Mood Changes during Perimenopause

Dr. Maki discusses how to menopause can effect mood (www.menopause.org)

[@73kristilee]

I'm so sick of doctors saying physical activity is what you should do. Don't they realise that the depression associated with this is what stops physical activity. Having zero motivation to leave the house. Wanting it, but not being able to do it. So saying just go out and exercise is redundant.

[@giao2380]

I agree. I sometimes want to smack them.

[@fiesta5840]

Yes. Go and walk. ..only thing that they can say😣

[@carlaforbushall6964]

Agree

[@carolwright9336]

That is what they always tell up but they dont know our feelings ..they should have been in our body.

[@heathernavarro3186]

I know that sucks to hear, and there are days I can't even get up.. I have alot of anxiety that makes it hard to get up , but I noticed when I force myself to get up and just walk..after like 20 min I do start feeling my mood get better...bless you ❤

[@HD74189]

I have a severe depression and anxiety which affected my entire life and I have no energy to exercise at all I am exhausted all the time I tried cognitive behavioral therapy for 2 yrs but it didn’t work, just now I realized why! So I’ll go back to the anti depressant please God help me and help everybody who’s struggling out there!

[@hasinapatel1233]

I feel your pain I have had therapy but this is different kind of depression hormonal should be more help out there.

[@faithinallthingsw4088]

I'm perimenopausal and everyone and everything gets on my nerves about 80 percent of the time. I am clear its hormonal related.

[@honestheart6745]

You summed it all up in one sentence! With that clarity…how do you manage (to not go full out crazy?)

[@susanwhitbeck4210]

I am crazy and angry and snap. I need a solution. Does the depo shot help?

[@annasanders8401]

Yes!!! This, exactly.

[@Ahardee]

I feel the exact same way! I've never been so moody in my life.

[@losreyesguerrero]

@@susanwhitbeck4210 I am going to look into pearl therapy. A friend got them as she swears they have helped greatly.

[@annasanders8401]

Thank y’all!! I’m 45, constantly sweaty, fat, hairy, sad and irritated. This totally stinks but this gives me some hope.

[@julesindigoblue4441]

I’m suffering and have reached an end. I just can’t take much more of doctors/therapists not understanding what I’ve been going through. Maybe I’m done. But please please hear this as it’s very real!

[@christinehelder9114]

I dont know you, but reading the Psalms in the Bible helps me to know even men can weep and be weary over life situations. God will help you. Just ask.

[@echase416]

It can help to get on some progesterone in the beginning. 100-300 mg of Prometrium at bedtime. It will at least reduce anxiety and improve your sleeping. Those seem to be things that women struggle with as the progesterone drops. The Estrogen drops later on... The Estrogen skin patches (Climara; Estradot, etc) and vaginal estrogen tablets such as Vagifem can be helpful.

[@redruby747]

I'm in same boat n thinkin I'm bipolar

[@majorenkova]

@@redruby747 me too

[@FortheBudgies]

I hope you are doing ok. I took me 6 months of going to multiple doctors and researching so much to finally decide on a doctor that worked for me. There is SOOOOO much misinformation and bias out there to wade through and doctors are not immune. It makes me incrediably angry that I have lose at least 6 months of career and life productivity to doctors not listening and believing. Sadly, this has done nothing but reinforce my viewpoint that I will only see female doctors whenever possible. Especially gynecologists! I will even go so far at this point to say I will only see female gynecologists over the age of 45 because I really don't think anyone can truly understand what it is like to have your mind and body completely betray you until you have experienced it.

[@nnnnn1610]

I'm here because I'm seemingly wide awake.. again. And i realized my period is late.. and has likely been late for some months. My sleep has been messed up for probably well over a year now, but it's not always because of night sweats, I just simply can't sleep, no matter what I try.. and I've probably tried it all. My pmt is worse, longer in duration - I'm more miserable than happy, more hormonal than "normal" and I've had a lot of feeling like it's better if I'm just not here anymore. I've always struggled with my memory, remembering and recalling, but this is way, way worse. I feel like an idiot. Repeatedly asking the same stuff or just asking people to repeat themselves.. and "did I just say that?" has become my no1 Q! I even considered dementia or maybe I've had a mini stroke and it's affected my brain.. I can't concentrate, I'm scattered, I'm putting the chopping board on the hob and the pan on the side (to chop on!), left my remote in the fridge.. things I've cooked every week for years I now can't remember the timings of, just odd, odd things. I've bought it up before, of course my gp blames stress or depression. Always with the "depression".

[@rawsiebee1]

I definitely understand. I told my therapist that I thought I'd had a nervous breakdown and my family was afraid to tell me. She recommended looking up symptoms of perimenopause and that was life changing!! I had all symptoms with the exception of a couple! It felt good to know that I wasn't losing it! Ashwaganda has been great for me and helps me sleep VERY good!! I still have many symptoms but I'm trying to learn as much as I can to overcome the obstacles. Praying things are better for you.

[@randomvicky939]

Omg I’m passing through a very nasty peri menopause! Believe or not I’m in treatment with antidepressants but still … Crying a lot in unusual situations. Low self steam. Sense of guilt . Loss of appetite. I wasn’t feeling like this until the hormone changing. By nature I’m very sensitive and now it’s driving me nuts . I think I need more exercises.

[@tiresamercury2185]

This was so helpful. I have recognized the symptoms and as much as I hate it. I am grateful that these educational clips help me understand myself more. The symptom I hate most, the weight gain and mood swings. The worst ever. Time to get on the health wagon.

[@brookebenton8192]

Im 39 and in perimenopause. It's driving me crazy!!! To the point of feeling suicidal at times. I never had pms in my life and now I have it for 2 weeks at a times. I also have insomnia, night sweats, anxiety, huge blood clots with my period and irregular periods. The gyno said I am still too young for HRT since Im still having a cycle. I hate synthetics but Im getting back on the combination birth control pill to help regulate symptoms. Just know, there is hope and you are not crazy!

[@jesussaves4634]

My Aunt was really bad with it also she felt suicidal too she said she felt like.she was literally loosing her mind.

[@messsa100]

I'm 40 an feeling just like you 😭😭😭

[@amandapanda4036]

Been off birth control pills for years but have been thinking of going back on bc of all these symptoms….pms, angry, crying. All 10 days b4 my period.

[@annasanders8401]

I see you wrote this 10 months ago. Hope you’re feeling better 🙂. That’s how I feel right now.

[@whudang]

My symtomes started with 42 and my expierenced doctor said that it‘s not the age nor the blood test for him the reason to give or give not HRT but the symtomes are. Since on HRT most symtomes are completley gone. Just fatigue and mood swings here and there.

[@nopretribrapture2318]

Plus ptsd fibromyalgia pain cfs insomnia anxiety incontinence depression traumatic experiences since early childhood, hypothyroidism, ibs, joint pains,dizziness, sinusitis, loneliness, hiatus hernia digestive disorders, migraines etc etc yet i still hang on 😢

[@rahmamohamed9664]

Spot on I am hanging with you 👈

[@ivymae65]

I've experienced burning in my legs and back headache loneliness dizziness sleepless nights low appreciate low sex drive want to be alone i feel sometimes like a train run over me

[@rahmamohamed9664]

@@ivymae65 yes that is the real perimenopause.its a real battle every morning till sunset and from sunset to sunrise welcome to the wagon

[@jilltiedeman144]

same here...almost identical issues

[@SuzanneCheung]

Progesterone cream 200mg till normal. I had it and get better. Check how to heal bipolar disorder. You can heal from it. PTSD try free EMDR on KZbin

[@inserter400]

AND HOW IT AFFECTS THEIR MARRIAGE

[@lisashears1399]

My moods have been extremely low, I can't cope someday my quality of life has gone down a lot. I'm now trying HRT so God willing this will work xx

[@echase416]

I live in Toronto, Canada. The MDs in Canada will not prescribe HRT such as Progesterone for Perimenopause or Estrogen for Menopause. Women are just given Anti-depressants. When people have low Thyroid or need Insulin, they are not given antidepressants. This is a sad state of affairs.

[@inspiredtosoar3526]

A Berryman with you! Feeling worse mentally with everything going on wish we had better medical care for middle aged women

[@JesusSaves7012]

So sorry...socialized medicine sucks.

[@echase416]

@@JesusSaves7012 The issue isn’t socialized medicine. It’s medicine globally ignoring women who are 40+.

[@majorenkova]

Wow.

[@lindaw7502]

Yes come to terms with older age, lost interests, want to be alone, are profound. Physical excercise is key! Thanks

[@faithinallthingsw4088]

I have all of this, sleep issues, irregular cycles, moodiness, night and day sweats.

[@bibbedyboo3532]

I am 38 in one month and having massive wild mood swings, missed period without pregnancy, migraines and dizzy spells with brain fog. There are also moments of what I call “joyless”. I have also had massive night sweats so bad I wake up shivvering and have to change my clothing and this really annoying prickly itchy feeling all over my body. Vaginal dryness and sexual issues as in, no desire, no feeling of pleasure, hair loss and cant decide if I am hot or cold daly. There is also this weird migraine aura motor aphasia going on. I only had my first child 21m ago so, I cant tell you how blessed I am that I at least had 1 even though the thought pangs that he may be really lonely sometimes.

[@luisa-sheri5659]

I had my only child when I was 37 and I was upset he maybe lonely -but he was and is fine. When I was 38 I started experiencing terrible depression, hair loss and skin problems.. I tried to explain to a doctor that something hormonal was happening-as I was getting 3 weeks of misery and only felt normal when I had a period..I was dismissed of course with antidepressants- I am now 57 and I have been through years of hell ..I am now on HRT for last 2 months things and slowly getting better. I pray you get the right help and don't suffer for years like I did. God bless x

[@hasinapatel1233]

I@luais-sheri5659 Did it take take 2 months for the Hrt to take affect I'm really suffering I am on Hrt early days yet haven't seen any improvement when I read comments like yours it give me hope .

[@lrowe6494]

I am 45 and sometimes I cry ,I get angry, I sweat my sleep is not like it used to be I get annoyed easily the littlest set me off

[@sherilynshepperd8059]

I'm so depressed because my menopause is so bad. I love my partner but because everything is so overwhelming I get upset so easily. He is trying but I don't know if that keeps him out later and later each night. I do know that he loves me but he tells me that I am unbearable while I am having my episodes. He has installed a ceiling fan but I'm still feeling overwhelmed. He hugs and kisses alot more. I need any suggestions to get through this. Back story I lost my father last year to advanced cancer and my mom is sick with Covid. Please help. Prayers are needed 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@jesussaves4634]

Will keep you in daily prayer 🙏 I haven't experienced this yet personally but my Aunt went through it quite bad to the point she felt suicidal and said she felt like she was loosing her mind. I think the HRT was what helped her. I'm sorry for your loss and will keep your mum in prayer also.

[@sherilynshepperd8059]

@@jesussaves4634 Thank you for your support! Many Blessings to you and your family 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@randomvicky939]

Oh dear sorry for your loss … I hear you … I know the feeling sooooo well I’m in the same situation. I don’t know what else to do ! I’ll pray for you and all women passing through this. Blessings ♥️

[@priscila5612]

Praying for you

[@sherilynshepperd8059]

Thank you all for your support! I really needed your advice 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@esthaltap9499]

Thanks indeed.. From Catalonia. It has been very usual

[@kaydenise6559]

I literally just went to my OBGYN this morning to have my hormones checked. I’m 43 and cry ALL OF THE TIME! I’ve been seeing a psychiatrist when the whole time it never occurred to me that my hormones may be causing it. I’m now starting HRT. Hoping it works.

[@joco9207]

I have been the same for 9mthd😔

[@jillreilly3474]

Hi Karen , how are u getting on with hrt im pretty much like u were im 44 but my anxiety is through the roof just now as well! ❤️

[@lyricalphoenix8778]

How has it been for you

[@pandeyGCooking]

Very helpful. Thanx doc!

[@heathernavarro3186]

Yes, I've noticed my trips to the gym help me tremendously. Swimming and walking on the treadmill. 😊

[@marias8007]

This is informative but feels so sombre. We,re not dying just getting older

[@gaittr]

Dang that woman on the left spent some time in college

[@rebekah518]

They left out eating for your health, cutting out sugar, cutting alcohol, cutting caffeine.

[@FortheBudgies]

Because these things are just blaming women for their symptoms and are marginally helpful. They are talking about solutions based on actual evidence, not diet fads. There is ZERO evidence that cutting out sugar has any affect. Alcohol and caffeine do have vasomotor affects and cutting them is pretty much always a good idea so not really relevant. Adding the stress of a restrictive diet and cutting out things that they enjoy is not going to improve mood in anyone. Having to cut out things they enjoy because of this crap situation isn't going to make anyone feel better.

[@rebekah518]

@@FortheBudgies eating for your health is part of an actual solution and just because you can’t or won’t cut out sugar doesn’t negate it’s effectiveness. An it does make people feel better to cut out the things I mentioned.

[@FortheBudgies]

@@rebekah518 your suggestion assumes women are eating enough sugar to cause problems. Yes, cutting sugar would make literally EVERYONE feel better if they were regularly consuming large amounts of highly processed foods full of sugar. Even then evidence would support that cutting out processed foods is what helped, more than cutting sugar. Women who are already eating healthy diets with appropriate sugar intake are likely to just feel worse if they add more dietary restrictions to their lives. Restrictive diets are incredibly stressful to maintain. Also, sugar helps increase dopamine, which helps with attention and focus, so eating something like fruit or a small amount of chocolate could actually be a mood booster. Every time someone "helpfully" suggests to just adopt a highly restrictive diet as a solution to an already overwhelming problem they are ignoring the fact that dietary changes are incredibly difficult and stressful and very very very few people maintain them. This leads to "failure" and self blame that they will just have to continue feeling like crap because they could just cut out X food when the real treatment is medication. This leads to women denying life changing medications because of a very vocal group of people who say that is failure to take medication instead of sticking to something the toxic diet culture is pushing with zero evidence behind their claims. If cutting sugar, gluten, and dairy cured as many things as diet culture claims there wouldn't be disease anymore! No dietician would recommend completely cutting out sugar. Restrictive diets are not healthy for the mind, body or soul. They are disordered eating, plain and simple.

[@rcquinones5094]

Actually most people do consume high amounts of sugar and processed foods hence the high rate of diabetes, kidney disease, heart disease, etc. I apologize that I didn’t specifically say refined sugar. I never touted to be a dietician. It’s too bad that this subject has obviously struck a cord with you. I no longer wish to engage your obvious attempt to “stir the pot” so to speak. Have a lovely life.

[@FortheBudgies]

@@rcquinones5094 this is not an obvious attempt to stir the pot but an attempt to bring awareness to the fact that restrictive diets are not the pangea to cure all health issues.

[@Iceis_Phoenix]

At 52 I am EXHAUSTED. 2 YEARS since no menses. I am so achey tired from hot flush and panic attacks its demonic

[@lunaaksoy]

Awareness is the key word👍

[@rknrlgrl6146]

I don’t have periods or night sweats anymore but I do find I am not really interested in talking or getting together with friends. I’m not sad per say just not motivated to socialize. Does this go away eventually?😊

[@MrTheomighty1]

I’m a bloke watching this possibly going through the pre-menopause, my partner says she’s no idea what’s wrong with her, she’s 49 soon how do I tell her to go for a blood test, she has a GP appointment in 2 weeks, Wednesday she told me I may not be the right guy for her, then Saturday she says baby hang on in there I love you so much, she’s told me she hates college since her mood swings I’m getting to know a different person she was nothing at all like she is now, she says it’s not just me it’s everything, her family, college, myself she says she’s not even replying to people and that’s not like me

[@562Omar]

Thanks Theomighty - Curious if you could share an update on any particular treatment/therapy that has worked for your partner.

[@lisashears1399]

I would recommended maybe showing her this video and maybe some others. There is a menopause Dr called Dr Louise Newsome here in the UK who is excellent. She has a few good books out. Maybe look for her books on perimenopause and menopause under Dr Louise Newsome. Good luck give us an update if you can. I'm going through perimenopause and its not easy xx

[@hasinapatel1233]

@lisahears How are you doing now? I AM a total mess don't what going on with me hot cold depressed started Hrt but sadly they don't test blood hear in the uk . Unless you go private . So just have to hope for the best. Please pray it works for me.

[@Sarah-yj6lf]

I haven't wanted to admit that I'm that age, but lately I feel like I'm going through puberty again. I'm probably the subject of several well-deserved Midol cracks.

[@orira7390]

I'm 46.....Please which Doctor should we go do test for perimenopause?? Is it for primary Doctor?? What type of tests exactly??what is the normal hormone in primenaupose should in women have vafter 40 years old , please help me I already have test for hormones and my primary Doctor is not sure if I'm in perimenopause I can send you a copy to private message please help me ,I live in Illinois I have a lot if symptoms 🤯😭🙏🙏 I don't know which good specialist Doctor for womens hormones natural terapy !!??

[@marystahl]

My obgyn helped me a ton. He understands hormones. My primary said and I quote... I don’t mess with hormones. Anyway a Sailvia test was done then blood test six months later. All main five hormones. You can watch menopause Barbie on KZbin...a retired ob. And she also consults. Her information is amazing

[@MegaHowtoMan]

What are the treatments that you touched on?

[@echase416]

MegaHowtoMan HRT. Progesterone, Estrogen, low dose Testosterone. Try a Naturopath..

[@Corrans]

The problem with this info is it's very vague. It's difficult to tell what's hormonal and what's not.

[@christelmoore4723]

Could you use milk during Premenopausal

[@hadijakalyegira4107]

I am from Toronto 🇨🇦, any menopause doctors available? Please let me know. Doctors are not educated in this area but are easy to prescribe anti depressants wth!!!! 😮

[@emmadunning8275]

And also replace hormones with hrt a diabetic replaces insulin .. exercise is not enough !

[@fredvalencia2205]

Menopause is effecting my wife but she loves me dearly its just physically hard on her especially the night sweats

[@kms3063]

This is a nitemare ! It seems unfair this is how it goes “

[@lulu52110]

HRT????? not mentioned to help mood. WOW!!!

[@Iceis_Phoenix]

It causes cancer hrt

[@Iceis_Phoenix]

3:10

[@candysmith8724]

Repetitive sounds bug the crap out of me now.

[@giao2380]

Oh my gosh! Me too.

[@Contessa998]

I’m very sound sensitive now also

[@reginadelgraal]

Also during and after menopause the life goes on, even better, if you follow some simple tips: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJauqaKLmp5rq8k

[@giao2380]

Seek help? All they want to do is give prescription meds. I want natural herbs. I mean what did they use back in the day before all of these medications??? Im already bipolar, manic depressant and borderline. No meds have ever helped. Exercise doesn’t help. Neither does meditation. Anxiety and insomnia are hell. No meds prescribed help me. Im doomed.

[@lilpaddedpaws5462]

The Botox is strong in these ones

[@j.montcliff377]

Chiropractors are the biggest scam artists out there.

[@Goldgirl1978]

So no mention of going on hrt what so ever!! Get some modern day education lady!

[@jimwilkey7294]

Why do so many middle age i’ women, totally deny these facts?

[@mechanicaldave7981]

And blame it on their partner?

[@giao2380]

Because men are naturally stupid. Menopause seems to bring out more stupidity in men.