Mental health...why won't i help myself?

[@joyceadegboyega8524]

Your not alone I am at the same stage Joyce Adegboyega

[@GenerationJonesi]

Sometimes it's just too damn exhausting to keep on top of it. Just let the day be crap, and start again tomorrow. xxoo

[@MrPoggin]

There is an idolisation if this inhuman idea of success that we are surrounded by. London is particularly bad for it. People are expected to throw all their time and energy into pushing their careers - with the expectation that it will make them happy. But we are not built for that. And more and more of us are realising it. City living is fragmented us so we are all off doing our own little thing, struggling under the weight of our own expectations that have been distorted by this false idea of success. It is so strange, with so many people together it should be the opposite. Taking time for yourself, to recharge, to reconnect with family and friends is not a waste of time. To try and cut into that crucial rest time for doing more work is a false economy. For anyone. All it leads to is misery and burnout. For any of us to really do well, our priorities must be right, and work should never be number 1.

[@tolstoy431]

This is so true!!!!!!!. Why is everybody doing that RAT-RACE that Will defenitally leed to absolute misery and Lies. There doesn,t EXIST SOMETHING LIKE THE AMERICAN DREAM. And then again why would i give up everything, my Boeing and whole energy Just to have a job and a house with a White picket fence. Is that what LIFE is all about????. Come on people.......!!

[@MrPoggin]

tolstoy431 I would say the desire to have ones own home does end up as part of the drive to enter the “rat race” but this is paradoxical because it comes from the desire to escape that cycle. But what is the point in having your own home if you never spend and quality time in it? People want real communities, networks of trust that are physically around them and not just digitally. Having your own home gives part of the security that encourages community. But in the big city no one can afford to buy a home now - we are “generation rent”, pouring away our savings just to have a room to live in. And even then you can be turfed out on two months notice. It is no wonder we never seek to know our neighbours when at the drop of a hat we could be asked to go.

[@tolstoy431]

@@MrPoggin so true. Here in our country ( Holland) rent is also very expensive. And Will be higher in future.....people get desperate.....

[@jimthevic]

BTW, you're still *TOTALLY* gorgeous! 😁😘

[@andrewgarfield9898]

Not anymore. He looked a lot better a few years ago when he was skinny

[@jimthevic]

@Philip Alumbo Just look at him! 😍

[@mattDettling]

Everyone loves a compliment ...

[@alanawilliams3221]

You are doing incredibly well from an outsider looking in, but you must remember to look after yourself, if you don’t then how can you help anyone else? I can totally relate to the feelings of being overwhelmed with the world and feeling unable to keep up with life. You are not alone in feeling this way, I know myself that I feel the same way. I have done cbt for over a year but have not seen my therapist in months due to her being off sick... I’ve failed to look after myself and use the tools that I have been given. I now feel like I’m back at square one, this isn’t the same for everyone, sure, but everyone needs to put themselves first rather than education, work etc at the end of the day this is your life, no one else’s. Please look after yourself, (this goes for everyone reading this!) and thank you for taking the time to read this...

[@katiehoughton1278]

You're amazing Jonny - don't forget that and watching this video it seems like you have answered your own question. I also get the getting in to a habit of being busy....like for example i get in to a habit with my handmade business where i do it all day every day and "need" to finish every order as quickly as possible i get stuck in that track and theb burn out....whereas when ive managed to chill out a bit ive realised acgually its SO much better when i DONT need to do that but its so hard to break and so easy to fall back in to!! You CAN do this Jonny but you CAN also have time for you. What helps me is to get a planner like a good daily planner and write out day plans a week in advance - that includes planning in netflix time (get it!) And meditation time etc and really stick to what youve written down and you will see that it wont all fall apart because youve taken time for you. You cant keep going at thr rate you are if its nit wirking for you but that doesnt make you a failure! You are anything but but you also cant be everywhere for everyone except yourself ♡♡♡♡ you can do this! X

[@henryfantoni3252]

If you are ever in the Ripon, Harrogate or Leeds area let me know! I would love to see you in person! I've followed you for years! Maybe 7 or 8! You're doing great! Just remember life isn't about the destination!... It's about the journey!

[@JoeHesterMusic]

I know exactly how you feel. I am running myself into the ground, too. It's terrible for our mental health but we just can't seem to stop.

[@vanillasockpig1002]

By taking the time to go into the hospital and having that break you did help your self in my opinion. I find with my mental health illness I have to celebrate the small achievements to get through things. I take a break from things when I start to feel myself slipping and if that means I have to go into the hospital then I go to get straighten out. I also taught myself to knit there is something about touching the soft wool and hearing the needles click together that helps me. I know there are different things that works for each individual person. When I say I knit, I mean I knit all the time. I even take it every where I go. It helps to calm down my mind. I don't know if you have anything you like to do that helps calm your mind but if you do I would suggest doing it more often. If you don't I hope you can find something that it calming to you that is portable that you could do anytime and it could go anywhere with you.

[@tolstoy431]

Oh Johnny , that's the thing. If IT was Just that easy. But we all know Unfortunately IT if anything but that easy.....

[@suzannealsop3394]

I’ll try and keep message short as you need time out. I have been exactly the same with my illness. Got ill over Easter finding it hard to belief the truth. Really upsetting for my loved ones around me. My friend tells me to enjoy other things in life as well as I have been absorbed in mental health perhaps a little too much lately. She says it is known that even some psychiatrists can loose their sanity if around mental illness all the time. I know what I should be doing to look after myself but don’t always do it. I’m determined I’m not going to let the illness win though so will be stricter with my self-care. You can only do one thing at a time and just focus fully on that. Remember God is all about love and you exemplify that perfectly. God has a plan specifically for each of us so just listen to your heart. He will reveal to you what you need to be doing going forward. I have learnt to finally accept that my limitations are different to others who do not have this illness. Just take it one day at a time. Much love 🌸 Xx

[@snsonline1640]

Hi Jonny (Nick from SNS Online here) - I know you have representation but it still sounds like you need a PA to take the heat off booking trains, hotels, plus someone to be your representative for certain phone calls, negotiations, meetings, even visits if you can't make. (I don't mean me btw in case you thought I was dropping hints!) Someone who is trained up to understand how the intricacies of your busy life works and so deals with much of it. That can also include your social media, unless you particularly need to post something up yourself. There is no reason why you can't be 'busy/successful' etc - but factoring in your exercises/mindfulness/time to 'smell the flowers' etc (even Netflix - why not?) must surely be an essential part of every single day now. And as you can't clone yourself, the 'Benjamin Machine' must surely expand to allow you to life your own life better. I feel sure you'll work it all out in time and hopefully find additional help - but clearly you have the answers in your own video. Big hugs mate and hope you enjoyed the play in Salisbury xx

[@jimthevic]

Do you absolutely believe in your worth? That you are worth self-care and fighting for? I've found I have to work on that first to unlock everything else. Xx

[@Jsarson1976]

Some times we self sabotage our selves, my work knows nothing about my illness I am too afraid to tell anyone. Anyways I found that Sa Ha Ja joga it's self healing yoga for the mind and the soul there are free sessions every town and city in the UK. I is nothing like the yoga you know about. Really helped my Mental health issues when I used to be worse with my BPD. There is no such thing as you don't have time just 5 minutes a day is a start dude 👍💜

[@taninsamkaye3386]

im not really an organized person but i think i function better on a schedule. i think i could do all the mindfulness techniques and work out daily if life would just stop getting in the way ya know? im a mom of 2 under 3 and i have schizoaffective and it's hard finding time for my own self care.

[@fionascheibel977]

How are you doing now Jonny? I really hope you feel better. I come scarily close to being involuntarily admitted to the psych ward today. My Dr is really concerned about my self harm and suicide risk. I think i can be trusted to care for myself. But maybe im over estimating my ability My inperson support network now contains only my Dr who is about to move back over seas after not getting a permanent visa. Im not sure what will happen to me then. Psych patients are most Dr's horror patients. So far no one else at the Dr surgery has vollenteered to take me on. I will just be assigned to someone if no one vollenteers. I do have a follow up appointment in 4 days when hopefully my Dr will have had a vollenteer to be my new Dr. I promised him i will turn up still alive.

[@normanknutsen8253]

Please note this is solely about why I don't do self-care for my Bi-Polar Type II with Psychotic Features. I normally do administrative/data analyst jobs that are not very stressful but can still take up time and energy and are also fun and fulfilling Many times I find myself focusing on work to the exclusion of most everything else (even though objectively, it really isn't that much time) but definitely enough to not exercise or follow through on plans with friends. Many times doing work after hours helps me keep other people away while still feeling like I am connected to the world, through my work, not sure if this is good or bad. Also sometimes I think I might self-sabotage my mental wellness to avoid facing other things in my life, work, relationships, etc. For instance I never have dated anyone and am over 40. Have always told myself I need to start doing it once "I am stable" and/or "don't have a lot of work to do". Hope you feel better. You are doing a lot for people all around the world. Thank you for all your great work. Can very much relate to the intrusive thoughts about throwing the water at the person you were talking to in the one video you did.

[@user-xy4ff5yp7b]

What is your medication combination now?

[@ilovemanatees996]

you're so handsome!

[@matiashannu5841]

I love you ...remeber this💗💗💗

[@harrieta6961]

You are amazing. You need to slow down otherwise you won't be well enough to spread the word. Maybe it's time for another book. Give u some down time x

[@user-xy4ff5yp7b]

And what did they do in hospital?

[@evoke2329]

Kept him in a secure and safer environment than that of a public one, to allow him to time to feel well enough to manage life in the community safely again. These hospitals save lives.

[@user-xy4ff5yp7b]

Wandering Minstrel I was just asking what specifically happened to him

[@reynolds1949]

Seems a trifle odd 'liking' a post like this, but it's a measure of admiration as much as anything. It's really easy to not find time for meditation or mindfulness practices Have some 'me time' x

[@SophieeBxxx]

Is there any way I can message you?

[@zedthemartian2355]

cool guy. wish i'd met him a confused guy cannot see order, that i know. it's like knowing life can be good when you're depressed. don't take care. chill. music is allways great, at least for me, better than f**king meditating with those guys at the buddist center: they're too enlightned... they're playing 'depressed' people

[@tolstoy431]

I AM afraid you want to reach to many goals. You alteady are a good human. Why be a superhuman. Just STOP THAT. Try to accept that you are alteady good right Here right now......