messy tiktoks that are a WILD RIDE - REACTION

[@CharlotteDobre]

Happy Halloween everyone!!! Tell me what you’re dressing up as!

[@tigersilly81]

I dressed up as Raygunn at work 😂 was so funny seeing who got it and who was clueless

[@kirashepard5942]

Sally nightmare for one party and Chucky for other! 😂

[@caljones]

I’m a mermaid! Lol

[@aoifebyrne1913]

Happy Halloween, I'm dressed as David Bowie!!

[@tinah2200]

Myself…I’m scary enough! 😂

[@loveli420]

The man that checked on her!! WHAT A SWEETIE.

[@questionmark9819]

Yh probably nice although, I have a feeling he was hitting on her which was not bad but I feel that was his real motive.

[@AngelaVEdwards]

But we don’t know for sure. He may have actually been checking on her to make sure she was okay.

[@Wanderlust4Life247]

@@questionmark9819 It is entirely possible for a man to ask a woman if she is okay after an uncomfortable situation, without there being an ulterior motive. Some men are actually just nice and decent people.

[@globalwarmhugs7741]

That's a green flag guy.

[@littleRedHead007]

@@questionmark9819 I didn’t get that vibe

[@aphelion4616]

To the person who said 'I don't understand why business meetings aren't done at work... etc.": Did you forget people work from home, have businesses they run, from their homes? Being in a PUBLIC place like a restaurant is actually far more safe than conducting business in your place of residence. Not everyone has an office or meeting area in their homes, and even if they do, if they aren't comfortable having people in their home, they don't have to.

[@AnniCarlsson]

And small buissnesses don't have more people to sit as body guards to prove they not fucking on meetings

[@analou3357]

Exactly and in independent businesses I've had interviews or meetings in restaurants or coffee shops before.

[@linseylinsey]

Business lunches and dinners have also been a thing forever

[@ReiRidingSolo]

And you get to see how they treat the staff. Don't do business with jerks.

[@JD-hz4lk]

Exactly! People came into the restaurant I worked for business meeting ALL THE TIME at lunch. I knew every Real-Estate agent for 50 miles.. and bail-bonds people too LOL

[@poeticlovee]

The first girl in the business meeting was so kind and professional. Even tho she was shaking she kept her composure. Very mindful. Very classy.

[@sonjadunning1579]

😂Very demure.

[@Futurepants-420]

shaking? why? because someone calmly said words to her? Why are you people such weak fragile snowflakes?

[@caroleharrison8884]

The relationship would be over with and she'd be gone!

[@trexmcmuffin]

@@sonjadunning1579 I came for this comment, thanks

[@thatonegirlelaine]

I think it was a setup. Dude let her with the tab.

[@LT-uu9us]

I had it go the other way. I was a drug addict and VERY skinny! About 6 months after getting clean I bumped into another ex addict and in a small but crowed cafe she shouted “omg, you’ve put on so much weight” it was a massive compliment and I was still only a size 8 (uk) but the horror on people’s faces 😆😆 You never know what people are going through/got through so unless it’s a close friend, be careful with your comments or praises.

[@ladygrndr9424]

Congratulations on your recovery! I am so proud of you!

[@PotatoChipChippity]

Congrats on getting clean. That's something to be very proud of

[@freedomlindsay3084]

I was overweight most of my life, we’re talking approx 200lbs on a small boned 5’3 body. I became anorexic due to necessary medications I have to take for seizures. Now people have gone from suggesting fad diets to complimenting me on how I can eat anything I want and never gain an ounce. They’re NOT helping at all. Why can’t people just shut up about other people’s bodies.

[@theatrerox24]

My mom was the main culprit mentioning my weight every time I saw her (which was often).

[@ArsenalofMikeocracy]

I hope you feel okay with yourself now.

[@nicolebesser3548]

I have been on seizure meds for over 40 years. I have always been thin because of this. I am not anorexic from it. I eat a lot so people think I have bulimia.

[@TheBrillian6]

I take meds for seizures and have gained over 30 pounds! Keppra

[@just_passing_through]

There;s no such thing as ‘a small boned body”. Skeletons are all the same size. Nobody has big bones and nobody has small bones.

[@lizpantelis]

If some guy I was going to meet for a business lunch told me "just so you know, I have a girlfriend." I would get weirded out and cancel that business lunch. 😂😂

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

Same, I would not go to that meeting

[@Fogysoks4709]

Something tells me this isn't the first "business" meeting he had ...

[@CoyoteWildFlower]

Same

[@BitchGoddess77]

I'd probably respond with: "I have 3 cats. Thaks for that relationship status update. Now can we talk business?"

[@doubleT84]

@@Fogysoks4709 I think you got something wrong here. He was trying to be professional when his gf came in and demanded what @lizpantelis made fun of, that he would go in all of his business meetings telling the female business partners they can't have him. There is no indication he was doing anything wrong, but his GF definitely was.

[@jessmPS]

Shout out to the random who checked in on the first person … because that’s wild … and she had to pick up the tab too? Wow

[@Emeraldwitch30]

I thought it was her server.

[@jessmPS]

Still

[@jessmPS]

I just thought it may be the person sitting next to them

[@amandaloel1782]

Isn't it tax deductible?

[@jesclifford88]

He’d be being sent his bill!

[@carolchouteau2450]

My brother always comforted me with “Beauty is only skin deep, ugly is to the bone.” That’s one reason I try to smile all of the time.

[@kimmyB9203]

I have a tendency to smile most of the time, especially in public. I've met many really nice people because they see you as approachable and they start up conversations. It sometimes would drive my coworkers crazy because "You attract crazies" (their words). My mom, sister and I would be out shopping and random people would ask me for help finding things not realizing I didn't work there and if I knew where the item was, I would just go ahead and show them where to find it. I'd pick up a second job working with the public like retail or bartending. I always got compliments from customers about being cheerful. Smiling puts you in a better mood too.

[@riakendall8610]

If that pic is you, you have a beautiful face, you look kind your smile is warm. Some people radiate the inner beauty for all to see! ❤

[@nancymesek]

Sounds like you had a great brother.

[@carolchouteau2450]

He’s my only brother in a family of 8 kids - he’s pretty much right in middle, I’m second to last! He’s a keeper!! 😊

[@SpookyChaat]

For the person asking "why these kind of professional meetings don't happen at a workplace," many freelancers and entrepreneurs have meetings at cafes or over lunch or dinner, it's really common and most of the time no controlling GF or BF interruptd.

[@M_SC]

They know that, they’re saying it shouldn’t. Blurred lines between work and socializing dates back to when only men were working in business except for subordinates. There’s quite a bit of thought about this and it’s better for women, usually, If work is work and socializing is socializing, because creepy men are often trying to take advantage of the overlap.

[@SomeoneIusedtoknow-s1f]

Yeah but lots of people also use extremely inappropriate types of restaurants or bar type areas that are adult entertainment breastaurant type areas. Which is exceptionally disgusting and inappropriate and not even remotely professional or okay. So..... I kinda get the idea we need to start separating work from social things like eating out when there's bad actors using gross meeting areas and acting like it's needed for business meetings... I think it's fine if it's a cafe or boring coffee shop, but an inappropriate breastaurant or club setting is not okay. You could literally do coffee and donuts and ask a local library for use of their meeting rooms. My man I feel confident that he wouldn't stay if it was a bar, or an inappropriate setting like hooters, strip club, or mini skirt sports bar that someone was taking him to, and he wouldn't cheat on me, but..... That's my man, and that's me, and we are only two people. There are so many people who are willing to take people to these locations and try and act like it's appropriate and fine for everyone, and it's not. Business meetings and professional meetings should not be in a situation that can seem sexualized or date like in nature. There's no need for it, even if you don't work in an office there's plenty of alternatives to eating out. I get the idea that we should separate business and social hour... But I also get a cafe or coffee shop, but it's gotta stay at locations that are not using skimpy attire or sexualized themes, or it crosses countless lines. Also, I think it's pretty obvious to most of us that most partners that freak out are likely doing so due to their partners previous infidelity... I feel like in this situation the guy and his gf are both to blame and both probably bad partners tbh, shouldnt be dating or stay married if you can't trust your partner, or they prove untrustworthy.

[@DG-iw7lw]

Many people don’t gave a clue about how business relationships work.

[@P3PP3RRR]

dont think this was a controlling gf/bf but more a lousy bf not keeping it professional doesnt matter how pretty you think that person is it has nothign to do with the job

[@0628melissa]

The people fussing likely have desks jobs that don’t require them to cultivate and maintain a relationship with clients. They have to like you and trust you.

[@andreeairinabhr]

I come from Germany and I went not just on work-related dinners with colleagues but also on cocktails, theater or sightseeing after a conference or congress for example. Male and female colleagues. The same does my husband and there is no problem in that. This kind of control would freak me out.

[@themermaidstale5008]

It’s not control, imo. It’s distrust and/or lack of confidence or possibly mental illness. I am not a mental health professional nor do I play one on TV. Anyone wondering why it’s not at work, has never had a job and is probably in junior high school. There are so many possible interruptions just waiting to happen. If it’s a client or a potential client, you want to show appreciation or encourage them to choose your company or company you work for. It’s a normal, adult accepted business practice. It’s one of the perks of being in the work force.

[@SomeoneIusedtoknow-s1f]

Sure but business and work should not overlap to bikini bars, strip clubs, breastaurants, or any form of entertainment that has sexualized themes or skimpy attire... Like that line should not be crossed. Period. And it very commonly IS crossed. There can be repercussions to saying no to going even if the location is not one you're okay with going to, and that's problematic. Professional work should stay professional, and not cross into adult, sexualized, or skimpy territory.

[@nicolesymonds2349]

​@@SomeoneIusedtoknow-s1f Breastaurants 😂

[@kathleenkaufmann2084]

My father was in sales. He always took clients out to dinner to work on contracts and sales. That's why selling is called "Wining and dining" folk. :D

[@curtisalex456]

I used to work in Sales also. I loved being wine and dine!!!

[@SomeoneIusedtoknow-s1f]

Yeah but remember how many skeezy people use strip clubs, bikini bars, sports bars that are not uh ya know, professional, and breastaurants. Those are also used, despite being incredibly inappropriate and disgusting to use as a business thing.... So...... I kinda get feeling like the wine and dine thing is icky.

[@tahnibobonnie]

I worked for a manufacturing company that sent the younger assembly line women out with big business clients to “wine and dine”. And by “wine and dine” I mean they were using women like an escort service. They’d come out to the factory and request the girl they liked. I only found out when I got requested. They turned him down because I was married, but honestly I could have used a night out with a rich guy. I was trying to escape a bad marriage.

[@rasheedb4762]

I'm an accountant and in our culture we do business meetings and business development over lunch, dinner, drinks, or just any casual events. Even if you're in a one on one meeting for dinner. Body language is usually an indicator that it's not a date.

[@AnniCarlsson]

Unfortently insecure partners will not read body langues. They just react no matter what the body langue is. Specilly if they think the person the partner has the meeting with is good looking.

[@AnahiSanchez-ti2gj]

Yeah, but usually there are more investers or your supposed to go with a buddy to keep from this misscommunications. This whole thing felt low-key weird. Coffee for singular, dinners for closing a deal and lunches to entice. Each carry a specific type of group numerage....so low-key felt weird. Not okay fo her to show up like that in the end, but just saying.

[@Volatile_Angel]

@@AnahiSanchez-ti2gjI’ve never heard of people taking a buddy unless it was needed. I don’t do investor meetings but I do know it’s very common to meet for lunch or dinner at many companies to go over sales pitches, contracts, working later on a project, etc. it’s also very common to meet with recruiters that way. She didn’t specify what they were meeting about so that could change the dynamic. I wouldn’t work with him again though, especially alone. She is either very insecure or he has cheated with a coworker or used that excuse in the past.

[@AnahiSanchez-ti2gj]

@@Volatile_Angel said what i said 🤷‍♀️

[@ninamoua5439]

Correct

[@AliceNsWonderland]

I gained a lot of weight during covid, pushing 200. I ended up losing 75lbs in about 4 mos. The way ppl reacted was VERY UNCOMFORTABLE!

[@Futurepants-420]

I have lost 70 lbs since July, I am a male. NOONE CARES NOONE SAYS A WORD TO ME, NOT EVEN FAMILY. Welcome to the real world.

[@chanellerhodes6598]

The weight loss one irks me of she didn't want attention why she make a tik tok about it.

[@pompomdo11_x]

​@@chanellerhodes6598are you slow? She's making a video talking about the attention she got after she lost weight. I think you're slow.

[@M18292]

​@@chanellerhodes6598 maybe to spread awareness about how rude it is to comment on someone's body?! I feel her. I lost about 40 kg and had very sweet things said to me and very insulting things about my "old" body. And sometimes it's both of it in one sentence.

[@cindypicadomolina7814]

​@@chanellerhodes6598 she started the video saying all of this happened JUST because she posted a selfie on her social media. Then Coworkers, her bosses and friends saw she lost some weight and started showing her her old photos from she was "fat", pointing at her body where she lost fat, etc. She made the Tiktok AFTER all of this was happening. She wasn't doing it got attention. She recorded to bring light to the topic about how if you lose weight, people think they're entitled to CONSTANTLY bring it up to you and compare you to your past self. And people will do the same if you GAIN weight.

[@charitysherise20]

I think the issues a lot of people see when they lose weight and people begin to compliment them is that people will also treat them better, kinder, and with more respect cause they are thin. My best friend experienced this first hand after losing only 20lbs. Like sales associates, random people in the street even coworkers. And I could tell it hurt her because it gives you this complex of "why wasn't I deserving of your basic human decency when I was bigger?"

[@KitsuneNeko]

3:30 "We'll be in touch." is business lingo for, "We're never contacting you ever again." Or even the famous, "We'll give you a call." They, in fact, will never give you a call. But if they do get in touch or call... they are a honey bun cinnamon roll who had no idea they used the wrong terms/phrases. A lot of people job seeking get phrases such as the above and they get ghosted by their prospects.

[@LadyLubdan]

"Don't call us. We'll call you." No, you won't. That's the kiss of death.

[@charlottepollard2514]

When I was chubby as a teen not a single comment on my weight or my looks, when a medical condition made me lose 3 stone (roughly about 42-45lb) and am now anorexic. I now have friends constant pointing out how good I look and I even have relatives trying to pinch fat from any part of flesh showing to show i have no fat. It pisses me right off to know that my health and being anorexic is what it take for my family to think I'm pretty. Just a note that no matter your weight, you are all beautiful!Love you Charlotte ❤️

[@AnniCarlsson]

I grew up thin. Thin as adoult. Sp much skit about my weigth. So much. Gained from medicins. All start omg you look so good and that. Me lost weigth and back to normal weigth. Got asked from people that I barely know if me dieing from cancer. Me gain from new medc. They all praise me again. 60 kg is not low for 166 cm tall. Me now need to loose due to my fibromyalgy hate the weigth me on. It's better when normal. But me hate the.look me have when normal weigth becouse how me get skit for not have extra fluff

[@ashleysotelo4746]

@@AnniCarlssonI’m so sorry to hear that. It really doesn’t matter what you look like at any weight. Focus on your wardrobe and hair, and I’m sure you’ll find healthier ways to improve your confidence when it comes to appearance! Even nail polish can make all the difference. You don’t need to gain or lose.

[@kaoutermouslimhaliba7145]

@@AnniCarlsson and as soon as you can chabge your sorroundings. I am always shocked at how complete strangers have the audacity to give their opinion on people's looks or style or whatever..

[@Nina-2-8]

i had a similar experience, i was always a chubby child, my parents made me lose weight in a really bad way (starving, too much working out, mental abuse) and over time i got anorexia and bulimia. everyone was telling me how pretty i am and how fat and ugly i was and ofc showing pics of me fat. after about a year i started gaining weight, my close family started insulting me and always talking about how pretty i was, always showing me pictures where i was skinny as a stick... now i'm the heaviest i have ever been, i eat whatever i want whenever i want, i go to the gym, on walks, play sports w my friends... the most important thing is that i do not care about people's opinions anymore and i care about myself and how i feel. i am happy.

[@AnniCarlsson]

@kaoutermouslimhaliba7145 i once had a complete stranger stop me in the street gave me food cupongs. And been told to my face why do you even go eat fastfood wjen go puke it up after becouse I was standing next to her washing my hands after eating. Also school nurse loaded my plate on more food then a small kid even should eat and didn't let me leave school lunch before eat it all and was going to have me late for class. More then once and me have puked after that. Still today when 45 years old me can't eat anything if not want it due to her.

[@T.Underwood-xl2nz]

My husband once said to me..."I know there's a skeleton in there somewhere". I laughed so hard. He had no filter bless his heart. I lost him in 2022 because of an illness. I miss his humour.

[@flow3r_grl28]

Aww I'm so sorry, rip

[@BrighteyezCat]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I love when those random phrases from people pop into our heads and make us laugh! It's a great way to remember them.

[@3334me]

Aww I’m sorry, your husband sounds so cool. I also lost my love in 09 , I feel like I can relate to you. ❤

[@Mamaodinson]

Awe I'm sorry you lost your love 💔 may he be at peace. Hugs 😭

[@ihadastrokereadingthis]

really sorry for your loss. i can tell he was a great guy with a stellar sense of humour

[@blakelay]

"Have you been working out? Have you done something new? Have you changed your hair? Is this a new outfit?" And finishing with "You look great" is all acceptable ways to compliment someone you noticed has lost weight without focusing on the weight aspect of the change. Let the person you are complimenting tell you they lost weight if they want to share. You don't need to talk about weight to tell someone they look good.

[@brandywood1054]

Or being told you're doing a good job but you could stand to lose some more weight .

[@katemarr1984]

This!!!!! ^^^^^^^ 💯

[@twitchy_bird]

Absolutely, this is perfect. These other compliments feel more genuine and thoughtful as well.

[@Littlelikeme92]

Yes! I recently lost 40 pounds and I had an old customer come in yesterday. He kept saying “there’s just something different about you but I can’t put my finger on it, you look great tho!” I told him I lost 40 pounds and he said “no, I don’t think that’s it.” Bahahahaha like yes it is but okayyy lol

[@diamondworkhorse]

Absolutely this! Unless you know the person was trying to lose weight and is happy to talk about it, you shouldn’t comment about the weight loss. It could be due to so many other things (like physical or mental illness, grief, etc). Also, a lot of people really tell on themselves with the fawning comments post weight loss (as that video really proved)!

[@joyfulbitesandbaubles]

I was an insurance agent for 14 years. Sometimes(especially for group health insurance), I would have a business lunch or meet for breakfast with the HR person. Or, for smaller businesses I would be meeting with the owner. My husband never showed up at one of those meetings. He would ask when I got home if I got the sale. Or, he would remind me to put the receipt in the file for tax time. That’s it. I’ve been married for 23 years. It’s all about mutual respect and trust.

[@dragonetafireball]

The thing about being executive about how one complements weight loss is a lot of time they’re revealing they had negative opinions of you in the past they where hiding and if you still have an eating disorder that’s a lot of pressure especially if you relapse or gaining again is part of a healing journey Edit: also a lot of people just do not react well to being told you don’t want to discuss your body and can hold you rejecting that one interaction against you in every other interaction

[@LadyLubdan]

That's not true. I don't care how anyone looks but I'll compliment someone TO BE KIND. You should try learning to just take a compliment. JFC. It's not that they "hold the interaction against you" it's that you're now forcing them to walk on eggshells because they don't know what's going to set you off. You made them uncomfortable to be around you.

[@klyseet9346]

15:08 the UPS driver showing up is the cherry on top😂😂

[@sweetandkindhearted]

As someone who has lost 115 pounds; it’s amazing how many people aren’t afraid to tell you that you were fat and unattractive prior to the weight loss. It’s honestly astounding. “You look amazing” isn’t the phrase I’m referring to. I’m referring to the “Wow you look so much better” or “You’ve lost so much weight now you look so beautiful!”

[@Futurepants-420]

And? You'd prefer they lie to your face? I prefer people be honest with me, I HATE LIARS. Most people do not find fat people attractive, I was and am still "fat" I want to lose the rest of my excess weight and when I do I WILL look better, I WILL be more traditionally attractive... this isn't an insult you are just senstive.

[@jennif2672]

This!

[@CabelCB]

I’m losing weight now….

[@Queina1]

That's when you reply with, "So you're saying I looked ugly before?" And watch them turn red and backpedal.

[@chickaweeka]

Yeah because if you ever regain the weight now they’ve let you know what they really think about you when you’re heavier and none of those thoughts are nice yikes

[@MsEsquire83]

A few years back I went from being skinny to being SKINNY, entirely due to chronic illnesses. So many people complimented me, even people who knew I was repeatedly hospitalized for anorexia/ED in my teens, and everyone asked how I managed it. I went from 4’11” 110lbs to 89lbs (in my late 30s after 4 kids). Eventually I just stared being absolutely fucking blunt and told them it’s because I’m sick all the damn time and a differential diagnosis of fucking ovarian cancer. Shut people up fast at least.

[@suonatar1]

Good reply. Sometimes being polite is overrated. When so many people comment THIS WAY on your lost of weight, there must be something wrong with society and they need to wake tf up.

[@deanwal1962]

Lol, had something similar when I lost six stone (84 lbs) due to catching covid whilst I am waiting for lung transplant surgery. I have to admit I eventually took a perverse delight in telling people in confidence that I had all sorts of extremely serious illnesses. Because I remembered what illness I told them I had I was able to identify the people whom I had shared information with and call them out for their indiscretion and for breaching what I had told them, but asked them to keep it confidential. I now know whom I can and cannot trust.

[@meowsha]

Gosh 😢 wishing you a speedy recovery into amazing health. You shouldn't have to reveal such info.

[@sparklemotion8377]

I wasn't as sick as you, but I did lose wait because of illness. People were offended that I wasn't flattered when I answered the 'compliment' with 'I was sick'. I wasn't even annoyed, I just overshare.

[@KeitieKalopsia]

“Oh wow, you lost so much weight! You look great!” “Oh, thanks! I have ovarian cancer!”

[@bibliophilicwoman]

I love the friends on the Ring, went together returned together with no visible drama just support! ❤

[@larryfoster]

I love how the clubbers left together and came back together!!!

[@dim307]

ppl rly are so outta pocket. i accidentally starved myself (mania and a project) and went from a size 7/8 as someone who’s 5’0”-my current size again-to a size 4. everyone was like .. saying backhanded stuff about my weight loss. i’d sometimes be like “thanks! i barely ate for months cuz i was sick” to throw it back at them and make them feel awkward

[@kaya_nori]

6:20 My cousin lost a lot of weight, so people commented on it during one giant family gathering. They thought they were complimenting her, until after 30-ish "Oh my god, girl, you've lost so much weight since we last met, what did you do?" she answered loudly "Thank you, I've got cancer". Please don't comment on people's weight gain/loss unless they specifically ask for your opinion :(

[@jriley8614]

PERIOD. You never know what someone's going through, plus how we look is the least interesting thing about us. It's not a compliment.

[@jonncatron7381]

same thing my family did too my I do see them often so they had not see me for a year and though it was ok to say that to me.

[@shannasha]

This! Unless you actually know that a friend or family member is trying to lose weight and working to improve their health, and if they’ve told you that words of encouragement help them, there is no reason whatsoever to comment on someone’s weight or physique.

[@anon766]

I agree! Just say "You look great!" Or "You're blooming!" Or "The world has graced us with your presence" LOL the last part but really, no need to mention weight. Even if I'm working out, I'd rather people say I look good rather than I lost weight because what if I wanted to bulk up?

[@sunflowerbaby1853]

This happened to me. You should see their face when you say you have cancer.

[@musical_kait]

As a therapist who works with eating disorders, yeah, it's best to just not comment. If you know someone has been working hard in the gym and you feel you need to comment, say something like "you look strong" or "you seem happier" if those things are true. Don't make it about weight.

[@esmee6308]

I'll never forget the time I had multiple surgeries in a row, couldn't keep food down as a result of the medicine and people just kept raving about how much weight I'd lost. Despite looking sick; pale, dark circles, thinning hair.

[@Lychiiee]

I’m so glad you brought this up because when I was DEEP in the trenches of my eating disorder, I would be getting comments on my weight DAILY. They affected me really badly and then when they stopped - it started affecting me even worse. People should just learn to keep these uneeded thoughts to themselves.

[@musical_kait]

@Lychiiee yes it's a double-edged sword! No one commenting about your weight means you're not doing a good enough job, but if someone does notice, that means it's confirmation to keep going. It's such a complicated experience

[@Moraca101]

Obvious TW for ED talk, gets worse towards the bottom. . . . . . . . . I started a med that can help with weight loss because my chronic illness uses the same types of meds and losing weight *would* help me Ive banned people from commenting on it. The med makes me accidentally starve myself all the time, I feel awful 24/7, I have to stay up late because if I wake up before med time, Im RAVENOUS and gorge on whatever easy food I can grab (typically not great for you), and I have been through not only my own eating disorder, but also an eating disorder by proxy because my mother was obsessed with losing weight and forced it onto me as well. That chronic illness? It makes it nearly impossible to lose weight, especially if its undiagnosed and left to rot in you. My mother knew I had it but wanted to force me into outpacing it and shamed me when I couldnt, but never told me that she knew I was physically ill. I was triggering her and myself simply because I was sick and she didnt tell me.

[@LindCreations]

Agreed. I have an extremely high matabolism and struggle to keep my weight. People LOVE telling me how I'm "lucky to be able to loose weight easily" until I tell them "yes, not being able to get out of bed without faining is so much fun". The only time I ever comment on weight changes is if I know the person is putting in the work in actually getting healtier. My partner has self esteem issues with his own weight, and I make sure to remind him that a number on the scale doesn't mean much with how jacked he is (he's a pretty strong climber and can pick me up with one hand if he wanted to)

[@randalthor741]

Honestly, if I told someone I was giving my clothes away to starving people and they clapped back with "anyone who can fit into your clothes isn't starving," my reaction would be something along the lines of "OK, yeah, fair, you got me on that." I was raised to appreciate a good burn, even if I'm the burn victim.

[@SunnyBoxDraws]

You could handle it. But other people are more self conscious about their weight. The fact it's their husband makes me 1000x worse

[@LadyLubdan]

If you can make me laugh I'll let you win the argument.

[@Sarah.Beth.]

Charlotte, one of the things I admire about you is that your physical beauty is accentuated by your grace and strength of character. That being said, you have been positively GLOWING lately in your videos. Suffice it to say that being happy and in love looks good on you.

[@gladynina]

Recently I lost weight due to some very tragic circumstances so every time some one commented on it regardless of how well intentioned it truly triggered me because trust me I'd would rather have been 30lbs heavier and "uglier" and still have my loved ones and health. I have even gotten the "there's a silver lining" and "look at the bright side". No, absolutely not, no

[@karmiahamilton7222]

That exact thing happened to me. I just started telling people, "yeah! I feel thin." Then just let them figure it out.

[@annalopez5203]

That’s why I never comment. I’ve also been there where I’ve lost weight because of circumstances and being praised for it. No need to comment.

[@cjane_world]

So sorry for your experience ❤️

[@BeeWhistler]

I’ve told my kids not to comment on people’s bodies (unless you’re whispering to tell them about a wardrobe malfunction, lol). I explained that they don’t need to tell someone they’re fat… they already know, and if they don’t, why point it out if they’re happy? It might bother them. This isn’t because I think the fat is shameful (being heavy myself), but because I wanted them to have that insight, and because, tbh, I didn’t want to be the mom in the grocery store covering her face because her kid yelled, “Mom, look, that guy’s SO FAT!” as kids sometimes do. But yeah, my experiences with weight loss are like yours. My dad finally lost weight when his body started to fail him. I lost weight because of panic attacks. I am losing weight because of years of bad health despite the warning of my dad’s too early death. I’m glad no one has complimented me for it. I oly did it because diabetes was on the horizon and I was finally scared enough to act. I do like being more comfortable, though. I was just a bit too plump for it before.

[@Kayenne54]

@@karmiahamilton7222 I adopt a faux superior "blonde hotel owner girl's pose with dog in purse look" and say *"You can never be too rich or too thin"* with a fake smile. Thereby implying they are neither. (I'm underweight).

[@izzy6455]

It's TOTALLY NORMAL to have work meetings as dinner. Has been for decades, especially in certain areas and self employed.

[@monicawanderley]

On the loss weight, me and my mother had crazy experiences, one person I barely knew screamed at me that I've lost 1000kg in college. My mother lost a lot of weight because she was sick, and people kept complementing her and didn't care she was sick. I don't think any of us would be upset if someone said we looked great, but there's always an undertone that shows that people really don't care about you except for the looks.

[@HughLlewellyn]

16:15 That Uber driver was wearing socks and flip flops. You know how I know? He RAN RIGHT OUT OF HIS FLIP FLOPS and left them on the sidewalk when he went around the corner after the biker. Ahahahaha!

[@cc24681]

4:58 i lost like 100ish lbs and everyone thought i got literally any of the gastric surgeries lmfao i was like did you ever see me not at work long enough to get surgery

[@QuayHollywood]

In February I had weight loss surgery and for the last 3-4 weeks I've been going to they gym. My neighbor told me "you look so good. What'd you change?" I explained it to her and she said I'm so proud of you. Your doing great. Keep it up. I was freaking excited.

[@RoMayDrako]

Work dinners are quite common it's a great way to have lunch and be away from people pestering you at the office. Also it shows appreciation to the client for giving business.

[@tinyloveartwork2031]

Hadn't seen a friend all winter season and when vending time came around and I saw him for the first time he had lost a bunch of weight. first thing I said was "alright man respectfully, you okay? healthy and happy?" he big smiled and nodded with a yes and i smiled too and hugged him and said you hell yeah man congrats, what encouraged the change? and we went about our day bullshitting. He thanked me for checking in on his health instead of just assuming (said i was the only one who was concerned first) but also was happy at the way I approached, knowing the difference was obvious. care before judgement

[@theauditminionexplores5508]

12:21, similar happened to me back in my FD days. Young guy comes to the hotel and asks if we're a safe hotel, gets a room, waits until he's paid and received the room keys to be like, "Thanks so much for helping me! The police are chasing me!" I call the police and am like, "I don't know what's going on, but if y'all are looking for this guy, he's here." Maybe 30 minutes later, officers from the city police and the county sheriff show up and are like, "We don't know how he got away! We had the building surrounded!" So, there's a police stake out on the 2nd floor and an officer is monitoring the situation on our security cameras, and I'm fielding calls from the guy freaking out cuz the police found him and other guests who are like, "Why are there so many cops in the hallway?" It was an interesting night. 😅

[@Mystic_Paths]

When personal life spills into a professional setting, especially in the dramatic style TikTok loves, it can create a wild, unpredictable ride for viewers

[@gailryder9493]

One of my triggers to binge eat is someone commenting on how I look good after losing weight. Working on it, but it is difficult

[@cheeling794]

isn't that so weird how that works?

[@Isa-Everly]

Omg I thought I was the only one. It’s so subconscious too but overtime I’ve noticed this pattern. I’d love to understand why this happens 😭

[@amyfinn7824]

​@Isa-Everly honestly, I think it's about like being reminded that you're body is perceived and that better treatment is based on your weight! Like for me, I'll be getting to body neutrality and then someone says that I look SO MUCH BETTER being skinny, it like all of the sudden brings me back to a place where I'm overanalyzing my body and thinking about how everyone just thinks I'm fat and then those feeling and that stress pushes me to binge. Idk if you feel the same and no worries if not!!! But I agree, the mind is so interesting, we make these connections in our brain subconsciously, but then have to work years CONSCIOUSLY trying to re work those connections

[@beepboop97]

This is me now. I sometimes don't eat all day and then boom, 3000 calories later in one sitting and I feel sick.

[@brendasmith8939]

​@beepboop97 me too. Sometimes it is enough to feed 2 people.

[@chrysalishypnosiswellness6762]

I bet if that business meeting was with someone the gf deemed "ugly", this would not have been an issue. I work in banking, lunch and dinner business meeting are VERY common.

[@jazzycat8917]

Or if he was meeting a man. Shes controlling and insanely insecure.

[@kcarter0265]

I laughed out loud at the “starving people won’t fit in your clothes” one. I’m not skinny, but that’s objectively funny. It’s one thing to say you want to donate your clothes, but she specified for starving people. I couldn’t have passed that up either 😂😂

[@boogermaiden]

Yeah. I'm a fat person and that's like a sarcastic joke.

[@kcarter0265]

@ if my husband said that to me, I would have gone silent for a minute then just keeled over laughing. Lol

[@teledahn7422]

That's my me and my husband's humour.😂

[@janalock6267]

Sometimes you just set yourself up. 😂😂

[@cjane_world]

I also thought that was funny 😅 Why did she marry him, if she doesn't like his humor?

[@savage_fenty]

Girl, your content is literally what gets me through the absurd amount of time I spend committed to my hair removal routine 🤧😭✨

[@cortney3798]

The her saying she was stuck with the tab is suspicious. As someone that paid for many meeting dinners (charged to the company), it wouldn’t have even occurred to me

[@OwlPossum]

I have PCOS, it causes a lot of health issues including weight gain and difficulty losing weight. In highschool I struggled with disordered eating and at one point lost 35-40lb in a VEARY short period of time. Everyone had something to say about it. Even my phys-ed/health teacher gushed about how much weight i had lost. Never once asking if I was okay even commending me for restrictive eating. A lot of people really do see fatness as a moral or personal failing.

[@hopefletcher7420]

I developed PCOS in my early 20s (I'm now 72). The best thing about it was I only had 1 to 2 periods a year. Other than that it did suck.

[@TarynAlford07]

I have pcos too! I also have hypothyroidism, so weight loss is super hard for me as well.

[@xxKuroKajixx]

Pcos and hypothyroidism. I've bene trying to lose weight for 8 years. Only started losing on wegovy. Can confirm people judge me even though my diet is actually good. I've worked with a dietician for 3 years now.

[@katherine9740]

Loved how the first girl handled the situation but loved the guy that checked in with her also 😊

[@catsandfriends5918]

I used to be charge of lost and found. Found a man's wedding ring and called the number that was embedded. The wife answered, screaming at me, who was I to be calling her husband. "Ma'am your husband lost his ring." Suddenly so nice. Yeah...that was a thing.

[@stevieschacht2231]

My company does lunch and dinner often. Especially when youre negotiating or closing a deal because the discussion can take a while and its also a social prevention process because people are less inclined to be loud and rude in public during professional meet and eats

[@aspidistraeliator]

The sheer number of times i have met with our suppliers over a meal, that comment of the fool not understanding why meeting are done at a restaurant is hilarious.

[@zoinksbie]

Okay. I laughed at the “starving people wouldn’t need your clothes” comment. I’m obese and even I died laughing at that. It’s one of the “bless your heart” type of things. I’m an awful person. 😂

[@stephanieblanchard1798]

My husband would make this comment and I would laugh because it's true. I am a fatty. We joke like this all the time though 🤣😂

[@TacseraEpSekahs]

I laughed at this too. Not because of the comment about appearance, but more like a joke to initial phrase "clothes to starving people". Clothes are donated to people who need clothes, food doesn't have a correlation here :) So a little joke is not that bad. It's a rude joke! But initial phrase is also a bit tone deaf, so it goes.

[@SetsunaMeiou-SailorPluto]

My husband would absolutely make this comment. Mostly about himself. It's funny. And true. Anyone upset over something so small needs to go to therapy and deal with themselves. I was anorexic and nearly died as a result. I still struggle with ED during low points because I also have bipolar disorder. And I still find that a hilarious response.

[@zoinksbie]

@@SetsunaMeiou-SailorPluto Love your name btw- sailor Pluto is best.

[@samanthafairweather9186]

You're not an awful person. You e got a great sense of humour! 😁 It WAS funny! 🤣🤣🤣

[@Lmerc]

For that first story, I think there are many people who do not understand that fact that, in business, most networking happens outside of the office. Networking at a cafe for example is to make both parties more comfortable and make it less of a tense situation. It's super common. Business dinners and such are so common that companies have an actual term for it "Diminimus fringes." (I think I spelled that right). It pretty is the category for small expenses made with company money to enrich or help employees in some way.

[@richrich2862]

All depends what business it was - if the girl knew it didn’t make sense to go out over drinks for business then she knows the situation best

[@twitchy_bird]

​@@richrich2862You've definitely misunderstood the story somewhere

[@richrich2862]

@@twitchy_bird I didn’t watch the TikTok, only what was shown in this video…so only commenting in that regard.

[@twitchy_bird]

@@richrich2862 The TikTok was shown in this video my dude.

[@Jaysteel9940]

17:54 Everyone came back together, in one piece, alive. That’s how you do it. Good on them!

[@CurzonEve]

Reason #1 for business meals: Socializing after the formal work was done. Reason #2 for business meals: Testing an interview candidate on their social prowess. You know how many candidates for a job disqualify themselves from a job for things like "Ordering alcohol at lunch, during a lunch interview?"

[@minohki]

I work in the tech industry and client dinners are very common. And I work on a primarily woman sales team. To me it’s weird that we can’t even have a professional meeting with mixed genders without causing drama.

[@andreasbenning]

"If I can't be happy no one can." Is there really any other reply to that than "You being unhappy makes me happy"? xD

[@lindapatton4478]

Misery loves company. There are tons of stories on Reddit where toxic people seem to spend their entire lives making others miserable. They are looking for sympathy, which is okay if you are just having one bad day or a small run of bad luck. But they don't even try to do things that make them happy, unless it's making everyone around them feel horrible. That's sad they they don't love themselves enough to try to do things to give themselves a positive outlook on who they are. No, everyone else has to be more miserable than them to make them feel better in their self-imposed pity party.

[@apocketfulofprose]

The thing with weight loss is that it is a huge mental shift as well. When you lose (or gain) a significant amount of weight, it can cause you to rethink and shift your entire identity and how you see yourself. Depending on where someone is on their journey, they could have changed their physical appearance but still be working on the mental part. Commenting that they look good is fine, but anything past that can step into a vulnerable place depending on where they are in the mental part of the journey.

[@thriftymomshop]

6 am Saturday I’m dying of the flu in the bathtub getting my double dose of charlotte ! I already feel so much better ! Thanks for giving me other ppls messy to listen to!!!

[@deboraherskine8503]

Your face @9:19 💀 it was the sudden realisation that you will now be haunted by the AI gifs that are absolutely guaranteed to be created from that one moment 😂😂😂

[@RebekahSue]

The second person: ' oh, you look wonderful! " Is the Best appropriate reaction. That gives the wonderful looking person control as to what gets discussed next. Or what doesn't get discussed next.

[@404ErrorBrainNotFound]

The cosplay video, I was word for word matching the “I don’t think that’s what he meant” 🤣

[@anarchyneverdies3567]

1:14 My boyfriend got SO jealous every time i got an order on Etsy from a man 😂😂😂 people who don't work or work for someone else don't understand I'm not a woman, I'm a BUSINESS. You can't even see who i am when you order

[@jriley8614]

Jealous because a man ordered from your business? 🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@lynettebr]

I hope that's an EX boyfriend

[@berryhij1]

@@lynettebr Seriously. That’s scary.

[@dumitruedelean59]

Darling, you're a victim. That's not okay at all.

[@nunyabizay9253]

Girl that’s….psychotic

[@GlitzyWitch]

As someone who's 5ft and been the size of a human beachball, then losing weight very quickly, to a rake, everyone commented and complimented me, i always get embarrassed when people compliment me, but im not gonna complain about it on TikTok, i was actually grateful

[@franmiller1381]

These girls that have found a man whose shoulders are strong enough to hold them - keeps these guys!❤❤

[@SOGGYtalks]

As someone who has ridden the weight rollercoaster all my life, I know this- it is VERY COMPLICATED. Some people are wanting compliments, some are not, when they lose weight. And that is subject to change. A person who deals with weight loss for decades changes their viewpoint over the years. There is no winning. If you offend someone, just say I’m sorry and move on. Don’t defend your position. But one thing my mother told me as a teen always stuck with me- ‘If someone congratulated you for losing weight, and you DIDN’T lose weight, then that means they think if you as being even bigger than you are.’ So I always tread lightly when it comes to commenting on weight loss. As everyone should. It’s a very multi-faceted issue, mentally.

[@blue_mythic7879]

5:15 Ah hell nah. As a primary care provider she should know that that's how you give people eating disorders. Just let people be comfortable in their bodies. Don't compare them to their "old self" bc that is still them and is hurtful. It's fine to say It's been a while since I've seen you, you look great! But comparing and trashing their "old self" just shows how much you didn't care for them when they were bigger.

[@M18292]

The thing about weightloss "compliments" is that at first they sound nice but it's always with some bashing about the "old" body. Like "Oh wow, you lost so much weight. You look great. You looked so sad and old. Your shoulders were always hanging. Now you are glowing." You can say that without the insult.

[@EmnM2010]

5:25 I like how she just started gaslighting people. I rapidly lost 40 lbs after a serious surgery and a month of bedrest several years ago, and now I wish I had thought to do this when people wouldn't stop commenting on how "great" I looked. (I was 22, on two narcotics, in a constant state of hangry, and couldn't walk across my house without feeling faint, so I didn't appreciate these "compliments".)

[@smueller7805]

In regards to weight loss I feel like it depends if the person was trying to lose weight or has issues with the way they looked before. I lost 20 lbs from grief and depression/stress from events in my life but because everyone associates weight loss as a positive thing everyone told me I looked so amazing and to "keep up" whatever I was doing to lose weight.

[@hopefletcher7420]

As someone who lost 70 pounds in 9 months with Weight Watchers, here's how you acknowledge any type of positive change in another persons appearance: just say "you look fabulous (or wonderful, or great)!" You don't / shouldn't mention weight loss. THEY KNOW they've lost weight. A compliment, unfettered by remarks about how someone used to look is much more polite.

[@WadeAlma]

If someone was actively trying to lose weight there's nothing wrong with bringing up their weight loss. Mentioning someone's appearance in general can be viewed as rude. Even if you said your compliments people could still get offended if they look "better" through unhealthy means. Ie, wow you look great today. Well I look great because I've been depressed and lost all that weight. There's no winning.

[@MyHandmadeAdventures]

I LOVED when people noticed my weight loss. That was the first time in years I felt fine with people looking at me. That moment, I finally noticed that being perceived isn't a bad thing!

[@Kaiheart]

As someone that had a major weight loss several years ago due to illness, I wouldn't comment on someone's weight unless they bring up the topic first. And for the love of all that is good, please don't make jokes about it. Long story short: I got sick and nearly died when Iwas 19, my body burned off 40 lbs in like 2 days, and the hospital was so awful it traumatized me for a long time and it's still something in my nightmares. I went back to my college classes and everyone commented on my weight loss, even more than asking if I was doing okay, and some of my former friends even joked about me giving them my illness so they could 'lose a few pounds'. It was horrible and made me cry a lot, because I would look in the mirror and all I saw was a sickly husk of myself that survived a near-death experience. I stopped talking to most of them after that - I'm 33 now and have worked through things, but all of that is something I could never forget. Just... unless you know the circumstances and know the person would be okay with it, just don't comment on someone's weight loss. Thank you.

[@jeanams07]

Yep, I went through something similar with losing a ton of weight due to illness, and people commenting that I "look so great!!". I sure don't feel great, and I still struggle daily with trying to eat enough to gain enough weight so I can look healthy, and not sickly. The pain I endure 24/7 causes me to be incredibly nauseous a lot of the time, and eating just makes it so much worse. But people have very little sympathy for skinny people who don't really look sick. I am so sorry that you have had to endure the same, and hope you are feeling much better now and are surrounded by people who genuinely cherish and support you no matter your weight.

[@Kaiheart]

@jeanams07 I'm sorry you've had to go through this as well. I still have after-effects, but over time, things can fade. Sending a large hug and well wishes that life is easier and more peaceful, and you are surrounded by loved ones. I've never been a skinny person, been curvy most my life, and it's taken a long time to unlearn the thing ingrained into us all our lives that somehow weight equals health - but it doesn't. Health is very much down to the individual, and outward appearance doesn't have anything to do with it.

[@samuraicrunchbird]

14:51 the cherry on top would be that you wouldn't actually be pregnant. "The baby needed some things." "Ummm...WHAT baby?"

[@My_life_in_the_sunshine]

For that guy who said if i cant be happy no one can and falsely accused the girl of cheating. Just remember. The saying goes, if there's one, there's more. So just remember that when you are encountering those who you call family or friends who seem like they can't stand to see you succeed at anything. Or those trolls who you run into online. Don't get angry with them. Keep your cool, and show them you're too happy for them to be able to control your emotions. Its kills em everytime.

[@chrisjames1027]

Porch pirates did alot of drive by on that house that day 😂... she needs to order an extension on the house for all that 😂

[@amikamorton6085]

I lost 70lbs in less than a year due to painful anxiety…. People commenting on it saying “you look so good” just kinda makes me think “thanks I’m dying inside”

[@nicres]

9:05 I DO feel called out and I AM EMBARRASSED! I’m almost 40 and still haven’t learned how to take a decent selfie!! 😭 people in the future won’t even know I existed 😂💀

[@bonnemoms5413]

45° angles, both up and to the side.

[@nicres]

@@bonnemoms5413 thank you! I’m gonna give it a try.. stay tuned :)

[@CarRobbin]

9:41 This segment here. The old saying "Misery loves company" is true here. This jerk is so salty about not having someone he wants to break up everyone he deems "happy". This person will never truly be happy in any relationship he is in. These people deserve to be a lone.

[@curtisalex456]

This is why people need to be careful on social media!!!!! Too many crazies out there!!!

[@CarRobbin]

@@curtisalex456 I agree. Back 30 years ago when i met my best friend there was no social media not like it is today. I have been married to my best friend 24 years and been friends with him and known him 30(became friends first then dating and finally married)

[@bluebelle8823]

My deep appreciation to the gentleman in the first video who checked on her. You will never know how much it can help to just hear someone say "are you okay?". Especially when it is clear you aren't.

[@florecitayami]

The one wanting to donate her clothes 🤣🤣🤣🤣 That was a good one 🤣🤣🤣 brutal! 😆 I can't stop laughing

[@sidoniejordan-olsen7673]

The packages lady one with the ups guy showing up was everyone

[@arttificcer2324]

Nooo not a rat, charlotte. I've had them. They are crazy destructive. And my dog was more scared of them than me 😂😂😂

[@Sorchia56]

Oh no! If there’s one, there’s more! Run, Forest, Run!

[@ShelbyPassmore957]

9:35 turns around and proceeds to drink water 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love it 🥰

[@gummysnacksandknives9229]

Ok but "I was just lying like crazy" is literally the funniest thing to me like obviously thats horrible but its horrible in a funny way

[@Oratile-nl9eo]

To the second girl, I don't understand why people can't just say "hey, you look good" or " you look amazing" and keep it moving. Also, Wow Charlotte, your hair looks amazing. 😍😍😍😍

[@ebal955]

I lost like 100 lbs in my early 20s. I did take it too far and got down to 96 lbs because every time i looked in the mirror i still looked fat to myself. So i went from being called lardo to things like people saying "you are so skinny. What are you a zero?" Or men that i dont even know telling me he "likes a woman with more meat on their bones." Its pretty hurtful and people need to keep their opinions to themselves. Im glad body shaming is a thing that most people dont accept these days. I would never tell a person my opinion on their looks other than to give them a complement.

[@ThoughtsonThoughtsandFeelings]

0:49 yeah I can UNDERSTAND why she might crash the business meeting, I just wouldn’t be friends or partners with anyone that acted that way.❤ Cause I don’t see that as respectful.

[@KiaTy91]

He definitely used his “business” as a cover

[@brittanyfox6703]

Good Morning Charlotte thank you for being you!!!!!

[@MiaJ44]

As a fat person, the clothing donation comment was hilarious 😂 If my spouse can't drag me like that I don't want him

[@MelissaViers-kb8vg]

The Uber driver lost his sandals as he turned the corner running after the cyclist 😂😂😂 not to mention saying the cuss words backwards 😂😂 I had to watch the original video on TikTok to hear it from myself. It’s so funny.

[@Karii0728]

I've lost 185 pounds and people's "compliments" are really back-handed. I've also had people grab at parts of MY body to point out the areas they notice😒

[@folkloreofbeing]

I had a stranger rub my "baby bump" the other day and got her hand smacked and I yelled "don't you touch me, like that, who do you think you are!" She had the gall to be offended and I had to tell her: "It's not a baby bump, it's a FIBROID, a big one and even if it was a baby, I don't know you and you don't touch me!" When are people going to keep their clammy hands to themselves 😭

[@Karii0728]

@folkloreofbeing I have 5 month old twins and it doesn't stop! I used to have people rub my belly. Like complete freaking strangers. Now, I opt to leave the kids at home if I can when I need to run errands. I've had random people literally kiss my babies on the forehead before while I'm at the grocery store. I flipped out 🥰

[@folkloreofbeing]

@@Karii0728 I don't have my own children but have been a mother to many. I got to learn the body language of touchy people and would sternly say "don't you dare sir/madame, don't you touch" as they were about to reach out to or otherwise hug/kiss my charges. I have horrible childhood memories of being slobbered on and felt up by strangers, not going to let it happen on my watch!

[@diptimayeepradhan5708]

Happy diwali petty potatoes❤

[@harenhallharfoot]

Happy Diwali! 🔥✨️

[@elfortney]

Happy Diwali!

[@cheeling794]

is diwali always on halloween?

[@diptimayeepradhan5708]

@@cheeling794 not always but this time

[@cheeling794]

@diptimayeepradhan5708 ohhh okay I looked up what it was, it sounds awesome!💛

[@Anya2014]

The attitude of "if I can't be happy no one can" is so fr though. I commented on some YT video mentioning my hubby is great (it fit the video content don't worry lol), and someone replied to it about how I was going to get a divorce. Like what? 😂😂 I couldn't help but laugh at it, like damn 😆

[@froonamission1013]

Same! I commented on a video that was lovely about my husband being a good man. Someone called me a liar and a wh@×e 😅

[@Anya2014]

@froonamission1013 Yikes!! 😬😅

[@haileym5912]

for weight loss: only talk about someone's weight loss if either A) you're their doctor/parent of a minor and have to talk about it in relation to a real medical concern or B) if you're trying to lose/gain weight and someone compliments you, genuinely. I had a lady I worked with, about my mom's age, and she knew I was trying to lose weight and she told me one day that she could tell it was going well and that it was working. It made me feel good about my progress!

[@No-mc6vv]

4:01 plus sharing a meal with people is just nice.

[@arielthompson2003]

That prank on the hubby kills me thats so funny 😂

[@jadedbutterfly5013]

That first story is EXACTLY why I tell my husband EVERYTHING! I have 2 male counselors and my husband knows their names and what they counsel for. I do telehealth, but if he walks in and I'm talking to another man, he knows EXACTLY why. There's absolutely ZERO confusion. ( Side note, my cat just licked my toe! 😳🤣)

[@jomomma1512]

Dang cats!! 😂 mine hacked up a hairball as soon as I came in from work!

[@tatianasalazar4066]

It's fine if you want to do it, but if you have to inform your partner about every single thing you do, so they won't act crazy and toxic, maybe you should end that relationship

[@jadedbutterfly5013]

@tatianasalazar4066 it's not so he doesn't act crazy and toxic. It's so I feel better that he knows. I've been in a lot of toxic relationships, and I do things I'm comfortable with to mitigate any negative feelings. I don't like feeling like I have secrets from him. Plus, if I'm being honest, I cheated before and he forgave me. So, by sharing information with him, it bridges anything that could possibly come up. I've since gotten clean, 5/26/21, and have changed my ways. I'll never again be the person I was. And he understands that. By sharing with him those things, it helps keep the relationship healthy. This is honestly the most healthy relationship I've ever had. And I work to keep it and that trust. I respect your insight, tho. You're not wrong. In my last relationship, that would have been safe advice. NGL. He was toxic and jealous. I'm so glad I'm out of that.

[@jadedbutterfly5013]

@@jomomma1512 lmao cats are cats. What can we do?! 🤣🤣

[@angelabromley3712]

So what if you have a conversation with someone, some day that's not on the okay list?

[@deeLucas1612]

I think it’s a way for the guy to get out from the business meeting 😂😂😂 Dine and Dash indeed.

[@kmsleyang1980]

It was literally my first thought before she ever read the suggestion that, that's what it was. Like that was planned he didn't wanna pay.

[@amabileverreschi2155]

Fun fact: in various Brazilian weddings the couple provides the guests flip flops in the party!

[@mxanarchycake]

I have a medical condition that causes spontaneous weight loss and even though i tell everyone not to comment on it because it's painful, people still comment on it because that's the culture. I feel like we need to get to a space where we only comment on weight loss when people mention they've lost weight and fish for the compliments. Because I love giving props to people who genuinely need/want them, but I'm dying inside