MIL Brought My Husband's Cheating Ex to Our Wedding to Teach Me How to Be a Good Wife. Now Her...

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Remember.... Only a Cheater, sides with a cheater.

[@LaughingOwlKiller]

Mil? She didn't know....

[@mercuriallily]

Yup, and anyone who defends a cheater and swears they aren't themselves is either lying or waiting for the right opportunity to

[@nomqheledanisa1366]

@@mercuriallily but she didn’t know what part of that don’t you get bro

[@BenMaguireLONEWOLF9989]

@@nomqheledanisa1366 Listen to the end, she knows and is still siding with the cheating ex

[@NightCourt1984]

The ex really thought she could be at that wedding and just smile like she's a perfect person. I'm glad OP's husband and FIL reached their breaking point with the mother. Seriously what is so hard about OP just changing her number. The MIL wants to defend a cheater she deserves to lose the people she supposedly cares about.

[@imweirdfiteme593]

I mean the husband should have told his mother. Especially when he realized his mother wanted Vicky to be in his lofe instead of op

[@arhael3594]

It's his prerogative what part of his life to disclose or keep secret. And there is 0 excuse for mother's behaviour. Even if OP was the reason for break up, it's still her son's partner and she needed to respect his choice.

[@imweirdfiteme593]

@arhael3594 oh yeah absolutely i agree

[@RedFro95]

Exactly. However they try to spin, it makes zero sense for MIL to get upset with OP. If anything, it's the husband's and Vicky's fault for not coming clean about what happened in the first place. MIL's misunderstanding is on the husband.

[@imweirdfiteme593]

@@RedFro95 exactly

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

It's his life and if he didn't want to tell his mother because her parents are friends, his prerogative. They had broken up, he was free to date whoever she wishes

[@peterjackson1430]

No. Screw Op's parents for defending MIL. Doesn't matter if MIL convinced herself OP had something to do with the break up when their relationship was announced a year after the break up. Don't shift blame because the offender didn't know all the facts. Doesn't matter that OP was mentioned at home during their "breaks" in their relationship. MIL jumped to conclusions and wasn't entitled to know the facts. Not her relationship, not her problem. People are entitled to their privacy. Sometimes the truth hurts, and 3rd parties are spared the dirty details.

[@Milky-kz8rr]

I rolled my eyes when the parents started to sympathize with Tina. It sounded like they did try to justify MIL’s actions. MIL still brought the ex to the wedding regardless of context.

[@youreright9178]

@@Milky-kz8rr they didnt justify anything. they asked OP to entertain the MIL's perspective. Not to side with her, but to be empathetic. so that she considers any and all perspectives before making a decision which may or may not potentially harm her.

[@ianrose666]

Nah. The OPs parents did well to ensure she thought about every aspect, before making her decision. Then accepted her decision. That’s good parenting.

[@anaa0102]

Ok, but the husband was GOAT. Like, OP was feeling guilty but the husband was like "we don't owe nothing to my mother, not even the truth. Just saying I broke up with Vicky should've been enough." THIS MAN IS A MAN!!!

[@kumikor3392]

He should've clocked his mom when he noticed years ago. He's right that he owes his mom nothing, but he does owe OP better because why did OP have to even suffer?

[@DarkEinherjar]

Play evil Monster-in-Law games, win evil Monster-in-Law prizes.

[@MrJbirmingham]

One min ago? KZbin thanks for not being useless for once!!

[@itsharperoffi]

That's consequences of her actions. Even though she didn't know Vicky was a cheater it's not an excuse to treat your child's partner as sh..it and expect everyone to be ok with this. Rmails she and Vicky were sending were just a proof that she still thinks OP's husband should be with Vicky and how sh..tty both MIL and ex are

[@aking3624]

"From a different generation" is code for lack of coping mechanisms & desperately need therapy!!! Even if she didn't know, she never talked to her son because it was never about them, it was about her wanting control!!

[@LODintheshadows]

Vicky so dumb, stood there all pleased with herself. Like, okay, you realise you begged him to not say she cheated, so you go to ruin his wedding, what you think he gna do?

[@scorch2155]

OPs husband is a bit at fault here. He told everyone else about Vicky cheating but didnt tell his parents and claims it wasnt their business but yet he felt it was everyone elses business.

[@Alguienenunlado]

Yessss thank you I feel the same way

[@meladron]

I see where you’re coming from but personally I disagree. While him telling his parents would have definitely prevented this, his mother doing this for any reason at all is completely unjustified.

[@NominDonutz]

@@meladron The MIL probably will not go this crazy if she already knew what happen. THe husband should expose the cheater in the first place, less headache

[@jbcroos918]

The only thing that rubs me the wrong way was the husband covering for the cheater,"it will affect the relationship between the parents" guess what it still did

[@LODintheshadows]

Regarding her parents. I thought about it from Tina's perspective. She would rather her son be with someone he doesn't want to be with to make her happy, she would rather blame just op, but her son gets a free pass. She was in the wrong from this perspective 100%

[@LODintheshadows]

"what she did at the wedding was wrong, ut I'm her defense" no... There is 0 defense. She tried to purposefully ruin their wedding and embarrass their daughter. Her parents suck. How is op's dad more on her side then her own parents?

[@anju43458]

The fact that op's parents respected hee wishes in the end, shows how much a parent to interfere in the lives of their children. Tina should have down the same, when her son told her he broke up!!

[@romain8390]

OOP’s husband is part of the problem as well, he should never have kept the reason for the breakup ambiguous to his mother, especially when he started to notice his mom didn’t like his new girlfriend and know the two family’s circumstances. Doesn’t at all excuse what she did or justified it in anyway, because how can that friendship be if it is falling apart because their children fell out of love or broke up for whatever reason? Even if OOP stole the friends family’s daughter boyfriend, How can the friendship be if it’s being damaged so heavily by the heartbreak of friends family’s daughter? Sometimes relationships simply don’t work out, and MlL should’ve taken a moment and asked her son the truth. And if she did, husband should have given it to her or already openly volunteered it with the hope that it wouldn’t damage the friendship. I can understand where the bit of resentment comes from because most a lot of friendships from older and traditional generations are very conditional friendships, OOP is right to never let MIL’s stunt go, but the whole thing was easily preventable.

[@thegameknight8916]

Yeah, but it's something I can see ANYone doing with good intentions.

[@vinaynegi7239]

still the same case, not the mother's f'ing business

[@sandraal2585]

Why does he need to tell his mother? Do you tell your mother about every relationship you had and why they broke up? Like lets be real. She knews about it now and still is talking to her and spreading lies. So it seems she doesn't care

[@RedFro95]

​@sandraal2585 when the husband saw how hostile his mother was acting towards his new gf/wife, he should've at least tried to clear everything up by telling the truth. And if MIL still wanted to be a btch after that, then there would be no trying to justify her actions, and she will still be separated from her husband/FIL.

[@scorch2155]

​@sandraal2585 I mean, he told everyone else his business but kept it from his mother?

[@vamaranthus4555]

Cheaters back up cheaters.

[@rmsiq148isstruggling3]

MIL might have acted with a misunderstanding but still she must have respected her son's life choices. It's none of her business to do that

[@Alguienenunlado]

I feel like the husband is just as much of a fault as MIL. Just like when OP said that if he was the one who cheated, MIL should be mad at both, same applies here. I personally would not let the husband get away from his own consequences.

[@gotenblack2542]

hey Vickey your so so icky

[@doncjack5913]

Well, the MIL dug her own grave and now has to climb out of it.

[@RedditSleepWhisper-j9n]

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes 🎭

[@D-stories68]

What a wild story-karma really came full circle! 😲

[@foxstories68]

NTA. She destroyed her own marriage trying to ruin yours, and now she wants YOU to fix it? No way 🙃

[@Aman1ta_Muscar1a]

This is a much, MUCH better bg music choice than the previous videos.

[@munchie3909]

Wait, she brought a CHEATER, as an example of a good wife?

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

She didn't know she cheated but still, she should have respected his son's choices

[@NominDonutz]

This is why you always expose the cheater

[@onepieceisking5493]

Typical cheater logic in trying to blame her ex for telling their friends the truth and tries to badmouth about him to anyone then do that at his wedding as revenge for exposing her to their friends. But of course she didn't think about getting herself exposed to everyone else by trying to get revenge at her ex's wedding because cheaters are dumb like that.

[@MatthewCurtian]

I swear. I love the whole “She’s from a different Generation.” Bull. That makes no sense at all. OP might need to cut her own parents out for that way of thinking.

[@drewlane6745]

This could have been solved so easily. Just tell her she cheated😅

[@morganablackwater2017]

No she should not try to police her son life choices. If she wanted ex in the family so much maybe she should marry her. Its really gross how people act its normal to decide for others with who they have sex - cause THATS what its about really.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

When somebody breaks up with somebody, not only they are free to date whoever they please, the reasons why they break up concern them and them alone. The mother is paying the prize of being a nosey busybody and meddling where she shouldn't

[@kumikor3392]

He should've spoken with his mom years ago so OP wouldnt be harassed. But his reasoning for keeping quiet was such BS. Why would he stay quiet about the cheating because of the family business when the other family drifted away WHEN he broke up? Why would he not tell his mom that Vicky cheated when all of their friends were personally told? Why would he allow OP to be disrespected for years when he could've ended the excuse to hate right there??? He's not innocent at all.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

@@kumikor3392 the breakup only mattered to him and his ex, nobody else. His mother is a grown woman who should have minded her own business and that includes not harassing OP. It's her son, not her who dated both women and his relationship, therefore she had no right to meddle. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

[@cabl3cas427]

Well something that Nick pointed out. What if she didn't cheat and they grew apart organically? The mom CLEARLY still would've hated whomever he brought home. Because she internally absolved Nick of any wrongdoing. And then brought Vicky to the wedding to show what a "Good Wife" is. The mom was invested in the image of them, not them. Even after the families drifted apart, she still stayed in contact with Vicky in hopes of the being together. BOTH families moved on and just let life continue. She couldn't wrap her head around it. And as you can see even after everything came Tina STILL blamed OP for what happened even though it was HER fault. SHE treated her bad without knowing the facts. SHE had Vicky come to the wedding and embarrass her on her wedding day. SHE tried to guilt trip her instead genuinely apologizing to her family. And then WENT OUT OF HER WAY to TEAM UP with Vicky of all people. You know the person who CHEATED ON HER SON, to help get rid of OP. Telling her that Vicky cheated wouldn't have helped because she was invested in having Vicky as a daughter, not her son being happy.

[@RagnarokAvatar]

I hope that Vickey's family and Nick's family can become friends again now that they know the truth

[@AnimeMe40]

13:36 NTA. Hun, I genuinely don’t care when she was born or what narrative she spun in her head. All three of you are grownups and talking her feelings out could have happened at any point. But she decided to go the “Highschool drama” route. And notice she has all the energy to spend on begging you to fix her blow up, but not nearly enough doing what her Husband asked and APOLOGIZE TO EVERYONE!

[@ryanharris2341]

i'm so tired of the "they're just products of their generation" argument, its a load of BS they CAN and SHOULD change, they just dont want to.

[@taylordaenzer4852]

It's not your fault it's your mother in law's fault because she hated her because she wanted her husband to marry his ex's and she brought his ex-girlfriend to her wedding to teach her to be a good wife and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for hating her because she wanted her husband to marry his ex's girlfriend and she brought his ex-girlfriend to her wedding to teach her to be a good wife and you don't have to apologize for anything it's the mother in law's fault not yours.

[@mainmanjoseph8029]

Am I the only one who thinks Nick shares some of the blame?, like the moment he noticed his mom being hostile to OP he should've explained the whole situation about what happened between him and Vicky. If she didn't respect their relationship enough to not cheat on him why should he respect her wishes of not telling their families the truth

[@sarahwilliamson8646]

That would've been pretty helpful

[@arhael3594]

He has zero blame. As he told himself: he informed his mother that they are done. She doesn't need to know anything more, none of her business. In case you failed to notice, father had 0 problem with son's partner choice. That's because he is not a piece of shit l unlike mother.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

Not really. Adults, not kids in adult suits, don't meddle in other people's relationships, they respect their decision for breaking up, when, once it happens, they are free to date whoever they wish. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

[@NominDonutz]

It will be less headache in the future if the husband just tell whats going on with his Ex. Not really blaiming the husband, more like Why making it more stressful?

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

​@@NominDonutznormal people are not that invested in who you date or your dating life . The headache is mommy dearest, not he

[@smorphous8928]

Ops parents still shouldn’t show remorse to them. Regardless of any of that, Tina should’ve just Treated Op better.

[@yooyeonie]

i dont think mil was even invested in the relationship, i mean she didnt know what happened in their relationship and couldn't understand why they would break up, and op's husband talkin abt her prior to the breakup and then ending up with her? ofc the mil would think she was a homewrecker, the husband shouldve just told her

[@kirakrieger3540]

Seems like Op's parents were justifying MIL's action.

[@blender4464]

Hang on. Nuance? Looking at things from other people's perspectives?! Nonsense! Real talk though. I feel like they should give her a chance because everything the oop's parents said is right. She did handle it very poorly, but she is family and that actually is important. At least don't close the door permanently.

[@okj010boi]

family's not an excuse to do all of this, plus the apologies are most likely fake because after MIL realized that her entire family cut her off, she just started badmouthing OP and calling the truth about ex cheating a fabricated story

[@SteveJones313]

The whole "Family is important" is often used to keep the abused in abusive relationships.

[@arhael3594]

Rubbish, the door should be extra reinforced.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Go no contact with MIL and your parents for defending MIL!

[@MW-cx3sb]

lol her husband was a complete doormat to his ex

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

Not at all. He was a gentleman who didn't have to disclose the reason why they broke up because it only concerns them. It was not until his mother make it a public business when he counter attacked, as it should be

[@addisonraefanpage6545]

Ger parents are not right with this. You are right, she just wanted an excuse to hate you

[@Steve_Raglan_aka_William_Afton]

Chain reaction moment

[@Adarkane325xi]

Great sleeping pill, this one is.

[@morganablackwater2017]

Wow... Some shiny spines on men in this family xD Im shocked 😂

[@GT-jg1ps]

dont forgive her we all know that she will only be fake nice to you.

[@JordanDavila]

Icky Vicky

[@StrixGD]

My exam is over now i have free will les go

[@justinolivas2921]

Why does the music remind me of caves in pokemon

[@milan8284]

Glitches😭😭😭

[@harrygrant6805]

Thanks to dinner

[@Bronzescar]

Here before viral

[@GoldsNarrations]

Hay

[@mechtim]

icky Vicky

[@jelly_cat9257]

16 hours ago!

[@iwtbrnk]

YTA

[@zankoz5248]

Nice and First

[@charlottebivens7818]

I think you are the a**hole because you weren't letting her apologize and forgiving for vengeance cause she didn't treat you right for three. And if her son talked about you all the time he came home, he was emotionally attracted to you and had feelings for you

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

The problem is that the mother was a busybody and nosey person that didn't respected her son's wishes and autonomy. It was not up to her to decide if Vicky was good for him or not. They have broken up and he could date whoever he wished. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

[@inferiorinferno8859]

MIL was likely exaggerating how much he talked about OP and it's ridiculous to reason 'that he was emotionally attracted' to her because they were friends. People are allowed to talk about their friends. MIL clearly wasn't sorry because she immediately started teaming up with Vicki again the moment OP said no. OP's not the a**hole, you're just dense not to see though the MIL's BS.

[@MC-br8wo]

How was it cheating if they were on “break” op comes across as a serious “pick me” that was just waiting around for the opportunity to snatch nick.

[@Lloyd-zj2gx]

She continued to date the other guy after they got back together.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

Because she didn't break up with the other guy when they became official again