Entire Family is Starving But The Housewife Wins a Shopping Spree

The TRUE STORY of a Midwestern housewife who kept participating in jingle-writing contests to help put food on the table for her ten kids and her alcoholic husband.
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[@MondoBeno]

I loved this movie. The saddest part was where the Priest comes over after the father's drunken tantrum, and the kids say that his breath smells just like their father's.

[@zoellastacy3463]

What does it mean

[@sharondsouza8054]

@@zoellastacy3463 it means priest was drunk too

[@kev4850]

@@zoellastacy3463 the priest was an alcoholic too. He also gaslights Evelyn into thinking that Kelly's drinking problem is her fault.

[@avarice4556]

@@kev4850 or not that big of a deal.

[@avarice4556]

Men having lived in a family similar to this where my dad would fuck up pretty much every chance he gets this sht hits home with me so hard.

[@elizabethhaokip8042]

She's a mother and bears every hardship not bcoz she love her husband, but for the sake of her children future, and she succeeded in that at the end. What a Great lady, salute to her.

[@thelordofthelostbraincells]

This is pure determination

[@The_Phoenix_Saga]

@Ernesto Brooks as much as I mock and condemn the feminists, this was one of the few occasions that a woman actually had a point - her husband was a failure of a man and a complete waste of a father: no wonder he felt upstaged. He lived completely moping in his misery and blamed everyone else for it when he never blamed himself and never sort to improve. His one and only saving grace was his deposits and it took him dying to even bring that up. I say this admitting as a man since my own father was the same way - a self centered hot tempered bully who I took great satisfaction in lamping in the jaw when I was seventeen putting him in his place and never saw him again after that. He died last year as he lived: a miserable, pompous coward. A little boy who wouldn't grow up to be what he should have been and the same for Kelly here - a pathetic excuse for a man. Real men prove themselves, not make excuses.

[@chriscash5350]

It's a movie about a woman winning stuff and having a shallow husband.

[@dr0z1lla92]

I guess I’ve failed my mother I didn’t go and do great things I make ends meet but it’s not a whole career plus..

[@user-dd8vo7or2d]

@@stangreen4134 Its hilarious how easily triggered you guys are.

[@ianheart5587]

She didn't divorce her toxic husband because to win the contest, she needed to show that she has a normal household. Smart lady indeed.

[@margaretlemon7175]

Not really. Unfortunately these was an era whereby women were taught to stick with the husband to matter how bad he is. They were never encourage to look for jobs nor leave their husband no matter how terrible or violence their husband are. Job were very scatter for a women as they are often look down on. If a female every complaint about her husband or even share about what she face with her friends or family. They are used the one being blamed. That they didn't do a good job as a housewife that's why the husband turn out that why. Especially if you are of a poor family. Women are taught not to leave their husband behind. The people never really heard the women problem even though they were calling or reaching out for help like the priest in this movie. As a result it was common back than to find women not only looking after the house but finds way to provide for the house while the husband spent away his income on alcohol and other stuff mainly himself than his family and when he ran out off money he would blame his wife. That's why that era. Many fewer divorce rate but women suffer much more gaslighting and ten times or 50 percent more hardship than now. There wasn't a word such as gaslighting back than so they were taught if the family falls apart it's the women fault even if she's a better provider or prefect housewife.

[@laprincesadelavaja8294]

No she didn’t divorce cause she loved his drunk ass

[@mochimmy3724]

@@margaretlemon7175 also there is no guarantee the next husband wouldn't be as bad as the present one.

[@potocatepetl]

@@mochimmy3724 One doesn't NEED a husband! What did this one bring to the table? Nothing except a hard, ugly life for the wife and the children. If a good man comes around, sure, otherwise, she would have had a better life alone with the children. Luckily nowadays women don't have to stay in such toxic relationships, at least not in civilised countries.

[@johncarlocagaoan6252]

@@potocatepetl well when she met him he was a singer in a successful band and fell in love with him, but after a car accident he lost his singing voice. Then due to the depression her husband had he turned into an alcoholic. She was very understanding to his husband and tried to help the family as much as she could. Then her husband got more angry because of how his wife is replacing him as the breadwinner of there family. It's the father's fault and due to alcohol and jealousy it tear there family apart. (It really tells how once a very good husband can turn into the most evil father because of an accident, alcohol and jealousy to her own wife)

[@peri_gee]

RIP Tuff Ryan. She died 3 years after this movie came out but left us with a beautiful memoir.

[@Anonymous-qb4vc]

She got this movie as a great tribute

[@jessicacoleman7453]

What's the name of the movie

[@elizzyyy1074]

@@jessicacoleman7453 it’s called “the prize winner of defiance ohio”

[@omanicc9854]

It was a nice tribute to her mom. Its a shame she died shortly after.

[@jinx724]

If I had a dollar for every time Woody Harrelson has played a drunk I would have a lot of money. Hunger games, the glass castle, this movie, so many others

[@citrusbutter7718]

Cheers.

[@listorin6314]

but what if you had a glass of drink everytime he played drunk?

[@jinx724]

@@listorin6314 I would be dead

[@awfan221]

Even in Cheers and his cameo in Frasier, he drank alot

[@yeahitmeagain8013]

2012 a crazy man but the same LOL

[@claireevelyn3379]

it should be noted that this is a true story - it is writing by her eldest daughter who became an award winning journalist.

[@personneici2595]

That's in the video at the end.

[@fenmo9533]

someone didn't watch til the end lmao

[@marceloramirez7604]

What movie is this?

[@roguejester4986]

Like mother, like daughter... In a way.

[@noyoucantnoicantnowecantsostop]

I don't think the first two comments being a detective sherlock obvious holmes understand what this comment means, She stated it again to remind you that this happened in real life, and toxic manipulation relationship & misogynistic or gender discrimination always happen no matter what era or year we're living in, and there's no way those will get rid over from existence even with Feminism and mass protest of gender equality & psychology education since it has been passively implemented in society (along with racism, but that's another story) If you want a concrete proof then look at the entirety of Reddit, 70% of the memes are basically "haha women bad cook in kitchen now laugh and give medal" and mind you that social website is basically full of hiveminded sheep and it has been a while to be common for 8 Year olds to have reddit and be influenced to misogynism through memes like that.

[@user-rm1lm3rt7e]

This breaks my heart I grew up with a provider mom and a father who was threatened by it this brings back alot of hard memories 😢

[@thyone3925]

All these women suddenly have the same story 🤣

[@LUCI-zu8tg]

@@thyone3925 Because it's a common story. Men are very emotional, especially when they feel emasculated by women.

[@thyone3925]

@@LUCI-zu8tg Are you a man? What makes you think you know men? Stop watching so many movies.

[@suhanipanda859]

@@thyone3925 you do not have to be a man to know men ....

[@meows7229]

@@LUCI-zu8tg Be gentle with @ThyOne. He's probably a man and you're hurting his feelings by emasculating his incel mind.

[@RavenFeathers90]

Folks in this modern age seem to get triggered and confused when we talk about toxic masculinity. Feeling threatened that your wife/girlfriend provides more resources/money is a great example of toxic masculinity. If you view your relationship as a competition and not a partnership, you're setting yourself up for a failed marriage.

[@ToutCQJM]

I don’t think it has to do anything with masculinity. The husband’s attitude and behavior are indeed toxic, but conflating it with masculinity just creates empty noise.

[@wokeil]

@@ToutCQJM It is toxic masculinity but more specifically the 1950s type of toxic masculinity. The modern type is way more nuanced. Society needed the man to be the breadwinner and Kelly was ridiculed for not being able to do that. That insecurity is caused by a societys toxic guidelines for masculinity. But obviously it's up to Kelly to not take it out on her.

[@heedmywarning2792]

You do know the movie was written from the viewpoint of Tuff, which may not have included the perspective of Kelly. Half a story is never the whole story, but many people are willing to accept it.

[@omusaatsawatuukha2513]

Rubbish. "Toxic masculinity" is the kind of nonsense that comes from people with half brains and pink hair

[@nanaa428]

@@ToutCQJM i dont think you understand what toxic masculinity means. It doesnt mean masculinity is bad, it means that certain men AND women have this idea of what masculinity should be and if someone doesnt abide by their standards they view them as less of a man. Women can have toxic masculinity, not just men. Things like believing a man is less of a man if his wife earns more than him is a form of toxic masculinity. what you said is EXACTLY what toxic masculinity, "conflating this behavior as masculinity" this is what these people believe, and which is why its toxic.

[@coreyf3042]

My mom loves this movie. She used to enter into contest like this and would win occasionally

[@agrippa7712]

I hope wins a lot more.

[@prussiaball8229]

Are they common in the USA? Here in Mexico you don’t see any

[@DonJulio1942]

@@prussiaball8229 tbh I think it depends on the state cause I’m from Michigan and I’ve never heard of any contests like this

[@senuljayaweera]

Yeah and I stopped world war 2(sarcasm)

[@lonesome3958]

@@senuljayaweera r/nothingeverhappens

[@2disbetter222]

I only realised it at the end of the recap, my mom does everything she can to support me and my brothers she'll hide the fact that she used the money to buy us things from our father, he's not alcoholic and all but he doesn't like it when we spend too much money. My mom will always find a way to make us happy and provide for us, she understands us like no one else does. I just wish I could repay her back with all the love and kindness she raised us when I'm old enough and start earning I really love her and wish God will give her a long and healthy life even my dad

[@divinusnobilite]

So your father makes the money and tries to avoid going into debt; and the man who sacrificed his own gratification for your living is the bad guy. Wow.

[@MethodiousMind]

Ancile Please stop being a defensive test for 10 seconds. Stop being so damn in your feelings. We can all see what the commentor means. Good Lord 🙄

[@adiore_me597]

@@divinusnobilite Where in their comment says "my dad is the only adult in my family that works and bring money in"

[@salmaabdullahgb]

@@divinusnobilite grow up brat

[@noobtrader9973]

@@adiore_me597 where in the comment say's that mother is working a job. It doesn't have to written at all to understand, whose the main provider. From the way commenter phrased its most likely that father is the sole provider.

[@karenmbbaxter]

I love Julieanne Moore's acting......why she has never won an academy award is beyond me.

[@lukaszha8826]

She has. Still Alice in 2015

[@ydn289]

@@lukaszha8826 I knew she did because I think she is a great actress and she did get the recognition that she deserved.

[@michaelcohen9363]

LOL you just got told

[@Lara-zr3ox]

Who cares about academy award these days?

[@Nina-rn6pc]

@@Lara-zr3ox people who work hard for them

[@weealpha64]

This guy needs to be sorted out by the sons. You never lay hands on a woman who keeps the whole family together. This woman deserved better

[@ScreamingDucksShotMyMother]

I mean you don't really lay your hands on a woman (person) regardless.

[@warlord1207]

@@ScreamingDucksShotMyMother unless they hit you first

[@bananatiergod]

I mean, did you see how the kids jumped him when he raised a hand on her? XD

[@HamiltonIsLife]

@@warlord1207 duh

[@warlord1207]

@@HamiltonIsLife you came on 4 months later for this? you're definitely an accident

[@cim888]

The scary part is that "back then" it was very normal as a husband/father to get drunk and abuse their families. Society was different, there was no support systems in place and no one talked about it. Its stories like these that I tell people when they say silly things like "Things were better in the good ol'days"

[@signin9551]

yess. I'm so glad this isn't okay in the time and day.

[@JB-rl4ik]

Still common now unfortunately

[@potocatepetl]

It is still normal nowadays unfortunately. Sure, some civilised countries changed in this regard, but not all. Should we speak about the fact that Russia (which considers itself a democratic modern country) legalised abuse in the marriage???

[@cim888]

@@potocatepetl Every country has its good and bad. Japan women's rights are atrocious (by any modern countries standards) only this century banned bestiality and allowed the birth control pill to be legalised (which is still without government support) Not to mention their grossly useless and outdated domestic violence/stalking laws. America themselves are repealing abortion laws in many states, taking away a women's rights to her own body and handing control to male religious nuts. The fact that its happening there while they protect 200+ year old gun laws is just crazy.

[@asahel980]

Lol its NOT very normal for a father to abuse their family, even back then. this is why media is very very effective for how to control the public thinking, people just believe things

[@dtetv8499]

That freezer scene would have been my last straw. It's one thing to take it out on me (the wife) but to take it out on the food that the family needs. Nah

[@thebinlgbtisbabadook7832]

Ikr? Like, dude I know you got issues but don't waste the food!

[@whatever7588]

That’s how allot of stressed people with anger issues act. I’ve put up with way too many people like that in this lifetime

[@divinusnobilite]

Yes, she would have been wildly successful winning a competition once every 2-3 years that only covers a fraction of her monthly costs. Oh wait.

[@salmaabdullahgb]

@@divinusnobilite so it makes abuse okay? I don't get your point

[@Dtitilator]

It's an ego move... "You're not feeding this family... I am!"

[@banditgreat6673]

I HATE THAT MAN. You don't always have to be the main person in the house. When you get married, you are to be equals, not a king and citizen relationship. Just so you guys know, it's a metaphor. I'm not talking about how either one of them is with their "role", I'm talking about their relationship.

[@DonJulio1942]

Tbh let’s be glad that most households aren’t like this no more considering that this takes place at a time where men had to be the main provider in the house so I really can’t fault the man for being what society made him out to be

[@Rociokirsten]

@@DonJulio1942 True but we shouldn't always validate our lives Because of others.

[@Souchi-ito]

@@DonJulio1942 what society? Those men made their own bed and now refuse to lie in it. And those men are part of the society. Blaming society is basically blaming them but they refuse to acknowledge that.

[@white_devil73]

King and Queen

[@banditgreat6673]

@@white_devil73 No, their relationship is more of a king and citizenship. As he try's to be the king but the wife(citizen) is rebelling against the king. In turn the king(husband), is frustrated. If the wife was to be the queen, she would be submissive to the king.

[@anudarib]

I grew up poor with many younger siblings. One day our white and black TV (It is in freaking 2007 or sth) actually broke down and we could only hear the audio lol. And this movie aired, we only listened. The mom in this movie reminded me so much of my mom with her resourcefulness and the weak dad reminded me of my alcoholic dad. I never watched this movie again(because I really hate that time and poverty I experienced), thank you so much for the recap

[@avarice4556]

Same situation. I hope our generation changes this epidemic of shtty fathers. I hate my mom some amount for staying with my dad, but I still understand why she did and had to. I still hate her on some level for it, but I understand it.

[@anudarib]

@@avarice4556 I got what you are saying, I used to be angry (still do sometimes) for choosing and staying with a shitty man like that, like I just needed to put blame on someone..Now I don't really understand my mom but understand my dad sometimes like on days I don't feel like working or feel like a total failure..Still I'd rather be alone than to raise kids in such environment

[@NotR00t]

Okay, but nobody asked

[@anudarib]

@@NotR00t I am just sharing my memory about this movie, you didn't really have to react

[@NotR00t]

@@anudarib Well nobody asked you to share

[@lambdalambdalambda257]

This story reminds me of my mother. Raised three kids by herself. When I was 21 I moved out because two of my friends were homeless and needed help getting a place. One day a friend stole $500 from me and I was upset because it was my rent money. My mom picked me up. Went into a casino and came out an hour later with $500.

[@WickedWolverine]

Oh my goodness !!! Your mother sounds INCREDIBLE !!

[@sm3675]

Don't go to the casino again

[@IamCarrieNotBranshaw]

Hopefully that friend is now your ex friend.

[@jkg5215]

@@sm3675 why?

[@signin9551]

@@jkg5215 gambling is not a reliable source of income. If anything you'll end up broke.

[@noyoucantnoicantnowecantsostop]

What Kelly did was still unjustifiable even with that secret deposit, he's the reason why some of the kids have years of trauma (that even turned into a ptsd) revolving around him, he abused his wife and always relied on him more than the amount of time he actually was being useful for once; he even insulted his wife for being useful and was jealous because deep down he knows that he's over the hill has-been up to never good drunkard, he took the provider responsibility yet he did little to nothing; even managed to failed his role as a father, and he was never grateful to begin with; when he said that he's proud of her with that tone it's obvious that he doesn't mean it and only did that to justify himself. I deeply understand the depression caused by a lost, but taking years to the point where he became a literal parasite, relied on expensive alcohol and being an abusive drunk doesn't deserve to be marked as a part of depression, it already became a normal daily habit. Evelyn was and still is the real one here, she's taken care of 10 children who have a bright future and better mindset & behavior than their up-to-never-good father, she still stood with her two strong legs even when the world's against her with misogyny (the polices and so-called priest deserved a spot in hell) The only thing she lacked was a courage to stand for herself and break the society's culture. The way she still loved her husband despite of him being a parasite to her more than being a helpful husband in her entire live makes me wonder if she just got brainwashed by that one psychology manipulation where someone justifies a negative person after bonding with them for a short time, unbalanced with how much negative effect caused by them.

[@noyoucantnoicantnowecantsostop]

@BubleBoy79 nobody's perfect in here, and the father was the living flaws. If you mean by "raised all his children the way he knew best" is teaching them how to became a wasted drunkard, passively jealous all the times, and enforcing authorities by planting fear and giving them a mental illness. Then you're dead wrong, it's called being abusive not parenting 101. And the amount of money he accumulated and gave to his family doesn't even match the amount of financial lost and mental pressures-slash-distress he caused to the whole family when he was still alive. He isn't entitled to be called a "loyal husband" as he's always failed to do his responsibilities as a provider and he's the one in the bottom of the family structure, if anything it's called "leeching husband" He knew damn well he'd even be more ashamed of the social environment and himself if he left his family and marry another woman, he couldn't even have a proper job or cope without being a full-time alcoholic, let alone providing himself sufficiently

[@noyoucantnoicantnowecantsostop]

@BubleBoy79 and you got a reading class to attend, lucky for you the main subject is about "the definition of daddy issue" Don't forget to bring dictionary and actually pay attention for once

[@ShurikanBlade]

I don't think anyone is trying to justify Kelly. Also the bright future kids: one of them I'd a criminal who chose the military over jail and the youngest stole flowers which is old intention bad execution. Kelly wasn't the only one who caused problems for the family.

[@queerlibtardhippie9357]

@@ShurikanBlade if their father wasn't a drunk who sent the family into banruptucy those things probably wouldnt have happened...

[@ongphuongbolero9174]

Right!? Exactly

[@jermainetaylor4889]

Hats off to this lady , she is a mother indeed..

[@NikhatFatimaThisNThat]

A beautiful movie. I almost wept seeing how hard she worked, never gave up and kept struggling for her family. Wonderful character. And she emerged a winner. Mothers are awesome.

[@rachelknightonline]

Woody Harrelson is one of the best understated actors

[@Dom-lx1xh]

Especially in Rampart

[@mcpebox8880]

"understated" xd he has 3 oscar nominations, 4 golden globes nominations, 8 emmy nominations and 1 win.

[@rfbu]

Yup I hated Kelly, that's how good woody was

[@rachelknightonline]

@@Dom-lx1xh true. Understated may not have been the best word, what I mean by it is that he’s beyond talented, but I feel like A LOT of people don’t recognize his gifts

[@droopy10115]

I think u meant under rated

[@mikhailjairnisbett441]

This dude is literally the worst husband on earth

[@anthemanatheme1638]

Dawg, there are plenty of worse husbands, especially at that time. He's rough, but he gets better.

[@002mjr]

I wish you were right, there are guys out there that beat there wives continuously and then apologize. I knew a woman who was living it but would refuse to leave.

[@enightc]

@@002mjr they always refuse to leave, because by that time, they have been brainwashed to become a slave of the situation. Brainwashing is not like the movies, its a little at a time, while the oppressor constantly tells you things that you want to hear, then slaps you and apologizes for that reaction due to the situations that is out of their control. Its mind games through and through and its done in domestic violence, as well as politics. Same tactics just used differently. Its also used in sales as well.

[@user-pg9hq1hn4f]

Reminds me of my dad. Without the alcohol

[@HH-bq2up]

Not really, he acknowledges his fuck-ups and doesn't abuse her or any of his children physically, he may not be the best but he certainly ain't the worst, and what he did at the end with the money deposit is very wholesome

[@gracehaven5459]

I saw this movie a few years ago it was really worth the watch. I came from a house with a dad like Kelly but I still came out on the other side thanks to people like Evelyn in my life (not mom unfortunately but I still had good people who loved & supported me)

[@quelita1971]

What was the name of the film?

[@staniamcintosh8026]

@@quelita1971 The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio

[@PRASHANTKOHALE]

Just Imagine having the most caring and loving wife in the world and yet you treat her this way😑

[@txg2453]

Who else would rather watch this instead of seeing the movie.

[@minigain1013]

Me

[@itz_ash_the_basic]

Definitely me I like the voice that's why

[@billybrinkley4575]

Me

[@kimanireid6111]

I'd be curious to watch after seeing this recapp

[@onemoredeadman]

Me, I get the title then read the reviews then decide to watch the movie or the recap

[@jamesmaguire9518]

It’s crazy how threatened some males can be of their partner when their partner is having more success than them. I can’t imagine being in a relationship where I make the woman I am with feel bad for being successful. It really does blow my mind.

[@Prefix1998]

This is back in the times when the husband is supposed to be the sole provider of a family and that failing this would label them as someone who isn't a man.

[@PKensington]

I know the ending isn't the worst, but I just couldn't, I'm so sad for the mother, such a wonderful person, I know hindsight is 20/20 and how you handle things, shows your character, but I wish she didn't have to handle of that rotten stuff. I wish she could've seen the world, had a husband that loved her and treated her fairy every moment, gosh. I get teary-eyed every time I think of this film, just like bridge to Terabithia. I grew up with a emotionally stunted step-dad, who while I did pity. Would take out his frustrations in off shots of ranting and misdirected anger unpredictably, so maybe it's just hitting home, but that kinda stuff really isn't cool at all to have to deal with and worth through.

[@signin9551]

this is kinda unrelated but I wanna stay away from alcohol and drugs because of what these people can become. with alcohol, it makes the whole situation a lot worse so I don't wanna try drinking. I know that if you do drink it won't turn you into a monster because most people are okay that drink, but there is a chance of using drinking and becoming the people you fear. I'd rather not take that chance y'know? (the main problem is people use drinking as a coping strategy, since drinking makes you not have to feel your burdens people constantly drink to get away from reality. This is an alcoholic.)

[@joshuagraham2843]

its a bittersweet ending its how realistic it is

[@albinohamster4336]

“ Jelly at Kelly ” Is my new favourite sentence.

[@NaomiTCOOKIES]

This story reminds me too much of my own parents. My mom worked so hard under the abusive thumb of my father to provide the best she could for her children. Meanwhile my father was too narcissistic and jealous of my mom's hard work that all he did was throw tantrums and cause more problems for her.

[@sebastianfeuerstein9306]

I swear, my dad's also the same. Just waiting to leave this godforsaken house

[@tryycoper3321]

can agree with a narcissistic parent, except it was my mum who was more abusive towards my dad, and my dad was more prone towards hitting me. I think they were jealous of each other's achievements too, for some reason😂😂😂

[@sebastianfeuerstein9306]

@@tryycoper3321 wtf 😂

[@tryycoper3321]

@@sebastianfeuerstein9306 yeah families are complicated

[@sebastianfeuerstein9306]

@@tryycoper3321 I'm so sorry man, your situation's really messed up! 😔

[@thebinlgbtisbabadook7832]

Priest: you need to work harder to make a better home for your husband because he is too stressed providing for the family BRUH she was the one providing for the family with her winnings

[@Shyknit]

And she was the one that had the kids too lol 9 months each of 10 kids or having to give birth to multiple if there are twins, ain't no way I'd do that for someone that ungrateful and volatile Edit: I think people are misreading my comment I meant she's the one having to struggle and have those kids so it's messed up she's also getting the shit from everyone else (I'll start my comment with an "and" because I was adding on to the previous comment and agreeing. And yes even though it's looking at the situation from a modern lense I would not have kids with him, that's a fair thing to be able to say lol

[@salmaabdullahgb]

@@Shyknit you think she had a choice loooool

[@avarice4556]

@@Shyknit What probably happen was he was a different person before his career went to shts. I was in a similar situation growing up. My dad was someone who had a lot of money and a lot of options. Something happen and he pretty much lost it all and he turned into pretty much the same as the guy in this story.

[@avarice4556]

@@Shyknit Believe me I do feel like the woman share some of the blame in these situations, but it's like 15% - 20% of the blame.

[@Shyknit]

@@salmaabdullahgb I think you misread my comment

[@niftynic115]

It was a true story. I really enjoyed this movie. She stayed with an abusive husband because there was a huge stigma against single mothers back in this time.

[@whitedragoness23]

That reminds me of Cinderella the Disney movie, despite her circumstances and being forced to live a servant role she keeps being happy and optimistic because there was no other alternatives for women. You just had to hope you married a decent guy who could provide for you It was this lady’s optimism which helped her improve her situation and her and her family probably would of excelled even more if it wasn’t for the husband

[@carolnoelle2468]

The strength and patience of a mother

[@RizwanPervez]

So happy that the mother succeed raising wonderful & successful kids.

[@asthetic_berry3556]

Idk why but I laughed when he said “and she throws a bowl of jelly at Kelly”

[@zamieca.manila]

I pray not to marry a man like Kelly. I will never dream of spending my life with an insecure man.

[@avarice4556]

Please if you ever do just leave. If not for yourself for the kids. The best way for you to not become this is to be aware of it.

[@KM10HM12]

@@avarice4556 exactly don’t traumatise your children.

[@warlord1207]

@@KM10HM12 trauma builds character

[@monohina1997]

@@avarice4556 it’s better to pick a souse properly before marrying. There are always red flags

[@avarice4556]

@@warlord1207 Trauma can also build hatred, ostracization and anti-social behaviors. Just because me or you can survive certain things doesn't mean everyone else can or does.

[@eeenyc5959]

This made me cry....The dad was an alcoholic and mom codependent...but back in those days women stayed especially with big families. The worse was her getting hurt with broken glass...kind of horrific she still stayed. Stockholm Syndrome? The children were more effective than this movie shows....just because they achieved various successes does not mean they do not have forms of PTSD, etc. Just because the dad could not sing does not mean he should drink. We all have stuff happen and don't drink....

[@DonJulio1942]

I wouldn’t say Stockholm syndrome it’s mostly cause women couldn’t do much without a man that’s why a lot of women in the 50s and 60s put up with abusive and toxic men because it was more financially viable to stay than to leave considering they didn’t have rights

[@jesuschrist6688]

@@DonJulio1942 Womej had rights by that time… they would’ve had rights for about 30 years in the 50s. However, the sexism back then was insane, women couldn’t work, very few got good education, and many were looked down upon. Glad first and second wave feminism really demolished that mindset.

[@RonLarhz]

Yes. And the problem is such men are still common in today's society. Arghhh

[@toobaaaapi]

She didn't stay because of Stockholm syndrome, she is shown in the movie to stay for her children, she didn't have a job or steady income, she was winning money and prizes here and there. It's bad women think of MAN as the children's provider and not Allah, that's why they tend to stay. Secondly I think another reason was Kelly was not a bad guy deep down and was suffering from depression, his violent outbursts were out of lack of control rather than actual malice or wish to cause harm to family. She probably kept hoping things would get better.

[@hugoumero9723]

@@RonLarhz And nowadays sadly feminist now became feminazi

[@maxim.m7409]

I love how detailed this movie is and how it accurately catches the timeframe of which it is set . Even the detail down the to iron lung in the housewife house is amazing , the way it shows the polio epidemic at the time .

[@ExceptionalMussy]

What an amazing movie. A true tale of a parent’s love for their children. Although the father was a selfish, drunken narcissist, the mother was able to maintain the family through every obstacle just because she wanted to see her kids to succeed. What an absolutely devoted parent, the kind of parent we all wish we had sometimes.

[@mississippiqueen2u]

A real mother’s love for her children. Selfless!

[@avarice4556]

I love you queen and maybe this some resent for my own mother it's hard to believe you fully love your child when you stay with a bad and abusive parent. I understand you're going to say she couldn't because she was in that environment and all that stuff, and I'd agree with you. But mothers in these situations share some small amount of blame for staying in these type of situations and relationships.

[@KM10HM12]

There is no such a thing as a real or fake mother. A mother loves her children like the father should and must. She does not have to bare any of the problems the weak like husband bring home. She does not have to tolerate societies bs. Don’t glorify her suffering as “real mother”

[@wifegrant]

@@KM10HM12 Some people have terrible moms and great dads. Both me and my wife had better dads than moms. It is also becoming more frequent that moms are absolutely dog shit. I would argue that there are more terrible moms than dads.

[@susanmanley4956]

That part where she is tired of being the one who saves the family, and she wants him to do something, hit home.

[@sophiahousen3973]

Oh my god 😭 that sounds like such a good movie. The mother Evelyn reminds me of my grandmother, I remember her having one mint ball and crushing it up so that all the grandchildren would get a piece. I can't wait to see this movie and also read the book. I was actually crying because this story is so close to home. Thankfully my grandfather also changed as he got older.

[@MethodiousMind]

It really is a beautiful story. Sad, but ended really well. Mom was optimistic and hard-working. Dad loved his family, he just wasn’t a great provider, but he worked hard too. The most important thing is they raised 10 well-adjusted children to adulthood. Amazing.

[@HowToChangeName]

This movie really reminded why my parent divorced, incompetent father and hard working mother

[@Rociokirsten]

This is a very good movie, It brings me nostalgia and thrill. My mom is our main provider cause she's very hard-working and has many source of income buy my Father never lacked of support and work for us, But they never tried to emasculate each other but help each other. As a family you should fight and be strong as one. And it's base on a true story wow

[@Derthlin]

To think this was really our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers life's, but without the prices is very sad. Now men are wondering why women doesn't want to marry or have children anymore.

[@protectwhatisours6895]

But the same women will go around the cock carousel… it’s not to do with what you think it is buddy.

[@captaincrunch784]

After what I saw the older women in my family endured I promised them I would buy a house for myself and stay single. They were so proud I got a Master's Degree.

[@bursegsardaukar]

Unfortunately, not everybody gets such a happy ending. I remember the story of the mother who sold her 4 children only to have more children with the man she remarried...

[@salmaabdullahgb]

What has that for to do with this??

[@slyz8504]

@@salmaabdullahgb read the damm comment, why ya asking such a "no shit sherlock" question?

[@KPlyf]

@@salmaabdullahgb Just that not all parents are the same. Even If just one parent is loving and by child's side his/her childhood remains a beautiful experience

[@heluvANNN]

What is the movie called?

[@ashleybosvik3031]

@@heluvANNN a happy cry.

[@steshka1015]

A movie from real life ❤️ That's a symbol of love and appreciation to how great their mother is. Mother is always positive nonmatter what happen. She's the light, even the foundation. Father is entitled, doesn't know really what's happening in the family.

[@heedmywarning2792]

Entitled: "believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment". Could you explain, from the movie, exactly WHAT privileges or special treatment he wanted?

[@KM10HM12]

@@heedmywarning2792 he want to be the breadwinner and hate that she is, toxic masculinity. He get always with thing, like how the cops were literally having drunk with him. Want to be responsible with the money that she won, simply cuz - patriarchy.

[@heedmywarning2792]

@@KM10HM12 You are just roboticly repeating catch phrases and bumper stickers. From day one it was his responsibility to take care of his family. Then he started failing at it. His purpose in life was gone. Yes, he handled the situation badly and spread hate in his family, But isn't he in a family? Isn't everyone to pull together, even in hard times? The family as a whole needed to help him get back on the right path. It's like many people just saw him as an appliance. Once broken, just toss in the trash.

[@TarynBell]

Wow. I feel a lot of emotions. I’m from Ohio and my mom was a home maker. I was definitely Tuff. I had alot of anger seeing things happen growing up. My parents divorced and my mom improved so much. She’s married to a nice guy and she bought herself a big house and luxury car. She is living for herself now. My sad also moved on to do well for himself.

[@adylaar6708]

This feels like my family right now. I dont understand why my dad dont understand my mom. He disagree with everything she did. Most of the time he is the one in the wrong. Its not like my mom is addicted to shopping or anything. But my dad always tell her no. I asked my mom a fee times, why arent she asking for divorce. I guess thats just not how my mom see things.

[@whatever7588]

Crazy thing is if she gets a divorce society will blame her since she’s the woman

[@divinusnobilite]

Because your mom knows better about the sacrifices your father is making, you ingrate. He should have pulled out.

[@denoxdblong2577]

Ikr. My mom too. I did not understand why. Now I am too scared to have marriage life like who will help? Too scary.

[@wokeil]

@@whatever7588 Bro you good? In the case of a divorce it's always the husbands fault. Women get the children and money, men get nothing except insults and domestic violence accusations.

[@whatever7588]

@@wokeil that’s not true at all, stop internalizing rumors as truth. In reality, the woman’s always blamed & framed to look like the bad guy which is why domestic abuse survivors rarely speak out. Smdh, you really need to touch grass

[@MissBossy]

What a crummy father/husband.

[@skh770]

I find this incredibly depressing. I'm glad some things have changed. A good example - I have a friend whose truck driver husband didn't want to pay for her to have food when he wasn't there - and she was pregnant. She decided that she could struggle along better without his charming personality. She was going to struggle either way. So she kicked him out and divorced him.

[@oyas_oracle]

She held the family down!!! Beautiful

[@bridgettepemberley7819]

She's a true hero.

[@KS-se9jb]

When she won the last price, I cried.

[@geetanjaleesaikia1894]

What an inspiration.....respect and loads of respect.

[@divinusnobilite]

Also, fictional.

[@yellow-ish4200]

@@divinusnobilite have you finished the video?

[@boniechen7239]

My mom is the exact person, extremely patient, wise and positive. We are 11 children, our dad was like that too. We’d never learn the nicest things if it weren’t for my mom.

[@beckyonagarnetmoon]

I was obsessed with this movie when I was lil. 10/10 recommend actually watching it.

[@effingcool1780]

I watched this around 2007 or so. This film reminded me of our sad reality too much. When i was growing up it was the exact norm in my country. Many people lost their job. Being jobless hit men harder than women mentally i think. Half of them ended up becoming alcoholics. Domestic violence was totally normal, none paid attention to it. Homeless and abandoned kids where roaming around the city everywhere committing petty crimes. Whole country's economy was saved by women and 10y.old children that worked day and night during that time. But unlike this movie, people had very few children because none could afford children. (it was 90s) Many women died at their husbands hand during those times. Today i don't see that many man killing their wives like 90s in our country. It still happens but not everyday occurrence like 90s. So it was probably sad result of collapse of economy and society that gave birth to monsters during that time.

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@Effing Cool I'd never heard of this movie, or book, until today. I found it so difficult to watch the father never easing up on the booze or his wife. (Although the pension savings business at the end showed me he did find a way to take care of Evelyn.) It's interesting that you still remember seeing the movie fifteen years ago. And reflected this 1950s family story from Midwest Ohio onto the 1990s in your own country. Maybe you are a writer, like Tuff Ryan, with your own story to tell !

[@angelafinley2662]

Lovin' your recaps! ❤️❤️ Faithful follower! 💯

[@belleblanch5374]

Many men can make your life shitty, better be single if you don't meet the one who can make you happy and loved.

[@fpszombie1]

While I don’t disagree, you could easily say the same about women

[@jesuschrist6688]

@@fpszombie1 You could make more of a case for women nowadays.

[@whatever7588]

Unfortunately he did make her feel happy and loved and the beginning which is why she stayed because they actually followed the till death do us part vows

[@sheltonyukevich7722]

I think she did it for her kids more than anything

[@avarice4556]

@@whatever7588 that's why she suffered.

[@majs1996]

I think one of the most depressing parts of the film is how Kelly had countless opportunities to grow as a person a become a better father and husband but he wasted all of them, and his kids will remember him as a useless and violent drunkard. It got more depressing for me when in the end of the video this turned out to be the story of a real family. Evelyn deserved much, but so much better, but this film and the book it was based on are a beautiful tribute to a mother that did all she could to raise her kids as well as she could, in spite of all adversities.

[@mrkca222]

This movie DESERVES to be watched ❤️❤️ one of my all time favorite flicks so please give it a go, you won't be disappointed 💗

[@sandyvinas3025]

What's the movie title pls

[@indoom666]

Watch this movie that wasnt named guys! its sooo good! i wont name it tho! im a retard!!

[@mrkca222]

It's "The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio"

[@tacotime3094]

wow just...wow the thing i loved most was how slowly but surely kelly become more and more caring and loving

[@ndiekwere6027]

I watched the movie. Whilst no one should stay in such a marriage. Her mother was an excellent example of how to face life challenges with a smile 😊. Everything was left up to her and she had a focus and she did it all with love and with a smile and succeeded. It’s Both sweet and bitter. But I think she overcame all the challenges, she overcame. Now all her children are good contributors to this world.

[@minerchick1258]

I love this, we need more movies like this. Theres never one side to the story, we never know what folks are going through, love is precious and people can change.

[@blackjack4896]

One of the greatest story to don't give up in life.

[@racquelcollins2474]

This man is a full hold back for this woman. She would be so better off without him. He carries too much jealousy

[@whatever7588]

That’s most men when their woman ends up being the provider.

[@tessy28]

@@whatever7588 They're too lazy to be full providers these days but when the woman steps up they start getting jealous. Hilarious !

[@TwoStacks217]

I don't know if defiance is a real town but I feel like it was the perfect town for the mother to live in because it was her defiance that kept the family going her defiance of ever giving in or giving up despite all the tumultuousness that she had to deal with

[@marie31316]

It's real

[@Rockingthe80s]

I just cry like a baby. I belong to a big family of 8 And that bring a lot of memories God bless all moms on the world.

[@monskie1111]

I never expected to cry in a movie recap. Deym the story is just so much for me 😭

[@Tattletale97]

I am amazed this is actually a real story, what a brilliant woman!

[@xxmagicqueenxx]

*The fact I have 10 siblings and all from the same parents is crazy..*

[@RonLarhz]

Did u check if u r in a cult?

[@xxmagicqueenxx]

@@RonLarhz *👁️👁️ Are we talking about the same subject here?*

[@colleen8927]

Omg!!! This recap broke my heart 🥺

[@sandhywinartja8662]

this is a beautiful movie or story since it's a real one. Salute to the mother

[@yoshiki.g1450]

Such a beautiful movie. This brought tears to my eyes

[@nanwanwon95]

The sad thing of this movie is that this depicts the reality of most households and many people can relate to this 💔

[@AlbredaWelde]

I think you are way off base believing that this is the reality for most households. I grew up with an alcoholic father and am very good at seeing the telltale signs/behaviors. I have known few people who fit the bill, so it can't possibly be MOST families that suffer this pain.

[@MaNkYmInX]

Omg, that lady was a true saint! To put up with all the verbal abuse and negativity and still kept it together for sake of the children.❤

[@lucifersgamingtv]

i was crying in the end grt writting and good story

[@zyx6543]

This reminds me so much of what I saw growing up... some households especially in my culture are so toxic and down right abusive.

[@capitalfiction3813]

Movie Recaps: posts a new video Me: watches out and takes care 👀

[@theblackariel5957]

This is my life story. Growing up with parents almost exactly like this. This hits home.

[@beesparkles07]

girl has so much patient!! I could neverrrr

[@spelare1]

This was a scarily realistic film so i wasnt suprised by the ending

[@jaytomson7052]

Corporations, now is the time. Bring back hope through generous contests... we have been set back 70 years!

[@shivamagarwalsam]

Me in tears right now... BEAUTIFUL

[@marivcf8615]

This was actually very touching

[@Sense3rd]

wow. that toxic kind of husband is based on a true story? wow. im speechless.

[@avarice4556]

Lmfao wild when I see post like this

[@travelerforever8849]

sad realities but mothers usually do it because of the children. Complaining bring no solutions end up the mothers do everything.

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@M H Catholic parents (so divorce would have been close to impossible), 1950s before contraception was a common option - so the babies kept coming. The husband Kelly was an attractive suitor when he could sing in a band, before his accident and throat injury. (Although the entertainment industry would have been challenging for family life - with all the late nights, drinking, drugs sometimes, and travel away from home.) The huge thing shown here would have been Evelyn's desire to keep her family together, come rain or shine. She would know all too well what would happen to her children if she had left Kelly. So she was creative and smart, and her daughter honoured her life by writing that book 🌟

[@Justcarlosdiaz]

"She throws a bowl of jelly at kelly" fuckin fire

[@Dolcevita_bakes]

I remember this movie! I remember reading that they were saying it was one of the most underrated movies that they had out so I watched it and I cannot believe what a fantastic story this was what a wonderful movie they got the best actors and actresses to play in this movie they all did such a wonderful job and overall I loved it so much I watched it twice!

[@_PAIGE94]

I vaguely remember this film; Awesome recap 👍🏾

[@aryanverma8344]

At first I was annoyed why didn't the cops stop him while he was yelling drunk at his wife and kids. Then I remembered this movie takes place in 50s

[@Angelaius]

Cops were mostly alcoholist wife beaters themself aswell. Yikes.

[@sancinec3762]

Watching movie recap is better than watching the actual movie

[@septembersapphire347]

I've never seen or heard of this movie before now, but now I can't wait to see it!

[@m.c.9419]

Really warmed my heart when the kids united to defend their mom. She's tough, creative, resourceful, and apparently she has a ton of saintly patience. I would have cussed out the husband if I fell into a puddle of milk and lots of broken glass.

[@rafel1715]

Kids, always love and respect your mother for this very reason.

[@rayjack]

The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio is based on the true story of housewife Evelyn Ryan, who helped support her husband, Kelly, and their 10 children by winning jingle-writing contests. Why doesn't the Movie Recaps name the movie title in the Video title or Video subscription? Only shows up for 1-2 seconds in the beginning. You have to be a fast reader to catch the title

[@mahoganymuffin2628]

Thank you so much. I was like what's the title of the movie? I searched the comments and couldn't find it until yours.

[@psychedelicpayroll5412]

I look in the transcript and usually find it there

[@MelixaMihawk]

Wow, The love of a mother! Especially one like this♥️

[@diegoespinoza4373]

They named their daughter Tuff, THATS TUFF

[@aryanverma8344]

If it's all real then I must say the mother has some godly luck on her side.

[@icouldbejokingbut]

I love the “positivity in the darkness of it all” lesson

[@dilianafarias4503]

Ive never heard of this movie but wow its incredible!! I'm shocked and not shocked at the same time that its a true story. That woman is amazing 👏

[@jo_6315]

This reminds me of my mum. She has this writer's luck about her. Back in the 90s where contests do give out good prizes, whatever my mum enters, she sure will win them all. I was lucky to be a part of that: trips, hotels, etc. My best childhood memories.