How To Disempower The Narcissist

[@thevorpalone1045]

Courage is a choice, Fear is a reaction. Heard that the other day. Be courageous.

[@CorporateQueen]

Ohhh I took my power back and it's glorious. Keep going folks.

[@abdulc5726]

Yes. Me too

[@filipabrandao8436]

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[@kimtaylor1534]

♥️✋🏻😊🙏🏻

[@kimtaylor1534]

♥️

[@breakthrough1019]

That intention feels like a breeze of calmness … like an elevation .. I feel lighter .. and can breathe .. thank you so much ..

[@nevaehb.4371]

This is so powerful. It truly is a battle between light and dark.

[@Simon0]

This is brilliant because the narcissist leads you to deeply heal moreso than if you'd never met them. Excellent

[@littleoceandrop]

7 years ago, narc wife left we with nothing, took years of healing, which made me so much stronger, the last 2 years at my family’s brought some serious pain, but I don’t know where it went, I can’t feel it any longer, I am about to graduate and complete a year of no contact even living in the same house, I am feeling a freedom that I have never felt before in my life, I didn’t knew that this was further along the path a few months and years back, it smells like Awesome things are coming. The work is SO worth it, and it does take years.

[@violetsabe2913]

Exactly. 15 years of this could have become more (or end up with my demise) if I had not found Melanie and her program. Recovering and healing now.

[@regina72]

Thank you so much Melanie, you have truly saved my life. first you helped me get away from my narc birth family but now you have helped me get away from the MIL narc. this woman was so evil, I had to live with her for monetary reasons and she had been tormenting me for years by telling me she was putting the "evil eye" on me. everyone kept saying ignore her, its not real..but like you said, its an invisible, energetic force. it went inside me, it was destroying me, physically and mentally. I just got away finally, thank God, but the psychic ties were still there, the trauma bond, like you said, but it helps me so much to understand why she was doing this to me, and you helped me understand..she wanted me fearful, she was feeding off my fear. now that I understand, it helps so much to let go. I kept wondering why she had treated me that way. thank you for helping me!! she also would tell me how as a nurse, she would tell her ex that she was going to stab him with an aids needle while he was sleeping if he cheated on her. these people are so sick and pure evil. youre the only one who understands.

[@LT-bf7nc]

Yes I have started too. Taking my power back. I told my Narc it’s over we have kiddos and a house. I practically cut contact and don’t let him question why. Now he said he’s done with me and doesn’t like the way I act. He’s mad he doesn’t have control anymore. It’s great. I am almost there. We are painting to sell and he’s finding a morgage loan. Thanks For all your videos.

[@adimeter]

Hairdresser cut my hair that took me 5 yrs to grow. For a black woman, that’s huge. I knew she was mean, but I never thought her jealousy would allow her to destroy the hair she helped me grow. I’m,73, she’s 69 and loosing her hair. My friends would brag to her about my silver white shoulder length thick hair. They/we knew she was jealous, but I never ever thought a running buddy of 35 yrs would be that warped. Thank God she did. Now I’m free of her and all the micro aggressions she committed against me. I didn’t know then what was going on, I just knew something was strange. When we would go to dinner and she was quiet and moody, I just chalked it up to all the pressure she was dealing with. I just thought her toxic relationship with her mother temporarily had her down. Whew! Was I ever missing the big picture. Had she not cut my hair without my permission I would have continued to blow by all red flags. But no more. I’m 2 1/2-3 mos no contact now. There has been some stalking-15 phone calls, a trip to the neighbor, and now a flying monkey. There is a whole evil world out there I knew nothing about, but I am now informed thanks to you Melanie, Jesse Cabrera and others. Thank you so much for helping me find the road back to peace. And I have a new hair stylist who runs a very peaceful shop. Fresh air and spring water is all around.

[@laurelmarshall6903]

It feels like LIFE and/or LOVE is being generated to me on the inside of my being; whatever it is, it is organic & nourishing. It IS alive within me, like a creative fire or an ever-flowing fountain or pure Oxygen restoring my cells. Whatever it is, it is ever-flowing & constantly nurturing.

[@msdemeanour]

Thank you for the excellent advice. Good to hear another Aussie too. Your words are such a truth bomb. I always say: "You cannot put a crown on a CLOWN & expect a KING."💜

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Aww love that you are an Aussie too honey! Thank you! I'm so pleased that my work resonates with you. Love and blessings xoxox

[@PassionateFlower]

Msm omg I love that quote thank you that truly resonates for me🙏🌼 I've never heard it before but now that I have I'm definitely going to keep repeating it to myself every time I doubt myself or second guess what I know he put me through. No more crowning clowns👑🚫🤡

[@ritaodriscoll2093]

I so love your videos. I always feel good after them. It's so good to be reminded of this. I save your videos and replay them on a bad day. Thank you so much, you're awesome.

[@laurelmarshall6903]

Much Gratitude & Thanks to you Melanie Tonia Evans. I had a choice earlier today between fear that I was being 'left out' & dismissed (I felt sad that my family members had rejected me & that I was not included in their activities) & then I chose to go inward & listen to your voice as you lead this video. WOW!! I am becoming. I am Becoming more. I am becoming more of my SELF. And I don't even care now that I wasn't included in their activities.

[@regina72]

so happy for you! I feel the same way that my narc family discarded me, but its better to be happy, live our dreams, then be included with evil

[@erynbrock6584]

YES! I found you at just the right time! Day 5 of no contact! I know it sounds small but it’s the longest I’ve been able to go in 4 years! And with the videos, I’ve also come up with a really cute way of keeping track and rewarding myself fir each day of no contact! Doing the inner work, yes! And I’m already feeling empowered! You are truly amazing! Again, I appreciate your passion to help us. I had thought of ending my life at one point…wait….FOR HIM???? NOPE NOPE NOPE! I’m really doing this. With the help of you and God. “Thank you” just doesn’t seem enough to show my gratitude. Looking into NARP NOW. You are a lifesaver! Being “brain washed” in a healthy kinda “clean it up” way, never felt so gooood! And I found an amazing meditation for nighttime and sleep. I’m on the right track! Cmon day 6! 💪💪💪💪❤️❤️❤️🤣

[@dougarnold7955]

Thanks. Great stuff. 4:25...you turn this around by turning inwards. Yes. This works. I started this process close to thirty years ago, and though I didn't understand it entirely, I kept plugging away at it. Now for me, I came from a strict Christian tradition that taught that turning inwards was of the devil. Now, as I learn about this, I'm able to name what I was waking up to, these narcisstic principles are taught right into the religious traditions. This has been a huge wake up for me.

[@saadhna7260]

Brilliant!! ✨

[@dougarnold7955]

@@saadhna7260 thanks for the reply. ...yeah, pretty much that's where I am. I'm left wondering how many of the people who put the scriptures together were narcisstic personalities. The Christological traditions that started developing in the decades after the cross...I wonder how much embellishment occurred.

[@emilygraham9968]

Spot on Doug. Well said. That was very courageous of you. Bravo!! 😁

[@dougarnold7955]

@@emilygraham9968 Thank you. 🙂

[@godzillamanstreb524]

This is so VERY effective......i must’ve released 1000’s & 1000’s of bullets in past decades ......narc siblings, female friends, malignant MIL......I purchased NARP and it truly works - it’s all about us really, not the narcissist - thank you eternally Melanie 💜❤️💚

[@JesusSaves77799]

Hi Godzilla man streb! Even though you say above that it’s about us, did you still have to put your foot down with narcissists? I mean, I really think that it’s about taking my power back, but I also feel that I must say something to one of them for me to be able to reclaim some power. Not bullets, but boundaries. Is that ok? I understand what Melanie is saying in this video about it being about us, but sometimes I think that we have to say something too to separate ourselves from the situation? Do you have any thoughts on that? I like some closure for myself, so not saying something to distance myself I don’t think would be good for me?

[@GypsyBrokenwings]

I love the one my DIL pulls on my son...she yells at him he's a narcissist. She is a 9 out of 9 on the check list. She doesn't like me being supportive of him, nor the fact that I haven't fallen into her garbage of trying to black ball him, AND what was great was an old family friend who's their landlord got to see one of her tirades. She's been found out, so now threatens to move away with the kids.

[@brendasmith7345]

It feels like relief within my body! 💕

[@skymeadow7762]

Yep Melanie, I can't take this for one more day, but I'm paralyzed by fear. I'm signing up for the Healing Course, thank you sister, Quantum Love 🙏 And So It Is Beloved ❤️

[@christylynnkoesterkoch5223]

I’m going thru this currently!! It’s awful!!! It’s so out of control even my children are being harassed.... since Covid has happened it’s like these people were given a license to ramp up their abuse!! I’m doing everything your teaching and am going to stand firm in my fight against this evil man!!

[@EllenCPickle]

Hang in there...I too going thru all of this...once I know their game you can never un-see what u know... education yourself is the greatest weapon... working on my exit plan...just wanted to say hang in there... you're not alone at all !

[@christylynnkoesterkoch5223]

@@EllenCPickle thank you how kind and thoughtful of you!! I really appreciate your support we can support each other all of us through these difficult times!! Melanie is so wonderful and her teachings has really helped me getting through this!! I am not sure I could do this alone without her videos teaching us how to overcome these dark evil people. You can exit this I sure did it’s not easy tho, they really ramp up their abuse but don’t give up you got this!! 👍🤗I will have prayers for you for health and wellness your way 🙏💖🤗

[@EllenCPickle]

@@christylynnkoesterkoch5223 no prob. Especially around the holidays it's extremely hard. And yes Melanie is great..other councilors here too...and support is the key along with educating myself as much as possible...long road ahead but at least I know what I'm up against and yes evil is a perfect word for it. Take care 💕!!!!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Sending you strength, power and love Christy in this challenging time. Are you working with NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp and in the NARP Member's Forum www.melanietoniaevans.com/member ? There is so much breakthrough and support for you there xoxox

[@christylynnkoesterkoch5223]

@@MelanieToniaEvans Thank you Melanie 🙏 We who are going through this currently need you!!!!! Thank you!!!! So Much!!!!!!

[@socosoco4344]

The narcissist screams out in pain as they attack you.

[@allyrose6437]

So true, that and other reasons is why I keep having self doubt months after our break

[@souljourney592]

Your Videos are always on time. I just experienced a narc from the past coming back and when I did not fall for the hoover, the abuse took to a whole new level...The pain of this psychic attack broke me down for days... Thank you so much for the affirmation you shared, it really shifted something within me and the fear is replaced with calmness now. Thank you!!!!♥️

[@EllenCPickle]

So sorry... Hang in there☮️💜

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Im so pleased that this helped Soul Journey xoxox

[@stanleymaestas5441]

Time stamp 06:20:00 amazing 👏. Thank u 💓 💖 😘 ❤️ narp!!!

[@overseaoversea6602]

Thank you so much Melanie, indeed this is the most important realization, the cure that we were looking for. I feel these individuals cant get it as easy as before anymore, hence we see them pushing harder and harder but they only expose themselves more.

[@peterknyk1942]

After my recent court room debacle with my ex narc I see the need more and more! I was asked by a therapist a few days ago about how I feel about what happened that day. I don’t know why I said this but I told her “I feel a little more empowered”! She said “good”! I think this was about just simply realizing more what this creature is all about and how I cannot under any circumstances let her chew me alive anymore..... taking the NARP courses has helped me to get a better perspective and purpose....thank you again Melanie! ❤️🙏🕊🦋❤️

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

I'm so pleased that NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp has helped Peter, and please know how welcome you are. You are doing great! xoxoxo

[@peterknyk1942]

@@MelanieToniaEvans Thank you so very very much Melanie! The courses are really starting to help in many different ways....I am very appreciative of that....I also love your videos! ❤️🙏🕊🦋❤️🦋❤️

[@christylynnkoesterkoch5223]

Thank you Melanie!!

[@donnawoodford6641]

I finally understood when I saw a prosperity tree, a host to other plants. I am the tree, and he can no longer siphon the life out of me.

[@shannon-maree7839]

Resetting my energy and setting this new and empowering intention resulted in me feeling aligned with Source, clear energetically, clarity, empowered and powerful to make myself feel safe, compassion for the person who hurt me and reconnected with the wisdom and knowledge of self responsibility 💗💗💗 self responsibility is the soul lesson I'm going through right now and there's no coincidences!! I was meant to see your video this morning and be guided by you through this and I'm so deeply grateful to you, Melanie 💗💗💗 So much love to you 💗💗💗

[@Cgruiz8690]

My parents mentally and emotionally abused me all my life. 2 years of trying to get past it.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Charity, plese know there is a way to heal directly and much faster that myself and so many others have used. I'd love you to check out NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp - it allows you to release and reprogram the trauma, back to peace, powerfully - on the inside. I hope that this helps xoxox

[@aimeemarsh2364]

Me too, Charity. It’s such a battle.

[@rohand9061]

Me 2 I was wandering if these ppl are insane.. but later learned the are narcissist

[@alexsmith9983]

This came at the best possible time!, my teenage daughter keeps creating havoc in my life by lying to the school about me and getting social services and the school to distress me.I had been playing along lately arguing with her and feeling very depressed but this reminder and healing has helped enormously. Blessings to you Melanie and to all of us who are struggling forward.

[@rohand9061]

Don't get caught up in their drama. Play along as if everything is under control. It doesn't matter who. These people will drive you up the wall.. please don't get me wrong my mother is a narcissist and I choose to distance myself we don't speak..my ex wife another narcissist put the children against me we don't speak..my ex lover narcissist when I walked away from her she did magic spells...OMG my whole entire world has been... want to know more hit me back... it not easy they will make you loose yourself..stay strong ppl

[@abdulc5726]

It feels like peace and wholeness. Thank u for this Melanie. I needed this message right now xo

[@EllenCPickle]

Tears falling down my face...thank u...☮️💜

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

It's my pleasure Ellen. Much love to you xoxox

[@evelyncraig3065]

I Hope its Tears Of Joy For You MY Friend. God Bless❤️💖❣️🙏

[@belindametz5130]

Excellent post! Thank you Melanie! 🙏🏼🧡🧡🧡💜👏

[@petertran8968]

The things that I fear the most and keeps me trauma bonded to the narcissist was, I’m a afraid hurting them, and that they think I’m a bad person. They would say things like you’re giving up on me, on our relationship when they’re the one that never even in the relationship, the cheat they lies, you already know all they good stuffs that they do lol. That’s why I stayed stuck, and giving them my power.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Peter, thank you for sharing dear One. Please know that this is so very common, it does keep us susceptible and hooked in. Truly, I believe our own traumas are responsible and with innerwork and self-partnering you can, as myself and thousands of others have, breakthrough this and collapse these painful patterns. Please sign up for my free 16 Day Recovery course www.youcanthrivebook.com/freecourse You'll receive daily supportive emails and explanations that can help you to start healing and navigating so you can take your power back. This resource addresses this too and can help. blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-stop-trying-to-help-the-narcissist/ Love to you xoxox

[@johnkennedy1242]

yes, it helped

[@lenali1]

This resonates so much regarding governmental measures towards me/we the people at this point of time. Thank you❣️🙏

[@DStone2K24]

The intention is very scary Melanie. Almost as if panic is rising up inside of me at the mere thought of being free from the peptide. It is also important to note that the narcissist just walked out and discarded me in a way. But that is all right. I didn't cave or allow my hurt to show. I let him go. Now I'm watching this video. Lol. Thanks for all you do honey! We love ya! Check out my hit single "Wasted Time" you guys. Its a smash for THRIVERS!!!!!!! Yeah!

[@highplainsdrifter699]

The late great irish.spiritual philosopher Joseph Murphy books and u tube videos have been a Godsend helping me to heal .

[@andayibrewmbirika2441]

feels like a big release feeling i have been dying to feel for so long

[@scratchoriginalsdh]

I’m just praying that the daughter who is doubting the truth will wake up and see, and the daughter who is still living with her dad can get out as soon as possible. 😣

[@saadhna7260]

I am thrilled for my gradual and powerful recovery!! ⚡⚡⚡🌀⛅

[@Julia20508]

Thanks for this video. You put the abnormal behaviour into simpler east to understand terms for me. You hit the nail on the head about the narcissist draining me of my energy and triggering me to create a trauma bond.

[@vyvfrancis9526]

Hugely helpful. Thank you.

[@traxikscifi8105]

You are amazing! Thank you very very much! Great help.

[@palesarobyn6310]

There definitely is a demonic force behind narcissism

[@maddycollins356]

It's about you what vibes you're attracting. Just as people don't hang out with negative vibes you look for positive response makes you feel good. Everyone wants acknowledgement.

[@grannymaterielgowrl7832]

You are so kind, inspiring and amazing melanie. Thank you so much xxx

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Thank you sweetheart. Love to you xoxox

[@swim610]

This is beautiful. Transcendental meditation has helped my ptsd reaction. Also emdr and inner famiky system therapy has been tremendous in helping me connect and ground me.

[@ferraripure9970]

She did it all but what kept me connected is that we have small kids

[@siabrogden8363]

trying to take my power back thanks for sharing this video really helped

[@pamiewatkins7354]

And gave me a great release I'm going to start laughing and then I thought about my sister that blood was thicker than water but besides that I kept this video cuz I'm going to go over it again it's very you know it's good for us

[@pulver1z0r]

Thank you.

[@pottersmtnsportsskiboardre8798]

Felt like a breakthrough

[@DaMan1964]

The narcissist lives in my house. She throws my things away She breaks my things. When I ask who/what happened to my blah blah blah she says "I don`t know". I had keys go missing for over a week then mysteriously they reappeared. The empty self she is has support. Fb group where they support each other.. a Thai support group. I`m out numbered.

[@getrudemwaura946]

Hello 🌹🌹🌹. The Narcissist is now out of my life I am Grateful that I left Now I am working on Myself.☺️ Thank You 🌹🌹🌹 LOVE 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕

[@bettyboossister3918]

AWESOME....😊😊😊

[@dianesmith5898]

This is a great reminder ty ty ty.

[@fionam3735]

He lies beyond belief through the courts and child welfare officer. The level of deceit takes my breathe away

[@JesusSaves77799]

Thank you so much Melanie!! This video is great! I am still working out some feelings of guilt when taking my power back, although I can feel myself getting healthier already!! Is this guilt a normal feeling for those of us who have been used to acquiescing constantly in narcissistic situations?? Also, I see what you mean in the video about it being about us really, but I do feel that I need to say something to one of my narcissists to begin the healing process. Is this ok? I don’t think that I would feel good or that I will be able to create a healthy level of separation and distinction between me and this person without saying anything!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

You are very welcome Peace To All. Yes, guilt is so normal! As well as all sortsof negative and painful emotions (from the inner trauma). I will hugely recommend to you NOT to do this - as it will only hook you in harder and retraumatise you. It offers the N nothing other than more narcissistic supply and another opportunity to hurt you. I would love you to sign up for my free 3 Keys Workshop, that wil help give you direction, answers and power back very quickly. You can sign up for this here: www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar It will help you a lot xoxoxo

[@carolina_terapias_energeticas]

Omg you're amazing thank you, would like to do your course

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Hi Mama earth, thank you dear One. You can check out my healing program NARP www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp here hun and I'd love to invite you into one of my free healing webinars melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar so you can experience my healing system Quanta Freedom Healing in NARP personally. Love and blessings xoxox

[@mjcyrano68]

Without a perspective that transcends human limitations we have the weakness of our own damaged nature, the blindness our own wounds allows, and we lack the spiritual perspective that comes from God alone. Being healed and forgiven by God's graces and gifts of a faith that works by love lets us extend those graces to others. You cannot offer what you lack. The deep evil of the heart of mankind is not redeemable. Only a new heart, a gift received in the salvation offered in Christ Jesus, can let us receive a new nature.

[@lesleyhanson219]

Relief 😌

[@skymeadow7762]

You turn this around by turning inward, repeat 1000 times

[@jamiebeverly6087]

They trigger me through my children. It’s a Narcissistic Grandmother and the childrens father. Grandmother and father are both narcissistic.

[@JaMajor43]

Make a video on how to get them out your house

[@dawnbanks7008]

Yea .. that’s the hook

[@snowqueen7968]

My ex is a narc and stolen my belongings I really need legal help. I’m in the UK. Anyone know any resources? 😢

[@allyrose6437]

The police maybe???????

[@victoryinhim9689]

You have gotten away from the narc. God will provide everything you need. Im in NZ which is similar to the UK. I suggest the local law centre. Also if he triggers you too much you may want to appoint someone else to communicate with the narc. At least keep it all in writing.

[@soniajoy3727]

They after your pain

[@soniajoy3727]

Targeted

[@nataliegomez5946]

New background! 🌿🍂

[@natoahameans2476]

They sick and evil pray for them they need a cleansing 🙏🏿🙏🙏🏿🙏be safe so true never react have to respond with the police period

[@juliancoumbis7965]

I trying to get my Dad to stop controlling my life and getting power and energy what should I do

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Julian, have you thought about joining my NARP Program? www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp That is my highest suggestion to you, to unravel this, detach, heal, take your power back and have powerful boundaries xoxox

[@nicselectronics81]

Sick sick things they are.

[@123runsallie]

I am see I sabamdoned myself. It’s clear. I thought it was the narc. It was me! I didn’t go or and lovemyself

[@EllenCPickle]

There's a difference between being a narcasist and having narcasistic traits ..we all have traits...but difference is we have feeling and caring...they only fake it!

[@pusitegasupovci8600]

First 😊

[@angel772921]

💜👍💜

[@NH-zu9cl]

👍👍👏👏🌺🌺🌺. Subtitle please. My English is not good

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

N.H. Sweetheart, if you come on over to my blog the transcripts of all of my videos are there. You can just google the name of the resource and select the blog entry to find it: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-disempower-the-narcissist/ Hope that helps sweetheart! Love and blessings xoxox

[@RS-ww8jo]

Determination

[@evelyncraig3065]

Courage My Friend put Ourself 1st. We Are Enough Worthy and Valued🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🌈💜💕❣️

[@kimtaylor1534]

Been thrown from my home and being thrown under the bus

[@jaimematus7308]

Try Jesus Christ! Not only will He take away your trauma but your own sin aswell!