Men's Loneliness Epidemic and Women's Role: Hint (Match their Energy)

Explore the pressing issue of men's loneliness in today's society and the vital role women play in addressing it. This discussion sheds light on the emotional challenges men face, the societal expectations surrounding masculinity, and how fostering genuine connections can combat isolation. Discover actionable insights on how women can match the energy of their male counterparts, creating a supportive environment that encourages open dialogue and emotional intimacy.
#MensLoneliness #MentalHealthAwareness #WomensRole #EmotionalIntelligence #ConnectionMatters #BreakTheStigma #MatchTheirEnergy #SupportEachOther #HealthyRelationships #LonelinessEpidemic #EmpathyInAction #SocietalChange #EmotionalSupport #MenAndWomenTogether #CommunityBuilding #malelonelinessepidemic

[@joyfra3549]

The loneliness epidemic for men is mainly self inflected. Next topic to discuss.

[@sunkissedn71]

🎯

[@t.f.6297]

Yup!

[@Richgurlz]

It's 100% self inflicted. They've literally killed the majority of good women who actually wanted them. And the women who survived are supposed to run to them for the exact same faith 😂 they're psychopaths

[@StuartLedman]

Absolutely!

[@dezinechic]

so ladies are we sticking with gel x nails for 2025 or moving on moreso to high end press ons?

[@Theantinarc]

As if every single women haven't been desperate to help and save at least one man in their lives. Men don't listen to us, we've been trying for all of humanity. He's not asking for women's support, he's asking for mommy and he's feeling sorry for himself without looking for a reason and a solution.

[@cbc-h5g]

Exactly!!! 😂😂😂 I want to scream about it on top of my lungs, but why? Because I was experienced it, I'll give u lil story. With my ex a n y t h y n g I would tell him would dismissed, but if the same fking thing would have been saying by some (even random) dude - HE WOULD LISTEN HIM with open mouth and admiration like wow u r so right dude that's genius etc 😂 I am done with all of them seriously. This problem is deeper than just u can imagine. They simply don't take seriously wmn. They just don't. I wash my hands at this point.

[@SoramimiKeiki]

Right. You can not help them. I have tried and EVERY SINGLE TIME they will screech in your face how "no women have to tell me a thing", but then get mad when women don't do stuff for them. That is pure mental illness.

[@solisa1656]

💯 I had the same thought! We’ve been trying to help men since forever! In general, they don’t give us the time of day. You know, the “constant nagging” that’s complained about???? That’s women trying to get men into alignment and then are just brushed off. I will say that I’m glad to see them at least bring up the topic. It took the “wife appliances” shutting down to figure out that something was amiss.

[@tracys3096]

Completely agree. Men's issue are often at the forefront of women's minds. It's men who don't take their self development seriously.

[@wies651]

Amen🙌

[@Bila2718]

Growing up in the church, I always heard that women shouldn’t lead men, so let them continue to lead each other. It’s up to them where that leadership will bring them.

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

Yes, all day long! I'm minding my single woman business!

[@Marvellesque]

I love it😂

[@Bila2718]

@ lol 😂😂😂, thank you.

[@GodsDaughter444]

THIIIIIIIIIIIIIS

[@cathybutcher4826]

The leaders sure are confused and wandering.

[@tabbycatcrume]

If I asked for a job to help with their crisis I’d get accused of being a DEI hire, so I guess I’ll just keep minding my own business

[@pinkpugginz]

👏👏👏

[@islandgirl8067]

😂😂😂

[@almamater9346]

Lol this comment 🤣...not a single lie told though 💯

[@Sophine]

😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@caseyjude5472]

Yessssssss exactly!

[@rosethorne9155]

Nobody's ignoring men's issues. Their issues are literally what the world is built around. We can't STOP thinking about their issues. The problem is that we can't fix their lives for them, and they won't listen to our advice or solutions, NOR will most of them help EACH OTHER.

[@desiree2086]

They still make their issues our issues constantly. The only difference now is less women are available to function as a punching bag for them.

[@sweetdreams3119]

THEY created the systems that serve THEm and now they're upset. Won't let us join to help but prefer to talk over and blame US. We won't meet their violence or their ugly energy. Nope, No thank you.

[@kathiaserrano7740]

Exactly! When they start caring about each other, then we can move forward.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

My grandmother apparently did everything for my grandpa and now she's dead and left us a mess the man can't take care of himself.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

Moral of the story, don't help men cuz you'll end up dying first

[@soniaoliveira8207]

They call themselves leaders so I'll defer to their leadership to figure out "m3ns" issues. They say trust us we know what we're doing. I trust you bro carry on.

[@vkat9762]

*strokes her cat *leans into the 🐻 Lead on, leader!

[@belle8i]

I live near a preschool and I was walking my dog today at the time when the parents were picking up their kids. While the parents were chatting (a mix of moms and dads, but mostly dads) a little boy yelled out to his friends to come and get a hug and all the little boys (no girls were around at the time) ran to get a group hug. It was so precious and made me smile, but I thought to myself that they’ll probably lose that because they’ll be told that it’s gay or something along those lines. That tells me that boys will naturally care for each other and show each other love and affection until some dummy comes along and destroys that closeness. They are so young and innocent and you know that there is nothing sexual about those little boys hugging because they’re too young to even know what that is. I feel sad for men who have that beaten out of them. My husband was raised by his gentle grandparents (his bio parents abandoned him which is a blessing because his bio dad was a monster), so he doesn’t have a problem being loving and being vulnerable with me emotionally.

[@destroyraiden]

in the medieval era a famous knight wrote a book about PTSD and yes he advocated for males to comfort one another, be their therapist, ect it swepted through the European continent and it was about care, love, connection it both saved lives and improved them both in and outside the barracks. I bet the ye old advice hasn't changed when it comes to men they claim to be simple yet they refuse to get help in the modern era and once again the medieval ages shows up the modern ways of things.

[@caseyminett7394]

That's exactly it. ❤ Sometimes what seems like a burden ends up being our greatest blessing.

[@FollowmedowntheNumberWhole]

@@destroyraiden wow that’s fascinating. What’s the name of the book? I would love to check it out.

[@Passions5555]

​@@destroyraidenwho was this famous knight? I'm intrigued.

[@krodork]

I have a coworker who explained her son is super affectionate (unlike her ig) and started saying to his friends he loves them. She said she "had" to tell him to stop in case they interpreted the wrong way... Rather than just explaining to him that its okay and to just be careful because some people dont interpret it in the innocent way he does. Made me very sad to hear she was trying to actively mute his emotional expressions out of fear of him being perceived gay or smth. :

[@MaryintheMiddle118]

Your comment about men’s issues being linked to the patriarchy is 100% correct. It doesn’t take strong deductive reasoning skills to see how the conversation lead by women and directed to men about how to dismantle the patriarchy will go. We have enough real world social media cases to see this would be a futile effort. The guys solution for women to step up is ridiculous because the men who need this support aren’t the ones who are going to be willing to get help from women. Men need to fix the problems men face without the solution infringing on the rights of others, because in there eyes, men only succeed when women fail.

[@AbeerM-sd2fq]

Men have put themselves in the box.

[@leluseven]

Im fighting to be seen as a person. Men's issues are being lonely. Which is more important? My personhood or his feelings? If you have trouble answering my personhood, then you are part of the problem.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

What even is personhood? Both sound like issues people can solve for themselves by changing how they choose to think

[@arabellasterwerf7980]

​@banquetoftheleviathan1404 Personhood means being seen by people as a person, especially by society and the laws. Yeah, many men don't recognize women's personhood and even work to strip our rights away as women. That is a huge issue and can't just be solved by one person. It is a systemic issue. It's institutional oppression and ideological oppression. So again, this can't be just solved by the individual.

[@PurpleMoonStorm]

​@@banquetoftheleviathan1404the difference is the laws being changed and males dominating in leadership advocating for laws that deny that personhood.

[@ssoomee]

The question is much simpler: why aren’t men BETTER TO EACH OTHER? Once they can figure that out then they can have the audacity to dare to ask us women about getting help for men. 🙄

[@Rice10120]

Don't ask me nothing. I don't even want to hear it. Let them figure it out.

[@visigoda]

The worse part is when the issue is addressed and/or shown, people just brush it off as _but that's just TV, not real life, etc._ This TV sketch also shows another facet of the male loneliness. kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJLUdqqVl7KrmtEsi=vJ5EmEga__xyirJw

[@AVibeCalledYes]

Exactly. They are terrible to each other and then expect women to be the soft cushion that they can jump and pounce on. Nah, my guy. Get someone else to do it 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@seiSnows]

They want women to do yet more labor for them. 😒

[@bodhisattva2348]

they can't be good to a woman can't even do it for themselves.

[@beardpapa12]

Why can't they just advocate for themselves without radiating anger/jealousy that women's issues gets a measly bit of attention/advocacy? Women have worked very hard to push their issues because they know that won't get help from men. Also, as pointed out, patriarchy is a setup made by men for men and if they're still failing, then men need to look way harder at the very structure THEY CREATED and stop blindly upholding it. As an aside, I find it kinda interesting that men almost always pushes going to the gym. I mean going to gym can make you feel better but real therapy would do a lot more to fix things. Just pumping weights and running on the treadmill can only fix so much.

[@unicorn73212]

Yeah a lot of it requires therapy and medication sometimes I'm not even sure if they believe their own lies they just feel a need to make up shit that's not happening to provoke an argument because if they know they can't get a reaction out of women nobody will notice them. It has something to do with their egos and how society conditions them to be jerks. In some ways I can relate to them because many of them are sexually frustrated and their parents conditioned them to be lazy and codependent on women to lift them up. A lot of times they over think and they hear a lot of voices in there head that holds them back from finding a job. Some of them really can't work a 9-5 because of that because there tempers are so high that it could cause them to go postal even if they become a Walmart greeter or they just cleaned floors at night there's not much they can do and when people don't help them that's how they become lonley. A lot of times even if you offer them assistsance, references to rehabs for men or shelters they get really offended when women try to help them. Nothing we did was ever enough I'm not sure why they always play the victim like though because it wasn't men that were enslaved it was women. Modern day men were never forced to work for free with no paycheck. It definitely is more difficult to rehabilitate men because they're stubborn society told them they had to be leaders and that they couldn't cry or express themselves so it makes it hard on them to function it's not really an excuse but they're tempers are so high and that's why women are still forced to this day to put up with all these double standard because men want to be judged differently then women it's so weird.

[@elipotter369]

Very well said. And men who rely too much on exercise to cope with life are heading for serious difficulties once they physically can't keep it up.

[@BellMeOut]

I wish I cld give this ALL the likes

[@kathiaserrano7740]

I agree as a gym goer myself. You can lift weights and run all day, but you can’t outrun yourself.

[@truthhurts...6574]

When women were advocating about our issues a lot of men were on the sidelines making fun of us, saying our issues were made up, or that we were mentally unstable. Now look at them now struggling.

[@Emptytopfloor]

I’m not a fan of male friendships. Because I have seen men bond over misogyny way too often.

[@petraullmann389]

💯 true

[@eeyorehaferbock7870]

As a man myself, I’ve often had a hard time relating to other guys because of how emotionally shallow a lot of them are. Trust me, it’s not just women who get turned off by such things.

[@Chariots1981]

@@eeyorehaferbock7870 Shallow is exactly right. The only men of depth I've ever met and been friends for have been gay.

[@seiSnows]

You know, that's why I think men don't have real friends. They have a pack ranking/hierarchy. Why? Because with scarce exception, I've not seen men bring each other soup when sick, drive each other to chemo, babysit their bros kids, go on lunch dates, or go shopping together etc. Drinking and talking crap about women don't really facilitate that soul deep bonding women do.

[@quantumangel737]

Very often, misogyny is the only thing that unites them.

[@martibee8984]

He's not seeing things from women's perspectives. Women have been trying to support men in positive changes since forever, but they refuse to listen to us. Now it's up to men to get the ball rolling. If they can make enough progress then maybe some more women will choose to give them support and assistance again. Otherwise unless you're my child it's not my responsibility. Women are responsible for doing the work for ourselves, and they've fought against it the entire time. If we can manage it while battling with them they should be able to manage it even easier. The only people in their way is themselves.

[@sabrinamystified]

Exactly. They're literally self- sabotaging themselves and calling it male loneliness epidemic 😂

[@marys2406]

Men don't even like the women who help them. Men only value attractive women until they reject him.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

It's a codependent model in the first place. People need to fix what's wrong with them that makes then unable to experience joy alone. All those types do in relationships is spread misery.

[@martibee8984]

@@banquetoftheleviathan1404 I think we're indoctrinated into thinking we're supposed to get our joy from a partner not ourselves. Pretty much any romantic entertainment frames being single as a lonely, unfulfilled existence, and falling in love brings the ultimate happiness. It leads to a belief that our partners are supposed to be our source of joy, and there's nothing we can do about our happiness without them. Then we get into relationships, don't feel fulfilled/happy all the time, and wonder why our partner is failing us. Obviously that's just a fraction of the issue with relationships. It's so detrimental to the success of the relationship as well. That mindset will end a relationship eventually even if it was otherwise a healthy one.

[@islandgirl8067]

Not our problem. It's up to them to figure out how to solve their loneliness crisis.

[@fdm2155]

Yeah, if you behave like less of a jerk, loneliness would probably be less of an issue! Just a thought. 🙄

[@MarySSpeer]

Men have been making the rules for centuries, and the rest of us had to adjust to those rules. Now it is their turn to adjust, and the men are so rigid about being the ‘leaders’ of society that they cannot/will not adjust to these societal changes. Good luck, guys. Get your act together.

[@juliejay5436]

Meanwhile, some of us are wishing we were left the F alone! 😂

[@Emptytopfloor]

I can’t relate to men’s issues. I’m completely apathetic. The issues sound unserious and sometimes trolling to me. Does anyone else feel this way?

[@petraullmann389]

I think they only act good, pretend to be victims of loneliness and once they are in a relationship they act the fool in no time again, then their girlfriend leaves them and they never get why and start whining over being lonely again 🙄 pathetic fools

[@beardpapa12]

It's just that women's problems tend to be worse overall on an order of magnitude or more. It's the whole "men fear being laughed at while women fear being unalived."

[@elipotter369]

Yes, I'm all out of patience for men whining about issues that are less serious and often brought on by their own bad behaviours and failure to reflect or learn new skills.

[@visigoda]

Not at all. I do, *however,* feel a mix of disappointment and _schadenfreude._ Why? For a group of people (collectively) who like to brag about _building human civilization,_ they're certainly crumbling civilization instead.

[@Winonacello]

They're just crying because women are finally choosing better.

[@Candy-ju1ml]

I’d like to see more men helping men with loneliness. As long as the solution isn’t coming together making a group chat of thousands of them swapping tips on how to cure said loneliness by 🍇ing women and children 👍

[@Candy-ju1ml]

Oh wait… too late

[@Kotifilosofi]

1:35 "When more men are thriving, more women are gonna thrive and vice versa". His first point... I know many men who are thriving by the expense of the women in their lives, so this doesn't seem to be true.

[@leluseven]

Yeah I laughed at that. Most of history is men thriving at women's expense.

[@rtphotos4691]

You're right it isn't true. He's hi-jacking an old quote from feminists which is verified by evidence. "When women thrive, everyone thrives." Why? Because in matriarchal cultures, egalitarianism and entire communities supported each other. In patriarchal cultures, we get wars, competitions, child abuse, and subjugation of half the world's population. Men believe that if women thrive, men lose because their default is to be unnecessarily competitive. Women thriving does not rely on men being subjugated. Do they even know what it means to thrive without relying on women's free emotional and physical labour? Women can do it and always have.

[@louhortonsculpture]

Yes

[@ddanielsmc]

I agree with you that many women aren't thriving. However, if you look at the low levels of academic attainment of men in some countries it is far lower than women. This correlates with health outcomes too. I see this as a growing problem and it's not something that's contained with men and will impact wider society.

[@TimelessErsy]

Haven't men been thriving for millennia? Has it ever trickled down to women? Did they pass on the freedom so we could also partake at the table and be served by them in return??? Why are they crashing now that we enjoy a fraction of the freedoms they have always enjoyed????

[@creativelife9871]

I truly hope that men can figure it out on a massive scale. Not only will their lives be better but so will the lives of the women around them. Once they figure out that the labor is on them, they’ll get it. I am so happy and blessed to be a woman. We tend to be more open within friendships, hugging, saying, “I love you”, taking trips or just chilling & chatting together seems more effortless. As a black woman, we gas each other up and I love it for us.

[@KossolaxtheForesworn]

since they are such logical leaders, Im sure they can come up with a solution.

[@margaretanderson6924]

Barbie, you've built our trust. 💯 We know you handle these topics appropriately, with compassion and grace.🌷

[@BurbNBougie]

I appreciate that

[@bluebutterfly5684]

“We need help with our self-inflicted feelings, isolation and loneliness,” is all I heard. Wishing you guys the best.

[@strawbraryliberry4604]

It's kind of rude for men to ignore and shame women & feminism, fail to recognize our humanity, and turn around and act like its our job to recognize their feelings. I mean, I do with men in my life. But it feels like a trick. They act like we should be helping them with issues patriarchy caused them, but they never seem to spend any time actually talking about our issues. We really are matching their energy by not spending time on their stuff.

[@ddanielsmc]

It's because they don't understand it. It's only more recently I'd come across the term patriarchy. I'm not from the USA. I believe this is taught in some parts of your education system however, for many of us it's quite new. Some have never heard of it.

[@ccleavemebe4790]

@@ddanielsmcoh puhlease men are not feeble minded creatures that don’t understand stuff they know what it is and they understand it. Stop making excuses up and down this comment section

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

I wonder how many of these guys that are lonely would sell all their stuff to help pay their partners medical bills. Bet they wouldn't. They are only thinking about ideal outcomes or the honeymoon phase.

[@gabrielamora6265]

@@ddanielsmcIs empathy also not taught, or even felt? Surely you must have seen women being treated as lesser than men, even without having the term patriarchy to describe it.

[@NunyaBusiness-r7m]

If ALL women stopped helping men, we wouldn't be in this situation. I'm sick of the pick-me's and unicorn hunters who keep making exceptions for brothers, fathers, boyfriends, hubbies. etc. You're part of the problem.

[@crescentmoon2374]

Seriously? I know this sounds cruel but sometimes if you see someone lonely or alone there is a reason. Why is that people from their lives leave them? That is negative sign that they aren’t good people and that’s why their partner or friends and those around them leave them. Sometimes people who give sob stories are full of bs. And even I use to know 3 people who would constantly blame others around them and realize they are the common denominator

[@elipotter369]

So true. I've come across some thoroughly nasty and scary people who whined about being lonely, but everyone left them for good reason.

[@seiSnows]

No, no. It's the women who're wrong for not volunteering to be their lifelong emotional bangmaid crutch.

[@Blakenew127]

It is almost as making relationships and haven’t them to last takes time, effort, compassion, caring for others and be there for them. They want all those things to land on their lap because of this mentality THE WORLD OWNS ME and I don’t have to contribute with anything in return

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

Or they drop people meaning they will probably drop you if you do something they deem as wrong one too many times

[@crescentmoon2374]

@@banquetoftheleviathan1404yes very disloyal. And literally would sell their own family’s souls to get what they want. And don’t take responsibility for their own behaviors. And get upset when people set boundaries.

[@yvettecole7215]

Watched this knowing that my self imposed isolation is due to being used (think the worst) by too many men, who never saw me as human. I honestly hope they learn something, nobody should feel lonely. 😢

[@positivevibes9709]

I'm glad men are addressing this I just hate how they sometimes blame women for it. Stop mistreating women and maybe you could find a partner.

[@readinggeorgeeliot1489]

Is Travis being a good Samaritan and holding up other men and boys and not just making TikToks about his woeful existence?

[@TheAyisyenne]

Funny how when women were asking for support (obtaining rights, feeling safe, equal pay etc.), a lot of men disconnected or straight up acted like opps. But now that men are realizing they are affected by systemic issues as well, now it's "we need to support each other". Where was this reprocity when women were (and still are!) fighting for basic rights? If they wanted support, they should have created an environment where such thing was fostered.

[@b1njjj95]

I guess it's up to the 'natural born leaders' and 'logical thinkers' to fix this mess. 😂

[@sabrinamystified]

Right... All these "leaderships" but not one good solution from them 😂

[@AndyyWithAY]

I hate that the other vid had those issues. That first story was so good. They do so much and take zero accountability. It's just shocking.

[@cbc-h5g]

Yes, i saw this label and still watched it.

[@sarahthesarah2850]

Sure thing, I still watched. YT has been weird lately. Wonder if they are worried about being targeted like Tictok. We are decentering men and focusing on ourselves. Men should center mens issues. The good guys need to step up and mentor guys out of the mess who want out. Then there will be more men to hold men accountable.

[@BurbNBougie]

Thanks, Hun

[@mariposaflame4194]

It's been frustrating how the comments are being removed too. Totally benign factual stuff just gone. 😢

[@amandalogan89]

New VP is the toxic mix of tech bros and religious (trad catholic) so thats a whole mess of toxicity coming for women from the top down. These men (& P25) are coming for women’s independence. They want us back as dependents with no choice to leave

[@CW-jg4ck]

@@mariposaflame4194 Right!! I'm trying to figure out why my comments have been removed all week. You can't stop me, YT!!!!!!

[@Daug555]

What is he doing about it? Where are the male support groups, workshops, volunteer communities, mentor programs? Is he advocating for therapy, mental health for men? Sounds like a lot of hot air with no tangible solutions. His father had a drug overdose. What program is he apart of to help men like his father? Sounds like he needs to stop talking and take action. Women can support from afar.

[@SoramimiKeiki]

Yeah, I will "support" from afar. While sipping a coffee and watching the ship sink.

[@maam-yj8ph]

It would be nice if they actually built something worth supporting. Having a wife and kids is not the cure for this crisis.

[@twill5077]

My question is: what do males do when they have men's groups and go on the male only outings? If they're not "helping each other," then whats the point? They need to sit down with this.

[@seiSnows]

It's so weird. Women get together for tea, book club, to babysit, look after sick girlfriends, lunch, brunch, movies etc.

[@theodorathompson2034]

I’ve just seen my grandson off on a coach back to London. He learned all my recipes and taught me some he had learned from his other, Guyanan grandmother, as we did laundry, fixed up the house and listened to each other’s music - all the time talking about the issues you raise about men and women. I’m an elderly white woman and he is a 21 year old black man so we learned a whole lot from one another. We are entirely bonded and united in our values concerning respect, fairness and equality of all human beings. Faith in the future, in these trying times!

[@JoJoGranum]

Didn’t see it but I’m KZbin premium and I’d have watched any how . On another note why are women even asked to fix men’s issues when they’re dismissive of women’s? It’s like the minute it involves an emotional load women have to be brought into it? Men have to learn to deal with their emotions on their own.

[@bwstopnamingbmedwardforthe2921]

💯 They always claim that they are the logical leaders, so why in the hell can’t they fix it without having to bring women into their problems? It really is perplexing.

[@elipotter369]

Sorry, but I don't think Travis is genuinely curious- if he was, he wouldn't need to say so. He's just been sneaky saying that. And where was Travis for decades when women's issues were being dismissed and ignored? Like, does Travis care about some of tbe worst aftermaths health wise that many women have post birth? Kinda a lot worse than "men's issues". Men soon enough found a way to keep having s x with viagra, but what about better working contraception methods? What about endometriosis, hey Trav? Is he genuinely curious about any issues affecting women at all?

[@farhiya323]

Thank you 👏👏💜

[@allybee370]

I feel like a lot of men do not have quality fulfilling friendships because that would require them to support and pour into another person without getting a sexual benefit from doing so. They’d have to invest in someone else selflessly and most won’t do that. Majority of the adult men I know who do have “friends” are really just the spouses of their partner/wives friends. They’d don’t reach out to those men outside of their wives organizing a get together. They’d do it to themselves.

[@formerlyknownas123]

I'm commenting, sis. Got your back 😉

[@BurbNBougie]

You're the best!

[@Lysistrata2025]

View and comment for the algorithm. Bougie deserves her coin!

[@oanaion4899]

So it is our fault they're unlikable and have impulse control issues? Nah. We tried to help you bro but you said we are nagging so have fun.

[@teresamagnusson]

Yup. Any time we offer help it's rejected. So this is on you guys.

[@incisivecommenter5974]

See how they advice to each other "to focus on their career" Whwn women do it though, it's wrong.

[@ddanielsmc]

To be fair. It's important and something that women look for in men. There's the issue of doing it for yourself and then this can influence attraction in a future partner. I'd argue on the latter point, it's more important for men to strain in their career. It's certainly not a bad thing for women when it comes to partnering, just that for men, women see this as generally more important than the other way around.

[@batacumba]

@@ddanielsmc you really don’t think men care what kind of financial situation their potential partners are in, just women? 😒

[@ccleavemebe4790]

@@ddanielsmctake a nap

[@incisivecommenter5974]

@ddanielsmc Women take their careers and education z very seriously. Yet males hate us for it. Have you heard of NEETs? That's a huge male issue.

[@biblioholic7139]

The disparity in suicide rates might be explained by the suicidal women being beaten to the punch by a violent criminal. Pretty sure the US has been "at war" with drugs since the 80s so that issue isn't being ignored. And anyone who is lonely can roll some initiative and join a group activity, volunteer, join a local amateur sports league, find a book club, etc. before complaining about how society needs to fix it for them. Women focusing on women's problems first is putting on the oxygen mask before helping others put theirs on.

[@rtphotos4691]

Good points. Also, women attempt it more but men use more violent methods so they "succeed." We should be talking about why so many women are sooicidal (deliberate misspelling). We know why, but once again, to talk about women's isolation through no fault of their own isn't given attention. Divorce? Men are usually the cause but because women are burdened with filing the paperwork, they're blamed for it. Sooicide? Men tend to complete the act so they blame society (women) when it's actually women who have higher sooicide rates. Loneliness - There are more women who are lonely whilst they're IN relationships with men, but that too is ignored. Also, it's pretty lonely in general when you're treated like an object and not a full human being.

[@NunyaBusiness-r7m]

Actually, women are three times more likely to attempt suicide than men (Google it). Women are more depressed than men. It doesn't matter who is "more successful" in offing themselves. Men are being very deceptive when they cite suicide stats, because it only shows successful suicide attempts, which is largely irrelevant.

[@getthatboy4274]

Obviously women are supposed to be the milieu environment and we are trained professionals to deal with their tiny box emotions. 😥 men need to help men and I hope this guy is proving with action instead of yapping.

[@ShielaM-p1w]

Hi. Here supporting you

[@BurbNBougie]

Thanks for coming

[@Esi8395]

Support 💚 💚

[@BurbNBougie]

Thank you

[@TMFJ747]

Sometimes, I feel bad for you. Some of these videos you have to watch are nauseating. Goodness, ppl need to upgrade their brains. Thank you for all you do. 👏🏾💯

[@BurbNBougie]

Thanks for the view, friend

[@Iquey]

🗣️ WE ARE GOING TO TALK ABOUT OUR FEELINGS! 🗣️ WE ARE GOING TO HUG IT OUT!!!!!!

[@AlyssaADUB1D]

😂😂😂😂

[@olympiaelda1121]

Some ppl already mentioned how mens issues seem unserious almodt like trolling, and if we said we suffer from the same stuff, they would just laugh and say 'get a grip'. They act like big babies, why is the media entertaining their non-issues?

[@BB-gd7ez]

*Insert Kanue shrug here* Figure it out. All the boxes were created by them.

[@chauntill]

Back again my sister's ❤

[@BurbNBougie]

Thank ya

[@chauntill]

@@BurbNBougie My comment on the previous video was He shot in the back or the balls? 👀 😭🤣

[@MissSothePeacefulObserver]

YT is ridiculous. Sorry you have to deal with this, Burb.

[@BurbNBougie]

It's life on these platforms

[@bwstopnamingbmedwardforthe2921]

And it’s going to get worse. According to Mashable ol’ Fúckèřbüřğ Is rolling back protections just like Elon is doing on Twitter(I will never call it the other name). This includes no more fact checking (which it was biased and full of his minions doing the “fact checking “anyway, )letting hateful comments slide,such as calling women “property” on his platforms, or insulting the LGBTQ community by calling them “mentally ill”. He’s also hired Dana White, who is a mega Trump derrière kisser. Lastly,he’s also hopping on the no-DEI train and kicking all diversity programs out of Meta’s headquarters. I feel like social media is going to get a lot worse than when it already has been in the past. Not to mention that this isn’t the first time the Zuckerberg has kissed Trump’s behind, also. 🤦🏾‍♀️ I’m going to post it here so anybody wants to take a look they can: mashable.com/article/meta-ends-dei Here’s another article about this annoying asinine animated breadstick: Apparently, he wants more masculinity in corporate America.😂😂😂 As if there isn’t enough of that in toxic tech bro culture. mashable.com/article/mark-zuckerberg-joe-rogan-masculine-feminine-energy

[@seiSnows]

Can't have women developing opinions or anything. That way lies madness.

[@4blueland]

I spent too much time trying to figure out if that therapist was John MacEnroe 😂😂😂

[@beedeehhhhh]

But women aren't really free to have emotions. We aren't allowed to be negative emotions. We get called crazy for any emotion other than happiness.

[@ddanielsmc]

I'm not about to negate how you feel. However, you are allowed to have emotions. I see men, myself included, support women in their lives. It does happen. Let's make this the norm amongst men (I'm saying this last sentence directed at men).

[@ccleavemebe4790]

@@ddanielsmcI’m not going to to negate how you feel but men aren’t lonely and have always have support from people on their lives and I’ve seen it. I see women support men in their lives everyday with no respect or appreciation. Let’s make it a norm for men to do it on their own. Like women have to regardless of wtf you say

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

That's a broader issue affecting both genders really, men can't have negative emotions without it being treated as a threat. That affects our ability to be honest during therapy because we have to worry about our anger scaring people.

[@NunyaBusiness-r7m]

@@ddanielsmc Stop the lies, please. Being "emotional" is used as a slur because it is associated with the female sex. And women are not allowed to get angry without being accused of "acting like a man." So just shut up.

[@PurpleMoonStorm]

And here come the males in the replies to deflect and make it about "both genders" as usual. I wish these males would just go mind their own dang business already and get up out of women's spaces. Tired of seeing their dismissals and "well actually" 🤪 superiority complex comments.

[@Timmywhimmy]

At this stage of my life im just done. Their excuses, whining, threats, abuse in all manner and forms leave me indifferent. I did my best for too long and only got pain out of it. So, bye felicia

[@docfabz]

Showing support 💖

[@BurbNBougie]

Thank ya

[@sangha1486]

People don't talk about men's problems because doing so is actively discouraged by our patriarchal system. They suppress the discussion because talking about their problems would result in people seeing that patriarchy is the problem.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

Or it's because they are just general problems and not gender specific. I mean maybe prostate cancer or something but the rest is cultural, they do it to themselves

[@kareno7792]

Saw the first and watching this now ❤

[@Morozova48]

Most logical and rational leaders, wow

[@YepItsYouSorry]

He's whining without a solution or plan on how to help men himself. He's not being part of the solution. It's so pathetic and cringe 😬

[@tylergood3773]

❤❤❤

[@timcoultas1512]

There's a conflation between loneliness and a resentment that men don't seem to be seen by women in the same way women are seen by men. But we can solve both problems if men start to divest their attention from women and invest instead in their friendships. The invisibility men feel won't sting as much when men can rely on their friendships to bolster their self-worth.

[@elizabethhosaka1069]

What struck me last time you posted and again now is that he talks about isolation and relationships and then immediately offers self improvement (not relationship building) like working out and career (solo pursuits) as solutions. Dude you shouldn’t be giving advice to men.

[@fantym-1]

I wonder how much they pay to go on these "retreats". Someone is making bank off this, fr

[@333bee]

I tell everyone who’s not a black woman…take the example from many black women groups on how to build communities. From in person to online we know how to support each other. We are a great example… yes we have been creating communities for centuries but everyone should be able to get it and start somewhere.

[@caseyminett7394]

If someone saying they have a quality that society deems feminine and they take that as an insult. I would argue they need to heal thete understanding of what a woman is and learn gratitude and administration for the formidable humans we are. It all stems from there. The fact they see us as less than themselves.

[@NunyaBusiness-r7m]

There's no such thing as feminine or masculine. They are both completely phony, made-up social constructs. The fact that their meanings are so entirely subjective proves how utterly meaningless they are in describing human behavior.

[@nix2747]

They mock women's friendships but then literally have to contrive a whole retreat to go into the woods to... *checks notes* have friendships with other men. It's literally starting, growing, and nuturing friendships. That's all this is. I'm tired. I'm going to sit this one out.

[@Ri57490]

Men are jealous of women's friendships. They're jealous of how women care for each other. Men could care for their male friends but they are too lazy and cowardly to try

[@KidKID-sv8sv]

I watched YV's tiktok about the men's retreat and she said, Men literally have to run to the woods to talk about their emotions. Which is funny and true because why don't you just create a center for men and their issues. 😂😂😂

[@ddanielsmc]

All you're doing is reinforcing patriarchy. If it works for them, great. Women do retreats all of the time. Sometimes, they are for emotional support and related activities.

[@CandiiBabiie]

Whenever we try to help, we're nagging, okay! So I'm good

[@BurbNBougie]

Yup. Let them make a plan

[@4blueland]

I really just keep losing interest while he speaks 🤷🏽‍♀️. Like, yeah, it's not rocket surgery, time to do the work, k?

[@happymess3219]

😊 'rocket surgery'.

[@thesehandsart]

I'm annoyed. I'm the language still there is a lack of ownership, men have out themselves there "in a box" smh. They need to take accountability and responsibility and put that onto other men.

[@MadCatLady28]

That last bit made me wonder what altitude that retreat is held at.

[@elleinthea1678]

What is an example of a man issue that is not self-inflicted? Loneliness, family & workplace etc are solvable. Men really need therapy to work on being a better person.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

Have you been to therapy? They are there to help you find happiness not be a better person. If therapists criticize their clients too harshly, they have to worry about them just finding one that will tell them what they want to hear. It's not a magic bullet for bad behavior

[@MademoiselleMagallia]

Honestly, loneliness is not a man's issue as loneliness is on the rise across the whole society. I'm starting to feel really irritated that some men presents it as problem that is unique to them when the data shows that it's clearly not.

[@ddanielsmc]

I agree. It's frustrating. I'd love it if men and women can just be friends. Fine, if you both later decide things are now okay for romance. But the norm should be friends. We have a heck of a lot in common.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

Prob the easiest time I history to be alone if you think about it.

[@PurpleMoonStorm]

​​no. We already tried that and many men have already admitted that they can't "just be friends" with women because women's interests are "weak and boring" unlike the bros who love the same games/animes/war/war heros/male super heroes and objectified female characters/hero obsessions. You know like all the male gamers that complained that games were being inclusive of unattractive women in their characters because the internet full of free pr0n and already existing fan service style games isn't enough for their content wacking off.

[@femmefatale71]

Brilliant vid as always ❤❤❤

[@BurbNBougie]

You're the best!

[@oceanside88]

Kindness is something that people could try as a practice & solution. Kindness & compassion. Resentment is like the devil inside.

[@annwood6812]

I care deeply about men's issues, but I have to say I've been hurt by men in so many ways. Most of them are so emotionally repressed because warriors don't show feelings and men seem to think they have to be in warrior mode all the time. Some of that is biological, but it doesn't have to be so hard. Like this creator says, men think the definition of masculinity is the opposite of femininity. Wrong, wrong, wrong

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

That is what I experience for 53 years now. When I got life experience I found out that they are the 'girls'...Sadly at the beginning there was no internet yet.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

I think the whole concept of masculinity is a form of over compensation because really only one thing really makes you a man but they instead try to make it all about behaviors one can perform. Otherwise masculinity would just be how much meat ur packin-and it's easy to see why most men couldn't live with that

[@conniq1585]

I love the idea of the Evryman retreat, but i wish that would have counselors available to meet with the men to help them to process their emotions and work on a solution. If not, it could easily become a trauma dump that increases their hatred.

[@Jaciekakes]

Second watch and comment cos the algorithms a 🤡

[@BurbNBougie]

Thank ya

[@TimelessErsy]

Me too. Third watch of all her videos today and commenting. We need her to get them coins❤

[@aplanefliesabove]

I didn't see a label when I watched the other vid. Maybe someone flagged you...

[@BurbNBougie]

They flagged me about 3 hours later and pulled monetization

[@Emptytopfloor]

I think it was the pew pew story from that video.

[@aplanefliesabove]

@@Emptytopfloor that would make sense.

[@aplanefliesabove]

@BurbNBougie be careful.. these topics are exploding and naturally men and these platforms might begin censoring this. I hope that doesn't happen but we have to be prepared for what may come after Jan 20th

[@BurbNBougie]

Yeah. I'ma be careful

[@raichutoyou]

Whenever men's loneliness comes up I always remember. When women are lonely: Men point, jest and talk about cats. Now that men are lonely, a proper response: Point, jest and talk about dogs. Then call up your lady friends for some brunch.

[@NunyaBusiness-r7m]

Underrated comment. 💯

[@Ri57490]

talk about goldfish or hamsters- I think most of those men couldn't keep a cat/dog alive by themselves.

[@NunyaBusiness-r7m]

@ I've been trolling a very hypocritical cat man, right here on YT. He is childless, unmarried and owns a cat named Meatball (the cat is featured in many of his videos) but made a snarky comment about "childless cat ladies".

[@NunyaBusiness-r7m]

Woah, I just got a look at the dude and... it's pretty obvious why he's still alone. WOW.

[@caydenleeg4652]

I don’t hear liberal men complaining about this loneliness epidemic 😂

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

We have definitely been talking about increased social alienation, we just don't pretend it's an issue only affecting men

[@AdrianneJH]

I watched it anyway

[@MyLordexe]

Can they just go to therapy. Literally doing everything under the sun and theorizing instead of seeing a professional who has studied the stuff for a decade and practiced.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

Not a magic bullet and they aren't gonna get too combative with their clients when they can just go to someone else that will tell them what they want to hear. Wild how some of yall think therapy is just somehow untainted by capitalism

[@cecilroberts1971]

Im a dude. Too many of us have thought processes that if I share my emotions or feelings with another man, I'm gay or weak. It's truly caveman thinking.

[@UnexpectedSpanishInquisition]

That isn’t on women to fix.

[@waitwhat1029]

The weird thing is, it's guys telling EACH OTHER that it's gay or weak. These dudes are creating a problem and then whining about it. XD It probably shouldn't be as funny to me as it is... Oh well, I was never out for sainthood anyway. ;)

[@cramp4221]

Totally agree

[@stephaniemartin9253]

Commenting for the algorithm. Why can’t these logical leaders sort themselves out?

[@maggiefranks6849]

I hope I can help men's loneliness problem. IMHO they aren't lonely enough

[@Lysistrata2025]

So what is Travis doing for his nephew, his neighbour's son or his own son?

[@maam-yj8ph]

That part. If men cannot befriend, play with, mentor, or otherwise wholesomely interact with their own male relatives, they might be the problem?

[@yawnsoften]

Always with the work out…modern men really do begin to bore….Zzzzzzz

[@almamater9346]

So wait, that male didn't do anything to himself, so why that notice? 🥴

[@BurbNBougie]

Someone must've reported it

[@almamater9346]

​@@BurbNBougie people are so miserable. So glad you are here doing what you do 🩷

[@adarateranroldan]

For the algorithm

[@shans1986]

If men would see and treat Women as friends, as people, then they would nit be so alone.

[@Ri57490]

Men can't even be bothered to but effort into their male friendships. Let them sort that out, talk and hug each other. We women don't want to be in friendships with men. Women are happier being friends with other women.

[@s.e.studios1386]

Wait, he just said they have a spouse??? How are they lonely exactly?

[@rtphotos4691]

Because they are typical. They choose women they can use who they actively don't like. The healthy minded action of being with someone who is also their friend doesn't compute with them. They see their wives as objects that support them, not as full humans who are also their friends. It's why men will pretend to be friends with women then cry about the "friendzone" when they aren't given access to smex. They drop the women because it was never a friendship to begin with. It was a game of using women until they get what they want.

[@rtphotos4691]

ALL of my comments are disappearing. 😑

[@BurbNBougie]

I see this one

[@rtphotos4691]

@@BurbNBougie - Thanks, Burb. My other ones are gone.

[@visigoda]

​@@rtphotos4691 It is most likely a KZbin thing. Burb is far from the only channel I have this issue.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

I get shadow banned a lot, too.

[@jaselaetienne6432]

I don’t think it’s a male loneliness crisis. If there was they would act accordingly so they’re not lonely.

[@camiba6773]

I bet anyone a million dollars this dude could care less about anyone. Je cares about himself and since bhe seem to be going through trouble he wants to make it everyone's issue.

[@1tsrhodes]

First guy was making some solid points, of course he was talking at a pretty much Step 1 level. Start by being kind, to others to yourself. Everyone's fighting there own private battle you'll never see. I do worry about ceding the conversation to people like Rogan though, or anyone who's attitude is "I do what I want and I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks." That's not gonna help. But saying "look after your health, don't succumb to being lazy or letting vices control you," that's a decent first step

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

What's wrong with being lazy and having vices? I thought the point was to get over being lonely WIthout making it someone else's job. They need to learn to self soothe which both those things help with.

[@aliyahharmon9045]

Men only bring up their issues when women’s issues are brought up. It's very disingenuous

[@RedDeadReverie]

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