Missing my brother’s wedding, family boundaries, and red flags w/ my sister-in-law x2 | Ep. 85

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Abby's sister-in-laws, Abby & Addy, join this week to chat about Abby missing her brother’s wedding, setting family boundaries, and spotting dating red flags.
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[@PatrickClark1998]

We need more of this like a sister-in-law podcast

[@user-fj2un8ct3n]

Yes please!!! I would love a sister in laws podcast! Or at least more episodes

[@bella3265]

Abigail is so sweet, edgy, and fun! She seems a person to have those conversations filled with laughter but also serious ones where you can get emotional and feeling supported/loved by her💛

[@vanessag8865]

Abbigail gives such edgy/cool big sister vibes ❤

[@SS-yw4iq]

She’s amazing ❤

[@joannagraham289]

Having a close, healthy, and emotionally intelligent relationship with sister in laws is such a blessing and it is rare. Be grateful for that connection everyday because there are so many people that wish they could have that kind of closeness and understanding without having to sacrifice their mental and emotional wellbeing.

[@chelseycartier2023]

Agreed!!

[@englarian1017]

1:02:11 being "non-offended people" is ABSOLUTELY a lost art! Love this!!

[@katharinehart9333]

I love this!!! Can we please have a quarterly/half a year “what’s up ladies” and a “what’s up bros” episode?!?!!?

[@user-fj2un8ct3n]

Yes please!!

[@cristinamerlini]

Yesssssssss

[@sophiacenova4293]

Idk about everyone else.. but I think there should be an episode with the brother-in-laws!! I LOVED this episode!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@user-fj2un8ct3n]

Yes I want this too! It would be sooooo good!

[@Chocsypop]

I was so quiet around my in laws too, and I’m never quiet 😂😂

[@melissamoskau5667]

Best “unplanned podcast” ever!

[@emilymaynard7249]

Loved this episode! Felt like it was just a chat with the girls. I would love more girl chats like this in the future.

[@tianamarie7930]

I was Addy - a corporate girly! Got my masters, loved working in corporate until I got pregnant :D and I have ZERO desire to be a corporate girly as it is so demanding, constant traveling and realistically either work or child or home (sleep, marriage, housework) will get less attention and now I want to just be with my baby!!! I left my corporate job right before I gave birth and got a more flexible, home office, less demanding job

[@VanillaCokeFriends]

Honestly same! My baby is due any day, but as soon as I got pregnant my brain flipped a 180. I used to not be able to comprehend someone wanting to be a stay at home mom, now all I want is to stay at home and raise my baby. It's wild.

[@erikalynnm]

I'm caught off guard by the "just dont be pregnant at my wedding" comment.

[@nbla39]

I'm not gunna lie....some of it seemed a little like a backhanded compliment, but they've also said that's their humor and how they communicate.

[@gabiwilson2878]

She might’ve just meant in the context like she wanted to celebrate and drink with her haha

[@larac.8797]

Agree seemed weird but she is younger and seems they don't care any longer as we shouldn't. Heck all 3 have an amazing relationship and get to do cool things.

[@saravondeylen7803]

She did say she felt bad and apologized afterwards :) doesn’t seem to bother them at all!

[@BrendaLedesmaBLfoto]

Finish the podcast before commenting 😘

[@sl2094]

This should be re-titled as "Abby, Abby, and Addy complimenting each other for 1 hr and 57 mins" 🤣

[@misslora3896]

My sister in-law and I have the same 1st name, just spelled differently, and married identitcal twin brothers. When family is speaking about us we're "Pete's Laura" or "Pat's Lora" to clarify who they're speaking about.

[@AliceIbrahim-gu1pz]

I FOR ONE LOVED THE PODCAST IN MY HUMBLE OPINION 😂❤

[@mercedesluevano5262]

Addy is so me whenever I talk 😂😂 she doesn't finish her thoughts ☠️😂

[@Truechildofgod]

She probably would’ve if she didn’t keep getting cut off by Abby

[@jiwankaur9175]

I think Abigail should do a podcast about budgeting ❤

[@user-fj2un8ct3n]

HANDS DOWN my favorite episode of the podcast ever! It was so uplifting. I want more of these. The girls should have their own podcast or at least do a quarterly episode!!

[@connorg.563]

I resonate so much with Addy on wanting to be a working mom. I got my pregnant at the end of my OT Doctorate program and clearly envisioned myself working with patients part-time and having something to focus on outside of kids. Then once my son was born and I had to go back to work at 4 months PP I realized how much I didn’t want that anymore! It’s totally ok for your wants to evolve, and kids will only be babies for so long. If you end up changing your feelings Addy - your job will always be there ❤

[@kateeye3365]

The fact that Addy said she used to feel bad about her relationship when she had been around Abby and Matt is the exact words my sister in law said about her and her husband's relationship after being around my husband and I...

[@Truechildofgod]

What’s your point ??

[@JuliMariDreams]

13:06 the cousin talk, for my cousins, we were so close. Some of them lived really close others across the country, but we lived near my grandparents so we got to love near them when the cousins visited. We had so many!

[@sharonmartin1223]

I loved every minute with my kids. Every age i made sure i absolutely enjoyed and now im getting grandkids. Its a joyful time every stage

[@nbla39]

This is such a good example of how having a God fearing husband can create happy and healthy marriages!

[@presleydrewery2729]

I'm pretty sure Matt and Abby are not Christians unfortunately.

[@anne-lisevanderput4745]

​@@presleydrewery2729 They are, check abbys bio

[@nbla39]

They for sure are. ❤

[@BipolaranticMallory]

We need more with just the three of yiu

[@bolivia.j]

@@Truechildofgodhe’s not tho

[@robinhorsford3598]

Loved this podcast! we love a good girls chat

[@marielpindar6312]

I love this so freaking much! Yall are so supportive of each other and I couldn’t love this more!

[@KristinFred2014]

Living for this longgg and girly episode!! Abby needs her own podcast!

[@avagrace34]

I loved this episode! ❤

[@jiwankaur9175]

Love what Abigail was talking budgets

[@brc9219]

how old is addy? her comments around "knowing" abby would never give birth on her wedding day (as if that's how typical labor works) came off as extremely immature

[@ab91922]

I could be thinking of the wrong comment but I’m pretty sure when she said it she meant just announcing the baby was born, which some people will wait to do so she was afraid he would be born then they’d announce his arrival the day of the wedding.. not him actually being born that day.

[@chelsiemccray7430]

LADIES WE NEED YOU TO START A PODCAST PLEASE!

[@sl2094]

PLEASE make this a regular thing with all the sisters-in-law! I love your guys' personalities, and it's so lovely to see a healthy conversation of listening to each other, respecting each other, and loving each other

[@chit-chat007]

OMG ABBY LOOKS LIKE EDNA FROM WEDNESDAY:) SO ADORBS!

[@SamNicDur]

I had my first 6.5 years ago. Then two more kiddos followed. I’m just now starting to figure out what I enjoy, used to enjoy etc. we don’t have family close by, we don’t have a village and I do think that makes such a difference.

[@user-rp5gi6vo4c]

Abigail more people then you know are in the position that you were in congratulations on making it to a better place!!!I’m very interested in your story would love to hear your perspective and how you handled things I’m in the situation now and no one talks about it so this was great to hear! ❤

[@katialing5557]

The episode we all wanted. Love Abby hosting her own pod❤️❤️❤️

[@TeacherKellyTag]

7:26 As a mom of a 20 year old, I can’t blame her. You weren’t even old enough to drink

[@kaitlyncamren4997]

A

[@Truechildofgod]

All the better. Why become a drunk in a sunken place and sleep around ?? I’d rather know that the kids are safe and secure

[@TeacherKellyTag]

@@Truechildofgod I wasn’t saying that anyone should be drunk. I was just using that as an example of how young they were. To each his own. I would rather my daughter get a degree and start working before she even thinks about it.

[@Truechildofgod]

@@TeacherKellyTag that’s logical but if that’s not what your daughter wants then college becomes a playground to test the boundaries that she’s not allowed to do at home. I’m saying this with love. We can have expectations and you have a right because you are raising her. But if you force a lifestyle on her that she’s not committed to you run the risk of putting her in the hands of something worse so just be careful with how you set your expectations on her life as she becomes a grownup. And also pray if you see her taking a path that will cause her heartbreak or any pain. Overall you sound like a caring mom and that’s really all a good parent can be.

[@TeacherKellyTag]

@@Truechildofgod well thanks for saying that. She wants to wait anyway. I agree that you can’t force them to do anything especially after they are 18.

[@aep7113]

Matt’s mom being like that is exactly why he acts how he does

[@mapalo.chibangula]

This is such a well of wisdom..its like iron sharpening iron and so relatable. Love from Zambia🇿🇲

[@LudyMoody]

We need more of these!!! Make it a series...please

[@Itsbrittanytaylor]

This is was a fun episode! I loved it ❤

[@sarahmarie5660]

I love this friendship! The compliments and learning is really inspiring.

[@JessicaLoos14]

Love!!! We need more episodes like this 🤍🫶🏼

[@presleypennartz6269]

By far my FAVORITE episode

[@rebeccabroadbent87]

This was my favorite episode y'all have ever done

[@maryinneo7285]

Would love to make this a recurring group for the podcast! Maybe once a quarter or something I know you ladies are busy

[@amygreen4850]

I love this episode!!

[@ninalewis9371]

Abigail you’re so freaking genuine. Keep it up ❤

[@bayleenitafan2013]

loved this!! I hope you three do more girl only podcasts!!

[@lydiajohnson2156]

Love what y’all said about husbands and respect. Not a common view in our day and age, but it is so important to respect our husbands and not let other people disrespect them.

[@JEREMY99218]

The proper term is "Sisters-in-Law". Like Attorneys-General, Postmasters-General, accounts payable, accounts receivable, editors-in-chief, senators-elect, notaries-public, rights-of-way, etc.

[@CadillacSundays]

Thank you!! I came here to write the same thing 😅

[@kaitlyncamren4997]

😊

[@melaniegee]

Yes! I came here not to listen to their podcast but to correct the glowing misspelling of the phrase. Thank you.

[@stephaniebaumlin36]

@@melaniegee😂

[@JEREMY99218]

@@melaniegee Happy to educate you about proper English language

[@samanthaetcitty4741]

Guys does anyone see Hailey Bieber in Abigail howard????? I do! She lowkey favors her and her demeanor? Love this trio

[@Truechildofgod]

Probably in the fact that the poor girl was getting ignored smh I get it that the two Abby’s may have more in common but they could’ve did better to ask her questions

[@AmyGentilee]

Such a great conversation and outlooks 💜

[@aalfa85]

Love this episode!! Also Abby what are your outfit details?! So cute

[@ShannonPittman-m8g]

Thank you for your input on the finances. I needed to hear that.

[@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559]

It's 'sisterS-in-law', not 'sister-in-laws'.

[@bolivia.j]

Cope

[@jasminekirkman5416]

What does she mean I know you wouldn’t have the baby on my wedding day?! Like she could control the day she had the baby?!!

[@lovingnicole4]

I love that abby talks about how its okay to do things because you need to save money. My bf and I are looking at lab grown rings because we will be able to do more for a wedding and a house! Idc about jewelry but people have big opinions on it.

[@maritzah.4039]

Haha my husband is so similar to Abigail’s husband! Very straight forward and doesn’t sugar coat anything LOL. Must be a “oldest brother” type of personality 😂 I love it though because I know he’s always honest!

[@mckennaharvey4116]

As someone who went to MSU and didn’t really go out, I FINALLY understand the difference between Club Rodeo and Midnight Rodeo, thank you😂

[@cathirodrigo2933]

I totally enjoyed listening to the girls!!! It was nice to meet Addie & wonderful that family is SO important to you all. ❤❤❤

[@donnalwashburn]

I’m shocked the two Abbys are alike - I assumed the opposite. I love this podcast!

[@miriamhughes2958]

This is such a cute episode! It truly feels like such a fun and cute relationships

[@jfa1112]

This has been my favorite episode! Such wisdom from all of you in many different areas! Love seeing y’all’s relationships with each other and how you all build each other up in truth and love!

[@Vieramoore]

When is the Sam and Jess podcast coming? 🎉

[@oliviab4412]

Loved this episode!! You all do so well keeping each other included im the conversation!

[@MiaCloud-ko1wd]

This was great! Can you start adding time stamps?

[@jessicamullins9655]

I absolutely enjoyed this episode!!! I had a close relationship with my sister in law and mother in law and unfortunately the whole family got in a disagreement and we never fully recovered from it. I sill cry thinking of the visions I had of the kids growing up as close cousins and knowing it won't happen just breaks my heart for my kids as I was close to mine.

[@expertenergysolutions3101]

Love this sister in law episode! We need more 🎉

[@isingsingsing]

This is one of mg favorite podcasts you guys have done yet! Needed the girl talk!

[@cassie456]

Really loved this episode. You guys have an amazing bond. It's really encouraged me to reach out and make more of an effort in my social life. Thanks for that 😊

[@veneciawooding6797]

I love the podcast, girl talk. ❤

[@diedremorris4542]

I do not want this to sound mean but I had a hard time listening to this video because everyone was saying "like" so much. I love Abby and Matt and watch the videos every time. This one was hard to get through.

[@rachermione]

This was so fun and sweet. I love girl chats

[@isabellamocciavlogs9687]

you girls need a podcast the sister podcast I love the unplanned podcast I like matt he funny, but these three girls are my favorite podcast now.

[@kasthumathanalingam8940]

loved this podcast! We need the ladies on more often 😊♥️

[@geriklawitter3646]

Love this video love the ladies podcast

[@donnalwashburn]

Love this! Thank you!

[@MirandaHostettler]

One of my faves! I know Abby likes more of the back seat approach but I LOVE episodes like this!

[@kayladifranco9612]

One of my FAVORITE EPISODES EVER

[@bolivia.j]

I’m only 35 minutes in and this is the sweetest podcast. You guys are very much like me and my sister in laws

[@elboo14]

I love y’all there friendship

[@alyssameyers3593]

LOVED this! Have the girls back for sure 🥰💗

[@lindseylucy9807]

I loved this video!

[@_jmg]

Waiting for more Instagram shorts about this episode so I can share on my story! I love conversation in regard to sister in law or keeping friendships by being includer.🙌

[@SarahButler-qj1zh]

How do you not know what happens at a strip club? Her innocence as an adult shocks me sometimes. Maybe this is what growing up in a healthy family is like but I felt that was common knowledge once you’ve been an adult for awhile.

[@larac.8797]

I loved this episode i love y'all have friends. I have one and she is 16 hours away. As a mom of 3, FL time job and their activities i have no time to find any. I wish i could be part of y'all group seems so fun. 😂😂😂

[@seanpeck4333]

I loved this episode

[@Itsbrittanytaylor]

Addy is so sweet

[@annalisefrazer2331]

Need a podcast with you 3

[@donnalwashburn]

Gosh, I thought Abby led the relationship with Matt & Abby. Interesting, no judgment at all.

[@gretchenkeene6433]

It's Susters-in-Law The sisters are plural. I am an editor. Trust me.

[@gretchenkeene6433]

Sisters-in-law

[@JTR253]

They are definitely sus…

[@lburke2002]

My SIL and I married brothers in 1983. We were both named Lisa so we shared a name. The marriages didn't last but we're still very close. Our children and now grandchildren are close. I encourage you to cherish each other. Understand that if your lucky, these ladies will likely be lifelong family relationships. Be kind and forgiving to each other. Life can be challenging. ❤😊

[@candacegracia6821]

Addy is different different 😂 I know she wouldn’t announce her birth on my wedding day? like you are in control of that? 😂 Her voice isn’t very easy on the ears so it just makes it harder when she says immature things. Clearly she hasn’t had kids so she doesn’t have that perspective of empathy and maturity in that aspect. The whole episode I’m like dang addy is something else. Too many moments to count 😂

[@shawnvillelife8311]

I respect to these woman taking about the memories over the past but as a man I can totally relate to the mans no hate

[@maggieruth]

Love an all girls episode

[@chelseetyler1003]

Love this girl talk 😊

[@jenniferregan4428]

We have ZERO phoned at meal times- in or out. Never. Intentional time , traditional times, etc.

[@morganwilson496]

You guys are great 👑

[@KaitlynKnelsen_753]

Love this