Moving abroad & Leaving Family | Tips for Expat Families

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@emmaporteous5865 3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I enjoyed the part where you said about making peace with your decision. I moved to New Zealand from the UK 8 years ago… I then came back to the uk with my partner for 2 years whilst we had our first child and we hoped that we’d love the uk and stay forever… my parents therefore got excited now that their only child was home and now they have a grandchild in their life… neither of myself or my NZ partner enjoyed being in the uk however so now we are moving back to nz with our baby… my parents are absolutely devastated and we leave in 2 weeks. It’s heartbreaking for parents ESPECIALLY when they only have 1 child. It nearly separated my partner and I as I started to feel like I needed to choose between my parents and him. My soul is not happy in the uk however and I know we can give our daughter a much better life in NZ. Every day I wake up and I question if I am doing the right thing… as soon as I get on that plane I need to make peace with my decision and not ruin our future by continuing to question my decision and judgement for the rest of our life and ruin our happiness! Thank you!!

@AbroadwithSusana 3 ай бұрын

My dearest Emma. I understand you more than you can ever know. I also had my kids abroad and my parents- being very family-oriented- were worried about the kids not being connected enough to them, or that they would lose the chance to see them grow. But, rest assured there are so many ways to keep the connection and make family members feel like participants of your life, even if you are abroad. Please, feel free to contact me at susana@abroadwithsusana.com if you want to continue this conversation. All the best in your new chapter, Emma =) It is going to be beautiful. Lots of love. Susana

@Geminiqueentravels Жыл бұрын

I have taken care of my parents until their transition. My children are grown and I have 2 beautiful grandchildren. I travel internationally often but each time I come back home I cry. It’s not enough. I’m happier somewhere else. So I’ve decided to prepare to move abroad. Trying to figure where to move to.

@AbroadwithSusana Жыл бұрын

May I ask what is it you wish to get from moving abroad?😊

@Geminiqueentravels Жыл бұрын

@@AbroadwithSusana I want to enjoy my life. Move somewhere more affordable where I can easily travel from one place to another. Enjoy different cultures and explore this beautiful world.

@dbencic 6 ай бұрын

Both of my daughters are now in college and I immediately started selling everything and cutting financial ties in order to move and follow my passion… I only feel sad about my aging parents - however staying in the USA is a detriment to my soul … So yeah I made up my mind even though it’s a bit sad too

@AbroadwithSusana 5 ай бұрын

I understand you feeling sad for your ageing parents. Mine are getting old too. But living life fully makes all the sense and you can share it with others too. My parents have participated in my life experience too by travelling and visiting me wherever I moved. 😊Now is my turn to visit back home as often as I can so we can all feel connected, supported and loved. Hope this helps 😊

@tinadusha 2 жыл бұрын

thank you so much! because I feel sick with this endless guilt that my family makes me feel when tell me numerous times that I throw away all family and I’m awful person because dreaming about moving abroad all my life and now finally I will gather the courage to tell them that I will move abroad. All family seems so upset about it and I don’t get why because we see each other 1-3 times a year for a few days and that’s it. All this screaming, crying of my family because of this decision makes me feel nauseous.. So thank you for this video, it’s really helpful

@AbroadwithSusana 2 жыл бұрын

I am so glad this short video gave you so much clarity 😊 Love yourself and your family. I am sure you can all figure out a way to make everyone understand your feelings and theirs 😊💛 Let us know, if you wish, how it goes.

@BibleSamurai Жыл бұрын

just like you have to think your thoughts you have to live your life

@Over50andMe 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video you have been my inspiration and emotional saver ❤

@AbroadwithSusana 5 ай бұрын

Oh, lovely words. I am so glad this video has helped you. 😊 Let me know if you have any questions about moving abroad and how it affects our emotional life 😊

@TJAMALENTERTAINMENT 2 ай бұрын

Great

@shohkawauchiortega8650 2 жыл бұрын

What insane editing! Great Video! :))

@AbroadwithSusana 2 жыл бұрын

I am glad you like it 💛😂

@belizejuliette7223 3 ай бұрын

Thank You

@AbroadwithSusana 3 ай бұрын

You're welcome =) My pleasure to help.

@TJAMALENTERTAINMENT 2 ай бұрын

Nice

@koufax174 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I have been caring for my 95 year old mom and have done a great job. I want to live abroad after two exploratory trips. She’s in a great home with excellent care. I’m trying to become clear can I live abroad logically and live my life and manage everything from abroad. I’m in mh late 60’s and I’m excellent health. Thank you

@AbroadwithSusana Жыл бұрын

I am so glad this short video gave you some clarity 😊 I know what it means to leave parents behind. It sounds like your sweet mum is having excellent care and knowing that you can live your life too will make her happy as well. 🌸 May I ask where would you like to move?

@koufax174 Жыл бұрын

@@AbroadwithSusana yes. I tried slow travel in my last venture staying away from expats. It was far more than I imagined. I love the cultures, happy people, slower pace of life, monumental natural beauty, fresh delicious foods, low cost of living, and much more emotionally available people. So back to my question, it is possible for me to live abroad and care for my mom with the excellent care she has? Thank you 🙏🏼

@AbroadwithSusana Жыл бұрын

@@koufax174 to make that decision, reflect on two main areas. Mindset & Logistics Mindset for you and your mum. Agreeing on a plan that will work for you to live abroad and for her to live with someone who will take care of her. Make peace with that idea. Logistics: plan about how often you will call home, or whether will you be visiting, and if so how often. Will you live in a place with easy access to airports, and proper wifi so you can be reached? Will the person or persons in charge of your mum agree to be part of this plan? Reflect on this 😊🌸💕

@koufax174 Жыл бұрын

@@AbroadwithSusana thank you. I forgot to answer your question. I went to SE Asia. I already have approval from the nurse at my moms wonderful home. I’m working on the last leg of logistics. I can come home every 2-3 months. I can get to an airport within a day or less. I’ve discussed with my mother as well. I will get an iPad so we can communicate regularly. Thank you for taking the time to list the part to consider. I’ve been thinking of this for 1 year and discussed with professionals. ❤️

@AbroadwithSusana Жыл бұрын

@@koufax174 looks like you have a good plan 😊

@shaymaarashed6587 4 ай бұрын

I will be leaving soon, however I have 3 children 2 of them are adults the youngest is 3 years old how can I explain to him that he will not be able to see me in person like normal 😢

@AbroadwithSusana 4 ай бұрын

@@shaymaarashed6587 my dear, I feel how challenging this move must be for you. Before I share my view on this, I want to clarify that my opinion is based on my experience as an Expat mum for over 25+ years. I believe that children are more open-minded than adults are. They accept how life is presented to them with more ease than we do. When letting him know about your plans to move, focus on the positive experience he will have. Not the negative consequences he will lack. For example, enhance with positive details his new life adjustment rather than saying he won’t be seeing you. Plan ahead some meetings, either in person or online to share your daily life experiences. From him and from you. And feel in your body you are doing the right thing so he can sense he is also part of the whole plan. I would highly recommend contacting an educator and/or a child psychologist to have a more detailed piece of information. And I do want the best for you and your child. Let me know how it goes. 😘