Should we be Keeping Score in Relationships?

[@tshepangmokwena8738]

Can I also add - Forgiveness to oneself is also crucial. Be compassionate enough with yourself, that you always put yourself in another person's shoes. And compassion is a fruit of forgiveness. And patience comes with compassion. 🥺💯♥️

[@janetmilton3758]

Yes this so true

[@mbalikhumalo921]

What Brenden said about Mrs Mom and how he described her is so wholesome and pure. And he's definitely correct in saying that is why people gravitate towards her....she's just a beautiful spirit🥰❤

[@tshepangmokwena8738]

You see, I've learned that love is about building. And to build, you work with the good, and grow from there. Once you capitalise on the good score, every good thing gradually falls into place, and it can go so far as to people even letting go of bad habits and toxic cycles without being aware, and most importantly, without feeling attacked. So I believe it's important to keep the good score and enhance that. Basically giving credit where it's due, and acknowledging the other person. I believe that's one of the things that makes two one - when you are able to build each other's character without projecting, forcing or attacking. A beautiful, refreshing conversation. This duo is my favorite 💯🥺❤️

[@rakgadim.mohlala1324]

I used to think that these 2 specific verses about forgiving 70 x 7 and turning the other cheek when someone wrongs you was just bonkers. Also hearing people say “God forgives I don’t” or “try Jesus, don’t try me” contributed to my thought process regarding those verses. This year I heard the voice of God more clearly than I’ve ever heard it before. Those two verse are Gods love letter from Him to us, the purest manifestation of love there will ever be. What God was saying is that our human and sinful nature will always want us to retaliate but because God wants nothing but peace and Joy and love for us he want us to be selfish in keeping that joy and peace and love by not letting the things of this world taint what he wants for us. What I heard as clear as day was that turning the other cheek or forgiving 70 x 7 is not actually for the other person because we have no control over that but rather it is for us to continue to thrive in our own thoughts and to continue to live a life contained in the fruit of the spirit.

[@tshepangmokwena8738]

Bathong, we are moving at Podcast Producer rate. 💯❤️Witnessing such growth is beautiful, words truly fail me. Congratulations Family. Man, may God continue to move you from leap to leap, beautiful 🥺💯♥️

[@salayitandokazi]

It's me singing ; "I've been feeling this way since we hooked up, I ain't going nowhere no matter what..." with excitement to my Most fave channel on YT 🥰😍🥰😍🥰🥳🥳

[@bukunolaoso9362]

That blush that accompanied that smile at 25:30....was everything

[@lebogangkgoedi1688]

Loved that Mrs Mom used Will Smith as an example when it comes to understanding why people behave in a certain way. Reminds of the book I read “what happened to you”. I believe our experiences in life shape our behaviour.

[@mmatsie_tsotetsi]

Loved how Brenden explained Mpoomy. So beautiful to witness your love and admiration for each other. I've been practicing gratitude towards my husband and it helps with also communicating expectations in a healthy way

[@uncutflavour1249]

Ewa

[@uncutflavour1249]

Ewa

[@Inga_09]

Your channel is so full of wisdom🙏🏽❤️ I have been watching your podcasts over time, your honesty, vulnerability and transparency is everything. Keep them coming. This is a power house💯❤️.

[@batsabilesimelane8679]

Brenden on forgiveness, so profound! You've just helped me out of a grudge I've held also similarly to a contractor that we had engaged. I'm free

[@LungileDimba]

Funny enough I'm doing a forgiveness meditation. It's only been a few days but yesterday someone stole my blanket from the washing line. 🙃 did I not want for God to "calmly" deal with them. I quickly came to the realization that a person who steals does so with the intention to Have, and so, to take from you. In their minds it's about them. So I stopped asking around for the blanket and I'm back focusing on my "forgiveness meditation". A lot of honesty is needed, considering I'm exactly how Mpoomy was like, I keep score and let everything out all at once. (I've been working on this habit for the past year) and everytime those traits show up I'm like 😬 OOPS. Anyways my chat is there's a reason why this video came out during my forgiveness meditation season. 🧘‍♂️ thank you for sharing this light.

[@missandy23]

So glad I only listening to this now, had a debate with my sister last night about our upbringing and how things still are, I've been looking for grace from my family as I've so freely given them, but I realize now I'll never receive it, I just need to embrace the situation for what it is. When you put others first you teach them that you are second, and they can never learn to put you first.

[@yonelandzoyi488]

Yoh when God was making Mpoomy he was making her for Brendon sana .🥺love you guys so much . Such a beautiful family ❤

[@lelethumatanda5923]

Brenden really is quite deep, such a wise guy...also 1000% agree with the in depth apologies. I really hate it when people apologize just for the sake of apologizing.

[@cebisilemabaso8445]

Joh I have never seen forgiveness as setting someone free. I have always seen it as setting myself free. But I do realised now that you can forgive and completely let things go but if you don't let the person know you have forgiven them and they are still held prison by what they have did to you because they don't know they have forgotten

[@zinziswagumede1317]

I always say no one wakes up in the morning planning to hurt you, that helps me extend grace and forgive.

[@anele_ntandoh_Msomi]

You guys are such good people honestly. The wisdom in this house is to much most of all I love how you guys look at things your perspective is out of this world. We love you.

[@lifewithtee7180]

i love how this podcast always grows me as a person. these conversations are rare to find but are most needed. thank you so much for offering this to us.

[@snamilengcobo4415]

I am not married but these conversations are really mind blowing enlightening. Loved it❤❤

[@sesethusofute1728]

I'm single, but I love their conversations.

[@biancatshambu3728]

Same here, yey nje kumnandi kuningi, i just love it here 😍😍😍❤

[@JesusambassadorswithBM]

forgiveness is a gift you give your soul , before you let the hurt free. The hurt can be the person who hurt you or something that hurt you.

[@saneliswamagagula9781]

“Disagree in isolation” is such a good principle.

[@ofentsewenalesego822]

Haha, "The Pastor Who Stole Our Money" sounds more like a title to a book filled with todays lessons. But anyway, there is really alot to work on myself. And I love how this challenges us to be Christians who actively make effort to better ourselves and our relationships with our society.

[@mashikoanemohuba9840]

Thank you for this podcast. As much as I am married for 25 years, there are still areas that you talked about here that I still struggle with. But I am glad that you said much that it made me do an inner search and work them out. We learn every day and wisdom is always appreciated all the time, especially when it is referenced from the Word of God: it builds healthy relationships and opens up honesty to self

[@lesh1986]

couples that watch this podcast together about marriage,really benefit a lot,they learn a lot especially men.Bredon has so much wisdom to making marriage blissfull,especially in an era of woman who are empwered,who has opinions,who can express themselves.some men,almost a lot get intimidated of such women.we can be superwomen but still submit and love our husbands,but some men has a tendency of diming wives light because they feel insecure.

[@Vulz18]

Uncle Brenden’s wisdom 🥺🙏🏾

[@moolamatters]

"Let the intension always be pure"❤

[@dudumalapane4880]

Yohhh the pastor story 😳 “ u never have to pay me back , you’re free” That’s really powerful. It takes a lot of wisdom and maturity to get to that level of reasoning. Shuuu I love that Brandon and will share with my family especially my kids

[@lesegoyv]

Only the people that knows you deep down will know how good of a human you are. I'm glad Brenden never misses the opportunity to let ua know when he can. The internet will try to convince us otherwise based on people's differences but as long as hubby is for you I'm happy.

[@hazelmafuya5996]

Brendens explanation of forgiveness 100% on point

[@mukonazwothemat7875]

Wow! So much wisdom. Forgiveness really goes a long way. It takes accountability, selflessness and also taking into consideration the bigger picture. I think this relates to what you said in the previous podcast that sometimes you think you're winning an argument but you're losing the battle , in this case you're losing yourself, because you're depriving yourself of joy and peace.

[@mbalikhumalo921]

My favs❤...u guys continue to inspire me in so many ways and I'm truly grateful for this platform that you've created for some of us to learn and be inspired. 😘

[@lulufierce01]

Brendon will drop a gem one after the other..i learn so much from you two. Thank you

[@Kelesitse.m]

These conversations are top notch. I love love love and podcast producer is doing very well. 🔥🔥🔥 My personality is so similar to Mpumi's.

[@premroseramaano1162]

🥺this is what I live for, conversations ❤️

[@CWMNation]

You two are so graceful, the part where you spoke of forgiving the Pastor...my heart smiled ❤

[@tatendanherudzo7190]

Brenden has soo much wisdom honestly. Talking about the pool and how you handled the whole situation has taught me a lot of acceptance in my life and how l need to let go and free of things! 😊

[@rachelramodibana9061]

You guys are heavenly sent, you touch on so many things that I think most couples struggle with. 🥰💞

[@brendenpraise_]

💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[@mirandamthimunye9727]

I love to see the growth, so much wisdom, God bless this union🤍🤍

[@sunflowerpalee]

"I just thank God for this good woman"....Mpoomy is a great woman indeed and your pure intention are seen by us...never doubt that because I know you can be too hard on yourself

[@xoliswamasuku4035]

Forgiveness is letting someone go -praise 🙌🙌🙌so much wisdom from above

[@Tiwas_room]

Profound truths, when she said if the cup can carry only two cups i will have to adjust my expectations to it💯👏

[@dieketsengmahlatsi18]

Brenden: "But have you heard the music though?..."😂😂😂 Your conversations are full of wisdom, thank you guys for putting in the work so that you can share with us from a healed space. I learned so much from this episode ❤❤

[@EverHopeful555]

I love the affirmations you gave each other on this episode!!

[@Allaboutthetruth7]

Don’t you just love “Our Love Journey” episodes? I always look forward to them because I get to do a lot of reflecting in my marriage, relationships and family. Ngiyafunda kakhulu ie forgiving even when an apology is not given

[@mogaleadimogale8777]

'...but we giving you your flowers 🤜🏾🤛🏾'...thanks Mpumi for emphasizing to Brenden that this was his moment. "Never deflect a compliment "~Unknown

[@ratom9814]

I loved ths conversation, I'm really learning a lot from you guys 💕💕💕may God continue to bless your union.

[@Kula2434]

This is by far my favorite episode ❤ I resonated so much with the conversation.

[@sthembilethanjekwayo_za]

The gratitude yal showed towards each other...ncaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwww!!!!!!! 😍🥰😍😍. Too nunus hey!!

[@boldforpurpose]

This was so vulnerable. Thanks for sharing. I love how you intentionally keep complimenting each other. It's so beautiful to watch.

[@boitumelomanale8466]

I really appreciate this.. as applied it across all my relationships friends or family. I've been struggling to get out of a victim outlook.. I guess I wudnt get the full picture or even be given a false picture.

[@yolandakonzaphi8112]

This conversation actually taught me a lot and I thank you for this the Our Love Journey Content

[@luphelelemavuso9882]

I can't watch it yet because I have to study ... but am definitely coming back here on my lunch break tomorrow... almost said before I sleep but hey I have to do my night devotion... so yeah I have a lunch date with the Mpoomy and Bredan tomorrow. Interesting topic ... thank you for dropping this one. I love you guys .... especially your content because I know it more than I know you🙂. Inkhosi inibusise🇸🇿

[@tinamaps1605]

Going back to the issue of the Pool Pastor. I think as much as we are forgiving ppl. Sometimes forgiving these ppl who keep on doing wrong to us , we are enabling them becoz they are going to keep on doing it to others. So if we are not hard on them, they won't learn that what they are doing is wrong. So there is nothing wrong with going back to ppl and make them take accountability of what they did. In my field of study we call it Reinforcement.

[@GracefulYvonne]

Ooooo😍😍😍😍😍😍 "We are flawed,its important to check the spirit in which some1 is doing something" loved this episode its always great hearing from you guys.

[@phemelomoila7283]

I really really love how you articulate..carry out your marriage, God bless you. ❤❤

[@senamilekhumalo1651]

You guys are a gift to us❤

[@signiiture]

That Forgiveness part neh powerful

[@esthertibane2728]

Thank you soo much for such lovely conversation and I think I need to set people free..kind of experienced same situation and I have been thinking what I would have done with that money 🤭🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@MissQomfortable]

That pastor story, wow guys. My respect for you has just gotten up a notch 🤗

[@zamabhelentangana]

We are so proud of Mrs. Mom 😍🔥

[@nomthandazoshongwe441]

This is home 🏡 ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ I love it here,Brenden your openess and the way you look at your wife it’s 🥹🥹🥹,my husband is so private and introvert I sometimes ask myself what his view or how do he perceive me and whenever we trying to have a meaningful conversation he never has nothing to say and the day he starts talking he speaks all negative things he sees yooooh it’s so overwhelming and wish I never asked a question just let him be quiet but at the same time I am worried about him that he is feeding himself so much bitterness when he is quiet and even the Bible says from the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks,what is he storing in his heart and it’s hard to relate because I on the other hand I like to have conversations that is fulfilling positive constructive and I like reading 📖,I sometimes wish he can read just one ☝🏽 book a year

[@michellepercival7450]

I really enjoy your conversations,the wisdom!🤯🤯Thank you guys for creating this platform ,we are learning a lot. Continue to be an inspiration and to allow God to use you and may God continue to bless your marriage ❤❤

[@likamva_mtshofeni]

hy Mpoomy, my lovely family. This is so nice and interesting, don`t wanna lie i am enjoyng it

[@naomimazila7568]

Such rules build strong marriages. Few people know that it’s the little free things such as showering together etc that grow marriages.

[@tinamaps1605]

The way ur husband describes you Mpumi... Very nice. Ur an Empath.

[@siyabongangubeni1185]

You guys have changed my life.... Thank you so much

[@simplynkule]

A lot of wisdom has been shared in this podcast. Loved it.

[@penelope4791]

Tjoooooo Brenden Is surely a well of Wisdom. I loved this .

[@thembekile7003]

I enjoyed this conversation so much. its full of wisdom. thank you for being so authentic

[@matumelomofokeng8079]

Beautiful conversation....I just love your transparency,we learning a lot

[@bukunolaoso9362]

I just thank God for this good woman

[@saneliswamagagula9781]

“But have you heard the music though?” is sending me😂😂😂

[@addiepromaq]

The conversations here are always 🔥🔥🔥

[@zariayong]

Hellurr there. I build cases too. I am a lawyer in this department 🤣🤣🤣. I love the let it go for that day. Will try that moving forward. Yo the knowing what's coming part Mpoomy thats me. I just need to know what to expect and I will work around

[@nonkanyisondlovu5069]

We are here 😍

[@serenasimpe4313]

You TWO are the BEST OF THE BEST. MORE GRACE ❤

[@yonelagamnca285]

Beautiful, insightful & valuable conversation.❤

[@tsholomabula3336]

Brenden your wisdom is on another level👌👌👌

[@zinhlejiyane12]

You guys are breath of fresh air

[@morongoamonko]

I'm with Mpoomy!! When the Will incident happened, I kept saying ''Those of us who have read his book understand why he did this''.

[@nontobekombatha7909]

You guys are doing the Lord's work👏🏻💯

[@MaGwalaS]

I like this one

[@nqobilemncube9123]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you guys

[@zandilengwenya5286]

Wow this is amazing

[@andiswakhanyile7351]

I think this episode one of my favourite 💯

[@thandokuhle5239]

I love these conversations so much ❤️

[@rhandzu88]

I learned so much from this conversation. Thanks guys

[@ntombik_]

Enjoyed this so much, as I do all your other videos. 🙂 Thank you. ❤️

[@key_Katuta]

Great staff awesome people...!!

[@yivegola7662]

This is helpful. I’ve learnt a lot… Thank you Fam❤

[@cathykarani]

Lovely episode. So relatable

[@kanyizee6874]

Thank you, guys, 🥰 This is the message I needed to hear today.

[@olubambonohesi3457]

Wow, I love you guys. nibandala😍🥰love is just beautiful😍😍❣💯

[@sinozukomagadla1898]

Ncaaaawwww 🤭 😍 ❤ what Brenden just said about Mpoomy!

[@ayandaduma1274]

As for “the naked? Ayi its getting late” 😂😂 insightful conversation guys! Keep it up

[@tisetsosheron7598]

Yessss notification gang😍🥳🥳🎊🎊🎊💃💃💃

[@sivemateyise448]

Don't we hold ourselves captive by not forgiving, is it not us that becomes free when we forgive? You did say Sir, that things began to open up for you when you forgave the moruti.

[@myriamcajuste1194]

Great episode