Steven Bartlett Reveals How To Build Unbreakable Discipline

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Chris and Steven Bartlett discuss Steven's equation for discipline. How impactful has this formula been in Steven Bartlett's life? Is Steven Bartlett driven by running away from pain or the pursuit of pleasure? Does Steven Bartlett have a chip on his shoulder that drives him towards success?
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[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you heroes. The full length 2+ hour podcast with Steven is now live! Watch here - kzbin.info/www/bejne/gHPKqHlulq11r6s. Get a FREE 30-day trial and 2 months at 50% off from Epidemic Sound at share.epidemicsound.com/modernwisdom (use code MW50 at checkout)

[@richard99cookify]

Ohhh yes

[@just.keep.moving.]

Hey @ChrisWillx did you do an episode about Guatemala?! If so, I'm very excited for it to drop; that's where I was born!

[@faithcarponelli]

Can't wait for the episode! Two of my favourite podcasters together. Mad love!

[@arran_elliott]

1.27m subscribers now… amazing growth. congratulations. You are very good at what you do.

[@adityaxnx]

damn i was searching through whole youtube where this video was, after watching this

[@raghu3813]

00:01 Focus on the pain and struggle to align with what you can accomplish. 01:27 Discipline equals the importance of the goal and psychological enjoyment minus the psychological cost. 02:46 Health is the first priority for everything I love and care about. 04:05 Discipline is the key to effective time management and life choices. 05:23 Discipline equation is crucial for staying on track 06:40 Discipline equation: behavior will occur if positive outcome minus friction exceeds zero. 07:56 Many people are driven by pain rather than pleasure. 09:21 Deep shame and insecurity drove me to obsessiveness. if useful for you , than like my comment

[@ArnoFx1]

where is the part where he says consistency does not guarantee success?

[@adityapandey1867]

Thanks for this man its really help.😊

[@adityapandey1867]

Thanks for this man its really help.😊

[@DholaiyaaSelvar]

Thanks bro I can't understand the sentence because they are little fast so can't understand

[@govindchauhan9331]

Any body from Instagram 😂

[@khuisebtry3439]

Me

[@kannurisumanth5467]

Yes

[@surajbhatt005]

Thara Paisa thari daulat wali reel dekh li bro

[@CatholicHood]

Yes

[@Shivagopii]

😅

[@TheDiaryOfACEO]

Thanks for having me on bro! Loved this conversation

[@simpleitsdanny]

Thank you both for your time

[@iamrichlol]

Whyd you take your Russell Brand video down, even though he hasn't been proven guilty of anything?

[@looming_]

Thirdweb is awesome!

[@CatalinCarabas]

I’ve been thinking a lot about what makes discipline lately, or more precisely, what makes us do stuff. I think there is an extra factor in that equation, and it’s something like your ability to ignore/repress/overcome friction, it detracts from that feeling of friction by making it less potent. Let's call it willpower. So the equation would be something like Discipline = Goal Importance + Pursuit pleasure - ( Pursuit pain - Willpower ). This is a factor that can be trained over time. What do you think?

[@AbuZak14]

Steve, never really watched any of your channel, but really enjoyed your book on audible when it popped up on my recommendations.

[@VenomRoadRacing]

So great to see you guys have a conversation to get questions asked so well to frame for Steve's takeaways from his interviews. Such a great communication between you both. Thanks to you both.

[@HunterLeaderPro]

You two are just so great at building on eachothers intellect and ideas, makes for a really entertaining and insightful listen.

[@rivaldealer]

Thank you Chris. You, Steven, Peterson, Huberman and Jocko have made such a powerful contribution to humanity by making such valuable content available for free. You've all changed my life, and continue doing so, by sharing these mindful episodes where deep, critical thinking and knowledge are shared as if you're just at the pub. The world's your pub now, and I hope I'm one day able to buy you a beer sometime.

[@benfroughi]

Why did you put Steven in with those respectable people? He's like the opposite of those people. There's nothing to admire about the guy, he's unremarkable and average.

[@henryfiedeldey5642]

@@benfroughi steven who

[@rud7490]

@@benfroughiimagine thinking scumbag Jordan Peterson is respectable

[@ahmednaguib3569]

jordan peterson is cancelled to me supporting his friend netanyahu☠

[@yameenullah759]

why @@benfroughi

[@kyaghleah]

Thanks. Some people are already in a bunch of pain, usually because of stuff that happened before they even had a chance to get proactive. That means anyone with any sort of health and cultural capital needs to listen to this and help others. Why? You’ll feel proud of yourself and it’s the right thing to do. Cheers!! Stay compassionate.

[@Investor-365]

Steven is such an insightful person. Love him.

[@OfficialCxnary]

Yesss, can't wait for this one!

[@MissSaoirseMurphy]

Steven I'm loving this so much. My analytical part of my brain is absorbing everything like a sponge. Then, the roulette chip analogy is really solidifying the perspective.

[@Nah-ah]

Yesss… Steven Bartlett 🙌🏽 I was waiting for this interview!

[@KK-3439]

Can’t wait for the full episode. Inspirational 🙏

[@Twistfashion]

This really is life changing advice! Thank you so much for sharing!

[@jameshay8595]

These men are valuable to have on line. Learned a lot today from them.

[@Muhluri]

The podcast sets always look amazing

[@arteeejr]

The discipline equation discussed here is a powerful way to understand how our behaviors are influenced. It's all about balancing the importance of a goal, the psychological enjoyment we derive from pursuing it, and the psychological cost. This equation, as explained by Stephen, can apply to various aspects of our lives, from fitness to creative pursuits. It's a reminder that discipline often involves finding the right balance between these factors. Just as Mark Manson's quote highlights, it's crucial to consider what pain we're willing to endure in our pursuit of meaningful goals. This insight from Stephen resonates with me and echoes the teachings of @LisaHaisha, who emphasizes the importance of self-discovery and self-acceptance in our journey to live authentically and purposefully.

[@devikasahu5140]

Thank YOU SO MUCH ❤

[@calmlittlebuddy3721]

Two of the best interviewers in the Podcast Ecosystem face off LIVE across a table! Two men enter. No one leaves (for a few hours)!

[@mnyamande]

If pain tolerance exceeds the desire to quit...then that goal is worth pursuing

[@henriettegarijo9173]

Incredible!!! ❤🫀♥️ Thank you 💪🏼✨

[@faisalwattoo3100]

A friend of mine suggested ur channel,and I never regretted my decision

[@BrownestKoala]

I am a 66 y.o man who has lived a comfortable life and never had discipline or purpose that has been worth anything. After watching Steve's views on discipline, it has given me a different perspective and I'll be watching the full version of the interview, buying the book and looking at what I can do to add both discipline and value to what's left of my life. Thanks for the insight

[@shannenmcdonald1783]

Thoroughly enjoyed this topic and will definately use these technics

[@xBJxSnipe]

One of the best clips I’ve ever watched. I’d encourage everyone to use the matrix to assess different examples in your own life and then it will become clear why you’re not doing something. Then if you want to start doing it you have to address the 3 parts and make them easier/more enjoyable/ less costly.

[@ImangaliAmirtay]

The best canal to improving listening

[@allmarknobite8726]

Two of my favorite people right here. So looking forward to the full episode. Keep after it, wise sirs.

[@benfroughi]

Why would Steven be one of your favourite people? There's nothing to like about him. I don't get it at all.

[@allmarknobite8726]

@@benfroughi 😂

[@mkf628]

imagine having to work for the guy @@benfroughi

[@LumenMichaelOne]

7:48 ... You just described the moment when an elite athlete starts to self-question whether to continue ... when the "friction" starts to increase, and the "desire/reward" quotient wavers. Such is the case in all industries, fields and professions.

[@serban2139]

You can choose to go for what you want or not, but you don't choose what you want.

[@lukystarrk4life]

Great conversation between you both..

[@pascal8948]

Looking Forward for this!! Great people

[@markus19990316]

Love the equasion variables! One thing I would consider is instead of adding and subtracting, maybe you could use multiplying and dividing. That way the total effect is more compounding than linear, which seems like it could be the case.

[@on2a]

Came to say this exact thing. Still the principle holds! It could be discipline = (importance * enjoyment)/friction

[@teenafrench7236]

Great collaboration, love Steve...love this podcast 💛

[@monicabroniecki7624]

Chip on my shoulder because of being called stupid by my family and husband…. drove me to get my Masters and then a PhD. That was to prove to myself that I was OK. They tried to discourage me but I kept going. Driven. Left them in my dust. I was never the problem, they were. Revenge is a dish best served cold. I won.

[@yofinance1777]

The real flex in life is when you know you have nothing to prove. Atb

[@tbd407]

good BUT you have to realize that they don't care. so if it works for you, cool but you're the one having the experience so do it for yourself ONLY. There is no 'revenge'. their comments were throwaway. they won't come to worship you for proving them wrong. You can use their disses for motivation but only insofar as you find what YOU want to do for your own reasons and enjoyment. because that magical day where they say "oh we were so wrong about you" will never come and if that's the only thing that is keeping you doing what you're doing, that is a thin reason, a house of cards

[@royaluchennalevi6224]

@@tbd407faxxxx

[@danielcorsino]

Terrible that they’d discourage you I have also dealt with disgusting family.

[@gaznaz]

This was excellent and so true

[@MERCEDES_BMW_comunity]

Bro thank you ❤

[@syedijaz1208]

Anybody from Instagram 😅

[@thesuperstarexperience5139]

Wow cool video!! So insightful 😊🎉

[@46positivity]

Two of the best interviewers in the world, in my opinion.

[@robertoclemo5820]

Thanks!

[@azhaanebrahim4887]

Love the quote at the beginning💯

[@metalninja2474]

I like the sound of that equation, I'm going to apply to some personal aspects and see where it takes me. I wouldn't want to say I've been in a rut for a little bit, but I've recently got into a hamster wheel, so maybe it'll help with some sort of direction... something you've shown discipline in: 1. how much it matters - /10 2. enjoyment from the pursuit - /10 3. amount of friction involved - /10 (1+2)-3=

[@TheHumanMarvels]

Just remember the journey is tough, but so our you.

[@youngsuit]

the way I describe it has always been "you don't lack time, you lack prioritization"

[@tbd407]

that's good

[@johnong2655]

2 great minds meeting together is truly remarkable

[@benfroughi]

One great mind, and another random guy called Steven who is yet to have an intelligent thought in his life.

[@MrYounis26]

​@@benfroughiSteven is goated though

[@aliwilkinson2485]

I really connect to where Steven realised all the time management techniques were pointless without a core issue being addressed that facilities them all. I’ve come to the realisation that no amount of techniques for taking action and pursuing what you want to pursue are going to work if you don’t see a point to your self and life. If you perceive yourself as being utterly pointless, you will never see the point in any atomic habit, building and executing any routine, because the foundation is missing and it’s all inherently pointless. Your view of yourself has to be that you, and therefore improving you, are worth it and will mean anything in the world

[@333angeleyes]

But ultimately that (at least for me) is the BIGGEST cause for a lack of self discipline-the why. Why is this important? Why does this benefit me? Why should I keep enduring discomfort to achieve this? It is easy to say that exercise, eating healthy, saving for retirement, et cetera all will benefit you a few months or, a few years in the future but, THAT'S THE PROBLEM! All those benefits will not immediately be seen and humans need to experience immediately rewards and validations to continue to do something; especially something uncomfortable.

[@Sully_one]

​@@333angeleyesSo here the why is the regret that you will feel after years of neglecting that part because it didn't give you short term reward. Which is one of the biggest pains you can experience in your life, regret. Knowing that you could have been so much, but you were too "lazy" & "unmotivated" to become it. Life is very comfortable in the modern time, the exact reason why we have so many depressed and sad people Because they held on to their comfort for so long, that over time they don't have anything going on in their life. Nothing to persue, nothing to wake up excited for, shameful to look at themselves in the mirror Pick your hard. Do it now because that's the only time that you get to choose.

[@abhayarade]

Amazing, thanks...

[@dnyhan]

Fascinating insights 👍

[@Farhaan_Enigmatic]

You are amazing ❤

[@LancasterAcademyofBrandDesign]

Got to say, Steven's equation makes a lot of sense. At least for me.

[@farzaanaatifshaikh9025]

Awesome video

[@Ta7awouL]

Great episode ! Discipline path to success . Abdelillah Saggay , tech content creator from Morocco !

[@janrt1735]

how to build unbreakable discipline = turn off internet in your life

[@Xudoyberdi_Ismoilov_777]

Bravo bro👏👏👏

[@GK-qc5ry]

When you get direct rewards for your input correlating with the output, you'll grind.

[@guardianwaldo]

You to are great and doing great work

[@pea1973]

Great video

[@klinx888]

The two GOATS having a conversation. Let’s gooooo 🐐

[@mkf628]

🤣get a life

[@ShreepsOgHU]

​@@mkf628"NAmE TeN BOoKS"

[@nurmukhammadakhmadjanov3105]

keep doing that

[@yanickp9973]

What a great pair of minds

[@mkf628]

egos.

[@sebaesquetini]

Great, great, great!!!

[@oceanspear34red75]

Your emotions dgaf about your results! Keep grinding and the rest will follow. You got this!

[@krischy1]

Chris, think about how it all started with “Scotty doean’t know”. Started as a shallow soundtrack and became so profound understanding about relationships

[@rootsquared383]

YOOO RICH ROLL FOLLOWED BY STEVEN BARTLETT? CHRIS IS KILLING IT HOLY SHIT CONGRATS BROOOO 🎉🎉

[@andrewjenson_original]

Question: what is a good product recommendation for the device that Chris mentions about reducing his friction for recording his podcast episodes? Thanks.

[@zicero7474]

"He who has a why can bear almost any how" // Friedrich Nietzsche

[@Tony-in7ti]

The profound message in this podcast should not be underestimated. Fucking go get yours!!!

[@NGAOPC]

Actually starting into Junger’s “On Pain” this morning 😊

[@dipanjansaha8399]

@Chris Williamson , Hey Chris !! 07:48 , You guys were talking about Steven’s Meditation Practice, How his Why wasn't Strong enough !! & the evidence on meditation as well (It was incomplete). Could you Clarify more on it , specially more on the “evidence part of meditation” ? Thanks !!

[@eebags1]

Steven lives in Represent 😍

[@biddybop8515]

Discipline, Discipline,Discipline 🧡

[@elsbells.]

Does it start as you loving the goal & its journey (no matter the sacrifice), then in time you ultimately loving the outcomes of the goal more... & doing the prev. steps to maintain the goal knowing they are obligatory, so less loved.

[@JakeBop1]

Steven's comments about having 24 chips a day is the same metaphor, in essence, as when Molly Mae said about all having the same 24 hours in a day - yet here it goes completely unnoticed and no one bats an eye. Why I very much respect him for defending her against the backlash. Good video, good talk and a good insight!

[@I_membahh]

Them: bro wanna pod cast about it, yea man cuz chillin has to be this now, “this too shall pass”

[@asdfdc1946]

i fw with this guy.

[@StimParavane]

The path is the goal.

[@ilia2178]

We do this risk reward assessment subconsciously all the time. Going back it would be "how important is it that I get to this honey in order not to starve" vs "how many bee stings am I willing to take for it". That decision would have been made almost instantly. Now days, I'm guessing none of the viewers are starving and bee stings are quite abstract.

[@SirAdamMeek]

My two favorite hosts collide!

[@Creative_girl519]

Please upload video with subtitles

[@estonian44]

note: i think there are like X different type of people, for some this work, for others some1 elses method works, try and test until u find out what works for u, and in some cases, works today, but when u down, then it dosent work, so find what works when u are down. very cool

[@jrwsaranac]

I think the discipline of enduring the grind you choose is very different, but no more admirable or remarkable, that the grind and pain imposed upon one because of circumstance.

[@signupboy2004]

I agree the what is accomplished is equally impressive. However if you are driven by negative emotion then your why may not be ultimately conducive to long term mental and physical health.

[@jcv9785]

Something is missing from the discipline equation, which is the perceived ability to achieve the desired goal: your sense of hope and the belief that the pursuit ultimately will be fruitful.

[@VishuGupta-dq1dh]

Who is come from Instagram 😅

[@jaimenavarrogutierrez6337]

It's about pain reallocation. Imagine a box: On one side you have the pain associated with hard work, discipline, training, commitment... On the other side you have the pain associated with sucking, laziness, not living up to your potential. The bar can move towards either side but it's not about getting rid of pain, but about how much of each kind of pain are you willing to take.

[@itzGyaljen]

Can anybody help with chris asking steve of death part.What is it referring to? Plzz😅

[@ilmac5125]

if you're here then congratulations on your first step to the best of you

[@ClaudeMiddleton-oc4iz]

- “The most important question to ask is what pain do you want in your life, what are you willing to struggle for? Anything worthwhile is going to require some degree of pain and struggle, so if your oriented towards the pain and struggle your probably going to be more aligned with what your capable of accomplishing, rather than if you just orientate towards the pleasures” - Mark Manson - Discipline Equation: Discipline = The importance of the goal + the psychological enjoyment you get in the pursuit of the goal - the psychological cost of the pursuit of the goal - If you want to do achieve a goal you can put things in the way of your daily life that would force you to complete and progress you further towards your goal (Ex. Steven Barlett wanted to be a DJ but wouldn’t put any practice into it then he put his DJ kit in the kitchen and every time he went to eat he’d be reminded of it and end up going for 4 hours without even realizing it) - Make it as easy as possible to do or to start doing - Are you driven or are you drove, are you trying to prove someone who said you’ll never do something wrong or are you trying to prove someone who supported you right?

[@zappbrannigan9790]

*save to watch later*

[@ianb9568]

Wow, really interesting episode. I would even add social conformity (+) or social resistance (-) could be added to the discipline equation. Social pressure is a powerful extrinsic force in its own right. Like if you agree.

[@jegedesamuel6932]

Great podcast. I wish you would let the guest land his thoughts, uninterrupted.

[@cole6383]

Im convinced Steven and Chris are the same person in a Parallel universe.

[@benfroughi]

Chris is an admirable man. Steven is not.

[@tasfiquesaber7934]

And then there's David Goggins lmao, friction is 10/10 for him, enjoyment? Wtf is that! Running miles at 3 am saying, "they don't know me son" 😂 nobody can inspire me more than Goggins! ❤

[@tasibho]

When man becomes desperate or uncomfortable ,progress begins.- Dr Dk Olukoya

[@tempname882]

The "pain" argument is not transferable nor a static framework. If ever you want to consider using it, it has to be dynamic. Pain or resilience thresholds are different for many people. And they benefit and hinder different aspects. We complicate sh*t way to much. If you honestly believe/know that, it must/should be done or that you need/want it, you'll actually do it. Using the rubbish bin example; if you do not want to sit in a house of sh*t and disgust, then you will clean your f-ing house. You also know, it needs to be done otherwise x,y,z cost will be incurred.

[@ArnoFx1]

where can i find the clip where chris says consistent doesnt gurantee success

[@peytonpdx]

Surreal interview since these are basically the same guy.

[@user-hp6md8zl9t]

U are a true grit pair of jen say ot as it is wich is honestly driving .

[@JoshKings-tr2vc]

Dopamine - Limbic Friction Motivation is the initial dopaminergic indicator for pursuit. Pleasure from pursuing a task is the continuous outflow of dopamine. Limbic friction is just a word used for the hump of commencing a task.

[@JoshKings-tr2vc]

I like how he philosophically organized it. (Big Why)+(Enjoyment; which I would say is correlated with Big Why)-(Resistance). Meaning, underlying all this, Nietzsche’s quote stands true: “with a large enough why, a man can endure any how.”

[@JoshKings-tr2vc]

Also explains why most people who are worse off strive to be better. Their why is much more painful than other people’s. That’s when they got their lows and strive to go further. And pain will biologically stick to memory harder than pleasure.

[@varalikamishra9218]

Can someone explain me what they mean by psychological cost and the friction in their conversation?

[@moozan3422]

Procrastination is not lazy

[@petervdh24]

What represent shirt is that?

[@kriswyche]

is it bad to be dragged instead of driven ?