MEN'S ANCIENT LIES EXPOSED TO WOMEN| MODERN PROVIDER MEN HATE THEIR WIVES

[@PaperMario64]

I hate listening to these dudes talk. They don’t have a clue about what they want. They say they want a stay at home woman then resent her for staying at home. They say they want 50/50 but that’s dishonest because they don’t actually mean 50/50. They are users BY NATURE. The world tells them exploitation is the natural order of things. It takes retraining and personal growth for them to develop empathy and actually want to work WITH a woman instead of against them.

[@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger]

Beautifully said!

[@TheRealBellaGoth_]

🔥🔥🔥

[@shani.ninety]

Never met a man with any empathy

[@justinebailey5333]

Yes

[@littlecrowders7089]

Exactly

[@bettyeboop2942]

No matter what a woman does, men will complain. Women do what is best for you.

[@samco63]

🎯

[@justinebailey5333]

Right

[@winxclubstellamusa]

Exactly.

[@acquaintedenthralled2705]

2 Timothy 3:1-5 , "But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people."

[@th-ck9vl]

@acquaintedenthralled2705 Why do you just keep spamming bible verses everywhere nobody gives a fuck dude. They are irrelevant to today's day and age and nobody cares about that dusty ass, dwindling religion anymore.

[@MsTery-ul7pw]

They hate their wives because the wives don't put up with their dumb cheating.

[@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger]

And they see right through their excuses and lies.

[@khrisi9410]

Yep some will provide but want to cheat in peace.

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

@@khrisi9410..you ain’t never lied!!

[@AdelTheForsaken]

​@@khrisi9410I hope those ladies are making them literally pay🤑 for their loyalty in return. If I'm being cheated on I'm going to cry out in a Benz, parked in front of a mansion, in my name.

[@samco63]

Yep! 🎯

[@formerlyknownas123]

Or these men can leave women alone...problem is solved.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

They are to co-dependent bums

[@yvonnetaylor-bennett5658]

😂😂😂😂

[@sashkasashkasashkasashka]

But who is gonna do the laundry! 🥴

[@justinebailey5333]

Yassssss

[@sashkasashkasashkasashka]

@@flutatious_music4 Noooo you don't understand!! Women are just SO MUCH BETTER at doing laundry and all the household chores!!! please think of the POOR MENZ 😓😓(this is sarcasm, just in case)

[@anxaxw7546]

These mfs who complain about their wives "disrespecting" them: "I make the money, so I own you, and you have to put up with my BS"

[@acquaintedenthralled2705]

1 Peter 3:7, "Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered."

[@kayjeffs3741]

That's because they're stressed tf out...they don't really want to be providers...they just want a human appliance that they can control...

[@Ourown311]

Well until they let that go, they deserve to be miserable

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

Every man I meet intentionally push my boundaries in order to gain control over me

[@anka6356]

they're down low

[@ladybug3380]

This society forces men to be something they’re not. No wonder they resent women.

[@chuachua-hj9zd]

That’s true

[@artofaries1113]

But when women work and go to school, they still complain. Especially if the woman outearns them.😂

[@tamiausten873]

A very confused bunch 😂😂

[@motchiko904]

Never listen to a man. They don’t know what they want.

[@DaughterOfGod247]

When you’re dealing with people who refuse to look inwards and fix themselves, nothing will make them happy and content

[@genevieveaniko6492]

Facts. They hate women who stay with them and they hate women who leave them alone and don't bother them.... Are the menfolk okay in the mind?

[@justinebailey5333]

Yassssss

[@hsm1908]

This is why my Grandmother, Aunties, and my Mother all warned me and my female cousins by saying: "Never rely on a man for financial stability. Always make your own. Your survival is your responsibility, as is your childrens' if you ever have any. Never give that to a man who will resent you for it later." Needless to say, I'm child-free by choice, making my own money and plan on staying that way~ 💅🏼

[@InternetNonsense]

It's nice when women who have been through all this and that share the wisdom and warnings and look out for you to avoid their less desirable aspects of fate instead of trying to bring new generation into the cult of aligning with a man at any cost and always siding with him to a worshipping degree.

[@nofybn7794]

Exactly!

[@teoleno4019]

Stop birthing these kids. You will thank me later.

[@vikyefre4975]

Same girlie

[@anthonywatson2318]

If you are NOT married, you SHOULD BE CHILD-FREE! Children have the right to have BOTH parents actively involved in their lives, because that gives them the best chances for success in this world. The baby-mamma cycle has destroyed the Black community, along with other problems. Why didn't your Mother, Grandmother, and Aunts teach you how to find a responsible, reliable, decent man to build a successful life with? In all other groups of people, average men and women get married and WORK TOGETHER TO BUILD their goals and dreams. The idea is NOT TO RELY ON A MAN FOR FINANCIAL SUCCESS. The idea is to work together and build it with him! Other groups understand that. Also, you talked about advice that the women in your family gave you and your female cousins, but you said NOTHING about the boys or men in your family. Do you have a father, brothers, uncles, male cousins? I'm very curious to know why you failed to mention the men in your family.

[@ambiebby1636]

Men saying they were conditioned to do anything when it’s them who have set the gender roles over the course of history is wild. They literally chose this life and women had to acquiesce in order to survive.

[@Ourown311]

Right, which is why I laugh at their complaints

[@nofybn7794]

Exactly!

[@samco63]

Right?! They really don’t get it. lol. Narcissistic world. They find any way to dive and slice it to be the victim… of the world THEY created 😅 so smart🥴

[@rengurenge]

​@@Ourown311Who is doing that complaining? Bottom tier men, their opinion never mattered for top tier men who created these patriarchal systems.

[@genevieveaniko6492]

Yes: it's their patriarchy and their world system so why are they mad at women? We don't run the world or societies. They need to start pointing the finger at themselves.. Instead of demanding that women fix their broken system. Nonsense.

[@OItsSasha]

Unemployed/underemployed and 50/50 men hate their wives, too

[@notaytguru8214]

Say that sh*t 🗣️ Just choose to marry the friend who got shot guys….

[@elsa2885]

Thatswhy women should be financially independent

[@SonjaElizabethTeal]

Exactly!

[@OnlyLilynn44]

I used to work with this dude who was married and had 2 kids + 1 on the way (if I remember correctly) I was his “Work wife” but he wasn’t my work husband, it was 100% on sided on his end. One day, we were going home together (we had the same commute) and while we were both waiting for the train, bro tried to kiss me. I backed up and I was like “Dude aren’t you married ? WITH KIDS ?” And he let me know that he didn’t like his wife like that, she looked like an aunty and didn’t have the baddie aesthetic, was a big back and basically talked mad 💩 about his wife. So I asked him “If you hate her so much, why not just divorce ?” Then he told me the same thing everyone in a miserable marriage always say as a justification to stay in a raggedy marriage “The kids” as if the kids were the ones asking for this 💩 I tried to rationalize with him and he let me know that although he hates he had no intention of divorcing. Smh. These men have no conscience.

[@Ourown311]

They have no spine. He made her fat and big back with his sperm and he's mad at her for that? He ruined her appearence

[@AyAReI00]

What does work wife Even mean ????? Why they decide You are worth of that title 😅 We don't have that no sense in My country, if a man told a co worker that they Will look at him like some crazy mofo

[@samij6071]

How sad to waste decades of your life devoted to a man who secretly hates you & disparages you behind your back to people like their co-workers who don't even know you...the pathetic part is that these men confess these things bc the legit believe people- esp women- will feel sorry for them but the absolute tragedy is many times they are correct! will feel

[@saltycat662]

Disgusting. A lot of these men are narcissists. My brother in law is like that. He never liked his wife, just used her for convenience. They've been together for 23 years while he cheated the entire time. They have a son and he uses the kid as a buffer to get away from her. He always talks badly about her behind her back but she clings onto his rear end like a tick. She even lies for him and defends him no matter what he does. Last time I saw him, his eyes were empty and sad. I know he's miserable with her but he'll never leave for two reasons: convenience and status. People believe he's a good husband and father and that makes his reputation look good.

[@HighFrequencyGuru]

They need validation/energy from other women

[@toscadonna]

The work of a woman whether it’s risking her life birthing and raising kids, cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. is NEVER appreciated or recognized by the male. Even when she does all of this and works outside the home, he believes that he did it all. And over 70% of married women work, and 45% of these women are primary breadwinners. So we’re talking about maybe 30% of marriages where the wife stays home, and the husband hates her. But they also hate their wives who work-I lived that.

[@iaf4454]

Exactly

[@acquaintedenthralled2705]

Matthew 6:24 , “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.

[@user-kp3rc4eq8x]

They take credit for the accomplishment of your child, your labour but his name therefor his legacy not yours. Once he stamps his name and you forego your own surname your new identity as his property has been solidified. A slave can't have legacy, this belongs to the owner..

[@th-ck9vl]

@acquaintedenthralled2705 Money is how we survive. Working to live isn't serving money.

[@CorinaGilligan]

​@@th-ck9vltilling the land and growing our own food is how we survive .

[@atomicgeisha]

So men are jealous of the system they created.

[@nikkilong7377]

They are mad because it's crashing and the modern males aren't receiving the benefits grandpa did.

[@SonjaElizabethTeal]

😂😂😂😂❤

[@DolceVita]

Take care of the home and he will hate you. Focus on your career and he will hate you…. The answer really appears to be STAY SINGLE

[@Egh0127]

They hate you when you choose to be single😂they are incapable of being satisfied

[@sadejones6657]

So basically they are undervaluing all the labor it takes to run a house ... Then ask those men how there life fell apart after the divorce.

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

🤌🏽🤌🏽 🤌🏽

[@elsa2885]

Be financially stable don't depend upon men , never be housewife. Bcoz if you are earning your own money and still if your husband hates you then atleast you are not dependent upon him . But if u are dependent upon him and he hates you then ur life will be miserable to be dependent upon someone who hates you . Always be financially independent and marry a man who will contribute in household chores and childcare and even after divorce happens he will take responsibility of his biological kids whether he can take their Custody or give child support for the child . There are many men who abandon their wife and kids and don't take responsibility of their kids and those men disappears and never show their face .

[@genevieveaniko6492]

Do these males know that no one forced them to get or stay married?🥴🥴

[@flutatious_music4]

Right! 💯 it’s a choice. No legislation says you NEED to be in a relationship.

[@tripleairgoddess]

why you marry someone you hate? and stay married when you realize the "infatuation" is gone?

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Because their wives provide

[@dantayhylton9938]

Because he wants the benifits she has or labor

[@Emptytopfloor]

Marriage is a social status

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

Because marriage benefits men rather they like u or not. U still cook,clean,work,give them sex and raise their kids.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

Men who don’t provide ANYTHING hate u too

[@airdnaxela420]

This is the funny part, men are upset that they have to provide for women but won’t live alone. Live with your bros then lol 😂. Like women don’t NEED men, men NEED women though. I’ve worked 70hr weeks in all kinds of weather and never complained. Let a man do that and oh now he feels entitled to a girlfriend cause he’s a “hard worker” and now she needs to be traditional, while also providing 50/50. Like make it make sense?? How tf are you a king when you are working for yourself ?.. I have never felt entitled to a man JUST BECAUSE IM WORKING TO SUPPORT MY DAMN SELF??

[@InternetNonsense]

True that. They'd need to be "hard workers" with or without wives to support themselves. How can that entitle you to anything? And it's not like they're so glad to share fruits of heir labor and compensate stay at home woman's. They don't even want her to stay at home anymore as she should finance her own maid services. THE ENTITLEMENT. Should hard working women also have government mandated wifeys? It seems they only miss some mommy figure when life gets tough, but are allergic to paying back for it like devil with holy water. Just GIMME GIMME GIMME and it better not leave a dent on my wallet. Hiring help is too expensive so let's expect a woman does it for free.

[@nofybn7794]

Exactly!

[@xletragedyx]

They also get mad when they're blue collar and you work in an office and make more. Their job is harder, they work more hours, you're lazy, even though you pay more than 50% and do all the housework and childcare.

[@iaf4454]

We work with cramps, physical pain at least once each month. If you are a working woman he will take advantage of you so that you will end up working inside of the house and outside. These men are clowns

[@acquaintedenthralled2705]

1 Timothy 5:8, "But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."

[@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger]

Avoid resentful and contemptuous men - you must find out this BEFORE YOU MARRY THEM. Once you realize how petty and hateful they are, you will lose all attraction to them. The reason is that once you discover this about them, you wonder in your heart why didn’t they tell you this in private and instead stabbing you in the back with others, it makes you feel they are spineless liars and hypocrites. That’s the nail in the coffin: their hidden misogyny wrecks everything.

[@genevieveaniko6492]

Ugh, petty and hateful is exactly it. It's the biggest turn off in a male. 🤮

[@AyAReI00]

Women need to learn the difference between good men and narcissist men too... Cuz narcissist men do the whole love bombing phase and women think they hit the lotery, the perfect man, until they dude got what he want, and they drop the mask after marriage or kids, when they think women won't leave them.... How MANY stories have we read about how he change after kids 😅

[@LouLouLion]

​@@AyAReI00the patriarchy creates narcs. How could it not? There are very very few men who are not narcissists

[@Zara-pt5xq]

Perfect timing. Beautifully worded. Must dash 😊

[@tp6299]

I dont think these men realize how much work it takes for a woman to stay home and raise children, cook, clean, run and manage a household and all the emotional and mental labour and a thousand other daily tasks Its a known statistical fact that most women who have been in the workforce and also have been stay at home mothers, they mostly all state that stay at home mother is MUCH MUCH HARDER and working away from the home is EASIER I have been on both sides, and I can say with 100% certainty that working 12 hour days 6 days a week is much much easier. And I get paid for it too

[@Ourown311]

They know, they don't appreciate it. Thats why they keep trying to find woman to do it.

[@amysworld5521]

But a women should have enough self worth to not do these things ,most women r pick meshas and Barbara the builder

[@Egh0127]

Yep I worked a bunch of jobs before becoming a stay at home mom now and sometimes I think I'm gonna run away and go crazy or check myself into a hospital bc this job is too much. Managing a home a raising 4 kids is too much for me sometimes and on top of that having to keep a husband happy and satisfy his male needs and clean up after him honestly he makes more mess than the 4 kids do😂it's not funny but yeah working a job is easier by far than being a stay at home mom they take one example of a lazy sahm and run miles with it most sahm are hard working and giving their whole life and soul away to giving her kids and husband what they need and want

[@MsRenaissance]

What these confused men want is for you to go 50/50 on the bills, but make sure when he gets home his meals are cooked, house is clean, kids taken care of so he doesn't have to lift a finger and you must just do all the work and never speak up and give him the free reign to do whatever he wants while you're going half and half on the bills.

[@teoleno4019]

Yea, f that. They can birth their own "legacy".

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

I’ve seen women do this before 50/50 was a conversation and I thought it was so unfair. Seen a husband at home while his wife is at work and when she got home she had to give the baby a bath and clean the house. He did grill some food but he could have taken care of the baby and had a clean home for her

[@biblethumper8088]

Don't forget make less than him so he can still think he's a man.

[@amysworld5521]

They want to cheat in peace

[@Mischa21xo]

I'm sorry, but if I'm in a relationship and I'm paying for my own damn self, going 50/50, I might as well be single. Unless his presence is adding something to my life and he is a genuine person that makes me happy and doesn't bring me drama and arguments, I would never put up with that BS. Also, if someone is 50/50, then that means you can both cook your own meals, do your own laundry, etc. If you are in a 50/50 relationship, you better be asking yourself what does this person really bring to my life? The answer will really tell you if you need to be in that relationship or not.

[@ijustneedausername6742]

Growing up I knew a family from church like this. His wife was a homemaker who gave him three kids. No lululemon or Range Rover, but they did have a beautiful home she took a lot of pride in caring for. She also took great care of herself and her family. Dude was cheating with his assistant, she found out after he started pushing her to go back to work out of the blue. She actually found the letters he’d written his assistant. ✨a man is not a plan✨

[@cruiseny26]

If they provide for you, 100% they resent you. If you provide for them, they resent you. You can’t win Also these guys don’t realize that childcare will cost a whole salary. Would you want your wife raising your children or some stranger raising your kid. I’m a single mom raising my child on my own so I’m not one of these stay at home moms but I understand the situation that a lot of families have to cope with. These men cannot think beyond themselves.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

These males want to rest in their Femininity. Ladies, notice the aggressive anger and hostility PLEASE save yourself and avoid them and their come-ons. 😒😑

[@lgreen9932]

I came here to find at least one person to say this! I was going to say, that the thing that almost all of these guys on this video have in common is that they wouldn’t marry a woman anyway, because they like men! They’re all feminine and seem to be lazy with it!

[@guinealove3744]

Target Teddy actually wants you to believe a man with status would confide in HIM?

[@naediggs4816]

I'll be honest, I don't think it's about rest in their femininity (although many of them are indeed sassy), I think it is more about the growing dissatisfaction and resentment occurring from the system of capitalism, which treats both women and men as disposable. Both of us are trapped

[@yvonnetaylor-bennett5658]

It's funny and sad at the same time.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

@@naediggs4816 It is not about being feminine In behavior but be taken care of and treated like they are the women

[@katherinemcintosh7247]

I worked as a Commercial Diver in the Gulf of Mexico Oilfield for 7 1/2 years. I cannot say how many times I said to a coworker, “why did you marry her?” Not everyone…but I can count on two hands, and can identify by name, out of hundreds of men I worked with, who actually seemed to care about their wives.

[@AyAReI00]

Yes i hate men that nag about their wives when i havent asked .... Dude indont care, why the trauma dump... I ALWAYS tell them to divorce if they hate their situation hahahaha their faces ... The shock and they all Say stupid shit like marriage is struggle but i wouldnt know cuz i'm single .... I sometimes thing this men want is to have an aventure and cheat, they need to lay the ground firts by testing the woman they are talking to... A pick me and a possible affair parner Will contribute to their narrative .... Oh poor You, You need someone who pampers You 😅

[@SacredWomensWisdom]

Then stay single and leave women alone! And when you get old, remember that you chose it! What gets me is the ones doing most of the talking ain't got a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of!

[@alltheravens1873]

Im a flight attendant and pilots often request multi sectors flights in order to stay away from their families as much as possible.

[@sunshinedoesit8272]

Damn shame.. smh

[@sunshinedoesit8272]

Damn shame..smh

[@indigostvr]

I believe this 100%

[@__unwavering]

I'll just provide for myself.

[@justinebailey5333]

Right

[@momentinhistory333]

Me too.

[@__unwavering]

@@momentinhistory333 Fuck yeah. Cheers! I hope you have all kinds of success without anyone holding you back.

[@LouLouLion]

​@@__unwaveringand I hope the same for you and all the women in this comment section.

[@__unwavering]

@@LouLouLion absolutely! 💕

[@footwearisoptional8766]

Wonder how many of these "provider men" who "work 50/60 hours per week" are just doing busy work and dusting their desks so they can avoid their responsibilities at home while playing martyr.

[@samco63]

Also! Some want you to give up your freedoms so they can provide. My ex, we both decided we didn’t want kids - but he was sooo pushy trying to get me to give up my (decent paying) job, sell my car AND sell my apartment! He paid for everything - his choice because he wouldn’t let me pay for dates. But I paid him back through making him Meals when he was home from work; buying the groceries before him, making a huge deal of his bday etc But he hated it! He hated that I didn’t sell my place and my car and give up my career… Sooo… you need to really think twice as a woman too - does he want to provide to feel like he’s useful in the dynamic? Or do s he want to control? Also - newsflash! I’m not a mom and don’t want to be. But being a stay at home mom is stressful And a lot of work! So don’t downplay that. Also in general; women do earn less than men still. You need to consider all Facets and you also need to Consider men’s choices too

[@amysworld5521]

The best choice u made is not having kids as they r burden and society is very brutal with is women

[@Mischa21xo]

Thank God you didn't! I'll be damned before I ever get rid of my vehicle for anyone. As if I'm going to share a damn car with them. hell no! Wtf

[@vladimirazubcekova7727]

if they dont want to be providers then dont. women are okay with working. if not full time then part time. like if you dont wanna provide be with a partner who works and provides too. its that simple. there are plenty of women with careers and job out there. its dumb. they are complaining about something they put themselves into while they didnt have to. 16:00 again, if you dont like it dont do it. eaaasy

[@Love_Crafts_HP]

They got lost in the power fantasy of dominating a woman but grew to hate their pet after it grew boring.

[@rubypayne4965]

They also think the wife doesn't have to do anything. She's working as many hours even when she's in the home. She's doing all domestic labor and childcare. They think only their work is real bc it's paid.

[@nofybn7794]

Yes!

[@teoleno4019]

I can pay 100% of bills and not deal with any men. Modern males are literally useless.

[@xletragedyx]

​@rubypayne4965 "I guess she's good with the kids." ????? She cleans, does laundry, cooks, shops. My husband is great, but he's needed a couple tune-ups. He tells me "omg she's a genius" Hon, I'm the one gone with her all day, teaching cooks, letters, shapes, numbers. I'm talking to her and teaching her all day. My husband hasn't done laundry or bought clothes since we got together, except pretty much right after I gave birth. He's barely stepped foot into a grocery store. He doesn't know where things are in the house. There's times he realizes how much I do. He would never ask what do I do, or what do I spend money on. He's stepped up a lot bc my pregnancy has been a bit difficult and we have a toddler now. He does work hard but he better not dare think he's getting catered to when he comes home. Sometimes I ask him why he doesn't talk to some of the coworkers he used to talk about, if they're still friends, if everything is okay. Usually he's done something to his wife or kids. He naturally distances himself from people like that. If he mentions some guy less and less, it probably means he cheated on his wife.

[@shaolinqueen36]

That's all I ever heard. They either 1. Flirt with their co workers or talk about their affairs or 2. They say horrible things about their wives and kids. This is why I refuse to be with any if them.

[@AVibeCalledYes]

Then they wonder why misandry is on the rise

[@winxclubstellamusa]

“Misandry” is a misogynistic gaslighting, silencing, and minimizing tactic, it doesn’t exist! It’s not “misandristic” to call out how dishonest and dangerous the predator sex is.

[@Sa_m-sam]

Misandry doesn’t hurt anyone and is not dangerous. Misogyny is dangerous.

[@petitmorte2186]

what wives are just spending all their money on frivolous shit? what money?

[@Hopdog230]

Why don’t these men just get a divorce and be single. Problem solved. They can pay the bills for themselves and leave women alone.

[@wintergirll]

@@Hopdog230 there would be nobody to blame their problems on.

[@artbygilik]

Then who’s gonna do their laundry and cooking? They don’t want to do it themselves

[@rebeccawhite9395]

This woman not working? That thought and attitude is EXACTLY the problem. A woman's work either inside the home or outside the home is NEVER done! If she works outside the home, she then has to come home and work inside the home too! You know, we need to just let men have and raise kids in their own and see how they do. Actually we don't have to because there is already a long history of widowers left with young children and they usually do one of three things 1. Remarry as soon as possible so a new wife can raise their kids 2. Send their kids off to a boarding school so others can raise their kids. 3. Farm their kids off on other family members so they can raise their kids. And on some occasions they will even adopt their kids out. So, if men won't and can't raise kids on their own, they should stop hating on women for actually doing what they, themselves are not man enough to do

[@roguecow9632]

I've never met a man who felt who had to pay for me, but I've met men who felt I should pay for them.

[@treshasstarr1513]

They hate their mommas first remember that…mommy issues aunty issues, grandma issues, daddy issues all kinds of issues

[@shonab36]

A man paying all the bills?? Where?? Lies be told.

[@Egh0127]

99.99% of those men talking about hating their wives are the ones who actively pursued their wives to begin with. I'm disgusted by them.

[@lgreen9932]

While I’m a woman that works, and wouldn’t have it any other way, I don’t agree with this sentiment at all from these men.

[@lAuGh2ENJOYLIFE]

What is happening that so many men hate the people they chose to marry? Were they threatened to marry this person or did they willingly chase and then keep and then marry them?????! Why??????? What is that????? And why can’t they be honest about how they feel about these women ???!!!!!!!????

[@Hopdog230]

Alot of men don’t like women outside of bedroom activities. They don’t see women as human beings outside of pleasing them.

[@shortbread445]

I've been the provider for two men (one I've been married to, the other a bf) and they both tested my boundaries like 4 year olds. And were completely dumbfounded when I asked them to leave.

[@WilliamWordsworthWrites]

First man doesn't know what the definition of "patronize" is so his whole video is nonsensical. But how he said it so confidently over and over again hilarious 🤣😂🤣.

[@dblr4931]

That's all I could focus on. I kept saying like going to a restaurant or something. He meant it to be said with short a. I wonder where he learned it lol

[@no.6377]

@@dblr4931 he doesn't mean like going to a restaurant? I thought that's exactly how he meant it😅😅

[@WilliamWordsworthWrites]

@@dblr4931 🤣😂🤣

[@Cjai8518]

These men out here obsessed with Lululemon. I don't think I have ever heard a brand more mentioned in a 20 minute video ever lol.

[@Love_Crafts_HP]

I’m sure if she earns more she’s still doing 90% of the housework and childcare. So, it’s not the same thing.

[@Pho3nixSol]

I don't know if people realize how deep you went with this❤

[@MaryjaneN_]

Thanks a lot, I appreciate it😊.

[@carlismycat]

Guy at 22:05 has wrong friends if aaaalllll the guys he hangs with, hates their wives. Birds of a feather flock together. Bad associations spoil useful habits.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

I don't know man, have you seen the domestic violence stats? I don't think he's lying.

[@hernameisch3rry]

You simply should not be a provider if 1) you cannot afford to provide and 2) you cannot set boundaries concerning your wife’s spending! You should also not seek a woman who doesn’t care about household finances. Seems like these ‘unhappy providers’ are out of their depth and afraid to be firm.

[@rubypayne4965]

They also have this perception that their wives are spending all of the money when she is paying the house payment, bills, going to the grocery store, etc. She might be getting up multiple times a night to tend to an infant, getting up in the am to make sure everyone is fed cleaned up and out the door ready for the day, going shopping, doing laundry, doing whatever errands, if she's lucky she probably should try to take a nap because she may not be able to sleep though the night, going to get kids from school, trying to deal with whatever homework etc, make dinner, clean up, get everyone ready for bed, and that's when her day ends. There could be wives that spend too much but this is really about the men thinking only their contribution means something.

[@hernameisch3rry]

@@rubypayne4965 period!

[@roxydee1452]

Even when I have found myself working in a toxic office environment in a job I struggled to like... I would hear my male managers and senior colleagues unabashedly disparage their (often stay at home) wives... and I realised my life could be a whole lot worse! 😮 It's a lot easier to switch up a job than a spouse, and I wondered if these poor women realised how their men really felt about them. I actually know of a real life story where a woman filed for divorce early in her marriage after her husband's workmate played her a tape recording of him rubbishing her like that. No proof of him cheating or anything, but hearing his disrespectful trash talk about her was deal breaker enough!!

[@besanayan5717]

These men are really good in yapping. Yeah you earn but who is taking care and clean all dirt you left.

[@kristinmeyer489]

6:51 I'm confused. When did the preying on women ever stop?

[@linahrae]

all these men thinking they will buy a house 3 times sooner if their wife works…. sir do you know how much child care ALONE is? and it’s not just provider men. ALL kinds of men hate their wives. atleast the provider husband pays her to be hated.

[@animefan9036]

Gotta love how they almost always have the same excuses 😂. "Buying lulu lemons & Stanley cups", sorry but who's normally cleaning the house, dishes, cooking, taking care of scheduling, taking care of the in-laws, laundry, grocery shopping, organizing, making the house feel like a home(interior designing) ...ect?? Most of those are everyday tasks & always forgotten until the women leave the men & reality sets in, makes them realize how much that woman was doing while that man just complained! Oh wait, they don't even wait long before getting with another woman that'll take care of them & the house again!

[@dirtyprancing5930]

Also, like, why are you marrying a high maintenance woman if you can’t afford her? She didn’t discover lulu lemon after you met, you just weren’t looking for a woman who fit into your lifestyle and now you’re mad at her for being who she always was. Classic case

[@animefan9036]

@@dirtyprancing5930 Right! women don't hide things like that so they would already be aware of her requirements (financial+), men lead with their wallets then complain. Can't call them providers when they hate providing nor have much to provide..

[@jayvander7156]

21:10 "You might be thinking you are getting into a partnership but you are getting into a business contract..." 😅 Great production quality as always, it is a winning recipe. I think you are right about being pragmatic and realistic.

[@kp8972]

I have no idea why people even discuss this when it’s virtually impossible to support a family these days on one income. Why aren’t we discussing issues that actually exist?

[@LouLouLion]

Bc we are discussing them with dishonest men who want to live in a delusion where they have the upper hand in a power dynamic? Maybe..

[@kp8972]

@@LouLouLion Well delusion it certainly is. What are the kids going to eat? Egos? Ridiculous

[@deborahgardner7862]

Dude women do the same thing men do to help provide outside the household, all the things you mentioned applies to them to, providing doesn’t mean taking it back when you’re angry, that is childish and petty, and if your wife is giving you a hard time, maybe the next wife you choose, get to know her, don’t go by looks and you may find someone you love, it’s not rocket science, chose the right partner, not just someone who looks good on your arm.

[@SMtWalkerS]

If the woman is raising a bunch of kids, it's logical to stay home when they are little. But all the moms in my family also had an income stream, a part-time job or small sales. Then they went back to work when the kids got old enough. Who can afford to do this kind of lifestyle, anyway, where the man is providing a luxury lifestyle? I don't see it in my circle of friends and relatives. We are working class, lower middle class, and middle class. Marriage serves as a partnership, to raise kids and attain financial security.

[@rubypayne4965]

Yes and 50/50 partnership is not when both work full time but the woman still crams all the shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare, errands and appointments into the early morning hours or in the evening after working all day. The traditional arrangement was only ever a luxury lifestyle for the wealthy who had maids- being a homemaker is better than a full time job when there are children. It was not a luxury to have or to be a homemaker with that much to do. If both have to work then both will need to do something at home and with the kids. One might work more and one might do more at home. But a lot of 50/50 minded guys are not aware of what they are asking for. In a partnership you don't get a wife appliance. You get a divorce if you fail to be a partner.

[@SMtWalkerS]

@@rubypayne4965 I agree absolutely.

[@ChiefCreativee]

Everyone just wants to be free. No one wants to lose their time for someone else.

[@sunshinexoxo3052]

I think the millenials had kids so young that the 2000s babies are like woooaah hold up! Lol. Im 32 with no children and it's really given me so much time so sit back observe closely and decide wisely. My little cousin is 26 with a 5 and 8 year old.

[@teoleno4019]

I'm 32 and childfree. I only know some people who married in their early 20s and now in their 30s they all are divorced single parents. I never wanted being tied to these dusties. From early age I observed my gen x aunts being treated like ish by males, made me not want to be with them.

[@chaos-ku4vw]

Im 40 (born in 1984) single (since 2008) and child free and going through menopause as we speak. Youre generalising generations too much and its an incorrect assumption.

[@samij6071]

Sounds like these "provider men" shoulda chose better 😉

[@InaStanley83]

What a lot of these men are neglecting to say is that they WANT trad wives. They literally do everything they can to change working, independent women into trad wives. Sure there are some women who come into relationships saying they don't expect to have to work. But in that case men need to take their own advice and CHOOSE BETTER. That's what they tell us all the time, right? 🙄 If a woman says in the beginning that she doesn't want to work or that she shouldn't have to, and the man says he's cool with that and both of them are on the same page about the dynamic of the relationship they're getting into, then it doesn't make sense for him to be mad that she's spending all of his money later on after they've gotten married. You knew what it was and said you were good with it. 🤷🏾‍♀️ But on the flip side, there are lots of men who see "taming" an independent woman as a goal. She's working or running a business when they meet, has her own car, own place, own bank account and credit cards etc. and the man actively tries to convince her to let go of that independence because he wants her, but he wants a subservient version of her. Some of these men will make a project of getting a "high-value" woman to give up her independence and things she loves to become a trophy housewife and baby factory that he can control and brag about (similar to what we've seen with Ballerina Farm whether she wants to admit it or not). Those same men will then turn around and be all up in these conversations about hating their wives even though they WANTED this and LITERALLY CREATED the situation they claim to hate so much. My thing is, men need to be honest from the start and women need to believe what they say AND read between the lines. If they talk about wanting a trad wife, being traditional and wanting a woman with "traditional values," then the translation is they want a beauty pageant servant who will do whatever she's told and completely take care of the household so he can brag about how good he has it, but also a woman who never asks for anything that would cause him to spend money he doesn't want to spend. He might occasionally spend money willingly on her upkeep (hair, nails, clothes, fitness, makeup etc.) because that benefits him (he gets to show off a trophy wife that always looks amazing and in turn ups his value and status), but he's unlikely to spend money on things that are purely for her happiness or enjoyment and have no real benefit to him. Understand that you're not going to be a priority in that situation, ever. Not only that, but letting go of your independence for ANYONE puts you in an unnecessarily vulnerable situation where your safety and life may eventually be at risk (see videos about the trad husband to family annihilator pipeline). Men who secretly hate their wives like this, even if they are the ones who created and perpetuated the situation, aren't too many steps from unaliving the family that they now feel is holding them back. Men like this also tend to feel like they are the smartest people in the room and like they can easily get away with unaliving their families or that society will choose to protect them rather than punish them. I think marriage has the potential to be a beautiful thing when both partners are on the same page and respect and value each other, and despite the rhetoric on both sides of the debate these kinds of marriages do exist. But I also think the number of folks who would honestly respect and value their partners like this is few and far between, and we're far more likely to come across the narcissists and pretend providers and man-children who haven't done the work to build emotional intelligence and resilience and who don't know what real love or compassion or equity in a relationship is. Understand that and move accordingly. And be safe, it's a lot more dangerous out here than a lot of us realize.

[@smileyglitter852]

That young man talking about generational wealth is speaking facts...

[@raytshia1843]

Sounds like Weak selfish Men. My Dad wasn’t like this. He likes shopping and buying & providing for his family.

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

Ladies...men have been doing this for DECADES...it is NOT new....

[@alexandralee8889]

Thank you soooooo much for these videos, Sis ! 🙏🏽

[@MaryjaneN_]

I am glad you like it. Thanks for your support.

[@xxwoman]

Men: we’re working all day and providing everything Women: (literally raising his offspring and getting room and board)

[@YouTubeUzername]

Lululemon and Stanley cups 😂😂😂

[@justinebailey5333]

I dont believe these men. 🖤Men are such 🤡 for all these talking points

[@xletragedyx]

Sorry but no one wears lululemon and drives range rovers anymore. Are these videos from 2010?

[@thrill102]

People have a problem being honest. Period. People are too cowardly to say what they feel and face the consequences for their actions. Men and women do this. If you don’t love someone DONT marry them. People marry people just because it’s “expected”. Stop stringing people along for YEARS when you know deep down you don’t really love them. Stop USING people for food and shelter when deep down you know you don’t want to be with them.

[@Love_Crafts_HP]

@@thrill102 But proving food and shelter has been all the ‘love’ men had to offer for centuries lol

[@endoplasmatischesretikulum4999]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@blondebeaker938]

As a woman that works manufacturing... I can tell you this is true...the first video is correct

[@mireyar2040]

They want you to work and come home to finish all the home duties. How is that right?

[@elsa2885]

Be financially stable don't depend upon men , never be housewife. Bcoz if you are earning your own money and still if your husband hates you then atleast you are not dependent upon him . But if u are dependent upon him and he hates you then ur life will be miserable to be dependent upon someone who hates you . Always be financially independent and marry a man who will contribute in household chores and childcare and even after divorce happens he will take responsibility of his biological kids whether he can take their Custody or give child support for the child . There are many men who abandon their wife and kids and don't take responsibility of their kids and those men disappears and never show their face .

[@ufos-cos]

No man has given me anything 😂😂😂 I don’t need your money, what else you bring to the table 🙌

[@RuthlessAries_QueenofSwords]

14:48 very true. That is how many people end up in abusive relationship because they are fully dependent on the man financially.

[@LouLouLion]

Yeap, and a man who is in a position to abuse his power...will! Their whole attitude towards you changes when you are dependent vs independent. Men will do whatever they can get away with! They lack integrity which is why I'm done with them completely.

[@OneLindaCarter]

It makes me wonder if these men like to have 3,4,5,6 or more kids so close together because they want to create more labor for the woman because they feel like she’s home doing nothing with 1 to 2 kids. 🤔

[@jerriwells]

Honestly most women I know have to work. They have too..Even if they take on a part time at home job they still helping the husband provide. What is the true percentage of stay home wives? Probably about 20%.That's what men are mad about..Women out here making money and grinding..They have too😢

[@morghana3775]

Once I earned my bachelors I always made more money then the men I dated, and they still expected I do all the house work. I am so much happier that I don't have a man around. If my house is messy, it's on me. If I want to go out to eat whatever, I don't have to worry about what someone else wants. My success are mine, my failures are mine and I don't have to answer to no one but myself.

[@merlot4837]

These very conversations mean the culture is trash. Grown men who don't even value women, scary world!

[@catorce9027]

If you work, they hate you. If you don’t work, they hate you. If you take care of them and the home, you’re not giving them enough attention. If you don’t, you’re a bad homemaker. At this point, the goalpost will continue to move, but women are no longer playing.

[@piinkz30]

These dudes are so freakin lame...their mindsets are terribly flawed

[@phoenixsubliminals]

Thank you so much for making these videos

[@raliyaxsomo]

this is facts, when i worked at Target as an assistant store manager the store manager would literally complain about how his wife spends all his $$ and you could tell he just couldn’t stand her 🤦🏽‍♀️ they want the benefits but are ungrateful for their wives contributions till she’s gone.

[@Egh0127]

3:32 so he's basically saying that if you're a stay at home mom and he pays all the bills then you have to let him abuse you . Hm okay

[@AD-id9cp]

Y is it always these young guys trying to give relationship advice? None of them have been in a long term relationships (10 years or more). We really need to stop listening to them and stop generalized ppl bc there's good men and women out there these just ain't it.

[@ИраКобец-п4р]

I completely disagree wit your opinion.These men should stop complaining .why do they get married ?On top of that it's been several.decades since women started to wprk and bring money to the family

[@littlecrowders7089]

What I hate the most is the complete ignorance of how much labour ... free labour goes into raising children. Damned if you do damned if you don't. The men don't help at all with raising the children. That leaves so little options for a mother to be wealthy except she has a considerable amount of help eg her own mother . I actually support the white guy that said you could be setting yourself up to rely on a man. It's true I agree with him it's very risky. I had a business before children and had to stop cos I couldn't do it all . Took time to raise two kids . They're 7/8 . There's only little hours left to be wealthy. I wish men like this just didn't get married and left women alone. They don't see how hard it is for women ! I personally hate spending as anyone's money. My friends and I love having at least a part time job . But it's hard !!! I hate the whole idea of what marriages are now . Why are men so arrogant

[@MagickMix]

I’m a believer in the 4B and 4G movements. Y’all stay by yourselves, we’ll stay by ourselves and let humanity die out.

[@Doridoesthings]

Lol a man will never have the privilege of paying my phone bill. Made that mistake in my 20s. He would get mad and suspend my phone. Not again sis. 😂

[@beverlyhouston9574]

I worked for a company where I went into the management office and I believe he was having a bad day cause he said out loud that if I’m paying all the bills and you’re a stay at home wife why can’t you put a few loads of clothes in the damn washer I work 12-14hrs a day got to go home and bath the kids and clean when she home all day, some days she in the bedroom and don’t want to be bothered and he can’t come in the room so he has to do everything for the kids she says she tired I responded you teach people how to treat you and left his office the way he looked at me I know he didn’t mean to say that out loud I started to tell my co-workers what he said but I kept it to my self that was about 15yrs ago I figured something wasn’t right when you’re married and you have one picture of him and his bride on his desk where is the picture of his kids there wasn’t any I felt sorry for him . I’ve thought about him every now and then if that marriage lasted some workers stated that at the company party she would come ,wouldn’t speak to nobody.

[@phoenixsubliminals]

Learning so much 💯💯

[@nikkilong7377]

Its funny they all talk like they have all been providers.

[@muadhnate]

Patriarchy made the expectation. They went out to achieve it and they realize that they never wanted that life in the first place. Two solutions: get rid of patriarchy or expend tona of energy bending women to your will. Of course, they'll choose the latter because the narrative of the superior man matters more to their ego than their quality of life.

[@LuhRen]

It's crazy when brother in the beginning talked about working a blue collar job where the men take care of everything. I'm a woman and i immediately thought of one of my coworkers. He legits breaks his entire back everyday to be a good husband and provider but he NEVER has anything positive to say about his wife. Imo men think they need to do EVERYTHING in the relationship when that's not realistic at all. A partner should only have to take on sole responsibility for providing if the other partner cannot do so for a season it's temporary not forever

[@tmoneymama9480]

And that's why a woman should have her own, so she won't have to deal with any man's ego and foolishness.

[@alicianieto2822]

A big part of the issue is wealth gap. A man in the 50s working full time in a blue collar job earned enough to easily support 4 people, have disposable income for leisure, own a house, have vacations, and save enough to pass down wealth; that was a life, what they get now is nothing but misery. That embitters anyone. They hate the misery of current worker, not their wives, they just think that if their wives worked they would not be as miserable and would have the ability to enjoy SOME of their time. They don't understand all the extra cost that them working would bring to the household means that they would all be in the exact same miserable situation anyway

[@samij6071]

If they resent being the only working partner this much then explain to me WHY it is the MEN who request - if not outright DEMAND - that their female parter quits her job/stays home ESP once they get married? 9/10 times @ least IME it is the man -not to woman- who let this idealized version of 1950's gender roles poison their ideas abt what a "good" relationship/marriage looks like (partially bc none of them bother to listen to women's opinions on the matter) & then they let animosity fester & eventually turn to hatred of their wife whose only "crime" was giving them exactly what they asked for!

[@BVEE-j3q]

i think real men do like to provide but most are doing it because they have to, to get what they want but they don't want, unless its the chick they really want

[@Loaf0fBread]

They all have the same talking points, like those annoying adds that want to look legit, so they have different people saying the exact same script. I feel like they tell themselves these things to make it easier to exploit their partner for free labor.