When I Want to Get Smashed

Dan shares his personal experience of feeling the urge to get drunk and use drugs, even after months of sobriety. He reflects on a recent event where he was surrounded by people drinking and how it made him question his own sobriety. Daniel discusses the importance of analyzing his thoughts and emotions in real-time to understand the triggers that lead to cravings. He also talks about the impact of being judged and criticized for his sobriety journey. Dan offers advice on managing the mind and finding purpose during the recovery process.

[@hettybl]

Wish alcohol drinks were never invented. Life would be so amazing. School disco's rocked 😂 dancing all night buzzed up with no hangover 😂 youre a good person Dan. It takes big guts putting yourself out there like this. You are helping more people than you know. There will always be them folks dont get it ....but sure such is life. Let it go. Youre doing amazing 👏

[@toneer]

Possibly the best pod you’ve done thus far mate. You’re showing a level of maturity, self knowledge and acceptance that is admirable. Keep going, keep growing, you are helping others - especially when you show your vulnerability.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you

[@user-ts7ut9nd9b]

I used to call it pressing the self destruct button, didnt know where a session was going to end, being alone and the last person standing, out of drink and drugs with Monday morning just around the corner, while everybody else was sensible and ready for the week ahead

[@PhilMitchell.]

These videos help a lot, especially when you upload them on a friday! i’m 5 weeks clean now, keep up the good work Dan

[@staniforth77]

Yep i went sober for 3 and half months and the car crashed, and it hasn’t stopped crashing since breaking sobriety, this popped up on KZbin and its definitely inspired me again to get back to it

[@timewithgod6473]

On Friday,after payday, been gym,new clothes,ADHD bored and feeling good. Great timing for you to be top of my feed

[@amjf2258]

Can relate with this mate. Just think Aba that feeling again in the morning ?

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Think I may make it a refit Friday night thing

[@timewithgod6473]

@@menacetosobrietypodcast appreciate what you do brother we are very similar.

[@Joehume1]

This episode is alot more relatable to me because most stop drinking channels make it out that they go to events , party’s and have no urge anymore. I’ve relapsed once in two years and I was in a bar with other pro musician colleagues who were getting on it and the urge came from nowhere and got the better of me. It happens and well done for getting through that experience

[@hettybl]

You're 💯 Joe, I agree speaking as a fellow musician it's bloody tough to keep off it, what to do with the adrenaline 🤪

[@nunodarrell6606]

Dan, I appreciate your honesty and it’s all part of the road to recovery. You lead a great example to myself and a lot of viewers out there. And let this be your catalyst to continue your sobriety while leading others to also find their path to recovery.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you mate appreciate the comment

[@Handlegend273]

Can confirm we are listening and totally relatable. This one has helped me more than any other 👍

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you

[@bennettchimp]

I know where you’re coming from it’s a nightmare I just avoid everywhere where there is any drinking involved. The only time I have a drink is this, I am isolated away camping or something like that when the danger can’t find you … it’s very difficult

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Yer mate it is xx thanks for watching

[@user-ft7jk7nv6e]

Thanks Dan, this stuff helps so much. I’ve had a few weeks of set backs and was really close to hitting that ‘button’ last night. Feeling proud today. Was really grateful for this podcast during a lonely time. Thanks for your honesty it’s super refreshing. Well done on your journey!

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you mate x

[@K40CB]

Thanks Dan. I look forward to these every week now. Listening on a Friday also helps get the mindset right for the weekend. Looking forward to the next one, keep it up and have a good week.

[@dawntapping9324]

Thank you for these podcasts Dan. Your really helping my partner with his sobriety. A yr sober on Thursday 🎉🎉Not only are you helping him, but you are also helping me to help him on his tough days. Keep doing when your doing. Your a top man.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Thank you for the message Dawn

[@peterriding8076]

Enjoyed that Dan thanks lad . 7 months today for me mate 👍🏻💪🏻 keep up the good work

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Nice work! Love that mate

[@CommanderBond-g9b]

Love the home podcasts mate, makes a lot of sense look forward to them each week.

[@Ibanezguy2007]

Dude, you are an inspiration. You are not alone in those thoughts! I have had the exact same ones that have led me to drink and drugs then I wonder how I got to the same rock bottom every time. The way you reframed it is super positive. The trick and deceit is in thinking you are "normal" like everyone else when it comes to drinks and drugs - but you're not and never will be!

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

love this mate, your right,

[@Raverforever]

I've just found this channel. Thank you so much. I really needed to hear all this. I think this channel is really going to help me stay positive about being sober, I'm so glad I found it. So thank you. I am 8 months sober.

[@terrybates9874]

Love the motivation to keep pushing forward and not giving up, Keep up the good work!

[@dannyjohnson5872]

Since finding your channel several months ago, you have helped me get through the most difficult challenges I have ever faced. I thank you for helping me stay straight. I've followed you for years and wish i found your channel sooner.. One word legend..thank you

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

amazing thank you

[@dannynicholas17]

Love listening to your show mate. So refreshing hearing other peoples advice and situations and using to my life. Weird how hearing other peoples struggles and pain is helping my life and improving my situation. Keep up the good work and positive messages daniel.

[@anthonykeegan5913]

This was excellent . I can relate on so many levels and as i am 3 months sober,this is an honest and genuine perspective Thanks pal

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

well done

[@MatttttttV]

Thanks Dan, quality show. I quite enjoy the ones when you’re just shooting on your own. Resonates a lot with me and I’m on my own sobriety journey. Been a fan of yours since pre turtleneck days haha Keep up the great work

[@Mandy-nw6dv]

Brilliant podcast Dan. You've done amazing and are still doing 👏 I really admire your honesty. Love following you and your family 😊 keep living your best life and never look back 🙌

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you Mandy

[@JackAlex1234]

Inspirational stuff again Dan. Well done mate.

[@JellyfaceProductions]

This really helped me, thanks. Especially the last ten minutes, really hit home

[@ethanbreslin4318]

Good on you mate keep doing what your doing, loving the videos 👊🏻

[@nagibfarjani4861]

An excellent discussion! Well done! 👏

[@lyndenrowland4801]

I got ya your back, pal. I'm a addict 6 years sober now (gambling), we just gotta keep going 1 day at a time. To anyone that isn't addicted I also applaud you as that is also hard in the world we live in. No judgement here, one love to all x

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

love that x

[@ronaldvine1748]

Thank you! What a brilliant video! I had been heavily drinking and smoking for 50 years, totally addicted. Now free for one month. (I know that's not long but for me is good!) Just wanted to say I have watched hundreds of you tube videos on the subject made by professionals and ex addicts which I have found helpful. However, you are the only one to explain in a way that totally resonates with me. Massive help for my life - thank you again!!!

[@bryanw5067]

such a good podcast, can relate to this alot. 21 days sober in. these are helping, thanks man

[@iainlaing878]

Thanks for the videos mate, a big help 👍

[@JamTaylor69]

This stuff really fucking helps and makes a difference Dan. I’m 6 weeks into sobriety and have been having a tough week the last week. This pod did me wonders today and helped get my head back on the right track as been struggling with some personal issues so needed this

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Its so so tough mate dont beat yourself up good work

[@maverick90194]

On my sobriety journey nearly day 50 and watching your videos help no end dan, I feel like I'm you with the adhd and things and the way you explain things makes perfect sense to me,, keep going mate appreciate your videos and helping me guide my way through this battle 👍

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Thank you mate, appreciate the message keep going

[@wouldbeking1]

Thanks for this mate, I bet it’s helping a lot of Poole

[@paulbrown5839]

Look at it this way, everyone has a certain number of sesh tokens. You have had yours. Your BBQ friends are still working their way through theirs. You cannot get more tokens.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Love that

[@missbubble9410]

Loving your videos, just found you today ❤

[@MarkMcCann1888]

Keep going Dan. It must be very hard at times but just keep thinking how happy you are with your girls and how proud your wife is of you. They are getting the best version of you and a few beers isn’t worth setting you back mate. I’ve nearly been a month off the beers and it feels incredible 👊🏻

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

its great isn't it mate

[@S.W.A.R]

Daps the main thing is you're being honest and owning the situation you found yourself in the weekend. What you're doing is helping loads of people and I bet you're carrying the weight of the people you're helping. I love how you're super aware of your triggers and have built things into your mind to deal with them. Respect where respects due and as for the geezer giving ya stick, it sounds to me that he doesn't suffer from addiction and his opinion is null and void. Have a blessed weekend and be very grateful for what you have and your achievements. Anyone else who's struggling focus on the good not the bad, love yourselves and it will hopefully pass. CA, NA & AA meetings are available all over the UK just Google them and show up it could save your life ❤️ 💙

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Hello mate thank you for that thats great advice i appreciate it

[@georgedawson235]

205 days in myself never felt so mentally sharp and in control ❤

[@ceannt83e]

This chat is unlike any other. The realistic...nevermind someone else's noise. Never carry stones in your bowl of life

[@tkaygg]

Another 10/10 speech. real shit keep pushing dan

[@lizarnold655]

I’m feeling like you are describing right now! Again you talked sense and reframed me yet again. Thank you. You have grown so much, hope I can do the same ❤

[@hettybl]

Same

[@julieannec100]

Needed this today keep doing what your doing ! Hate seeing you deflated!

[@mattwilliams7740]

Thank you so much for doing this podcast so glad I've found it on a weekend that I've seen so many people out in town having a laugh all the pubs I've driven past have been full, I too have had that fear and realisation of shit man this is my life now I will not be like these people living for the weekend to get intoxicated a lifestyle that is so heavily ingrained and nurtured In to us from such a young age and to be honest it made me feel boring and angry at myself for not being able to control my drink and drug use like other people can it also made me question the past 10 months of me being sober So thank you again for this podcast it's really nice to know I'm not alone in those thoughts and other people facing sobriety have these thoughts and feelings too. Big respect dan and please keep on with these podcasts they help more than you could ever know

[@julieannec100]

Your doing amazing be proud of yourself what a man

[@martlowe913]

Great podcast, yes it made sense. Thanks🙏🏻

[@nobbystyles4807]

keep it goin brother..... i battle every day. i paint houses all day on my own thinking about how today is gonna be different.. i have positive thought patterns throughout the day and attach negative thoughts to drinking. then it gets to the witching hour... when its half an hour to the offy closing and i cave in. then ill hit the pub on the way back so i can feel like a normal person having one pint. i did 4 years straight with no problem then out of nowhere im just stuck in this cycle.

[@ryanconroy3260]

I love your videos. I’m two weeks away from my year dry. I listened to Allen Carr easy way and it tricked me dry. I give up drinking every day and treat each day as a new challenge.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

great way to look at it mate thats brilliant

[@willoreilly1516]

Dan mate fair play to you and your videos pal, I can relate to so much of what you say mate. From one O’Reilly to another. All the best mate ❤️

[@user-ts7ut9nd9b]

Remember the feeling of waking up with the negativity as it imprisons you for days, or wake up and be able to do anything you want without any racing thoughts of negativity, free from the shackles

[@letshearyourside9115]

Your smashing it mate and helping so many people. Appreciate the content your putting out it’s definitely helping me 👍🏻

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

love that

[@tyson8692]

I like what you’re saying. Keep up the good work.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thanks will do

[@Mrmental308]

Alright pal... ive just randomly found this... an listenin to you sounds exactly like what I've been tellin myself for years. Things turned a corner for me cos I propa took the piss outta my self.. but as of right now ( this past week ) I fucked up again an I absolutely kno I've gotta live an abstinent life. 34yrs of narcotics etc, from age 14 is enough. Fella I have to surf the urge. It comes in waves man. My heads so far up my arse I'm like a solo human centipede. The head shot memories are mental. I'm gonna have a gander at your videos everyday now. Tek it easy fella.

[@JackP97Fif]

“Imagine tomorrow. Imagine how I’d feel” Put this on because I had some temptation today for the first time properly after 23 days sober… That thought hit me. I’d feel horrible tomorrow and a few hours of fake ‘fun’ ain’t worth it man

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Mate thats the key , think forward

[@christinabeard9338]

I think the most insecure and shy or lacking confidence drugs, enhance that so you’ve swapped in a good way your career from a twit to being sensible hats off. Got most respect for you Dan you’ve done good

[@pikey715]

Brilliant again. I’m going through the stage of having to deal with emotions. Love a chat with you mate. Was a trigger a question on your live q&a?

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

No it wasn't mate, but I should do more lives I think im going to

[@margaretmeliorvita8197]

Thanks, keep up the good work :) x

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Thank you !!

[@Alexander-fc9lw]

You're a legend mate.

[@Hugo-and-Persia]

Just watched The Last Heist you're a legend mate! When will you be having guests on fella? Would love to come on and share my story.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

id like to yer

[@user-yp2ex8co8l]

Watched this and re watching it like all the videos to help me stay on the straight and narrow - stay strong anyone who’s going through it also friday massive trigger just cos it’s Friday !! Don’t give in too the demons

[@SoniaDelaney-qc5is]

Thank you mate 🥰

[@tonydunsford1278]

As for the individual who criticised your pocast i think they need to sit down and seriusly think about what there doing. This podcast is helping people. any form of addiction is hard enough.Most people dont even get it. Seriously anybody wishing to criticise your objectives well they need to think on.

[@Zimgofalown]

Well done Brother

[@boeconwy9156]

listning to you empty your mind, helps me fix and understand parts of mine. you keep rambling brother you never know which bit will help somone

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Love that thank you

[@trentelliot6203]

Corr needed to hear this Friday night 29 degrees I was on the edge geezer

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Hard ain’t it in the sun

[@jillmatthews5197]

Please can I share that there's supporting groups out there for relatives of alcoholics .. Its called Alanon it's helpful in what to say also how to live your own life again ....

[@user-rf3po6hi3m]

Was good that mate was 2 days off 10 weeks clean was going for 100 days ended up going to Glastonbury an then fell off the wagon an have been hitting it hard enjoying myself… well I thought I was feel terrible now proper opened my eyes going to have another good go going for it now no 100 days but permanent now was in a great place keep going mate you’ve helped me a lot watching your stuff … will be getting tickets for your show in new Brighton should have come Liverpool weird place over that water 😂👀💪👍

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

mate yer it happens we need to do that to learn how it feels its all about learning mate, see you at the show!

[@christinabeard9338]

This is good therapy

[@joemc8224]

Respect fella 👊😊

[@tonydunsford1278]

Until u walk a mile in someones shoes dont judge.

[@Redflaggg]

This podcast is aimed at people who have survived or are looking for ways to survive the fatal disease of addiction. Why would anyone have a problem with it ?

[@williamhowie6060]

Slow down D some kids who witness the departure of a parent will cover the pain with blaming themselves for the break up tapping into the trauma is a very very painful experience but its real .Get used to the genuine truth mate.Youre kiddy self is with you ,take care of him always.Addictive behaviour is mostly self harming.Let youre inner child know that youve got his back ,you both will start to appreciate life l promise B

[@speakupreality633]

This guy is very hard on himself. Another 12 months sober, I reckon he be much better

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Thank you x

[@Liam-us3cq]

Im the same in the sense it was always to get absolutely fucked and not know when it would end , lifes so much more productive without it and although ive had a few drinks in the past 5 months i do think about how it will affect my next few days / mindset now and that becomes a strong motivation not to drink! When it has potential to lead you to the darkest of places where its led me it would be stupid not to think about it.

[@tomboore8357]

Dunno who to talk to its 2:10am im waiting for a packet to be dropped in my letterbox. After already doing £80 worth this afternoon and this evening. I've got problems that are not just top shelf related. I went 16 weeks sober last year felt much better in myself after about a month in. Was offerd a flick after 16 weeks i took it and thought i could now control my drinking and coke taking but that was November last year. I've been bang at it everyday since I'm not working I'm living off people close to me and im pushing the people i love and i know love me further and further away. I'm literally not lying when i say that my friends and family would be better off with me not around. I haven't got the bollox to take my own life. But i must be at least 5/6 stone overweight and every line or can i have i honestly think that this might blow my heart to pieces. And if i live through it people will know how bad things have got for me. I bury my head in the sand every single day. The last few months are really starting to take its toll. Funny thing is I'm sniffed up now and I'll be the same at this time tomorrow but ive got absolutely no fight left in me completely given up on myself and life. Sniff and drink make me think that things aren't that bad and I'll sort everything out in the end.

[@caroline7090]

Never leave comments,BUT this was bang on,3 and a hald years sober and i still get the feeling i want to get fucked,its taken time and effort to work out my emotions. Your podcast has helped me alot,so thankyou and well done on all your efforts ❤❤❤

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

That you Caroline I appreciate it

[@number1Don]

I realised I used to drink to make others more interesting.

[@sionnewton3550]

Get to meetings bro xx good luck

[@martinsmillie6493]

Ur one of my strengths to keep me aff it...rhank y ❤❤❤

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

love that

[@SoniaDelaney-qc5is]

Yes it def makes a lot sense

[@Stevo_YouTube]

Nearly 6 months sober. Christmas is triggering but I will not drink. Come too far to go back now.

[@carlenebantick9292]

The fact the guy had listened to your podcast must mean he is struggling somewhat and is triggered! So triggered he decided to make a video about you 😅 Keep doing whay your doing ❤

[@alanwattsfan1785]

Dan i lost my mom last year buried my nan yesterday, I'm fully overwhelmed atm don't know what way to turn

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Mate, just slow down, feel what you need to dont try fight it, embrace it.. Just slow down, work through it mate.. Think, feel, read, walk, run, work, repeat

[@alanwattsfan1785]

@@menacetosobrietypodcast ok , I really like your podcasts

[@myview2543]

not far off a year sober a year an u can say you've beat it imo 💪

[@ahu9349]

Bro from 8:40 got me man

[@jaketaylor-richardson1695]

Amen brother

[@Quartzone6145]

Can I ask you dan how do u feel your wife having a drink as you say she doesn't have a problem so like me now I feel bad having a drink because my husbands sobriety I want to support him.he says its ok I can have a drink but I still feel guilty

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

She rarely does sometimes im ok with it but if she’s drunk with other people I feel left out but if she comes in a bit drunk I’m not botherd, it’s my journey I need to live in reality so I work on it, but be aware which I think you sound like you are

[@Quartzone6145]

Ahh yea I get that and yes I'm totally aware of his feeling .thankyou for your reply you have a lovely family ,keep up the good work you are doing.ignore those negative people .

[@lacuna_matata_9261]

Feel like such a twat finding and listening to this at 4:06 am after being on it it’s not even enjoyable Iv wasted time I could have been doing other stuff drank loads and didn’t even get the cherry feeling coz of the gear .. my partner has always done it we’ve been together 13 years I never tried it or wanted to .. and I tried it last year just a little bit used to have a good time at party’s with people sweat it out dance have a laugh .. and be okay .. now I’m sitting on my sofa after sitting in the kitchen all night wasn’t even going to do it tonight but once it’s there my fucking willpower just breaks like a prawn cracker the worst part is my family never goes without I’m always there we never miss out the days are normal as they would be if I hadn’t .. and that’s the stupid excuse used to justify it I don’t even know why I do it anymore its not even fun it’s such a slippery slope I went 2 weeks no drinking no gear felt fine didn’t care .. I got super stressed needed to chill out and bam back to no fing discipline no willpower I regret it every time the night comes to an end I wish I could catch myself In the moment before that first line and remember how I feel at the end of the night .. like do I get a tattoo on my finger something I can’t rub of to snap my brain out of it the only thing that kind of helped was an elastic band round my arm every time I thought of it I pinged myself and I know I know shock therapy or arm flicking is probably considered some kind of SH but it worked and it’s gota be better than the other ain’t it ?? what else is there in that moment that I can use I can just cover the writing on my hand I mean it’s not all the time but the fact I regret it shows i shouldn’t the doing it sorry for the rant .. can’t talk to anyone about this I get the fomo all the time I was a good person wasn’t judging anyone but didn’t need to partake now I’m the one wanting to stay up and there is no fomo because I’m the only one doing it … feel like a fing idiot 😓

[@quadrupletreble4261]

When you get that feeling ohh no I need a drink or talk about it a lot it’s a problem called alcoholic behaviour we all do It it also it’s in illness but we do recover working on the stigma and support 💚👏 no one really wants to admit it alcoholic 😫

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

yer man I feel that

[@quadrupletreble4261]

@@menacetosobrietypodcast doing amazing mate and your so funny 👏👏🥳

[@paulbrown5839]

While you are doing sobriety, the addiction inside is weight lifting at the gym.. if you go on a sesh that addiction is unleashed stronger than last time. The sesh will last 6 months.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

I heard this before

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Scary

[@jeztickles4361]

How long you done now Dan?

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

268 days brother

[@jeztickles4361]

@@menacetosobrietypodcast well done champ 👍 I had a bit of a wobble after my year and two months soba!! But I’m well back on wagon now and nearly at 1 month soba!

[@jake_c2365]

Hi dan i love your vids and they really help me, do you still smoke fags or have u quit them too ??

[@Smithy200]

The guy who gave you shit ...i think, has a bit of a case of jelous-itis. Maybe he wishes deep down that he was as articulate insightful and warm hearted as you clearly are.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

thank you xx

[@danielvalentine2453]

Traditional bricklayer mugged you off. There I said it.

[@menacetosobrietypodcast]

Feel better?

[@danielvalentine2453]

@@menacetosobrietypodcast yeah guy is a prat imo