Addressing assumptions about us | Ep. 62

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Today we address your assumptions about us... Thank you to everyone who submitted assumptions on Instagram :)
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Chapters (Assumptions):
00:00 - Episode 62
05:56 - Social media has changed the dynamics of your relationship
10:06 - You're going to quit KZbin
11:36 - You're not into PDA
14:02 - You sold your Airbnb
15:37 - Abby is going to homeschool her kids
20:48 - You both have more conflict since having kids
24:56 - You're glad you sleep-trained Griffin
30:50 - Griffin wears the pants in the family now
31:35 - Both the boys are daddy's boys
32:25 - I assume you guys don't show affection around your kids
33:18 - You guys got married young just to be able to have sex
38:52 - You financially weren't ready to get married
42:59 - Matt is getting sick of his in-laws at the house
44:53 - You never broke the law
46:37 - Was Abby hurt by Matt's song "still not enough"
53:02 - You regret being influencers because of the hate
58:55 - You two have a gentle parenting style
1:01:21 - Abby isn't happy with how she looks postpartum
1:03:56 - Having 2 kids is easier than you thought
1:05:04 - Your relationship is far better now
1:05:54 - Y'all are secretly pregnant with baby no. 3
1:09:35 - Abby wants another baby but Matt doesn't
1:15:50 - Baby no. 3 will be named after Abby's grandpa
1:16:44 - Talking about more kids has started fights
1:17:09 - Matt is done having kids for 5+ years
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[@genevieveprochaska6770]

Abby, I have never heard someone so openly and confidently say that all they want, their whole purpose, is to be a mom. Thank you for saying it. It's how I feel, and I've always been made to feel ashamed for it. My kids are each a year older than yours, and I've had such a hard tine saying it.

[@Hannahmariahl]

You should never be ashamed of what you want out of life🩷🩷 we all want different things and that’s why we all have our own lives!!

[@connorg.563]

I feel the same way! I thought my whole life I should be pursing a career I love with high pay but what I’ve really always wanted is to be a Mom ❤

[@brooklynthoma8652]

This is my purpose in life! I might only be 13 yo but all I want when I’m older is to be a mom. Kids are my favorite things in the world and I get so excited thinking that I will be a mom one day!

[@elisevick225]

Yes!

[@madelynmerle1766]

I’ve alwaysss felt this way. Untill one day I saw the world for what is is and how scary and negative it is and why would I want to bring a precious human in this dangerous world? Then I gatta deal with worrying about school shootings and other things or them to have depression and wish I never had them bc at the end of the day yes we have good moments too and it’s so important to make all situations in a positive light but life is just not forever and for me personally I have to live with being terried to die and I know I wish I was just never born so it’s just a lot honestly. It makes me sad but I stand on all this so much idk if I can get myself to selfishly bring a baby into the world. It’s so crazy though cause my whole life like I always wanted it I’ve cried bc being a young never happened for me (bc I didn’t wanna live with my mom and have a child or be tied to a shitty person for life) I still long to be pregnant and give birth and hold my baby and love them even more when they’re here and take care of them and be their voice and just be the best mom ever and give them so much love but it’s just a lot

[@ChloeDezz]

Petition to bring back the “peace out dudes!” at the end!🙋🏻‍♀️ I swear Matt was so uncomfortable saying “byeeee” to conclude the episode😅

[@Abi-Marie]

YES, i miss that so much !

[@jeannecoit6499]

Why did they stop?

[@user-ck6cf6tm6w]

Bring it back! Like if you want it back

[@bettyjones5375]

They've changed a lot

[@christianalee8531]

Can you please interview Elyse Myers and her husband Jonas? That would be SO incredible. Love you guys and love when you share about your kids and your parenting. Thank you for showing up every week!

[@tonyaknight9688]

I second this! It would be an amazing interview.

[@Just-wiggling-thru-life]

YES!!!!!❤ FYI They were on Shawn Johnson East and Andrew East and it was soooo amazing!😊❤

[@erinrty08]

Being a kid whose parents never showed any sort of affection or adoration for eachother definitely had an impact on how I viewed intimacy and healthy relationships and I can’t say it’s all positive. I think it’s a great thing that y’all show affection in front of them. You’re setting the example for healthy relationships & love, let them see it!

[@daniellelaneyfenenga2978]

Sue them!! People need to not get away with posting other people’s things without their consent, especially when creating a fake story using them too. So sorry that happened to you guys!

[@marissaweeks6522]

Abby- I love that you plan to homeschool your kids! There are SO MANY opportunities for homeschool kids now. Homeschool sports teams/clubs, homeschool co-ops, homeschool orchestras, homeschool robotics, choirs, all sorts of things! Get involved in your local homeschool community and find the opportunities.

[@Abi-Marie]

As a teen in her last bit of being homeschooled her entire life, i can say 1) my respect and admiration for my mom for being willing to be with me 24/7 from the moment i was born is HUGE cause us kids were pretty tough when we were younger and 2) I absolutely have loved it and will never not be ashamed i “have no life” 😂 My mom sacrificing herself for us every day has meant the world for me and my older siblings :)))

[@Just-wiggling-thru-life]

@@Abi-MarieAweeee this is soooo amazing and so sweet! 🥹 ❤When C-vid happened my son who has Asperger’s did online school for the 1st time and man he loved it so much we just continued until he graduated. Also in addition to that he went into college in a better mental state so now is more than prepared to life and not just be “online schooled”. He absolutely does still enjoy the classes that’s he’s able to take online 😂😂

[@suzieknol5930]

You should definitely sue! They are in the wrong.

[@ericaj2611]

Agreed! They need ro take legal action. That is so wrong of that company to do that!

[@estherbennett8053]

Look into legal action. Matt, you catch a bad wrap anyways because people clip and try to paint you in a bad light anyways and for people who don’t know you guys people will believe that about you!

[@ShortySensei]

THIS. What they did is definitely not okay.

[@courtneyc4]

Matt loves referencing Kim Kardashian when he can lolll. Kim K would sue those jerks Matt. #WWKD

[@CL-xyz9987]

Whatever you put on the internet is free game. Its not right, but they can't really do anything about it legally

[@beccaroo1990]

My dad unalived himself over his depression/mental health when i was a kid. It is something that needs taken more seriously. Im sry you got so much negative feedback about that song/video Matt. Don't let the haters view & opinions get to you, it's not worth it, they dont understand where you're coming from & they don't know you! Proud of you two❤

[@makkaroon]

My hearts gets warm seeing you being excited for the life you have and the love you share. And you talking about the future is soooo exciting. I can FEEL your happiness and I get to excited about life seeing you being happy! Love this podcast!

[@JosieKoontz]

Matt, thank you so much for always being open about mental health for men. My brother struggles and it isnt taken as seriously as my sisters. It’s difficult to see men go through this and we need more men like you speaking up about it!

[@kathrynbritton8077]

This is such a good conversation! The way you both are comfortable talking about so many things so openly is amazing and so inspirational.

[@rapunzel_emily]

The episodes with just the two of you are my favorite!! Love all the hard work you guys are doing to get awesome guests and put out episodes every week. Thank you!!💙

[@shanna4940]

My kiddos are 6 and 7 & I am pregnant with baby #3 at 30. Have to say, I am SO happy with our decision. My kids are happy and involved in the pregnancy and I feel great. I don’t think I would have been mentally or emotionally prepared to have another baby 5 years ago, so this timing was perfect for me and my family!

[@tashawells3568]

Yall are so wise beyond your years. You guys are such great examples of just complete genuine loving people, who love with all your being. Give yourself grace, I just turned 40 and I genuinely appreciate and love yall. Much love!

[@HungerGamesLover-jl2yl]

Love this podcast sm! Love how real you guys are, you show the highs and lows of your life which I think is really important cause a lot of influencers today make it seem like their life is perfect and y’all are just so honest and sweet

[@sierramiller5226]

glad you both set the boundaries you need to protect your mental health - we won’t always be for everyone but that doesn’t give people the right to say such hurtful things!! Love these chats with the two of you! 🤍

[@kayleeparr8635]

i love these natural discussions! thank you for being so open!

[@happycrazyfun5883]

We have five kids, and it is so fun! I love watching them play together and make our back yard (and house) full of life! Playing on the trampoline, making up games together, doing “performances“ together, etc. I had them at 29, 31, 33, 36, and 40.

[@TaylortheBarbie13]

Aw I'm one of 4 (I'm 13) and my life was definitely similar to what you described. My mum had us at 30, 31 (almost 32), 34 and 39

[@user-gc6ny7tp1h]

Oh wauw American people told me I'm too old at 31 but this gives me hope. But I'm single.😢

[@HopeJ626]

I have to admit, I love your guys videos. Its just so real and seeing yalls personality shine even more than just little clips I've seen. Love yall!!

[@hannahmoconnor]

We have had 5 kids in 7 years. I like the close age gap, they all play together, we homeschool etc. we haven’t had a break from diapers in 7 years but it’s honestly kind of nice to just do it all in the beginning and then when we are done with diapers we are completely done, we don’t have to do it again in 5 years. There is honestly pros and cons to anything but we love having all our kids close together. You also have to remember that they aren’t all going to be toddlers, my 7 and 5 year old are very independent and helpful so in a way it gets easier. They aren’t as dependent on you for everything.

[@kiyahforever]

I had 5 in 7 years, too! I love that they're so close for the same reasons. 3 was the hardest transition for me, though, since they were all so small.

[@Claudiasitta]

Omg! I have 2 and they are 2 years apart and I don’t know how I survived the first early months of having 2 little ones. Props to you and all the mommas that have many kids close in age. I don’t know how you do it💕

[@kiyahforever]

@Claudiasitta Every stage is hard! 1 kid, 2 kids, 5 kids. You just gotta roll with it, and some days pull out your hair lol.

[@c.k.5860]

@@kiyahforeverme too. 6 kids in 9 years. The third one was really hard.

[@hannahmoconnor]

@@kiyahforever three was definitely the hardest for us as well. I think some of it just had to do with the kids personalities as well though!

[@thehammersfamily3943]

I would venture to say you guys having these podcasts help your relationship alot so a great reason to keep making them.Love and Blessings 😊❤❤

[@audreystirling7687]

Take a shot every time Matt & Abby say a percentage 🤣🤣 “One hundred percent” “One THOUSAND percent” “One million hundred thousand percent”

[@lovenakabba9185]

Like on love is blind 😂

[@Soulsuitcase]

9:14

[@KickingItWithTheCapers]

❤❤

[@illyfonganoodles4975]

😂

[@BaneeBunny]

Abby, you are such an inspiration. It's nice to see such a hands-on mom that prioritizes self care as well. You inspire me to give atleast an hour to myself amidst the chaotic daily schedule of a mom with two young boys. You make me hopeful that one day, I can also look good and feel comfortable in my body again. Although realistically, I know I can never be as "buff" as you anytime soon haha! Love you guys

[@jeancohrs5497]

Please keep being yourselves. You are both amazing and an inspiration to those around you. It is a shame when people are negative towards you. We need to build others up around us not tear them down. ❤

[@Brandy.B.]

I just adore you both. I appreciate you as a couple and parents. I'm proud of you guys speaking about depression in men, marriage, and all topics. Just continue being the amazing souls that you are. Ignore the negative and hate. Those who do that must not be happy with themselves or their own lives. I'll pray for them. Have a wonderful week.

[@JulieIreland]

I love that y'all quit letting negative comments affect y'all! Be confident in yourself and know your worth! That's growth! Y'all are so inspirational in what seems every aspect of life. My kids are grown, but I love watching y'all grow and learn thru the process. Y'all both seem very wise and love to find solutions to life's issues. Keep rising!!!

[@elizabethgrant1517]

Don’t usually comment but I love this episode so much! Abby thank you so much for voicing how okay it is for your greatest dream to be a mom! It’s like you just spoke what I was thinking. ❤

[@tammynielsen4212]

I had my 4 back to back and I wouldn't change it for the world. You have more energy and then they grow up so close and then when they are older you still have the energy to do things together. I have friends had there's later in life and they regret it and struggle. And the bonus is also when they have kids you are still young enough to run around and enjoy your grandchildren. You both are a inspirational couple. Don't let the haters get to you. Anyone can give opinions and hide behind a keyboard. I miss you and your family on KZbin videos. ❤😊

[@Shirdamom]

I’ve watched you guys since podcast with Beestons. You guys are refreshingly honest and so mature for your years. I love your curiosity and creativity Matt and your vibrancy and get up and go attitude Abby. Any negativity is coming from place of negativity - it’s never worth paying attention to, I understand how easy it is to go down that rabbit hole tho. As for putting your emotions and song out there - feel proud and confident in your intentions - you are part of the cultural shift now and it’s so necessary. Keep up the great work guys! Xx

[@GeorgePrountz]

I discovered you recently and i'm so inspired by you and your love for each other! You guys are my definition for a happy family and i definitely want to have 3-4 kids one day. Thanks for the inspiring content and greeting from Greece!

[@daniellewiker9032]

Homeschool Mama here!! I love it. We are two years in and I am so thankful I get to have this time with our daughter. I love everything about it…picking the curriculum to what best fits her…doing all the fun science experiments and field trips. And she learned how to read this week! It’s such a blessing. We love it. Fine tuning her education to what best suits her is something that will benefit her for her entire life ❤

[@tajat866]

Omg, you talking about another member of the family, that made me cry 😢 So sweet ❤

[@joymerkel2420]

You should 100% sue them. They can't use your image without your permission or paying you for it. Or at least a lawyer would send a cease and desist letter.

[@EarlyBirdCrafting]

As a Homeschool mama, we started in 2020. My son did preschool-1st grade and has homeschooled since. He loves it. We have several co-ops & sports we are involved in. There are Loads of curriculums out there to choose from as well. We do a mix but love the good & beautiful! ❤

[@avagrace24]

You guys might not see this, but you all are such an inspiration! I love your relationship and how you can be open about the highs and lows. It’s nice to see that you can get through them and you guys just touched me so much. I love you guys so much and I enjoy watching your content💙💙

[@Sik2ks]

I appreciate you talking about how important it is to wait until BOTH partners are ready for another baby!

[@margaretjanec8484]

I was homeschooled all the way through, now I’m homeschooling my 3. The amount of homeschooling resources - curriculum, co-ops, sports, etc, is crazy now! There are so many options. I live in the middle of nowhere and we are in two co-ops. We have probably ten different sports programs we can join as homeschoolers from age 18 months all the way through highschool. It’s amazing. And we have so much more opportunity to focus on what they love every day.

[@Jordan_and_Kiau]

Podcast Membership PLEASEE!! This is what I look forward to every week!!

[@amandaarmolt3136]

Honestly we had two close together (18 months apart) and then we had one 12 years later and I love it. You don't forget. It's just like having the first but with the wisdom of already having kids. My oldest two have the sweetest memories with my youngest. 💜

[@emilycollis7636]

It’s so lovely hearing younger people talking like this and so excited about their future!! I was 22, 25 and 32 when I had my 3 girls and I can say that having a 10 year age gap is amazing!! The joy the whole family have with the youngest is wonderful!! You’ve got years to have your kids - enjoy these ones and don’t make it too stressful. It goes so so quick- mine are 17,14 and 7 now and it flies. Thats my advice. ❤

[@quinnikanienaber527]

All the way from South Africa! I feel so lucky that your podcast drops at Midnight (your time) my time this is normally 9am or 10am Wednesday Morning which is PERFECT as my teams have just left for their sites so I start ny day doing admin & LISTENING TO YOUR PODCAST. Your Pod keeps me motivated to get through the week and I count down the days till the next one. I love watching your Podcast so much! Thank you for all your efforts, honesty & hard work going into each and every episode! ❤

[@viviansalazar06]

I actually love your TikTok and KZbin talks. It really helps me out with work life balance and how much to post. I hope you make a podcast about that one day

[@juliannaanzora7947]

i look up too y’all so much! i love how in love y’all are and i just hope that one day i have a marriage like y’all’s. matt matt matt i hope you feel better w ur mental health js know that so MANY people love and look up too you as an artist, influences, father, husband and just a funny guy! abbyyy your so beautiful and the way you carry your self is so inspirational! y’all seem like the most fun and loving parents i look up to both of you sm that’s for this podcast i love it very much ! thanks guys

[@AstroGirl_draws]

Abby you are such an inspiration! You’re goals I aspire to be you when and if I become a parent

[@laurajordan8026]

Ya'll always are so wholesome and fun to listen too!

[@Libbie_Floyd]

you guys are the best. i LOVE watching your videos every week and i’ve been a big fan for a very long time now💕 also the what’s up dudes hoodie is the best… i have both colors!

[@filipaalvesferreira6178]

Always love to hear/watch your podcast guys :) You are my daily company!

[@araya5232]

Thank you for all of your transparency. I love all of your podcasts. I'm not much for commenting, but as a mother of two girls with a 6 year 13 days age gap, I can honestly say it was not like riding a bike. The time between them we forgot a lot of things that are needed for a newborn. It was like restarting completely because by then, all Iwe was thinking about was teaching my oldest how to read and write. If we had planned on 2, we would have definitely had them closer together. We were lucky that our 2nd was a much happier calmer baby, but still, it wasn't like riding a bike at all.

[@melissalaw6634]

Matt and Abby, I just want to say that you two are looking happiwr and are having a heqlthier relationship since you've started counseling. It really shows! I love the stronger, healthier, much more loving and encouraging vibes coming off you two! Y'all have a beautiful marriage and a beautiful family. Keep up the great work!

[@beccaladendorf971]

I love this podcast and you guys so much! Such a joy to listen to.

[@AnjewlaSparks]

Have you guys done a reaction video to your old videos? That would be an idea from me to you. I've been watching you guys so long, it's been a big evolution. You could share things going on behind the scenes in those videos - thoughts, feelings, reflections from then to now, etc. Then maybe in a separate vid or part 2, you could reflect on the past, talk about the journey, & then talk about what you want in the future moving forward, even if that's intrinsic. Or if you don't go too in depth, keep it as a part of 1 video. Just an idea!

[@hayleyll012]

You guys seem like you’re doing really well! I’m so happy for you guys!

[@lisarussell5741]

I love Abby so much. She so inspiring and love her love of being a mom. I watch for Abby.

[@edengin9487]

I almost never comment on KZbin but I wanted to say Matt you are an amazing artist. I’ve been thoroughly impressed with your songs and I cannot wait for you to drop an entire album I’d honestly some day love to attend a live event. Your song still not enough reminds me of my husband

[@Dal8998]

I absolutely love you guys and everything you stand for. It's been lovely to see you guys along this journey as individuals, a couple and parents. I'm definitely no one big but would love to connect or be on a podcast. I'm a RN who works for an organization for first time low income moms and am always trying to find ways to support our moms through the experience and help make things easier during some of the most vulnerable times in our lives ❤

[@samanthabailey8450]

I am always so impressed with Abby and how well she articulates her perspective and the confidence she has in it. No shade at being young, but I highly doubt I was able to do that at her age, even if I thought so at the time. 😂 The wisdom, sincerity, and grace she speaks with keeps me coming back each week. I appreciate Matt, but love seeing a strong young woman owning who she is despite the pressure I know they get from social media. I can definitely take a page out of her book when it comes to achieving validation internally and not placing so much value on the opinion of others. Gyming for your mental health seems to be going great! I know you don't read these usually, but whoever sees this, big fan and will continue supporting! Great job guys!

[@SirAwesomeReject]

You could also look into homeschool programs that do weekly “field trips”. It gives kids the opportunity to socialize with other kids at like a national park, aquarium, and a bunch of other stuff. It’s really cool they offer so many different options for homeschooling now!!

[@downfromvenus1774]

Please take a vacation!!! You deserve it Matt - you work so hard! ❤

[@sharilincoffelt816]

I got married at 29 same as my husband so I agree getting married older works, at least for us. It is different for everyone but I can not imagine getting married at 19/20 (at least for me and what my life was like then). But so happy for you guys and love your videos!! Thank you for always brightening my day!❤

[@carolynturk-hu7je]

Privacy, decorum and respect regarding talking about sex, for sure! In a grown-up, mature way. There is also something to be said about maturity coming with age and hopefully wisdom through life experiences. 😊❤

[@AdrianeMandrake-dk3pw]

Abby I also started "homeschooling" when my daughter was 1 years old. I'm obsessed with homeschooling. You are such an inspiration 🥰 My daughter is starting kindergarten this year. We are using The Good and The Beautiful curriculum

[@akgamer6082]

You guys are awesome. Love you guys and your videos and podcasts

[@shariharm8710]

I loved being and after my first two, two years apart, the idea of them being out of the house within two years was too quick. Our last was 3 years behind the second was the BEST!!! It wasn’t my plan but in sooooo very thankful.

[@TodayAndForevermore-gt3ff]

I am so glad i discovered this channel for so many reasons. I am certain you had to in some degree given up your privacy as a married couple posting your content online to share to us all but truly in my humble opinion it has been tastefully done that it is so well done that to me it comes across as a married couple i feel like i have been friends with my entire life and i just stopped by your house for a hangout fun casual visit like friends naturally do OR meet up at some dining out place to see the sights and paint the town together. That is what your videos have had me experience. Well done on your part as I wouldn't be surprised if many others experience the same thing as i have on here :) kudos to you both!

[@cathig7529]

Abby and Matt you both are absolutely incredible parents❤

[@lola_kaii]

Honestly you guys have the best podcast ever

[@user-me9dt7wo6l]

I am so happy to hear you talk about your all these friends as newly married people because my husband and I have been married for almost a year and we do the exact same thing we go to Aldi and plan meals don’t get very many snack things so it’s nice to hear you guys went through the same thing

[@heathersandstoe9158]

My kiddos are 6 years apart and I love it. I was able to enjoy all the things with our first and not have to focus on keeping another human alive. Now our oldest loves to help and be with his sister. Also my brother and I are 5 years apart and are the best of friends.

[@blueskies7538]

Homeschooler here! I love how you guys talk so positively about homeschool! A lot of people don’t understand and think that your kids will turn out socially awkward and won’t have any friends. I can tell you that I have lots of friends, and that it really depends on your child’s personality. I love being homeschooled, I love the flexibility and how you can customize it. I’m currently dual enrolled with the community college and will have one year of college finished by the time I graduate next year. Im so blessed to have been brought up the way I was and I wish everyone could have that opportunity. I do want to say that no matter what you do, your children will be different. No matter how many social activities they are involved in, being raised at home in a much different way than a lot of other kids will make a difference. That doesn’t mean it’s bad, on the contrary I think it’s great, but that is something that made me a little insecure when I was younger. I have such a hope for homeschooling with the new generation. There are so many parents deciding to homeschool their kids and I think that will bring such a great change to the stigma of homeschooling. I hope one day it will be as common as getting public education.

[@MTBond95]

Homeschool mom of a kindergartener.. thank you for sharing.. this made me feel so much better 🥲💜

[@Abi-Marie]

@blueskies7538 Literally summed up my thoughts perfectly. It’s always been crazy to me that people think we have no friends and no life or that we can’t communicate haha. In fact, when we were younger adults were always shocked with how well we could hold conversations with them.

[@kierranoellemusic]

i love your thoughts and view on marriage, how there will always be conflict and you choose to work through that conflict. i'm not married but i desire a strong and healthy marriage one day that you two share!

[@jessicaabragg]

The most important relationship in a childs life is the relationship between their parents. Even more so than the child/parent relationship. They find safety and security when they see a healthy loving relationship between their parents

[@MommyandAlexia]

I love you both as individuals such inspirations! ❤❤

[@brittanymiller4320]

I’ve been a subscriber of your KZbin channel since you guys were married college students living in low income housing 🥹 I can’t believe all the crazy/hurtful things people say about y’all, I’ve always been able to tell that you both are so genuine and kind, and nothing has changed! It’s been amazing to watch your journey, thanks for bringing us along 💕💕

[@janethorsman194]

We agreed on four, and then were surprised by a fifth! The BEST surprise!Five is the way to go. I love it. Every supper-time is a party! 🎉

[@carissam8260]

We were going to be done at 5, but then went for 1 more 😂 I love it!

[@Hairby.stephmarie]

abby, so glad you touched on the horrible ish happening in the world rn. im a mom to a almost 1 year old & all the news made me sickkkkkkk i cant even comprehend

[@youtube-8c7xa]

Love Abby! So wholesome and thoughtful.

[@aliciamitrowitz3122]

what a wonderful episode to listen to while I organized items from my baby shower. Expecting my first child soon and so excited.

[@direshasirisena]

I hope you really know we love yall & this channel ❤

[@wellhavenco]

Your airbnb looks great! Awesome work, guys!!

[@krjohnson]

Homeschool mama here! You’re gonna love it!! Some of my favs, Charlotte mason curriculum like the peaceful press or gentle classical preschool or five in a row I totally love Matt’s thoughts on it 🎉

[@Alyssacharlene456]

There were 5 kids in my family growing up, and I LOVED that number! Something I’ve noticed with families of 4 is that the first 3 form a dynamic and then the 4th is pretty far removed from the oldest, and only close with the 3rd, who is close to everyone. Having 5 was perfect, because the first two went through everything together, the last 2 do everything, and the third bridges the gap relationally between everyone

[@dezijones4779]

I would love an episode about how Abby is so confident. She doesn't care about what other people think and I admire her so much for it. I'd love any advice she has to share 🫶❤️💕

[@Lanieeeee]

Coming from one of 10 kids (no, we're not mormon haha), my momma has always said the first three kids were the hardest. After that the older ones are able to help with the kids. I love having a big family, and my best friends are my sisters and my mom. My mom is the most amazing woman I've ever known and ever will. ❤

[@candace9236]

my son did homeschool for a few years but he really really struggled in grade 1 until grade 3 so we made the decision to try real school and hes thriving way way more! hes such a social kid he needs a class so all kids are different!

[@paige3770]

I have been fans for over 5 years. I love you both. Forget the haters you both are amazing. Matt I have ur music on replay every day It’s so good. 🥰

[@hepc1]

Love that I get these in the evening cos I live in NZ ❤

[@LiveLifeWithClass]

Around the 23:00 minute mark when talking about getting through the tough stages and it will be worth it is so amazing. I agree.

[@gwh2100]

I 100% agree with your thoughts on sleep training! I was also very hesitant for many months about it, then we all reached a breaking point with our then 6 month old daughter and I caved at 4am and bought Taking Cara Babies. BEST DECISION we ever made for our baby! She is now almost 1.5 years old, and her ability to sleep well has helped her in so many ways. Her temperament changed completely, she teethed all 16 of her teeth so far without any sleep disruption, she handles sickness better because she’s actually getting good rest at night… not to mention my husband and I are sleeping so well too. It’s been the best thing for our family across the board, couldn’t recommend it enough! I’m due with baby #2 in 10 days, and if needed, we will sleep train her as well because of all the benefits we’ve seen with our first!

[@bethanystrom8368]

I’m the youngest of 3 siblings all 6 years apart. (My oldest sister was 12 when I was born) It’s so nice having older siblings as examples and seeing how they both deal with their lives and decisions before I have to even consider mine. However I do kind of wish I had a sibling closer in age. We have such good relationships however seeing people with 2 year or even 4 year age gaps and watching their bond is so different from ours. They have a more relatable friendship type bond while the 12 year gap is more of a mentor type bond. My oldest sister was moved out of our house at 19 when I was only 6. Either way is amazing and the pros are so huge for both circumstances!! I love you both and you are so inspiring!!❤

[@carrieschuess22]

Please speak out more on how the online negativity brought out depression in a way you never experienced before. Thanks for sharing. ❤️

[@traceyscoob5609]

Love how cute and happy you guys are ❤ You should never worry about expressing it. The world needs more love in it for sure. I'm like 45 this month but I wanna be like u two when I grow up lol ❤

[@kristinmartin2899]

In case you read it: from someone who did a ridiculous amount of research on relationships for my job as a counsellor Matt you ARE a great husband and father. And Abby I LOVE your confidence with the mum shaming because 100% you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!

[@Tor.cor.4]

Have them closer in age, not farther. We have 3 boys: ages 6,5,4 and one girl: 2 years old. We didn’t have near the amount of help as you guys, pretty much did it alone, and all of our boys had the most horrible colic we had ever seen in babies and didn’t sleep and we survived it. And now, they are all 4 the best of buds and will share the same memories and grow up together as besties. It’s worth the horrible newborn stages and the struggle of those early months because once you get past that it gets so much easier. You’ll realize that you can actually survive and thrive on much less rest than you thought you needed.

[@alexisostigin8695]

I am a college student and I was homeschooled for the most part but did public high school for a year. Homeschooling was a better experience and I had a better relationship with my family. I went to an amazing co-op and met all my childhood and current best friends there. I have lots of “family” from being homeschooled as it was an amazing community. It set me up for college better than public school did.

[@lydiamcalister9759]

I was homeschooled from preschool through high school! I graduated with honors, a 4.0, and now am about to graduate nursing school with a 3.8! I was able to start college classes in high school, I did sports and co-ops, went to dances, and have so many friends that have started their own businesses while in high school.

[@hepc1]

Love seeing this side if Matt

[@rashaa2166]

BACK TO BACK SOLO EPS!!!❤❤😍😍😍😍

[@amandailane]

Our 3rd was born when our 2nd child was 5 (& I was 37). Honestly, I loved the age difference. My older two were SO excited and helpful. It was nice that the older two were both in school together and I had time at home with the baby to do some one on one bonding. ❤️ my youngest is now almost 7 and even though there’s an age difference, he has fun with both of his older brothers.

[@ashleyp4513]

That's me right now! I have an 8 year old, 5.5 year old, and a 2 month old. Our third was a surprise but I am happy the way it worked out. I am a bit curious how life will look as our third will be starting kindergarten and our second will be in 6th grade and our first in 8th!

[@amandailane]

@@ashleyp4513 that’s exactly us. My oldest was 8 when my 3rd was born as well. ❤️ Next school year I’ll have one in High school, one in middle school, and one in Elementary. 🤪🤷🏻‍♀️❤️

[@myrandathapa3804]

I love how grateful Abby is for literally everything. She always talks about being privileged to have the life she has. But, also, you guys worked for that, too, Abby!! I don't know if I'm making sence. You can just see that you guys are like actually good people! Love ya'll!!

[@unplannedlife]

Matt description of it being hard, was so acurate of how my partner and I feel. We had a tough colic baby as well and sleep methods just didnt work for her...she runs her life on her own terms. But it is seriously so much harder than children i took care of in the past and challenged every thought of who I was as a person and if I could I have another.