MENTAL HEALTH & MAKEUP \\ how I’ve been, what I need & my thoughts on ADHD

[@rhianhy]

Its been a while since we got chatty! What's on your mind today?

[@mcmjclemence738]

Trying to be a better person especially to the ones we love, because life is short and people will die.

[@monikacoles-webb8616]

I am also learning to be at peace with harder mental/physical health days. It's really nice. Just keeping in mind that being all good all the time is unrealistic as a human.

[@alejandramarroquin1372]

I am working on creating a morning routine so I arrive on time at work.

[@goldchocolate13]

This was so informative and helped me in many ways. You put into words ways I did not know I could right now. Thank you for sharing.

[@charliestewart2788]

My PCOS symptoms are particularly bad at the moment. Thinking about what I can do to help 😊 There’s always something I can do to make myself feel a little better.

[@NishaBalsara]

I feel like my heart just got a hug

[@shlaybayy]

"a one sided free therapy session" was exactly what I needed, Rhian how did you know?

[@rhianhy]

Hahaha love when things work out for us both

[@omheart11]

I'm watching this 11 months later and I just had to laugh when you said your don't want to jinx it, but 2020 has been alright lol! Thanks for sharing

[@octoberbabe9791]

As a fellow empath i honestly understand your struggle with people being too much. Boundaries are necessary and saying no is ok! No one has the right to insult you because you didn't respond to a message, that's disgusting! The last few months i realized that i was seen by most of my best friends as their therapist rather than their friend and that's why i decided to set boundaries and started doing things for myself finally! I appreciate so much your hard work and in case you haven't been told, you are enough Rhian 💕 Struggling with your personal battles but still helping people is more than enough actually!! Your videos always help me relax and make me genuinely happy. You are part of my self care!! 🤗

[@octoberbabe9791]

Ps i hope i'm making sense, English isn't my first language 💕

[@rhianhy]

October Babe Your English is perfect, first of all 🖤 Thanks for being so understanding, you’ve inspired me to uphold those boundaries too x

[@octoberbabe9791]

@@rhianhy actually creating boundaries is in my resolutions list for 2020, which i created after watching the video you talked about your own resolutions! Let's make it an amazing year 😊

[@heatherchase8935]

I had my first session with a new therapist yesterday. I’ve been on the hunt for someone I vibe with and feel comfortable with. I *think* I found who I am supposed to be seeing. I’ve never felt more comfortable talking to someone (other than my husband) about my trauma. We went pretty deep, especially for a first session. I actually threw up, I’ve never talked about it that much at one time. I was very embarrassed that talking about it made me physically ill. Since then my thoughts have been free flowing. I really appreciate you creating the safe space for us here and putting yourself out there. It’s helped me to realize that it’s okay to deal with the “broken” parts of me, and not just tuck them away.

[@rhianhy]

Heather i am so happy for you that you've found someone! I know our bodies reactions to talk therapy can be scary sometimes but please know therapists have seen/heard it ALL and know how physical it can be

[@lawyerlee]

💜💜💜

[@lawyerlee]

Boundaries are so important and often challenging to navigate. I’ve been struggling a lot lately and really only have my own stuff to manage. That’s hard enough. So much solidarity. 💜

[@rhianhy]

Diana Lee Appreciate you Diana 🖤

[@bluetals]

There’s a reason you put on your own oxygen mask on a plane before helping others. You can’t help anyone if you don’t help yourself first. That’s a hard lesson to learn, but a very important one 🌸🌸🌸

[@rhianhy]

You're so right Talia

[@katie-vq4op]

gosh adult ADHD is so difficult and learning about your experiences and coping mechanisms is so important and amazing! thank you SO MUCH honestly

[@PlantBasedBride]

Your video about ADHD set me on the path to getting my own diagnosis. So thank you! I’m not officially diagnosed yet, but it’s looking likely after doing some diagnostics with my GP. It’s so interesting to realize that a lot of my other mental health struggles (depression, anxiety, an ED) may all stem from one thing. Also, what you said about the empathy/ADHD connection resonated so much with me! I’ve always been so incredibly sensitive and interested in a million things and struggling to care about everything at once ❤️

[@rhianhy]

Plant Based Bride I’m so happy for you friend 🖤 Diagnosis can be life changing!

[@lindseymunette]

A Rhian upload day is a good day ☺️

[@rhianhy]

Aww thank you

[@nicolem1335]

Had this exact bummed feeling just a couple days ago. I knew I just needed to spend some time alone. Pulled out a book, got comfy, kept to myself and tried to just slow my mind down some. Easier said than done sometimes I know. Thank you for these types of videos. 💛

[@rhianhy]

More or less what i ended up doing too

[@taylorb3084]

Being anxious about the ‘twinge’ is something I have hugely been struggling with. Once I realize I’ve been down for a couple days, I feel like I need to start to panic. I’ve been trying to be kind and realize mental health is a spectrum and some days will be harder and some days will be fine and it doesn’t make me any less okay. So thank you for sharing in an honest way, it always hits home. I’m also a therapist, and this is my hour lunch break between clients, so thank you 😊

[@rhianhy]

I appreciate you and all you do

[@kittyfriend4]

You helped me feel a little bit better this morning Rhian. You have a beautiful soul and I just like you so much.💕💕

[@RykaStar]

The color scheme for your makeup is absolutely stunning in this! Major inspiration for my makeup tomorrow!

[@mimze]

Oh I love your mental health videos and Im so sorry that you feel overwelmed sometimes with people contacing you with their issues, but on the other hand I totally understand why you need some distance from it. Take care of yourself 💕

[@lindseymunette]

I also wanted to say thank you for bringing mental health chats to the beauty space! 💞I just figured out I’m an HSP which basically explained everything about me I always labeled as a “flaw”. It’s empowering to know that I just have a different brain/nervous system in my case, like you mentioned! You sharing your experience, although specific to you, I think is universal and relatable on so many levels!! 💕

[@rhianhy]

Thank you so much for sharing Lindsey, its certainly nice to relate so much to others and feel a little comfort in that, like you said

[@gabriellevictoria]

Fellow HSP 👋🏻💕

[@TheNightGaiden]

You know I don’t have any high expectations from you when it comes to content. I am grateful for anything you chose to share with us ! I arguably love anything you put out, and it’s very brave of you to be as open as you are. You don’t owe us anything Rhian!! Love you endlessly ❤️

[@jlharly]

I completely agree with every mental health issue you brought up. I do it all and have it all. I honestly feel like no-one will truly understand feeling low. Physically and emotionally it's so draining. Being 29 and a stay at home mom with a 7 year old and a 3 year old is a struggle I push my self to get through, for them. Everyone who knows me knows I'm good at faking happiness when I'm around them. I have a hard time cleaning my house early in the day. I'm a stress cleaner as I call it. If someone is comes over or I get upset or mad I turn into a clean freak. I get genuinely happy however I also get deeply sad. I feel everyone's energy and sometimes it's too much. I have a stash of those adult coloring books for my ADHD. My husband will get upset sometimes because I end up having to color almost the whole book.... Like I legitimately can't stop. If I get interrupted it makes me very agitated and ill. Sometimes physically ill. I appreciate all you talk about and all the helpful things that you suggest. You have helped me more than you know.😍

[@lawyerlee]

Jessica-Lauren Huckeba I feel like I’m so often faking it for my kid. Solidarity. 💜

[@antianxietyrelaxation2073]

Bravo Rhian ! I believe it’s so important to have boundaries in general but definitely in having an online career or a public career . It’s great to connect this way , I can relate to so much of what you talked about ! ❤️

[@11riverstone]

What I love about my ADHD brain is the way I can make profound connections between seemingly unrelated things. I do see larger patterns and trends and can see how things fit together. I also have always loved mysteries probably for the same reason you enjoy that scary feeling. Love you!

[@rhianhy]

I can totally see that... its so interesting how we all experience it differently

[@stace_d]

You aren't a therapist for all of us, but just hearing you talk about your life and being able to relate helps me so much. Just not feeling alone means a lot.

[@kelley.s]

I think it's so great that you're setting boundaries for yourself. Not great that you need them. I think that is the best and hardest lesson I've learned the last two years. No one else knows how I'm feeling or what my boundaries are, it is up to me to say "no" when needed for my own health. Wishing you health and happiness 💜

[@taylormurphy1537]

I watched this earlier today while getting ready for my first day back to nursing school, and it felt like I was doing my makeup with a close friend and having a heart-to-heart 💜 at the end of the video my anxiety about school was WAY lower and I just thoroughly enjoy your words of encouragement and advice to us all!

[@rhianhy]

So happy to help in some small way x

[@delphi2475]

The ‘acceptance therapy’ I had was & continues to be so very helpful. Not having to punish myself constantly & feel a failure for not being happy or being positive or worse, is such a relief & does lift the burden I put on myself. To know you can live & survive even if you have these disturbing thoughts is groundbreaking. 👍 to anyone who hasn’t tried it, please give it a go. The relief it gives is amazing & so many ‘ normal ’ looking successful people are doing it too. ❤️

[@BadnPlaid]

Thank you so much for for this authentic video! I’m a psychologist-in-training (Doctoral candidate) and recently diagnosed with ADHD a year ago at the age of 31. I still have to remind myself that I am not “neurotypical”- even as a clinician in the field! Continue what you’re doing and speaking your truth. We need more people like you; you’re stronger than you think!

[@rhianhy]

Thank you Danielle, i'm sure your firsthand experience is going to make you a wonderful psychologist on top of all your hard work

[@taitumbuckley-grote213]

I needed the reminder that my brain is just different, thank you Rhian. Your content always makes me feel all warm & fuzzy inside 🥺💗

[@kellymari295]

You're beautiful inside and out. Thanks for sharing and creating this video. A year and a half later, your video is still reaching those who needed it. Much love.

[@carliekitzmiller8304]

I absolutely love your style, knowledge, and how real you are! It can be wonderful to help others but it does get overwhelming since you and others have heart and empathy. An example related to me is I am in an online support group for cancer survivors. We are on the site to help each other but it is now only open to survives for a specific cancer. It was very hard to respond to other who are caretakers and loved ones since we can only give a perspective of being the patient with cancer. We created a group for everyone so others can chat. I think you are wonderful!

[@TashinaCombs]

I loved this video. Thank you for sharing so much.

[@rhianhy]

I know you will LOVE A.C.T. and i think we do a lot of it together without knowing

[@kimberlyh5868]

You shared a post on Instagram a long time ago, maybe even years ago which basically spoke about how it's okay to not 'deal' with other people's negative emotions and depression when it start taking a toll on your own mental health and I've never forgotten it! It really made me stop and think and ultimately stopped me from feeling guilty when I decided to take care of myself instead of other people for a while! We all deserve that! X

[@rhianhy]

Sounds like we all need those reminders

[@emmatulloch4982]

Just what I needed to hear after a terrible day at work. It's calmed me and allowed me to get things into perspective. Thank you and I hope you're doing well x

[@kirstynr45]

Love a good Rhian chatty video. Not only is your voice super calming, but also makes me feel a bit better about life to just listen to somebody talk about actual life stuff. Thanks for sharing 💛💛

[@rhianhy]

I never thought of these videos being enjoyable that way but it makes sense...i think i watch other peoples and feel the same

[@laurenh1294]

re-watching this through the que a year later, and since watching it the first time I've been diagnosed and started medication for ADHD.. That sip of tea at 12:18 is now the most intensely relatable feeling in the world 😂😂 Hope you're well! 💚

[@rhianhy]

Ooof yes i'm sorry you relate now but hey, welcome to the club!! x

[@laurenh1294]

@@rhianhy Thank you! Its taken some time to get used to, but all definitely worth it I think :)

[@ems_h.eartnotes]

Always love your mental health videos. I have bipolar 1 and my husband has ADHD (and depression) so your perspectives are always really helpful to us. Thank you ❤

[@rhianhy]

Emily Hicks I bet you are a wonderfully understanding couple 🖤

[@gailterry3134]

Thanks so much, Rhian, for putting out this video. I really needed to hear what you said in the way you said it. I, too, am struggling with similar mental health issues in my own life. I could relate to so much of what you shared with us. And a lovely makeup tutorial, with a stunning finished look, too!!

[@ChristinaRichards]

i appreciate the tip on telling yourself you're okay. i had a poop day yesterday and just accepting what it is and know that it can turn around without you forcing it, is reassuring. today i'm having a better day. :)

[@rhianhy]

I'm so happy to hear that

[@paigeharrison7599]

This really helped me today 💖 I feel like I have my best friend in my living room talking to me. I love you and just letting you know that you're special to me even though we haven't even met!!! Your videos help me so much with my mental health. I also struggle with depression/anxiety/adult ADHD.

[@rhianhy]

Thank you so much Paige. I appreciate you! x

[@amandabergman6556]

Found myself nodding along with much of what you said. Self care is something I'm trying to figure out, as I've spent most of my life being shit to myself (diagnosed with generalized and social anxiety, and bipolar 2). Sharing your story, struggles, and how you manage it all is very helpful, so thank you for that.

[@rhianhy]

Love that even struggles can help us connect

[@michelle5873]

I am not crying you are. I am having one of those bum days. I am aware it is my PMS, but damn this is hitting me hard today! Thanks

[@taralynnb]

Also, I appreciate your honesty at the beginning , sharing how other people's mental health issues affect you. Always remember it's not your burden to carry. I'm glad you're just present and able to share your own experiences. I'm thankful you're here. Truly. Im glad I came across your channel about two years ago. You're my go to for a pick me up, for a reminder that we're all fucked up :) make sure you're taking care of yourself!

[@rhianhy]

Thankful for you too

[@ayyaz.4864]

I just got a comment from a superior at work that made me feel really, really down when I've been feeling great lately. I open KZbin and your new video is waiting just for me. Thank you for all that you do Rhian, I cannot even begin to imagine how overwhelming it must be to be in a position like yours but you are damn admirable!

[@rhianhy]

I'm sorry to hear that, i know it can be so hard to experience... i hope today feels a little easier

[@sanctuarylightwork1231]

Oh my gosh, linking empathy with ADHD really turned on a lightbulb for me! This may explain some things with my daughter. Now I can educate myself on what to look out for so that we can best help her if in fact ADHD is something she has. She’s young yet still but we will definitely keep an eye on things and talk with a doctor if we feel like we need to. Thank you for sharing!!

[@rhianhy]

Please check out www.additudemag.com/ if you haven't already, theres so much help on there from diagnosis, what to look for, how it affects people differently... i learn from it all the time. I bet it will be helpful for you and your daughter too

[@daniellai4403]

We got you Rhian. I love your videos and your content. We get that it's hard to make content or hard to focus. Plus love these types of videos. I watched this video while working out

[@IYKYKtwins]

Like you, I was diagnosed ADHD as an adult (44yrs old). This video spoke to me. Thank you for sharing. We could defo be friends 🖤

[@alejandramarroquin1372]

Rhian, thank you very much for sharing yourself, your vulnerability is empowering. I work in the mental health field, I am a social worker and work to reduce mental health stigma and/or lack of knowledge. Once again thank you and take care.

[@rhianhy]

Thank you for the work you do

[@stephaniestrode4330]

❤️❤️❤️❤️ Gorgeous! it’s wild, some of the things people get mad over. We are all human. I’m two months postpartum and it’s been so, so important to treat myself and others with a little extra grace lately.

[@l.elizabethmccombs5120]

Really enjoyed this video. I have ADHD as well and you gave me some really valuable info that I hadn’t heard before. And yeah, forget the judgy and ignorant peeps that don’t understand how much a low dosage stimulant can change your whole world. Keep being yourself and telling the truth. Love ya babe!

[@rhianhy]

Thank you friend

[@Phl0x]

Thank you for always having a way of articulating the vague feelings running through my mind that I am unable to form into complete sentences myself.

[@MyRonttu]

Been super anxious lately and this really helped, thanks for talking about things so openly and being genuinely you! ✨❤️

[@kathleenhaagenson]

Really enjoyed this video. I especially appreciated the part about some people with ADHD are hyper aware and emphatic. That’s me to a T.

[@sarbeauc]

I live for your long videos. Love chatting with you and hearing you speak about topics as such. Lots of love from your Canadian neighbour! 🤍

[@rhianhy]

Thanks friend xx

[@erynjohnson4367]

I’ve had my ADHD diagnosis since I was 8 years old, I’ve seen the same psychiatrist since then and I’ve got a degree in Psychology.... and I still have to remind myself that I have to be kind to myself on days where my normal activities or duties are difficult to do. I’ve learned so much about ADHD since I was old enough to research it myself and even today there is still so much to learn as research on ADHD continues to discover more about how our brains work differently compared to neural typical brains. Some research has even theorized that people with ADHD, ADD and one the Spectrum are the next evolutionary change in brain intelligence. It’s a lot to think about and it’s quite fascinating! Just remember to treat yourself kindly, let those around you support you and see someone that is educated that can help you, whether it’s a psychiatrist for medication, a psychologist for therapy or both!

[@rhianhy]

Ahhh i bet you have such great insight on it... the evolutionary thing is very interesting! x

[@morganroyFS]

I think it is a beautiful thing for yourself to set boundaries, as well as your viewers. 💞

[@morganroyFS]

Also, you should read the book, How to Stay Human in a F*cked-Up World. One of the messages really resonates with your acceptance concept!

[@ramblingcaroline2411]

That bit about jumping topics made me laugh like crazy! Everyone tells me this as though it's a bad thing, but really, it's a superpower of sorts.

[@rhianhy]

We just have a lot to talk about 😂

[@brittany9233]

Sending you love. That's all. Just love and peace. Thank you for this video and your honesty. You're a good person.

[@rhianhy]

Thank you Brittany

[@stevieoberg3104]

Thank you so much for talking about Adult ADHD, I got diagnosed in Aug (I'm 27). Knowing you had it helped me keep it in a positive light (ADHD wasn't viewed nicely in my house). I'm diagnosed and getting treatment now. Also my little sister (17) has gotten diagnosed AND my dad, who has been in deep denial about his, actually admitted he has it too. Idk I believe God was majorly at play when I came across your videos when I did but I want you to know that you talking about it has helped people. I know it's hard but I hope that knowledge lifts your spirits.

[@rhianhy]

Thank you Stephanie

[@maryjopowers2532]

Great convo, thanks Rhian. My boyfriend has some mental health issues and listening to you has helped me to better understand him(just wish he was more proactive about it). Glad you're doing well🤗😘

[@Cwtchaholic]

I’ve missed these videos! ❤️

[@warriorgoddesscrystalgeome6337]

Thank you for this topic, helps me understand myself better.

[@kellygibson3250]

I love that ur so open n real. This was a perfect vid . I woke feeling anxious little rough but I did yoga n meditation ...thanx for sharing

[@pinkandpink4577]

I can imagine hearing everyone else's woes could be stressful. There's no way I could do it. Age does help with some things. I'll be 44 next month and it seems like sometimes I just trade one source of stress for another. This acceptance concept is interesting. You are right about the school systems. My kid's schools don't have outdoor access. The high school has a tiny little courtyard, and the middle school has no outdoor space. My son has adhd and suffers terribly because he just wants to be out. I really enjoyed this video. Thanks for sharing your views and facts on ADHD. I was just diagnosed with ADD last August. I pursued testing because I came across old medical records from when I was around 7 years old which stated I had ADD back then but nothing was done for it (early 1980s). I've battled it all my life not knowing what it was until now. So now, I'm just beginning to try and figure out how to live it.

[@T_7318]

I've been following Bill Hader's advice of recognizing your emotions and thinking "this is just me feeling nervous/depressed/unmotivated, and it's okay to feel that way" it allows you to let yourself feel that emotion and process it without further guilt or anxiety, but I'm going to add your suggestion of: and i'm personally okay. "Oh right this is just me feeling this common emotion, which is okay to feel, AND come to think of it, I'm okay and am going to be okay"

[@rhianhy]

Yes! Love this!

[@cleobby]

Oh I know that "bummed" feeling so well. The best thing for me is just to understand that its only a day and there are more to come.

[@christinepeterman3693]

This is my favorite video! It's nice to know others know how I feel with anxiety disorder and my son who struggles with ADHD. I tell my son the same thing my doctor told me when I was diagnosed... ther isnt anything wrong with you, your brain is just wired different than most.

[@rhianhy]

Your son is so lucky to have such a wonderful mum

[@loulikestotalk2300]

I have just found your channel and I am already in love with you!

[@rhianhy]

Welcome new friend x

[@roxanaprobably4491]

I really love this video! It calmed me a bit and gave my negativity some way out. Thank you!

[@AmandaGam17]

I can’t get over your tea cup! 🤗

[@MariannaInari]

Always lovely to listen to you 💕 I was deeply effected by beauty standards quite late in life (I am in my mid 30s) without even knowing it. Then, I came across a book, Beauty Sick. And I got so angry, but it deeoy changed the way I look at people online, and the way I judge my self. I recommend it to everyone - man or woman ❤️

[@rhianhy]

Marianna Zanetta Sounds like I definitely need to check that book out 🖤

[@liliancazzulo]

Just love all over the place Rhian... keep it coming.. 🤗👍🏻😘

[@knmetz2]

Love this video. I struggle with a lot of the same issues and it’s nice to hear from someone going through similar things. I find your videos so relaxing. Thank you!!!

[@rhianhy]

Kim105 Sure is nice to feel human 🖤

[@knmetz2]

A visit to my psychiatrist and a video from you always makes me feel better 💗

[@riahdouds6802]

Thank you for the video. Love your channel. Thank you for respecting your boundaries (that might be weird to say but I appreciate it).

[@Andrayalee]

Ive been feeling this calm lately too and I wasn't sure how to describe it. Like I'm not totally ok but I'm ok with it? I've just been able to relax and let things be 💜

[@rhianhy]

A little peace is always welcome

[@courtneyjacobs6021]

This has been quite eye opening . I’m going to start saying “but I’m okay” at the end of any of my mental struggles I may be feeling. Thank you.

[@rhianhy]

Courtney Jacobs Sounds like you really might enjoy ACT if you have time to delve into it x

[@courtneyjacobs6021]

I’m going to look into it💜 thank you!

[@carmenx5463]

I totally understand you… you are a wonderful human being 😊❤️

[@lisagreen-otero5351]

Proud 👏🏼 of 👏🏼 you👏🏼for👏🏼holding 👏🏼a 👏🏼boundary!!! That’s hard to do and good on you for doing the dang thing!

[@rhianhy]

Lisa Harrington Thank you Lisa 🖤🖤🖤

[@MetteLine80]

I love this. I have ADD with a late diagnosis. I can relate to everything you’re mentioning 🥰

[@evetalarski8789]

❤️❤️❤️ thank you for being you!

[@HorseJumperAJ]

Love you Rhian ✨

[@rhianhy]

Appreciate you lots

[@stoneyvowell1239]

Thank you for sharing I do find it useful kind of like you were saying with watching a TED Talk, which I do a lot of that too. I tried to keep up with what's going on with some of my conditions and it's very helpful to remind myself of some of the limitations but also the advantages of them. I watch a lot of counselors this advice and treatment strategies as well. I hope I have not said anything mean or triggering, because I guess I have a tendency of doing that unknowingly.

[@rhianhy]

Stoney Vowell I don’t think you have 🖤 It’s always good to know ourselves x

[@pennytarr7498]

You can only do what you can do. I think because you have opened yourself up people think they have the right to steam roll over you. Good for you, setting boundaries. Because you are so kind and empathetic, you need to take care of yourself first.

[@rhianhy]

Thank you Penny

[@taralynnb]

I just started therapy last month. I've had three sessions so far and I'm so glad I FINALLY started. It's always hard at the beginning, learning your therapist, them learning you, how to start, where to start. It's overwhelming. Any advice on starting therapy for the first time and feeling overwhelmed and where to start?

[@rhianhy]

I think my best advice is to not overthink it (even if that is our specialty)... i often think the best sessions are when you go into them without an agenda in mind, that way things flow a little more naturally and you can also see how your therapists guides you through your thoughts.

[@danapanaOO]

Thank you for talking about ADHD 💙

[@jadev9223]

thank you for this 💖

[@DutchesLove1926]

Yup I’m game here latily it’s been a hard couple of weeks

[@rachelaleece]

I’m feeling “emotion” and I’m okay. Wow thank you. 🥰

[@rhianhy]

rachelaleece Puts a different twist on it hey? 🖤

[@rachelaleece]

Rhian HY for sure! Having permission to feel and not having to do anything about it but acknowledge it. Wow.

[@jlharly]

I love love love you gorgeous... As always I adore every video... Hugs to you and your beautiful family. Especially those fur babies...😘

[@rhianhy]

Thank you sweet friend, appreciate you so much

[@lindap1767]

Trying not to beat myself up as I wasn‘t as productive as I intended. This helped 😊

[@rhianhy]

A constant struggle! I often feel so annoyed that i didn't complete my intended list but realize i actually accomplished SO much any way... our brains can be really cruel!

[@lindap1767]

Rhian HY Yes, exactly. While watching your video I realized how stupid it is to beat myself up even about little things like not having cleaned the bathroom. I shouldn‘t waste energy on being mean to myself about something like that. Just accepting that today I don‘t feel my best and that it is ok to feel that way, is such good advice... simple and effective. Thank you💜

[@rhianhy]

@@lindap1767 Ok last thing, i promise! I saw someone on IG post that they name their inner critic so you can think "oh shut up Fiona", for example. I kinda love that idea. x

[@lindap1767]

Rhian HY Oh, I love that 😂

[@jennifergreggerson6225]

Thank you

[@-natmac]

Rewatching this and laughed out loud at “2020 so far has been… I don’t want to jinx it, but pretty alright” 😂

[@katefazio1515]

1:20 she totally fucking jinxed it...

[@rhianhy]

No she did not, don't put this on me!

[@katefazio1515]

@@rhianhy fire up the hate forums so I have something to do with my rampant boredom and unexplored dissatisfaction with life! 🙃

[@Foofie2005]

Luv Ya Girl 🥰 I hear you and can relate! Be Well 💋 xo

[@mackenziec7303]

#adultADHDsquad here; stimulants changed my life. Completely. It’s nothing like whatever it does to people without adhd - it literally just levels the functional playing field. My best friend is pretty neurotypical and I explain it to her like everyone has a skein of yarn in their head. For people like her, it’s nice and neatly wrapped up like you would find at the craft store. For me it’s normally just a tangled hot mess in my head, but my adderall untangles it all and puts it into a neat little pile. Stimulants completely eradicated my paralyzing paranoia (which I never realized was connected whatsoever) and made a significant improvement in my anxiety and depression because it is much easier for me to complete the small, day to day tasks that would normally overwhelm me. People who hate on psychological medications can kindly eat dirt 😊

[@rhianhy]

Thats such a good analogy!! I also described it as that it allowed me to fully finish one thought before losing it to the next. I filmed my first few days when i started taking it but never did anything with the footage... mostly because i was in shock for some of it. So happy to connect with you

[@modernvettech]

When your girl says grab something to drink and essential oils to sniff and you immediately pause the video to load the water bottle and essential oil diffuser.

[@rhianhy]

Modern Vet Tech Lifestyle So appreciate vet techs 🖤🖤

[@leahcarrillo3853]

Hi Rhian! I know there's chance you may not see this... totally okay with that! but incase you do... I think I've heard you say in a past video you have email templates you sometimes use? Maybe you can create one that says what you mentioned in min 4... that you are sorry for what the other person is going through and you have your own things and here are some resources etc. I think that's the best you can do for yourself and the people who reach out to you. I'm a psychology major, and still have a world of knowledge to gain in this field but thats the point, you shouldn't be expected to have all of the answers, like you said you aren't a trained therapist or anything. Hope maybe that helps, and that you are well. Cheers!

[@rhianhy]

I basically do that already, it just goes ignored half the time and i get pressed for more.

[@ericakauffman5786]

I have dealt with a lot of bullying in my life with Tourette Syndrome, and I know that when I tell people (even my new GP) how many meds I take they "think" I'm a drug addict but none have had the guts to actually say it to my face! Did someone write that to you or say it to you? Just curious and outraged ...

[@rhianhy]

Erica Kauffman I’m sorry people can be so cruel and I certainly don’t think that 🖤 I have had several people tell me that online unfortunately, one of which even stated they were a nurse which was horrifying.

[@ericakauffman5786]

Rhian HY. Herein lies the terrible results of stigmatizing and labeling brain health. People are not going to seek help if they think they will be labeled by friends, family or other physicians. I personally do not use the word "mental" health: I use brain health. The brain is just another organ in the body. No one is horrified by the amount of medication people take for heart disease, or blood pressure, or kidney issues, so what's the problem with medication for the brain? That is obviously rhetorical. I am fortunate to have one of the top neuro-psychs in the country responsible for my care but those type of physicians are extremely difficult to find. I continue my study of neuroscience just so I can help my doctor help me. I recommend that approach to anyone who has any physical illness.

[@taralynnb]

Wow, your intense bum-ness, that's me today. After functioning at work all day, I came home and just laid in bed, accepted that hey, I'm feeling just down today, I would like to fix it but hey, I can't so here I am. And then you showed up with this video! Haha sorry for blowing up your comments.

[@rhianhy]

Its an honor to be bummed with you

[@micaylamcnea481]

This isn’t mental heath related sorry.... but I just wanted to know the company of your giant white cup you drink water out of haha. You always have it in so many videos and I can never find it! Thank you! Big fan by the way!

[@rhianhy]

I got mine on Amazon, i think i have it linked in my amazon affiliate page linked x

[@stinestausholm7227]

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[@stuffthings3481]

Being a Gemini star sign is a pain in my arse. Sociable but doesn't have friends or family in many prospects 😡 but im also a introvert haha so 🤪🤷‍♀️