Miles Away from the Abusive Marriage She Left Behind

Author Autumn Miles shares how she was able to break free from an abusive marriage and now ministers to women who need to take the same step to freedom.

[@mariesavannah2369]

There is a blessing to wait upon the lord if only all women can understand that

[@sanborsyiem3405]

As pastor you should not used that words like omg because its a blasphemy to God.

[@qualityleafguardsguards7978]

Sanbor syiem ohh my goodness!! A religious spirit is the same spirit that made sure that Jesus was crucified because of things like healing on the Sabbath!! I would Highly recommend you and all who think like you to simply look up the word Blasphemy.

[@mariamail0303]

Yes he was abusive but did she pray for him.? Did she wait those 10 years on God to mend their marriage. ?

[@angelicasanchez5438]

Maria Mail people now and days don’t wanna wait on God or even ask God what to do they just walk out

[@f.ferguson6361]

Can you imagine Jesus abusing and beating us, His bride? Her ex-husbands evil, demeaning, and abusive behavior was not her fault!!! No matter how much she may have prayed for this guy, he clearly had no intention of changing at that time. There are many women that stay in these situations and end up getting killed by men who claim to love them. If he refused to repent and allow the Holy Spirit to cleanse and change him, her staying wasn't going to fix things. She was married to him for 3 years and with him for 6 total. Love doesn't abuse and it isn't the Lord's will for us to be harmed in a marriage.

[@simonedishelle6720]

@Jaime B. I understand praying for their salvation but not fighting for the marriage. I left my husband last year due to his abuse. He believes it’s okay to abuse and harm me but I prayed and asked God for a way out and I was able to move back home. I was pregnant at the time, but I do not believe fighting for my marriage is worth it. I grieved my marriage and the pain and I am at peace with not fighting for something that isn’t worth fighting for. It’s God’s battle not mine.

[@simonedishelle6720]

@@f.ferguson6361 Exactly. If it’s not mendable it’s not. Abusing someone is never okay.

[@simonedishelle6720]

She probably did. But even if she did, she didn’t need ro wait on her husband to change for her to leave.

[@christopherjordan6237]

1 Corinthians 7:10 10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she Must Remain Unmarried OR else Be Reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

[@simonedishelle6720]

I think you need to further study the scriptures, and pray for wisdom. This is not a way to help anyone whose been abused. We need to use wisdom and the common sense God has given us to be safe, or be killed. Abuse is biblical grounds for divorce. Throwing around scriptures without understanding and properly dividing it, is foolish and spiritual abuse.

[@christopherjordan6237]

@@simonedishelle6720 So we should sugar coat it and feed them sugar on their way to hell?

[@christopherjordan6237]

@@simonedishelle6720 Show me the WORD which is Jesus that we will be judged by where abuse is grounds for divorce. Show me the scripture. You won’t find it. Pastor Gino Jennings, Oxford and Cambridge scholar David Pawson, and Harvard medical doctor Finny Kuruvilla all say... you remarry while your fist spouse is living you are an adulterer and God made it clear they are going to hell. The difference in these pastors are they don’t need your money they work and have other jobs so they are not worried about how many people will fill up the seats and tithes and offerings. They are sold out to Jesus.

[@mariamail0303]

I really dnt want to judge . But when you go in on confrences and empower woman is great but there is also small hope in God to mend other peoples marriages when in the end of her troubles she gets divorced. Maybe we ask too much when we expect happy endings everytime but where does the Lord stand when a person is divorce and is trying to lead others in the Lord. ?

[@simonedishelle6720]

I think what your asking isn’t coming from a place of judgment, just a place of curiosity. I believe that when we can try everything in our power that we can, to save our marriage. That includes praying, fasting, etc. If there is abuse we need to not wait around to hear what God has to say and just separate. Especially if you are being physically hurt, and your life and others lives are in danger. You want to be wise in protecting yourself and children, if they are involved. Making moves and looking up resources help. Many domestic violence resources have an emergency exit out of websites to help victims. Divorce in and of itself is not a sin, the reasons behind some are such as adultery, abuse of any kind from either party and abandonment. If a spouse can not keep their vows and are not loving their spouse like Christ loves the church, they are sinning. Its a command for the husbands, wives are to respect their husbands, if she is not she is in sin. Marriage is about reflecting the gospel, and if it’s not a God honoring marriage , it’s not reflecting the gospel. If the person who is sinned against doing these conferences, it’s no question in my mind if they can lead another to The Lord with their testimony because they can. Even if it’s one person. If the person who committed the sin repents they can also help lead someone to The Lord. I do not believe for one second the person who was sinned against, God will hold over their head they can’t share The Gospel or do anything that would bring him glory. He forgives, forgets, etc. I am facing my marriage ending due to abuse and I do believe God can still use me, I am not useless or discarded because my husband made a choice to be abusive. I repented of my own sin and disobedience and I am forgiven because of Jesus’ finished work on the cross, end of story.

[@christopherjordan6237]

Marriage Is Sacred and Binding Matthew 5:33 Jesus said, “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:10 To the married I give this Command(not I Paul, but the LORD): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must NOT divorce his wife. … If you divorce you are living in constant sin if I do not reconcile with you and the same goes for your spouse. (B/C heart of unforgiveness at it’s core) The super grace gospel is a lie and here is why, If you say you believe in Jesus as Lord (so does Satan so that is not really what gets you into heaven, but following Him) and if anyone continues to live a life of lying, murdering people (even in your heart), unforgiveness, a homosexual lifestyle, adulterous life style (God says a spouse, men and women are bound to their souse for life until death and if a woman or man leaves their spouse they must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to their spouse and if they have sex with another person they are adulterers. Not only are they adulterers once, but they continue to remain in that sinful life by not remaining unmarried or not being reconciled (Heart of unforgiveness). Matthew 19:8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous!!! 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do NOT be DECIEVED!!!!!!! Neither fornicators, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” The covenant of marriage is very serious in God’s eyes and He does not take it lightly as our culture has & changed it’s views. The LORD does not change-Malachi 3:6. Amen! Thank God He doesn’t sway like we do. John 14:23 Jesus replied, "Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them. Whoever does not love Me does not keep My words. John 15:6 Anyone who does not remain in me is thrown away like a useless branch and withers. Such branches are gathered into a pile to be burned.

[@qualityleafguardsguards7978]

Christopher Jordan .. seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness NOT YOURS!! It’s talking about if you remain in His love and HIS forgiveness and Abide in HIM THE worthless branches are the self righteous religious spirits , AND IT SAYS We will Know if we are or others know God , it’s real simple you either love or judge.. And love is NOT DEFINED BY Your Opinion the definition is already established in Scripture..

[@christopherjordan6237]

@@qualityleafguardsguards7978 Yes His righteousness... like He said you are to be perfect as your heavenly Father is perfect. Romans 7 By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him. 3 So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man. Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous!!! 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do NOT be DECIEVED!!!!!!! Neither fornicators, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” Proverbs 14:12 (NKJV) There is a way that seems right to a man,But its end is the way of death. God only gives one stamp of approval. You do not get do overs. The lifestyle of sin in divorce and unforgiveness because Jesus says you must remain unmarried or be reconciled, if not she lives in adultery if she does not remain single, but also if she doesn’t reconcile is it from a heart of unforgiveness? THIS IS A LIFESTYLE OF CONSTANT DISOBIEDIENCE AND SIN. So its a two edge sword. Marriage is so serious somehow we got deceived there was a way out. Seems like everyone is falling for the false grace gospel. You can’t live in the constant sin of adultery when Jesus says you must remain unmarried. Don’t you know in Revelation 19:10-21 Yeshua is coming back fire in His eyes and swords from His mouth. He is coming back for His bride without a spot or blemish. He is coming back for His followers not the fans. Jesus said all those who love me will obey my teachings all those who follow my teachings my Heavenly Father and I will make our home inside of them. Those who don’t obey my teachings will be gathers up like worthless branches and thrown into the fire where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth!

[@f.ferguson6361]

We can an and should wait on the Lord because HE tells us to do so. Waiting on the Lord and being physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, verbally, and for many women sexually abused by their husbands for months or years is not the same thing. A man can't love his wife as Christ loves the church and abuse her at the same time.

[@simonedishelle6720]

Amen!!! You have got to go or lose your life. It’s happened way too many times and people are continuing to use scriptures to manipulate people.

[@f.ferguson6361]

@@simonedishelle6720 Exactly!!! Thank you for saying that. I would never tell someone to just abandon their mate because they're not getting along or they argue with one another. So many believers are deceived into thinking that abuse is somehow a byproduct of love. If a woman or man is being abused and you're convinced you must tolerate it please seek help and refuge. If you're spouse is unwilling to submit to the Lord and change, don't stay in that situation. Jesus will still love you and your spouse. This issue needs to be addressed in the church because it happens more often than people realize. Sadly there are women that abuse their husbands as well. It is a another taboo topic that needs to be dealt with. Sorry Simone, I didn't intend to for this to be so lengthy.

[@christopherjordan6237]

Abuse in Marriage people say there are gray areas what about abuse well the bible DOES talk about it! Why have we never seen this or our pastors talked about it? 1 Peter 2:18 Slaves, in reverent fear of God SUBMIT yourselves to your masters, not only to those who are good and considerate, but also to those who are HARSH. 19 For it is commendable if someone bears up under the PAIN OF UNJUST SUFFERING because they are conscious of God. 20 But how is it to your credit if you receive a beating for doing wrong and endure it? But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God. 21 TO THIS YOU WERE CALLED, BECAUSE CHIST SUFFERED FOR YOU, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps. 22 “He committed no sin,
 and no deceit was found in his mouth.”[e] 23 When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. 24 “He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.” 25 For “you were like sheep going astray,”[f] but now you have returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls. 1 Peter 3 New International Version (NIV) 3 WIVES, IN THE SAME WAY submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. 7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1 Peter 4:Living for God 4 Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done with sin. God said you can separate but MUST REMAIN SINGLE OF BE RECONCILED!!