghaMuse]

Yayy! That's awesome girl i can see that, I either thought you were ENFJ or ENFP from when we talked

[@a.k.1217]

i can feel ya fellow enfj.. and im proud to be one. you are awesome and very insightful!

[@leochang3328]

Thank u so fucking much for really putting all my thoughts into words esp starting from 6:18 onwards. I'm an ENFJ too and I would say I'm super principled on the morals of things and I'm so sick and tired of people who don't do anything to improve their lives and just accept their own fate. We should all come together and fight against the system that is deeply wrong to demand justice for all people. Is it actually correct for me to say that most ENFJs are probably more progressive and liberal than other personalities?

[@benli1397]

I was ENTJ,ENTP, but now I’m ENFJ. Idk if I changed because of my experience or it just happened. However when I switched my mindset from T to J, I found out that T ppl are very honest. They are hardworking, straightforward, and craving success. But these features do not function well in society especially if you want to climb up. You just have to know how people work. I think T people can get success if they focus on their skill set. Cuz the way they deal with people is kind of naive….(Nothing against them. I was also like that.)

[@christianwellness4363]

Love this ! and all your other videos 😊

[@jtwright4095]

this was so original & good; u can be so objective! so i learned alot, really appreciate it. And it makes sense. thank u! :)

[@godmode3611]

I really identify with that last you say. That is why I know that advice from others can help but only as long as it aligns with what I really want.

[@MeghaMuse]

Thank you! I love hearing from other ENFJs

[@lonwilson1267]

Thank you for making me feel normal

[@arielavalos7514]

For me as an Infp I feel like you say things I think for my self not even my feelings but what I think on my internal dialoge for my personal reasons to my self! on those proccesess hahhaha xD sorry if bad english! I love the proccess of indiviuation, and also the connected universe and more. Thank you for all your wonderful work being a light in the shadow for me and wonderful for me loving it. Peace and Love.

[@cedricburkhart3738]

I have difficulty responding to your videos because you say so many things all at once. But I like this a lot of them including this one. You really seemed like you cared about what you were talking about. I don't think that war will end as long as there are large human societies. Societies made up of people like me can't survive for long. Unless some other society is willing to use violent force in order to protect them.👽

[@carissamorgan7992]

1,000 votes for a vid on stepping back and observing! I identify as an ENFP and have found myself in a grip of my Fi, so strongly identifying with my subjective feelings and experience that I alienate can myself from reality. I can get stuck in my emotions and unable to perceive the bigger picture or a larger perspective.

[@maleehaaamir665]

omg thanks meghan! really needed this :)

[@Ironfrenzy217]

Hmm. I'm ENFJ and I do care about being useful. I've learned ideas and ideals are nothing without legs.

[@tyerrascott6596]

Omg, it's me lol everything you said

[@GulNadar]

So much I agree and love about this video. ❤️

[@spoonsnaper]

Do INFP next

[@ashleyching7894]

Love is all there is at the end of it all

[@ashleyching7894]

What do you value in the long run?

[@ashleyching7894]

If you have passion, you don’t need to be valued for what you’re used for, but for who you are.

[@ashleyching7894]

MBTI as worldviews

[@justsomelazybrit2707]

This is a mandatory senpai'ed notice. This smol 18 year old enfj 2 boi has found inspiration in and identified with your videos, upon being found, senpai will be snuggled relentlessly until kouhai has been noticed.

[@MarinaGalstyanCovers]

Hey Meghan, love your videos, wanted to know when is your birthday, what is your zodiac sign? Moon, Rising😆 just wanted to know what sign most enfjs are

[@MeghaMuse]

July 29 1994! I’m a Leo sun, Aries moon, cancer rising :)

[@MarinaGalstyanCovers]

@@MeghaMuse I knewww it girl, I felt your Leo energy, btw I'm an ENFJ with rising, Mars, Venus, Mercury and signature sign in Leo :D, thanks for the reply

[@tamtam6717]

I test as infp but I can be quite bold the way you describe here...hmmm

[@darianalexi]

darianalexi miller I took the Meyer Briggs test yesterday and was surprised by my results; my test revealed ISFP-T! Every other time I've taken the test my results showed INFJ or INFP. I'm so confused. Are ISFP-T similar to INFJ or INFP?

[@hannatalks8437]

Very good 👍

[@ReeThealien]

1:23 Please do!! ^ ^

[@andtheywereroommates1989]

Honestly a lot of things you're saying is just basic stuff to me (I'm not an ENFJ). I also think that the things you see as typical ENFJ behavior is just normal behavoir many people behave that way.

[@MeghaMuse]

Well no type is about behavior, it’s about the pattern of behavior and the root cognition. A collection of behavior can show you the pattern. Every type is going to have basic behavior everyone can do because everyone can do everything. To see the patterns you have to look at all 16 and compare

[@andtheywereroommates1989]

@@MeghaMuse oh okay nvm then.

[@imagomonkei]

LOL! The military built the internet, besides a lot of other technologies you enjoy. Without war, we'd have no internet.

[@MeghaMuse]

haha, that kind of proves my point a little more haha. we build what we care about, and war is an emotion