Merle & Aria Try Quarantining Together

[@MerleONeal]

Thanks for watching, everyone. This was a great learning experience for us as a couple. The major takeaway from this for us was to OVER COMMUNICATE and allow our emotions to run their course (whether it's through exercise, meditation, screaming into a pillow (seriously), etc.... We were happy to document our experience for this video to the best of our abilities to show that there is no one way to feel about what we're all going through right now. Sending you all love and light.

[@Aria.Inthavong]

Yes, lots of love to everyone! I agree with everything this beautiful tall vegan lady said above. It was a bit awkward having to document some of the rougher times, but hopefully our experiences can provide good learnings for anyone curious! AND for those of you that are worried about BuzzFeed making us do this video, have no fear! Like Merle said, we were happy to try and document things (if anything for ourselves to look back on). If at any point we were ever asked to film something that we think would cause actual harm to our relationship, rest assured that we wouldn’t do it - THIS IS MY WORLD, AFTER ALL. 🔥🔥🔥 That said, thanks for looking out for us ❤️🎅🏼 Stay safe, everyone!

[@vivek27789]

You guys are both great...this was a such a good video showing simple trials and tribulations of any new relationship especially in times such as now...I especially liked the fact that u guys resolved ur conflict by properly communicating to each other and not having a shouting match with each other as most do which deteriorates things further..Also the thing about quality not quantity of the time with ur partner struck a little close to home for me as i have always mistakenly believed spending time together meant just being with my partner instead of doing or making the time spent together meaningful and making the moments feel shared and cherished somehow....I pray u guys have a long,meaningful and satisfying relationship with each other...Also i am sorry if we as buzzfeed viewers are putting pressure and unreal expections on ur relationship...It is just we love u guys so much and have been invested in ur relationship from start and whenever i see any video of you two together it brings a smile to my face no matter how bad my day is going.

[@henryjen396]

this was so helpful for me and my relationship, thank you for posting

[@Stephanie-ki5oz]

Exactly!! I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years living with him for 3, I swear this quarantine is hard on us too!! We literally had a night where we laughed and screamed out the things that were annoying us about the other person. Felt good and released any tension!

[@Eontologist]

Merle O'Neal my bf of over 6 years is living with me for the first time during this shelter in place and we have been going through many of the same things. Making sure there is intentional quality time structured into the day has been a super important realization. Also, learning how to communicate effectively and utilizing the other person’s love language has been exceptionally helpful too ❤️

[@msvideos234]

His love language is acts of service and hers is quality time. Done, problem solved, you're welcome.

[@nalab4724]

This is soooo true 🙌 they should look into this

[@patinetacion]

I was thinking the same thing!!! Im actualy reading another book from Chapman, the love language for children!!!

[@lexarico7606]

This makes so much sense. Could you be both?

[@patinetacion]

@@lexarico7606 Yes! But one is more dominant than the other! Read "The 5 love language" From Gary Chapman. Also in audiobook, it helped me a lot to love better my husband

[@sunjanadas8795]

guacamole You hit the nail on the head 👌🏽 they’re great together but their ways of expressing love are different. Of course we’ve only seen small snippets of their lives and I’m not trying to tell them what to do with their lives since I don’t know them, but I think communication is key

[@kylledumlao]

Their backs must hurt for carrying the quality content of buzzfeed

[@dorsayzm8246]

so true

[@diamondborealis454]

This is quality content? Lmao

[@rootsandwingsboutique]

Bring back worth it

[@samlung2724]

Oh. I thought you were gonna say because of all the sex they have.

[@hikingandhermitcrabs]

Stolen comment

[@jess9306]

maybe it would last long if buzzfeed wasn’t trying to document every step of their relationship

[@disguisedgoose2468]

jess it’s actually good for couples to argue and send ground rules and flogging is a good way to express your feelings

[@getitright....5332]

Completly agree!!!

[@getitright....5332]

I wonder what they will do if they break up

[@koolklub]

I don’t think buzzfeed is forcing them... i think they chose to do this

[@getitright....5332]

@@koolklub yh but buzzfeed is obviously going to suggest it

[@professorthread]

Honestly being able to see a fight (a small one, but a fight) and healthy resolution and communication is huge. I'm really glad Merle and Aria felt confident enough to put it out there for the world to see. I almost teared up seeing them talk it out.

[@arushiharkawat7336]

Wow i agree

[@bam0its0nina]

me too! i love that they shared it! a lot of people in my life avoid conflict rather than wanting to resolve it, so it's always nice to see healthy examples of conflict resolution!

[@kellyv6075]

It a fight or a talk? Fight is a word to indicate argument based conflict rather than being on the same team to resolve a problem :)

[@nusayba864]

same, i feel like i know them

[@Elizabeth-ej6ln]

you call that a fight???

[@stern12akachris32]

They are literally stuck in their house and people are complaining on the content . What do you want them to do make shadow puppets ????

[@emak.6111]

stern12 To be honest, that would be a fun video.

[@alexlussier8730]

The try guys are doing stuff like that

[@kebbesan]

Alex Lussier literally the try guys yeah lmao 😂

[@oriondavidtorres1759]

Shadow puppets, love that

[@lepetitchat123]

Some things need to be kept private. This couple should know that if they are mature enough....and not everyone wants to know the minutiae of their relationship. I'll lose my respect for these two if they keep doing videos like this one.

[@YBlvr]

I love this so much - it feels like this isn’t a “perfect” relationship (whatever that means) but a healthy relationship. My favourite part about this video is actually the brief conflict, because even immediately after the conflict started, both Merle and Aria immediately reflected on their own actions and tried to empathize with the other person, and they also gave each other some much-needed time apart. I think that’s what made the conflict resolution process so constructive and helpful. I’ve vowed to act that way in my relationship too.

[@emilygarcia830]

So that’s what a healthy relationship looks like. Interesting I’ve never seen one before. *taking notes*

[@KiaBKB]

Emily Garcia okay!!! I’m like oh wow

[@misishappynes]

how do you conclude that the relationship is healthy from seeing a Buzzfeed video -

[@CR-zd7jb]

Lafrrra perhaps by using a simple and primitive nervous system, similar to that of an annelid.

[@Kat-qb1uj]

This was so nice to watch

[@Kat-qb1uj]

Lafrrra a buzzfeed video that left in an argument to show that they don’t milk only the good things

[@ToffmanToff]

This was so needed. Relationships are being tested like crazy right now.

[@lucalendvai]

ScorgeBSK you say that like u cant have both

[@olympusdevil3013]

ScorgeBSK No need to be sorry. You were very clear about what you said. Most people understand.

[@dariellemagana9807]

Even family relationship is being tested

[@Hayata_dair_hersey95]

@@dariellemagana9807 Yes sadly I am tested with my mom because of this. We keep fighting hurting each other, not understand each other. And I keep crying in bed.

[@dariellemagana9807]

@@Hayata_dair_hersey95 I relate as well, but i think open talk will do and simple gestures like hug will do dont worry it will also make our relationship strong once we communicate were on this together ❤

[@PaulLoh]

Being an Asian man who is married to a Caucasian woman, I see parallels between your relationship and ours. I honestly love everything I see about how you communicate, how you are together. Your honesty and transparency is refreshing, even when you're going through negative times. It helps me to see a couple like you two, especially when I can see both your personal and professional lives. My wife and I enjoy watching all of your videos.

[@SethColby69]

thanks to quarantine , it's helping middle school relationships actual last longer than a week

[@getitright....5332]

🤣🤣🤣

[@milaburhanzai]

Lmao honestly

[@str791]

*Yet I’m still single...*

[@anonchick4789]

OOF

[@deepalijain9498]

Seth Colby lol

[@michaelasuorsa]

“I was blown away by this white woman” HAHAHA

[@SparkleP8nter]

Michaela Suorsa yeah I like spicy too. Probably not AS spicy as she does but when most people say something is spicy it isn't to me...

[@Luna-bz1lj]

Me with white men 😂. (I’m Latin)

[@CR-zd7jb]

Luna saying you are Latin is extremely vague. Do you mean Latin as in Roman? Or Latin as in a person who speaks a language part of the Latin family tree? Or do you mean I Iberian? All of the above a are endemically white caucasians. Maybe you mean Latin American? Even then that is an extremely vague term to describe ones race, since Latin Americans are mainly either or a combination of 1-3 (Native American, Sub-Saharan African, and European) different races.

[@sharp8084]

I cant tell if this is direct or sexu...

[@CR-zd7jb]

@@sharp8084 I made a comment on this post about that, though it somehow was deletus

[@almag8173]

why is everyone saying that buzzfeed is milking them... like they literally said PEOPLE WERE ASKING US to make the video, and THEY agreed to do it, and it’s a GREAT video! they want to show that a “perfect relationship” doesn’t exist and showing a healthy communication can be very helpful for some people! and you can clearly see that they love each other so much. If you don’t like them go watch their separate content then and don’t act like this is all they do cause it’s just not true.

[@getitright....5332]

True, but its obviously not going to help their relationship and they knew that because they wouldnt make a video if there wasn't drama because people would find it boring

[@MegaStupid24]

get it right.... I can see where you’re coming from but you should try to understand that there’s definitely much more to their relationship than the clips you see because they choose what you see on camera

[@getitright....5332]

@@MegaStupid24 yes, but they are using them

[@almag8173]

get it right.... I don’t think they would do something that would “ruin” their relationship on purpose, and if they wanted to, they could make it seem that they were the happiest couple ever and that they don’t ever get upset with each other, but that’s just not realistic, people asked for a reality check and they delivered. period.

[@getitright....5332]

@@almag8173 yh but at the same time they need to make money and you would be surprised at what people do for money

[@mollybells1202]

Can y’all please be kinder in this damn comment section? This video is interesting and vulnerable and sweet. I appreciate them.

[@lovenickandmiley7]

As weird as it was to witness them go through everyday sort of fight, I think it may help younger people see how healthy relationships deal with it. Sitting down, having a conversation, and working it out. There is too many movies and TV shows out there that only show the screaming matches and hot and steamy make ups. lmao not real life.

[@nikitagogoibaruah4744]

Agreed. TV shows and movies gave us really unrealistic ideas of love. That's not how a relationship would work in real life. And even if I was a tad uncomfortable watching this video, it shows how people resolve their issues irl.

[@tatreaul]

I HIGHLY recommend creating a designated workspace in your home. When you bring work to your couch, bed, etc it creates stress where it is not necessary. Love you two!

[@hannaciepiela4664]

I don’t care what anyone says that was such a healthy example of a relationship and communication and the fact that they are on camera doing it for so many people is even more impressive!! You guys are great

[@coconutsciencegirl9232]

Aria:”making love” Merle:”not on camera” Aria:”🤔eh 😬😏💁🏻‍♂️” 🤣🤣🤣 oh Aria

[@abbypayne4496]

Coconut ScienceGirl92 😂😂

[@liulingling88]

Girl don't feel bad for your partner taking care of you for a WEEK. Seriously.... He clearly wanted to do it, did not resent you at all, and just wanted to support you. We women do not always need to be a good caretaker. You're a good girlfriend because he loves you and likes being with you. He's said you've taken care of him as well. Let people take care of you without guilt. You deserve it.

[@spookyzombie7769]

you could tell that their little spat was hurting them both so much.

[@Sage-jo6bz]

My fiance and I have literally spent 24 hours a day together for the past 8 years, minus maybe like 3 weeks apart max? and I still get excited when I hear him walking towards the room I'm in. Not to mention we talk nonstop throughout the day. He is the only person I can do this with, without getting annoyed at all. He literally feels like an extension of myself and another person all at the same time.

[@vardhan4594]

🥺

[@aistosee]

that’s adorable

[@carolinehuang3232]

That’s amazing

[@cowboybeboop9420]

Where you living on a deserted island or something?

[@lillianajolie7688]

Whenever Merle was saying “imagine sharing something so personal with thousands or possibly millions of people” she was also helping those people so much. It helped me a lot and I hope that video did the same thing for others.❤️

[@zodiacsoldier]

Merle: "Working from home used to feel like a snow day, and now it's everyday." Agreed, working from home was fun the first week, now I just want to go outside...

[@Leada1ne]

Who's stopping you from going outside??

[@itsthatguy0]

You can still go outside. Front yard. Back yard. The sides of the house. What’s stopping you from that??

[@pyrodoll7137]

Honestly this is the realest thing. I've had a semi work from home situation for years and it still couldn't prepare me for this. Not being able to go anywhere (SOME OF US DON'T HAVE A YARD Y'ALL.) can't go out, can't force a work life balance and separate from it for a while it's just there. The "snow day" feeling has become "okay can the blizzard be over I wanna go" where? "literally anywhere but here."

[@maraisfan4life517]

That Dude They probably meant somewhere public like a restaurant or something

[@esha7535]

I feel like I'm intruding in their lives watching this, like I'm not supposed to watch this but I am watching it uk what I mean?😅

[@Sh1roNekoshi]

BuzzFeed is really milking these poor people's relationship for content

[@anoushkasinha6233]

Sameee

[@emobuddha]

Aria and Merle legit have such a healthy relationship. They communicate when things are wrong and work things out. I love them

[@roaringwater6519]

No couple is “perfect” we all have problems at some point and it’s important to talk about how each person feels, and that way you can work on it together, and watching them be real and say everything they feel is just so satisfying 😌 they’ll get through this I know y’all can 💕

[@aznanimegrl12]

when merle was tearing up, i started to tear up as well. i have been staying with my boyfriend of 10 months at this point, for the past two weeks. we've never been with each other this much 24/7 in his little apartment, and since it's been a delicate situation with the virus (both of us getting laid off, my bf experiencing a death of his friend from the virus, and myself going through other challenges like depression), I definitely related to the feelings and struggles Merle and Aria have been facing. it's been hard on our relationship because we aren't always in the best mood but we've been communicating a lot through the whole thing. thank you for sharing this part of your relationship during this hard time.

[@PAARDEBLOEEM]

aznanimegrl12 wish u the best in this strange time!! 💕

[@jaychokshi]

Time to dump him

[@marnee117]

you arent alone!! its so hard to be a thriving couple when you dont get any time apart to reflect on things/have alone time. especially with all the external stress of the world rn. i think the struggles we are facing as couples are a lot more common and valid than we think. i wish you both the best!!!

[@aznanimegrl12]

Lilya Luna I just chose to ignore the troll. It doesn’t bother me.

[@aznanimegrl12]

Jona Marie thank you 🥰

[@cheyennewestbrook6966]

This is a real representation of a relationship. Miscommunication that leads to an argument, which then leads to self reflection and then a conclusion within the relationship.

[@siennacullimore8776]

They know that Merle and Aria are the only people at buzzfeed we like anymore.

[@luzmilasalomesandovalsanch9947]

What about Rie? :'v

[@Sacrificallamba]

@@luzmilasalomesandovalsanch9947 Rie is probably on maternity leave

[@noonecares9425]

how about the worth it series

[@luzmilasalomesandovalsanch9947]

@@noonecares9425 they have a seperate show "Watcher", not aure if the left or not

[@charmiller7478]

And shane and ryan

[@aroundtheworldinaprildays]

Humility - best ingredient in any healthy relationship.

[@minniepop90]

It took a really long time for Aria to get Merle to be his. He just did not want to mess it up. I think is amazing to just sit and have a convo on what the problem is and trying to figure out the solution then screaming and fighting. 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@demi191]

Real question is did the cat actually use the wall perch?

[@aidanriemann5979]

Probably not cats are assholes

[@sorackee2512]

Let's be honest, probably not lol

[@felishamartinez854]

I love how she calls him sweet man. So cute!

[@spencer62321]

I think quarantine is a test for couples honestly some have broken up because of it and some have learned that they can’t live with each other.

[@getitright....5332]

And there has been a 70% increase of domestic abuse since thus started😔🤮🤯

[@spencer62321]

@@getitright....5332 yeah that to which is sad

[@Mindcrashed]

Not when you’re living apart

[@sonyaberry9805]

That's what concerns me. When I was in an abusive relationship I would go to the mall or park but since most places are closed there is no where to go. It's scary. I don't know how to help those people.

[@lepetitchat123]

The sooner you know the better lol

[@olivejagha2664]

The honesty and transparency makes me love them even more and I can see how the feel and idk how to explain but I love them and their love for each other💜💜💜💜

[@SamSGSDUMA]

I do feel like this whole quarantine is strengthening my relationship cause it's putting us in uncomfortable, awkward situations. Like we don't SEE each other all day cause of work so now that we are both home, it's a different routine that we're getting used to and learning. it's REALLY strengthening us!

[@emilylarsen2000]

This is so real. So refreshing and comforting to watch and be reminded that we’re all going through the same thing and it’s normal to have good days and bad days

[@gcortez5242]

This is such a real relationship everyday isn’t perfect and we have to learn and that they’re not either! We love you guys so much and keep learning from each other!

[@nicholeb7998]

Did anyone see the writing on the whiteboard that said, “Drink when anyone says ‘love is blind’. 😂😂 6:29

[@sola_a]

They Made a love is blind drinking game xD

[@goon6787]

Random Facts: German Chocolate Cake is named after an American baker by the name of Samuel German.

[@Minamoshi_shifter4]

The more you know

[@Minamoshi_shifter4]

Thanks

[@goon6787]

@@Minamoshi_shifter4 👌

[@ginjiu4ye]

Amina'adar mohamed 🌠

[@sarahshae1543]

LT Ecosphere this is exactly what a random fun fact should be

[@alexkg1]

Extroverts during quarantine: **breaks down and goes stir-crazy** Introverts during quarantine: It's finally my time to shine! 👍🏻👊🏻

[@stopreplyingtome]

For real n no one gets tht

[@stopreplyingtome]

For real n no one gets tht

[@alessandraratto7194]

I'm definitely an introvert through and through but I love going to see my family and spending time with them I also like to go out with my husband and doing stuff...... I've been really struggling through this time.

[@RC-gt3lb]

I still feel like i havent got enough time to do things😆

[@tililaaj6170]

not really. I'm an extrovert but I feel mentally stable and okay even though I didn't leave the house for almost 6 weeks

[@hanimoon1422]

Merle : Let’s do meditation every night Aria : That’s terrifying Merle : But you’re buddhist 😂😂 Cracks me up 🤣

[@edsheeran7767]

Not all Buddhists have to meditate

[@KhairulmAiman]

@@edsheeran7767 Ok boomer

[@pewpew5649]

Alok Juyal I’m a Buddhist. Monks aren’t the only people who meditate. We meditate every morning at school.

[@onemillionpercent]

i love that

[@deepsenpai6871]

@@edsheeran7767 Buddhist and Sikhs are two Religion where Meditation is their core beliefs.

[@Kay-xs7oz]

Why Is everyone complaining that "oh buzzfeed is milking their relationship" or "buzzfeed exploit them for money" can we just like appreciate the hard work that they put on to filming, editing this video? We don't need the negativity in this hard time. If you don't like them, just don't watch the video or even don't comment under the video negatively. Im sure they (merle and aria) know what they're doing, they're both adults,they don't need you to make decisions for them whether they should make a video about their relationship or not.

[@dumplinglover8042]

THIS SHOULD BE TOP COMMENT

[@recoil53]

People like to be negative - but they will still watch the video. Actually they were probably going to quarantine together at first anyways - newer relationship, see what living together is like. Having to talk about how they feel on camera probably helped them verbalize how they felt and work things out faster. Otherwise people just internalize and let those feelings rot them from the inside.

[@DeusHex]

Go away buzzfeed

[@sangitas2904]

I would like but it’s at 420

[@JacksonDytrych]

Aria never cooks for me :(

[@tonicsp4339]

Sorry🤣

[@michaelsantarin4554]

Communicate with him

[@noerakhmad4]

Then I will cooking for u,

[@aungkhaingkhant2657]

You guys can talk it through. Don't give up.

[@jyu6977]

Oh man, just like Merle said, communicate🤣

[@ariatogita]

I love how they can solve problems by communicating and listening instead of just fighting

[@johnnylchalk2370]

I feel like everyone is going through this. Thank u guys for being so honest and open.

[@septarian3337]

My husband got into a really bad car accident in 2018 and had to take a year off of work. I worked from home. So we were basically together 24/7 for 10 months to a year. Money was real tight so we weren't able to go out much at all. It was rough but in all honesty we did it, and without killing each other. So truly this quarantine has been a breeze for us. Sometimes Idk how we made it through all that we have but damn am I glad we did and still are. It definitely tests you though in ways you never thought possible. Edit: I know exactly which video you're editing and it was so beneficial for so many people from you sharing your story. It was a beautifully raw video and thank you for doing it.

[@helloworld4284]

This is so inspiring 😭💜. All the best to you and your husband 💕

[@septarian3337]

@@helloworld4284 Thank you so much! Wishing you the very best as well 😊

[@rosebloom3711]

Awww that's so sweet I know a lot of couples wouldn't have made it through that I guess that's how you know you married the right person

[@aznfamous]

“I call it HR inappropriate” 😂 Buzzfeed HR gave up 6 videos ago.

[@camilarubiano1784]

this is actually so cute. It’s really awesome how transparent you guys are being with the world. Although I cannot imagine how difficult it is to do that so go you!!! for doing it and being so honest and also just being so cute and happy together

[@itstatilol4392]

“this man is her man, this man’s not my man, this makes me feel horrible, but goddamn they’re adorable”

[@lamhabhuiyan966]

Your comment reminds me of this song by Woody Guthrie ''This land is your land and this land is my land From California to the New York island ''

[@Guchslayer]

Buzzfeed needs to stop making profit off of other people’s relationship. This isn’t healthy for a relationship because everyone wants to put in their opinion and it forces the couple to act a certain way to not offend the audience. I could understand if maybe there was one or two videos, but there are points in a relationship that does not need to be broadcasted to the entire world. Why don’t the owners of buzzfeed try this out? Put yourself in their shoes literally.

[@gsl649]

M T true it shouldn’t be broadcasted but you shouldn’t let the opinion of strangers dictate how your relationship functions. And I’m sure they exaggerate for the camera😂

[@ritaki2758]

Wasn't it the people who requested these videos?

[@Guchslayer]

Ritaki just because someone requests it does not mean you have to give it to them. It’s like me asking for a nuke. Will you give it to me

[@ritaki2758]

@@Guchslayer hm you do make sense, but people asked for it and aria and merle accepted it they made the video and that's it. And I don't think they were forced by buzz feed to make this video (one or two videos are kind of like that tho)

[@Guchslayer]

@@ritaki2758 Certain workplaces that ask employees to do projects expect them to do it. If the employee chooses not to do the task most times employers will never ask them to do that task or any other task like again. It kinda sends a negative message to the employer and I know no one wants to get on the bad side of the employer. There are situations that will challenge a persons morals and sometimes people will go against those morals to please another person, especially in the work place as long as it is not illegal to do. I think the tryguys speak about this and how buzzfeed sometimes forces their content creators to film certain things.

[@kekesimmins8314]

Why do people think it’s okay to comment on someone else’s relationship and predict how long it’s going to last. You’re getting annoyed at buzzfeed for putting this video out there yet have the audacity to comment on their relationship like you’re the one in it.

[@sarahwilliamson9440]

Keke Simmins exactly!!!

[@aleacaea]

Publishing a monetized video in a public space like KZbin (especially from a media company with huge following) isn’t very ideal if they did not intend anyone to comment about their relationship. Should’ve turned off the comments section then? Or better yet, produce a video with a different content.

[@jomardepedro]

If I put any of my relationships on a public viral channel I expect people to criticise every single detail. If I want to keep it private I wouldn't post it. Simple. Also personally, I wouldn't experiment with my relationship, especially in isolation, let alone do it publicly. So yeah, when people criticise their relationship, they're pointing out real problems, and AVOIDABLE, UNNECESSARY problems too.

[@alicestewert8552]

“The audacity”? It’s a comment out in cyberspace. If they didn’t want any comments, they could’ve just shut them off.

[@greekchick104]

I personally think that the more people know about your romantic relationships, the more people feel entitled to have an opinion on your romantic relationships- that's usually why I tend to keep that part of my life private. Obviously, Aria and Merle choose not to because they probably feel like it's important to give an authentic and honest look at relationships by being open with theirs, and I definitely understand that reasoning. People are gonna say what they want, and it's ultimately up to them whether they let it affect their relationship or not.

[@21til85]

“I’m not wearing socks!” . . . Honey. Oh, honey. It’s never been about the socks. Sweet angel.

[@Dx6131]

Lol I thought the exact same thing I was about to close the video and she shouted that made me crack up

[@s33thr3w]

I just noticed that Merle and Aria look a lot like each other.

[@Chocolatesundae808]

mxblue Yeah 🙂, usually when people who care about each other spend a lot of time together they start to resemble each other. That’s why some parents look like siblings 😂😂

[@Chocolatesundae808]

Annika Perez Nice

[@eugeniolejarza9702]

Annika Perez oh god the twins

[@calimorales9880]

@Salembunny •that's why people like people smell different then them

[@liz_mtz12]

Weirdly enough , idk where I heard it or who told me but people tend to be attracted to people with similar features as them .

[@tedeibeakawaii]

I liked that you both gave each other space and then came back together to talk the problem out. Wish my mum would sit down nd have honest, defenceless conversations with me whenever we have conflict.

[@gisellev.8652]

A think it is tough for all human relationships during this pandemic, we are facing something that we have never experienced before so communication and mutual understanding is key not only when it comes to close friends/family, but to everyone that crosses our path

[@scottytroll8507]

Wow. Watching this has made me somehow teary and more aware that everyone else is going through the same situation. Thank you buzzfeed for (milking*) sharing more Merlia content! Love it.

[@darynakhlopuk7209]

This video shows a great example of how communication has to be a major part in relationships. Couples as creators don’t always have to show their low points if they don’t want to (but thank you for sharing that, it’s very brave of you), but the healthy relationship model has to be shown in sm reality. So thank you a lot for voluntarily showing you communicating like that on KZbin, I’m sure a lot of people will find that extremely encouraging and useful, wish you all the best♥️

[@evolutionofmaggie]

Merle's version of normal is Aria being 100 percent head over heels. You are human and it's normal to argue some. Stay together! You're still in love!

[@position9925]

He really tickled her when he called her a white women her laugh was too sweet.

[@rezoanarayna3128]

I hope this relationship will last long. The way they are showing every step of their relationship is really scary. I mean, I really love them together. But I have seen breakups of public relationships and that is really sad. Hoping for the best ❤️

[@mayjoanapulga9691]

I love how comfortable they’re to each other and how mature they’re in handling things.

[@summermorgan9836]

THIS. IS. HOW. HEALTHY. RELATIONSHIPS. WORK. thank you for posting this ❤️

[@alexmahere4453]

I can relate, currently isolated with my 5 other family members and let's just say there are many ups and downs. Being around people 24/7 can be so draining and being alone or just taking some time to yourself is very beneficial

[@SciFactsYT118]

Random fact: The word ‘quarantine’ derives from the Venetian dialect of Italian and the words ‘quaranta giorni’, meaning ‘forty days’. This is because when it was discovered that ships were infested with plague-carrying rats they were made to sit at anchor outside Venice’s city walls for forty days before coming ashore. -SciFacts

[@rahuldahooobooda1798]

That is spooky and eerie given the quarantine death of Dr Lorena quaranta

[@mogginmeggles]

That conversation to resolve the issue is how you make a relationship work. Its about resolving the issue not winning or losing or hurting each other. ❤️

[@independentx0x0]

This is normal, when me and my man reached our 3 months dating period we had the biggest fight, broke it off for 12 hours 😂 I guess we were getting out of our honeymoon stage, but now we are stronger than ever, 7 years this year! I don't know how long you've been dating but if you live together right away esp 24/7 your honeymoon stage will def end faster😂

[@kingdrift1136]

He put up with it bc thats the best he could do

[@justangel1542]

Merle and Aria are both carrying Buzzfeed on their back

[@originalsaplings]

I love this video. How wonderful to see 2 people working out how quarantine works for them together. Also to share a small argument, and more importantly see how they work through it is really cool for people to watch. I adore the open communication and honesty. I find the hardest part is saying it to eachother. I respect how brave it is to also share with us. Love you two, hope the cat wall is still secure. 👀 Ps, moving furniture around is essential for being home a lot.

[@lynnwilt3639]

I think this is what couples needed to see during this time, I've been having similar problems with my boyfriend and it's so nice to know we aren't the only ones. Thank you for shedding the light on what's been going on.

[@Onomatopreeya]

I was holding onto my alpaca plushie for dear life when the fight was going on! I am glad they worked it out. They're so sweet together, but at the same time it's sad that they feel pressure from their relationship because everyone is constantly like "they're so perfect for each other!"

[@sheilaxos]

It is amazing to see their process being natural and unfiltered. Just how they talk about their misunderstandings supporting each other, and see how their love grow in their relationship when there was conflict. Learning that communication is important in a healthy relationship and to be thankful for what you have around you.

[@1nsomniac]

This was nice to watch bc it always feels like a struggle for me to be the perfect girlfriend whenever I’m with my boyfriend and when I get annoyed at smth I feel so guilty and horrible for tainting his image of me. I can’t imagine getting married and having to spend most of my time around my SO.

[@ethanliu2956]

Then that aint ur SO girl. You should be comfortable around him.

[@rosebloom3711]

I think maybe you might wanna break up then I mean you shouldn't feel like your tainting his image of you he should already know who you are

[@Pwn3dbyth3n00b]

If they're under the microscope of BuzzFeeds millions of followers and subscribers it not going to last a year. Let these people live their life instead of broadcasting it all over Buzzfeed for internet strangers to scrutinize.

[@mythics102]

OhMyGulay Honestly. Their little issue was completely normal and not very serious and they handled it very well, but sensationalizing it is not good.

[@breonawarren1507]

I mean their issues are fine, people are doing this now. They aren’t special, they are just showing us what they are doing where as other couples are going through the same thing & not documenting it.

[@joshyan1458]

buzzfeed producers come up with their own ideas for videos so i'm pretty sure it was their idea to do this

[@Pwn3dbyth3n00b]

@@joshyan1458 regardless maybe they arent aware it's bad but harmful for relationships. Just look at KZbin couples that used to always blog daily or their life a lot. Ex: PrankvPrank Jessie and Jena

[@mythics102]

Breona Warren Exactly!!!

[@ameliepayette9651]

I needed this. My partner and I met each other in September 2019 and we did long distance (overseas) from then to February. One month into living together, and the quarantine starts and we have no choice but to be together 24/7. It has been hyper challenging as this stressful period brought both of our anxiety up and I have just been feeling super unworthy. It feels as if they have never had the chance to see me as I normally am since literally the day we met. It has been super challenging, but also full of growth and in a powerful way, it made us able to be more understanding of how each of us cope with hardships. I hope everyone reading this is ok.

[@Whenwewereyoung2024]

I unfortunately can't relate my bf and I broke up

[@jordancheung969]

It's so inspiring to see a healthy relationship with realistic conflict and proper resolution to that conflict. This internet relationship is making other relationships healthier by teaching! Incredible

[@layneebyers6218]

awh merel :( she’s tired. Look at her eyes, I hope things get better love . your hard work will pay off 💛

[@OBNfull1000]

This video hits at a perfect time for me. I'm going through the exact same thing with my partner. As a teenager first dating you don't truly realize how deep you have to look when in a relationship. If you truly love someone, you will work hard to work things out with your partner. It's SO important to communicate how you both feel. It clears the air and things feel so much better.

[@FingeringThings]

Fortune 500 companies: You can’t make money during quarantine Merle and Aria: *Hold my camera*

[@ariellegaspi7921]

Awwwe so cute!!

[@lepetitchat123]

There are many companies that keep making money during quarantine, KZbin, Netflix...

[@aabace1841]

This just shown the more 'everyday' side of relationship, not every moment is necessarily sweet, but from time to time it will

[@user-zo2fq4gt1u]

can we talk about the fact that aria is literally the sweetest boyfriend ever?

[@zs9710]

I really appreciate how transparent you guys have been during such a tiring and stressful time. I hope you all were able to take sufficient time away from the camera to communicate and heal and enjoy each other’s company. Be safe during this time

[@leeloo5862]

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder." Everyone needs some alone time every so often. I enjoy being with my friends and family, but I also enjoy doing some things by myself.

[@maiamattisse8915]

idk about yall but growing up in a divorced family surrounded by toxic relationships. Having an example of a healthy real relationship that isnt in a movie or tv is really important for me. I expected my relationships to be like my parents because ive never had or intimately seen a healthy relationship. Especially the conflict resolutions, in my family they would scream and dimimsh each other and then just ignore it and in films they would resolve conflict by exploting one of the partners traits, work or hobbies or have a ridiculous romantic gesture where they just forgive them. This video is important and needed for a lot of victims of domestic abuse so thank you.

[@lazyreuvin]

When I discovered I could spend 24 hours with the girl I was dating I married her. That was 6 years ago and she's still the love of my life every day. It's never easy, but for us the key is understanding and honest communication (which is exactly what you both have! ). Aria is a such a keeper Merle, as is Merle for you Aria. I wish you both all the happiness in the world and apologise as I feel guilty watching you both live your personal lives for our entertainment (It's too cute though!)

[@chiquita2012621]

OML @ 15:05 Merle's cat just chilling while they're full-on lifting and moving the couch

[@hollyknights427]

Haha

[@jb00ty]

The pickled cabbage ending felt like a metaphor for their whole week! We're all fermentin!!

[@batshazcrazy]

I've been married for 4 years and I'm finding it hard too and vlogging it to help others stay hopeful. It's not like just living together during "normal" life so it's important to show the good and bad times 🖤🖤

[@brandibigelow3937]

I've been with my boyfriend for 20 years and we have little lover's quarrels here and there. I think you guys are doing awesome. You guy's talked it out and told one another what's going on. Keep up the good work guy's. You two got this!!

[@otterpop4457]

I can see how strong and healthy your guy's relationship is. It makes me so happy to see you guys be successful in such pressuring circumstances. Stay strong 💕💕

[@cgygflkj]

This sharing of every detail of their relationship is not going to be good for them AT. ALL

[@azuriebluette4637]

But they AGREED to it.. It was THEIR decision, so it's better to keep it that way☺ Let them make their own decisions. Besides, it's their relationship bruh..

[@lovaofmoosik93]

I really like the way you guys talked through your problem without getting upset by working through it together.....it's normal to get upset and that really shows that you guys work well together.

[@avianelixir]

Merle: starts to pull out camera Aria: wait! I gotta put some pants on!

[@marnee117]

ive been quarantining with my boyfriend for the last month and this video makes me feel so validated and not alone. its been really fantastic and a bit of a challenge at times but its really easy to forget that these are unnatural times and circumstances. when we get upset/clash your brain just sort of jumps to it being a flaw in yourself/your relationship and you are telling yourself "we shouldnt be having these problems/i shouldnt be feeling this way" etc. its really nice to know that we arent the only ones experiencing it, and i really appreciate you guys showing your conflict resolution on camera, thank you for making this video!!!

[@007janerussell]

Merle is stunning. I love how honest she is 🙌🏼❤️ stay safe love from Vancouver Island x

[@suvimaru]

Watching this is great insight. My new partner and I ended up quarantining together and we were just over a month into our relationship when the lockdowns happened and honestly it’s taken our relationship to a new level. We both though we might get into it or start resenting each other but we’ve just grown closer. Yes we have our disagreements but we are both communicating our emotions and talking everything out. It’s seriously such a breath of fresh air after leaving a toxic and emotionally abusive relationship. ❤️❤️ to have a partner that listens and tries to understand me has been such a blessing.

[@haleyshih7573]

No one: Aria: says "I'm making pasta" in a chirpy voice with a knife in his hand --jdklfjkasldfkjlasdf

[@Nikakaralife]

Guys I loved how you managed to talk things through and both take initiative to change things for you 😊 It is inspiring!

[@sunnyonarainyday6804]

This was so wholesome. Real. But still wholesome.

[@macairemcnamara2419]

Thank you for being vulnerable with us. I think it’s very important to show that healthy relationships still go through rough patches and that through proper communication, things can get better. By the way, you did an amazing job creating and editing your video project, it positively impacted me and thousands of others. Thank you for both creating such great content!