Things you LOVE when you’re an ENFJ

[@AntoineLavoisier]

Nice work! As an ENFJ, I don’t really see myself as the most extroverted. In fact, I’m more than happy to let a person of another type take center stage while I quietly observe on the side. Having said that, I am often compelled to fill a leadership void when one exists.

[@scudgie1]

I was just thinking the same thing about the level of extroversion. It took me a long time to realize I was an extrovert due to being so shy for so long. But I know now it was a conditioned response. I do think ENFJ's are not the type to wield strong energy in in a room until they get a "read" of their environment, though. I've lost a lot of shyness, but I think my Fe monitors how I bring energy into a situation with people. I try to tune into what's needed rather than assume. It's all rather subconscious, but I see the pattern now that I understand my function stack.

[@AntoineLavoisier]

Wow that’s a great way to describe it! I have an ENFP co-worker and I let him do his thing whenever we work together. Thanks for sharing!

[@TheLinaChen]

I completely feel the same way! I like to be the one off to the side observing. However, I've had people say that I seem to be the one that wants to be the center of attention but completely the opposite. Perhaps it's my charisma and charm that I'm able to socialize with many types, but I'd prefer to be the chameleon and watch and listen to others and of course occasionally ask personal questions to truly get to know someone. I will take the initiative if no one will takes lead but for the most part, I don't mind being on the sidelines.

[@AntoineLavoisier]

I thoroughly enjoy being the center of attention when I’m in a group of large people like at a party or giving a talk at a conference but I’m more likely to pull back in small groups to the point that some wonder if I’m introverted. The setting and who is present there definitely matters. Fe is all about social appropriateness so I am very serious and more in an Ni-Ti loop at work unless certain people are present and work conditions allow for more social behavior. Bottom line is that it’s highly situational whether I’m the life of the party or not. I need to check the Fe guidelines.

[@datuangela]

Leadership roles are exhausting. And often thankless.

[@shadowboxing7029]

I work with an ENFJ and while she seems to know everyone and can talk to anyone, she's got a quiet demeanor about her. Whenever I'm in her presence, there's just a natural warmth emitting from her. As an ISTP people mostly get on my nerves, I'm good to be left alone for the whole day but when she comes around, I'm a whole other person. She's so damn slick about getting me to talk about myself, even when I'm resolved to not let her do it, it happens every damn time. I switch the conversation back to her, then I realise we're talking about me again lol. I can be my normal misanthropic abrasive self around her and it doesn't bother her in the slightest, she finds it hilarious. I can say they're the only type I'd be happy to be surrounded by.

[@REBsessions]

We do love a good avoidant ISTP... xo

[@lauradeveausmith]

@@REBsessions it’s a delicious challenge! ❤

[@REBsessions]

@@lauradeveausmith 😏

[@datuangela]

Sounds like you have a crush.

[@shadowboxing7029]

@@datuangela I read it back to myself and it really does lol.

[@Kokola-qh9wp]

Me, an INFP taking notes to woo my future ENFJ crush:

[@tash6974]

Ohmagosh ditto✌️🤣Good luck😂💕

[@NoNamedNobody692]

Golden pair baby ❤🎉

[@angelicamartinezr.8965]

@@NoNamedNobody692 Golden pair is bullsh*t.

[@saudbassier9689]

I hope you find them one day. After years I finally found an INFP that I connect will with (took a while to get her to open up though) and it's going really well

[@NoNamedNobody692]

@@angelicamartinezr.8965 I don’t think so personally. It makes sense to me.

[@drm-relationshipcoach9475]

As an ENFJ, This video made me way happier than it should have😅😅😅

[@leonardostults8043]

Me too!! ☺☺

[@peachlesslyyy]

SAMEEE JAJAJA and the comments make it better! I'm laughing so hard at 4am😂😅

[@translateconversion8752]

00:00 Title 00:02 1. The art of conversation 03:18 2. Living life like it's a story 04:15 3. When your gut instincts and hunches are vindicated 04:51 4. When people "ENFJ" you

[@z-meister2105]

I'm so happy to see another ENFJ video! Thank you Nathan! With this one specificly I definitely find myself story telling my own life. I've always been a highly enthusiastic person, and I know that people engage more when conversation is interesting. Once again, thank you. Your video quality surpasses that of any of the other Myers Briggs youtubers. Have an amazing day/night.

[@Bensaur]

Yay, ENFJ video! Here are my thoughts about what you said: 1. ENFJs are not always very extraverted. For me, my Fe prioritizes social harmony, and so I often tip-toe around conversation to make sure that nobody is offended. Also, I like what you said about your friend who doesn't like her words dissected into different parts. Our Se says... take it for what it is and then leave it, don't think about it too hard or you're going to come up with incorrect assumptions. 2. Everything that comes out of my mouth has a purpose. Stories make everything more interesting. It's so funny to listen to a Si-dominant to talk about things that they like. Do I care about your trip to the mountains? Only if talking about it makes you happy. 3. My gut instincts about people are so uncanny. I love social reality TV shows like Big Brother and Survivor. I don't mean to brag, but it's pretty easy to tell from the beginning who is going to succeed and who will fail. But my "gut instincts" also often tell me that people don't like me... so... that's unhealthy. 4. It's so rare for people to ENFJ me. When they do.... it's like magic.

[@nishatzaha5145]

No.2 so accurate

[@sherriewilson4837]

It’s all true! I love a good conversation. I especially like turning a so-so convo into something fun and witty or light-heartedly introspective.Also, it’s impossible to tell how many people have poured out their hearts to me. It’s always unexpected and an honor. Every once and a while someone will ENFJ me. It’s disorienting at first, but great!

[@atmodlee]

He forgot INFPs. For some reason ENFJs won’t leave us alone.

[@MyoMer-i5e]

I have a little infp sister, I converse with her when I get bored, but I don't really like her as much as she thinks 💁🏻‍♀️

[@thegem597]

As an infp i like istp

[@mens_veritatis]

As a protagonist, this video is making me so happy, and more than that, it’s so accurate! Thanks. I especially love the part „living life like it’s a story“ Man this is just me, really beautiful to see that there are more like me, and furthermore people recognizing this! Keep up the work!

[@josieturtle4362]

Thank you Nathan! When it comes to videos, ENFJs live in the shadows of the INFJ 😂 And you're right, I love it when my gut feeling was right. I have to believe in it more 😂

[@scudgie1]

Thanks so much for more ENFJ content! Very solid stuff, although I do wonder about us being at the top end of extroversion. I am constantly modulating my energy to the need of the moment. Is it even possible for an ENFJ to come out swinging, metaphorically speaking, with extroversion before they read the room? Maybe it's because I battled shyness for so long. Or because I feel so terrible when I've missed a cue and ended up not meeting a need I "should" have seen. I have caught myself in Fe burnout, though, and had to shift into better self-care. So much stimulation... I enjoy partnering my Fe with Ni. I'm sure it's why I'm a bit obsessed with subtext. Drawing out meaning or figuring out the best way to articulate meaning. For the good of humanity, of course. I actually get a little triggered by the thought that my type could use their gifts for evil, although that must exist. The thought of hurting people is a nightmare to me. So yeah, I hate that good social skills get called manipulation.

[@dijariza8304]

I saw a ranking on extraversion the other day and was surprised that ENFJ was placed at the top 😂 But when I think about it, it makes sense in the way of how much ENFJs love people and humanity. ENFJs get energy from being around people and thrive being around people. The stereotypes of extrovert is being loud and outspoken. But ENFJ has introverted intuition and would attune themselves when communicating due to how highly perceptive they are of people, so an ENFJ probably wouldn't come across fitting the usual extrovert stereotypes. What do you think?

[@trinaq]

Despite being an INFJ, I relate to the same elements as my "cousin" the ENFJ. In particular, I tend to approach my life as though it's a story that I'll share to my loved ones someday.

[@Trollout57]

I see you everywhere, Trina Q.

[@mushymystic]

I have always been surprised people open up to me the way they do ... And never _claim_ to tire of my presence, engaging them... I would get pissed off by myself if I had work to do!

[@MaoyunXiaohuoziniao]

You just “manipulated “ ENFJS to like you video in the end by delivering last thing ENFJs love. Can’t resist....😂😂😂

[@lovewho]

One must try all manner of tricks to lure people into subscription... ~ Nathan

[@rolahararah2692]

One of the best channels that make me appreciate having an enfj mentality

[@Maria_Svetlana_5923]

I love conversations as long as they are meaningful . My goodness orginization has such a good result!

[@rachby1603]

Good job Nathan! You nailed it for ENFJS. 👏

[@keratonraghununan595]

Finally ENFJ content!!!

[@gmz904]

About conversation, I see conversation as a way of exalting all of the participants. It has rules that can be pointed down to a science and I actually feel so excited when I come across with complex rationalizations of what I understand instinctively. From my point of view, overanalyzing the implicit premises makes sense only if what we are playing isn't a zero-sum game and we are actually collaborating in creating this flow where either we all win or lose together. If you can build this frame of conversation it is easy to put people in the best condition for awarding you their respect, and with that comes everything and trust me, most people don't realize how much they want and need just to let their hearts out. Because all of this come from an implicit knowledge of the social world I can see how Enfj are easily used for the manipulator/mentor tropes. I actually think that making all these processes explicit can be really useful to catch yourself and decide how you wanna use your talents

[@vicklou]

Indeed. Life is a great adventure to me, about connections - to people, places, purpose, self. Intuition is to that. I believe in equality, treating everyone the same, regardless of where they come from, literally & metaphorically.

[@louisthewolf0816]

ENFJ is so rare, that the top comments are those with long text (Yes, almost all ENFJ, me as an example likes to write/talk a lot) 😂

[@kiwiplum-iv8hp]

As an ENFJ i always try to get people to talk about themselfs but when they don't then i end up speaking about my passion and how i want to impact people Then it ends up coming off as Condecending and egotistical 😞

[@NatzTalk]

This💛 don't really crave attention. My goal is to make ppl happy and feel comfortable and mainly at my expense ( making them laugh at me or putting myself last), not trying to get attention in the way ppl have said as a LEO or an ENFJ ( as I am both). Most times I'm just trying to sneak through life and ppl gravitate towards me. Sometimes its annoying because I want alone time, invisibility if you will.

[@amritagill1680]

This was really interesting and really spoke to me as an ENFJ. Reminds me I need to capitalize on my strengths and stop hiding ❤

[@AzuraPrime]

The only types who have ever ENFJd me are ENTP and ENFP. I have infp, esfj and infj friends and entp/Enfp are the only ones who are able to call me out on my self neglectful Bs and help me without batting an eye…even if I may not want it in that moment . Feels like a warm hospital blanket .

[@hazablast3069]

My goodness the universe really has its own way. Took the MBT for the first time a few minutes ago and got ENFJ and here i find a video uploaded from a few hours ago! Subscribed 🤝🏽

[@leonardostults8043]

I particularly enjoyed and related to the part about conversation. I see myself as quite serious sometimes (I think it might be also because I'm an 8w7), but really I just want to delve into topics that have intense meaning especially about people. My brain simple isn't stimulated when talking about more "surface" level things, which sometimes actually includes my general likes and dislikes. Also, I find it interesting that other enfj's relate to this whole living life like a story thing. I thought I was crazy for a long time 😅😅 I wouldn't say I actively think about myself as the main character, but maybe subconsciously I do, I don't know. Whenever I'm going to make a decision that might turn out awkward or embarrassing, I kind of just think "what if this turns out great and it happens like a fantasy story". I truly believe that sometimes stories do come true in the sense that anything is possible. -enfj ❤❤

[@nishatzaha5145]

Agree with you.😊

[@zoemiecassette6230]

Very happy to watch this video about ENFJ. Very clear explanation and all true according to my observations :)

[@nikitimmermans]

Great work! As an ENJ I love your channel tbh. :) I would be so interesting to see a 12 rules for life video. 🙏

[@SteppingStonevlogs]

In regards to story telling, for the past 14 years I have journalled my life. It's the outlet for that part of my personality, freeing myself to be a side character within the community and enjoying both my own company and of friends.

[@xAngelx222]

Love your content! So true. Especially living life like it’s a story (for me). 😭

[@ronnieterrell7798]

FORD - Family, Occupation, Relationship, Dreams.... Best quick method for conversation talking points and build up to talking about others Dreams

[@gregoryliaros2626]

I am a enfj and this hit me so hard how true this is. Amazing video

[@rhubarb155]

As an ENFJ this is insanely relatable!

[@srushtsyamand2713]

Thank u ❤I needed this . Enfj

[@lovewho]

Hope you enjoyed the video! ~ Nathan

[@ellier2018]

Random thought but I think that ENFJs seem to get along better with the INFPs and INFJs than they do ENFPS. Same with INFJs getting along well with the ENFPs and ENFJs more so than their fellow introvert. ENTPs seem to get along well with INTPs and INTJs but always seem to clash with ENTJ (probably cause they have no functions in common AND a different order.) this seems to be a pattern. Any thoughts?

[@YellaSpiceFamily]

I've not found this to be true, personally. My INFP sister and I clash - often - because of our inverted 1st and 3rd functions. This is not to say we fight outright - we can, but I rarely find it useful so therefore it's usually avoided - but we definitely have a great deal of trouble understanding one another. - ENFJ

[@Tontoquienloleation]

I love ENFJs 🥰 Fe dom personality types make me feel loved.

[@moonsharn]

When everyone is getting along, everyone agrees on the same morals and ideals, when personal growth is everyone’s goal and when there is peace and harmony on earth. Those are my favourite days. 😅

[@nickymars9063]

Yes!

[@centsiblecooking]

I think you understand me better than I understand myself. Thank you.

[@HisBelovedQueen]

Would love a video like this for ESFJ!

[@kh5alil91]

Thanks for the upload ❤

[@Duck-wc9de]

My God... I was like "I migth be mistyped..." but I find this so relatable. Some of these things I had already realized about myself, even before learning about MBTI, I just thougth everybody did the same

[@EmyN]

Yesssss another ENFJ video! I was hoping for that

[@terrimitchell6895]

I'd love to see some videos about when ENFJ's get stuck. I recently moved to Seattle where I think there's a lot of introverted people. I've never quite felt this unsure of how to interact

[@terrimitchell6895]

Wow. You nailed it

[@tutsebhatu6495]

living life like a story so true

[@fox9starshow]

thanks for advising.

[@babiimak3r]

Love this!!

[@cosmiclounge]

To steelman the philosophy espoused by your friend, one could do worse than invoke Keats' "negative capability" (with kind permission from Wikipedia):- "We hate poetry that has a palpable design upon us-and if we do not agree, seems to put its hand in its breeches pocket. Poetry should be great & unobtrusive, a thing which enters into one's soul, and does not startle it or amaze it with itself but with its subject."

[@emperorlelouch5696]

ENFJs are secretly the goats😫👌🏽

[@poojamoroliya]

Watching this to confirm 100000th time that I am an infj not enfj

[@artemissrijan473]

Heyyyy you're the mbti youtuber right?

[@poojamoroliya]

@@artemissrijan473 yes 😄

[@saudbassier9689]

Facts, nothing more I can say

[@UnderTheEndlessRain]

My enfj brother is gonna looooove this

[@christineherrmann205]

Aw. "Conversational algorithm." You seducer, you. Of course, not untrue. 🤣 EDIT: *gets to the end* "Technically I gave to you first"?? Wow. LMFAO

[@AmbassadorBreadloaf]

My partner is very possibly an ENFJ and he's such a yes-man and agrees to help people whenever he's asked and gets stressed out as a result. I tell him to just say no- I've offered to say no for him! He never lets me though. He also has a profound understanding of exactly what to say and what not to say when socializing. My poor 8th slot Fe will never be able to grasp these social games lol

[@YotaQuebill]

i sense bpd in his actions, i hope hes okay, - enfj

[@AmbassadorBreadloaf]

@@YotaQuebill I strongly doubt it, and I have my own suspicions, but I'm not pretentious enough to try and armchair diagnose someone.

[@YotaQuebill]

@@AmbassadorBreadloaf allright, just saying

[@fredamariebrown4727]

Yep! Thanks!

[@maiki5962]

I'm an ENFJ, and I approve this video.

[@XxBrittany20xX]

All true. ENFJ-T here. XD My gut feeling is rarely wrong and i trust it alot.

[@cerseilannister1505]

Great video, as always! My ENFJ gut/intuition tells me there will be a few comments from INFJs saying something along the lines of "As an INFJ...," "although I'm an INFJ..." or "despite being an INFJ..." Why can't INFJs ever comment on another personality type without having to make it about themselves? It's enjoyable to comment on ISFJ videos about their selflessness or INFP videos about how awesome they are as people...or even complimenting ENTP for their effortless debating skills. Try it sometime, INFJ narcissists.

[@lalim499]

Some people are mistyped so I’m certain there’s some INFPs there lol

[@scudgie1]

I hear ya, but I don't think it's ego. I just think INFJ's are so analytical, they like to be very specific, especially with information they can personally relate to. My best friend is an INFJ and we have a lot in common, it just manifests differently. And I think INFJ's find it exciting to be able to relate to things that personal in someone else.

[@Tontoquienloleation]

As an INTP, I always dod that as well hehehe

[@perzeon]

I'm an INTP and I identify with everything you said except the last one, of course it only appeared after 23 through years focusing on emotional growth. Do you believe that alcohol can change the function stack? Because I do feel full Ti-Ne when sober and Fe-Ni when drunk.

[@lovewho]

Alcohol changes some people a great deal. So yes I do think it makes people act different enough to the point of coming across like entirely different types ~ Nathan

[@thomaspatrickjensen]

I imagine it being everything an ISTP would hate 🤔😂

[@Dani-jo9yr]

ISTP is our subconscious and 🆚😉😁

[@sammijo667]

Where all my fellow ENFJs ✨🙏😁🤔 ?

[@leard69420]

here lol

[@hudaalhadi9536]

The first one lol , I was just thinking of the scenario of me donating kidney to someone who needs , that make us feel fulfilled( I will do it someday if god wills)

[@Andy-hi3yt]

basically the perfect inside man

[@sad_doggo2504]

Do all ENFJ prioritize the same types of relationships or do individuals still tend to gravitate towards different configurations? I can see one ENFJ being hypersocial, while another values mainly deeper relationships, while still another values involvement at the community level. But definitely there is an irresistible pull to connect with others as a defining factor.

[@arlettasloan6453]

Right now, I absolutely love incredibly good looking, intelligent men who say "Absolutely not" whle somehow calmly and gently striking the side of one hand into the palm of another, and then giving a half smile. Is that one of your guesses? Is that one of your habits? lol Okay, I'm done. Whoops! I got confused . I looked up ENFP and it brought me here.

[@blueskies773]

I appreciate being first. ❤😂. Here’s your deserved “like.”

[@jordant993]

im a enfj but im not great at commutation

[@hudaalhadi9536]

Same as anotoinel comment I don't think I am that extraverted , I think I am more careful and less confident, unless of course some one needs help or any humanity work I would do it without caring of anyone thought cuz that's who I am , but yeah unless that or mood change I am an Is introvert in being extravorted Anything else was so accurate, thanks

[@lukethornton2568]

🙏🏼

[@lisztomaniacenid]

me (an INTP) watching because of my ENFJ partner

[@laryssa4506]

ENFJ ❤❤

[@MatikoxPL]

for me its harmful when enfj eat the vibe of other ppl. they should have their own vibe... idk xd

[@johnnymiller9622]

❤ You are correct. The path to growth for us is developing that inner, INFP.

[@trybaby8753]

1. INFP

[@johnknight9150]

Nathan, you were doing so well, until you used the "S word". 4:27 Tisk tisk, Nathan.