Mother-Daughter Q&A with Hailey: How did we get so close? Frugal Fit Mom Podcast

[@chelseafailla9887]

"rules without relationship is tyranny. Relationship without rules is chaos". Wise wise wise and 110% true

[@yeseniapena6819]

Hailey looks so much like her dad. She's so grown and beautiful

[@ashleebickley1222]

She looks like a good mix of both of them!

[@lauranewman564]

She definitely looks like Dave, but I'm seeing some Lauren, maybe in her mannerisms?

[@jenmatt1923]

@@lauranewman564 Yes! I was thinking both of them as well!

[@joolzmac1]

After following FFM for several years now, it is evident that Christine and Dave respect their children and in return, the kids respect them. I love the fun banter whenever the kids are in the vids. There is general joy in the household. I’m glad to say, both of our daughters went through their teenage years without being angsty and rude. Respect for each other seems to be the key. ❤

[@joannerandolph5533]

I always told my daughter if she ever was in an uncomfortable situation or didn’t want to do something, just use me as her excuse - “my mom said I cant or I have to get home”. She really appreciated this

[@dianasimplifies]

I did that all the time. My parents were strict so it was not a stretch at all 😆 Anything I didn't want to do got blamed on my poor mom

[@Riley-46734]

I've told my kids the same. That I know of, they've used me needing them to help out at home once.

[@Tia-vj9ox]

My mom said that to me too! I am 68 years old and I am still grateful that I could blame her lol

[@susanpumphrey354]

I did that too! "Make me the bad guy, I don't care if they don't like me." 😅

[@TracyShead-Stamey]

Omg yes, my kids are in their late 20s and early 30s, and I have told them to use me as an excuse anytime. Instead of oh mom says no, it's mom needs a ride to the Dr, or I need to help her with yard work. I will always be their mom.

[@JulsMWK1995]

Hailey looks so much like her dad!

[@theshepherds2846]

I have 3 daughters, all grown and married. They were amazing children and teens. I so enjoyed every step of them growing up. Their friends mothers would complain about the angsty girls and how rude they were, and I would just keep quiet. Then I heard the way they spoke to their daughters and knew where they got it from. My girls are kind, generous and productive members of society, and I’m so proud of them. I’m a widow now, and they take good care of their mama! Christine, you and Dave have raised some awesome children and I know you guys are sooo proud!

[@cassidiroberts6473]

#1 - the audio 🫨 #2 - this was amazing and we now need a Hailey and Christine podcast.

[@morganagrom3]

I’m 30 with a 3 year old daughter. I have an okay relationship with my mom (at best). You think your daughter is awesome, and she thinks you’re awesome. And I think that’s HUGE. You convey that to her and to your audience that parenting your daughter is a joy. When most people think parenting teenage girls sucks. You think she is a cool person. You respect her and think highly of her. And she reciprocates that. And that goes a long way. In the toddler years sometimes it can be tough to not feel burdened by certain aspects of parenting. But gosh my daughter is the coolest little person and I am going to try so hard to make sure she knows that as she grows.

[@kristenschlorholtz8799]

As a mom of boys, I’d love for you to do chats like this with your boys!

[@PerilousRainbow]

My dad started when we were very young with building a solid foundation. Explaining everything, backing us up in situations, creating family traditions. As a teenager, he kept telling my brother and I no when we would ask to do things with friends so when I was about 14/15, we sat him down and went “we need to talk. You can’t keep telling us no all the time like this, we do our chores, we do everything expected of us. We keep our grades up, we don’t get in trouble.” Dad takes a long look at both of us and goes “you’re right. And this proves you two are ready to be trusted with extra freedom. I was waiting on you guys to initiate this conversation for that reason” It blew my mind. As an adult I’m like “that was a genius way to evaluate our maturity levels, man is a legend” I don’t know anyone else who did this with their parents but it has lead to my dad having zero issues of respecting our choices as adults or trying to pressure us to do things any kind of way. I have a way better relationship with my family than a vast majority of my peers.

[@karengreen2437]

Love this interview. Hailey is so mature and wise for her age. She reminds me a lot of our daughter. I remember one time when our daughter was a teenager someone asked her to do something (that she shouldn’t do). She literally told them “I don’t do that but, even if I did, my mom would find out so no”.

[@melissawright4040]

Being strict is good. My parents were strict and I was so lucky. I realized how lucky I was when I started working as as a probation officer. I thanked my parents all the time. I told my mom that she just doesn't realized what's out in society.

[@lynncrooks64]

My girls to this day still say that before they do somethings they ask themselves, " will mom be mad?" They also always say thanks to my mom for driving me to be my best and my dad for his unconditional love!

[@jackieinartime4598]

I love this! I have a Hailey! She's 18 months old and my first baby. We're already so close and you and my hope is that we always will be. You and your Hailey are such an inspiration for me, Christine. Thank you for having her on. This has been so encouraging.

[@diversekakes]

I see my 19 year old self in your daughter! I pray that she doesn’t ever let anyone hurt her sweet spirit. Great video!

[@stephaniesemmel8760]

The number of time that I heard my Mom say “nothing good happens after midnight”! And then me getting old enough to admit she was totally correct - and I repeated the same words to my son. 😂

[@margigannon1748]

Gilmore girls is so good I’ve never seen Buffy I may have to watch it now

[@yvonnepalmquist8676]

Just a reminder part of the Walmart + is a $35 minimum, but if an item is able to be shipped, that has no minimum. I've also "delivered" to my parents and friends through my account.

[@alisonp9545]

I think my daughter and I definitely bonded belong the only 2 girls in the house. Honesty, trust, and explaining things is huge with our family. Communication is also mega important.

[@lindabeard488]

Haley is so much like you. Your children really respect you and that’s not very common anymore. Congratulations for having a great daughter and well-behaved boys who also respect you. Mom and dad have done a wonderful job. ❤❤❤

[@lindabeard488]

@frugalfitmompodcast_ I went to your podcasts and said help.

[@lindabeard488]

I don’t know how to do this. I’m sorry. I will give you name and address and email. I’m sorry to disappoint you.

[@Bo-ru4ow]

This is Germany speaking: PLEASE! PLEASE! PLEASE, DO THE BUFFY AND THE THE GILMORE GIRLS PODCAST! YOU JUST MENTIONED EVERY OF MY FAVOURITE BUFFY EPISODES - and by the way: SPIKE. Totally agree on everything you said about Spike! I'm 51 years old, but I-m not embarrased to say that two of my favourite things on this planet are Buffy and Gilmore Girls. I just did my very own "birthday week" and watched all the birthday episodes of both series in the evenings before my birthday. Such great fun. Love your podcast and your videos. If you are ever interested in what a German Aldi or Lidl look like, tell me, I will film a video from the motherland/ship😊 of Aldi and send it to you. All the best to you and Hayley! Yours, Bo

[@sierra5877]

I’m in my 30s, partnered but not married, and I don’t have any kids so I’m not exactly your majority demographic. I always said that if I met the right partner and we decided we wanted children that I’d hope to have boys because they just seem easier and low key and don’t hate you as much during teenage years lol. Your videos made me realize that if I ever have kids I really hope I have a little GIRL. Because the relationship you and Hailey have is so precious. If I ever have a daughter I hope I can raise her to be funny and smart and have an amazing relationship with her like you have with your daughter. Thanks for sharing not only fun frugal content, but also your funny family antics.

[@JazzyJosie]

i'm 40 and was completely 100% stuck just 'doing the kids and the mom' stuff for over 10 years. I have answered that way a LOT but I had lost myself. And I, unfortunately, at the time, didn't have an encouraging partner. (turned out to be extremely abusive and we escaped last year). BUT that question is something i can imagine answering now like this: I USED to love to ride my bike, to boogie (like living room dance party style boogie), do thing for other primarily shoveling driveways and walkways because i LOVE shoveling snow and building snowmen and going sledding. Notice how it switched from "I used to love", to "I love". This now, me being the only parent of 4 children 100% of the time. And somehow having escaped the abuse and with even less time and energy. I'm finding myself again~! And I feel SO GOOD. Love seeing you two together. Gives me hope for my daughter and I. shes also the only other girl. eldest girl with 3 younger brothers. it's chaos. 10 (daughter) and then 8, 5, 3 (sons). Have a WONDERFUL WEEK!!! Sending smiles and sunshisne from Winnipeg, Canada! (North of North Dakota) ~Jj

[@rosaryfitzgerald165]

I worked grave for a few years and I have NEVER HEARD ANYTHING TRUER than nothing good happens after midnight!!!

[@alisawainscott2692]

My oldest daughter went to a highly selective top 20 university. She texted me from a freshman psychology class where the professor said you will turn out more like your parents than you think. The whole class moaned and went on with stories about not liking your parents. She was shocked! I think mutual respect and treating them as a person while maintaining a parental role, not their friend, is a great step.

[@adriennescrazylife188]

It’s never to late - my daughter and I only became super close around 13 years old. I am her friend, but I’m also her parent. And I agree with explaining decisions, it helps kids understand and teaches them how to communicate

[@Crackrzz]

33:54 Y'all wanna be jealous? Our local Comic Con have been trying to get James Marsters for years. He is finally coming here the end of the month! 😊

[@AmySimmonds-luv4Jesus]

100% agree with the social media comments. My husband and I held back as long as we could. We let our kids have a cell phone their senior year.

[@peggypeters6676]

Senior year!!?? Gosh

[@elizabethkelly9790]

Love this episode so much. We’ve always told our older girls to use us an an excuse for anything they aren’t comfortable with. Sorry guys, my parents say I can’t or say I need to get home. Trust is a 2 way street and needs to be earned on both sides. ❤

[@kerryf9796]

#1 I adore Hailey! #2 I'd sign up for a Buffy podcast!!!

[@betterlivingonabudget]

I let out a for-real squeal when I saw this podcast in my feed after work! I have an hour commute home and this one made the ride home go by in a blink! My twin daughters graduated from college in May, and moved across the country mid-July. It's so hard to see them go, but exciting at the same time. Best wishes to Hailey for a fantastic future ahead.

[@lubas4945]

I am 67 and my mother is long gone, but the damage I suffered will always will be with me. I never spoke up, just hid the best I could which led to a first failed abusive marriage. My point is, work on the relationships, treasure and love each other

[@FrugalFamilyFocus]

Awe yayyyyyy Hailey is home!!! Also I’m so thrilled for these tips- thank you so much for sharing. My kids are still little! I hope to someday have this kind of relationship with my teens!

[@somethingsaboutmary3134]

I need more of these! Love this talk. as a mom of a little girl, I hope to have this kind of relationship with her down the road.

[@TheCrossLegacy]

Such a great interview between a mother and daughter!

[@organicholistiview]

Thank you for doing this podcast, it was very helpful and fun. Hailey, i wish you all the best with your future plans, no matter what you decide to do or study. It is evident that your mom and dad gave you great roots to provide a sturdy foundation and help you move forward in a positive direction. Thank you for your honesty during this episode.

[@jennynevers4811]

omg, the james marsters interviews, YES. 100% with you guys. Especially the inside of you one, that one sent me down a rabbit hole of james marsters interview marathon 🤣 Great Q&A guys! And good luck with everything Hailey!!!

[@nancylutsch6018]

Great video. I don't think you are too strict. I think you are a loving, understanding, and caring parent. When i hear your daughter speaking about her growing up with rules, I see my son saying the same things. He once told me that he appreciated not pushing him to getting a driver's license because he knew he wasn't ready for the responsibility.

[@patriciacarter8442]

Michael Rosenbaum. I love his pod cast and him. Actually have a photo with him and "Clark" Glad you are doing well Hailey:) Life is a garden, dig it.

[@viviannichols3582]

Pod Meets World is the BEST!

[@tonimcintyre-wx3qn]

My daughter is grown not ,when she was about 35,she send her dad and I flowers with a card that said,thank you for making me the person I am today,so I thought maybe we did ok.

[@tashainjena]

So... story time... my mom had me at 34... 16 and 14 years after my siblings. My mom was my #1 caretaker, as I was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes at 2. But I was a daddy's girl. Until i was 14. My dad passed, and all though we were prepared for it, it was rough. Ma always said there was a reason I was born, and both of us said it was so she wouldn't be alone. She raised me right, always there, my very best friend. She would go on all my field trips when i was in school, and most of my college trips. When she wasn't there, I called her every night. She even came and stayed with me in the college dorms. It's so hard for me now, because i am slowly loosing her to dementia. I can't call her 5 times a day when I am out and about. She can't remember how to text, so I can't send her all the funny pictures I used too. Me and my husband live with her and help care for her. But I miss her every day, even though she is still here.

[@dianasimplifies]

I'm so sorry to hear this, ❤❤❤my mom was older when she had me too. I'm 54 and she just turned 89!

[@CraneFamilyAdventures]

Sooo glad you did this!! I’ve been wondering about your relieving your kids and I think you should be proud of how close you are with your kids.

[@Michelle_Ellen87]

I love this so much for so many reasons!! Gratefully, my daughters are still young, so I haven't messed them up permanently.... I so needed all this parenting advice. Thank you!! ❤

[@ninaamedro3211]

More Hailey Mom videos ❤ can't wait to see your Buffy & GG Breakdown videos ❤

[@mommamoore]

I just heard in a trauma conference (for my foster parent license), they now believe that the frontal lobe isn't fully developed until 30 now. I was kind of in shock because some parents allow smart phones and access to a lot of tech at like 7 (our schools start Ipads in 1st grade )... I can't imagine how overwhelming and damaging that could be. Also I am so glad to hear that looking back Hailey was grateful for a more strict parent. I sure hope my teens feel that way when they are older (now 13f and 15m). I hear the you are the most strict parent ever... they don't have smart phones either and our rule is when you are out of the house on your own then you can have it. They do have Gabb kids safe phones and I feel like it's enough to communicate for extra curricular actvities. They also have chromebooks to work on homework/fun time and I have monitoring and lock outs on those and shut off at the router at a certain time. Thanks so much for sharing this!! makes me feel like I'm doing the right thing to protect them.

[@becreative2420]

You are doing the right thing. Don't let anyone make you feel differently.

[@carolhill-davis2563]

James Marston narrates the books on audible the Dresden files. Absolutely amazing.

[@svp9148]

Absolutely, the best podcast. Hailey has a beautiful soul and you have an awesome relationship with each other. 🥰

[@svp9148]

Hi Christine! I am hoping the message I received is from you. However, I don't use telegram or any other social media platform. Is there another way to connect?

[@ronaliveshere7422]

OMG once more with feeling is our fav too. I was just talking about it with my daughter last night! Team Spike!

[@angelahawkins8069]

Loved seeing you both together. It's obvious there is mutual love a respect between mother and daughter ❤

[@fredricabrown9003]

Thanks for sharing such a great video of women who respect each other!!! That has to be the best part of Mother/Daughter relationships, and especially turning out great kids!! They end up being nice people and you folks have cornered the market on the whole thing!! A joy to watch all your videos....wishes for success in whatever Hailey wants to do or be at some point in life...I'm fortunate to still have a great relationship with my daughter, she's 62 and I am 80...who knew??😎❤

[@CourtneyABentley]

My mama was the exact same way. We didn’t have cell phones growing up. We never had sleep overs either. My mama would always say nothing good happens after midnight.

[@joannerandolph5533]

Love this! You two remind me of the relationship my daughter and I have. She’s 22 now and my best friend

[@DMan-j9h]

Interesting dynamic I like the way it works

[@sarahbreed6798]

I’m watching this and cannot help comparing your relationship with your children to that of Ruby Franke. Night and Day !!! ❤

[@melissaeisener6896]

Yes!!! I was never given explanations and I resented that. I was also curious. So I explain everything to my kids. Even at age 3 and 4!

[@carmarasmussen8118]

I grew up in a family just like yours so I can relate to the dynamic, oldest and only daughter with three younger brothers. However I did not have a close relationship with my mother at all. I was the teenager that hated my mom and couldn't wait to move out. You are both so fortunate that you have had such a wonderful relationship over the years. 😊

[@heidirees9647]

You two are absolutely amazing! I have two daughters, oldest and second oldest, birth order matters, I will fight y’all on it! I believe we have a healthy relationship, especially my second daughter. The trust and respect has always been there. The open communication and compromise was crucial! But I also had strict rules on certain things like no sleep overs and curfew. I talk to my kids respectfully and explain things to them. I answer any questions they have, appropriately based on age. I want them to come to me for answers not friends or Google, that’s where they get into trouble and see things or learn things that aren’t safe! My parents were open and honest with me growing up so I absolutely wanted that with my kids. I’m certainly not perfect by any means, but I’m growing up with them! Thank you for doing this podcast with your daughter! It’s so wonderful and refreshing to see positivity on social media and see what a healthy relationship looks like! Good luck with adulting Haley! (Spelling? 🤷🏼‍♀️)😂 That’s how the caption spelt your name! ❤ to your family!

[@olabisiolatunji8448]

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[@innatatarinov5099]

Christine you are not the worst . You are great mom . I have very similar rules because we care so much about our kids ❤

[@juliehelms4901]

I had 5 boys before having my daughter at 35. You couldn’t separate us now with a chisel!! In fact….we’re going to see the Taylor movie tomorrow! And buying all the crazy merch!! Lol

[@brendadonajkowski1038]

Good job love it you got a good thing going.

[@Sher1965]

I knew that I was going to move out after high school. I already had a job so I was purchasing the things that I would need for my apartment while still living at home.

[@syd3724]

You are a great mother Christine, your children are a reflection of that.

[@mbarnes1300]

This was amazing to hear! As a mom of 3 teens - many great reminders. Thank you both for your time!

[@violetwithey4618]

Love you two. I agree with setting boundaries. Bedtime was strict. We're in an apartment. The neighbors upstairs have a 2 and 4 year old. Those kids run and jump all day. We never hear the parents telling them to stop. We also do not hear them ever tell them no. Neither do the kids have a consistent bedtime. So when they send them to bed they cry until they fall asleep. It seems for you and Hailey it was Buffy. For my daughter and I it was Charmed and Gilmore Girls. Have a f good one Ladies!

[@megillie]

The freedom within boundaries! Yes! We've always done that and I've had it told to me, it's like a dog park... free to roam, but within the fence I set up. 😂🤣. I mean..... It works. Lol

[@courtneyglasco2216]

Always Team Angel

[@SylvieBenoit-lc5zc]

What a fabulous young lady! Mama you should be proud of yourself! 😉

[@amandacook3093]

Great episode! You guys must listen to the rewatcher podcast! They recap each Buffy episode and it's so good!

[@marciaburcham5141]

Love your relationship

[@kristinam2719]

You and Hailey together are priceless……definitely partners in crime!

[@davinacipriano5642]

You and your daughter remind me of me and my daughter so much! We so love Buffy! Buffy FOREVER! LOL. Sorry Team Angel!!! But Spike is soooo good too!

[@sarastewart3470]

Yay loved your podcast visit, You two are so much fun! Really glad Hayley is trying out all the things and that her privacy is so well protected ❤

[@brentderksen]

Thanks for a little peek into your post High school life. May God bless you in your next adventure!

[@daygirl2659]

Thanks Hailey❤that was fun to hear your answers. 🤗

[@NOVAFrugalFamily]

My son is in high school and band keeps scheduling things during dinner time and he is like what is this madness.. don’t they know it is dinner now. Structure is super important!!

[@dianasimplifies]

After trying to teach SS kids for years I realized the schools scheduled everything during Wed nights at church and even Sunday's during the day. They are doing it on purpose! Stuff didn't used to be scheduled during meal times and church times.

[@rosahinson2166]

I sooo ❤this episode. I think I know now why me and my son are tight. I treated my son with the upmost respect since the day he was born. I guess one of these days I’m going to have to watch Buffy.

[@sashimb11]

I have a super close relationship with my mom and can definitely relate to this! 😊 I’m 32 and she’s still always the first person I call to tell everything to . Unrelated to the topic, but did notice the audio and this was very odd and choppy.

[@stephaniegaddis1716]

Yes! Yes! Yes! lol!! Our parenting styles are very similar. AND I have 1 daughter + 5 sons, so we have a similar family dynamics. Right now my girlie is 17 and a senior. I laughed out loud when Hailey mentioned chauffeuring her brothers. My daughter is the preferred chauffeur and "babysitter." Our youngest 2 are 8 & 10, so babysitting is mostly just making sure they don't burn the house down. Our oldest 2 sons still live at home and attend a local community college, but it looks like my girlie will attend college 14 hrs from me. I know it will be amazing for her, but I will miss her tremendously!!

[@servantwarrior880]

As a mother of five daughters ages 6, 8, 10, 11, and 12 I am hoping for the day I can have the oldest babysit for us. Hopefully in the next few years!

[@veronykaah]

Great episode!!! Great tips, can't wait to see Hailey on here again 💜

[@SmilinsShrinking]

It's great to see Hailey!! ❤

[@ashleyterry6424]

I have never watched Buffy but I would totally watch it and the Buffy rewatch podcast if you two did it 😂

[@reseller2052]

Awww I loved this so much! Such a good relationship.

[@jocelynholmes]

James Marsters did Inside of You with Michael Rosenbaum?!? Searching for this now!!!

[@ladydunraven]

Team Spike for the sarcastic comments team angel for the brooding

[@rachelmckoskybennett8285]

Appreciate this conversation. Thank you.

[@maggihaines3951]

Spike all the way!

[@maggihaines3951]

If you like Buffy you should try Supernatural. I think you would like it, Sam and dean are my boys!❤️

[@frugalfitmompodcast]

I’ve already seen it 😜 😍

[@elizabethronces1377]

I really enjoyed this podcast!!!!😊

[@andreadavison6560]

TEAM SPIKE! 🧛

[@susandendler4562]

What is the "Buffy" show you're speaking of? Good podcast, so nice to see Hailey.

[@helenasantos-collins6400]

Great job, Hailey! Great advice!

[@freeinghumanitynow]

People don't want to say the truth and the truth is good people tend to be good parents. PERIOD. Terrible people make terrible parents. Dave and Christine are awesome people who are of course awesome parents.

[@Melishi911]

My mom and sister are much closer, I think cause they spent more time together. Mom was more understanding of things she (my sister) needed and tried to accommodate her more. Even now, my mom and I arent as close. I joked to my sister i was the trial run to what not to do XD. also.. always teams spike. I love James Marsters, I went to one his concerts a few years ago, and it was like one of the loveliest things ever. He is just the best human. (it was a comic con, so if you get the oppurtinity). I got to meet him at that event too and he was like "woah you watched buffy as a kid was that like okay? XD"

[@LeahCary78]

I can NOT take elements...im a single kidney person. But loved the podcast. ❤ im glad i have close relationships with all my children

[@sharonthompson7101]

I watched Podcast video. Loved it. Why no sleepovers?

[@liliamrodriguez3020]

Awww great video

[@therealvivian82]

Aww Hailey, such a treat

[@CookingwithCatLover0330]

Spike! Hands down.

[@rachelrae2371]

Team Spike all the way!

[@abfamily4075]

My kids are under 5 but I've been leaning towards the no sleepover rule but I'd love to hear why y'all decided to not do those for your kids.

[@becreative2420]

I just remember my own experiences with sleepovers and decided I didn't want my son to ever feel like I did. When there's more than one kid sleeping over, bullying can happen, the creepy uncle or the older brother's friends show up, the parents aren't paying attention, the house rules are Very different, they eat weird stuff at weird times, the parents are super strict and scary - so many things. I remember one friend whose parents made us watch a family movie every time - they were rated R horror films. I'm still scarred from that. Anyway, my main goal is to keep my kid safe, mind and body. So it's always been no.