Men Realizing How Useless They Are To Women In A Romantic Relationship

[@kikilicious99]

Decentering men doesn't mean not having a man. It means not putting his needs above your needs or other things or ppl in your life. The same way you don't center your friends. You spend time with them and enjoy them but you never center your friends.

[@blossom1290]

Exactly, you remember that yours needs, need to be refull just as much as your partner and friends needs are

[@moniquem1873]

Exactly ❤

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

Exactly

[@NovaPrincess]

It's not possible to decenter males while being in a relationship with one. This is pure cognitive dissonance for male-identified women who still want to be a part of this movement and who also want to water down this movement.

[@elizabethpieters7798]

​@@NovaPrincessYou are wrong. Decentering men doesn't mean hating men, bashing men or not being in a relationship. Emotionally healthy women know how to function and be happy without men, but they can also build healthy relationships with men. Decentering men simply means not sacrificing your identity, career, goals or mental health to keep a relationship or a man.

[@dietdrpepper15]

Men have just had the upper hand because they are just usually stronger, and until recently that was vitally important for survival. Women have ALWAYS had to be worried about their safety, figuring out ways to get what they want through cunning behavior, and had the time to raise children. Women have adapted and men haven't, and men now are upset because since the BEGINNING OF TIME they haven't had to 'bring something to the table', now they need to not be 'providers' but be partners, and most are upset about that.

[@9darshana]

Right!! Now men are finally seeing that they have to be decent human beings and it's a struggle for them

[@Jana_7]

💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@Emptytopfloor]

They’re still keeping women in check to this day. In Afghanistan, Iran, Iraq……

[@dietdrpepper15]

@@Emptytopfloor true but education is seeping in…and when women are getting educated from NOT the men in their lives only, this will change. To men not for the better simply because they aren’t able to suppress women and keep them bound anymore.

[@Gmhfseyhb]

Exactly. Society evolved and they have a hard time to catch up.

[@tresboujay]

Men have never centered or celebrated us yet they stay running after women and in relationships. It is possible to be in relationship with them and not center them. I’m just not so sure for me that it’s worth it. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@user-br3ty9rt1m]

That’s how I feel. I’m sure it’s possible, but is it worth the effort? For me, I don’t think so either.

[@user-ip5fm3ck4p]

Excellent analysis

[@ElisaAllen]

Perfect point

[@missmadelinesadventures3278]

You're speaking about your life. My dad celebrates my mom all the time. Married 45 years. You're not use to it. And that's a shame.

[@tresboujay]

@@missmadelinesadventures3278 You say that as if I can speak on someone else's life or experiences. You are speaking in isolated terms, I am not and the fact that you can't decipher the difference is also a shame. I also won't be shamed by you for having a cheating ex husband, hopefully for your mom's sake your dad ain't one. I was married to an expert cheater, who "celebrated" and showered me with anything I wanted, still pays for everything to this day but also cheated. Staying wasn't worth it. I hope for your sake you never have to experience it.

[@missinterpretation4984]

I saw a commercial for a special about the new epidemic of young men addicted to gambling since they opened up sports gambling and I just thought I’m so sick of them. I’m sick of their inability to function in society. I have the ick for all men.

[@user-br3ty9rt1m]

Yes! They are my ick. 😷

[@Cat-z8y]

Same!!

[@biblethumper8088]

They have no self control. I'm learning this from my own problematic 9 yo son.

[@tuinfarto608]

​@@biblethumper8088send to his father

[@anonymousa-uy1hk]

Exactly, once you recognize and start telling yourself the truth about men, there is no “struggle to decentre” them. It just happens naturally and organically. Anyone who is struggling with it is still telling themselves the lies and drinking the coolaid.

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

Decentering men means they aren’t the center of your life. Whether you have one or not.

[@MariaDavids]

True 👌

[@the8thchurch461]

It is a tricky one though but not necessarily impossible. Just make sure you get the right man who sees women as human beings. Avoid the crazy conservative manosphere brigade and you will be fine

[@Ragnar452]

As long as you don't expect this from men either it's perfectly fine. Never expect from people something you can't give back. It's a general rule.

[@BellaVidaMercy]

As plainly as one can put it.👌🏾

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

@@the8thchurch461 I’m not getting any. I quit men years ago. I’m just stating what it means.

[@Rere-lb4xb]

As a married woman, I decenter men by saying no a lot and just copy exactly, to a T, what men do and don’t do a lick more. If they don’t cook, I don’t cook. If they’re being unapologetic, I also will be unapologetic, if they have unreasonable audacity, I strive to be exactly the same.

[@moreni2nd405]

😂🤌🏽 Matched their energy X 10!

[@TheDowntownHermit-xj6rq]

I match energy. So how we gonna act today?

[@genevieveaniko6492]

If you really want to frustrate a male.. Just match his energy and mirror his behaviour.. He will automatically lose his mind. I've seen it time and time again. 😂

[@regitzecamara6761]

The irony is it works 😂

[@Gmhfseyhb]

@@Rere-lb4xb you got it 😂

[@officialjocelyn9108]

My cousin (single [twice divorced] father of 5) was ranting about all that he has to do to be the provider and protector of his family. I asked him what he does differently than me, a single mother of 1? He didn't answer, so I told him that it's called PARENTING and he's not doing anything great because he's a man. He also leaves the running of his household to his older (female) children, ages 24, 25, and 26 who take care of (including homeschooling for the past 8-9 years) the younger ones (currently 17-female, 15-male).

[@em7937]

This. They pull the protect and peovide BS. Many women do that and more, but somehow women are not recognized for that, while they have to be held as heros!!

[@MsTishalish]

Oh no, those older siblings are trapped 😢

[@officialjocelyn9108]

@@MsTishalish He doesn't even encourage them to work outside the home, so their earning ability is low (they are great artists so they may be selling art online) and social skills are odd.

[@MsTishalish]

​@@officialjocelyn9108 Please encourage them to develop their art business. Hoping for the best for them. ❤

[@jessikajane4967]

Um, this seems weird AF😬 Are you sure no incest or anything is going on because thos dynamic is NOT normal.

[@theinvisiblewoman5709]

To the girly who said she wants someone to explore her environment with. Baby, that’s what friends are for. I’d argue you have more fun with your girls and your own money.

[@nicolita410]

Or sometimes by yourself, some people can't be alone for shit

[@Mira-gu6we]

Correct.

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

@@nicolita410 I was going to say. She can do what she said on her own, and in most cases exploring on your own is the better option so you don’t have to do it on someone else’s time or argue over doing something you want to do but they don’t.

[@Mini-ge9sm]

By yourself !! Is best. Friends and women can be just as toxic as some of these men.

[@imitationporcelain]

I actually I enjoy been by myself a lot ,so now when looking for a partner at least I should enjoy been with him as much as I enjoy been alone if not then is not worth It.

[@alieninthecaribbean]

The "Sex And The City" series had a lot of problematic messages, but one of the FEW GEMS that came out of that series was the message, "Why not let us (women) be each other's soulmates and just let men be for using for fun." Get a male lover for fun. But don't try to build a home with a man or rely on him for the DEEPER THINGS that are necessary for human to thrive emotionally. Things like communication, advice, support, community, shared interests etc. Seek that from your FEMALE COMMUNITY. I personally can say my besties from high school are STILL MY BESTIES and we are all in our late 40s. We have been there through each other's marriages and divorces. We have nursed each other when ill. We have been the rock for each other. Women have an amazing ability to FORM COMMUNITY and we have been squandering it by giving it to the male-led church, male-led households, male-led corporate society. Time to use it for OURSELVES.

[@ShadyLadyxx]

If you look at SATC as a romantic love story, it's problematic. But if you view the story through the lens of it being about the friendship between the four women (and view the men as accessories), there are some gems there. The line about being each others' soul mates was iconic.

[@Jamhael1]

The Sisterhood has been proven to be a LIE...

[@nanomia]

that's what I'm thinking of that's why female community is very important personally I'm not very lucky with friendships probably because I move around a lot but I'm planning to settle in 1 place and create deeper friendships with women

[@em7937]

@@Jamhael1 how? Because everytime a woman suffers or meeds help, she goes to a woman!! For comfort, for connecting and letting it all out. So what are you talking about? Yeah...there are some women that have no value of themselves, and they would trash themselves to get a man, just to come back to sisterhood to lick their wounds!!

[@Jamhael1]

@@nanomia the Sisterhood is a LIE...

[@Firecracker876]

It’s crazy some people have low comprehension that they don’t comprehend that Decenter men just means don’t make men center of your life. Its Not about not dating or marrying men, just don’t make them the relationship with males your whole personality and identity

[@Gmhfseyhb]

This 😩

[@em7937]

Girl, it is the woman that carries the relathionship..so, being in a relathionship with one, means you are centering them..men are not capable of building the relathionship, simple as that!

[@purplecherub]

But a lot of women don't want a male presence in their life at all. This movement is also about making it socially acceptable to be man-free. Women in relationships are trying to co-opt this movement to make themselves feel better about centering men in their lives.

[@nanomia]

true. I mean men don't centre women at all but they spend their whole lives chasing women and being with relationships with women. we do have some desires the point is DO NOT make men your whole life and your whole personality

[@teresam5199]

​@@purplecherubsad but true. Every movement women create in modern times (i.e. BWE, divestment, etc.) are "ruined" by women who want to align themselves with patriarchy and males, one way or another 🙄

[@shazj1842]

The sister said something interesting about going to church, it will be very confusing to decenter men when religious institutions center men and require us to do so.

[@UnluckyGirl81]

Yes, that is true which is probably why she is confused on the topic of decentering men. Churches and religion are literally brainwashing institutions to center men because they are part of the patriarchy. Christianity is man made! If you read the Bible, you will notice a common theme, He was always siding with the women! The Most High loves His daughters and He will deal with those that mistreat His daughters.

[@destroyraiden]

As they said in the 1900s church is for slaves and women.

[@redgoddess]

@@shazj1842 The cognitive dissonance is breathtaking. How can one decenter a man when you are trying to keep him? How can you decenter men when you are worshiping a male god? You cannot.

[@Caitlyn-n3d]

That is why I believe religion is a scam. They all center men then vilinize and control women. We are the portals of life but time and time again we are being brought down by men.

[@Alexandrite7]

Everyone has this all wrong about religion. God is not against a woman being single. Paul said it's best to be single. So please stop taking the Bible wrong. What's important to The Lord I'd your worship to Him and your love for humans. Stop listening to men that are twisting The Word.

[@biblethumper8088]

I don't see how you can decenter men and be with one. Everything a man wants revolves around you centering them. Once you start putting yourself first, he will have a problem with that, and you will either leave or compromise. It is very rare to find a man whose priority is to make you happy.

[@thelookout5802]

Oh please 😂😂...a man can't be the center of your existence. You go to work, you have your own activities etc. The problem is that some women give up everything for men wtf!

[@NiobeNeo]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 a very insightful question indeed. I disagree with Maria here. Most women who have decenter men are NOT in any sx relationship with men. Has nothing to do with h8te but a woman can provide everything for herself without him and be happy. She doesnot need him for anything. So a married woman or women in a relationship cannot decenter a man, because she is with him to take care of his neeeeeeeeds all his needddddsss 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. What they can do however is, to put NOT soooo much energy in him alone and lose herself. Honestly if a woman really decenter a man, she only engage with him in business, work or some kind of service if she must. Or we have to change the word decenter to manfree women just like childfree women 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tu3521]

Not living under the same roof works.

[@anonymousa-uy1hk]

Exactly, I don’t get the women who claim they are decentering men but are still in relationships or want to still be in relationships with them. Sorry, but that’s NOT decentering men. It’s called wanting to have your cake and eat it too.

[@NovaPrincess]

@@NiobeNeoYES! You are right. We might need a new word since pickmes want to dilute our decenter males, center women, 4B movements.

[@m.d.s.69]

Dudes get so mad at me when they realize I'm more of a man than they are 😂 thanks for raising 3 bada$$ daughters, Dad!

[@PalisUK]

how I decenter: I worked as a model for 5 years before moving into remote work where I barely talk to any men and I never think about that attention. I'm mentally busy. I am abundant with self-love. I focus on spending time in ways that make money. if you feel lonely, go out and socialize (with women and men) or plan a trip. yearning is a waste of time ( I say that supportively as someone finance-centered)

[@BlackandBlessed100]

Love it 🌟🩷🌟

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

I prefer to socialize with women. I am a Model too, I have a very young face. Men hste me for being smart and very good educated, it shows they want me to be a PDF fsntasy. ALWAYS.

[@PalisUK]

​@@CordeliaWagner1999 I don't consider men as friends, either, just casual sociazliing at events. in terms of which men won't hate you for being smart: successful men, men with daughters who they treat well, men in charity.

[@ijustneedausername6742]

5:54 I feel like if anything, decentering men actually has improved my romantic relationship? My partner has seen me intentionally investing back into myself in a way he never did before. He’s seeing me prioritizing myself and is supportive of it. He’s seen me establish new boundaries and he’s respecting them, and if anything our communication has improved? It’s also in some ways forced him to sit with some of his own past behavior and grow from it too. Men with emotional intelligence will want you to be a flourishing whole person and will actually try to help you, and will try to better themselves to do so. When I broke off an unhealthy engagement years ago, I thought that man was the best I was ever going to get, and walking away would mean I’d probably never get married and be single forever. I made peace with it and accepted it, because a simple quiet solitude was always going to be better than an angry man disrupting my inner peace.

[@dustrepellent8986]

😅you must be from Cali forming statements like questions lol

[@swvolleyball9137]

Some here girl! Our relationship has changed so much since I started focusing on myself. My 50lb weight loss pushed him into the gym. My learning quest has inspired his own. My refusal to sacrifice myself on the domestic alter has woken him up to the importance of my mental health. The result is that now I can talk to him about things like weaponized incompetence and any other issues I find worthy of discussion and he doesn’t immediately get defensive. He knows he’s not the main character and that just because I say I’d rather meet a bear in the forest than a man, that doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate and perceive his value. Decentering him has made it possible for us to center our relationship and family dynamic.

[@bfns2353]

Y'all don't have men y'all have simps😂😂. Soyboys listen to their wives while alphas do what's necessary

[@ijustneedausername6742]

@@bfns2353 whatever helps you sleep at night bud

[@Egg_Apron]

These are your "providers and protectors." They never were... They survive on mining us for Shakti. We are the LIFE. Decentering men means that if you are investing your Life into a man, he must be returning your investment and making the labor worthwhile. Furthermore it means frequent assessment about your investment and returns. You can't take your eye off the equation, unfortunately. I've been doing this for about 2.5 years with my current partner. You gotta monitor levels like they do in a factory. It adds stress.

[@chocolatemomof4]

This!!!!!

[@teresam5199]

💯

[@shaolinqueen3684]

Decentering men is a real thing. It's called asexuality and celibacy. These people try to minimize women who are asexual and celibate. I participate in those two principles. It's even tougher decentering men mentally and emotionally. That's where women have a hard time.

[@aaunyea4799]

I'm an aroace woman and a virgin, and I'm so happy I don't care about men 😂.

[@kikilicious99]

I don't agree. U can decebter a man but still enjoy a sexual and romantic relationship with a man. Just keep him similar to the status of a friend. U never center your friends, you center yourself.

[@Emptytopfloor]

Same here. It’s been wonderful.

[@NovaPrincess]

Shaolinqueen you are spot on, and I'm tired of male-identified women who want to water down the movement by claiming you can still be with a male with decentering them. They're lying to themselves.

[@NovaPrincess]

@@kikilicious99 You are only lying to yourself, hun. What you're doing is prostrating yourself and straddling the fence. The decenter males movement is akin to women go their own way and 4B. Whatever you're describing is the status quo.

[@ankra12]

Men need to chill and dont be so preoccupied with women and focus on their own life.

[@oliviaobiaja]

Agreed. What is this need to have someone submit to you?! Someone to cook, clean, wash, and pacify your ego. They need to learn to exist without women. For the sake of themselves.

[@ankra12]

@@oliviaobiaja If they cant cook and clean for themselves then hire somebody..

[@jayogee913]

@@oliviaobiaja They never get used to not having their mommy following them around, cleaning up after them, laughing at their lame jokes, clapping for their dumb tricks and stunts. They try to jump from Mommy to Wifey, and have the wife/gf be his new mommy. I'm truly glad women are waking up to this and are not taking it anymore!

[@moreni2nd405]

Decentering men means not putting men's needs above yours...it means not abandoning yourself because you are now in a relationship. It means having boundaries and standing on those boundaries even if it hurts you. Decentering men should guide how you deal with men generally, in every sphere of life...not just in relationships. Am I in a relationship? No. Why? - I'll tell you why.😂 I was single for 4yrs...i took that break to heal and unlearn how I deal with men. I recently tried to get back into dating with a man who I taught was my friend of 10yrs..... Sisters!!! Decentering men made me realize you can never know men till you get into a relationship with em, they can pretenddddddd!!!!...it took me just 1 month to figure out he's not what he presents himself "outside". When I was in my male worshipping era, it would usually take me longer to see it because socialization taught me it was normal behavior with men and we women are expected to tolerate and endure. Decentering men also made me jump out of the 1month relationship and 10yr friendship (He's blocked everywhere!). It's crazy because I communicated my boundaries before jumping in and he still played in my face. Will I date again? Maybe, maybe not....I love me regardless and nobody comes before me!🤌🏽♥️🌿

[@MariaDavids]

Thanks so much for this comment.. i love the way you analyzed it 😁

[@Chrisia-Queens]

Being in a relationship is exhausting 😫 . I've been dating a guy for a month now. He calls me everyday, he wants to see me everyday, but i said no. We spent every Saturday together. I'm tired😂😂😂😂. I don't even have my free time. His job asked him to move 2h away from me. I'm considering leave him now. He wants me to travel every weekend to see him, he can still come to see me. I don't want to do that. I'm not built for marriage or relationship. I'm Out

[@clickchuu]

Girl, clearly you don’t like him all that much 😂 I was in a similar situation, he wanted to come over every weekend, Friday night to Sunday night if possible. I couldn’t keep up, kept it to every other weekend… and eventually I realized he was just draining my energy. He was sweet and I felt very validated but it also felt like I was managing the relationship all by myself. Had to rush home to clean my place, go to the grocery store during the week after work to make sure the fridge was stocked. Couldn’t go to the gym on Saturday morning the way I usually do. I broke it off and I feel way more at peace now.

[@77kc_77]

Same I'm tired of talking and dealing with them

[@ayamempress1579]

8:39 again, we'd all love this but you have to remember that idea in your head, was constructed in patriarchy and is not the real character of men. They're not polite and romantic irl... it is rare for a man to be empathetic, compassionate, polite and respectful to women... so that fantasy is just a fantasy because that is not the true character of men... if it was, women wouldn't be divorcing and decentering at such wild proportions

[@residentidiot9694]

Men are just plain horrible creatures not capable of love. Wise women will remain single and child free. Men hate women

[@attitudeproblem6462]

"It's not you who's the God, *IT'S ACTUALLY US!!!* #BARS

[@belle8i]

It's easy to decenter men when you're single, but forget it if you're married. They notice when you say no or don't acknowledge them or nurture them. If you decenter him, he will make your life hell.

[@Gmhfseyhb]

@@belle8i divorce babe divorce

[@em7937]

Well, yeah! Because they marry just so they can have all their needs taken care of, while they do less then a songle guy! It is still astonishing to me there are women outthere that think men marry them because they love them. That is why men marry women they don't like or even hate. But if she is brainwashed enough to make his life easier, while no gain for her, they will marry her. Why so you think they start cheating right after they marry? They got the maid, cook, personal assistant. Loads of free time for men now..and in search of fun!

[@copperredd]

Divorce

[@PermanentGogeta66]

@@Gmhfseyhbdivorce the man for wanting love?

[@Gmhfseyhb]

@@PermanentGogeta66 Yes you should divorce the man that expects you to make him the center of your life. These types of men don’t respect you let alone love you.

[@lkcheat]

As far as decent erring men take a cue from them they are experts. They are in relationships but do not neglect their families friends hobbies careers etc. Self preservation is their battle cry.

[@anonymousa-uy1hk]

Sorry, but I’m going to disagree with a lot of the comments here. Truly decentreing men DOES actually mean that you have as little to do with them as possible. In fact, I don’t think it’s possible to decentre them while still choosing to be in relationships with them. I personally have virtually nothing to do with them. Here’s how I did it: I started listening to other women tell their stories about men. I started listening to men talking about themselves and who they truly are. I read books about men. I would highly recommend one called Men in Love. VERY eye opening read. Suffice it to say that women ONLY desire men because we’ve fabricated ideas in our minds about who they really are. MOST men (I’d say 99.9%) don’t even come close to what women want to believe they are like. Once you TRULY take away the rose coloured glasses that most women have been conditioned to wear when it comes to the nature of the male species, the struggle ends. You no longer have to “try” to decentre them. It just happens naturally and organically. Hope this helps.

[@swvolleyball9137]

No it does not and you don’t get to tell us what it means. Try again. Your complete avoidance of men is one thing. To de-center can mean placing them anywhere within your orbit that is not in the center. It’s just that simple. You are avoiding men. Those of us who still have men in our lives can easily decenter them and place ourselves at the center. It’s really not hard. You do you and stop trying to tell others how to do them.

[@anonymousa-uy1hk]

@@swvolleyball9137 Okay, if you say so. The truth is, I really don’t gaf how you live your life. If finding unnecessary reasons and excuses to keep men around you is the way you want to go while pretending to decentre them, then knock your socks off. I won’t tell you how to live your life and you do the same for me. But the fact that you got so triggered by my comment shows that I hit a nerve…probably because I’m right. So you can go on deluding and deceiving yourself. I really don’t care either way. That’s the difference between you and me. Have a blessed day!

[@arneliashort4647]

Your statement makes no sense and is solely based on YOUR OPINION. The definition of the word “decenter” disproves everything you just said. Hope that helps 😂😂

[@clarissawittenwiller7221]

thank you, it does really help.❤ it dont seem logical to me to call it "decenter men" in life but yet ur still in a close/smexual relationship with them.🤔 i like how u explained your journey and how it comes naturally if ur truly commited to urseld and your goal. thank you for the book suggestion.😘

[@anonymousa-uy1hk]

@@clarissawittenwiller7221 ❤

[@KatrinkaGivens-yh1fh]

I just started to really see how selfish and cruel they are. It is not hard for me.

[@NovaPrincess]

It's not possible to decenter males while being in a relationship with one. This is pure cognitive dissonance for male-identified women who still want to be a part of this movement and who also want to water down this movement.

[@TiffTheGift1]

@@NovaPrincess this 💯

[@redgoddess]

@@NovaPrincess Absolutely. Its delusional to think you can be in a relationship with a man and decenter him. It is delusional to think you can decenter man while you worship a male god.

[@NovaPrincess]

@@redgoddess Exactly. I do not believe Goddess is male, which is why I stay far away from judeo christianity and islam. I have my own spiritual practice.

[@teresam5199]

Yep, same thing that happened with BWE and divestment. Women who refuse to let go of males and patriarchy try to sabotage the effort of other women who can and do. Sad!

[@77kc_77]

Exactly 4B is being completely done with xys

[@FireSilver25]

I wish we could call it women Centering Ourselves. And it’s pretty normal, especially during our twenties, to crave romance. Personally when I started therapy 90% of my desire for a man evaporated. All that male centering was actually unhealed trauma and father wounds. I think every girl needs to be educated on those things before dating. It’s totally possible and healthy for people to prioritize themselves because then they get together because of compatibility.

[@GK222_]

Decentering men = making a man your hobby, not your whole life.

[@mama-nono3652]

I do not think that there are too many people on earth who do not desire a loving partner in their life and the desire for that is natural, and pursuing a healthy relationship is not a violation of some social media girl-code that you have to live up to. The idea of decentering men is not about eliminating a desire for partnerships, it's about not prioritizing a man before all else by doing dumb sh!t -- dropping out of school, giving up you career and personal dreams, isolating yourself from friends and family for him, allowing yourself to be abused in any way, abetting any criminal behavior, lowering your moral standards (if a 3-some ain't your thing, don't do it), being used for YOUR "stuff" --YOUR money, YOUR car, YOUR home, paying HIS bills, giving him access to your business dealings or finances, co-signing his financial obligations, controlling your movements, etc. So, it is OK to seek partnership but don't lose who you are in the bargain.

[@no.6377]

Let the church say AMEN!

[@magnarcreed3801]

Most men won’t meet any of those requirements so yes, you get to pick between having one or centering yourself. Sure you might get lucky.

[@biblethumper8088]

​@magnarcreed3801 agreed. Every man is going to violate those boundaries because their whole purpose is for women to center them. There really isn't a way to be with the average man and decanter them.

[@jaqoncee6670]

True...but I believe that their are more women who no longer desire romantic relationships than you know. For example, my ladies group, no longer desire male companionship. Between Texas and Georgia, our group is almost at 40,000 ladies and growing. Once you associate with like minded ladies, who want to grow and be happy, males are not needed nor wanted.

[@magnarcreed3801]

@@jaqoncee6670 Exactly. Women want companionship and community. What group is this? I’m very interested. Do you do events and hangouts?

[@T_Cup]

The fact that so many women struggle with this question just shows how deep patriarchy goes, because they still confuse being in a loving and fulfilling relationship where both people in the relationship benefit equally with putting a male partner at the centre of your world and always putting him first, with less or no thought to yourself. Those are two different things! Everyone should want fulfilling and loving relationships that are mutually beneficial, whether they're romantic or platonic. That doesn't equate to = everything my man says goes and everything he wants, he gets from me. If you can't maintain your autonomy or identity in a relationship and you know that before going in, because you know that he'll become your everything and you'll disappear, you shouldn't even be considering getting into a relationship, not before you sign up for therapy

[@purplecherub]

Or maybe some women just want relationships with men? Have you ever considered that lesbians exist?

[@purplecherub]

Also why are you making the assumption that women are attracted to men by default and should want male partners?

[@purplecherub]

You also make it seem like women in abusive relationships have the choice to just make the men who abuse them show respect to them..'If you can't maintain your autonomy'..it's up to him to respect her autonomy, it shouldn't fall on her to enforce it.

[@T_Cup]

@@purplecherub My words were clear, but I'll clarify even further: If you are the kind of woman who knows you cannot maintain your autonomy in a relationship - I'm talking about a woman who's not currently in a relationship atm, still following? - then don't get in a relationship without doing some self-work. I'm very obviously not talking about someone who's already in a relationship and in one where they weren't sure of how it would turn out or who they would become in that relationship. Why are you misinterpreting what I say on purpose?

[@T_Cup]

@@purplecherub I'm not, the patriarchy is assuming that, and note that I said "many women" not "all women", which seems like a fair generalization given that 75% or more of the female population have labelled themselves as heterosexual

[@Zikomo7]

Telling someone to decenter men is like telling someone to go vegan. For some people it’s really easy. Others just aren’t built for it

[@blossom1290]

Because they think that means, not being able to have thier goals such as having a loving family and man by thier side🤷‍♀️

[@magnarcreed3801]

Then when all the meat in your market is toxic and bad for you, and you choose to eat it, natural selection will occur.

[@peacefreedom4930]

Another person should not be the center of your world. That’s dysfunctional. Even your children will grow up and go off to build their own lives. If you can not decenter another person, you’re codependent. Codependency is a mental health condition. A lot of women have been conditioned to center others and put themselves last. It’s the conditioning you need to observe so you can see how you’ve been set up to be exploited. Men don’t respect women who center themselves around men. They know that woman is needy, codependent, requires outside validation, can be used. Any woman that isn’t “built “ to center themselves in their own life, should focus on therapy.

[@peacefreedom4930]

You’re living out a movie and you get to write the scenes. Why would you make someone else the star of your show? They are supposed to be a supporting character or co-star if they are even worthy. Centering others makes them the star and you the supporting character. Then you use all your energy, times, resources, labor to support their happiness. Meanwhile you lose yourself, neglect yourself, and get taken advantage of. Wtf? These men remain the main characters in their stories. They haven’t been brainwashed to put a woman first.

[@digimonalvatrax2738]

They'll learn

[@Livingrentfreeinyomind77]

and yet we're supposed to ignore all that when a man says he's a woman

[@LoveK1]

They never want us asking too many probing questions of that group.

[@shaspearman8647]

The center of every person is themself. Once you start to center yourself outside of yourself you become unbalanced. It’s totally an energy thing. It’s not selfish to center yourself, it’s your for your well being.

[@GK222_]

Fun fact: every embryo starts off as female (although they're trying to change that scientific fact now), so in a sense men are our "descendants". Those women who are confused about whether they need a man in their lives or not have been influenced by this patriarchal system that we're all trapped. They designed it in such a way that males gatekeep access to earthly resources. I'm so proud of all the ladies who came before us & fought for us to live like human beings and provide for ourselves. They have us trapped in their system but we're still chipping our way through. Sad thing is, it seems like this patriarchy of theirs is hurting them more than it's hurting us. Men create systems that aren't sustainable because they're driven by an energy that isn't divine - EGO.

[@kc6810]

Who is trying to change that fact and how?

[@GK222_]

@@kc6810 read new scholarly research about embryo development

[@redgoddess]

You absolutely cannot decenter men and be in a relationship with them. Men will not allow you to. Those two ideas do not fit together a man will always need attention, validation etc from you. They will always center their needs. The cognitive dissonance in these comments is amazing. You will lose your relationship if you dont center it and by proxy the man.

[@swvolleyball9137]

Allow. Got it. You don’t have a man, you have a keeper. My husband endured the decentering process and didn’t bat an eye. His mother taught him to take care of himself and his dad taught him to value the woman he marries. If I don’t feel up to cooking after work, I don’t push myself to do it. We communicate and either he cooks or we go out/order in. I started working out and that inspired him to do it as well. Even though we go to the gym together, I work on my program and he does his. We have discussion about domestic tasks and work to split thing fairly. He has taken over the reins for his own healthcare because he agreed that me making his appointments for him was…weird to say the least. There are so many ways that I’ve moved my us and from the center of my focus. It’s easy when you place yourself in the center instead. It’s not impossible because any position that isn’t in the center is in-effect decentered. I’ve been married for 30 years and the last 5 years have been the best years because now we have chosen to center our marriage and family dynamic instead of an individual. Please stop telling people that it’s not possible based on your limited understanding of the concept. A little bit of critical thinking goes a long way.

[@adrianaloborec2205]

No need for gatekeeping. Every person is different, every situation is different. Rather than trying to put people in simple boxes, let them take from this what they need and want.

[@LoveK1]

@@adrianaloborec2205Gatekeeping is absolutely necessary or things lose their meaning. Haven’t you been paying attention?

[@KurosakiLuvar01]

It’s about not OBSSESSING over them and lowering yourself for THEM even while in a relationship. That’s the point. Stop dyck worshipping.

[@michalovesanime]

I dont hate men and Im in a relationship with a man. Ive decentered men. Men outside my relationship exist and they still expect me to cather to their egos. And in my relationship, my partner has CENTERED ME. He is trying to make more money just so I can work less,eventually that I wont need to work. I didnt ask that but he loves me and sees how much stress working brings to me. We have a great relationship, 7 years going strong. We both talk shit about men and he will do it in front of other men😂

[@tinacherry2295]

I feel one way to decentralize men is to have the expectation of open honest communication. Have that be a standard. Have that be so important it's a my way or highway. Because if he can honestly talk about it, talk on it, be open to hearing your thoughts and you willing to be open unbiased to what he is saying. Talk and listen like friends. End the conversation like lovers.

[@catwalkster]

The thumbnail is so funny 😂 The dudes expression with the text: " men realising how useless they are to women " 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Its true. Soo so soooo useless !! 😂

[@BellaVidaMercy]

Great video Maria! 🫶🏾💛 To me, decentering men is about practicing self love and centering God in my life. I think you can be in a relationship and still decenter men. Decentering men is not about misandry or even feminism, it’s about women’s perspective shifting to oneself. I’m happy for women. I praise God for it💗💎🙌🏾 God always values us, when men don’t truly value women we have to seek a higher form of validation. 🙏🏾

[@purplecherub]

I can't take anyone seriously who uses the word 'misandry'. Femicide rates are at an all time high right now. There's no harm in hating men whatsoever. It's their hatred of women (misogyny) that's harmful. You're a pick me girl trying to co-opt a feminist movement for yourself. Also God does not exist.

[@purplecherub]

'De centering'.men was literally brought about by feminism. Why are you so scared of the word feminism?

[@MariaDavids]

i love how you view it. Thank you for sharing

[@VixxKong2]

Can I fight my gambling addiction but still buy lotto tickets?

[@MizMorgue1]

That's a fair analogy for women that feel they HAVE to have a man. Not all women feel that way about relationships, though. Many women and men don't prioritize being in a relationship to be happy and fulfilled.

[@barefootedbougie]

If it's an addiction...no. If now and then you buy a ticket, especially if the money you stand to win is worth buying the ticket - then go for it 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@khrisi9410]

Decentering men isn't one size fits all. I Decentered men by being celibate for 14 yrs because I understood I needed to tend to my inner life and I couldn't do that if I made a man more important than myself. After that journey was over I slowly integrated men into my life but on my terms. My conclusion for myself is I can only take being around men in small doses. I admire women who can be with a man day in and day out but I'm not one of those women. Men aren't healthy enough for me to be around them on a consistent day to day basis thus all my healing work slides back into unhealthy patterns and habits too. Do what you feel is necessary for you to Decenter men and don't worry too much. Decentering men.takes time and is a process that's different for each individual. Decentering men comes with different phases and stages and you learn how to stop resisting and instead embrace it and flow with it.

[@cynthiakila1161]

Princella did these studies years ago

[@80soa]

I mean men date women and do not center them at all so of course it's possible

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Men date to get access to a woman's ressources like her time, which she is supposed to spend to improve something for him. Free xes, free household work, Company because he has no friends

[@crystocious6715]

Comments help the algorithm, which helps spread the word! Men need us, but we don’t need them!!

[@face-in-the-crowd]

She doesn't get it. Decentering men does not mention not wanting to be in a relationship it means that the intentions of your actions are not designed for the male gaze and approval.

[@ayamempress1579]

5:59 this is a necessary stage of decentering men... when their validation isn't a priority to you. I realised I was worried about of a particular type of man would be attracted to me STILL and then learned that men's opinion of me, does nothing positive or negative for me... so YES you can decenter men whilst still wanting a relationship but be ready to learn that the more you decenter men, the less your desire for companionship with them is prevalent. Once you fill up your life with YOU, losing that for a man is not worth it.

[@digimonalvatrax2738]

It's come to a point I've stopped watching series that focuses on girls and women seeking validation and getting with men

[@Leslie-x9x]

Me too😅

[@KLG-sx3zt]

I wish someone would get a list going of the ones to avoid. I don't even have cable, or a TV, or I would.

[@lkeke35]

I've been de-centering men since I hit puberty, and realized I wasn't going to adapt my behavior to attracting and pleasing all the boys I met. I didnt engage in behaviors to capture their attention because I didnt need it. I saw too many girls adapting who they were to please boys before they even got to find out who they were.

[@morganhumphrey5587]

I'm so tired of talking about men honestly it gets old. I guess straight women and bi women keep talking about men. I'm done. Time to start speaking about women and what we can do for eachother

[@77kc_77]

Exactly

[@AIBot929]

Decentering men is about not making your life revolve around men, to stop putting their wants and needs above your own, some women claim to be decentering men when in actuality they are still centering them. You can go on a date, be a passenger be shown around a city by... well anyone, it does not have to be a man, and by thinking only a man can do that for you is centering them. You can experince those things without a man, you have friends and family, lean on them, go to places with them.

[@etoillenoir6169]

I feel the same way. I decenter men but would still like to have a relationship with one. A real relationship though not a fling. I think decentering would help with that since it doesn't give men a free pass to do whatever. You center yourself with your choices and that includes finding a better partner(if one desires one.)

[@MariaDavids]

I love your perspective on decentering men. It's about taking control and knowing what you deserve.

[@Rastaferrari829]

They’re mad a rose can do it right and not their ego 😂

[@KristinaLopezWrites]

That’s Dr. Amen! He has quite a few studies on men and women’s brains using SPECT imaging and contextualizing it in conditioning, physiology, and innate chemistry to help see brain health as mental health for everyone.

[@ragrabbit101]

Decentring men is so much more important for women who are in relationships, it's so frustrating that people don't understand this. At it's core, it means you need to put yourself first and the man/relationship comes second. At the end of the day, in terms of a relationship it's ensuring that your needs/wants don't get shoved aside for a man to the point that you get an autoimmune disease or something else terrible like that Like, do we as women really have such low standards that we can't understand a relationship where our needs are as important as the man's??

[@cuethelights8195]

It seems that the young lady wants a true friend with good sex benefits. She'll find it soon enough. Stay the course 😊

[@jayogee913]

I used to be like this. I lived and breathed to try to please men and get them to like me! I could just cry thinking about how I wasted my youth, time, energy, and peace trying to please people who didn't respect me, care about me, or even hated me! I just recommend to women to focus on yourself, and if a decent man comes along and doesn't make your life worse, then MAYBE give it a chance. Otherwise, keep them at arms' length. Just not worth the bother, honestly.

[@Ganymede_V]

5:35 She is wrong. When you really see xys for what they trully are, you absolutely could care less about their existence let alone their opinions on what they could think about you.

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Next strp: Get rid of Religion.

[@nohanabil9220]

Do you know where I can find the original video, please?

[@tinacherry2295]

This title tells how men need to relearn how to become a "partner" in a relationship. How can I be a partner in this company "marriage/relationship" to help it succeed. That's the mindset they need to start coming from. Let go of the old and embrace the new way of being. We need to learn to move forward and stop looking back at old ways. Let go of old stereotypes.

[@theturnup9671]

I actually think it's possible just not probable, in the sense that everything is possible, but it's not probable because women have a natural tendency to nurture and show their love for their partner by taking care of the person. Initially the woman may go into the relationship thinking that she's decentering men and she won't have the relationship be the center of her world and eventually it may still happen especially if she starts to fall in love. So although i think it's possible to decenter men and still be in a relationship, I think it would be difficult to accomplish just based on how we're wired. To me those are two opposing energies so I would like to see the dynamic of a couple where the woman in the relationship is still claiming that she has decentered men.

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

I think decentering males doesnt mean you have to go cold turkey. I think it takes time. Especially if your eyes have just been opened to what theyvare doing.

[@GreyWardenArlethaVakarian]

I really wish I would be lesbian us women aren't as selfish as men. Every relationship I had revolved around him.

[@manifest2203]

One of your best vidoes.

[@MariaDavids]

Thank you

[@ntombenkosimamani4805]

If you can be single and be center men, you can be in a relationship and not center men.

[@RestingVirgoFace]

I have never centered men and I've been married before. I think woman who center men are weird. Only those Korean women have actually done it,everyone else talk about men way 2 much 4 them 2 actually be decentering them.

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

You sound stupid

[@nephtalie5889]

Clock it

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

But you believe in Astrology?

[@SimoneL-p2x]

I like the way u think.

[@catwalkster]

Does anybody know that guys name? Or has a link or a channel name? Thanks 🙏🏻💋😊

[@kylieking8163]

It’s Maria Davids for me married with a kid and posting all these . Social media isn’t real life

[@mystyyyyy]

I don’t even want their sperm either sis. 😩 I’ll pass on that too.

[@CandlestickTV]

Decentralized for women as well. I agree lol

[@nyashafurayi8402]

Women dont need men, men need women. The feminine has always been the natural leader,protector,provider . The masculine was meant to own ,dominant and possess.

[@AngryVet44]

Melanie Hamlett YT channel talks much about decentering men and deconstructing the patriarchy she married a man who is also deconstructing patriarchy. Decentering men doesn’t mean not being involved with them but being in relationship we easily fall into a relationship where we defer to them or center their feelings instead of focusing on WHAT WE WANT AND WHAT WE NEED. FIND A MAN WHO IS ALSO TRYING TO DECONSTRUCT PATRIARCH AND HEAL HIMSELF by making and having real male friends not football buddies as well as facing his mommy or daddy childhood wounds that he more than likely runs from by abusing drugs and alcohol or getting into extreme sports like rock climbing (Melanie talks about this because she was surrounded by that community of guys as a female rock climber and outdoor enthusiast)

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

I can't stand her dcreaming and her Toddler tantrums. She is extremely immature and has no self control. Plus she brags that she is MARRIED. TO A YOUNGER MAN. What Kind of feminist does that? To me she is just an overcompensating mentally ill old pickme. Can't recommand. But see for yourself

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

SMH I call BS with her question 🙋🏽‍♀️ The REAL reason she’s even asking that question is because she was trying to say she wants 🍆 She’s living in a fairytale fantasy world where most of us have been at some point. Because when you truly reflect and observe, most and I’d say the vast majority of these relationships are not as she describes that she wants and misses . That’s simply not the reality. We can look at data and/or personal relationships and people we know and that’s not their realities . Look at the actual Divorc(e) rates ? That’s just the ones filed , add another 15-20% for those that remain and miserable. Look at those who do divorc(e) why aren’t they rushing for this fairytale lifestyle again? Heck , why are they even leaving this wonderful fairytale lifestyle? If she’s doing all these supposedly things to make her happy, then why isn’t she happy? She should be very happy and fulfilled. The truth is as I stated , she wants 🍆. I’m not saying anything to be negative, because I’m at the point that I support my XX sisters. I just want her to be honest about it. 😳 The rose 🌹 is WONDERFUL, lol

[@efreeholdings1575]

More and more women are finding out what I found out years ago. Women argued with me about needing a man when having children, when we only need them to be the catalyst in reproducing us but as far as fatherhood, it is a gamble. Basing having children on if a man will be there or not is illogical, that in itself is male centered behavior. Does this mean have multi children with various males? No. Does this mean be childless if you want children, no! Women need to focus on creating communities, businesses, etc that focuses on women and children and redesign them to not fit the paradigm of males but of women needs in all areas of life. Create loving mother like, sister like, auntie like, best friend like communities with other women and really be there for one another. Doesn't mean don't have a man if you want one, it just means, he aint the prize and it places him back to understanding he needs to shape up or ship out or you as a woman have the support to move on in confidence with your community of women behind you.

[@missmadelinesadventures3278]

Lesbians have the same problem. It's not a gender thing. Some people are takers and the givers need to keep their boundaries.

[@bizzyg5751]

Decentering men means that your world does not revolve around men. It's the exact opposite. You put something else (hopefully yourself or your passion) at the center of you and your universe. You learn how to value yourself in different ways and do what you want or need to do, as opposed to what you used to do when men (or a man, your man, your son, your father, your brother, your uncle, your grandfather, or your male-centered female relatives) were at the center of your lives and the main voices that influenced you. It does not mean you become a misandrist (but you are free to do so), it does not mean you join the she-woman-man-haters club (once again, do you) or similar movements, it doesn't mean you stop being friends and lovers to the opposite/same sex. To me, it means your inner world and outter world stops being a man's world, and you add a great deal more to it than just a woman's touch. Your world can become more androgynous, or it can become solely feminine, or you can be as masculine as you want. And rather than avoiding things that you like that are 'gender specific' you open up to them and a new way of life.

[@sc-bj2fs]

Centering yourself in your life isn't decent erring men.

[@peachesandpoets]

In a patriarchy, it does

[@MizMorgue1]

Sure it is. You make yourself your life's priority. Any man than may come along is 2nd, that's literally decentering him.

[@Carameldamour]

I thought decentering men meant not to make it your Identity and not necessarily not to want to be in a romantic relationship. Have a rotation my dear.

[@ec9833]

She just sounds like she’s dreaming of a man that isn’t like the majority of men in the world. Doesn’t mean she can’t be or isn’t successful at decentering men. Doesn’t mean she can’t date men while she’s decentering them. It’s about being as picky as it takes to get what she describes in a partner. It’s about understanding the red flags early on and centering herself when she sees them by gtfo of there. It’s ALSO about finding women in your life and making that one of priorities. We need each other far more than we need a man. Her values, herself, her dignity, her happiness, her joy, having a full life that fulfills her, by her own efforts & surrounding herself around loving, strong, intelligent women as the priority that replaced wanting a man all day long…doesn’t mean she can’t date. Just means she and other women come first in her life & until she finds a man that understands how this is what a healthy woman does & how she betters the world, where he supports all of this, she remains single.

[@JezeBellaMorte333]

1 second in and a man says "we're not the same species". 😂 We breed and can be hermaphrodites or intersex, and how bout the ones who have big differences in their brains from others of the same sex? How many different homosapien sapien species are there, then? Anyone know?

[@NiobeNeo]

Soooo women donot know what they want says a man 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@KLG-sx3zt]

😊 🤣

[@fawnieee]

Men just say that because when we tell them what we want, it's not what they want, so they pretend we're confused.

[@adarateranroldan]

❤ Dr amen

[@TRsTake]

Not to judge... but this first video seems super ai altered 😅

[@Ninsidhe]

I’m not going to subscribe or support until you start leaving the names of the women content creators whose work you are profiting from.

[@AG-iu9lv]

Great point. Also why are we stitching this study and not linking to the study & crediting the researchers?

[@elizabethpieters7798]

Nobody is begging you to subscribe. Sit down.

[@Ninsidhe]

@@elizabethpieters7798 How about *learn the principles of SUPPORTING FEMALE CONTENT CREATORS* ? Thank you for outing yourself as someone without a clue- it’s not like it’s hard enough for women BIPOC creators struggling to keep their TT and YT accounts from getting wiped- as Manifestelle says, shut up, no nuance Nellie, take a seat at the front of the class. Learn something.

[@Ninsidhe]

@@AG-iu9lv 👏🏼 It’s like precisely *nothing* has been learned from the movie Hidden Figures and every other instance where the hard work, insight and dedication of women is erased even by other women purporting to be on ‘the side of women’. No. If you’re not crediting the creators, researchers and sources correctly you’re _stealing the hard work and proper credit, including financial, from other women_ . How is this not the EPITOME of colonialist capitalism appropriation? It constantly boggles me.

[@elizabethpieters7798]

1. Lots of women don't know what "Decentering men" truly means and some women just make up their own definitions based on their failed relationships and personal experiences. 2. Decentering men doesn't mean hating men or bashing men. 3. Decentering men means you CAN live, function, be happy and content without man in your life, BUT you CAN still build emotionally healthy romantic relationships with men. 4. Decentering men means you can be in a healthy relationship with a man WITHOUT sacrificing your career, your identity, your goals and your happiness. 5. The same women who decenter men will still ask a male mechanic for help with their car, they will still allow a male policemen, male firefighter or male paramedic to help them in an emergency. They will still allow a male surgeon to operate on them...

[@kc6810]

They are plenty of women who do those things in number 5.

[@purplecherub]

@@elizabethpieters7798 Who are you to decide what it means to a person? It means different things to different people. Your interpretation is the pick me girl interpretation.

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Decentering men is undoing the "you need a romantic relationship" brainwash. Do it and look if you ant to be in a romantic relationship without being Prime.

[@gogetta6532]

You can’t decenter a man while being with one.

[@MacMyaa]

Yes you can because i do.

[@gogetta6532]

@ then it’s not a real relationship, how can you be with someone you don’t care about? or care about seeing ? You can’t decenter a man while being with one. Unless you are just using him, which is fine too. Cuz men will use you until they can’t.

[@MacMyaa]

@gogetta6532 Yes, it is, we've been together since July. I care about him a lot, he's the first person I say good morning to. I can't center anyone, actually, it's not just my boyfriend, I have to center myself if I want to keep him in my life 🥲😅 I've hot mental illness issues and a disability, if I Don't center myself, we wouldn't have been together anymore. I'm not using him, and he's not using me. We're not into gender roles. Btw we're long distance.

[@moniquem1873]

❤❤❤

[@MariaDavids]

Thank you for your support ❤️❤️

[@purplelove3666]

God is not human,not a woman or a man,he is above that, he is the creator

[@kc6810]

It not “he”.

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

It doesn't exist. Religion is childish fiction. Grow up.

[@BlackandBlessed100]

De-center men is the only way and it’s very real 2005 I de-center men When a man tried to live in my new apartment for free And another man tried to mess with my self esteem Those men FAILED In 2005 I loved My 🩷 self more then a man or a relationship Now 2024 My house is paid off I’m rearing up for travel and retirement 🩷 Single Life is Awesome🌟

[@cosmiclight5429]

LADIES THE MALE SHOULD JUST BE A FUN ASSET TO YOUR LIFE......NOT THE CENTER OF YOUR LIFE !!!!!......YOU ARE THE PRIZE THAT HE NEEDS TO KEEP HAPPY . FOCUS ON YOURSELF , LET HIM BE A MAN AND FIGURE OUT HIS OWN LIFE....AND IF HE DESERVES YOUR ENERGY , YOU LET HIM IN FOR A MOMENT , ENJOY WHAT HE HAS TO BRING.....THEN TELL HIM THANK YOU AND REFOCUS BACK ONTO YOURSELF UNTIL THE NEXT TIME YOU WANT A LITTLE MASCULINE ENERGY . DO NOT HELP HIM BUILD HIMSELF UP , DO NOT DO WIFEY THINGS IF YOUR NOT A WIFE....JUST SIT IN YOUR FEMINNINE ENERGY AND DO YOU !!!!!! ........DE---CENTER MEN AND RE---CENTER YOURSELF !!!!!

[@missleadingbunny]

3:07 this will be a weird science fact but men can actually breastfeed. They have done so in the past due to hardships such as famine.

[@kc6810]

Let em at it!

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Disgusting 🏳️‍⚧️ community lies.

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Keep men away from children!!!!! To many PDFs.