Money, Love & Lessons Learned The Hard Way- Building A New Life

What is happening to us? Are we happy? Do we have enough money after 65 to live on? This week I had the wonderful privilege of getting together with my 2 best friends from grade school and I could see so clearly how I have changed over the years and how I have stayed the same! How about you!
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[@HomeEF]

My favorite part of this video... I just have to confess it, was Desi chasing that squirrel, he is the man protecting mom's and his property. Love it! 🤣🤣🤣

[@LittlePoet]

Oh Desi and the squirrel!!! They go at it every day!!! Deis truly is King of his backyard!!! Love to you and everybody here tonight!!! xxoo

[@CynthiaAva]

I was going to say the same thing! I went back and watched it a few times. So adorable!

[@ivonnevermeer3600]

Thanks for everything you said, it made my day after an other night without any sleep because of the neighbors, for over 13 years they are always having parties, sometimes three times a week until 5 o’clock in the morning. You can talk to them, go to the police, but nothing changes, I don’t know what to do anymore, we are in a rental house, but there are no new houses to go to in the Netherlands. I am crying all the time because I am so tired. And after my heart attack I need to get my rest 🤷‍♀️ Xxx to you and Desi ❤️

[@stephaniewilson222]

Our little Maggie’s goes after the squirrels too ! It is a terrier thing !!

[@jkalb1744]

I ll pray for you.

[@nigella4me]

Susan, if you don't FEEL that a man is into you, then he's not, no matter what they say to you. You have to follow that "gut" feeling.

[@LittlePoet]

Hello my sweet friend with the great channel!!!! You are 100% right!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@lindafrazier8092]

I so agree❤

[@---Joy---]

Absolutely right! Women's intuition is never wrong.

[@theloveyourfacegal2773]

Your so deep ❤ but in a good way. I'm behind on your videos & need to catch up 😊.

[@ginalowe9103]

Or you know he’s not a good fit for you and your life.

[@marilynmcintosh2674]

I have grown to love your posts. Your music always soothes me and your positive attitude shines like the sun. I’m 72 and still full of the love of life because life is what you make it every day. I thought I’d be young forever, never really thought about, but getting old (er) is just another leg of the journey. Embrace every day because every day is precious.

[@kateg7298]

What a wonderful comment. Thank you for putting it into words. I know that feeling and it's been on my mind lately.

[@lindafrazier8092]

Well said! 77 here and loving this life ... after 9 years of caregiving grieving... I now see stronger and stronger glimmers of blue sky ... life is precious and I have begun to cherish each day. Love the Susan's videos she's such a real person giving me hope and touching my heart each week!

[@DianeWandland]

Love your videos Susan. I'm always touched by them. I just turned 61 and boy have I changed. Never thought I would be single. Made some bad choices on not getting married and I regret not pursuing it. I continue to work but I do think how my life would be different had I married and had a few kids. I would be a grandma by now. It's so hard to meet new friends but I'm so glad I keep in touch with a few that I've known over 40 years. I try not to have high expectations because that's one way to feel disappointed. So I really don't expect too much.

[@patriciabritton5917]

One of the happiest times in my life first was when I accepted Jesus as my Savior when I was 12. Then the next time was when I met my husband and we got married 11 monthes later. We have been together 34 years of Marriage 35 years total.

[@LiveFree123]

I had a very difficult marriage for 36 years and suffered with depression and loneliness. I’m 69 and I’ve been single for five years and find I have social anxiety. I consider myself a friendly introvert. I make myself socialize because I know it’s good for me but I’m exhausted afterwards. 😅 I so love your videos ☺️❤️😘

[@LittlePoet]

Oh I can relate to what you wrote!!! It's not easy to make myself go out!!! But I do!

[@BedfordFalls7]

LiveFree123- I have lived through 21 years in a lonely marriage with someone full of anger most of the time. I get so depressed because of it. I'm now 66 and think how much time has gone by. I got panic attacks at age 25 and can still get one, but I am a happy kind of person and planning to leave this situation soon. You did the right thing. I'm happy for you. You're strong.

[@cats2ish]

I too had a rough marriage. He is always so angry, at the news, the traffic, if he can't find something in the house, ects. It made me nervous and self conscious. I believe he too felt the same. So we are separated now, and we are calm. He still has his anger issues and always will, that's just his way.

[@annawhite2572]

You inspire me! There are so many of us commenting that it makes me realize I am mot alone! Bless you and all the women here living the same life! ❤ We are stronger than we think!

[@tuijawilkening]

My sentiments exactly.

[@trinarenae8625]

I totally get the thing about dating now; it’s so different at this age. The last man I dated, I dated for about 3 months. At no point in the relationship did I ever feel he was “into me”. He was attentive, and we went out several nights a week. However, I began to realize it was more about him not being alone, than him actually wanting to be with me. The longer I knew him, the more selfish I realized he was and I ended it. If I live the rest of my life alone, at least it will be with someone who loves me for me; me! 😁 Self-respect over settling every time ladies!!! 👏🏼

[@kellyevans207]

Completely agree. 😊

[@texasmimi5566]

Well, the saying at our age now is men are looking for "a nurse and a purse". I have had 2 male friends that I do things with but I would sometimes ask them if they were still OK with us being just friends. Personally, I'd rather have a like-minded female to do things with than a man. I find that I don't have a lot in common, regarding our pasts, with either males or females. But, they are all older than me so our young lives were much different.

[@BedfordFalls7]

I totally agree!!

[@maryspangler4557]

I am to the point of having been a widow for 3 yrs. that there is only one time for true love. It can never be the same.

[@trinarenae8625]

@@maryspangler4557 that is so sad. We live in a very different version of the world today. Our culture has become consumed with self-centeredness (which doesn’t work in a healthy relationship). The younger generation is experiencing the same thing. The difference is they’ve never known anything else. 🥺

[@lifeinlayers717]

I have learned to forgive even when there isn’t an apology…forgiveness is for ourselves, it helps us to let go and have more peace in our lives.

[@nevermind7253]

Amen

[@Jkaye13]

Yes!! Peace!

[@carolthrasher]

Susan, you are such an inspiration to me. I am 72, married to my high school sweet heart. Since he had covid, he is a different person. Sometimes my mouth just drops when I find out how he feels about certain things. I feel like I am mostly like I have always been. I talk alot, laugh alot, and love my one and only grandson who is 6 more than I have ever loved anyone. He spends the night with me every fri night. I have been there since day one and we are so close. I wear this little heart necklace that says forever, and another little tiny heart with his name on it. Because the first time he said he would love me forever melted my heart. You are just like a friend to me even though you have never met me, I feel like we would be great friends. I so appreciate your love and kindness and devotion to little Desi. I love animals. My oldest cat just passed away at the age of 18, I miss him so much. I love everyone of your videos, but this one was special to me. I tried to answer the questions you asked as honestly as I could about myself. I just want to say, I am so thankful you decided to be on KZbin. I look forward to seeing you and Desi each wk. Love and Hugs to both of you.

[@rennell714]

I feel the same Carol.. all of Susan's reflections are very good but this has to be in the Top 10.. played it many xs and on slow speed just to soak it all in 🥰 All of us here seem to have been thru SO MUCH and that's the bond .. I kept thinking of the Serenity Prayer through this whole video.. God grant me the Serenity to accept... I can't.. He can.. I think I'll let Him ✝️🕊 Blessings to all 💕🐶 🐿

[@kathylarson7601]

So sorry for the loss of your precious cat.

[@deborahpellerito6117]

I have been going through the same thing with my husband it is bazaar

[@paulinedrewery3759]

I feel the same, I have beautiful twin grandsons who are 15 now, and they still stay with me when they can, right from when they were born I,ve spent a lot of time with them and love them so much, I wear a little locket with their tiny fingerprints in it.They are total opposites in every respect, they don't look alike, one is a meat and potatoes man and the other is a vegetarian, one wants to be playing football and the other is happy on his own with a book, but we have a good time together. I had hoped for more grandchildren , I just love kids, but I,ve had my little rescue dog for 10 years now and he is my little treasure, like Desi.

[@debrandw246]

I could not have said it better and I am very sorry for the loss of your kitty.

[@CherylDelVicario]

To answer one question - no, I don’t hold grudges. But I do learn lessons about who I trust and who I do not. As someone once told me, “Forgiveness is not forgetness.”

[@joannanderson3076]

Absolutely true. You never forget! My sister and I, both well into our 80s, grew up suffering many abuses, I have forgiven all, but she can't. She asked me one day how I could and why? My answer is...for Me. Her mind is completely gone now and he's she's in a home. 😢 I pray that before she leaves this world she will somehow find that peace and acceptance that none of that in our childhood, until we left home, was her fault! Susan. You and Desi are a beautiful, special gift to us on Sat evenings. Thank you so much for all you do to bring us such joy each week. Are those new curtains in your bedroom? Please show us...❤ Special big hug to Desi. I adore him!!!

[@CoffeeTeaAndPotpourri]

Greetings from the Blue Ridge Mountains...where I started over in 2018. I live alone in a huge circa 1938 house. I named my home Moonbow Mountain Cottage. I am surrounded by forrests on all four sides. Wildlife, flora and fauna, et al. I have faced some scary situations... I'm never really alone. My GOD is with me and cares for me with such great love. Blessings to all, from Darla age 74.

[@deborahpellerito6117]

Amen

[@lose999]

You are so talented! Your footage is marvelous and your content is the best part of Saturday night. I wish you were my friend, for real. I love Joni Mitchell's lyrics... Thank you for reminding me that being this age (70) is just fine. I'm alone and it's okay.❤

[@Lifes_Frosting]

It's my Saturday night treat to watch you and Desi every week. I am in my 50's, single and the last child just left the nest. Now that I am free, my life is exactly how I want it to be - peaceful. We are quite a bit alike, and your content is food for the soul. I'll keep coming back to see you and Desi. That's a promise ❤

[@cindyhalpern3187]

I can't forgive the husband who beat me while I was pregnant. Luckily, I had my baby without him hurting me anymore. He went on to abuse in his next marriage as well. He doesn't deserve forgiveness. People have to be accountable for the harm they cause. Especially if they keep on hurting others. No blank forgiveness for wife and child beaters who don't even try to change. My daughter is 38 now. I am glad I ran away from my abuser and never ever let him hurt my child!

[@mkbrown3902]

I am a caregiver for my mom (she's 95) who abused me as a child and is still abusive. I understand.

[@pamsmith7369]

I’m sorry for both of you in your pain. Abuse is unforgivable, whether physical, mental or emotional. Life’s too short to be in pain. Get away from all abusers. It’s healthier to live alone than to put up with any form of abuse.

[@summersojourner]

Just remember that forgiveness is not for the abuser, it’s not saying that what they did was or is okay. Forgiveness is for the abused, it’s saying that the abuser no longer has the power to hurt me, it’s about taking or taking back your power from the abuser. Forgiveness isn’t easy, it may take counseling, in fact; what it does is elevates you into a far better place, one where you are able to remember your worth or even discover it, a place that allows growth, a place where you start to fully realize that you won’t allow abuse in your life again.

[@Katrn30]

I agree, it is too hard to forgive someone who regularly abused you. I forgive a lot, but I can’t forgive that either.

[@Billiard-cp1my]

You are a courageous woman and have done what many women have failed to do until it is too late. I am so happy your daughter is healthy.

[@sheliateel9449]

I have to say that the happiest time of my life is when I sold everything and went to Africa on a mission trip for three months I got my mind off myself and my things and concentrated on others and their needs. I was able to paint murals, and all the rooms for the children, I fell in love with them and would love to return someday

[@judementz-gibbons6730]

Amazing. This is the life experience I need. I love this post

[@pierrettemacgregor8594]

Want to share how I know just what you mean. My last relationship was with a man that I had so hoped for the dreamer in me that he was the one. I tried to force it while I know now I was faking it. T was a world wind. I gave up my apartment and we moved in together. Well in about a week or even maybe before I knew it wasn’t going to work. Too late so I tried nail I couldn’t live the lie anymore. Yes there was chemistry but it still wasn’t enough. You made me feel watching you that it’s ok! It was a learning curve to read myself. I did leave and I’ve grown and like you have since bought my own place and love being alone there at 70 yrs old!

[@delladearest2511]

There are so many here that need you too!

[@terilou6616]

I feel that an important lesson that took a long time to learn is that everyone has their own story, their own fears, We all have been through difficult times. Our stories may be different , but everyone has their own journey. That is what makes us the person we are today.❤

[@nancybrace1233]

The happiest time in my life was when I was married and had family events. Now I am more alone, I still have my kids and grandkids, but it’s different. I struggle with letting a man back into my heart so I live my life the best I can…me and my dog.

[@gumbogranny]

So many in your boat. We have to find happiness one step at a time. I prefer a quiet life.

[@nancybrace1233]

Yes. I forget I’m not the only one…. I love the show, Golden girls my dream would be to live with three women my age I would love it

[@nancybrace1233]

I love your zinnias

[@debbiesday8270]

Susan, as far as finding the right man, you already have, and he's sleeping right behind you. Desi is the sweetest thing and he sure loves you! Thanks for another beautiful video and a great visit. Have a wonderful week.

[@kateg7298]

Love, love, love your comment.

[@HighPriestess-x2e]

I had that exact same thought!!!

[@dianaschoen4485]

Agree!❤🐾

[@Colleeniee02]

Hi Susan and Desi!! I have been single and living alone for 13 years. Same job 37 years. I will be 65 on Thanksgiving weekend. I was born on Thanksgiving! I am straight forward. Tell it like it is..I have been told that I am warm loving and friendly. I am going to be a grandma in January! Much love to you and Desi ❤❤ I am not married to the man that I was crazy about for 20 years. He had a arm surgery and he had a mental breakdown and got a bit crazy. So I had to walk away with my life my job and some of my personal stuff

[@AnnMitt]

I watched my mother struggle living in poverty on SS alone. Us kids helped her out each month. She passed in 2018. It still pains my heart how stressed out she was. Shame life is so difficult for many seniors.

[@JanetKessinger]

Thank you so much for sharing your life with us! I am 73, and widowed 18 months ago. I am an avid thrifter and live with my pre Shir tzu Ruby. I am a yoga instructor and teach two days a week. Life is wonderful! Keep drinking life in and smiling! It’s all good!

[@janepearson5802]

The squirrel is Desis personal trainer keeping him fit .

[@deborahpellerito6117]

😂

[@catmama54]

Since losing my husband living on one income is very challenging. Hopefully once my house sells I’ll have money to help me live a decent life. I’ll never date someone at almost 69 and I miss having my spouse but I’ll spend my years alone except for a cat.

[@CathyS_Bx]

What assumption did others make about me that was wrong? That I'm aloof. I'm not, I'm just quiet and a born observer. I might have been considered aloof simply because I was concentrating on something and so I didn't want to break away and make small talk. Or because I didn't care to gossip so I walked away. Or because I was worried about something (like my mother's failing health) and therefore unable to put on a happy face. Does all that constitute being aloof? If so, maybe I was!

[@trishrichardson4263]

When my girls were young I remember the craziness of running them to practices, homework, baths, etc. before I knew it they were off to college. Now they live in the same vicinity, but don’t have time for me any more. Neither are married, but one has a steady bf, the other is wilder than a March hare. I’m alone a lot. That crazy time was actually the best time in my life. I sure miss it.

[@nigella4me]

I know what you mean. I live alone and really miss the days when I was married (not to the man I was married to if that makes sense, but just being married with a family) and my 5 kids were all at home and all the activity that was always going on. I look at my daughter with her 3 kids and it really makes me miss those days even more. I see my kids and grandkids, but it's just not the same anymore. I miss that time of life so very much!

[@trishrichardson4263]

I don’t have grandkids, my spouse is…….., so I’m alone even if he’s in his mancave.

[@raineydewey]

Your videos speak to me… truly. I’ll be 68 soon and am alone too with a faithful dog 😊 Have been for a long time now. While it’s not where I hoped to be at this stage in my life I’ve made peace with it … mostly. Your insights and honesty always make me think and sort through my own. Your thoughts on money 💰 are right on. Thank you for sharing all you do ❤

[@marilynmcintosh2674]

P.S. I love Desi and his cool bow ties.

[@SarahRenz59]

The most painful life lesson for me was learning that you could fall head over heels in love with someone, but they wouldn't necessarily feel the same. When I was young, I had this naive concept of love that it would be like 2 pieces of a puzzle coming together, or a hand slipping into a fitted glove. He suits me perfectly, so OF COURSE I suit him perfectly! I learned at age 24 when the love of my life walked out that, while he was Mr. Right for me, I was Ms. Eh-You're-Okay-I-Guess for him. Oh, I dated other men after that, but none of them ever came close to making me feel the way he did.

[@delladearest2511]

Please take your time there’s no rush and in the meantime keep working on yourself and don’t ever settle!

[@robinely-nh1qt]

Sleep Desi . Thank you Susan , it’s nice to be content with life however it is. I am alone for 10 years now but all it takes is one thought and I’m dripping tears all over I miss my sweet William but I’m ok and God cares for me like no other. My grown children live a good distance away from me so I don’t have family to visit and as I get older traveling alone grows harder. Thanks for listening and for sharing 😊

[@Meowch-vq2xq]

Have you thought about moving closer to your children? Seriously consider it. My mother resisted for years moving close to me. She was 90+ before she gave in and moved. Mainly because Hurricane Sandy ravaged her home. But we lost all those years we could have spent time with each other. You can’t go back and undo..

[@nevermind7253]

​@@Meowch-vq2xq Really good advice 💞

[@marysmyth8288]

Dear Susan, you give us much food for thought : my life seems to be slipping away , (Now 80yrs) Fortunate to have two good old school friends . I am Irish 🇮🇪 Born and bred. My family emigrated to Canada 1982. My children are in their 50’s , sadly two sons have Passed 😢 Also my Dear Husband died in 2016 😢 My life is so similar to yours. I enjoy living on my own Susan you speak your truths with all the love ❤ In your heart. myself has followed you a long time since Before you found your wee Desi. Truth has ruled my life . I am content and at ease I live in a rented 2 bedroom apartment , In a lovely natural setting , with dyke pathways Also boat marinas, I believe in forgiveness , this brings me peace ☮️ I so love your wisdom and strength , being whom you are. Mary Canada 🍁

[@joannefreeman3573]

What a lovely note. I am also Canadian born and have had an amazing life although many hurdles. God Bless and thank you for sharing your beauty and wisdom Mary. ❤

[@patticakesintexas]

I'm back in the home where I had my happiest memories years ago and one thing is different: me. I'm more settled, happy, and free from the things that once consumed me. So in essence, I'm happier now than then. I think that's a gift from God. ❤

[@poppies1215]

I think as we age (I am 68] we have an easier time of coming to terms with who we are by the experiences we lived through. No matter where I lay my head at night, I, too, am grateful for the life God gave me to share with the world…one smile at a time with an open heart.🙏💕🍀

[@deborahpellerito6117]

Amen

[@georgiafrancis9059]

I envy you. Be well and God bless.

[@janetwheeler382]

Susan this was so ironic. I had my checkbook in hand to go over my daily spend/budget ritual and sat it aside to watch your video first! 😅. I'm 67, on SS, raising a grandchild and $ management is an absolute priority! And you were speaking to me for sure with the...being an introvert, yet loving to be around friends and family..but when the party is over I'm exhausted. But I to, am very happy alone. As they say, you can't truly live happily with someone else until you learn to live with yourself and like living with yourself. I'm sure glad I do because I don't see any potential romance in the horizon 😂. Love you ❤

[@RebeccaShanks-ch9ku]

Hi Susan, I look forward to your video each Saturday. This one was so meaningful. Thank you. I am 68 years old. Here are the answers to a few of the questions: I do forgive, I used to hold grudges but in the last few years I have changed that. I am working on being better with money. I am married and my husband is younger than me. He has a little over a year to work before he retires. I need to get much better with money in a hurry ! I too love Joni Mitchell songs. I was just thinking earlier today how lucky I am to have grown up in the sixties and early seventies when music was so meaningful. Please take care of yourself and Desi. I look so forward to seeing you both next week.

[@The-Lost-Attic]

I feel like you are a true story teller. Absolutely not in a negative way. Your words are poetic, and they tell a story, and they inspire. They flow.

[@tennysoneffie6943]

Hello from Ireland. It’s cold and wet here on the South East coast, seems that we’re skipping Autumn and going straight through to Winter. The weather is always a safe subject to discuss when I meet a neighbour!! You on the other hand Susan touch on those difficult topics. Love, finances, house repairs, loneliness. All the things that are important and can cause us stress. I am 67. and quite happy to live alone. I don’t have to tell anyone why I’m going to town or why I need to buy a new coat or ask do you think it’s ok if I buy this lovely little antique chair for the bedroom or ask anyone what would they like for dinner. Nor do I have to listen to someone say, what time is dinner at? Where’s my new white shirt? Or clean the bathroom up after them…….or move my boots from the the desk on their request……even though I’m still using them. I think at this age I’m happier being alone, Someone mentioned being a Nurse or a Purse, very funny but true. I do love going out and socialising but I’m happiest when I come home, slip off my heels, have a glass of wine and cuddle and chat with my little black dog. It’s just another chapter in our lives. Letting go of grudges and petty stuff is so very freeing. Saying a genuine, “Sorry “ and moving on is the best feeling! Your garden is getting very mature and Desi has certainly embraced his new domain with much enthusiasm. Have a lovely weekend everyone.

[@Khatoon170]

Auntie Suzanne thank you for your precious advices . We need money to live . Money only can buy expensive overpriced things in life , it can’t buy love , trust , forgiveness, commitment, only you can make that happen by being happy within yourself , happy with what you got in life or work toward getting it . The money is means not end .

[@Khatoon170]

Auntie Susan sorry I wrote in hurry.

[@SunflowersandSunshine22]

Love your videos and look forward to them. I'm a 61 yr old woman who was married 36 years and then it ended. I had to spend time learning "who I am" bc I was so worried about making everyone else happy, I forgot who I was. I'm learning to be real. I'm learning to not apologize for who I am. Life is a journey and I'm enjoying the ride. Hugs to you & Desi. You both always make me smile. Thank you for that.

[@LittlePoet]

Oh wow! You touch y heart!!!

[@sueprice4082]

I lost my husband of 47 years just two weeks ago. I am alone but not lonely. I am only lonely for my husband- I have to learn to live without him - he will never be replaced. Xx Sue UK

[@lucyloo7457]

❤. Beautiful Video Susan. Much love and respect. ❤ bravo 👏

[@marthabando66]

Hi Susan! I am very much the same as you...an introvert who is very comfortable in a room by myself. But yes, I do feel socializing is an important part of a balanced life so I, too, like parties. I get anticipatory anxiety before a party though....I'm nervous...but am always so happy when I'm home from the party and in my granny chair...feeling satisfied and so glad it's over but so glad I went. 😉 Loved your video tonight! 😘

[@pamsmith7369]

Divorce is a terrible thing. But so is the death of a spouse. I don’t know which is more heart-wrenching; losing someone you had a past with and so many good memories or losing someone, knowing he’s still out there maybe enjoying life with someone else! 😖

[@poppies1215]

Having experienced both at this age (68), I can only say that both hurt equally. However, it is always how we reflect upon the experiences and change our thoughts about who we are now because the happened that is the gift that keeps on giving. If we allow ourselves to accept the experience and how we changed, we can help ourselves heal by listening more and judging less in future reactions through our connections in conversations with others we may meet and embrace as we continue growing. They call that wisdom with grace don’t they? No matter how often heartache may come, as we age, we realize that life is what we make it and how we adapt to the changes that occur along the way.

[@elizabethmaloneorlando217]

Love seeing Desi being the King of his yard, running back & forth chading that squirrel. Susan you not only changed your life, but the life of Desi, he so loves his yard. Blessing to you both & Happy Fall🍁🍂🐕🍁🍂🐕🍁🍂🐕would love your recipe for dog biscuits.❤

[@ladyofwildrose]

"What have I become? I have become a grown woman and I like it. I like it alot." Susan Buchanan, Little Poet. I love the softeness, romantisism, cinematography and story telling in your videos...I love the books and I loved that pumpkin mug. I love that you created a beautiful home and a beautiful love for yourself and that your home is like the one you loved and your son once again lives just around the corner. I love that Desi sleeps on a beautiful lace pillow and was behind you fast asleep and dreaming...and that Desi and the squirrel were having fun chasing each other and playing. Thank you for refreshing my spirit and uplifting my soul today. 🧡💚💛🧡

[@LittlePoet]

Well I just love you!!! what a great lady you are!!

[@MikefromCanada5426]

It's like they say, "life is what happens when you're making other plans ". Your ability to step up and respond to unexpected changes along the way and still find happiness in your personal journey speaks volumes. Your new home looks beautiful. Take care, all the best.

[@lindafrazier8092]

I believe that's the true joy of life... not a destination but an unfolding journey of all kinds of sychrocities ❤

[@sammie4695]

The lessons I learned in life are don't trust anyone right at the beginning, be with them for awhile. People always show who they really are in time(even if they say they are a christian. The other is to show your loved ones that you love them, you never know if they'll be here tomorrow. And finally, be yourself, don't compare yourself to others.. Dezi is King of the Castle in his backyard, he's so happy.

[@melissaladd6857]

I've learned money isn't everything. I've learned money is options. Money is independence. It's freedom in a sense. No money no options. I think I've gotten better with money. As a widow I have to keep learning and researching 😊

[@tracythomas343]

I loved watching Desi chase the squirrel. My dog does the same thing along the fence but my dog is big! The question ‘what do people get wrong about you?’ People think I’m aloof, I’m not. I’m shy and reserved. Once people get to know me, they see how friendly I really am.

[@gumbogranny]

That's me too. We can be so misunderstood.

[@conniebueter9052]

I love my time with friends especially those going back to grade school (and I am 77). But I also love the friends made in recent years . I feel blessed and not out to impress anyone!! Love your videos to make us think/ponder

[@lindafrazier8092]

Me too❤ 77 here on the 22nd

[@ewaworonowicz2653]

​@@lindafrazier8092 Happy Birthday! 🎉❤💐

[@ladove4710]

Thank you Susan for a tranquil yet uplifting video this evening. It has been a stressful week - my husband died today (we have not been together for many years) but my son came home to care for him the past couple of months and through his stay in palliative care, so I am supporting him through his grief. Your talk made me think that I have changed in how I handled this stressful situation. Hopefully with grace and kindness. Hugs to you and Desi. Linda from Canada ❤🇨🇦

[@kellyevans207]

So sorry for your loss Linda. Sending hugs from a fellow Canadian 🇨🇦

[@Elizabeth-arb22]

Wishing you peace and comfort. 💗

[@nevermind7253]

Huge hug Linda 💕

[@brendawahlberg7341]

Hugs and lots of love

[@michellebilodeau3882]

Sincere sympathy to you dear.😢

[@patriciahartnett4776]

The older I become I feel men say and do things because they are afraid of being alone and want someone to take care of them. Go with your gut is the best advice you can give.

[@delladearest2511]

Looking for a nurse or your purse!

[@georgiafrancis9059]

Susan, your house is your HOME. It's a terriffic home. You made a good choice. And Desi is very happy, I can see him grinning ear to ear! You are very lucky! Take care and God bless.

[@WandaPeterson-zv1hx]

You do a very good job of blending your photos, music and topics, it’s all very soothing and calming to the spirt. Maybe who we’ve become is just like that, a matter of blending, calming and soothing, refining the spirit of who we’ve always been but in a more loving and wiser version. Thank You

[@sashacooper9764]

Beautifully stated Wanda. I would like to think its true of me. Happy week yo you

[@ritadoran5039]

My best quality to make others feel welcome and comfortable. My worst quality fearing inability to let go or forget hurtful past People get wrong that just cause I didn't marry They think I had it easy the contrary I took care of others all my life neglected my own needs Now at age 56 I'm proudly regaining my life ❤❤❤❤

[@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts]

I was just getting ready to close my eyes. Sunday morning church comes early and you posted❤ Have a blessed weekend. Thank you for posting another inspiring video… love to the Dez man🐶🐶

[@susanwilliams1575]

Thank you Susan. I feel like I’m still flowing into something different than I ever imagined. That’s good and bad in various ways. At one time, I had the world ahead of me, but now I have a whole lot more behind me. I’m trying to get back to the happiest place. A whole lot has changed over the years. I’m so thankful that you have found your home-your way back to the happiest times in your life. This is your first Halloween there. If your grandchildren dress up for Halloween and go trick or treating you will be able to be part of their joy. I miss my grown children being children. We had so much fun! We especially had fun around Halloween. Enjoy!

[@patralink]

Hi Susan and Desi! I admire you so much. I think your relationship to money is very healthy and smart. More people should think this way about living within a budget. Desi had a nice nap during this video. He is so sweet. I love seeing you both each week. Desi's demeanor around you speaks volumes about your character. He absolutely loves you.

[@sashacooper9764]

And wasn't Desi adorable playing with the squirrel? Happy week to you 😊

[@jenniferlee7167]

Susan, it was lovely to sit with you and Desi this evening. I try to be outgoing and friendly. I like to make sure that I smile when I am out and about talking to people. I love to be home alone too where I recharge, and people tell me they feel peace here. I work all week to take care of my home and to clean it for the weekend. Peace here with my cat is lovely. I no longer look to accumulate things I am slowly downsizing and loving the feeling of not having too much. I am happy with what I have and grateful to God each day for it and for my part-time job which I have since the pandemic in 2021. I decided I would only do what makes me happy to supplement my Social Security. I spend time with animals and from nursing that is quite a change with less stress. I am home by 2 PM most afternoons. A peaceful happy life is good for many of us who have lived through some kind of turmoil,

[@kerryjames6312]

Like my 79 year old mother says to me learn to live on your own dont hold grudges love God same here people that huet me i forgive but cannot firget

[@Vicki1951]

I have to say this, I’m so pea green with jealousy with you, you have that sweet handsome Desi. He loves and trusts you so much and I am sure he’s there when your teardrops are falling. He’s a true gentle-man. As for myself? I’m not doing so well right now. Have a good weekend and week, Susan😊

[@nidyabronstrup2375]

Hi everyone, sending much love to you all ❤❤❤

[@carolseven3802]

Hi! Right back at ya!!!❤

[@rolliecrafts255]

🙏💚

[@deborahpellerito6117]

💖

[@lindafolk4598]

There is a book called The Highly Sensitive person. Im sure you are highly sensitive and need to have a lot of quiet time. Statistics say 20% of people are highly sensitive. It was so healing to me when I read this book and discovering I am one of the 20% that are often misunderstood. I hope you can read on the highly sensitive person. ❤

[@cherries1952]

I think my best quality is kindness. A friend I used to work with said it was annoying that everyone liked me because I was so nice. She wasn’t very nice but I saw the good in her. My worst quality is that I can be to quick to judge someone. When I got to know them they turned out to be so nice. I try not to do that anymore. I guess it’s easier since I don’t go out. Much love to you & Desi, Lucy

[@JustMellie.]

Some people think I am a recluse because I won't go on trips with them or spend money to go visit out of State, but they don't "get" being widowed for 10 years with a limited income. I'm ok being alone, I foster kittens, have a great dog, make gifts for cancer patients, spend time with my family, etc. The men I have dated really just seem to want someone to take care of them. I have 8 friends from grade school, and we meet once a month for a long lunch, laughter, and fellowship. My life is Blessed!

[@kathleenflesch8623]

Another beautiful video Susan. I actually look forward to Sat evenings to see what you and Desi have been up to. Each word comes with love and care. Great job, Susan! Give adorable Desi an extra belly rub. I really appreciate you and your words of wisdom❤

[@lindamorgan6734]

Forgiveness...yes, life is to short to hold onto any hurts.

[@Katrn30]

I actually like being me, and the woman I have become. I am wise, caring, curious, but most of all I am all those things to myself as well as others. You are right, there is a peace in getting older and having done the work. It’s the harvest of a life well lived.

[@jules8910]

As someone who joined the “club of widows” before I reached fifty and no one seemed to have ever come along, I loved the metaphor of “musical chairs”. Funny, coming from a life overfilled with wonderful friends, mostly couples …….where did they go? Maybe there’s an invisible sign, “singles not welcome”.

[@BR-kk9qu]

Susan, You might not read this, but your "films" keep becoming more and more beautiful! You are so gifted in filming and editing and I enjoy your weekly creations! ~ Belinda

[@rennell714]

Amen 🌹🦋

[@AQuietPerspective]

Thank you for posting tonight. Tonight, your honest truth resonated deeply with me. I always feel like I gain more wisdom and insight with you, from great rosehip seed oil to life's experiences. I was feeling low, and was hoping you'd be here, lift me up a bit. We are all on our own journey thru life, but you remind us of the rewards of each positive step we take. Thanks, Susan for sharing and caring. Have a terrific week. Stay safe.

[@sashacooper9764]

I hope you feel brighter in the coming week 🌼

[@rennell714]

Amen 🌹🦋

[@sherriepiechowski4556]

How are you doing when it comes to money? Money can be your best friend or your worst nightmare! It can give you peace of mind if you have plenty of it, but not necessarily happiness. It can cause stress, anxiety and depression with the the lack of it-but regardless of the amount you have or don’t have… you still have to learn how to handle it to your advantage. People always think, IF ONLY I HAD MONEY 💵 True happiness comes from within. How we look at life and not always thinking we need more or keeping up with the modern day society telling us how we should live our lives. The older I get the more I realize that LESS REALLY IS MORE! Have a good week!

[@kathryngipson6866]

You look lovely in a solid, more fitted top! I never hear about Hal anymore - how is he?

[@nevermind7253]

Off topic Little Poet...Susan, Maybe in a future video you might touch on the income streams you mentioned here this evening. Im sure many of us would be very interested if you could. Blessings 💞

[@xx51075]

You are a lovely person. Just be true to yourself. Be who you are meant to be. Keep smiling. You are a breath of sunshine. "Life is what it is"❤

[@laurelvance5533]

This was a very sweet clip. I enjoyed every minute. My week wasn't so good. My sister who is 2 1/2 years younger than I, I am 71, has cancer and was given 6 months to live. I'm heartbroken. I'm not ready to lose her. 😢

[@kimberlym.3643]

Praying for your Sister and you.

[@pamsmith7369]

So sad. I lost a very dear friend and great customer of mine, my exact same age a few weeks ago. Most difficult funeral I ever attended!

[@laurelvance5533]

@@pamsmith7369 I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you.

[@laurelvance5533]

@@kimberlym.3643 Thank you so much.

[@brendabrenda6403]

I am so sorry, hugs to you.

[@jeannegross310]

I, too, am an introvert...I spent most of my childhood practicing the piano or in my bedroom with the door closed...I had 4 brothers. As of Sept. 3, I celebrated my 62nd anniversary as a Church Musician. My health has always been good, so I pray that I won't ever have to quit. Our Worship Team had the hardest set ever this morning and we made it through wirh the help of the Holy Spirit. Music has always been my life! Up until March 2020, I was directing a community choir. It took everything I had to get out of my comfort zone and stand up and direct. Speaking publicly or standing in front of my choir and waving my arms did not come easily. I also play the baby grand every Saturday night at a local resort. I have been working on some of the music that I use at the resort, for my whole life. I keep adding new music every week and that part-time job has given me the additional joy that I was seeking all those years. I also have dear lifetime friends from all 6 churches that I have served.

[@paulawhite5157]

I look forward to your videos. I'm 68 and I am a widow for nearly 12 years now. Susan, how could anybody not be crazy for you? I think you'll find love again that will knock your socks off and you'll never question if he really loves you. That's what I think. Desi surely loves his backyard.

[@jerseystotler3615]

This video hit my heart❤ I am the girl who always fell for the guys who said " Im crazy about you "! Only to find with some guys that doesn't last forever! Now at the age of 67 and being on my own for 5 years, I am happy with my life! I don't know if there will ever be a new man in my life, but I do know this time I won't fall for flowery expressions of love , like when I was younger ❤ Lessons Learned from a Wiser Woman❤

[@marymogckmishmashmary]

So interesting that you spoke on this subject tonight, thinking about who I am today has been something on my mind lately. As we age, our life changes sometimes dramatically. I am trying to find the person that I am today and except who she is.❣️

[@craftycat6859]

During your video when you were talking about money, you mentioned Desi’s name. He was sleeping soundly, but when you said his name his eyes were opening…. too cute❣️

[@LittlePoet]

Oh wow! REALLY?!!! I have to look!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He always wants to know what I am doing with his money ( sheesh!)

[@craftycat6859]

@@LittlePoet lol! I had to rewind it a couple of times ❤️🦮

[@rozgarrettjustkeyit]

This is my first comment, figured out some techy things I am 66 and divorced and living alone, I feel like we are friends your videos are like dropping in for coffee at your cute house. I have learned to forgive all people who have hurt me. Good energy is a wonderful thing it lites up my life. I also watch my money and decorate by thrifting. You have created a life out of real poverty. You are an inspiration for many. I guess I am petty, I think if you don’t to be my friend( others in my community) well I choose not to loose sleep over that., I lost many friends over my divorce and had to rebuild my life, yes hard lessons learned Love your videos

[@deannabollo170]

Too often husbands/ lovers/companions really do not know the essence of women. A brilliant American lawyer said of all the thousands and thousands of couples he met, he only envied one! The magic is in loving everything about your companion. Everything reciprocated! Tall order but a challenge. Love your postings. Thank you xx

[@wildhorses6817]

Yes, I heard him speak and he is a divorce attorney. That kind of Love is very rare and even more rare today. 💜

[@barbarawaite5395]

Hola to Susan and Desi from Kalkaska! When you said lesson learned the hard way, boy did that bring back a memory. In 2003, my husband and I were separated for a while and I decided to meet a man I'd known online for years face to face for the first time. We were amazing friends and had convinced ourselves we were truly soulmates. Unfortunately, there was no chemistry between us in person and I was devastated. I'd lost a fantasy, a dream of a future, and worst of all, I lost my friend. It was too painful to stay in touch with him. So years later, when I met another man who became my very dear friend, I knew to leave it there, in the friend zone. It can be so tempting to try and make a relationship into something it's not, especially when you're lonely.

[@LittlePoet]

Oh Barbara, your words are so wise... and this just happened to me too!!! It was so easy for me to " think" something was romantic when all it was was a sweet friendship...you are the best!!! xxoo Susan & Desi

[@dorothycookchennault3077]

On dating and marriage. I have a friend who was divorced and single for years. She desperately wanted to be married. Her fathers advice was “IT IS BETTER TO NOT HAVE SOMETHING YOU WANT THAN TO HAVE SOMETHING YOU DON’T WANT!” For years she couldn’t find anyone suitable. She finally met a fine man and they’ve been married for over 20 year. It’s not perfect but it’s close!

[@marionpaterson772]

A councellor once told me that everything or everyone hasn't the right to be forgiven and from then on I started recovering. I understand about small forgiveness, I would forgive my daughters anything but not their abusive father. I think it would be unhealthy to forgive years of cheating, lying and abuse. Im 66 now and have dated and been in relationships but feel i'm not interested in a relationship anymore. Its hard to find someone interesting who would add to my life. I love your videos.

[@debbiem4255]

I absolutely love your video today. I live alone with my little dog, Harley. I find it to be very hard to date men these days because they’re looking for a purse or a nurse. So I’m happy being with my dog and grandchildren! 💖😊🐩

[@CJ62348]

Age: 75. I do not mind being alone at all. I can have a social interaction whenever I want, and I enjoy that, being I am ready to be alone soon. I don’t save money like I should. But I have always saved money and now I don’t have to. I am a widow and have not reached the point of wanting another partner. I am very aware of the quick passing of time, therefore it is important to me to be preparing for eternity. Love your openness in your posts.

[@LittlePoet]

Thank you so much for your comment...I hope your weekend is a good one...my love to you and yours, Susan & Desi

[@brigittavanderputten3596]

I'm a woman who has been alone for many years and find it challenging at times because all my decisions fall on me alone. I have been married twice and have no wish to be with anyone but being alone is wonderful because I can choose how I live my life but challenging because there isn't that someone to consult with when decisions or situations arise, where it would be nice to talk it over.

[@judithbyerly5888]

Susan, this was one of my favorite videos ever. I just love you & your honesty. One thing I have learned the hard way is, in relationships, if the chemistry isn’t there, it just isn’t there! You can not make it be there no matter how you try! Listen to your heart - it will never lead you astray! I also just love how Desi is having so much fun in his backyard! You two always make my evening brighter. Thank you! Love & Blessings! See you next week- I’ll be here! ❤️🙏🏻

[@rennell714]

Amen Judith 🥰🙏

[@jacquimg2469]

Oddly, I met someone and the chemistry WAS THERE but every other thing was wrong. It’s so hard to wrap my head around this. Mentally I talk and talk and talk to myself - I want to wake up my common sense. Every time I convince myself I’m not going to talk to him again - well, I collapse and talk to him again. I’m 72 and I’m acting like a 12 year old. I’ve even considered moving to another country. Hahahaha! (He’s not mean. He’s too nice.)

[@barbaramagner181]

Thanks for sharing your week with us. This week marks the anniversary of my husbands passing. I so miss his presence and spirit with me here. I do long for the friendship of a male partner. I know when time is right I may meet someone to spend time with. Until then I too am starting over in a new state, and home. I will think about what I like about ,y self this week too. Be well and stay warm. ❤

[@LittlePoet]

Thank you so much for your comment and I am so sorry you lost your husband...that is so much pain...my heart goes out to you......I hope your weekend is a good one...my love to you and yours, Susan & Desi

[@nancywest4094]

I very much enjoyed your video this morning. I love to hear how others perceive this season of their lives. After losing my husband at age 68 - 5 years ago this week, I could have never imagined what this season would be like. The highs and the lows. The ups and the downs. Approaching my 73rd birthday in 2 weeks. I try to focus on a little sign I have in my living room, “The Joy is in the Journey.” I’m so blessed. I’m so grateful. But I am also still so sad. It’s hard saying goodbye to my life “before.” Keep smiling and keep encouraging others.

[@wilma5618]

Yes, it is like lifting a heavy burden from your shoulders. I forgave each bad man in my life. And also i cut contact completely. The past is the past. I did the forgiving for myself, they even dont know it. Healing started and its time for moving on. Also forgiving yourself for all the mistakes you made is essential.i am 67 and live alone. I even dont think about dating😂 and thank you so much for this touching video🤗🌹

[@LittlePoet]

You are so wise.....that is so true...they never know do they...

[@guestguest2030]

How interesting! I just came across A Tree Grows in Brooklyn on KZbin. I'd never read it nor seen the movie. Perhaps I'll take a look.

[@LittlePoet]

WOW!!! KISMIT!!!

[@nancymajors1277]

The happiest time of my life.....I became pregnant at 41, shocked because my youngest was 16. Once I got used to the idea, I enjoyed every minute. We were more financially stable and I took advantage of it. I prepared a nursery like none that I had before. I enjoyed every minute. I was older and savored the moments, because I knew that time flew by and that he didn't have to fit into our lives. We fit into his with days in the park, celebrating the special occasions. He is grown now, and I regret nothing because I gave that time my all.

[@heathershinnie-gonzales3933]

Hello from Ontario Canada Susan and Desi, another great video, thank you again, and love how you featured the Book on of my Mothers and my favourites, I have her very old copy and it’s dear to me, again isn’t easy and I find we do it better with good health, I have recently been I’ll with diverticulitis, but it’s summer still and I refuse to give up, I love my garden and my little home, so I find strength to push on, I think the hardest thing about being our age is acceptance, what comes to us and moving on, well thank you again for a comforting video and your advice and company, God bless for another week❤️🇨🇦🇺🇸❤️🐾🐾🐾💐🥂

[@Cactusflower2000]

Another wonderful video. Thank you so much dear Susan for sharing your life with us. My happiest time was 1998 through 2002. I had everything in my life that I dreamed of. After that, I found myself living with debilitating chronic illness and alone. I'm a very determined person but at 60 yesrs if age, I cannot seem to find my way back to that beautiful time in my life.

[@melodyk.]

It can be helpful to consider if a person loves one for who one is, or if they love one for how one make them feel about themselves. Is the latter really love...or is it objectification? Thanks for the lovely message today, Susan. Lots to think about in this one!

[@brendaford4830]

I have learned that no man can ever love me as much as I do myself. Self love has been years in the making. I’m finally there. Alone at 69. But will never compromise myself again.

[@LittlePoet]

I agree Brenda!!! so true...we do have to love ourselves...and stick up for ourselves at all times!

[@khill6510]

I was told by one of my 4 grown children recently that I was very controlling. At first I was very hurt but after having time to really think about it, I realized he was right. But rather than feeling it was a weakness I realized it was my strength. In my 35 year career I was always in management in addition to raising 4 kids and taking care of my husband. I had developed the ability to manage. I guess this was a clear message to me it was time to back off and stop trying to manage everything. Wow! What a relief! 😂

[@mercyme8014]

I had a friend tell me after listening to my tale of various woes that I need to stop thinking I am the ‘general manager of the universe’. I thanked him. 😂

[@delladearest2511]

I liked your last sentence best!

[@garnethoover763]

What have I become? I've become a single older woman with my 2 dogs awaiting the 22 days left in my house before I move somewhere ...I'm on a fixed income, I am a giving person, the happiest time was when my dog gave birth to her puppies this year, new life. I am comfortable in a corner by myself writing and sipping a hot drink, I can be around a crowd but it wears me out the next day. I love being alone with my fabric! I do believe in forgiveness wholeheartedly. Your questions are good! I need to think more about what I like and dislike. I have settled all of my married life but not now.

[@PossumLover1111]

Sitting here on a Sunday late morning, having coffee, and listening/watching you is such a great comfort to me. I recently discovered your channel and subscribed. You are so lovely and a delight to watch/listen to as your simple words are profound and a blessing to me. I'm 66, live in my house with my dog, no boyfriend but I have a fairly new granddaughter whom I'm dearly in love with and seeing her every week gives me the greatest joy I can ever imagine, especially nowadays as she's more engaging with me and smiles and interacts. Thank you for your videos. I appreciate you.

[@artslover9586]

You get a real love, only from your pet😊.Married 3 times in my 65 years of life and all were crazy for me (last one still married but fortunately lives in another country}., though dont regret the time and experience i had with each one of them, honestly i feel more content & most secure financially. Glad i dont have to worry, care for, deal with and entertain some one else.Grateful for having true, real friends, supportive family and not dependant on anybody. My hard work and female guts paid.Never too late to be smart with your money. every dollar counts, talk and learn from your friends.Another great episode with you dear Susan, and adorable Desi .