Monkey Branching vs Grass is Greener Syndrome (Podcast 260)

What are the similarities and differences between 'Monkey Branching' and 'Grass is Greener Syndrome' (GIGS)?
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[@NIGHTGHOST76]

Grass is greener is most likely to come back. On the other side Monkey Branching rarely come back, the shame to admit the cheating for a long time. Just a big piece of shit could do this to someone, after years of shared moments and memories..

[@vincentbos]

Thank you for your comment. How are you feeling today?

[@karlbale3980]

Exactly.. "only a giant piece of 💩 can do that, a person who loved & hundred of good memories at the end"

[@ladyvirgo9514]

My soon ex husband monkey branched. Piece of Shit is right

[@nieczerwony]

Monkey branching is essentially grass is greaner in practice. They think you are not best option and that they found a better one, and they just jump there.

[@megachristina12ify]

I was thinking about this! My ex was both of them😅

[@user-yv1fh3fc8y]

The monkey-brancher is immature, damaged and immoral. The grass is greener is simply immature.

[@batemen258]

Never get with anyone who is still in a relationship with someone else or has just got out of one.

[@Jhihmoac]

They're both pretty much the same... Monkeybranching is the actual result of a man or woman thinking they see something BETTER somewhere else...

[@vincentbos]

Yes, 'monkey branchers' are always looking for something they deem as better. How are you feeling today?

[@keiwinnmitchell3212]

Monkey branching is totally conscious! They know what they are doing!

[@nieczerwony]

From one side yes. From other not. Firstly they are driven by emotions, and with that it's hard to say they are thinking logically.

[@dt8427]

Vincent Bos, your channel is way underrated. Love from Australia Bro

[@vincentbos]

Thank you DT, I really appreciate that. How are you feeling today?

[@centurioncorso7131]

Really great information! Wow it’s actually quite incredible

[@vincentbos]

Thank you :)

[@BusygrowUk2012]

Going through this now. Wife had a affair with boss at work, stopped it, came back for 8 months, then went back to him, kicked me out my house moved him in 2 days later, lived together 3 months now moved in together some where else. 21 years, 3 kids, a business and about to buy her a house all gone....

[@vincentbos]

Hello BusyGrow, I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. How are you feeling today?

[@BusygrowUk2012]

@@vincentbos absolutely trash, the stalking of my social media by her don't help, love to know why she does that. It's so depressing, it's unreal.

[@doriansrandorianvlogplace2676]

@@BusygrowUk2012 that’s ridiculous smh damn shame. And why’s she stalking you?? I bet she played victim when you confronted her too.

[@jorgeriera3337]

I'm sorry for what you are going thru something similar happened to me stay strong and don't take the bait. Don't hope for hope its all a fantasy move on. Any updates

[@dotfive5six477]

Jesus bro I'm sorry. my ex had an affair and left it hurts man

[@darrenfernando3519]

People become less happier when there is more choice

[@assplundah]

Definitely!

[@laurah.7696]

That monkey branching seems really scary. It is almost like you can never be assured with anyone. How do you test for this?

[@kiddytube3915]

Watch for the red flags early on.. Do they keep a bunch of orbiters from the opposite sex around? Are they constantly negative or bitchy or talk badly about other people. Do they test your boundaries and can’t accept the words “no”. Did they put you on a pedestal early in the relationship and are now tearing you down? Go slowly and don’t rush the relationship.

[@cathylake9072]

Should only look for someone else, while you are committed, if you are in an abusive relationship and cant make a clean break easily. It is easy to spot a monkey brancher or grass is greener by testing them with an attractive friend.

[@laurah.7696]

@@cathylake9072 Yes that is a good way. Thanks for that.

[@keiwinnmitchell3212]

Stay single!

[@delilah6390]

Why would we want them back if they return?

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

We don't girl. We just want see the look on there face when we tell them sorry doors closed keep your sorry ass moving.

[@cashyf_88]

@@user-yv1fh3fc8y why would she be joking ??? Why would you want your ex back who left u

[@TheM0B11]

great question. easy to answer in theory...

[@pavlosgianngr3529]

Because you have a child together and the health of your child is more important

[@ktorr9413]

@@pavlosgianngr3529your children are eventually going to grow up and move out. You’re going to be stuck with this person and then end up alone when they leave you again.

[@slimskinny]

Is this dating or planet of the apes? Also you are not lying, the will not care about the time; the history any of that. They will just leave with no remorse.

[@shawntee.8461]

Can there be some sort of mix between both of these? She's had a list of flings, and only another long term relationship before ours, both the previous one and ours lasted 1 year and a half, (she left for another dude.) So... Which way to deal with it?

[@vincentbos]

Hi Shawn, thank you for your question. It's very understandable you are trying to make sense of everything. However, I would suggest trying to focus on your own journey moving forward. Dating / relationship labels won't change the current situation and hence whether your ex was this or that - doesn't really matter. The main thing to focus on is you're exciting, fantastic future, that you can have with or without your ex.

[@jaimehincapie5458]

Amazing information

[@vincentbos]

Thank you very much

[@petralee574]

My husband monkey branched to me 15 years ago because he definitely upgraded. He brought his 3 small kids with him which I raised. Monkey branched away from me after 15 years … kids grown and after I purchased a business for him. He hired a girl and left me for her practically overnight … he burned all bridges and discarded all previous relationships. Got engaged 3 months later and got remarried in another 6 months. She left her marriage and monkey branched as well. 2 cheaters - stolen money for business - success rate?

[@jorgeriera3337]

Yes it is you are free of dirtbag be strong find someone who's going to love you and help each other to become the best. Same thing happened to me I became a father figure to 3 boys 3 years later she left me after almost 2 months of breadcrumbs and false hope I told this hurts to much so if you love me then block me so she did never heard from her 3 weeks later she has a new relationship and sleeps in the same bed I did. What does the tell you about her? Good luck

[@petralee574]

@@jorgeriera3337 Good Luck to you as well.

[@assplundah]

If they’ll do it with you, they’ll do it to you. I feel your pain though, I’ve been there myself.

[@kerrymillar1267]

Did he leave his previous wife for you? He showed his true colours to you.

[@dhruvcompany7605]

Good information..

[@vincentbos]

Thank you

[@dhruvcompany7605]

@@vincentbos ‌The girl I have known for 1 year dated for since ,but during corona virus and lockdown she pulled away,. From may 2020, so i gave her space , but she keep reaching out to me within 2 to 3 of days intervals ,. But she have change our terms of relationship and became unsure about it ,,, when I ask her about it , she says, she don,t want this right now ,, and she says, she does not care about me,,, so I told her that I don,t interested anything else rather thn her and cut all contact ,, after 12 days she reach out to me we text little back and fort , she asked questions if I have a new girlfriend or not and why I am so active these days on whatsapp, ,then she reach out to me once again 15 days after that ,she is texting but she says she don,t want to be romantic with me,. So i told her " only contact me, if you sure about me or if there is a hope for future ,, "you have time to think" and cut contact once again ,, I am scare this time ,,, i doubt she will not contact me this time ,😥

[@vincentbos]

Hi Dhruv, I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds like your ex wants a platonic friendship with you. If you have romantic feelings, then it's important you don't get friend zoned, because this will hurt you.

[@dhruvcompany7605]

@@vincentbos umm right. Thanku... 😊

[@Vrxkz]

My boyfriend completely blindsided me and broke up with me in June after 1 1/2 years. We had a great relationship, or so I thought- we didn't fight very often and I thought we were happy, I didn't suspect anything and was completely shocked especially since everything seemed completely normal. I even received my good morning text per usual. Later that evening.... he broke up with me. We were talking marriage, a family, he even took me ring shopping! I had even put an offer on a house 2 days before bu!!!!! I found out 2 1/2 weeks later he was already in a relationship. I'm still completely and utterly devastated and heartbroken. I just feel in my gut he's the one. Do you think maybe the whole house thing scared him and this is a case of grass is greener? Do you think I may still have a chance and he'll come back?

[@vincentbos]

Hi Erin, Thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. I would need to know more details about your relationship to have a better understanding of everything. Please may I ask how old are you and your ex? When be ended the relationship, what exactly did he say?

[@Vrxkz]

@@vincentbos I am 38 and my ex is 31. We are both divorced and I have a 7 year old from my ex husband. We also live 20 minutes apart, which isn't much, but he mentioned he was exhausted which I am assuming that's what he meant by that- he didn't really say. He said we always did what I wanted to do, which wasn't necessarily true, but he never made any suggestions. He said he shouldn't have to "wait" on his girlfriend and that he's changed and we have different paths, but didn't really say what that meant, it was really just one reason (excuse) after the other. If it was really because of my son, does it really take that long to figure out that's not what you want??? We didn't argue much and had a great relationship. There was no indication that this was coming. I'm just so confused and heartbroken. I love him with every shred of my being and I don't even know what to do with myself

[@vincentbos]

@@Vrxkz thank you for your response. May i ask what country you live in? What are the lockdown restrictions in your country? Does your ex have children? Did you and your ex ever discuss having a child together?

[@Vrxkz]

@@vincentbos we live in the U.S. when we broke up things were still pretty locked down, but now the majority of places are open with restrictions. He doesn't have any children- but his ex wife lost a child when they were married. Yes! He always talked about having children. In fact, just 2 weeks before the break up, after we were intimate, he said, "there better be twins in there" we even had names picked out!

[@vincentbos]

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[@i_am_thebatman]

Cool intro

[@antilaw9911]

My ex of 7 years live together told me it just happened. We 56. And only a few months talking together and only a few dates. They even bought a house together, and we not even moved out of our home we just put for sale. In Fucking real!

[@rickcope3226]

My ex left me after 13 years.in December 3 weeks later she had somebody On Valentine’s Day she contacted me Three days later she told me she was still seeing somebody else Been in no contact sense

[@ariusfullilove4901]

Well what happend ??

[@TimeWaveOfficial]

update ? same to me after 10 years 2 weeks before break up "he is like a brother just a friend" then 2 weeks after she travelled to him had sex and is doing all the stuf we wanted to do like ring watching etc

[@maddena977]

I don't think that he will ever come back to me..he had the opportunity, and no I was not the perfect in the relationship, and this breakup has helped me notice that, but I don't think that he really loved me ever like he said. I think he just said that to keep me around. I loved him more than he loved me. He seems really happy with his new girlfriend, so I hope he is happy with the gf. I am going to focus on myself and try to be a better person for the next person who will actually treat me as a first choice versus an option when a relationship doesn't work out. I know that I am worth more than that... I can't believe thay a breakup would make you discover that, but it has... i wish my ex all the best. I also think that they might get married, but who knows...

[@jorgeriera3337]

Good way of thinking move on.

[@KarelChytilArt]

Vincent, i dont know if my ex did monkey branching, she had maybe 2 relationships in past. And me. But she had new man Just in one week after me. But We are in contact, There is no blocking and other things. Sometimes its weird. Thanks for videos. But she has depression (medical), social anxiety. Sometimes its better to no thinking about that situation

[@vincentbos]

How are you feeling today Karel?

[@KarelChytilArt]

@@vincentbos I am fine. Maybe it was around 20 days, but it doesnt matter now. (i checked it). Hope you are ok too.

[@norellmarksalaan9587]

my ex girlfriend broke up with me last February 27 and i notice she was cold to me last December and i ask her whats wrong are u still love me she said yes .fast forward last February 27 she broke up to me and after a week i found out that she likes her workmate and they become close and she said she likes the new guy because of his attitude and he appreciates my ex girlfriend and i was not she sees all negative about me and after few weeks they are in relationship. So fast. We been in 2 years relationship. 1 yeae ldr and 1 year living together. Sorry for my bad english sir.

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

got that

[@gamerkazsi]

I have almost the same situation. She broke up with me on the 14. Of July, and a few weeks earlier she was saying the she loved me. Probably lying.. I asked her if the dumping is happening because of an other guy?(because it was out of the blue) She said "of course not" and she wants to be alone now, she needs to focus on her studies... 2 weeks later i have seen her with a new boy waking, while holding hands... :) so she probably monkey branched or and already was cheating... Oh i have to say that she broke up with me on facebook:) what a nice person:) after 2 years together, she tought i don t deserve honesty and the truth:) of course it wouldn't have been much easier, but at least she would have been honest... Her father cheated on her mother, she hates her father for this... But still, she did the same with me

[@norellmarksalaan9587]

@@gamerkazsi so how are you right now? She replace me with a downgrade. Because of our break up l learn alot of lesson, blessings in disguise and alot of improvement about myself. I have a job and i lose 10 lbs and gain muscle.

[@gamerkazsi]

@@norellmarksalaan9587 Sometimes i feel pretty bad, but sometimes i say that it is better now then later... She showed her true self...women who lie, cheat don t deserve us.. But you are right it is a blessing too... I lost weight too, i started going to the gym etc... And how are you brother?

[@Kevvvinus1]

Did she reached out??

[@nagel1968]

Some one who have spent their whole life monkey branch....are their really happy ??? I wasted 6 years with one didn't see all off the red flags causevi overlooked her flaws but boy does it DAMAGED you as a human being....she post up I'm really happy

[@rickcope3226]

Everything has consequences.

[@jpp4566]

5.5 years and she left me for him. No looking back

[@satcav4173]

The grass in greener where you water it.

[@MatkalYael]

In my case, she married the monkey branch 5 months post breakup after 7 years relationship. How do marry someone in that short time? I would like to know the mentality of a man who would marry some in such a short period? As soon as I heard, can we be friends, I did not even know all this, but I cut off all contacts.

[@TimeWaveOfficial]

update? could be same for me in next month

[@Kevvvinus1]

Update cmon ;)

[@willmitchell6521]

Only a guy who was a narcissist Would rush an engagement like that

[@MatkalYael]

Update? Ok guys, I have been NC but we still have social media contacts. She is posting like crazy. Very unusual of her. She is changing her profile pics so frequently that I deduce that something is wrong. Perhaps, the new relationship/rebound marriage is hitting the wall. If this is the case science is so EXACT. For the person I know the way she is posting is crazy. And sometimes she post the pic that I took of her! I would never do that if am in a new relationship and let alone engaged. So that is the update guys. Am in a better place now.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

A NARCISSIST will monkey branch bcse they do NOT love. They go from one to the other. They can't help it, bcse they have no empathy or feelings for you.

[@patrik-vw4ek]

They're ex's for a reason...never take them back!

[@ladyvirgo9514]

My soon ex husband is a monkey branched coward. 12 years married & he had been grooming the secretary from his work. I found this out afterwards. Long Story Short, what a couple of idiots. They deserve that cheating foundation & karma.

[@vincentbos]

I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. I hope my channel is providing you with the support you need moving forward. Stay positive and focused on your journey.

[@ladyvirgo9514]

@@vincentbos ty❤️🩵

[@lionheart9737]

Yes, she is a monkey, but im not a grass or branch.. Im human.

[@emelkarincaoglu]

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