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[@lifelikelisa]

I don’t like Violet but I love that the writer included this story line. What she went through as a child was traumatic and she has every right to cope with that however she can. As audience members, we only see the sober Christie and the rare glimpses of addict Christie which are played up for comedic effect. We don’t see the reality of what that lifestyle truly is.

[@deadoralivefan12]

Exactly. If the show centered around drunk Christy, she would not be getting all this sympathy and Violet wouldn’t get as much hate.

[@Dragonkid1801]

The weird thing about this is that Violet idolizes Bonnie so much. When the series started, she saw her make all sorts of stupid decisions, too It's weird to label her as the life preverser when she does have a level of blame in the family's situation too

[@deadoralivefan12]

Violet suffered through Christy. She was Christy’s responsibility, not Bonnie’s. Kids rely the most on their caregivers (e.g., Violet relying on her mother, Christy). Christy failed at that, so Violet understandably hates her.

[@DragonMonarch-eg2ib]

she didn't fail she screwed up a few times but kept trying

[@karleighrock593]

Violet wasn’t exactly a perfect angel either!! she got pregnant at 17 and placed it for open adoption.. how many times did we ever hear about Violet’s child since then , once. Violet has also gotten drunk, done drugs , cheated on luke and dated a professor. She has pretty much done everything that her mother has done. Yet , Violet has the nerve to blame her mother for everything that’s wrong with her life. Part of growing up is to stop blaming your parents for the choices you made.

[@deadoralivefan12]

I wouldn’t hold the adoption thing against her. She wanted the baby to have a better life and made sure the baby was put in a loving home, something Violet missed out on.

[@karleighrock593]

True, but she has still done everything Christy did ( drugs, alcohol, dating multiple men) . Yet she has the nerve to go on a podcast and shame her mother.

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@karleighrock593 Tbh, with all the crap Christy gives her mother and everyone else, she deserves to be called out.

[@redips]

@@deadoralivefan12 It's about time someone point that out!!!

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@redips People really don’t understand children of alcoholics. They have all this sympathy for alcoholics and their “disease,” but then their kids are the assholes when they speak up about it.

[@karishmaahmed7627]

Violet was a horrible character. Its not just about her relationship with her mom. She treated everyone like trash even though people loved her. Luke did, and Gary did. And Christy does too of course. She cheated on Luke, cheated on Gary, manipulated the men in her life and was absolutely cruel to Christy. And I NEVER understood her love for Bonnie who had never been around and who also screwed up tons of time after she entered their lives. Violet only shows affection for Bonnie to spite Christy.

[@Nope-nopety]

I get it, violet had to endure a terrible childhood with no real mother but at some point she has to take some responsibility for herself. First of all, during christy sober phase she was actually there for violet: living together, supporting her even tho she was clearly not keen of violets weird choices (professor or cheating on luke) or paying for the wedding dress. Violet constantly praises bonnie and criticizes christy for not forgiving her (even tho its the same situation) and rather takes the side of her abusive father who she didnt even met (even bonnie said he was a terrible person) by saying " im sure he has a side too". She has the full right to talk about her childhood in a podcast, but she def stepped over a line when she showed the voicemail christy gave her after finding out about the podcast. It was violets idea of doing a break between their mother-daughter relationship after christy already got sober. Im not defending christys past or the off screen child neglect violet had to endure, but at some point there is a difference between " i dont want anything to do with my mother" and " let me embarrass her in front of thousands of people even tho I know she working on getting better"

[@kingkrysen]

Exactly this 💯

[@karleecraziness9216]

My fiancé and I always skip this episode because we both hate Violet but I can go a little easier on her. Now I don’t hate for making the podcast, or cutting Christy off but I do hate her for other reasons. She treats people in her life like absolute trash, examples, she cheats on Luke, she doesn’t tell Greg about her baby, she wants to be with Greg for his money (that relationship was uncomfortable but that’s a different subject) she sleeps with her roommates boyfriend and calls her roommate a bitch, she only wants to get back together with Luke when she finds out she has been making good money. She gave up her baby to make something of her life but she just gets drunk and high. I also didn’t mad at Christy for assuming Luke paid for her apartment because last time she saw Violet she was getting back together with Luke because he had money. They had gone a whole year without talking so how was Christy supposed to know they weren’t together. I also didn’t like when she got mad at her mom for telling about the baby because I would have thought Violet told Greg about her baby.

[@Anderson-qg7mr]

Violet is rubbish as a human being, she gave away her own baby, dropped out of college, stayed with Greg out of interest, got back together with Luke out of convenience and interest again, then created a podcast to defame her own mother, and the most absurd detail is that she's already a fucking adult, that she doesn't act like one, as if that weren't enough, Christy will still apologize (without a reason) and she treats her with all that coldness and treats Bonnie like a hero, being that she was an absent mother to Christy and an absent grandmother to Violet, what is the logic in that? This girl really is disgusting and it's a shame that Chuck ruined some episodes of the series with her disgusting performance, if the intention was to awaken emotions of anger and disgust, oh he did it and with great mastery!

[@Gogopowerandy]

I also assumed the Christy was assuming they had everything nice in the apartment together. It wasn’t such a huge dig that Violet thought it was.

[@deadoralivefan12]

I agree with most of your points, but I don’t blame Violet for not telling Gregory about the baby. It was probably still a sensitive subject for her and it’s not like it was his baby. People are allowed to keep some personal experiences to themselves. As for the apartment, she may have been ticked off by Christy showing up in the first place because Violet clearly didn’t want her there or even knowing where she lives.

[@BlueYoshi85]

The fact that you don't know how to spell fiancé

[@karleecraziness9216]

@@BlueYoshi85 It’s a hard word to spell

[@Feare909]

It's one thing for a character to be flawed. But Violet was downright despicable ever since season 1 and she only got worse at every angle. She is a very rancid hypocrite; lying, stealing, cheating, using, and blaming her mother for every one of her own choices. This episode disgusted me to the point it made me physically sick to my stomach with loathing.

[@secretadmirer109]

I feel like the writers messed up here, personally. I do think it's unfair for Violet to act like this to Christy, knowing what she (at this point) knew about Christy's abusive relationship, her relationship with Bonnie, and tons and tons of other stuff. Like I understand Violet's reasoning, I just wish the writers didn't do it, because it feels unearned, considering we all have seen Christy's journey to get to this point.

[@deadoralivefan12]

This is the reality that alcoholics have to face. Sobering up doesn’t mean that the people they hurt will forgive them. You can try to make amends, but it’s ultimately up to them whether or not they forgive you or let you back into their lives.

[@Brenda-t2o1d]

I love how everyone in the comments are like Christy was there for her and getting angry at Violet for cheating on Luke CHRISTY WAS SLEEPING WITH HER MARRIED BOSS ☠️☠️☠️☠️

[@redips]

not to mentioned she gambled away other people's money.

[@soniarajan220]

It was THE episode that broke me the most in the entire show run. Christy definitely didn't deserve that

[@deadoralivefan12]

Yes, she did. Sobering up for a few years doesn’t fix all the shit she put her kids through before.

[@Ngcebo-dj8kn]

No she didn't. Violet was trash period.

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@Ngcebo-dj8knYes, she did. Christy never truly changed, she just let her addiction crawl out of another hole (which Marjorie said herself). Period.

[@Ngcebo-dj8kn]

People can change and I'm sure it's not easy dealing with addiction.She messed up in the past sure but she was trying with her daughter and she returned that with constant disrespect.

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@Ngcebo-dj8kn There were plenty of times on the show where Christy continued to blow Violet off (like multiple dinners with Gregory).

[@kimberlywiederhold627]

I love how Violet complained about her mother forgetting how horrible she had been. Such as taking money to marry someone and then taking off and treating her fiance like crap before he broke it off because of her alcoholism.

[@redips]

Well Christy you have been self destructive. lol

[@georgeemil3618]

I wonder how many parents have children just like Violet. Children don't come with instruction manuals and even if they did, there would be no manual to cover every type of child possible. A lot of people would have grown up and matured by the time they reach Violet's age in this episode. And a lot of people do not. Mom is a great series as it does cover a lot of serious issues including the entitlement attitude the following generation has.

[@deadoralivefan12]

Oh, yes. Speaking up on your childhood trauma of dealing with an alcoholic mother is having an entitlement attitude 🙄

[@georgeemil3618]

@@deadoralivefan12 Have you seen the episode with the dead mother letter? How long does one keep hanging on to blaming your parents for all your problems? There has to be a time where a mature person has to start determining his or her own future.

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@georgeemil3618 Yes, I have. Did it ever occur to you that Violet doing this podcast helps her move on and work towards her future? My parents were both alcoholics and they died during the same winter. I suffer from seasonal depression because of it. I’ve expressed my trauma during my college days (including poetry in front of my classmates). Guess what? I graduated with two degrees. This podcast is for her future because she made a career out of it. People like hearing her stories and she gets paid for it. She’s not blaming Christy for all her problems here because Violet has no problems now. She said she was finally in a comfortable place now after Christy showed up uninvited and told her story (which made Violet say she was happy for Christy but still didn’t want her in her life). Did you even watch this whole episode?

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@georgeemil3618She is determining her own future. She does a successful podcast and is living on her own.

[@georgeemil3618]

@@deadoralivefan12 By living in the past.

[@annmeler5632]

Christy was never a good mother to her kids, she never took responsibility of all the ways she let her kids down, especially Violet. Violet has every right to say she doesn't want a relationship with her bc she has never been supportive, always criticizing her choices and put everybody else in front of her own kids. Blaming your own mother for your mistakes is just pathetic, if she had just admitted that her bad choices were by her own doing then maybe the outcome of her relationship with her kids could've been different

[@daphnexlove98]

Yeah, but she tried to take responsibility and make up for it. She showed them that she’s changing and actually trying for them. Violet has stuck around for a while and she was beginning to appreciate her mother’s efforts. Nevertheless, whenever Violet did something similar to what Christy did in the past, Violet would always blame her mother and not take responsibility for her actions. I’m not saying that she has no right to cut her out of her life, but I think if she tried to give her a chance, she and her mother both turn out better. She just trashed her in every way like she trashes everyone. She didn’t even go to college like she planned when she gave up her baby. So, Violet is no angel either.

[@jif420]

Violet is still a bad person. Cheating on Luke is not because of her mother. She wouldn’t even accept that her mother was getting help. She ignored how Christy would be there for her at times like during her pregnancy.

[@Anderson-qg7mr]

Violet is a failure who will blame everything she did and will do wrong on her mother, she looks like a child throwing a tantrum, she never grew up or matured, not taking responsibility for her own actions and not being able to forgive was a big sign of that . Disdaining your own mother when she tries at all costs to win you back is cruel, it basically makes you an emotionless monster. An example of this is that Bonnie made a lot more mistakes with Christy and yet they reconciled, why doesn't it work out with Violet then? Because she is a person who prefers to escape her emotional responsibility, she only accepts having in her life everyone who doesn't disagree with her, the spoiled girl. Seriously, I love the series but this girl disgusts me.

[@annmeler5632]

@@Anderson-qg7mr why on earth would Violet reconcile with her mother, so Christy can abandon her again and again just bc Christy's friends are having troubles and they are more important than her own flesh and blood which is exactly why Roscoe chose to leave. Christy has never earned her right to ask Violet for forgiveness. Christy has said it before, her sobriety has to come FIRST which means her children will never be first

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@annmeler5632 Exactly. I don’t respect Violet for how she treats other people, but I don’t blame her one bit for resenting Christy. Even after getting sober, she kept gambling and always put her friends over her children.

[@NaviSall-rr]

Christy was a terrible mother and a hypocrite. She spent more time with her bottles than with her children. Bonnie was abandoned first as a child and then by Alvin and had no other choice to raise Christy on her own. She may not have been the best mom either but she tried her best. Christy should have learned from all that but instead she chose the same wrong life. She put Violet and Roscoe through the exact same situation that she had even though she hated it. Yet Christy is always blaming Bonnie for everything even though she does the same thing to not one but two children. Also even after getting sober, Christy always put her fellow alcoholics first and children last.

[@deadoralivefan12]

Thank you! I’m so sick of people feeling sorry for Christy and hating Violet. The hypocrisy needs to stop.

[@NaviSall-rr]

@@deadoralivefan12Exactly. Violet was robbed of her whole childhood and had to act as a mother to Christy, Roscoe and herself. I definitely don’t blame violet for being the way she is because I and others I know can relate.

[@eobardthawne324]

​@@deadoralivefan12 The way Violet acts is easy to hate.

[@eobardthawne324]

​@NS-rq9mq Yes Violet had a rough childhood but that excuse only goes so far. At some point she has to take responsibility for her own actions. There are certain things that she does that no one should have to tell her is wrong.

[@NaviSall-rr]

@@eobardthawne324 yes I admit she can be a little too much at times. But in the end I think she did the right by cutting off Christy for good. Christy always let her down, drunk and sober so Violet deserves to be at peace even if it means ghosting her terrible mother.

[@jimramos2613]

I would say this I know Christy hasn't been the best mother not taking responsibility and especially violet she has the right to be mad of her everything she has done not being able to her, and I guess not support and criticize her choice and especially not forgiving her mom. You know she makes mistakes and it's painful to see Violet doing her own way her own life maybe she's glad she's better off not having her mom around I'm just saying cuz I know it's painful but if Christy could just go back in time and admit that she made a mistake and what she has done maybe someday just not now, I'm glad that Violet she's in a better place in her life 👈

[@redips]

I'm glad Violet's in a better place too. She needs it.

[@jimramos2613]

@@redips right 👈

[@jimramos2613]

Maybe the reason why Violet wanted to open up about what she has gone through about her alcoholic Mom 👈. Telling people that the reason that not always there for her left her there even that Christy was like she doesn't know what to say to her that I haven't spoke each other for for a long time and I get I understand why Violet wanted to leave and have a better life and make peace but if I was her friend her best friend or anyway I would be support her 100%. To me Violet seems like she's happy her better place enjoying her life not having her mom around but maybe someday they will pass things up I hope or not but she has her own life now

[@Anderson-qg7mr]

Viable options: therapy, support groups, writing a book. The worst possible choice: defaming your own mother with a podcast.

[@siddharthnaagar7028]

The irony of this is delicious 😂

[@sanhcman666]

I love when bratty women like christy are demolished

[@teecop4735]

How stupid her mother was abusive also it’s so u fair also her daughter violet was a brat also because her mother was there for ever also so please stop ✋ it’s a stupid show with a stupid episode or at least unfair . Her grandmother was just as bad .

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@teecop4735yeah, but Christy criticizes EVERYONE on this show when she has so many issues herself. Gambling, smoking, ditching Marjorie over one incident at the deli, losing people’s money, etc. Christy shouldn’t dish it out if she can’t take it.

[@teecop4735]

@@deadoralivefan12 I see what your pov is , yes your right . But her daughter did have her mom but values her grandmother who in no way sticks up for her own daughter . What was so much worse that the daughter totally treats her Mom so bad who took her back in ? They were drunks and all that’s the show but the daughter I don’t get plus the grandmother not setting her straight as to I put your mom in foster care . Your mom didn’t . I don’t know 🤷‍♀️ I know what the shows about dis function I just do t get the daughters treatment .

[@deadoralivefan12]

@@teecop4735I think Violet’s nicer to Bonnie because it wasn’t Bonnie’s responsibility to take care of her as a child. It was Christy’s and she failed at that.

[@Gogopowerandy]

It could also be that Violet sees how antagonistic the relationship between Christy and Bonnie continues to be, and just does not have the energy for that kind of drama.