Mom Loses Her Child From Overdose

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Thank your so much Buck for sharing your space and time to allow me to share our story. I have no doubt in my mind that Kenny, Kaylah wants me to continue to raise awareness for other children, teens, and young adults to not be wrongly diagnosed, over and mis prescribed, and later ending in tragedy’s for underlying and unhealed trauma. Thank you for all you share and do to speak up for the mature generations. Abundant love and many healing blessings to anyone that needs it 🙏🏽💗🙏🏽

[@reneeb8347]

Thank you for sharing your story. Much love and healing my friend ❤

[@MariaWitlof]

Thank you so much for sharing your story 😢❤

[@BuckAngelOfficial]

Thank you my friend! We all appreciate you so much❤❤❤

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

@@BuckAngelOfficial We all appreciate you too Buck! Keep up the amazing work Supa Stars! It’s OUR time to rise and shine! 🤜🏼 🌟 🤛🏽 P.S. for the record that is supposed to say thank you for all you share and do to speak up for the FUTURE generations, but apparently I’m not allowed to edit the two letters at the beginning of MAture to change it to FUture. Crazy devices 🤣 🤦‍♀️ Much love beautiful Souls.

[@Tread1775]

Thank you for sharing Heather. The Sun always rises.✌️

[@BuckAngelOfficial]

Thank you to Heather for talking with me about such a difficult topic. Your story will help others. Leave some love for Heather in the comments! Love, Buck

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Thank You so much Buck for all You do, share and are BroStar! Much love and many blessings. Keep up the amazing work. It’s helping more people than we know. Keep on keeping on. P.S. I heard the Angels love it when we sing and dance so keep on rockin in the free world. They know exactly what we need when we need it. This couldn’t have happened at a more divine time. 10-10-2023 is an Angelic portal and the day Pluto stationed direct before Friday the 13 and a New Moon ring of fire eclipse. My sweet Kaylah ascended on 9-9-2020. The number nine represents completion 🕯️ 🙏🏽 👼 October is Child Loss Awareness Month. World healing is coming my friends.

[@dannabanana52]

I’m a 50 year old mom who found your channel because I have a kid in this generation going through the era… I knew who you were 30 years ago and I never imagined that you’d be an ally of children. Not that I thought you were bad, but I never thought I’d tell my kids listen to Buck Angel! 😂🎉😂 You’re a light in the dark for real.

[@dannabanana52]

Oh mom, I’m so sorry. I left my comment before I heard your story. I wasn’t making light. I have been where you were, I can only say circumstances were what made a difference. We supported, there was a diagnosis, there were close attempts. It just had a different outcome. Buck, kids born at that time had no time to live as a butch woman. It would just be starting now. I wanted my kid to just be gay. So far she’s not transitioning as a young adult but I can honestly say at the time I wouldn’t have traded death to trans. We just want our kids to live. Mom, I didn’t mean to joke during such a real topic. My response didn’t seem to come through.

[@DocBree13]

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[@JenniferMcMahonhawaii78]

The amount of abuse when it comes to drug abuse in trans; needs to be discussed more

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

I agree wholeheartedly about all of the abuse that needs talked about and addressed, especially drugs and alcohol abuse. There is healing and hope with honesty, and willingness.

[@TheDanyell13]

I think we also forget that the hormones themselves are very strong drugs on their own, mixed with street drugs sounds incredibly bad and obviously is.

[@DragonsOfSnow]

​@@solace_willowSounds like you're seriously projecting. Hit a nerve, I assume. When the majority of kids and young people "transitioning" now (pretty much ALL who have other MI's and/or substance abuses), how can you deny there isn't a problem that has nothing to do with trans? That's just irresponsible as hell. People who are genuinely secure about themselves and/or the decisions they're making in life don't tend to get defensive about other people's opinions of them or what they choose to do. They just live their life. If this truly bothers you, some serious self-reflection may be in order.

[@katoe908]

⁠@@solace_willowno, it’s so that we can be knowledgeable about everything pertaining to this topic and make sure healthcare is as top notch as it can possibly be. ignoring important stuff like this because you think it might make you look bad is only harming trans healthcare.

[@beckywarwick8691]

⁠@@solace_willow- it’s not about being wrong ABOUT yourselves, it’s about identifying the self abuse and disassociation that results from trauma. I was lucky enough to see Dr Maté talk in London last month. He presents compelling explanations of how these are clearly linked in many cases. Dr Maté speaks of this in ‘Hold on to your kids’. Chapter ‘The Making of Bullies and Victims’ is especially relevant. It’s essential to understand why each individual child is compelled to identify as the opposite sex. If an individual can love and prioritize themself, they make positive choices, instead of destructive ones. Sometimes transition is a positive choice, but often it’s part of self rejection and punishment. Trauma and addiction are a huge instigator of destructive transitions. All transitions are not the same.

[@May_003]

When she started showing pictures of her daughter i couldn't contain my tears anymore - my heart BROKE and hurts for this strong, beautiful woman. sending lots of healing, love and prayers

[@bernardosantosvieira3230]

One of the most heartbreaking yet beautiful Conversations I’ve heard in a while.

[@Eirinen_E34]

Thank you, Buck, for having this lovely lady on to tell her story about her daughter. This was a very important conversation. Thank you. Much love to you, and I wish this lady much love and most of all peace. ❤

[@kaliyugaBK369]

Buck, you are a light unto this world.

[@kaliyugaBK369]

Buck, you are a light u to this world.

[@HaveFaith_11]

I am a child rape & DV survivor. From 5 to 11 years old I was raped, groomed, abused, sold, & brainwashed by my uncle. When bad things were happening to me I would disassociate. I still have flashbacks, C-PTSD, & anxiety. It has taken me along time to get where I’m at. I had to go through therapy, realizing I didn’t ask for it or deserve what happened to me, & forgave the monsters. I was a tomboy. I dressed in baggy clothing so no one would look at me. I developed at 9 years old & I was so embarrassed 😬. I’m so thankful my mom didn’t take me to get my boobs cut off when I asked her. My parents let me go through many phases to find myself. When you numb your emotions you can’t feel pain or happiness. To feel pain is healing. You have to heal before you go through a huge life changing decision. Everyone heals differently & that’s OKAY. We will continue to heal & grow all our lives. You are not alone! You are strong & brave. Sending so much love to anyone who’s reading this & going through something. ❤

[@DocBree13]

I’m so sorry you went through all of that! I wish for your healing and happiness. ❤

[@rebeccao8895]

Thank you, Heather for coming on to tell us what happened to your daughter. It’s so important that people know about this. ♥️

[@susanlivingston743]

God Bless this woman, and her Daughter!❤

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Thank You bless You too 🙏🏽

[@reneeb8347]

Thank you Heather and Buck. This was a powerful conversation

[@JenWick]

Thank you so much for sharing your story, Heather. I'm so very sorry you lost your daughter. In a way, I have as well. My daughter came out as trans when all her friends did. I was so confused and scared. I tried to get her help with a few therapists, but they only affirmed her. She doesn't even have gender dysphoria. Her doctor offered her testosterone, but I put a stop to that. I wanted her to go slow about it all, but I didn't accept everything at her pace. Now she's 18 and wants nothing to do with me. I miss her so much. 😭😭😭

[@kokochono5054]

Hey, I’m sorry you’ve lost connection with your daughter. It was hard for my mom and I, and I nearly cut her off but we found a middle ground and she accepted my decision even if I ended up regretting it later. I actually just discovered I’m not trans, and i apologized to her about how I reacted and I see now why she wanted me to slow down. It’s hard to see our parents as trying to love us instead of prevent us as being ourselves, especially with your whole friend group is queer and uses TikTok tok as their end all be all for what it means to be trans. They shove down their friends throats that your parents are trans phobic if they don’t act a specific way. Peers have a huge influence on us as kids. I am sending you hugs. Sometimes, it’s really best to meet your kid half way so they’re in your life and you can be there to support them when they have that fall out. I don’t care that my mom was right about me not actually being trans, what I cared about was how she handled it. But I get not all kids have that same rationality as me or the close relationship with their mom as I have. Hang in there.

[@JenWick]

@@kokochono5054 Thank you. I really appreciate your response. I actually did everything my daughter asked of me including calling her by a name that I didn't give her. That was the hardest for me because her name means so much to me. But I gave in because I want her in my life and I love her. After she left and were still on talking terms, I'd ask her to go do stuff together. She kept turning me down and it broke my heart every time. People used to tell me to let her go cuz she would keep hurting me. As her mother that didn't feel right. This is my baby, my once girly princess who used to be my shadow. And now that she's gone, I feel like I've lost my purpose. I've told her many times that if this was something she still wanted as an adult I'd be right there with her every step of the way. And I would feel different if I knew that her being Trans made her happy. But I could see she wasn't. It's been a year since she left and I don't get to know her. I don't know what more I could have done.

[@kokochono5054]

@@JenWick I’m sorry. I’m sending you hugs if you want any. That really sucks. Sometimes it isn’t always about you not doing enough. Peers work against parents in our society, zero respect or empathy for parents, and they hold more power over youth even in our 20s. My brain didn’t click and understand my mom until like 25 and I’m STILL slowly learning as someone 27 why her choices for me as a kid made sense and m actually thankful for them. It seems you did enough, and not all the responsibility is on you. Relationships are 2 way streets.

[@kokochono5054]

@@JenWick and I don’t think I’d have gotten here if I didn’t step away from the extreme queer community and friends. I found more mentally stable people whose cultures valued their parents opinions and it changed my relationship with my mother drastically . She still drives me UP THE WALL but I’m more respectful about it lol

[@JenWick]

@@kokochono5054 I'm so happy it worked out for your family. I remember talking to my daughter about her listening to her friends instead of me, her mom. There's one particular friend of my daughter's that really had an impact about them both being trans. I didn't like her the first time I met her, but I knew I couldn't say anything because that would just push my daughter closer to her. I don't know if they still keep in touch, but when her friend came to my daughters 18 birthday party she was now wearing makeup and went by she/her and he/him. I'm glad you understand your mom did everything because she loves you. I tried explaining it to my daughter, but she doesn't see anything my way. Sending hugs to you and your family as well.

[@jayg7435]

This is such an amazing interview. Heather is so strong. As a mother, I don't think I could survive the death of any of my children. Thank you for interviewing people like Heather

[@susanlivingston743]

Hi, I lost my Daughter last year she was 45, I literally was with her when she took her first breath, and last breath. I watched her die,for Over a month in the hospital. She suffered from lupus from age 22yr. I lost part of myself, For my other 2 children, whom are adults, I live with my youngest Daughter and her Family 2 little girls.8yr.and 2yr. If it wasn't for them, I would be gone. God Bless you and Your Family!

[@Sanroccostudio]

I havent stopped crying since this video started. I'm a mess lol That lady deserves all the love, healing and hugs this world can give her. She's a beautiful human. x

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Big hugs and love to you. Thank you. 🫂💗🫂

[@Ethentent]

Buck, you are a hero. Thank you for all you do.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Buck thank You so much again. I truly cannot believe a lot of the things happening in this world anymore……. We need people like you to continue to stand up, speak up, and the changes needed will come forth to heal this world. Blessings beyond belief to You and Yours and whoever is reading this. You are amazing and beautiful. Keep shining Supa Stars 💃 💫 🕺 P.S. I heard the Angels love it when We sing and dance. All heaven applauds. 🙌🏽

[@angelalejzerowicz9670]

I completely agree about putting in place Pre-Op requirements such as counseling, consistently seeing their doctor, ext. My Auntie had an intense year of that was just for Gastric Bypass Surgery!!

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

I totally agree and there should be a family support system involved that knows what exactly is taking place also. Thank You. Blessing to you and yours 🙏🏽

[@skyofthelivingdead]

Thank you so much for this video. I lost both my childhood best friend and another close friend that I considered to be my older brother less than a year apart to fentanyl overdoses. They were only 26 and 33 years old, respectively. Both had been hooked on heroin for nearly a decade before they died and had significant trauma in their past. My best friend died in the hospital when her parents took her off of life support, my big brother died alone. It can literally be anyone from any walk of life who gets caught up in this terrible disease. It’s so very important to spread awareness that the majority of people who turn to drugs, do so to self-medicate their pain. They need help. So many misconceptions about people with addiction that need to be debunked.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

So very sorry for your losses to addiction. 🙏🏽💗🙏🏽

[@Cass-es5kl]

Stand strong. Im sending you thoughts and prayers

[@MsJimmysgirl]

OMG. I had no idea that planned parenthood has joined in on the madness of giving out hormones like candy. If insurance or government assistance programs, would go back to requiring psychological therapy prior to allowing any kind of medical transition, this madness would stop. Bless your heart Heather, whatever you have to do to deal with the loss of your daughter, that is your grief and no one else's.

[@shereeroth191]

Dear Buck, I just watched the talk on A Slightly Twisted Female, the comments were so brutal towards you! Raw hamburger and outlash with no regard or room to actually listen to the banter between you and Brittany is totally disrespectful! You will always be a he to me, as Blaire White will always be a she to me, not out of respect but because of seeing who you both truly are. It takes great courage to carry on, but I implore you to always be a warrior and stand for what is right! Angel is a good name to describe you, as you are like Michael with your sword, fighting for justice, not afraid as the mission is worth more than the conclusion! Keep fighting for all of us, you are a great hero to me, as Blaire and Marcus and many of the alternative media I follow, this world needs a new perspective, based on morals...... believe it or not, I am not religious by my commentary, but deeply spiritual.

[@May_003]

i couldn't even finish watching the video. this hits home as a female who felt dysphoria as a kid but didn't transition. the fact that all this could happen to a young girl breaks my heart. i'm crying my eyes out right now this is so heavy. sending so much love and strength to this wonderful mother. she did the best she could for her child. sending kisses to heaven to her guardian angel, that'll always be with her, protecting her. god, my words feel so little rn.

[@fionahorsley908]

Thank you Heather for sharing and sorry for your loss. People need to hear about this and learn from it. Stay strong! Thank you Buck for having Heather on your channel !

[@JenAmazed42]

About turning emotions off or trying to get rid of them or covering them up with substance, let's try and remember that if you can't feel the bad, the negative, the pain, you also cannot feel the joy, the happiness, the hope even. We can't have one and not the other.

[@hnybee113]

I deal with extreme anxiety and meds do mess with me. I had a real suicidal breakdown. As in I had extreme suicidal thoughts that weren't leaving. I know it was triggered by being over medicated for covid, anxiety and my parents being sick. Ugh. That poor mom and That 21 year old human. So brave to share.

[@AngelaWNC2]

4 minutes in and all I can say is, God Bless this lady and I’m lifting you and your family up in prayer 🙏. I couldn’t imagine losing my baby girl 😢❤. Thank you for the the strength to speak up about your tragedy.

[@nikkiwielert77]

Kylie loved Kenny so much and still does.

[@ladyfreeflow]

Love that kid so so much, and still do. ❤️‍🩹

[@JenAmazed42]

Heather, God bless you. I cannot imagine what you're going through. I think you may be exactly right that Kenny felt more powerful and safer as a male❤ I am so sorry for all the devastating things that you and your child experienced. I'm just so sorry. ❤ I pray that your child is at peace. I pray peace and comfort for you. I'm also a recovering addict and I have children and several loved ones who are either in recovery or active addiction. I'm so scared of fentanyl. We have lost so many. Anyway. I'm rambling. I just want you to know that you're in my prayers and I have so much empathy for you and your precious child. God love you both❤

[@cpeffer2009]

I lost my husband due to a pill that was laced with Fentanyl last year and I have struggled with the guilt of not picking up something was wrong at first. But I know I did everything I could in his situtaion but it was just too much for him unforuntately. I’m new to your channel and am glad there is more awareness for how bad the problems with fentanly is getting. I’m a crisis counsleor for The Trevor Project and love being able to support those in this community ❤

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

I’m so very sorry for your loss. It’s very sad what is happening. 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹🙏🏽

[@JenAmazed42]

Thank you so much, Heather, for taking the time and energy to tell use about your precious child. You've shared an important message about getting to the root of the conflicts within ourselves before we take more drastic action. Youve educated us about how important it is to seek a substance free mind to get a proper diagnosis. You've shared a lot of important things in this interview and I am truly thankful for that. I appreciate you. Again, I am so sorry that you lost your child, in the physical. I'm glad that she's your guardian angel and that she's helping you to stand up for the kids. You're a good mother, Heather. Your love for your child is very obvious. ❤

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

🙏🏽💗🙏🏽

[@hnybee113]

KAYLAH as an empath I just feel your grief and heartbreak. YOU are sooooo brave and courageous. YOU HAVE DONE THE WORK. I can tell. I suffer from CPTSD from a narcissist dad who I now have to live with for financial reasons and to help take care of my folks. I am so triggered that I attempted to leave this planet. But love saved me. I am so sorry for your loss.

[@Jezzebella13]

Very interesting..thank you Buck and Heather!!

[@elettramia6380]

As always searching to see if Buck made a new video and he delivered as always. I’m sorry for this mothers loss. And I’m glad she is finding strength within her daughters death to advocate for other young, vulnerable people. Just know you’re daughter would be proud of what you’re doing to help others 💗

[@Littlemoo403]

Sending love to Heather ❤😊

[@kimberlygabaldon3260]

Thank you, Buck, and Heather.

[@BuckAngelOfficial]

❤️

[@kimberlygabaldon3260]

@@BuckAngelOfficial @9:30 yes. I had the same thoughts. I thought that males would be impenetrable, or at least would not be targets. Then learned differently when males who were very dear to me were attacked. One difference was that my attackers were not anyone close to the family, so abuse was not ongoing.

[@maryanntrammell1952]

This one hit me close. Heather I am so sorry for your loss and commend you having the strength to speak about YOUR experience. Sending love and prayers❤

[@MissDaisy-jr8vt]

Great conversation, especially hearing from a mom and a trans-man ❤ Great work. Thank you for your story. God bless you. God bless you. God BLESS YOU!!!!!

[@JenAmazed42]

Hey, anyone who reads this, I'm in my feelings and hearing Heather has me in even deeper. I just want you to know that you're loved. You're valuable. You're needed. No matter what we are all going through, if we stick together, we will be stronger. You have a friend here and friends in this community that Buck has built and is building. I'm a Christian who believes in God and the power of prayer. To me, praying is the best gift you can give anyone. I'm not trying to push my religion on anyone. But I believe that I can ask God to help you and to take care of you and HE will. With all the love, I pray for any of you who are in need of anything. If you pray, please pray for me. No matter who you are, I love you and I care about you and I want you to thrive. You're valuable and important.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

You are so loved too SiStar. Never forget that. 🙏🏽💗🙏🏽

[@JenAmazed42]

@@ladyspellbreaker1313 thank you so much. I really do appreciate that ❤️

[@sheerbeauty]

Lady Spell Breaker is a strong and healing human being and mother, talking through her pain and enduring unimaginable negative barriers. I truly believe her story of her child will help others who are in similar situations, to not head down that road to the ultimate end. It in no way takes away from those who genuinely have gender dysphoria, or obstructs their path. It is meant to be a caution to those who are whirling through all sorts of confusion and pain, to understand that testosterone is not going to change you into a person *who doesn't have that past* . Taking opposite sex hormones does not reset you as a person. It's not like rolling a new D&D character that starts from scratch. Heather, I'm so sorry you went through all that and that your child went through all that. She was just trying to escape and she didn't understand what was happening. Nobody did.

[@orcashadow8989]

This is tragic on so many levels. I can't imagine being Heather. The guilt of marrying the child's abuser (which she should NOT blame herself for, because she didn't know!! But I can understand why she did, even though I'm not a mother, I feel like it was be impossible not to feel that way), seeing her child struggle more and more, going through grief two times, (losing her/him as a daughter, then in death)... I can't even fathom being in her shoes. Heather, you are strong as hell. Thank you for sharing your story and your child with us. I do feel like she/he may have been legitimately trans, but that is something we will never know for sure. It was something he/she needed more time to figure out, mainly after getting therapy and off of drugs. In my opinion, it all comes down to one thing that ended her life. It was the abuse of her father. The result of harming a child has a snowballing affect that can end up costing a life. May Kaylah/Kenny rest in peace. It sounds like she is looking out for you. She was so lucky to have had you as a mother.

[@llkoolbean4935]

So much trauma. There's so many kids being abused. Thank you for sharing this with us.😢❤

[@reannfrantz9102]

Luv you so much, Buck. Keep doing your thing. You are doing great work.

[@1976mcfarlane]

Thank you for sharing your story, Heather.

[@-_oOtianaOo_-]

Please please come to California to speak out. I wish i could homeschool my kids but i am a single mom so they have to go in. Only people with money can speak up here because us poor people have to worry about our kids getting legally kidnapped if we speak up. They can take our kids away for anything and if you dont have good lawyer than your SOL.

[@Wild_flower_415]

Incredible interview❤

[@penneycason9269]

37 years with my beloved is a story. 1994 sex change. I traveled to pick her up. I’m talking interstate travel. No Internet. It’s tale to be told. 💜

[@jamisonfawkes8537]

thank you heather and thank you buck. sending the utmost love and respect to you both ❤️❤️

[@milliewoo337]

35:12 BRING IT UP AND GET IT OUT. Amen. THAT is the wisdom that is being missed by so many. You need to feel your pain to heal it: the only way out is through

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

You got it! The only way out is THROUGH! 🤜🏼🌟🤛🏽

[@darcichambers6184]

I will be praying for Heather, her story is both important and unfortunately sad. It is one of the things I've been most worried about. Because I have bi-polar 1 with phycosis, I care a lot about mental heath care for all, and mental health advocate for patients. I also have been vocal against transition and kids. I am a tomboy but the logic of this movement would say I must be a man, but I worked that out long ago, I'm just bisexual. I have huge problems with all transitions that are done today. I want to see therapy set for a minimum time before transition. Stop making kids mental heath worse by trying to treat a mental health issues by disfiguring thier bodies.

[@karatyson8234]

As others, I have supported Planned Parenthood in the past (although I am extremely uncomfortable with its eugenics history). This is NOT the mission of the organization. This was an individual who needed mental help, not testosterone. Why are these doctors ignoring serious issues that cannot be fixed changing gender??

[@liverbirdxoxo1984]

god bless you buck… you are a credit to everyone…

[@kimberlygabaldon3260]

Thank you so much, Heather. Your story is very relatable, on many levels. I'm so very sorry for your loss. She was lucky to have you. It sounds like it was all just too much for her to bear. 💕

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Thank you. It was too much for her to handle. Big hugs, love and healing 🫂💗🫂

[@bbybrt524]

Hi Buck, new to your channel. I'd like to thank you for sharing your story as well as others. You are such a genuine person. I have been binge watching your interviews and other videos here. You are just so wholesome. I thank god you have been brought onto this earth. You are just amazing!

[@queensweet5900]

Beautiful Smile Heather your glowing Light shining through . Thank You for sharing your story needed in a number of ways so many levels. The love and wisdom comes through your eyes..a very deep Soul. Sorry for Your daughter and im sure her Spirit is still glowing..Love never dies.

[@evangeline77x]

There are so many glaring red flags in Kenny's story; Early childhood abuse, early life instability/parental conflict and trauma during the formative years, an unstable, fractured identity exhibited in early childhood, life long general dysphoria, dissociation, documented history of substance abuse/long term self medicating, a documented history of induced psychosis, multiple complex commorbid mental illness diagnoses, extremely disordered behaviors (and the list goes on and on!)... There was so much happening that should have precluded Kenny from ever being prescribed something as dangerous as testosterone. Especially without long term, intensive psychiatric care and strict medical supervision. But that's the horrific reality of who is actually recieving these "life saving" treatments. Desperate, broken people seeking help and the system is designed to let them fall through the cracks. It's heartbreaking.

[@jeanetteeast7343]

What a heart breaking story. My condolences,prayers and so much love to Heather and her family ❤

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Thank you beloved 🙏🏽💗🙏🏽

[@lindsayshea]

Great interview as always Buck ❤ sending love and good vibes to both of you 🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@Nina_Sophia]

The human brain continues to grow until somewhere between the ages of 23 and 25. Numerous age related laws and policies need to be reevaluated and changed.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Thank you for that age confirmation. I am in full agreement about reevaluating laws and therapy for the safety of EVERYONE even considering hormone replacement therapy.

[@Nina_Sophia]

​@@ladyspellbreaker1313The ways in which people's lives can be affected are so vast, from hormone therapy and sexual reassignment surgeries to smoking tobacco and joining the military, or criminal cases involving felony charges as an "adult". And there are so many more. Most of which affect people for the rest of their lives.

[@Eirinen_E34]

Agree with you 💯

[@_crazy_daisy_]

"I have such a deep bond with my child" didn't notice that she was sexually abused by her father...

[@stargirl6992]

Hey Buck just wanna say how much i absolutely ADORE you in every way! And love all the work you do to help people and for the youth and I wish you were my dad or uncle or something lol youre so awesome. Lots of love from Steph in Australia xox ❤ xox 🇦🇺

[@shereeroth191]

Thank you Heather for sharing your story, truly heartbreaking. I was abused by a family member, as I child I thought that if I were a boy, it never would have happened. Happy I was born in 1962, or I would have been very confused being a child now.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

I’m so very sorry that happened to you beloved. I hope you have found peace and healing in your life. 🙏🏽💗🙏🏽

[@shereeroth191]

@@ladyspellbreaker1313 I have, thank you 💗

[@jujutrini8412]

Yeah I do think it’s common for girls to think that way if they have experienced something like that when they are a child. It’s also common to hate your own body or appearance too because it’s a way of self blame. Eating disorders and self medicating for victims when they grow up happens a lot too. It totally screws up how a person perceives themselves.

[@angelnoel5464]

I just got notified again! I guess the algorithm is working again

[@Krinsta1]

Thank you for this interview. I think the early sexual abuse is the cause of the death of Kayla/Kenny. Poor Heather I hope that things improve for her.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

I believe the early sex abuse played a huge part in Kaylah’s life, drug use, and choices later. I know my own abuse trauma played a huge part in my alcoholism and addictions. Testosterone surely didn’t help the situation at all. The underlying issues and trauma need addressed in order to truly heal. Much love 🙏🏽💗🙏🏽

[@Krinsta1]

@ladyspellbreaker13 it sounds like everything snowballed into one big mess. The thing is, you did the very best you could do at the time, and that's all anyone can do.

[@valkyrie1066]

You have to be emotionally prepared for the hormones. With several trans pals, I have seen and. Too much causes stress, and aggression, depression. Too much too soon....and on developing teen psyches....dear Gods don't get me started on how much more difficult that is combined with drug abuse. We are all kinda emotional trainwrecks for a while. I was VERY undecided as a teen. Looking back as an old woman; my biggest problem was with gender ROLES, not gender itself. I didn't push pink or dolls on my child. They could choose clothing as they liked, sometimes to ridiculous extremes...it's only clothing. They chose the toys and tools that interested them and the colors and arts as they chose. They are happy with themselves and secure. Also uncomfortable about the gender ROLES; and in the stage where it is time to figure out which is the problem on their own. I am content with their final decision; however, insist on internal research and introspection. If that isn't the problem then surgery and hormones won't fix it. Buck, you're my hero and sex symbol for a long time! I do respect and support your decisions, and VALUE your input!! I want to give this mom so very many hugs. It's.....complicated.♥♥♥

[@Mel.H_]

So sorry for your loss, Heather 💔

[@TheHeroicHunter]

Heather my heart truly goes out to you! Buck it’s so crazy to me to know how similar the states and Canada are when it comes to hrt. Would love to chat one day with you!!

[@emilys1255]

Great interview. I have the same coping mechanism, appearing as a guy to push straight men away. I, a female, present as a crossdresser/nonbinary/gendernonconforming. I would not transition tho. My chest and hips are small enough that I make a good boi. 😃 Kenny may still have been trans despite trauma. I know I am still this way, a she, but preferring a more boyish look. Questioning at 19 but by 21 decided I have too many mental health issues to transition. God rest Kenny/Kayla's soul.

[@BigAngelEyes]

Wow 😢

[@liverbirdxoxo1984]

aww heather…. im so so sorry… i hope you know thats not lip service… i truly mean it… heartbreaking what kids are going through… i hope shes now at peace… xo thank u buck ❤

[@LIMITLESSFEMALE]

Love you heather!!!!

[@1timeuser0904]

I was molested from ?-11 (I kinda don’t remember), but I wanted ti he a boy for a long time. I started dressing feminine after he died. From puberty and up, I dressed like a boy.

[@blondewriter99]

I don't really understand how people can inject so many hormones and be okay (including you, Buck, no offense). After a miscarriage my hormone levels were extremely high and I had to have them checked every week. Then I went on bc, making them higher, and for the first time ever, experienced major depression. Additionally, I decided against estrogen for perimenopause because of the higher risk of breast cancer. Hormones are nothing to mess with.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

I’m sure it truly is not healthy at all . I try to have an all natural diet myself and keep my female hormones balanced with my own monthly cycle and hormone flip. I would NEVER even want to take testosterone. I have enough rage issues with my cPTSD from abuse trauma I would never want to say to it. Thank You for sharing.

[@August_Fields]

I was looking for a link to Heather's channel or some way to follow up with her.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

I think you can just follow it from a comment. 💗

[@shawn20768]

Tragic

[@Red.Rabbit.Resistance]

doctors are ignoring the facts that dysphoria is a symptom of many many many unrelated medical conditions not limited to childhood trauma. Being said, addressing the trauma or causation should always be primary to a transition. A transition is the last line for a person to find peace. A lot of these poor souls are people with unresolved trauma acting on Histrionic cluster B personality disorders... They are literally compelled to defy norms for attention. It has nothing to do with gender for them, it has everything to do with dopamine and depression from being ignored. Many people with his disorder would dress up like a Giraffe and publicly worship a bowl of spaghetti if it meant people would look at them.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Addressing the trauma for anything is so important. We live in a society that wants a quick fix for the symptoms without getting to the root cause driving many of the unhealthy choices being made. Much love 💗

[@TeeNtheWildlife]

The way Planned Parenthood doles out HRT just blows my mind. And, that has nothing to do with abortion! Why can PP even DO that?!

[@macseth]

❤❤

[@TeeNtheWildlife]

Heather, oh, for Heaven’s sake, when the time is right begin taking HRT! It’s one less thing you have to worry about! There are many different kinds of HRT so your gynecologist will help you find the right one! And, no icky menopause that way! You have enough on your plate!❤

[@formlessoedon3929]

Algorithm gods heed our call 🤙

[@pumpkinspicelatte1731]

Wow...for this ladies daughter/sons friends to say she's being disrespectful? Motherfucker that was her kid, she will address her kid however the fuck she wants, if she wants to call her freckles, ladybug, turd, I don't care, for someone that supposedly cared about this person's child as friend, to know they lost that child and talked to them like that, the care, love and understanding you had for that person's child as a friend, you should have and give those same things to their mother as she grieves. Of course it hurts to lose a friend,(I myself was a heroin addict for 11+ years, ive lost quite a few)but it doesn't compare to a parent having to bury their child. I'm sorry it just doesn't. I would never put my feelings and emotions for a friend before the needs of that person's parents that lost their child, as hard as it would be, cause at that point sometimes those parents look to their sons or daughters friends to learn who their kid was when they weren't around, alot of times they become chatting friends with who wad their kids friends, it's a way to help them grieve. Anyways that's it. I was just bothered when I heard that.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

Thank you. I felt the same way, very bothered for anyone to tell me about me and my child…… let alone how I should feel or behave. 💗

[@elleofafriend3140]

It seems obvious she found safety in becoming a male because she was abused as a 5yr old female. It's extremely sad she wasn't able to get the help dealing with all of that. No blame to mother or family but I hope others hear this & recognize that traumatized children need help that WON'T direct them to make radical changes in their bodies like gender affirming care does. I understand that parents will go to professionals who they themselves & their belief system aligns with. If they take their child to someone who seems adamant about it being gender dysmorphia & parents should wait it out, the parents are in fear of losing their child as a runaway, suicide or the child hating the parent for not allowing them to change. We as parents don't want our children to suffer, be teased or feel alienated. However we are responsible for their lives & mental health as well. I was the only female allowed to hang out with a group of guys in high school after hours. They didn't allow girlfriends to hangout with them because of how teenage girls were then. I was different, I wasn't a giggly girlie girl, but I also wasn't full Tomboy either. I felt comfortable & safe with this group of guys. They respected me, not one hit on me or made lewd comments when I was around. My dad taught me how to change oil & work on vehicles with him because I was interested & he knew it was good for me to know those things. Had I been more vulnerable due to more childhood trauma than I had been (not by my father) & had I not had a loving mother & father in my life that gave me a strong foundation, I could see how I could have leaned into becoming a boy, I certainly didn't feel feminine & girlie when I was in high school even though I wore makeup, curled my hair & painted my nails that grew nice strong length. I had also been abused at a young age (NOT my father). My self esteem & confidence did change but I think it was because of the love of my parents that I didn't suffer greater mental issues. Note: My husband was on testosterone in his late forties but he was given ONE bottle of it & yes he had a bunch of needles because he was to take one shot per week if I remember right. (he died 7 yrs ago in car accident)

[@dadycreations100]

Leave the kids alone

[@annebos4634]

But I don't have gender dysphoria. Not one single bit! And not one I know around me. I don't understand why I keep watching these videos

[@JenAmazed42]

Annebos your comment made me laugh just a little because I relate lol. I'm a straight, white, married, Christian, conservative, Republican, biological female. By the worlds standards I'm supposed to hate transsexual people and pretty much everyone who isn't just like me. Stick around this channel. This some amazing people here who are kind, loving, interesting, welcoming, just decent people. Stay awhile and see if you can't make some friends. You may be surprised in the friendships you can form with folks who are different than you. I've become a regular here and I look so forward to the videos. I enjoy the live chats on the Wednesday videos. I've learned so much. Hang around. You may make some friends ❤

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

The more you watch the videos the more they will recommend them.

[@annebos4634]

@@JenAmazed42 thank you Jen, that is such a nice answer :-D

[@hnybee113]

@BuckAngelOfficial awww Buck your old name was MINE. I hope reading it doesn't trigger you. Bc I love my name. ❤😊

[@mrsekkoreigns]

I usually always agree with the stories Buck puts out, but this one...IDK. Yes that girl had a LOT of issues going on. But she was an adult who got on HRT and could consent. I don't think transitioning or HRT was her downfall. Her downfall was her mental health and hard drug use. How can we say Testosterone played a part on her tragic case when she was using meth and heroin. I feel really bad for this young lady and her mother, but they were not victims of trans affirming care. They were victims of drug addiction. 😟

[@annetteniebelski7513]

People on drugs have a lot of mental problems and make poor life choices. Hardly, in the space to make gender decisions.

[@Krinsta1]

I think the heart of the story is early childhood sexual abuse and the ongoing trauma that this causes. That poor little girl being sexually abused from 4-9. How could she ever be okay on any level. This really is the cause of her death.

[@megsley]

trans care didn't fix this girls issues is the point- and "being trans" is presented to young people these days as a fix-it for everything.

[@Krinsta1]

@megsley yes I agree with you there. I used to work as a counsellor in drug and alcohol recovery. Nearly all the people I saw had some kind of abuse as a child, usually sexual abuse. A lot didn't make it a few did well.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

The point is we were sex abuse survivors with preexisting conditions that no amount of any hormones would have ever fixed. The trauma is what lead to the addictions. Either way, the doctors are still doing this all wrong. Wrong diagnoses for nearly two decades for me, and a whole decade for my daughter. Wrong diagnosis brings about a lot of wrong treatment and medication, period. That is the point of my story, get to the root cause, changing genders and HRT didn’t change let alone heal anything.

[@MooooonDemon]

erm...if he's been trans since 4 why you calling him she...

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

it’s like you didn’t even listen to the interview…..you’re the type who just hungrily seeks out reasons to cancel people as opposed to listening.

[@ladyspellbreaker1313]

@@pabloescobarschanclas thank you for listening and not invalidating our story. My daughter is now my guardian Angel….. SHE never leaves me.