How Do ENFJs Compare To ENFPs? | ENFJ vs ENFP | CS Joseph

How do ENFJs compare to ENFPS? CS Joseph discusses ENFJ vs ENFP.
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[@JoyceGlass]

You mad this ENFJ’s day. I don’t always feel the most intelligent, but when I am in my zone with my clients they are inspired by the ideas I bring to them.

[@Thetemptressvsstoicyou]

Your analysis on ENFJs is legit, I can't even. I could relate to everything you said about enfjs, and was like "woahh, how do you know enfjs so well?" I'm always thinking about ways to make everyone around me happier and I've a memory of a goldfish lol. Your videos are super entertaining and informative. Also, I love the spontaneity and weirdness of ENFPs. I've got a few enfp friends and they're super fun to be around. So glad that they have the second highest compatibility with ENFJs yay

[@krista2692]

This was wonderful! Thank you for this. I'm ENFP married to ENFJ and I have to say - without ENFJ I would probably still be jumping around with zero logic. During our years together it has been great to notice how we both help each others to grow. He has taught me logical thinking (which I'm still lacking, but well - at least I have my master living with me. Plus reading fact based books is must) and question my perspective of things. Plus he calls me out when I'm just selfish, although hearing that hurts - it's true and I was blind about it for a long time. On the other hand I've made him think twice in some circumstances that his value system isn't always the only truth and understand better other people when they do not act as his value/moral system think is right. And oh how I smiled when you spoke about the demons... it ain't pretty when ENFJ and ENFP fight, if their demons are talking! ENFJ tries to control and ENFP just burn things down with their reality. Have been there and done that - that's no fun and games. As an ENFP I hate being controlled and ENFJ hates my lack of logical/technical thinking. But well, when our demons leave the building we have good, constructive and insightful conversations which help us both to grow. Thanks once again for legit and truthful video! It's direct in very good way, although as an ENFP I'm still learning to take in constructive criticism :)

[@willejones1918]

I love both types. ENFJ women are amazing.

[@donaczella]

Yes we are lol 😂☺️🤪

[@TheLuckySmith]

I have a love/hate relationship with criticism. ENFP's.... we need to listen to good criticism. It is like nails on a chalkboard to us, but I've seen the difference it can make! Excellent video!

[@zajaiva5]

As an ENFP, no wonder... I have always felt so stupid without external stimuli from other intelligent people or knowledge sources. But reading(or watching videos in my case) or hanging out around smart folk, I absorb everything so fast and I end up putting myown twist on the things that I have learnd. For that reason I have always felt so stupid but smart all at the same time. It all makes sense now hearing this.

[@COTUNIVERSE]

I’m an ENFP and you’re absolutely right lol. Honesty and self discipline and being able to take criticism opens up a magical portal 🥰

[@debbiebjork7626]

(ENFP here). This. Is. Gold. Very insightful, as always. Appreciate your directness, as soft-pedaling is really annoying. Please don't water down the facts for the sake of a few oversensitive folks. Great anecdotal illustrations - very helpful (and super entertaining!). I find that curiosity (and boredom, to be honest) tend, in general, to win out over the desire to be comfortable, which by default then leads to new experiences and therefore growth. Wonder if that is typical of ENFPs? I think Ne people may have a particular need to have trustworthy sources/people to point out our blind spots. I also think the ENFP can do the relationship "door slam" pretty similar to the NJs... And of course my bibliophile heart is singing - again! Rarely read fiction, however. Hm.

[@dusterduster4]

A bad day of camping is better then a good day at work. (Wish "I" had made that up.)

[@CSJoseph]

Thank you so much for this comment. I am thankful you are a member of my audience.

[@debbiebjork7626]

Delighted to be in the audience :-)

[@guythedude6293]

Did an ENFP like, kill your dog or steal your car or something? You ok, man?

[@ashuranero5721]

One ENFP was trying to sell him out i n a way or something. I am not sure how

[@looovee1000]

Did u actually listen to this lecture

[@finbarwoitalla7248]

I am an ENFP and my sister is an ENFJ. Your lecture gave me goosebumps. Painfully, embarrassingly accurate, but it definitely inspired me.

[@bethanyedwards579]

16:46 “even at the risk of failure!” ...i was not expecting to be called out there 😂

[@Itsbiggerthanhiphop]

I am an ENFP, I don’t disagree or dislike what you’re saying about us at all I think it’s useful. I never thought of myself as purposely manipulative but now I’m starting to see I am accidentally manipulative !

[@CSJoseph]

it is how people see you on the outside

[@SykeeNot]

Not accidental whatsoever.It’s still purposeful whether your aware of it or not.Gday mate (with a British accent😹)

[@catycika4856]

@@SykeeNot bri ish accent

[@karimahawod7685]

I'm ENFJ, my friend is ENFP, we teach kids together at school, my problem is overthinking, too self-critical and too perfectionist, those problem make me slow in act😢 my enfp friend always help me to focus with time management😊 sometimes I ask my self "is she really enfp? am I really enfj??" she told me that she did mbti test more than once, and her type is always ENFP

[@barraquemonfils-evangelist2098]

Your level of insight and knowledge is uncanny ... I am an ENFJ, I have an ENFP friend... when we first met we dated, now we are just friends, we mostly agree on things but we always argue about small things that usually have to do with his actions amd me trying to get him to be a better person and believe that he is and can be a better person... this video wrapped up everything. I feel like i understand him better and how to help him better with a little less conflict involved. Thank you.

[@DaddysBathTime]

This was an awesome video dude, you really know your stuff. I'm an ENFP and you were spot on about everything. I've been dating an ENFJ and its been blowing my mind how much she inspires me to be a better person.

[@triplehelix247]

Learning more about typing has seriously put me on a path of perpetual growth and building relationships. Thank you many months later.

[@aaronalvarez9954]

As an ENFP ty so much for all the advice man. I’m consuming all your content to level up as person. Keep it up!

[@agnesepippolini6136]

I'm an ENFP (from Italy) that's actually stuck in the comfort zone and till not long ago I couldn't understand what was wrong with me or where that inability to life came from. I totally adore you and i want to thank you cause you're helping me to get to the bottom of it, understand myself better and willing to improve. PS: you're also weirdly superfunny

[@catycika4856]

Im ENFP girl liveing italy.

[@Girlo98]

I really loved your delivery of this lecture. It was so interesting to watch! Thank you so much :)

[@CSJoseph]

You are most welcome

[@_madi_davis]

I so happy I found this video. As an enfj this is so helpful for me to understand myself better!!

[@linaabboud8653]

No one: Chase: "I'm in a relationship with an ENFJ :D"

[@path-finder1]

HA! Joseph... Very entertaining in your approach! I'm new to your channel... and recently discovered I am an ENFJ and thought I was an ENFP and this information has helped me straighten things out even more. I especially agreed wholeheartedly on your insight of what if we all practiced the "golden rule" with others... That being said; being understood and heard has always meant much to me and never knew why... Thinking it was a "flaw" I tried to correct it, which only made me frustrated when I couldn't. Now I see its the way I'm wired and can use this information to temper myself that I may not always be heard, or understood and it's ok... Bc it's NOT on me... It's on the one who can't or won't take the time to listen, glean and learn... Learn a little bit about who I am and how what I'm offering, may benefit them. I got a lot out of your lecture and I HEARD you... THANK YOU. ps. Ethics here: Go and do the right thing and marry that lovely ENFJ!!

[@linnaeusa]

I love that you both praise and scold all types. It makes your videos more educational and more funnier. -Fellow INTJ

[@TuMuchTa1ent1]

I love hearing about ENFP's from him does such a good job pulls no punches exactly what we need to hear

[@chlooeydeschanel5159]

thank you for enlightening this enfp im so glad i found this channel i now know how i can truly improve myself

[@souljacem]

Hey ENTP, thank you so much for your ENFJ appreciation. That really makes me happy

[@Dani-jo9yr]

Awesome Joseph, wish you can do this with every type v every type, great job 👍

[@tekit97]

ENFP here. Dude I thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you are doing. You being a starter that can extend its project in time for good reasons inspires me a lot and of course the information you bless us with is lifechanging if well used. Im 22 and I consider myself a mature enfp, completely driven by love and charity. I see clearly that I can change minds around me and help others in a daily basis and its been months since Ive been wanting to make it BIG. So thank you again, you just made me so much confident towards this project. Im gonna try and change the world man!!! Wish me luck ;D Un saludo desde España!

[@CSJoseph]

muchas gracias senor.

[@girlblogger3524]

Yes! I totally see the value of ENFPs . they're awesome but also insecure in an adorable way... will you do videos on type differences between the sexes? it would be cool to see type interviews!

[@CSJoseph]

All of that is already on the schedule

[@_madi_davis]

Ah just got through the end. When talki about how it’s hard for enfj to get to the end of a thought, my mind was blown. In the videos I make or even in auditions, when answering questions or articulating a flight, I really struggle with reaching the end of it. I hate feeling written off for being vapid but I love having my thoughts be validated by others🌟 this was honestly so helpful to me as an introduction to the fi, se, ti elements I’ve yet to explore more

[@alexd1]

‘It basically means you’re UNSTOPPABLE’ 😅

[@MeghanLeVota]

hmm. how do you calculate your compatibility?? I am just now discovering your channel after some of my commentators have recommended you to me. It seems like we have similar goals and values and I'd love to connect at some point and see how/if we could help each other. I'm also curious how you mix together socionics with mbti, as I have yet to be able to lay it out the way you have. The system you use though seems very aligned with how I see the types use the functions, as I like to look at all 8. "It's because I know type and I understand her" - this. !!!! This is why I love type. Doing this helps me to meet people where they are at. Who the fuck cares if an ENTP or ENFJ are "compatible" because when you know type you understand people and can connect with them.

[@CSJoseph]

Very well said. Toss me an email at [e-mail] some time.

[@miamihurricane555]

@@CSJoseph What is the ENFJ vice?

[@bandchoir03]

@@miamihurricane555 Cruelty

[@miamihurricane555]

@@bandchoir03 well that makes sense

[@bethlanglois9361]

All the feels at the end 💕🙏🤗🕊

[@Jay-yg9mg]

*Finishes video +5 Skin thickness XD Thanks again for all of these videos! I especially appreciated having you compare two types at once. Not only does it allow me to know how one type is by also understanding how another type is not, but sometimes the same information gets repeated in varied ways. It's been a dream of mine to be able to type people for multiple reasons and you're bringing me much closer to that reality. Thanks Chase! P.S. I'm counting on all your 500+ videos!

[@CSJoseph]

You are most welcome sir.

[@pedrodias5166]

As an ENFP, I get your point of selfishness, but be aware that this is not always the truth, instead it is how it is percieved, we definetly need to learn to be more demonstrative. Still I prefer people to be auto sufficient, and that is definetly what I expect of myself, I definetly think the improvement on the world would be better if people would be more self aware, self sufficient, and reflect and try to improve upon their values, instead of simply doing demonstrative acts, bringing harmony, and being "helpful". Personally I really haven't had good experiences with dominant FE types, it's all nice and good to try to help the outside world, but sometimes if they're not mature enough they'll keep harmony at whatever cost, independent of their beliefs or others. they'll take things under the rug, they'll avoid conflict, it should be about conflict resolution, not avoidance. So in some cases, is it not more selfish, to not take responsability, to shrug away others problems, and just try to keep "people happy", instead of just trying to own it and reflect on it? A mutual sense of responsability for each part? And well, I am obviously generalizing based on my experience, just as you do. Selfishness is quite subjective in a way too, if one focuses on improving oneself, instead of bringing harmony to the immediate present, isn't that kind of selfless? To take the duty of actually doing inner work instead of looking for ways to make things tolerable and pleasing? Personally I prefer people who seem to have profound values and ethical concerns, who have depth and emotional intelligence. I like if they don't necessarily are demonstrative or focus on me, is it not more selfish to expect people to be more demonstrative towards me? Anyway, the point is that a FE should work on a more firm moral compass, and the FI should work on being more aware of others emotions and be more affective and demonstrative. I guess that's the point of mbti afterall haha. I just find difficulty in prefering FE over FI, for myself.

[@adnilgreen1727]

hahahaha enfp here, I say "I told you so" all the time

[@dusterduster4]

Your comment about ENFP's being unable to "Think deeply" is going to require some "Deep thought." Hence, my dilemma. More later to be sure.

[@CSJoseph]

They can from a rational belief standpoint but not a logical standpoint.

[@dusterduster4]

This is actually very interesting. I had to look up the words "Logos, Ethos, and Pathos" These turned out to be words and concepts I should have already known. Major Cool and funny how some things in life slip by you! This is going to help my writing too. I can see now ( And I hope I get this right) that using my "T" feels forced and like a learned skill (only used when I have to) compared to using my "F" which feels natural and easy. ( FYI: Since my early teens, I have done a lot writing computer code, electronics, and math which may have strengthened my "T") I think I was also getting hung up on the use of the word "deep thinking" only being applied to Logos. In other words, just because I may only / mostly use Ethos in giving a problem a lot of thought, does not mean we are not putting some serious effort into it. Hence, "my" definition of "Deep thought". I living in a world where there is only two truths, God and math, (and the math is a little iffy) I believe ethos to as powerful a tool, if not more so, then logos in out day to day lives. Just think off the top of my head and being defensive. ) Thanks C.S. This really gives me a better understanding of who I am and how I function. Way cool.

[@PlumGarden14]

As an ENFP - my INTJ and infj friends have been invaluable at calling me out in my BS. 💯 on the selfishness thing. I lament it often and have found it helps a lot to read books on subjects that are far outside my interest or comfort levels

[@ioanageorgia5799]

I like what you teach us. You don't criticise me personally.

[@godmode3611]

Usually those who dont know between J and P are P that dont want to decide on being P, because as Ps they want to decide last and have their options open.

[@HebelDan]

I'm in a band with two ENFJs, I'm an ENFP, and I write the songs. It's an amazing dynamic with harsh realities, like me having problems with their values. I have met their demon plenty & they have met mine once. Didn't stop us from making each other, and the songs, better.

[@oceanablau]

New here long way to go :) really great content!

[@tiberiusmononoke6824]

Well done getting the channel to a monetizable level.

[@CSJoseph]

Wait, at what point does it become monetizable?

[@tiberiusmononoke6824]

I just heard that they made it so you could only monetize your videos if you had over 3k subs, I could be wrong, but it's something like that. That's all I know.

[@meinnameistlol5081]

(here enfp) hey really great video. I dont find your style annoying, actually great and funny. thanks for that great and insightful video :)

[@dusterduster4]

OMG. Where to start? I am a 59 year old male ENFP. Having recently meet an 36 year old male ENFJ looking for work, I found your ENFJ video to be extremely helpful when I decided to try him out as a helper for a few days. We clicked / fitted nicely so this video caught my eye. To the point. Being relatively new to MBTI, I did struggle to keep up with you on this video. But ...and here it comes... At the 25 min mark you clearly made the statement the a ENFP is incapable of "deep thought". "Hold the phone and rewind. What the hell did he just say?" Never underestimate a ENFP when they go OCD on a topic. We will become very passionate and analyze it to the extreme until we become bored and move onto the next OCD. Even if it requires up to stop, think, and figure it out. Remember, our biggest enemy is boredom. So sometimes we get " In the Zone" and think. With some discipline and a strong will, we can keep random thoughts from distracting us long enough to use Logical thoughts to add 2+2=4. We can then add to this outcome rational thought (gut feeling assumptions) to come up with reasonable probabilities. From there we might connect some dots to see a bigger picture then most or just throw in a few random ideals to create a new out of the box solution. Whew. Fun times to be sure. Now, I will give you that we can forget how to focus and "Think". I will also accept that I may have just trained myself to be able to think deeply. Not always easy. Sometimes it feels like the planets need to be in alignment. I just had to get this off my chest. An ENFP can do it and do it well. Fascinating video BTW. Thanks bunches. Good job. It helps a lot.

[@CSJoseph]

Yes they can from a rational standpoint, but then again rationale is not technically thought, rationale is actually beliefs, or thinking in terms of belief systems whereas actual thought is logos and logos escapes the ENFP. Its literally thinking in terms of ethos vs. logos etc. I hope this makes sense.

[@liliaelle317]

Very entertaining video !! Love the way you express yourself, you catch attention all along_ ENFP

[@hfortenberry]

Regarding the NFPs struggle with selfishness, it really depends on the individual. I've been married or in long-term relationships with INFPs and one was NOT selfish at all and was in fact incredibly empathetic and giving and considerate of others and the other was pretty damn self-absorbed and selfish. Both mean well but my ex-wife actually performs a lot better in her relationships because she is so in tune with the feelings of others. Same with ENFPs. I work with a younger, more selfish ENFP and then my best friend is definitely not at all selfish.

[@MtBoMbEr3]

okay so I definitely identify with ENFP at this point. it really is like night and day. I believe my brother to be an ENFJ so this dynamic was really interesting to see described with one another, it definitely makes a lot of sense and we often have conversations about starting our own business and living out our best lives. I'm definitely more introverted in the sense of being reluctant to experience new things but once I warm up to them I enjoy them quite a bit, he constantly surrounds me with his groups of friends that he acquires and I feel bad for never have given them a chance to be a great addition to my life. I am so extremely lazy sometimes but I appreciate the little subtle pushes people around me do to get me out of my comfort zone. I have a complete lack of will power into what I direct my energy into sometimes it can be really discouraging. I also had a real hard time thinking about the "creed" thing but I do have one actually, I do have this motto in life sitting in the back of my head that I want to prove myself to be worthy of influencing on other people. This video was awesome as always joseph! much love man, this channel deserves so much more recognition than it gets, keep going.

[@CSJoseph]

thank you for the support and your kind words, please help get the word out.

[@peterluisvenero]

You’re awesome

[@nguoinhat3621]

First of all, i want to thank you for these absolutely informative lectures. They really helped me know myself and the people around me. I watch your videos everyday all the way in Vietnam. Secondly, you have inspired me so much and i am now eager to dig deeper into this awesome psychological subject. Which books and documents would you recommend for beginners? I still have problems linking the cognitive functions to different positions in the axis and figure out how they influence the people from that order. You would make an INTJ's day if i received a response from you. Thanks, Chase Hope your channel will flourish even more in the near future.

[@CSJoseph]

Thank you for your kind words. I recommmed reading Dr. Linda Berens, Dr. John Beebe, Dr. Robert Glover, Robert Greene, and Douglas Gillette/Robert Moore

[@nguoinhat3621]

Thank you, sir

[@ioanageorgia5799]

ENFP here. Thanks for your lessons .

[@timsmusicstuff]

Terrific work as always. If reading non-fiction books is a high leverage activity for ENFPs, is it for INFPs as well? Or is that not as beneficial because an INFP can be comfortable sitting still and reading, not interacting with the world. What would you say is a high leverage activity for INFPs? Thanks for your replies as always!

[@CSJoseph]

Both NFPs heavily benefit form reading in the same way. The difference is just how they use their knowledge.

[@marahaquala1686]

I'm about 80% sure I'm an ENFJ. I'm equally sure my husband is an ISFJ. Could you do a comparison of those 2 types?

[@xandirkuro4790]

Did you notice that each type has a way and temperament they do not use?(wanted to note this earlier, but decided to confirm) Also thanks for the chapter!

[@xandirkuro4790]

*video!

[@KenTheAdventurer]

I know that you like animated shows like Gundam so I'm curious to know would you say Luffy from One Piece is a textbook example for an ENFP? (Perhaps a simple version at least)

[@Xenomorph788]

I’m a teacher and my best friend and colleague is an ENFJ, whereas I’m an ENTP. We are amazing together; she kicks my butt to get our amazing ideas in the classroom working and we move mountains! I’m kinda borderline ENFP and have received both results but prefer systems analysis and technical discussions compared to social change. She is amazing for bringing out my ENFP ‘secondary’ personality 😂

[@CSJoseph]

not sure how ENFP secondary personality works but hey

[@Xenomorph788]

Hahha as a fellow ENTP, you might agree that we are ~complex~ 😂

[@authorlacey]

I've gotten ENFJ years ago, then recently have gotten ENFP. I relate to both of these for different reasons, but weaknesses on both? It's so weird and confusing.

[@hnybrr]

How do I develop self-discipline on my own as an ENFJ?

[@nutbrown607]

What books do you recommend an ENFP read? Also would audio books work just as well? Great lecture. Thanks 👍

[@CSJoseph]

www.csjoseph.life/reading

[@chandradonnell6735]

I really enjoyed this. However I still feel like I’m both of them. Some moments I’m like... “ok what you just said described me perfectly” but then I’ll think that same sentence again for the opposite type. Same with critiques... any advice?

[@CSJoseph]

Use the type grid

[@sandradibiaso7316]

ENFJs throw classy parties and ESTPs throw chaotic parties. You have the best parents. An ENFJ dad and ISFJ mom. You and your dad look at a bird in a painting the same cool way. My dad is an ESTJ and my mom is an ESTP. I know an ENFP who hates to read and organize but she loves to learn about people and she has to put herself in other people's shoes to feel that person's pain. ENFJs don't have to put themselves in other people's shoes to pain their pain. I care more about the morality of a person than their thoughts about things but I do care about their thoughts as well. I ask questions. I think a lot and feel a lot. External feeling with ENFJ. ENFJs and ENFPs hate being manipulated. I know of an ENFJ on KZbin who says not all ENFJs are the same but we all need to be listened to and do not want to exclude anyone.

[@ernestogamez9300]

I will record you whenever I see you to study metaphysical maneuvers😁

[@CSJoseph]

Good times

[@CSJoseph]

Definitely going to be talking about this when I reference pythagorous

[@paul2609]

Sorry if I am asking too early but does the ranking between social and romantic compatibility for each type change? For instance, ENFP+INFJ is 1st and ENFP+ENFJ is 2nd in social compatibility, etc... will that change for romantic compatibility or stay the same?

[@CSJoseph]

it will stay the same. There are three kinds of compatibility algorithms I have, but each algorithm has those as the top two at all times.

[@itsbygrayce1]

Episode number doesn't matter. It's all about content.

[@itsbygrayce1]

Funny you said ENFP is "floaty" bc someone just told me I am floaty.

[@itsbygrayce1]

All I ever read is non-fiction. I hope it is ok for me to pause and comment throughout your dialog. It's ALMOST like a two way convo.

[@CSJoseph]

Have at it. I am just thankful you are here.

[@itsbygrayce1]

What if...yes. I can often see people's future. But I never tell people "I told you so." I love new experiences. I strive in that. I rarely, if ever avoid new experiences. hahahaha...thought vampires...oh. Ok...keep going. Point me to all those intelligentsia. I'll soak it in. I don't understand the INFJ unconscious...the concept is not clear to me. I also don't get the ISTJ and the ESTP in the ENFP personality. I want to understand the correlation. Maybe you already have a video explaining? To be honest, I have sensed a bit of ENFP bashing...maybe that's a harsh word...more like mocking. But, here I am. I didn't tune you out. I licked my wounds and came back...so there! hahaha More tolerant than you suppose. I am listening. "Scarecrow getting a diploma from the Wiz?" Have mercy, brother...sheesh. lol So when I am deep thinking I am really only imagining I a thinking...um...idk 'bout that. I just don't know, CS. So as an ENFP do you think I must be a shallow thinker. I always want to go below the surface. Actually I feel that I see beyond the surface. So perhaps I, just by nature, do that without actually having to think about it. Okay...so yes, rational thought as opposed to logical thought. Alright..I don't lean on logic, but rather my beliefs and feelings. I've NEVER punched anyone in the face. lol Not even figuratively. Vindictiveness isn't in my nature. Haha..ok. So I've never been pushed that hard. Ok, ok. lol Continue.... Shyster??? Oh CS..fine print? Ohhhh woe is me. I don't think I have met my depravity. Honestly. And I don't want to. But go on. I'm listening. OK...you are intelligent. Great job and you are awesome.

[@itsbygrayce1]

Thanks, C.S.! For the most part, I actually like your delivery, though it may bug me a bit. You're sarcasm makes me laugh.

[@melissajeannek]

I'm so glad I found your channel. I would test as enfp but would read the description and only identify with 20 percent of it at best. I have now concluded I am esfj. Is there a reason I would have been testing as enfp? It's definitely not my type.

[@CSJoseph]

ENFP is the same interaction style and has half the functions as an ESFJ.

[@Areios1019]

This question might be a bit loaded, but I had a friend take the MBTI test and he tested ENFP, but with a preference indicating that he leaned toward the perceiving end (by only 3%) more than the J. I’m fairly new to these concepts but l’m researching and understanding the actual cognitive function stack more.. I’m wondering though what that very slight indicator could mean, whether he was possibly not answering completely honestly or he’s stuck in some of his shadow functions?

[@CSJoseph]

watch season 2 and season 15

[@DawnMysteries]

Give me my day in court, I will win no matter what!

[@Leneah99]

I am wondering if the closer you are to someone, the harder it is to type them. I started watching these lectures to determine my husband's type. We have known each other 14 years, and have seen many different sides of each other, and have reached a point where we communicate much better, as we have grown and matured. I would love to optimize my relationships, starting with my husband, who I always thought was enfp. He doesn't believe in typology, but had to take a test to apply for a job, and received an enfj result. I believe he answered the questions to manipulate the results, in order to look more organized, which he probably felt was more desired by the position requirements. Which, of course, is why personality tests have such a questionable outcome. I've watched how to type someone, am in the process of watching both enfp and enfj videos to figure it out. The thing is, I've seen both types in my husband: the istj bookworm and the istp mechanic. He does like to be seen as knowledgable, but also mechanically capable. It seems the two personalities are very different, but I watch enfp videos and relate them to him, then watch the enfj videos and relate them to him, and I'm stuck in the typical infj analysis paralysis-I am at an impasse. If it helps, he would hate to know that I'm analyzing and trying to type him, which he views as incorrect and a waste of time, and that I should know him, even though he chooses which information he shares and withholds, and is not the open book he thinks he is. Could this come from enfj control or enfp Te? Or something completely different?

[@CSJoseph]

have you looked at the type grid and temperament matrix?

[@Leneah99]

Thank you for taking the time to reply :) Yes, I've drawn it out into a notebook to look at in depth, breaking it down into the cognitive functions for each type. I get the feeling I'm missing something, and that after drawing lines to connect the dots like a crazy person, one day it will come to me at the most random time.

[@hfortenberry]

"Shout out to Bellingham" 😂

[@sarahmcintyre6150]

Brilliant! ENFP Selfish ✅ Charitable ✅ Choose to be charitable Watch rubbish ✅ Read non fiction ✅ Choose to Read non fiction Depraved ✅ Principled✅ Choose to be better ENFP’s absorb whatever surrounds them so surround yourself with intelligent people with good morals. Best bit 16:30-17.48 😀. More shouting please and then we ENFP’s might actually 👂 👏🍄🧘‍♀️🤩

[@ashleycnossen3157]

"Floaty" Hahahhahaaha 🤣

[@tjizzle1027]

This man is literally calling me out right now and I love it but I hate it 😅 @16:33

[@bafbaas1210]

Hey I'm an Enfp and there is a weird thing about me that I wonder other people also have. I don't really like eating. Drinking much more and snacking as well but like eating something I don't like or when I'm not hungry almost makes me puke (actually did a few times). When I was like 14-17 (now it's better) I was actually really underweight, bmi of 17'4 or something but not anorexia nervosa. Now it's better I'm 5"8/9" and weigh about 120-125, but it's something that I really don't care about but my family does. Like I don't care if I look skinny and puny, cause my face is okay. Is this low se ? Can I change it? It's so unimportant to me but I think it's why I'm so tired all the time.

[@CSJoseph]

its called being an ectomorph. Look it up.

[@tajmarie1329]

Interesting. . . My older sister is an ENFJ and I know someone in my circle who is a self identified ENFP (She is the one who actually first introduced me to the four interaction styles). For better or worse, I see the Fe and Fi function manifest in different ways. For my older sister, she does seem to have high emotional intelligence, but at the same time can be self conscious while over-extending oneself. For the ENFP that I know, she does based a number of decisions on how she feels about doing something, but will use her Fe function to insure that she is at least ethical or is respectful of boundaries. The social gatherings is very much true. . . the only thing is that they are usually a hit or miss with me ( however, that is neither here or there). The point is that both personalities could not be any more different. P.S: I think I am becoming more arm and dangerous with understanding these cognitive functions. That may or may not be a good thing.

[@CSJoseph]

hehe, oh trust me its always a good thing #evillaugh

[@amphreded]

I think if you’d like to improve as an educator, you might need to address NF’s sensitivity for criticism better. Your audience might miss your point when they have their walls up due to how you deliver.

[@CSJoseph]

Well said, although I have addressed it in many lectures to date. I shall do it more in the future.

[@tomascontreras4949]

Yeah, I thought about that too. Anyways, even if it's true that Chase should be a bit softer (or less edgier) I actually ended up liking it, and now I really appreciate the sincerity and even the harshness. Specially when he talks about ENFPs (my type) it really fires me up in a good way and motivates me to be a better person. It's interesting: first, he starts to critic ENFPs a lot, but the way he talks about how great we can be, and our potential, that's where he nails it.

[@aarondecker7980]

Bro, an ENFP must have really fucked up your life 😂😂

[@CSJoseph]

if you watched more than just ENFP videos, I am sure you would have the same opinion of all of them

[@aarondecker7980]

@@CSJoseph I've seen most of your personality videos. Even the podcast, but it just seems like out of all the types, an ENFP pissed you off the most. However I know you said one saved your life

[@alexandralenzinger8482]

Sheri did u watch this?

[@patricklennox9572]

Thank you. ENFP

[@AiriRoses]

Is an ENFP technically a sensing type because they have Si? Or is that only for the judging functions?

[@CSJoseph]

Sensors Have Si or Se hero or parent.

[@AiriRoses]

@@CSJoseph Perception functions on the top 2 (no matter if it's introverted or extroverted) dictates the perception of the type. Judging, introverted functions on the top 4 dictates how the type judges. So an INTJ is an intuitive feeler and ESFJ is a sensing thinker

[@NoodlesMax]

I just recently got out of a relationship with an ENFJ. Them being stuck in the past is so true and them being blinded by their own conclusions despite facts disables them from making compromises. No matter how me, as an ENTP, try to show different perspectives, he just won't accept even if his conclusion is flawed. It's frustrating.

[@NoodlesMax]

And that ENFJ Ti insecurity, it becomes seeking validation especially when the ENFJ changes the story slightly to make it more favorable to their POV.

[@CSJoseph]

Yes that can be a problem, you end up having to record everything they say and do to prove them wrong.

[@chandrika8919]

I dont think you can guilt enfp. They will go beserk. Guilting them is the topmost mistake.

[@gabrieladiaz1679]

In another video you said Scarecrow was INFJ and 7:24 you said he is ENFP?

[@DallasWales]

It's super wild to hear Tai Lopez is ENFP by C.S. Joesph, but Davesuperpowers calls him an INTJ (NiTe BSPC)

[@CSJoseph]

He is definitely an ENFP.

[@jennwach9252]

This was really interesting!! I wish I could meet you and go on a double date. ENFP/INFJ with an ENTP/ENFJ. I would love to talk human behavior and see the mbti world through your lens, in an interactive way. Have you ever encountered situations where ENFJs have values, but not good always "morals"? I'm not sure if that's the right word... I have met a couple female ENFJs who have strong principles, but are a wee loose sexually.. I'm wondering if my continual encounters is purely coincidental, or if there is any possible frame of thinking that could, under the right environment create this kind of oximoronic behavior.. like maybe the extroverted element? As you and I have discussed in the past sometimes enfps can be very inconsiderate and thoughtless.. and I've been trying to research this trying to see if there is any kind of a connection out of curiosity, trying to understand a particular friend of mine who has this habit but it is a really wonderful person and I don't know why she chooses to make choices with men that are potentially devastating to their wives or girlfriends and potentially devastating to her as well. And this is a behavior that I have seen in a lot of female enfjs. Again it could be just a coincidence I was just wondering if you had any insight. You are correct that we suck at receiving criticism. Keep doing you keep calling us out. The people who want to change will receive it and take it in themselves and adjust accordingly. I would say you have made a big impact on me since I'm new to this world and your criticism has helped me to really take a better look at my falling out there and shortcomings. Sorry for the grammatical errors speech to text.

[@jennwach9252]

Oh, and love the Gundam reference 🤛

[@jennwach9252]

Okay sorry I have got to say very provocative go deeper into a lot of the more complex aspects and not necessarily always the positive elements of people's personalities than other KZbin people do, which is why I seem to not be able to help myself but make a comment. This video was so well executed and the way that you expressed the FP selfishness and depravity made a lot of sense to me. I I am conceiving your point and I am sorry if I was Defensive initially with that first video. And ISTJ was one of the more impactful people I've had in my life and really inspired me to read a book. I've always loved to read but was able to breathe that desire to read and research back into me and bring me back to humility and all of its forms of the fact that I don't know much if anything at all. But I can learn the more I learn the more humble I become. ISTJs are pretty amazing people. when he first met me I'm pretty sure I thought I was insane but I was able to wear him down and after years of working together when he moved away admitted that he would miss our constant arguments and debates back and forth and even my"insanity."

[@CSJoseph]

I love this

[@CSJoseph]

ENFJs suffer from the same mirroring effect that INFJs do but its not as impactful or potentially as bad or as good with ENFJs. This means their values can be corrupted over time if they are surrounded by corrupt people. Also, each type has its own form of hypocrisy so this might be what the oximoronic thing is that you are observing. I hope this answers your question.

[@_VISION.]

What does "not capable of deep thought" actually mean? You lose me when you say those things and then don't give an example that I can go off of to try and see where in my life I do those things.

[@CSJoseph]

Ti trickster cannot finish logical thoughts, does that help?

[@_VISION.]

@@CSJoseph Can you give an example of finishing a logical thought vs not finishing one? How complex does the logic have to be?

[@ztunb]

​@@_VISION. This may or may not be what he's trying to convey but this is my interpretation as another ENFP: ENFP's use a combination of what they believe to be true (perception) along with what they know is true to think rationally. Logic does not allow for perception to influence the conclusion. What is accepted as fact to the ENFP is not necessarily what is fundamentally true if it hasn't been fully verified through logical reasoning. ENFP's have a tendency to mold the truth to fit their beliefs by altering the angle at which the truth is viewed, similarly to fitting a square into a round hole by shrinking its size. It fits, but some people may disagree and see flaws, while nobody would disagree with a perfectly sized circle (logic) fitting into that same hole. While an ENFP may see multiple perspectives and see multiple right answers, logical thought only sees one that is truly correct, and because of this, ENFP's may struggle to determine which of its multiple right answers is the logical answer (?). It's a double-edged sword in that while we can see more perspectives rather than just solely using logic, we may end up choosing the wrong perspective as a result. Rational & logical thinking should be used in tandem, in that the former opens up multiple paths to take while the latter guides through those paths.

[@joshuamcintosh7706]

Rational means if somebody told you 1+1=2 you would know. Logic is it nobody told you what 1+1 meant. You would literally not have the ability to put these 2 together and say it’s 2. I wish I could give a better analogy

[@hihihihi1729]

Dethrone Jeff Bezos 😄

[@mystuff8579]

I'm convinced I'm 3 types at this point. My mother would say all the time if she sent me to a school with gang bangers I'd be the biggest. She said I was a complete chameleon. I always mirrored my environment. Thank God for my ISTJ husband. Because of the mirroring I dont know if I'm enfp, enfj or infj because I dont know what is my true nature vs what is environmental influence.

[@Dannys.channel]

No this is how you destroy the theory thing. Try and learn to play a piano without theory.

[@heliopijpe]

I listened to your whole talk, you did come across very biased (or just had a very opinionated off day), to some up my impressions from your lecture (however with some very good concise insights too): ENFJ's are amazing but self-deprecating and misunderstood and ENFP's are overrated, impulsive, deceitful oh and dumb .. "ENFP's aren't smart but pretend to be smart" another one "Think they are intellectual but ..." seriously?? ... I don't mind you pointing out fallacies in the psychology setup of each type, but that was far from being an objective take imo. Karikature and stereotypes are the words that come to mind.

[@CSJoseph]

I never care about coming off biased. Even biased people can tell the truth. If one decides to not listen due to sensing bias, that too is a biased point of view and a source of hypocrisy. Everyone is biased. Everyone is a hypocrite.

[@heliopijpe]

@@CSJoseph Good for you Joseph, I think I made myself clear. Thank you for your effort though. Have a nice day

[@TheRealSly14Cat]

You must be crazy to think that ENFP and ENFJ are significantly compatible. I have literally never had a consistently poor experience with any type more than them, it's pretty incredible. As friends, they'll cut off anyone who criticizes their poor behaviour and call them "toxic". As business partners, they will harm others without so much as a second thought to get what they want... As romantic partners I can only imagine how awful that is. I have zero clue where you got that from.

[@CSJoseph]

It's cognitive synchronicity and compatibility, not a guarantee. Your experiences (if both you and them are typed accurately) do not represent the norm.

[@anonymous-jc8ee]

You know what you really need to change your way of conveying for ENFP you're conciously being harsh

[@ioanageorgia5799]

I punched my husband, hahahahha. He is Infj .

[@petalamariana8525]

seriously man go to therapy... Enfps have nothing to do with the sorrow of ur soul