Memory Reconsolidation and Metaprocessing Emotions | AEDP - Part 3 of 3

[@nickdattner8680]

You truly are a gift to humanity.

[@karenbird1279]

I find it disturbing that AEDP therapy is not more accessible, when clearly there are sooo many (myself included) who could really benefit from this kind of interpersonal therapy. Unfortunately finding a therapist like you, Tori, is either too rare or not in the realm of affordability, so most folks are sort of forced to accept “good enough” therapists, who are only willing to experience momentary catharsis “online only” with a client within a 50 min window, as opposed to the true growth of meta processing with the client. So thank you for promoting and teaching about this method, and for blessing the world with your knowledge and caring Tori!!

[@Cheryl_Frazier]

I agree with you, Karen. And I'm so thankful for Dr. Tori's videos because I gain so much help and knowledge from the videos alone!!

[@DrMattHersh]

Wonderful integration of AEDP and memory reconsolidation. But also just a lovely and insightful reminder of what we’re doing in therapy in general. Keep up the amazingly helpful videos!

[@ruthlarwill4064]

Yes! 😊

[@anthonyrispo1229]

More of you is what we need in this world!

[@LesleySASMR]

I wish you were my therapist. You are so gentle and calm and know exactly what you're talking about and confidant.

[@HaruKomorebi]

Thank you sooo much for your helpful, informative, and expertly explained videos! It's easy to understand and delivered with such compassion and Self energy that I feel healed just by watching them!

[@markwilson8078]

I know….I’ve never found myself crying while listening to therapy talks before

[@Cheryl_Frazier]

​@@markwilson8078Same!!

[@daniw.5481]

Gosh, thank you so much! I've been devouring your videos all afternoon and am so so soo grateful and a little sad that I can't just sign up for personal sessions with you. You're amazing, please keep goin 💕

[@CosmicAccident]

So grateful for how clearly and carefully you explain these approaches. You are a wonderful presenter!

[@grandjette]

Wow! This is a whole new positive avenue to help me transform the sad perspective of my chronic trauma to a positive redemption. I sense this AEDP as a more comprehensive way of "reframing negative experiences". A more sustainable way of therapeutic recovery.

[@DrToriOlds]

I’m grateful that you’ve found value in the videos 😊

[@maryjocookson7156]

what about when you can't trigger the original knowing due to no memory of it specifically?

[@adambarnard5561]

Hey babe, wake up! New Tori Olds therapy video just dropped! 😍😍

[@rafiqmowzer2248]

Amazing video, it makes so much sense and it also helps me understand why NLP works so well, you're Amazing Dr Tori so confident,calm and sweet at the same . Love ur content

[@richzebro]

This is so, so good. I have been experiencing this and, first, found it difficult to repeat, and could not explain why it happened.

[@sylviakanel9766]

Really looking forward to this!

[@HoangHieu-kv2sp]

Thanks for your amazingly informative videos! You’re hugely influential on my personal journey as a learning therapist. Subscribed to your Patraeon!

[@박차실]

Thanks a lot for the informative session. Thank you again

[@meganobrien1019]

Thankyou ❤️

[@BiancaH.1]

So interesting... I've started noticing what I have heard others call glimmers, and really explore them inside... how do they feel? I can feel the potential of a rewiring as I do just that. Or I can feel it when I use simple tools to regulate my nervous system.... I am still mostly disregulated, but when a tool works, feeling empowered within and noticing changes something in the old wire. And even if it doesn't work, the fact that I recognize and TRY to regulate, brings a sense of "I can", rather than the old story of "nothing ever changes". It also feels like it all ads up, even if I can't always regulate my NS. So interesting

[@loveof.travel]

Your videos are amazing, thank you so much 🙏🙏

[@SevenRavens007]

Most modalities recognise that deep affective experience is healing. But getting the client to that experience is not at all simple. I feel AEDP glosses over this huge issue and imagines that clients will almost spontaneously feel deeply in sessions. Rarely happens

[@vascorocha404]

ACT and EFT it until they can XD

[@SevenRavens007]

@@vascorocha404 that could work. Thanks for the tip

[@vascorocha404]

@SevenRavens007 of course!!

[@kylemartin985]

I'm still confused can you make another video about the subject of how to specifically find or create disconfirming knowledge/experiences in meta processing?

[@MaureenHamilton-h9b]

i wonder what you do when a client isn’t able to identify when a belief was formed? How would you then proceed?

[@davespark10]

Hey tori tori, this is a term ive made up. I call it "positive trauma" it where your face your fears and insecurities day after day for hours, for months like speaking to strangers. I did this and i almost literally felt my mind shattered and tears fell out of my eyes on their own. The positive trauma destroyed my old self identity and all i had were the pieces and had to build something new. Id say its the quickest form of change its extremely uncomfortable not many would do it. People kept responding and treating me in ways i never felt i deserved and my mind had to keep adapting.

[@Saritabanana]

Holy hell I love this! I’ve only done EMDR. I need this 🎉 are you taking new clients?

[@yuzhuopan6104]

Hi Dr. Olds, thank you so much for creating and sharing this series of AEDP videos. It sounds amazing to be able to have transformational affect and enter core state. However there is one question that still bothers me and I would appreciate your insight: what if the client is stuck and feeling overwhelmed by the core affect during the process?

[@SummerLove-u2o]

🩵💚🩵💚🩵14:50 "child learns not to feel what she feels, or know what she knows"!

[@darinsmith2458]

I think I will have to watch your other video to understand memory reconsolidation more..

[@lynncliatt4221]

Just found you 😊So grateful!❤you ❤

[@leftbankcreative]

Dr Olds, thank you so much for this. I have a question about mixing modalities like IFS and AEDP. I’ve have about 10 sessions of IFS now with some significant movement and shifts… should I consider AEDP now that I’m so invested in IFS? My thinking is that it may devalue some of that work I’ve done in IFS. Thank you kindly 🙏

[@lavenderkisses9461]

I know this is an older comment but memory reconsolidation can be woven into IFS. Hope you are doing well!

[@kylemartin985]

can you make a video about autobiographical reconstruction and memory reconsolidating for aedp?

[@LasVegasSand_s]

8:15🎉🎉

[@bethanybagwell8241]

Is EMDR a form of memory reconsolidation?

[@edbuell3181]

My hour in therapy feels like 10 minutes.

[@martialmusic]

Please spell Bruce Echard or however it is spelled. Thanks

[@JohnMoseley]

As it happens, one of his videos is in my feed alongside this. Seems it's 'Bruce Ecker'.

[@Cheryl_Frazier]

Would this be the appropriate therapy for ultra intense fear, anxiety & dysregulation due to triggers from narcissistic and sexual abuse? I've lived so long in constant anxiety I feel like there's no hope in ever feeling normal. If not, what type of therapy would you recommend? Thank you Dr. Tori ❤

[@JohnMoseley]

I'm not a therapist, but just because it's been a month and this might help, I'll say that AEDP was transformative in lifting my anxiety. I couldn't believe it when I found it. And I was just using the therapy as self help, based on what I learned from Hilary Jacobs Hendel's book on AEDP. Not necessarily suggesting you go a pure self-help route for something as severe as you describe, but it indicates that the therapy is a great address to anxiety. I think it's uniquely effective in this regard, in fact. Where other therapies get kind of hung up on anxiety - you reason with it (CBT) or stand up to your inner bully (Gestalt), AEDP understands anxiety (and shame and self punishment) as a kind of trick, a block on the deeper emotions. It thereby helps you move past it very quickly to feel those emotions (which, as described in this video, it also helps you make peace with and come to appreciate).

[@Cheryl_Frazier]

@@JohnMoseley I appreciate this so much! Thank you 😊

[@JohnMoseley]

​@@Cheryl_Frazier I'm so glad to hear that, Cheryl. Hope you find your AEDP work as rewarding as I've found mine.

[@HamzaBen90]

Amazing, you're amazing ❤❤

[@anka1833]

❤

[@davespark10]

Tori knows more than Bruce but shes too humble about it lol 21:20

[@joolsjeffery3939]

This sounds like Rc .

[@MonacoBlast66]

You are simply repackaging elements from Taoism and even neigong. At least credit the source.

[@TobyManuelito]

meow im a cat xd

[@joolsjeffery3939]

Please drink water. The content is great but your mouth clicks make it difficult to listen to you.

[@attheranch873]

You managed to make an interesting topic tedious.