MIL just st*bbed me and somehow i'm the a**hole #reddit #redditupdate #redditrelationship
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@__aru9 ай бұрын
DH - Dear Husband MIL - Mother In Law SFIL - Step-Father In Law LO - Little One STBX - Soon To Be Ex
@kalezuki92319 ай бұрын
Thanks so much , even an oldie like me doesn't know what every little abbreviation on the internet means or I for get what certain things mean
@astoria4ever9 ай бұрын
THANK YOU
@Meph_X9 ай бұрын
Some of these are just making shit more confusing, they're pretty much useless bruh Thanks for this man
@harmonyjohnson25279 ай бұрын
Thank you
@redblasphemy92049 ай бұрын
I thought dh was d*ckhead 😂
@cassafrassarole9 ай бұрын
Saying "Keep me out of it" when your mom is stalking your ex and planning to kidnap your child is crazy
@A-Warthog-cc1wm9 ай бұрын
This was my exact reaction. Like dude, this entire has to do with YOUR mom, so it’s your problem too.
@tsm6889 ай бұрын
We don't see any of this from his POV, but following the initial trigger, mother had the reaction of "this is not okay" into the slow unraveling into "holy shit none of this was EVER okay" I think eventually -- a lot harder for him, its his mother -- he had the same relevation. And he'd been raised by her. But his reaction was to try and get as far form her as possible. It would also explain why stabby's anger intensified. She lost him too.
@PsychoMachado9 ай бұрын
Technically, it's not his fault his mom is crazy. And he is checked out from the child. He's a piece but other than that, after leaving jail, i think the guy just decided to start with a blank page and away from his mother because he realized how crazy she was and how much damage she caused in his life. He lost his wife, his kid and got arrested because he trusted her.
@yunarukami61619 ай бұрын
I bet his new girl would leave him cuz no one wants a mommy's boy. The ex relies on his mom for everything to which also his train of thought. He ain't going to make it out in the real world if you ask me.
@enriqueperezarce54859 ай бұрын
@@yunarukami6161There are different types of mommy’s boy but this one is the worse. Like I’m a mommy’s boy in the sense I can trust her with a majority of my secrets but imma heed advice from others when her sounds like shit, or do my own thing
@Negasilver9 ай бұрын
The entire justice system basically let this woman get terrorized and assaulted multiple times before they even did the bare minimum of granting a restraining order.\
@mgntstr9 ай бұрын
whelp. At least She still got the 2A and could have justifiably defended her self and son on more occasions than I can count.
@peeonthe3rdrail4149 ай бұрын
Because she didn't call the cops immediately after the attack. It looks like retaliation. She's a terrible mother.
@RyanBright-wg1yk9 ай бұрын
Damn I feel that even though she's a US citizen I'm pretty sure & I'm a British one. Had five girls harass me after break-ups, absolutely no legal protection from them borderline threatening to destroy my life until someone not from the government, and with less to lose than me tells them to back off. Police never even took a report, one of my exes stabbed me in the arm when I was basically asleep because I pissed her off. TLDR version; My dad was an ass, she was in the child care system, I got kicked out a lot, she ran away a lot, limited abandoned buildings safe enough to sleep in = a long standing situationship & sleeping in the same room.
@truekurayami9 ай бұрын
Hell she is lucky she got that as a woman, in the overwhelming majority of the cases where it was the father in her shoes, they would have been thrown in jail the first time they refused to let the other parent see the kid. In fact I wouldn't be surprised if the court force STBX to pay child support an alimony even if both of they agree to do neither, because the court/government makes money off of a portion of those payments.
@unconventionallives31679 ай бұрын
Sounds like good ol American legal justice doing what it's supposed to do. Which is nothing until "crime" happens.
@genesisplus43259 ай бұрын
Police don't take this seriously because they don't believe that an old lady could be that dangerous, but this shows that anyone can be dangerous if they're crazy enough.
@ChaosUnleashed2658 ай бұрын
it is not their job to decide whether or not they have to enforce the law based on personal beliefs
@genesisplus43258 ай бұрын
@@ChaosUnleashed265 Exactly, this is not an excuse, it's just an explanation.
@tsm6888 ай бұрын
there is also the question of evidence. the times they could have contacted police and didnt' really shot themselves in the foot
7 ай бұрын
Also getting the impression they looked at the tatt'd up woman and made some judgements about her.
@tbnrwolff33547 ай бұрын
You got to remember every police officer has a different situation and considering media nowadays being in favor of women gay people in black people well those are one of the last people you want to be arresting because then people are going to burn down an entire city block because someone did something bad and it just so happened to be a gay person black person or a female and they got arrested for the bad s*** they did like you're supposed to do with them but Society really doesn't care or rather the minority of society that has been projected as the majority of society because that's what the government wants us to think no I'm not a conspiracy theorist I'm simply pointing out the fact that the government wants us to hate each other rather then hating them because you know we should hate them they're the ones causing all the problems and they're trying to make us feel like our neighbors are the problems they want to make us feel like everyone other than them are problem weather that starts a gender War sexuality War religious War or race war they don't care
@BlackTheBerserker9 ай бұрын
Y'know, if this story is true, gotta say, holy crap it can be infuriating how much old women get away with and not be sent to jail for. If she was anyone else in the family she'd have no doubt gotten jail time since the first incident and none of the other things she did probably would have even happened.
@numi89859 ай бұрын
But if he didn’t press charges then he has only him to blame
@BlackTheBerserker9 ай бұрын
@@numi8985 The main issue in this story is the police consistently not doing enough even when notified. She did so much they would have landed almost anyone else in prison way faster.
@jacearmor52749 ай бұрын
Agreed, she may be old, but that clearly doesn't stop her from being a criminal.
@isaiahgeorge9069 ай бұрын
@@BlackTheBerserker Honestly, depending on the location and the state, it sounds all too true. There are very terrible police stations out there with officers who do crap like this.
@KawaiiBabyTragon9 ай бұрын
I don't think that's it 🤨 I think it's the fact that it sounds like the local police just aren't keeping track of anything with these individuals, and almost seem to treat every repeat incidence like a new incidence. That, and wow, that one lawyer during the intial stabbing court case really fucking blew it.
@rahma49 ай бұрын
That was an intense escalation.. "Stabbed with toothpick" to "Multiple arrests and plans to kidnap child"
@nomireelnom42659 ай бұрын
Wasn't it an iron fireplace poker?
@mishaalkisan16889 ай бұрын
Well, she was stabbed with a firepoker - but yeah that’s pretty much how it went
@TheAnonymousuchiha12259 ай бұрын
It’s not a toothpick but more like a barbecue stick
@poison20288 ай бұрын
I shall call this story "A book about me being bbq forked in hand by stabby lady leads to mental disorientation of everyone around" or just "Stabra, aka Debra of the fork"
@alliedatheistalliance67762 ай бұрын
Also 'annoyed about tattoos' to stabbing someone, then full on forceful entry, kidnapping etc. This is either a typical BS reddit story, or a very one-sided view of events.
@brokencreationlordmegatrol30379 ай бұрын
the MIL " YOU CHEATING WHORE HOW DARE " her son cheating on his wife for years " blind"
@wolfpawz139 ай бұрын
Tbh OP should still demand child support, husband was cheating and left her to deal with his mother following her, harassing her and ect, mil been arrested like 6 times and yet he says "leave me outta it?" Naww get him for max child support and no visitation
@dorn05319 ай бұрын
If I was OP I would give up child support if it meant being free of this circus
@wolfpawz139 ай бұрын
@@dorn0531 hmm fair, maybe a lump sum and done, tbh just for the fact he left her and his kid have to deal with the insane stbxmil and then cheated whist
@ReddifyRabbithole9 ай бұрын
STBX has been a spineless momma's boy their whole relationship, of course he wants to be left out of it because honestly what's he gonna do? Stand up to his mom? He's shown time and time again he had no balls
@alext93209 ай бұрын
@@dorn0531 The kicker being that giving up child support gives you no guarantee that you'll be left alone. If the ex MIL is crazy enough to stalk you and your child, she's crazy enough to continue to harass you well after the divorce proceedings are finished.
@dorn05319 ай бұрын
@@wolfpawz13 Agreed.
@queenrhubarb16769 ай бұрын
I don’t understand in these stories why the victim is the AHole for not forgiving the bs. Why would you forgive someone for attacking you, screwing you over cheating on you? How on earth is the instigator the victim!? “Oh no you found out I was cheating on you and you won’t forgive me! It’s not my fault that you were working to provide for us while I stay at home all day”
@cedric39739 ай бұрын
Dude, YES. Like most of this stuff is straight forward and yet people will trash others for no longer putting up abuse and in some cases saving their kids from it as well
@pyro71509 ай бұрын
I agree with you and all but the stbxh did have a work as the kid would stay at stbxmil home while they were at work, doesn't mean what you said was wrong just something that was missing
@xegin15729 ай бұрын
Cognitive dissonance, simple as that. Funny the weird shit your brain can come up with to get out of that state.
@tsm6889 ай бұрын
it was a long process of accomodation with stabby getting everyone used to her abuse then the mother suddenly realizing "no this is not okay". And from there a slow unraveling into "holy shit, none of this was EVER okay"
@martin991109 ай бұрын
Because you have a bias view and you know the story off Reddit. A police can’t just arrest someone because the victim got a phone call. You also can just arrest someone because they got poked. It can and will be seen as an accident by a judge. This story is very one sided. We don’t know the side of the father. From his point of view. He could feel that his ex is refusing him to let him see the child. It doesn’t matter what the wife thinks. You can’t just stop another parent from being with their child. Both are equal parents. Flip the roles and Reddit would be on fire if a man dared to prevent a mom from seeing her child.
@silverwinterwolf20648 ай бұрын
It disgusts me that all this happened because a single MIL hated Tattoos. LIKE SRSLY, THATS BASICALLY HOW ALL THIS STARTED IN A WAY. But I am glad the Mother got some good things out of this, but the fact there was a suggested kidnapping is terrifying, People. Children are human beings, not objects to claim posesion over, you'd be tormenting the child for stuff like this, ESPECIALLY if its a child that cannot grasp or understand whats going on.
@jameskim40967 ай бұрын
No it started because she is mentally ill. A lot of people don't like tattoos and they dont stab people with tattoos.
@TheOnePikGuy7 ай бұрын
It all started with a tattoo
@stirrednotshaken48237 ай бұрын
She said “there, now you know how it feels”…um, I would think OP already knew how it felt since she’s heavily tattooed! 🤦🏼♀️ MIL was jealous that her husband shared an interest with OP, who she already despised.
@Mytelefe7 ай бұрын
I strongly suspect that MIL was coming up with stupid "rules" in order to "motivate" them to get their own place instead of leeching off her. Your perspective on "suggested" kidnapping would change if you were looking from the pov of a parent with restricted visitation instead of the one dictating the restrictions.
@MommahKat7 ай бұрын
I mean if you literally listened to the whole video you'd know full well that that incident was just the breaking point, not the reason it all happened. The woman had literally beat their child at one point and did a bunch of other off the wall horrible shit leading up to that point.
@lolineko20839 ай бұрын
I feel so bad for LO...he obviously doesn't understand and wanted to see his grandma and dad so bad. I wish people wouldn't fight over children like objects when these situations arise..
@shivanshgarewal28339 ай бұрын
But that's what happens when those situations arrive
@lolineko20839 ай бұрын
@@shivanshgarewal2833 I know. What I am saying is that it is wrong to use a child as a trading token for these situations.
@uranus-h-9 ай бұрын
what the fuck is LO and DH AND SHIL AND SIL
@lolineko20839 ай бұрын
@@uranus-h- LO=little one, DH=dearest husband, SIL=sister in-law, not sure about SHIL.
@dumbirdyreee9 ай бұрын
@@uranus-h-your profile and that comment made me laugh
@shawnycoffman8 ай бұрын
Never, EVER, marry a Mama's boy or daddy's girl. You will never win. Your spouse will never defend you to the parent. They will ALWAYS side with the parent. Loving and caring for your parent or child is one thing. But being obsessed with them is something entirely different.
@mimictear67888 ай бұрын
Best case scenario is you end up with some kidult who needs to be constantly told what to do and has next to no impulse control. Worst case is you get stabbed with a barbecue prong, leading to a conspiracy to commit kidnapping.
@yeyosilver70676 ай бұрын
This has nothing to do with "Mommy's boy" or "Daddy's girl" Stop placing blame where it has nothing to do
@Idkwhattoputsonowwehere5 ай бұрын
did you not watch the video? it clearly has something to do with it @@yeyosilver7067
@amandajecmen19872 ай бұрын
Ok I completely disagree with this I'm a daddy's girl and I would stand up for my partner if my dad was in the wrong. This is a case of mentally unstable people it's not a case of mama's boy or daddy's girl just people who are messed up in the head
@Qwerticus9 ай бұрын
"This will probably be my last post for a while" Oh no, I won't find out how ot resolved *looks at time left on video Yesssss
@user-fw7fj3df5r9 ай бұрын
I kept checking too. 50:06 and were only at 20ish minutes YEAH RIGHT this isn't your last post lol
@cassafrassarole9 ай бұрын
I did the exact same thing
@ethanhanover32639 ай бұрын
Dh: "you never look out for me" Op: "you sided with your mother whenever she abuses us, you even sided with her now after assaulting me. Cut me with that never look out for me bs!"
@Erebus049 ай бұрын
How many times did the cops say "If she does this oneore time then she is in real trouble" over the course of this story?
@TheGreyParse8 ай бұрын
The most sad part about this entire thing is how much of a fucking embarrassment the police and judicial system are. This woman and her child are in very real danger and their response is basically, 'eh, we'll keep an eye on it'.
@eric982929 ай бұрын
Depending on the state, OP should arm herself and get self defense training. If the MIL attacks her, she should defend herself, even if that means lethal force. This lady is crazy and dangerous to her, her son and family.
@gasmaskloner61807 ай бұрын
I was thinking the same thing because she probably will be armed at that sone point and she should keep armed because of that lady Small edit
@foncess8 ай бұрын
That kid is gonna be traumatized for life because the justice system failed them. Shocked I listened to the whole thing
@melissaharris38909 ай бұрын
spank an 18 month old? seriously? that doesn't even fly under the 'its the way i was raised' excuse.
@kimberlythermond79936 ай бұрын
...because he spilled something. Evil.
@Phoenix-mh5eo6 ай бұрын
My father spanked my 18 month old brother and I lost my shit. I'm an adult, so that made it REALLY easy to tell my dad that was completely out of line and that it is not discipline to spank a child that young, it's abuse. He did it fairly lightly, no marks left, and as punishment for something more severe than spilling something, but it's still not OK. Hopefully he hasn't spanked him in the intervening years. All spanking does is tell kids it's OK to hit others as long as they've upset you first
@shadowcollins45894 ай бұрын
@@Phoenix-mh5eothat's not always true and you know it You have to teach them consequences to their actions but it depends on the child. It depends on the age of the child and the offense. . You can absolutely punish them without even touching them Anna would scare them bad enough to where they would not do it again But some kids don't listen. Like I said it depends on the age, it depends on the kid and it depends on the offense Gentle parenting first but you can't stick with gentle parenting the whole time if they don't want to listen I'm sorry but if my kid hits me, I don't care if they're five or six, I'm going to spank them. Two or three year old, I'm not really going to spank them because they're so young. About all they'll get is a little pop on the hand that would hurt their feelings more than anything I think people who aren't parents don't understand that you have to guide your children. Yeah you say that kids who get spanked are more violent when that is not true Do you know how many kids I've seen who never get disciplined but are extremely violent?! It's because they're acting out more for attention I have helped raise several children. I'm Asian and I'm a tiger mom. Not going to spank them for no reason, I will use gentle parenting when I'm able to. But there comes a point where they're going to either seriously harm themselves or hurt someone else, that's when the spanking comes if they don't want to listen three or four or five or six times. You can say you should never spank your children ever, but until you have kids you're never going to know. I would rather spank my kids to show them there are consequences for their actions than to let them do whatever they want. There is a difference between spanking and beating. Beating is when it's done randomly, with anger, for any offense. This includes punching, slamming their head into stuff, doing anything that could cause bruises. It doesn't even have to be anything that would cause bruises, if it could cause bruises, that is a warning sign of the person being abusive A spanking is something you do to discipline your child My mother, my Asian mother, would talk to me about what I did wrong and why I was getting a spanking. She'd also tell me the number of spankings she would give me. She would count them as she went. And the only way I would get more is if I tried to run. It taught me that I need to take responsibility. That if I do what's wrong, there are consequences for my actions And you know what? Now as an adult, I take full responsibility for my actions. I don't blame others for what I've done. If I'm wrong then I'm wrong and no one needs to make excuses for me. If I did wrong I need to deal with the consequences. People don't know how to take responsibility anymore Always want to make excuses or blame someone else
@RatOfTheWoods3 ай бұрын
@shadowcollins4589 there's literally multiple papers/studies you could go out & read about the negative impacts of spanking a child & how harmful it is but if you wanna keep justifying the hardships you've experienced go off if. Laying hands on your own child is disgusting
@jimmygarza88969 ай бұрын
I almost feel bad for STBX. He's clearly suffered abuse his entire life, to the point his mother's abuse of his child was brushed off as "how she treats children". People tend to forget that victims of abuse often find it difficult to separate from their abuser(s), even on an emotional level. I have to wonder, based on his later actions, if he realized too late what his mother really was, and that's why he's trying to distance himself from "Mommie Dearest". Also, regarding the cheating, I have to wonder if the "affair" started before or after OP agreed to divorce.
@tsm6889 ай бұрын
I'm 100% certain he did. With the child gone, he was the only outlet left for her abuse and had front row seats as she got crazier and crazier. Small wonder he fled across state lines. Wanting to cut all ties with the kid is cold though.
@shivanshgarewal28339 ай бұрын
@@tsm688don't know if you can really blame him tho after divorces most husbands can only meet their children for a few time and sometimes under a Supervisor hence better to cut everything it seem to them as a good option
@tsm6889 ай бұрын
@@shivanshgarewal2833 After he pulled the kind of shit he did -- home invasion -- and pleaded guilty! that's exactly the sort of future he'd face. for those who keep their heads it can go a lot better.
@uranus-h-9 ай бұрын
tf is a STBX
@cassietheodora9 ай бұрын
@@uranus-h- Soon to be ex(wife/hubby)
@izukukageyama75529 ай бұрын
That mom is talking like she spent nine months in character creation perfectly sculpting her child's looks lol wtf.
@scp-phenomenon0148 ай бұрын
This is my son, he is my oc, do not steal or take inspiration from headass type shit
@viciousrape9 ай бұрын
I've accepted people back into my life for doing more than this MIL and rejected them for doing less than her. it's not about forgiveness, it's about the elimination of aggression directed towards you and your loved ones
@tsm6889 ай бұрын
An inability to make a meaningful apology says a lot about a person.
@tamarasmith90609 ай бұрын
Voluntarily giving up his visitation/parental rights still shouldn't get him out of being responsible for child support. In most places it doesn't.
@erocktherockjohnson51699 ай бұрын
no dude child support shouldnt be a thing
@ShiriR69 ай бұрын
excuse me?? Mfker, if you have a child you are fucking responsible for that child whether you are in its life or not@@erocktherockjohnson5169
@BlackTheBerserker9 ай бұрын
@@erocktherockjohnson5169 It 100% should exist for bio parents who abandon their children they were raising. Sure, in cases of paternity fraud it's inexcusable to be kept on the hook and our laws are severely flawed, but you as a parent deciding to just abandon a kid, especially one old enough to remember you, you should be responsible for that kid still.
@RickyFSeiei9 ай бұрын
@@erocktherockjohnson5169Child Supports should be a thing to keep the mindless Ffucker Not abadoning their Child. However the Money should just go into the child or a trusted agent, not the Parent.
@erocktherockjohnson51699 ай бұрын
@@BlackTheBerserker well in that case yes but not for parents who barely see their child but still have to pay hundreds of dollars to their ex
@yourtwilighttulip8 ай бұрын
I feel so bad for the OP, she had to deal with getting STABBED, and then losing her husband because she was upset about it? The fact that she had to deal with all of this stuff just because of a few tattoos is insane.
@Deimos0019 ай бұрын
At this point its better to just move 3 states over to avoid another of the ex mother in-law. I know its a huge change,but it will bring peace of mind.
@arkhaan70667 ай бұрын
Its amazing the OP came to the conclusion she was being abused, but not that her husband was also being abused. Oh well.
@ritaerror78297 ай бұрын
He is an adult, and she can't fill claim for his abuse. It's not like he was seeking help, or will even listen to her at this point, so why should she care, when she needs to take care of someone going after her?
@tryingoutlife8 ай бұрын
At first i was like "hey that could have genuinely been an accident" and quickly went to "what the fuck"
@davidstafford45339 ай бұрын
The ex is the biggest manchild and is likely a narcissist just like his mom
@SeymoreTheDisappointed7 ай бұрын
Seriously shut the fuck up with your "narcissit" bullshit, do you even know what a narcissit is? Seriously you people throw that word around like free money
@GigiButterflie7 ай бұрын
There’s something wrong with people telling her she’s being too hasty by filing for divorce. Just because you’re ok with being mistreated doesn’t mean everyone is. I’m glad she got the hell out of there, it was only going to get worse.
@seiver53536 ай бұрын
Originally the husband was standing by her though and she was already talking about divorce. Everyone escalated the situation instead of communicating. Also anyone who instantly wants to file for divorce in a long term relationship at the first sign of problems tells me either they are being hasty, use it as a manipulation tactic often, or that's what they really wanted to do to begin with.
@GigiButterflie6 ай бұрын
Some of us are not ok with being mistreated. Simple as that. The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them. Saves you a lot of heartache in the long run.
@seiver53536 ай бұрын
@GigiButterflie I've been with my wife 13 years we've both done shitty stuff to each other if you can't communicate and forgive each other it will never last relationships take work and all I'm saying is going straight to divorce isn't always the answer and screams to me that the person doing that doesn't care much about the relationship to begin with.
@GigiButterflie6 ай бұрын
I stayed with an abusive husband for 6 years, and because I finally opted OUT of having the shit beat out of me means I didn’t care about the relationship? I guess I should have stayed until he eventually killed me huh?
@seiver53536 ай бұрын
@GigiButterflie what does that have to do with anything she wasn't being physically abused by her husband and he was standing by her while she started talking about divorce your projecting onto this story.
@NanaCbraun8 ай бұрын
Be careful because my cousin went to his daughters school and took her on a Friday and kept her all weekend. Instead of taking her back he kept her and on Monday filed for custody and got it. She never went back to her moms until she was old enough to drive herself. Now he did this and used the “she is constantly moving and he never knew where she was living” excuse. His visitation wasn’t impacted but he didn’t want to pay child support anymore. So be careful. NEVER leave Lo with MIL. She will hurt him or run off with him and honestly your husband will go with her. Be careful.
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
That daycare "rule" is absolute bs! If the dad kidnaps the child without rights to legally take him and he got away with it because it's the "daycare's rule" not to prevent it, then she's going to probably be hit with charges of aiding and abetting. Don't want to deal with "messy legal stuff"? Don't run a business!
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
I hope your cousin's daughter was able to get therapy to deal with that. That's awful! I feel so bad she had to go through that.
@itweeb47658 ай бұрын
23:26 that's a huge red flag for a narcissist. Once they figured out they could not have their way, they cut bait and ran. They'll pretend like mother and child don't exist. I've seen this happen in a couple of other stories.
@MommahKat7 ай бұрын
Yea basically once word gets round to enough people that they are fucked up and a big problem them run away and cut all ties that haven't been cut on them already to start fresh. My ex did this with every single one of their relationships and I didn't find out until a couple days after we broke up and I went to contact one of their exes. We now have a big old discord server of all her ex partners and friends and we've all exchanged our stories/experiences and holy shit it is the same thing over and over again. Feel bad for this next guy's victim.
@squidairleo31559 ай бұрын
Shoulda got this dude on child support.
@A-Warthog-cc1wm9 ай бұрын
100%, that cheating, spineless, fuck
@paolaaishi65299 ай бұрын
You know? You can give up your parental rights as much as you want... But one would still need to pay child support unless the child gets adopted by someone else.
@ThePapino1349 ай бұрын
then youd get situations where the ex stays purposefully unemployed and single to milk as much money out of the father. its not wild speculation it happens and in a country of 300million people id say a lot
@annamarczuk20307 ай бұрын
@@ThePapino134if so then the ex would live in extreme poverty. Child support is for the child not to support the mother. Alimony is for that. If the mother isn't able to support the child then the child can be taken away. A father has a choice to take care of his own child but if he refuses then the least he should do is pay child support. If men didn't abandon their children so often then the problem of paying child support wouldn't exist. Child support is calculated based on the father's earnings, not mother's needs. Some men refuse to get a better job or get paid under the table to lower child support. Women can't just live on a child support alone. It's possible in the same way as choosing to be homeless because someone doesn't want to work but It's not a comfortable life.
@GooberBugOFF8 ай бұрын
I'm literally only 4 minutes in, MIL sounds manipulate and narcissistic asf.
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
As I'm sure you've figured out by now, she is!
@IGSA1017 ай бұрын
There is an astounding lack of sympathy for the ex husband here, sure he does do bad things, but the sheer magnitude of the abuse his mother was heaping on him is quite clear if you look at this with a critical eye. His mother was so physically abusive to him that he saw hitting hard enough to leave marks as normal, she owned his home and wouldn't let him purchase it so that she could have a say in how they lived within their own home, she had control of his debit card, and tried to control and drive away his spouse. That's physical abuse, privacy violations, financial abuse, and social abuse. And I'm only halfway into the video. No wonder he's such a mess mentally, imagine how long he's dealt with all of that.
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
The dude said he didn't want his son and could pretend that he didn't exist. No sympathy. A narcissist created another one. Lovely. Do we want to keep saying, "Well, you were abused and manipulated, so you get a pass on being an abuser and manipulator yourself." Hell no! That's generational abuse. Stop the cycle. If it was the mom instead of the dad I'd probably be even harder on her due to the fact that counseling/therapy are socially more acceptable for women, and we teach women at least basic things about childcare and emotions. I'm a survivor of parental abuse, as is my sister to a lesser degree. She's a decent mom and I'm just not having kids, though the reasons why are far more complex than I want to get into.
@arielleespinosa90589 ай бұрын
Nah the ex saying keep me out of it is crazy☠️☠️☠️
@tumultoustortellini9 ай бұрын
Something about their dynamic is incredibly "andy and leyley". What a usless set of police, and psychotic mother (bf's mom, I mean)
@kasiam9998 ай бұрын
Was I the only one who laughed when I heard "Stabra". And "Discarded tampon" hahahahah.
@Marscandy19 ай бұрын
This is so toxic you get stabbed with a dirty fire pole and you’re the bad guy for not apologizing “because it wasn’t that serious”???
@seriousoverthinker88719 ай бұрын
How many times did OP "block" MIL's number? I counted three
@tsm6889 ай бұрын
all you do to get around that is get a cheap burner phone. there's all sorts of pay as you go plans like that.
@izzyaddis9 ай бұрын
@@tsm688or the textnow app stuff, not even sure how it works
@moonshade37307 ай бұрын
People can get mock numbers fairly easily and people can also unblock people when they feel like it’s gotten better and re-block them
@stvandy17 ай бұрын
Change your fetching number.
@mgntstr9 ай бұрын
balm on my sunbrunt soul you have no idea how much more these random stories are helping me cope than sitting and talking to disinterested overpaid therapists
@scifriskyxy5839 ай бұрын
The grandparent is indeed concerned about the child however its in a twisted messed damaging manner
@isaiahstukes67839 ай бұрын
MIL is INSANE!
@Maninawig8 ай бұрын
This story started at a 9 on the crazy scale and just kept going up and up notches.
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
Most of these do. Every time you think it's time to take a breath it hits the fan again and up it goes! Like a roller coaster lift hill, just listening to those clicks.
@Maninawig7 ай бұрын
@@Just1Nora yeah, but they usually start out at a 2 with plenty of room to grow.
@itweeb47658 ай бұрын
"we are here because you made a threat" "I revoke it" "Have a nice day sir" 44:36
@_kkv_9 ай бұрын
Who tf asks if someone is ok when they were just stabbed and screaming in pain
@NightcoreNewbie9 ай бұрын
I'm curious if this one of those small towns or influential people type things. The police seem to be slow walking their asses on filing the paperwork and talking to MIL about some of the things she did and said. It's like they're trying to protect her because she might have some roundabout ways to get what she wants.
@SithMaster1849 ай бұрын
I was searching google to find out what Stabra means and I found the actual post. Lol
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
Oooh. I get it once I read the update post. It's a nickname for the mil so op didn't have to keep typing out stbxmil. Like Barbra, but stabbier. 😂
@ColdSilverD19 ай бұрын
Isn't impersonating a lawyer a crime? Like a criminal issue, not a civil issue? Which cops are supposed to enforce? That woman should have been at least charged, even if she got off light. That is the one thing that makes me doubt the story, but then again... Not ragging on all cops, but so many don't know the law they are supposed to enforce or say, 'It's a civil matter' despite it clearly being criminal. A clear instance of them not wanting to get involved in a 'family matter' even though they should/law says they should.
@isaiahgeorge9069 ай бұрын
These kinds of things have happened before to other people, so it's possible that it's true. It gets kinda easy to tell when some of these stories are clearly fake compared to the ones that seem to hold truth to the tail.
@sexygirlmax20198 ай бұрын
cops arent legally required to serve or protect
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
But she's just a sweet old lady! Grandma just wanted to help! 🙄
@ResolvedRage9 ай бұрын
Life is hard for those who have extremeist religious parents, you can tell the STBX is terrified of his mother and barely stands up to her. He is manipulated by MIL so much that he actively sabotages his own life. Sadly the only one I really feel sorry for is OP.
@NHSMINDLESS7 ай бұрын
Please tell me what OP stands for I never know what it means 😂😂
@bestmimic7 ай бұрын
"Original poster" it refers to the person telling the story@@NHSMINDLESS
@NHSMINDLESS7 ай бұрын
@@bestmimic Thank you for telling me i could never work it out i always thought it means Over powered I guess i watch too much anime ;'D
@lauratobin98768 ай бұрын
Go to the courthouse & ask for an ‘emergency order of protection’ for yourself & your child. Take the police report with you & any texts/ proof of your in-laws trying to take your child. Show them any photos you may have of the MIL hitting your child or you & leaving marks. ALWAYS DOCUMENT INJURIES OR PROPERTY DAMAGE, even if you don’t think it’s that bad or whether you intend to use it . Photos are evidence, he said/she said or witnesses are NOT as reliable.
@cris4ever707 ай бұрын
Religion man. She disliked her for not being ‘biblical enough’ was it? But proceeds to assault, stalk and call names to the mother of his grandchild. Very biblical of her 🗿 Maybe she’s too old and her mind is really going to wild places but it sucks that OP had to go through this nightmare for it.
@gabrielsfilms20869 ай бұрын
man stbx is fucking insane wth?
@clintshidwood45119 ай бұрын
went from zero to a hundred real quick. makes no sense. they had a seemingly decent marriage and one stab caused a domino effect and made everything go nuclear. and then the reveal that the guy was cheating the entire time, wtf. and then we quickly move on from that bombshell. wut
@paranoidboyscout17769 ай бұрын
The guy's a straight cowered, giving up your parental rights because your ex doesn't want an obvious abuser near your child and you don't want to pay to support said child.....fucken pathetic.....
@jimmygarza88969 ай бұрын
Victims of abuse tend to behave irrationally.
@tsm6889 ай бұрын
We don't get to see his point of view really, but he must have realized how insane his mother was at some point. That drove stabby totally bonkers because she lost him too
@zidaneffixexe7 ай бұрын
I mean his mom's crazy yes, but his wife overreacted. Filing a police report over what happened initially, in a vacuum seems like an overreaction. Then stealing the kid away until an emergency custody order while also saying she was worried about him kidnapping the kid... mam what are you doing?
@kiev4209 ай бұрын
That MIL is a mirror image of my grandmother. I hate my grandmother, and that woman needs to be behind bars, just like my grandmother.
@v0id_d3m0n7 ай бұрын
Mom, aunt, and sister are absolute chads
@konmi-mu8 ай бұрын
Why do I feel like the MIL is making DH upset and mad at OP?
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
Oh yeah, she's manipulating the heck outta him.
@bombardvark7 ай бұрын
I like how the original story ends three minutes in but there's like 50 updates
@oriondourden9 ай бұрын
should've given MIL a surprise tattoo in exchange.
@D64nz8 ай бұрын
If a person intends to hurt you, it doesn't all matter by how much. She didn't intend that much? Absolute BS. She did it with intent, her lack of skill or control is no defense, and even more of a reason to not do it.
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
I'm betting she was planning on it as soon as she saw the weenie roaster. Those don't go in the firepit and aren't meant to rake through coals and ashes. I'm betting that she wished she could've found a live coal to heat it up and stab op with that. Could've been why she was digging around in there.
@avian19719 ай бұрын
I hope there are more updates to this story.
@Project_KN1GHT9 ай бұрын
There aren’t. Last post here was made 6 years ago… she hasn’t been heard from since. I hope she’s okay.
@pkpvptheminer9 ай бұрын
@@Project_KN1GHTDo you know her username on Reddit ?
@jax65019 ай бұрын
Dang I was really hoping we would here more. Now I am kinda worried that something bad happened.
@nicolelazummie80987 ай бұрын
Wait a minute “violating the rental agreement when she saw my tattoos” is OP property in mils eyes??
@thechaospope9 ай бұрын
Well, that escalated quickly.
@Vida73549 ай бұрын
What you do? You file an diviorce because your husband is apperantly ok with his mother trying to murder you but he will throw an tantrum if you step up deffending yourself
@TheAnonymousuchiha12259 ай бұрын
Tell me you didn’t listen to the entire story without telling me that you’ve not listened to the entire story
@Vida73548 ай бұрын
@@TheAnonymousuchiha1225 that doesn't change the fact that They are toxic twad waffles,if I had an husband like that he would get slapped with divorce papers second after he pulled all that shit out and his whole family would get an restrain order
@romanticghost75087 ай бұрын
That poor kid, I feel awful for kiddo’s mom too. Her ex mother in law is absolutely insane and needs some sort of mental health care. I feel bad for her ex husband because he had to live with his mother & grew to learn how abusive she was after the major damage had been done. It’s really difficult for abused people to rationalize that their abuser is a bad person.
@gamersx-kn9ly8 ай бұрын
Ok I’m glad you came to your senses both your husband and mil were gaslighting you
@user-bv7mw8rj6m7 ай бұрын
I accidentaly readed "Mil stabbed me in my asshole" help 💀💀
@FirePhoenix397 ай бұрын
The police and justice system every time a crime is committed: “Damn, that’s crazy! Welp, good luck on your own. Let us know when the stagger stabs you again. We won’t actually do anything about it though, lmao.”
@planted1018 ай бұрын
A good reminder to really think twice if you want to commit to a relationship and have a kid with someone. Why would you want to stay with someone whose family is directly incompatible with you and your beliefs? Always look out and dig for the damn red flags before you commit into someone or their family and really think whether it’s something you can work with. They all sound like terrible people to me, ngl. - Ex is sleazy and cowardly and can’t seem to choose a side - Ex MIL has no boundaries and is extremely unhealthy - OP just made the worst decisions up front which are all compounding at this moment: choosing her husband, pursuing work and inking herself under a religious/strict household roof, just overall her responses and behavior seem weird (ie. the early aggravating convos with EX MIL, being too intimate with her engaged friend, continuing wanting the Ex in the son’s life even though he and his MIL get arrested and confronted by the police multiple times) She did the best she could with what she’s been dealt but that doesn’t stop the whole nonsensical story from pissing me off ngl.
@simplisticpc8 ай бұрын
This definitely sounds similar to another story I was told personally it's not one I found on KZbin. Damn near same situation. How it all ended was completely tragic the father wanted nothing to do with the child the mother-in-law obsessed with getting the child and a mother trying to protect a child it all ended with the mother-in-law shooting and killing the mother which then in turn got her the death penalty and because of all that the father wants nothing to do with the child so the child ended up going into the Foster system. And then years later after being shuffled around for years that child ended up taking their own life. the justice system has no soul and they don't step in until there is f****** bloodshed
@gachatana96568 ай бұрын
There was bloodshed at the start of this video that wasn't taken seriously..
@BurntSpaggetti8 ай бұрын
These stories are so awful, this just goes to show that anyone can be bad, women are just as capable of being as dangerous as men are. No matter their age or gender everyone can be good or bad. It just breaks my heart thinking of how bad people can actually be, and the poor children of these people, if they have any. Some people just wanna watch the world burn. Then there are some guards/police (we call them guards in my country, although I don't know if guards and police are the same😐) who just don't care, but at the same time a lot of them do. The world is crazy. I'm gonna shut up before this gets too long😅
@yeyosilver70676 ай бұрын
The ex husband literally turned OP's life into hell and then he had the courage to say "leave me out of this", the anger that made me
@uranus-h-9 ай бұрын
CAN SOMEONE GIVE MEANINGS FOR ALL THESE ABBREVIATIONS
@Grievous-nx3iu9 ай бұрын
DH - Dear husband MIL/stabra - mother in law SFIL - step father in law STBX - soon to be ex LO - little one
@Gnulcho7 ай бұрын
10 seconds in, and woah, being married to a 3 year old for 4 years seems wild.
@gregorytremain40869 ай бұрын
MIL isn’t a Christian Matthew 5:37 All you need to say is simply 'Yes' or 'No'; anything beyond this comes from the evil one. Jesus
@_orangutan9 ай бұрын
ACRONYM SOUP!!!!! STOP I COULDN"T UNDERSTAND JACK SH*T!!
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
She finally gave his mother a nickname, Stabra. 😂 Yeah, I know people use those for anonymity, but Graces! Use fake names and be done with it! Plus the way the narrator switches up between reading them as letters and as "words" makes it that much harder to follow.
@user-eg4xr9mq8x7 ай бұрын
Spanking a less than 18 month old child because they spilled something...that's literal child abuse. It's the same at ANY age but especially when they aren't even old enough to understand WORDS.
@FishAnvil2 ай бұрын
It's insane to hear this from the mother's perspective, rather than from my own memories as a kid.
@ItsReidgd5 ай бұрын
Being old means you get away with crime op should sue the department
@-Charlie-36 ай бұрын
What concerns me is how the MIL is so fucking obsessed with LO.
@jorgefreitas59839 ай бұрын
Jesus what a saga! and after an hour of this, that divorce is still pending...
@landonpoland50929 ай бұрын
At first I kind of felt bad for the dad ( definitely think she should have divorced him just felt bad he couldn’t see his kid ) then when he broke in and threaten or else and pushed people I stopped feeling bad, like I know you want to see your kid but that not how you do it get custody in court not fight people on street
@isaiahthomas44449 ай бұрын
He did the wrong way but OP was making it difficult for him to even see him. I get why he wanted to sign his rights away. Fighting to barely see my kid once a week ain't worth the stress she was making him go thru
@isaiahthomas44449 ай бұрын
He did the wrong way but OP was making it difficult for him to even see him. I get why he wanted to sign his rights away. Fighting to barely see my kid once a week ain't worth the stress she was making him go thru
@landonpoland50929 ай бұрын
@@isaiahthomas4444 I totally agree on that part and I think it horrible how much power women get over children when it comes to a father seeing them, but I think we can both agree that doesn’t give him the right to try and break the door down
@isaiahthomas44449 ай бұрын
@@landonpoland5092 yea totally
@gachatana96568 ай бұрын
@@isaiahthomas4444 I personally believe that he shouldn't allow his mother to beat his child, then take the mother's side against his wife (OP). She (OP) was trying to keep the child safe.
@dimanarinull91228 ай бұрын
At first, it sounded a bit like a "too harsh MIL" issue where the husband was just oblivious or naive... But hearing him agree to the mother of his child being KICKED OUT OF THE FUCKING HOUSE to live in a rental away from the children for something as basic as tattoos or piercings? wtf.
@Just1Nora7 ай бұрын
It's like looking at my bestie's mom.
@atlanticlilac44176 ай бұрын
I Love OP's Mom. So Supportive, And I Send Op, Op's Mom, Op's Aunt, Op's Sister, And Lo Much Love.
@eeveequeen157 ай бұрын
Hey guys, when you're stabbed with something DON'T PULL IT OUT. OP got lucky. But pulling it out can cause more damage. The object could also be what's keeping you alive in severe cases. The best thing to do is to leave it in, call an ambulance, and let medical professionals handle it.
@SlugSage3 ай бұрын
Crazy how quick a father can lose access to his child.
@UnfairCoffee38 ай бұрын
4:50 - 5:41 My mouth was on the floor Edit 1: no i lie it more mess up 6:35 that guy need help like mental help to get away from the "mommy" thing Edit 2:... 8:14 tf if someone is hurt your love or kid you dont let them see them even if they family...
@Leglessolas8 ай бұрын
Well that escalated fast
@mrdevilish10569 ай бұрын
Im wondering why crazy MIL didnt get psychiatric help sooner, not to mention OP's ex is a spineless coward sideing with his abusive and psychotic mother and later on ghosting everyone, just proves he's pathetic.
@isaiahthomas44449 ай бұрын
OP is making it hell for bro to even see his kid.
@moth57069 ай бұрын
@@isaiahthomas4444 "op is making it hell for bro to even see his kid" my brother in christ did you watch the video the ex wants nothing to do with the kid 💀
@isaiahthomas44449 ай бұрын
@@moth5706 Ex went from wanting to see the kid to saying fuck it you can have him if you're gonna make it this hard. Process of events.
@moth57069 ай бұрын
@@isaiahthomas4444 he lost the right to see the kid when he tried to break down a door to assault the op and when he and his mother tried to kidnap the kid on multiple occasions i hate when mothers make it hard for fathers to see their kids too but he did this to himself
@KhushGhelani254 ай бұрын
So adultery is illegal but STBXMIL's own son cheating in her isn't? What a brain she has
@icemask69499 ай бұрын
My guy struggling on this obby
@ArtemisKitty8 ай бұрын
More like "I'm so sorry I'm going to have to face consequences for my action"
@Montyandrew458 ай бұрын
Holy shit. OP's mother in law is fucking insane
@notghosttz8 ай бұрын
fr
@eeveequeen157 ай бұрын
For those who need the translate. MIL = Mother In Law SFIL = Step Father In Law LO = Little One DH = H means husband but D can mean many things.
@dharma3913 ай бұрын
The most useless justice I've ever seen in my life. Stabra : *Stalks OP and plans to snatch LO, with clear evidence, threats, signs of mental illness.* The police : *5 days behind bars* ARE YOU GUYS FOR REAL ? OP WOULD HAVE A BETTER SURVIVAL RATE IN A HORROR MOVIE
@karlvogt88916 ай бұрын
Tampon-tomato!! 🤣 I'm dying here!! 🤣
@HollyGaming9946 ай бұрын
DH never cared about his wife and seems to be deflecting his emotions onto her in an attempt to gaslight her into questioning her reality
@user-es2vf4qn3h6 ай бұрын
The mil is insane like how do tattoos do anything negative to you
@connormclernon267 ай бұрын
I’m assuming MIL has some high connections in order to dodge consequences for so long
@thenarwhal29679 ай бұрын
“Any advise would be helpful” …… uh buy a gun?
@SenatiaA8 ай бұрын
For real.
@AllEy3s0nMe9 ай бұрын
I can't with these fucking acronyms. Its too cringe.