Men Make Mistakes, But Do They Apologize?

[@alexdeyong2890]

The moment I stop getting upset for what some (deeply hurt and troubled people) say (what you shared in the beginning of the video Jonathon, I will consider myself healed. Obviously, I have a long way to go.

[@libbycollins9349]

We are ALL works in progress. Take what is helpful toward that progress and let the rest fade away.

[@AmieBishop]

Temporarily pulled away turned into ran off because he didn’t want to own his bad behavior. 😂

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes

[@patriciapage4625]

That is called ( Avoidant man) a man that doesn't want to accept or see what his mistakes are and he mostly doesn't know how to communicate his behavior or he has no regrets.

[@LadyAvalonArt]

@@patriciapage4625 That's because the shame underneath is too incredibly painful.

[@NaomiBailey-h3v]

It was nice to hear Jesse’s story and to hear about someone that is on the winning end of dating. Good for you girl!

[@LadyAvalonArt]

Of course, I am the purveyor of said remarks. Let me delineate why I wrote them. #1.) Women come to you with their guts hanging out and their hearts in their hand, IN PUBLIC. You OWE them ONLY kindness at every turn out of basic humanity that they expose themselves this way. #2.) We can NEVER facilitate growth in anyone by viewing human behavior as "stupid". This just jabs and re-opens any trauma wounds we already have, for God's Sake!! This attitude is the precursor to CONTEMPT, a killer of all love and relationships. #3.) This admission of guilt on your part may very well be your greatest break through. But only IF you can see HOW you project your anger at your own "stupid" (your word, not mine) behavior on to others thru condescension, mockery, etc. IF my telling you the truth has caused you genuine remorse, then you are finally on the road to true healing. IF you continue to make excuses and not dig deeper into this anger, you will remain stuck. The secret to your complete healing lies in owning this anger and why it's there. I wish you nothing but compassion and support in the rest of this journey.

[@JonathonAslay]

@@LadyAvalonArt .

[@patriciapage4625]

Wow, kudos to the lady on live with you that lost 185 lb. Go girl.😊

[@JonathonAslay]

She is an inspiration!

[@jeannegeiger4750]

Why are all these people in the hot seat so confusing? I can never understand the timeline of things and each statement seems to contradict a previous statement. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@DebraMinelli]

Real men DO appologize.!!

[@TheDWZemke]

And real women forgive and never bring it back up in an emotional argument!

[@DebraMinelli]

This comment was written according to the title BEFORE watching video

[@TheDWZemke]

@@DebraMinelli Your comment made me laph. I am a Real Man and I apologize as it is important for me to be the best person I can be. Been married and I am not damaged. As you know, the more comments here the more the algorithm promotions this video.

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes

[@jasonreid1332]

Ignore the haters! Let your client list, views, likes, and the bell tell you the real story.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you!

[@mariad1151]

Working my way thru "Getting the Love You Want." It introduces the concept of the "imago" that means "image" in Latin. Pretty interesting; it's worthwhile I would say. Some of it is specious, but that's okay. Stipulates partners are like avatars of our parents & we seek from them what we wanted from our parents. It's wider than that...interesting.

[@lauralong6925]

I was in the 'hotseat' once and felt you were a little over the top - thank you for the apology. Keep in mind hitting the button to do that is scary to start. I was extremely nervous that day so much was going on-other things too. 😊 (my honesty)

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing.

[@LadyAvalonArt]

This is the crux of my remarks. There are ways to e truthful without being unkind.

[@DorothyPrater-w5l]

Hope you and tours have a wonderful Christmas‼️

[@DorothyPrater-w5l]

Yours

[@Rose-hv3ou]

Thank you, Jonathon, for your radical honesty when it comes to yourself, as well as with speaking what your belief is of why another has behaved in a certain way - for speaking your truth. The comment the person you mentioned wrote, likely is (in my opinion also) mostly a projection. Sorry she has unsettled you terribly with her comment, and has made you question yourself 😞 I’m glad and proud (sorry if this sounds wrong, inappropriate, or uncomfortable hearing) that you were brave in calling her out on her negative judgmental comment/behaviour. I know only too well how it makes one feel when someone is telling you you did/said something intentionally hurtful, when all you were trying to do, is help with a situation. It feels so unjust. Lately my daughter has been misunderstanding me quite often, but even though I don’t believe I said anything wrong, I say sorry at times - sorry that I hurt her feelings, that it came across to her in the way it did, even if she chose to misunderstand me, when she really should know better/should know me better. It is so hurtful to be misunderstood, especially when you would never intentionally hurt anybody, and especially more so when it’s a loved one that is thinking you meant something in a ‘bad’ way. I love you and your authenticity, Jonathon, it’s quite a rare trait to come by these days - radical honesty. It’s not for the faint of heart. Thank you for standing up for yourself 💚 I appreciate and admire you, and your candid approach. I’m truly sorry, Jonathon, if any of my comments in the past have hurt your feelings. I’m recently seeing you more clearly as the person I believe, and have always believed you actually are - even though I’ve questioned it at times sadly 😞

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate your support.

[@Rose-hv3ou]

Great pleasure, Jonathon 💚

[@LadyAvalonArt]

Stop enabling him. It's not helping him or anyone else. We all need to own our "stuff".

[@Rose-hv3ou]

@@LadyAvalonArt​​⁠ Please don’t tell me what to do, it’s not appreciated at all. You do you, I’ll do me. Sure he’s not the most tactful at times, but that’s due to him actually caring and being frustrated at times, by the way women sometimes behave. I have looked again and again at the video in question, and all I can see is him genuinely trying to help someone. Some choose to look at it through another lens - this says more about those that do that, than Jonathon, and anyone else that’s on the receiving end of their inner turmoil 🙂 Sorry, you don’t like my compliments and appreciation of Jonathon, but I give credit where I feel credit is due. I’d like to suggest that you look through a cleaner and clearer lens if at all possible 😁

[@JonathonAslay]

Much appreciated ​@@Rose-hv3ou

[@Gigi-wc3kl]

I’m watching the episode, you can see she’s realizing the place she is in as you ask her questions. I believe she got triggered after the call when she realized you were right. The sweet caller is in a bad place. She has a lot of work to do. You got the rath of her waking up.

[@elich00]

I like watching your hot seat videos, kind of like watching the aftermath of a car crash - I know it will be bad but I still want to see 😂 The vast majority of these women are a hot mess and it is so hard to listen to their stories, like pulling teeth. You can't get a straight answer from most. And I see others' comments are similar to what I think. Some people absolutely deserve tough love. They know what they signed up for when they pushed the button to go live. You sometimes ask for permission to be radically honest. And most of the time your advice is spot on and they thank you for it. That woman is probably projecting. She must have felt personally attacked for some reason. Take it with a grain of salt. I like your honesty and that's why I keep watching your channel.

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes, thank you 😊

[@Sharon-777]

Lol yes I couldn't have said it better myself I really try not to judge but am amazed at how completely lacking in self awareness some of these women are I think they get off easy Jonathan is much nicer than I would be only because I feel they are very emotionally young

[@LadyAvalonArt]

@@JonathonAslay Oh no, I don't feel attacked. Someone needed to tell JA the truth. I did him a huge favor. We do not use "honesty" as a cudgel as an excuse to be blunt and rude.

[@ClaireHanlon]

I think the commenter might be shooting her shot! She wants to tell you she's not wearing duct tape over her mouth! JK

[@berleysd1935]

Why is leaving constructive criticism turned into projection?

[@JonathonAslay]

When it includes judgment, then it's not constructive. Plus, she attacked me personally.

[@Sherryyahoo]

Yes

[@LadyAvalonArt]

@@JonathonAslay I did not "attack" you personally. I pointed out the mean behaviors I saw in front of me that are bar none abusive.

[@lorettalazaris6402]

Well! Here’s another thought. Thx for this topic btw, since it’s come up for me lately, too. I think the doors to the Cosmic Academy are always open so, when I’m clueless or dumbfounded, doin’ the 4 “R’s” though there’s still no resolution at that time, I then have to go for the mirror concept. I attracted it because at some level, I do that to myself. The doors have opened a little wider.

[@virginiadare8152]

Yes, resonating!

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad to hear it!

[@TheDWZemke]

Ladies, Why is it when I buy a dozen roses I am out of trouble no questions asked. I buy her three dozen roses and she is "What did you do?" LOL ALL KIDDING ASIDE. I do the Ho'Oponopono prayer to her. Please understand the process. Been happily married over 30 years before I lost her.

[@JonathonAslay]

Sorry for your loss 😞

[@TheDWZemke]

@JonathonAslay Thank you. The great part of this event was it forced me to look inward to find my self and move forward... I actually had a spiritual awakening. The hard part is I had to go through what I call the night of the dark soul, as I did not want to live for a few weeks. Yes, prayed for death every day and was blessed with the awakening. Now I am in my 50's. Wake up everyday realizing I have a choice to make it the best day ever (life of gratitude) or live in a life of despair. Jonathan Thank you for your positive attitude.

[@michellcollins4233]

I think if she feels that way.. she has a choice to not watch.

[@susierea7396]

😂😂😂

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes

[@LadyAvalonArt]

Oh no. I come back to speak my mind when I see women being passive aggressively abused. I don't care if it's The Pope. No Duct Tape here.

[@maryblue75]

You are NOT a therapist. People expecting a therapist, when on a youtube live session, should rethink into participating & maybe have them acknowledge that before participating that. You are a man, who is having an online discussion & saying your opinions. Healthy people will be able to separate critique or be able to reflect & digest what they hear from people they are not their friends. I would have them also acknowledge that. You are not their friend & not their therapist and if you help them thats cool. If they dont feel helped they should move on.(to a friend or therapist). Your live videos are free & no service to someone single person in particular, but rather give the audience an idea, of what everyone is going through, & to see if they /we have something in common and what we can learn from it.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you... your words are appreciated

[@LadyAvalonArt]

More excuses, more enabling.

[@alexdeyong2890]

And for all "sensitive flowers" out there - you have a choice: if something is not your "cup of tea", don't watch it. As simple as that.

[@Sherryyahoo]

To err is human. 💕🦋

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes

[@Sherryyahoo]

Jonathan…you are way too kind 💕🦋 Don’t beat yourself up over this

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks

[@mariad1151]

Nice! It's so tough to sort these things out. I don't know how you worked thru it, Jonathan. Sounded good until you said the viewer was projecting. That kinda dismisses the comment after you endorsed it, so it was just a circle imo.

[@LadyAvalonArt]

Yes. More denial and excuses for being a "dick" as he calls it instead of changing.

[@karenschell9822]

I wanted to know if Jesse has kids, or does he? Big factor…

[@rosiemac2538]

Don't really see what the fuss is about here! Ive just watched the video and couldn't find a problem! Just Jonathan being radically honest in trying to help this lady. Btw Jonathan, would love a catch up video with the lady from South Africa who was going to move to the US to be with her partner. Hope you can manage a video soon😊🙏❤️

[@susanharrie3326]

❤❤😊

[@dhempress]

Cancel ❌ I'm sooooo Woke!! ✨💙✨ Give thanks. You had me up to this point. Loud and clear.✨ You sound MAGA "condescending". Bless up ✨

[@JonathonAslay]

I'm not MAGA at all...

[@mmt2310]

What does it matter who he votes for anyway? I don't understand your comment. Very strange

[@Sherryyahoo]

@@dhempress What??

[@lloydbyler0517]

Jonathon, the problem, is, you just REALLY don't know what you are doing! You talk, act and come off as if you know what you are doing, but your results speak of a very confused mind. You talk way too much, as if people cared about what you have to say (hint: they don't); Especially women don't care about what you have to say, women care about ACTIONS, the fruits of your (quote) labor (end quote).

[@JonathonAslay]

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[@patriciapage4625]

Jonathan, I believe that the woman that left that ranting toward you.I think she may have been dealing with something a lot deeper than just anything that you myay or my not said in any of your videos. She could be old fashioned andwith derp padt hurts with that she doesn't appreciate the way maybe, you address in your formum and it could maybe some other deep rooted issue sheis having in her own life. 👍💖

[@JonathonAslay]

I understand that people have a lot going on in their lives.

[@Sharon-777]

Firstly we can all be dicks and we all make mistakes and sometimes hurt people but Nope just went back and watched that video and no you did nothing wrong at all and I'm not one to stroke you're ego as that woman said I think she is the one with the issues

[@LadyAvalonArt]

More enabling, more excuses.

[@rachelsnewlife]

That lady was indeed over the top rude. How cold, especially this time of year. Where is the kindness and humor? You have ALWAYS disclosed that u have ur opinions and style doing this. U kno hurt people hurt people and this had nothing to do with u. She’s just a beeocch!!!

[@LadyAvalonArt]

Not. Stop enabling him.

[@Sherryyahoo]

I love the term “love seat” instead of hot seat. 💺

[@JonathonAslay]

Yes