Mothers Love Makes Men Weak

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[@aaronbrutus9483]

A lot of mama's boys don't understand why they're depressed and it wasn't until I left home that I finally understood. Don't call your parents for help. GO THROUGH IT. Sometimes you'll go hungry, sometimes you'll mismanage your funds and end up sleeping on park bench. You NEED those lessons to be whole and you can't learn them in mama's basement playing Call of Duty all day. I wasn't depressed, I was a pussy.

[@nay7885]

Wow that's me except I am 24. I will be doing the same thing

[@alanperez7657]

Yessir

[@Citiglobal88]

Yes. I agree.

[@corymickey1990]

Adversity is the only way.

[@maxim13able]

Playing "call of duty mobile all day"

[@Opethfeldt]

Mother's love doesn't necessarily make men weak but a lack of fatherly influence and guidance does. There's a crucial point in a boy's life where he needs less time with mom and more with dad. Single motherhood has robbed many men of this.

[@danielb2789]

Most of us have to do it by themselves... father not there or dead. And you can't force ppl, this is better than nothing.

[@bagh98]

I think that's exactly the point being made. Usually you have the dad being a regulator of the amount of mothers love. In fathers absence, there is an imbalance

[@WolfStreak]

Yes I agree that lack of fatherly involvement is a huge problem. Even the research shows that children tend to thrive more as adults when raised by two parents.

[@Opethfeldt]

@@WolfStreak Yeah and it's all too rare these days. Barely any relationships go the distance now.

[@denniscastro1167]

I agree💯

[@ICEcoldJT]

Make men strong again

[@fireballdash2936]

Yeaa! We dont have too be weak, men have been Weak for long enough!

[@THEBIGKAHUNA499]

Didn’t he have a hat that said, “Make Men Great Again”?

[@insanoibro6331]

Isaiah 13:12

[@zackflynn859]

This is a generational problem with most of us these days, overbearing parents who coddle us well into are 30s that’s why I moved 1000 miles away , got to get away from it.

[@OWNAGECOMPLAINTS]

no way me too. Got any water between you now? Get yourself a moat then they really can't coddle you

[@sticksmitchel6325]

Yes it is.. going through it right now

[@csugabo85]

I did just this, I applied to every state office job in California and went to the first one to take me, it was in a mental prison. It was enough for a 1 bedroom apartment, 4 years later and I feel like I've grown lifetimes past everyone I know in my hometown. I know Elliots advice sounds ridiculous but it's the best strongest no bullshit advice a young man could have.

[@Citiglobal88]

interesting

[@toughpilltoswallow9827]

Nah not walmart! I lived in my car for 3 months! Apartment parking lots are where its at! Most difficult part is laundry! Got a gym membership to train and shower, worked 2 jobs but then quit one so i could get overtime on the other, ran out of gas before on the way to work, had my tank on E countless times, and had a negative balance in ny bank! I was 18. Now im 19 and in Hawaii in the Marine Corps! Those 3 months were lonely but built character. Elliot youre the MAN. Christ is King

[@Citiglobal88]

nice story. Marines are good.

[@Akhillees]

I used to choose 24/7 facilities to sleep in the parking lot. So Walmart was one of those and sometimes I used a gym too because the Walmart pretty sure had cameras and I didn't want the cops too come and ask me questions.

[@toughpilltoswallow9827]

@@Akhillees walmart has a lot of sketchy people and my windows werent tinted at all. Not to mention there is always security patrolling!

[@DaK1d]

“Do the thing you’re afraid to do” - Elliott Husle

[@georgeniculescu8241]

Another good one: “Do what you hate doing, but do it like you love it” - Mike Tyson

[@Kevin-ll5vu]

its scary at first but in the long run the prson you become will thank the person you arent anymore.

[@MrPipol-nm3cd]

That is what old hitler said to young hitler.

[@omofumaighodalo432]

@@MrPipol-nm3cd I think you got some problems if that's the conclusion you arrived at.

[@MrPipol-nm3cd]

@@omofumaighodalo432 why? it is true, is in his book

[@omofumaighodalo432]

@@MrPipol-nm3cd That Hitler loved his mum and hated his Father, absolutely.

[@jbdmb]

You mean the person you aren't anymore will thank the person you are

[@SkyN1nja]

"Do not sleep under a roof. Carry no money or food. Go alone to places frightening to the common brand of men. Become a criminal of purpose. Be put in jail, and extricate yourself by your own Wisdom." - Miyamoto Musashi (The Book of Five Rings)

[@shireensaroea946]

Good one

[@THEBIGKAHUNA499]

@@shireensaroea946 Agreed!

[@shireensaroea946]

@@THEBIGKAHUNA499 a fine addition to the master list

[@THEBIGKAHUNA499]

@@shireensaroea946 You said it sister!

[@jebediahkerman8245]

I was fortunate enough to have a Dad growing up, but he's a mommy's boy. Has lived within walking distance of and has had daily phone calls with his Mom his entire life. He didn't do the greatest job of teaching me how to be a man, but at least I got some, and I hope to fill in the rest.

[@YoungYahtz94]

It’s crazy how life works, this is essentially what I’ve been needing to hear for quite some time. I haven’t watched Elliots videos for awhile tbh but something told me to click on this one. And it helped open my eyes to the exact answers I was seeking. Stuff like this is the reason I am spiritual and believe in something greater than us. Stuff lines up too perfectly at times right when you need it. That’s it. Once my lease is up this summer I’m moving out and away from my hometown. Comfort has brought me nothing but pain and despair. I realize my mother is a factor in this. She means no harm of course...she just can’t help me anymore nor is it her job to as a woman. I love my mom a lot but being so close has become debilitating. Deep down I know I need her just to get by and I don’t like it. In order for me to become the man I really want to be I gotta leave alot of things behind for now, including her. I will never be able to properly give back to her how I want with the way things are going now. It’s a hard decision and a tough road ahead but I’m ready. I’m tired of my current life. I want to become the man I’ve been envisioning myself as for years

[@Citiglobal88]

nice

[@flowstateentertainment8395]

Hell yeah. Let's get it.

[@imawarrior313]

If u have enough money go to a village in Thailand and learn some hardcore, real bare knuckle Muay Thai .. thank me later

[@AgeofMachines]

I did the "pick up and move" thing. It all rests on you. Pays off though. Die by sugar or die sweating for what you know and believe to be right.

[@STRONGERDAILY1995]

Even david goggins was raised by a single mother and he told that he was getting dragged into this motherly love and wanted comfort but his mother wasnt in that state to purely give him that love and thats why hes the man hes today i think

[@sloegrind]

I had to go through what Elliot is talking about at 20-23 .. Made me a hell of a man. Got in some trouble but I grew up and now stand on my own two and lead a beautiful family.

[@Blakely901]

Respect brotha

[@TheKingfisher90]

I broke away from my mother around the age of 17. I was raised by my mom and only saw my dad on weekends. I knew that the over exposure to my Mom through my teen years was causing problems, which ultimately led to me leaving. I went and lived with my dad, got a shitty job, starting training really hard, ate exclusively clean for months, trained for and did 2 half marathons 15 days apart. It was an incredible challenge for me at the time, but I ultimately craved it. Looking back, it was a very pivitol point in my life, and Elliott is 100% right when he says that every man has to do this. It’s a journey for each of us and different in every way, but ultimately we must seek out struggle and hardship, as it forges us into the man we’re meant to be. But just remember, the pursuit of difficulty and uncomfortable situations never ends, and it’s best to make friends with them, as they’re never going away.

[@nepatriots77]

I'm realizing this now. After working in another state and loving my life, I decided to move back into my parents' house after I got fired and got a new job near my parents (also very high/unaffordable rent in this area). I'm starting to realize the cost is high living with parents, it prevents the developmental process for men.

[@akirasuzuki9269]

Thank you, Elliott. I cried because I can highly relate to this gentleman. I am 23yo living in the safe net of my parents. This has to stop...

I cried too brotha

[@ayaz12yearsago23]

and?

[@tonyh1345]

I have an older brother on the autism spectrum (mild, not severe) in his 30s who just eats junk food all day using my moms debit card. No job, no education, he just eats cheeseburgers all day like a human vacuum. She keeps him comfortable and docile. He hasn’t improved at all in the last 10 years, in fact he’s degressed. He’s a food addict and he can’t sit still to focus on anything productive for more than a minute. My over-nurturing mother made him like this. I see the potential he has to be self sufficient, strong and competent but he chooses to chase dopamine all day and cling to his mom. He is a man-child mothers boy and I wish she could see that her love is actually hurting him. She’s fucked up his life with her parenting. Whenever I try to influence his productivity for the better and help him get some self worth she gets mad at me for taking him out of his comfort zone, so I’ve just stopped trying. My dad isn’t in the picture at all. The “over-nurturing” mother truly is a problem for a lot of males and this video truly hits home.

[@aloowalia2849]

My mother is the opposite of it My mother always push my brother to do thing on his own

[@ivanvidojevic2461]

Dude....dont give up on your brothet,whats wrong with you man...keeep fighting for him....tell your mom to shut up and step a side..tell her to buy herself a puppy if she has urge to take care of someone....comon man....it is your bro's life at stake...peace.

[@ryanthompson3446]

100% this, also the mom never respects the son if he needs her mommy affection in adulthood anyways. This was the most important message I heard all week.

[@Ril014]

“Mom never respects the son if he needs her mommy affection in adulthood” facts..

[@disinformer4421]

Imagine if everyone was honest AF to themselves, many mothers are programmed to fake it even when they don't respect their sons.

[@yohelcolon6399]

I did the same thing 16 years ago, best move I ever done in my life, voluntary suffering, I accept life at his own terms and learn from it.

[@doctorboxing5106]

I just started doing it too and on my way to being a pro boxer. Instagram: mrdanielreidboxing

[@007Nox]

@@doctorboxing5106are u from NY

[@doctorboxing5106]

@@007Nox no from montreal

[@juanramirez1364]

I agree with this. I was nurtured the same way and was on my way to becoming a loser. At 21 I enlisted in the Army and now i'm 24 and have my bachelor's and work as a correctional officer. Talk about doing something dangerous. My mom is still very loving but it's a different feeling and I accept that love now that i've done something with my life.

[@FlutterSwag]

mid 20's and still at home with single mom, ive been so angry every time i see her and now i understand why

[@mrdanyo1223]

I feel you bro

[@carsonkemp2745]

Get outta there and start grinding my man

[@Yo-ey4ue]

So true… my mom is always there for me and I hate it. She has such a hold over me and I never realized it. I was blaming her but I’m a grown man I can do whatever the fuck I want

[@realisticworld6013]

This is absolutely truth . A point in a young adults life there comes a cross road when we have to choose . That break away from the (mother ) saves not only the soul but the relationship between mother and son . Btw one thing he can do is take cold showers .

[@Johnnyfittt]

My moms been staying with me cause she came on hard times, 1 month turned into 7. Her love/womanly personality has effected me like crazy

[@simplydad2015]

kick her out

[@MrTeezbar]

He's right. And while I still currently live at home b/c the housing market in Ottawa in unbelievably unaffordable, I say "no" to everything my parents offer me. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, chores, laundry, groceries, etc.

[@MrTeezbar]

@@chaccmi1358 i know people like you have it a lot tougher than I do so I am very grateful for that. Sorry to hear about your situation man. I wish you nothing but the best.

[@maxim13able]

Comfort zones lead to boredom Boredom lead to addiction Addiction lead to dependency Dependency lead weak men Weak men lead to despair Despair leads to nothing but suffering

[@TheGiantMidget]

Here's a solid bit of advice, go out of your way to make your parents hate you enough to where they don't want you in their house anymore and they'll be pushing you to leave. Worked for me

[@ishzsbxux]

Why not just leave? Lmao

[@TheGiantMidget]

@@ishzsbxux it's a desperate measure for when you get too comfortable. If they don't want you to leave it's incredibly easy to fall into that trap

[@Seducers]

I’m 25. My mother & I got a place together because my parents split up as soon as my gf & I did too. So we both had no place & I wanted to be there for my mom but I’ve definitely gotten more effeminate & soft. Even lost muscle mass… the environment takes a toll on physicality I’ve noticed. My lease is up in July & i need out. I’m thinking about rooming with a friend, or just being homeless somewhere & starting fresh. Man it’s so scary to think about starting new somewhere with no one around.. I have a hard time making friends too because I have an intimidating presence & people avoid me. Ahhhh

[@chadbanks.26chadbank94]

I'm 22 years old and I have started doing some of these things already to toughen myself because i was raise by my mother. Real knowledge G 🇯🇲

[@osmanbey8796]

Same. Literally had to discover masculinity on YT because I was raised in a household of all women which made me hot-tempered & really sensitive growing up. Now I train boxing, meditate, practice yoga and have planned my life. Started to see big changes in my mental health.

[@David-eu1ms]

When a woman can't get emotional connection from her husband, she will try to extract it from her children.

[@aramisy.cajigas744]

That's when they get traumatized.

[@t.j.thomas9010]

Truth be told following Christ thoroughly is all the suffering you need....plenty of that there

[@gamerleo]

Indeed, this is in the Scripture.

[@mascovon]

Bearing the cross

[@mascovon]

Once God saved me, I started my journey to true manhood

[@xCharjx]

I vibe. I’ve been doing this myself and didn’t notice it. My life has changed drastically for the positive and I’ve gain massive clarity for myself

[@mattj1232]

I’m 19 still living at home, I needed to hear this before it gets too late. I got a job and a car why am I still here?

[@ryanthompson3446]

Because you got a job, what you need is a career something you can throw yourself 100% into and something technical that you can be proud of all the hard work you put into.

[@MohawkFlippinMike]

Matt I recommend seeing a military recruiter, you can get a lot of life lessons and skills in the 4 year requirement, and that’s without deploying. And depending on your job selection you can get a good bonus

[@ryanthompson3446]

Also if you do go the military route, get a technical job that you would pursue in the civilian world after, this is better than college because you will actually be doing the job.

[@ahmarcamacho8404]

Also don't be hasty, I'm older than you(22) and still live at home. I got out of college last may and am working on getting in my career. It's not like back in the old days where you could just go out on your own. With no skills or career you will not survive in the modern world. Acquire that first then you can leave.

[@ryanthompson3446]

@@ahmarcamacho8404 Yes, it will mean giving up the distractions so you can get ahead of others as well, its numbers plus skills aquired.

[@opensource296]

Batman Begins is a prime example of this. Suffering and Sacrifice is the way. Great sermon.

[@Destined2BGr8]

Facts, I’m always my happiest self when I ignore all the preservating love and get the experience I need in life.

[@moeezmalik3666]

This video is fkn incredible... A lot of guys need to hear this!

[@peotectedbyangelsforlife]

loving others at a distance is one way to set boundaries in Dysfunctional relationships the best lesson I’ve learned is discipline. The discipline may be asking for help from people outside your type of comfort you are familiar with the biggest lesson is forgiving yourself i’m taking full responsibility for all of self actions. Words are not just words they are part of a program that is connected between the human spirit subconscious mind and perception of the inner circumstance opposed to the external contact nobody Will take better care of you then you and when you become a whole person by being honest with yourself you will respect yourself and it will show others who you are rather than telling them what They think you are

[@betauser6233]

Need to share this with my entire high school class of 2012. This is one of the biggest downfalls in becoming a Man for at least 95% of the guys in my town / generation

[@icephoenix1024]

Hm. Interesting topic. I think single fathers also can make men weak... We need both. But the real problem is to be able not to rely on validation and emotional suport from a careetaker all the time, dosent matter if its mom or dad i think... As men we need to be able to validate our own emotions... And get our needs met without mom or dad... I mean especially for an adult male... lol... As i child i guess its ok, but even then... i mean some parents is narcisstic and abuse thier children also... its quite common but taboo to talk about i guess.

[@mattj1232]

Very true single fathers create young boys who have a hard time interacting with women and starting relationships because they never had the presence of femininity in their life

[@rasmuslassen6273]

Exactly. We need both a mother and a father.

[@naimarestoringdivinity7938]

This is very balanced and makes more sense to have better success

[@kubasniak]

@@mattj1232 except that single fathers are such minority it's almost non existent when compared to single mothers. Most incels come from single mother households where "femininity" was present. Maybe too much, non challenging mothers are bane to young men.

[@ThingsILikke]

My opinion is that divorced parents make people men very selfish and weak and self-absorbed. Like a girl lol. Girls from divorced families are often terrible though (I’m a girl and I’ve known a ton. The biggest bitches come from divorced homes or when the parents are basically divorced but live in the same house.)

[@davistefansson2178]

Me, my mom and little sister where dead broke when growing up and my mom was an addict and had hepatitis c and other chronic illnesses... There was nothing sweet, safe or comfortable about her. She still loved us though and kept a roof over our heads and food in our mouths. I got my first job at 8 years old delivering newspapers with my mom and cleaning elementary schools, she made me cook for me and my sister when I was around 12 years old, there was nothing in my room except my bed and a tv... She very much was my mom AND my dad... So this really does not apply to everyone. But I will never distance my self from my mother. Taking care of your elders is a privilege.

[@theannunaki3871]

He is talking about people who enjoy comfort under their mom. Most moms are too caring and it destroys masculinity and competence in men. They feels entitled

[@davistefansson2178]

@@theannunaki3871 I'm sorry but that is just bullshit... My dad left when I was 2 years old and my sisters dad did the same thing to her and they did not try to stay in contact with us so that they could live their lives how they wanted to... We got birthday presents and Christmas gifts from them and that's it... Does that sound masculine to you? And btw blaming other people for your weaknesses is not masculine either! My mom stayed and raised us and made a whole lot off sacrifices to do so... Stop disrespecting women like that and act like they are lesser human beings and some how unable to have/teach discipline or how to deal with hardship... It's ridiculous! Stop trying so hard to be a man or a woman and instead focus on being HUMAN.

[@ribthiefz8283]

@@davistefansson2178 This message obviously isn't for you if you can't relate to it, easy as that really.

[@AndyMatrixTV]

I agree with most of the things said in this video except the "stop listening to music" part. Not all music is low vibrational

[@tyronedasher5408]

I strongly agree

[@ENK3_]

I disagree E, music feeds the soul its not effeminate, it elevates you higher on many levels than just emotion. Every culture/tribe/social circle throughout history had some sort of song/chant/instrumental performance.

[@ofir20503]

Exactly. We shouldn't take other people's idea of masculinity and make it our own. In Elliott's eyes a real man has to be a redpilled bodybuilder with a beard and your stereotypical conservative. We all need to take things with a grain of salt.

[@gilly9281]

I think he was just saying too much music because I understand where he’s coming from. Sometimes I listen to music get all motivated and excited over the lyrics and beat in a great mood but get absolutely nothing done. Just like smoking weed or anything else. It’s definitely a great tool tho. I don’t know what I’d do without it. Just a balance thing

[@TheBanjoShowOfficial]

Music is intrinsic to human culture, yes, but it serves an equal role as a drug because it allows you to cope with underlying issues in a manner that is not productive at all or very little. I almost never listen to music. I almost never listen to music driving or at home. Its very rare. Music is necessary but it needs to come in conjunction with real movement in the physical world. You can learn alot of things in the world without having to do certain things, but you will never truly understand the weight of that information without going into the world and experiencing it.

[@Rawyalty220]

@@ofir20503 facts

[@Koozwad]

From years of research I have to disagree - especially the music these days(and I mean everything). Heck the A=440Hz industry standard is harmful.

[@mrdasjo]

That "Fuck you!" you gave at the end killed me. XD

[@LeanAndDapperWorkout]

The third hodge brother 😂😂😂

[@MoreKornflakes]

Ayoo Chill bro 😂

[@renebleu8711]

Guys, move out asap. Get a job, get your license, learn a skill that’ll always be in demand, be frugal and save/invest money. Start with roommates. I left at 16 years old from my mother and never looked back. I goofed off for sometime but got serious in my early 20s. Have pride and drive to never go back to your parents house. It’ll instill discipline, hard work, confidence and no time for BS. A man in his 20s living with his parents is not good at all. Best thing I ever did. Now, I’m 26. Every man I’ve came across that left home late displays very feminine traits. Too much complaining, too lazy, too many video games and p*rn, too weak and passive, lacking confidence, horrible with women, no goals or discipline. And, they are way too attached to and identify with their mothers. Save the excuses and be a man. Good luck.

[@SK-ou2wv]

I´m not any what you mentioned and i´m 100 % a mamas boy. I moved out at 23 for my studies but it didn´t work out so i moved back home. I´m saving up to buy a apartment. It´s nothing wrong living at home until you´re stable. I do most of the chores my self. I don´t indulge in p*rn, i´m confident, i´m the best with women and i have goals + i work out and i´m disciplined. Stop generalizing you wannabe

[@EsotericHighway]

Pretty sure "mother" by Pink Floyd was written about this..

[@breatheeasily4013]

Man, I was listeninv to them!

[@jebediahkerman8245]

Mother, did it need to be so high?

[@user-oc6xd4ee5l]

@@jebediahkerman8245 *mother didn't mean to be so high

[@brendanosullivan2484]

Mother, should I trust the government?

[@EsotericHighway]

@@brendanosullivan2484 hell no son.

[@JD-ov5ew]

The Waterboy is a good example of this

[@CamusAndCarrotJuice]

Jordan Peterson also helped me come to this conclusion but this is 100% true. Once I began to realize and understand this, it helped a lot. I tried to join the marines but got rejected because of all my tattoos, though I was previously a D1 athlete. So I got into business school in Europe and left the day after I graduated. No savings nothing, working part time night shifts while going to school. Not going to lie it’s been pretty shitty thinking about the transition from all I used to have at my disposal. But man, I’m doing it. And I’m happy af. Some nights I don’t eat, some months a fuck up my budget but I swear I haven’t been as nearly as depressed as I was a couple years ago before I left. It’s a comforting idea to know that you can survive in the world alone and you walk with a different kind stride in your step when you go out and do it with no help. You will make it fellas, you will figure it out on the way. But take the leap.

[@LEGOAgenda]

Good thanks for sharing the marines and military are shit you do better off without them. That does not make you a man or better person you do. Most people I see come out of military are depressed and feel empty because they thought that would make them better. I bet you are twice the man in any military branch. You are more highly valuable and called for greater things.

[@LEGOAgenda]

I also tried to join the military when I was younger but got rejected because they said I would have to take vaccines and I said I would not. I’m much more physically better than any military and higher value than average loser. No need to be a slave. Best decision I made.

[@CamusAndCarrotJuice]

@@LEGOAgenda thanks, I appreciate it bro. Ya I think it ended up working out for the best

[@waynevanderberg153]

As a 23yo living with his mom, damn this is challenging

[@denerickterry57]

Feel ya in the same boat

[@flamingocupproductions5329]

I'm glad you said that about music. I've always thought that.

[@calderon2091]

Accomplished a 24 hrs fasting and it was amazing!! Next weekend I will try 36 hrs... goal is a 48 hrs fasting.

[@thisisarmando8393]

Everything Elliot is saying is 100% facts. Living with my mom I had everything but was unhappy, depressed and lost, everyone thought I was lazy, I hated life. I started living in my car and I felt absolutely amazing, It sounds ridiculous but the more I suffered the more I felt like I was getting in touch with myself and even becoming more masculine. I'm starting to see things clearly and regret not doing this much earlier.

[@Theairisalive]

Great advice!! I did this for myself and I didn't even realize it.

[@Xscape128]

This is reminiscent of your older videos. Good clean advice. Hope you can make a comeback

[@deyalinux2940]

“GO PICK FRUIT” oh I love it 😂😂😂

[@Tripp393]

The last 3rd of this video went off the rails LMAO

[@danielc3417]

Ell said Elliott. Every ability and real personal growth need start to appear when a different or, better said , critical new situation bring to you the need to find a way to go through it and achieve vital results.... It could bring you to say why I didn't do it before... Growth I always out of your comfortable habits.

[@HolisticJohn]

the beginning of the movie 300 is a perfect example to this.

[@PunyMortal]

Men should stop taking their masculine values from hollywood trash movies. Its fiction.. fantasy.. Chick flicks for men.

[@t-rex5671]

@@PunyMortal exactly. It’s why you see all these self proclaimed “alpha” male tough guys these days. The irony is that the dudes with the biggest alpha complexes these days are delusional man children who have never been in a scrap or had a real struggle in their lives 🤣🤣

[@fbyi2940]

@@PunyMortal also the actors uses steroids

[@Koozwad]

@@fbyi2940 they use spray on sixpacks

[@MrZurge]

Used to watch you a lot Elliott, still much respect for you. You helped me through my late teens with some of your advice. That being said, it seems to be the case that most of your "guidance" recently is you justifying your own experience. Understandably, you wouldn't try to live a life that's counterintuitive to YOU but you need to recognize that your path is not the best one in all regards, and there are some things in life that though they weren't developed in your framework may be better suited and/or serve their own purpose in a way that's beneficial to some. It's like taking one of two paths and arriving at the end and since you've made it relatively unscathed saying "this was the best path for sure, I made it through" when there's certainly a possibility that the other path could've been just as fulfilling and successful if not more so. Just something to keep in mind. Hope it's going well for you in your pursuits & with your family.

[@tiscerano]

Great point!

[@TheABCD3912]

a really creepy thing about this , is that the subconscious reason mothers are doing this to the son is to MAKE SURE that he doesn't become empowered as a man. that is the entire point of it all. they give him this motherly , feminine comfort and love. and blackmail him with it. "if you become empowered i will take this away". so it's not as innocent as it might seem.. this is incredibly true. and its something i wanted since i was 10 years old actually. i've been wanting to just run away and live in the forest or something.

[@denerickterry57]

Aww deep shi😲

[@moderndaysurvivor91]

I went travelling Australia, one of the best thing I ever did! That started the healing process plus it was 4 years ago. Now I'm in Canada on the no fap journey and I'm still healing. Keep going guys.

[@phillipchavez1321]

0:00-0:08 holy crap, right off the bat with good advice and I haven't even watched the whole video.

[@crisaldocapito7436]

i needed to watch this video, thank you for the video Elliott. From Africa, Mozambique.

[@darconproctor3225]

I got a bike and a tent and that was life. Still worked full time. But staying long enough to save money for a car and apartment was not a option

[@esejames1992]

Great point about music!

[@samchadwick4247]

Elliot is in the zone recently

[@darius4802]

thank god someone asked this question for me

[@drakkvonboza]

GOOD WORD ON THIS; INTITIATIONS ARE REAL; THIS IS NECESSARY *****RESPECT*****

[@stevenneal4292]

dame elllot you on point 👌 very true 👍 I'm 35 and I'm in that situation

[@stevenneal4292]

now I no what to do

[@stevenneal4292]

😊 🙏 😊 🙏 thanks for the 💎 gem

[@willusmaximus6985]

I juggle in-between car lanes every day for my living, and with zero monthly payments I eat well sleeping in a tent. No corporate jobs, no welfare, no contact with parents, no girlfriend, no friends, little to no stress. I double flip off the crowds of cars that don't tip me and smile wide after Tupac style. I'm gangsta AF homie

[@UnlimitlesslyFunnyDude]

It can be tough for those who have always relied on their parents to navigate the world on their own. However, it's important to understand that facing challenges and learning from mistakes is an essential part of personal growth. It may be difficult at first, but pushing through tough times and coming out stronger on the other side can provide a sense of accomplishment that cannot be achieved in the comfort of home. Don't let fear hold you back from experiencing life to its fullest potential.

[@lw97nilslinuswhitewaterweb93]

I however would love to conclude that whilst my mother never did it to me herself, I have let her do ot. It was nobody's fault but mine.

[@jeffsnider9869]

The only problem with that black and white statement is the fact that the man or manchild will seek this kind of nurture/ talk/ attention from his sig other in life and she will have to play mommy for the big boy and seek a mommy figure, thus making him inversely even weaker and her dissatisfied. Look up the psychological concept of 'the devouring mother' . The whole thing is to forgive your actual mother and repair your relationship with her. There's a balance to it

[@ryanthompson3446]

Elliot would agree with you, but until you break from mommy and become a man and stand on your own feet, you cannot actually come back to mother a man and repair the relationship.

[@jeffsnider9869]

@@ryanthompson3446 very much agree! That break away does indeed have to happen. But without resentment darkness and then him seeking mother in the world afterwords

[@ryanthompson3446]

@@jeffsnider9869 absolutely, that is what becoming the father is, you are not seeking a mommy in a woman, you are seeking a mother to make babies with and a woman that wants a father to need nothing because he is strong, not daddy, but father.

[@TheBanjoShowOfficial]

I thought that could be assumed.

[@kubasniak]

The only fix is to set BOUNDARIES.

[@UnlimitlesslyFunnyDude]

It is human nature to seek comfort and security in our daily lives. However, when we remain within the confines of our comfort zones for too long, it can lead to boredom. Boredom can then become a catalyst for addiction, as we search for new ways to feel stimulated. The problem with addiction is that it can quickly turn into dependency. When we become dependent on something or someone, we lose our independence and sense of self-reliance. This can lead to weakness in character and ultimately, despair. Weak men are unable to cope with the challenges that life throws their way.

[@THEBIGKAHUNA499]

At 9:50 he says stop listening to music. He calls it effeminate in that it feeds an emotional neediness. I never thought of it like that and yet I always knew. Thanks Elliott!!!

[@0P9ine]

This neega next video title finna be "Real Men don't need oxygen to survive"

[@PinkCreeper6969]

Lol

[@iTZ_xalechikx5137]

You obviously spit out your red pill

[@solliukgaming3225]

Love your vids bro. Awesome insights so relatable for me.

[@captainvbh575]

You guys know you can have a comfortable life and still be successful right? Causing yourself discomfort because you're sad just lowers you on the hierarchy of needs. It's much easier to feel content and fufilled when you're struggling with basic things. The real challenge comes when you've won or are already in a safe place. Then you need to find your purpose and deal with higher ordered problems. Nothing wrong with feeling comfort, there's a problem in thinking "sin" is real and rejecting your true feelings. Done

[@Rawyalty220]

Weak

[@xclusive463]

Always bulls eye again the topics you talk about are so relevant 👏

[@AsyaValentine]

This advice is insane 😂😂😂😂

[@gearsghoul4500]

Thank you Elliot. it’s time for action

[@theseedoflife5825]

Thanks man 😤💪

[@AuthenticSelfGrowth]

Elliot dishing out that tough love 💪🏽

[@jarvismarvis8900]

You need to do more videos about this

[@ThingsILikke]

One time my mom, who was like a Disney princess (she was pretty and everyone loved her) got so mad when my brother got arrested she made him wait in the jail for hours before she went with my dad to bail him out. She was just like "No! Let him stay in there! He doesn't deserve to be bailed out!" She was soooo angry not making any excuses for her only son

[@patreeky5975]

He had to sleep on his stomach for 2 weeks, is still in therapy to this day. But it was worth it!

[@ThingsILikke]

@@patreeky5975 Nah he was fine. It was like the Fresh Prince of Bel Aire.

[@Benstormcrow]

Great talk. Thank you.

[@lhza8570]

Truer words have never been spoken!! Straight facts Elliot👏💪👍

[@louis5668]

What the fuck is the point of living if I don’t indulge in anything pleasurable?

[@ethnicpelasgians5516]

When you said get rid of your clothes and wear the same shit everyday... LOOOL dude cant stop laughing looool

[@LucaBakiMMA]

Weird how all the bad stuff is also haram in islam. I used to be muslim and then thought it was all nonsense, now I realize the value in the teaching.

[@gc_meta9951]

Needed this message

[@cyberqreiber]

No mother's love makes them sociopaths and psycopaths, not able to handle emotion (fucks up relationships, families, work environment, etc)...

[@nolij2518]

I needed to hear this...

[@TrangDB9]

I wouldn't chose the military man, nuf reasons not to do it. There's better ways, like a job and your own place.

[@se6836]

I dont know about other military but joining Marines was the best gift I gave myself in my life.

[@rj1502]

@@se6836 how did it help you?

[@maritzaperrault4836]

Cussing has bad spiritual effects. If we’re going to be for Christ we need to use proper language and properly annunciate our words.

[@stgeorge4559]

WOULDN'T CHANGE MY UPBRINGING FOR THE WORLD I am so happy for my upbringing i suffered fot the 1st 23years of my life. Abused, almost homeless, starved on top of that i was raising my sister. Struggled with PTSD able to deal with it without medication. Since i was born the 1st 23years was hell i seen drink drugs and violence also been through it

[@mojomojo5779]

I didn’t even need to watch the video to know you are right. I was raised by a single mother. She tried her best and always meant well, but, yeah. I cannot emphasize enough the importance of you and all men reading Iron John by Robert Bly

[@shireensaroea946]

What is it about ?

[@nicolasraulpostica8868]

Personal experience: I took my shit and went off to another city. Sufered like a dog, I once sleeped in a park. Guess what? That shit didn't push me to do shit, I was still soft, cried like a little bitch, I could very easily become a homeless loser. I went back to my parents, stacked some money, moved out (right now I'm working as a fucking garbage man), im doing very well now, I've got my life in order also I've got rid of mommy. I pay my old bills boy. In conclusion: Do whatever you want, I just wanna tell that Elliot's advice on just packing up and going crazy is not for anyone. Have a great rest of the day. Stay strong.

[@FadingRosesBluesTristeza]

I really like your raw wisdom. I saw a woman's comment, I was wondering whether I was the only woman who watches your videos.

[@Artofwisdom28]

What book do you recommend for this topic?