Mr. "Endure" Enjoys Hitting Women? Receipts Leaked... YIKES @Modern Life Dating

[@AbaNPreach]

They sent screen recordings of these group chat convos(to verify authenticity). There are way worse screenshots of his messages that weren't used. Tell us in the comments, are your group chats this wild?

[@ronswanson1410]

This doesn’t come close. They outed themselves…

[@simon_777]

And they get to give advice?

[@SalemArc]

Some of these "god-fearing" men be wildin'...

[@shreeshabhat9281]

My grp chats are wild but this is criminal lmao

[@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395]

You are just a hater

[@KrakensLifee]

So the guy who tells people to endure physical abuse enjoys hitting women…. *Imagine my shock.*

[@chenanigans]

And the unmitigated gall of him saying he's tired of traumatized women.....when *he's the one creating traumatized women* 🤦 But such is par for the course for a lot of these red pilled men

[@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395]

Woman like it 😊

[@Faeishly9]

@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 No we don't 😚

[@khadijahbegum3546]

​@@Faeishly9 i second that

[@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395]

@@Faeishly9 a lot do they told me 😊

[@fallendevonish1869]

A 38 year old un-married man feels qualified to tell people how to deal with abuse in a marriage.

[@dinahlizett]

Yeah, seems like this kind of people love to tell others how to live their lives, just like that pearly woman who has never been in a serious long-term relationship giving dating advise.

[@deeds7529]

Typical with these red pill losers

[@Nutsackjones]

Also goes and lives in Japan cause the child sex laws are so relaxed

[@s.e.cat0877]

I thought this MLD guy was married to a Japanese woman??? Maybe I'm wrong.

[@Mobius-ow7id]

MLD is another degenerate hypocrite like most of these so called red pill men who say they are men and women to be together. Just shows what opportunistic parasites they are who wouldn’t have the same energy for men who called them out on their nonsense and bring them to task.

[@williamking256]

"What if a woman is in a marriage and her husband beats her?" "ENDURE!" "What if a man is in a marriage and the wife cheats on him?" "DIVORCE!" You literally can't hire comedy writers to come up with shit as funny as red pill grifters do.

[@chefboiardeeznutz9881]

Its funny how one of the dudes said "divorce isnt a real thing" in relation to the ENDURING. But did a complete 180 when cheating by the woman got brought up lol like wtf

[@gengarphantom6967]

why the hell would you allow to become a cuck for your woman, she is sleeping with Chad and Tyrone and you will celebrate it? YOU WOULD MAKE A GREAT CUCK

[@reesejohnson2788]

Some of these guys are stoopid at best

[@nomad5544]

Actually I believe it was originally: Abuse? ENDURE Cheating? CRUCIFIXION

[@reesejohnson2788]

@@nomad5544 You’re right, that definitely is canon.

[@naturalmystic9]

Him : I avoid traumatised women also him: creates traumatised women smh

[@33233CJB]

Well of course they all have restraining orders on him

[@Klarpimier]

Only ~~naive~~ healthy women will ever Date him

[@Gary-And-His-Demons]

Was thinking the same thing. He doesn't want any pre-traumatized women, because he wants to do all the traumatizing himself! Sick bastard.

[@leahdynes_lighterdays]

right. Comparable to men saying they don't want a woman who's 'run through', meanwhile, having no problem with being one of the men she has slept with - therefore adding to her body count.

[@di3486]

He traumatizes women with his potato face lol

[@TreyDZd]

"I wanna deal with a normal, mentally stable, healthy woman so I can traumatize and fuck up her life myself" basically

[@aaronReptileE1995]

Someone already who has experienced trauma would see his red flags so he can't manipulate them or abuse them and tell them it's their fault

[@umiluv]

For real tho!

[@kittykat3778]

"impressionable" is the word you're looking for. Get em young and unexperienced so they can turn them into damaged goods and dispose of them if they don't follow suit.

[@aaronReptileE1995]

@@kittykat3778 yes thank you!

[@gengarphantom6967]

@@kittykat3778 less body bag too thou, you already slept around and you are damaged, i prefer a nice young fertile woman. Only old hags like you will have an issue with that.

[@myklo4269]

This proves that NOT everyone needs to be on a podcast giving their opinions. Homeboy's wilding.

[@RedLightz_TV]

To think that Whatever podcast trying to copy Fresh and Fit lol and when Myron brought on the R*pst, they decided to want to one up it

[@kurenwirsun2478]

I would agree but then again it's exposing these crazy ideas like "enduring" an abusive relationship.

[@JohnnyZenith]

Young christian men thinking they have all the wisdom in the world. They know little. Then they sit even younger girls on there too. What does 'Homeboy's wilding' mean? I'm English.

[@Miam_miam_la_gauffre]

It's a good way to spot fcked up people tho

[@KidKritterr]

Well, if they weren't on these podcasts, we would never know how horrible they truly are. Now, these guys are in the lime light and their true colors shown

[@ajtaylor8750]

Mans was really speaking from personal experience when he said "ENDURE." 🤡 🤡

[@etoileshine1011]

FOUL😭😭😭

[@goodkidm.a.a.dcitylistener4259]

He should also endure being an idiot.

[@manoftomorrow5987]

Hahaha.

[@toniiblack7014]

💀💀

[@jacobfromallstate4963]

"ENDURE... THIS GLASS BOTTLE TO THE HEAD"

[@nanamarie-gf1xv]

Having lost my mother to domestic abuse, this makes me sick to my stomach

[@akazicool87]

💔

[@cheesenugget9845]

These aren’t real men they’re weak. Worst of the worst

[@alinasanders6169]

😢

[@Emaan-r8r]

I'm so sorry

[@bobbanks6217]

He needs to get CANCELLED

[@candiigurl7893]

Abusers tell their victims to "endure" because the only thing they hate more than themselves is being alone.

[@80sprincess52]

Yup!

[@dazza761]

Yep. Hope this Mld guy crashes the toxic swamp that is the redpill. The redpill needs to change if it wants to help people. I can't believe I ever listened to people like this man.

[@anneg5720]

Correct his narcism needs a source to feed from. His type is why I dont easily trust men

[@32dramaqueen]

FACTS!!!

[@atropabelladonna3120]

Yes, exactly that! They hate being by themselves. Why? Because they hate themselves actually. Call it self loath, low self esteem, frustration, trauma, deep uncured hurt and anger, whatever... In order to be happy, when alone, you must first enjoy being by yourself and they don't. On top of that they use their partners as punching bags (literally in this case).

[@Thiago_Alves_Souza]

In my life's experience, anyone who bashes abusive victims while at the same time telling me they should endure, is a certified abuser, I don't even need receipts.

[@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395]

Words are not violence

[@SalemArc]

​@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 words only hold the power you give them. Unfortunately, a lot of people are willing and able to give those words all the strength needed to smite themselves.

[@pianoimpact7699]

@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 yeah but certain mindsets allow it, which his clearly did. Personally I wouldn’t assume he’s an abuser but based on his response I’d assume he is okay with either getting abused or abusing, guess we found out which one he is lol

[@ChillAssTurtle]

​@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 violence is physical. It's annoying how obnoxious you are.

[@Thiago_Alves_Souza]

​​@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395try threatening someone's life in front of a police officer. Tell that to a judge while he signs a protective order against you.

[@Khari99]

I was raised in a household with a lot of screaming. I split up with this one girl who was screaming at me at the top of her lungs one time and she couldn't understand why I'd leave over that. I had to explain to her that I had to learn a lot of mental barriers to not reflect the environment I grew up in and Im not going to ever let anyone take me there just because they feel like they can talk to me any type of way. Understanding your boundaries and not allowing anyone to cross them is very important in navigating relationships.

[@ruka939]

Very well said. I am happy for you, I hope your doing better now!

[@estellekostanza7874]

Same here. Grew up in environment like that, and I broke up with a man over his yelling. I told him that I don't tolerate screaming, and he didn't take me seriously, he thought "yeah, that's stg everyone says, nobody actually means it". And he wasn't even yelling at me, but I can't. I just can't.

[@annaphillips4288]

Truth!

[@motasch241]

bro you explained that so good...

[@islabee94]

Yes, well done for taking care of yourself! I do think its only fair to communicate hard lines and boundaries BEFOREHAND. You did the right thing though, I applaud you for that.

[@nikkiq5124]

I still can't believe they said abuse isn't worse for the children. Studies show that domestic abuse worsens once a woman is pregnant and has children. It is indeed worse for children than adultery.

[@stickman787]

If she's already in an abusive situation why get married and then have kids? Maybe she should leave and not drag her children through it?

[@kauswekazilimani3736]

​@@stickman787 People change. I've seen it. Everything alright for a year, then ge starts taking his frustration on his wife and kids. Why would a woman want to leave her kids with an asshole. For example if I am divorcing my wife for her being a junkie I'm nor leaving her with my kids.

[@stickman787]

@@kauswekazilimani3736 this type of abuse suddenly happening a year into the relationship is remarkably rare and chances are good they ignored all red flags going into the relationship and willingly chose abuse over a good man who would take care of them. Abuse out of nowhere is rare.

[@kauswekazilimani3736]

@@stickman787 Not as rare as you present it as. Something cab occur in someone's life that significantly change someone. Debt, loosing a job etc.

[@stickman787]

@@kauswekazilimani3736 yes it is rare. Abuse almost always presents itself in some form before the marriage. It's typically not on a dime. That is not common place.

[@1faithchick7]

Imagine my shock to find the guy who downplays assault and says women shouldn't leave an abusive marraige, assaults women himself. Truly one of the moments of all time.

[@MissSweetieShortie]

It's important to let everyone know cause people think words mean nothing but this guy has been criminally charged he's unhinged

[@kristianawilson9038]

@@MissSweetieShortie Exactly, he is extremely dangerous

[@chuckleshoneysuck1515]

@@kristianawilson9038 Dangerous to a woman like you maybe lmao, what's your bodycount?

[@chaotix7275]

Yeah... Its a moment.

[@sarahanna5222]

Somehow this doesn't surprise me. He was on the show once before and he immediately started calling one of the girls names. He doesn't seem like he has much self control or respect for women.

[@tin1602]

For anyone who may need to hear it, if the person you are dating puts their hands on you, you need to RUN, not walk, and get as far away from them as possible. It's not acceptable, not even once. Regardless of gender and all the other shit, no one should ever put their hands on you in anger, you don't deserve to be treated like that.

[@thegreatestever913]

🧢

[@NamelessKing1597]

@@thegreatestever913 You're a caveman. I bet you believe in talk shit get hit too.

[@tspencer661]

I agree. Men and women can be abused in relationships. They can also be abusive. I had a friend who was a social worker. My friend worked with a family where the woman was abusing her boyfriend. She killed him.

[@phaedra5283]

Nope, if a man threatens violence against you, even in jest, run.

[@averagejoeti]

Bs

[@daddytito917]

Wow this information is shocking to me I did not expect the pro domestic abuse man to be a domestic abuser, who would have thought?

[@joeyavila572]

😮😮😮😮

[@ChuckThree]

🤯🤯

[@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395]

It was at a club I know black people think that’s their home but it’s not domestic

[@dmat606]

​@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 really? you wanna argue that out of all the things?

[@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395]

@@dmat606 yeah but y’all pretending like he beat his wife dude smacked a hoe at a club like a PIMP G

[@ItsMeDarlaLee]

He doesn’t want a traumatized woman. He wants to be the one to traumatize her.

[@elongatedmanforever1252]

if he truly did that the justice System will punish him.

[@michaelturley3457]

Just a hunch, but I think maybe he’s so angry because what he really wants is an untraumatized man but he’s forcing himself to date women. Is no one else’s gay dar firing?

[@Visceralreality]

Anyone that says "endure" to an abused person loses all credibility. Physical violence in the home is far worse than a break up.

[@Solkard]

Given how dismissive most red pill people are at any mention of men commuting wrongs against women, I thought maybe he was relegating the scenario to one where a woman was lying about any physical contact being abuse, because that’s how they often think. But nope, he literally thinks it’s ok to overtly assault women.

[@likhwezititus]

​@@b_ased Shelters might be another🤷🏾‍♀️

[@philwill0123]

@@b_ased that is an abusers get out. Relying on the victim not having resources to leave. Thats horrible advice.

[@beefortebrea9386]

@@b_ased Enduring is literally never the only option. Women's shelters exist because EVERYONE knows women experience this type of abuse, and that it's very common.

[@chuusenberg519]

⁠@@b_ased u freak, “taking some abuse” ?stop trying to be funny in the replies. Minimising the gravity of the situation isn’t a good argument.

[@gadohimself]

I ENDURED my ex's emotional abuse and gaslighting for so many years that I actually thought it was weird and felt a bit scared when my new girlfriend treated me with respect and love. Don't endure anything. GTFO ASAP 😢

[@skrt_cobain95]

Felt that

[@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395]

Men can’t be abused by woman let’s keep it a frank ocean

[@jackburton8352]

I agree been with my partner 20+ years after leaving a mentally abusive one only now letting down the walls.

[@JohnnyZenith]

All power to you.

[@ironmaiden93ofangmar]

I'm glad you got out, and I'm glad your new girlfriend treats you with respect and love

[@emilierae36]

I know these men call themselves Christian, and as a Christian, we don’t claim this nonsense. There’s no love in the hearts of these men. If you’re being abused; run to help. Get out, whatever you need to do ❤️

[@MissMikato]

Completely agree, abuse goes against everything God has ordained for marriage. There are more verses in the Bible that talk about how the husband is to love their wife like Jesus loved the Church than there is about how a wife is to submit.

[@ChildrensRightsFirst947]

There are many men who are disrespectful or downright cruel to their Christian wives and the wives stay because churches teach it's a sin to divorce, even when he acts that way. Also that she must be submissive still. Even non-religious people have trouble leaving an abusive relationship. When religious doctrine is on the side of her staying with him, it's 100 times harder to leave. And children usually wind up involved. I've seen it firsthand in the churches I've been to, my family, and from the women at a shelter I stayed at.

[@naeco1602]

Their actions don't align to what they identify as.

[@chadmight]

@Illuminated by The Most High no it’s not ok ever 😒

[@mitchjames9350]

There grifters, the red pills are overall grifters.

[@natebardwell]

I have been married 11 years, and even at my absolute most angry and emotional I've never even considered the possibility of striking my partner as an actual option. There is no greater evidence of internal insecurity than this.

[@YThates]

He's severely insecure, he broke a glass on a woman's face for simply rejecting him. But she must "endure" his abuse while he can't endure his hurt ego.

[@pjm6496]

I agree, exactly 👍😎

[@triinpokk9198]

Men who hit their spouses arent insecure. Thats a myth. They are the other way around. Very secure of themselves, to the extremes. They are controlling and entitled. And they have no love in their heart for that person because love comes from respect and we dont hit ppl we respect.

[@YThates]

@@triinpokk9198 They're insecure. They have ego issues and feel threatened when rejected or confronted. They have no peace of mind or self. If you are secure of yourself, you don't need to be abusive to communicate.

[@TheTariqibnziyad]

​@@triinpokk9198 nah don't teach us about men, we know what kind of men will hit a weaker person, let alone his wife, the very insecure

[@WayraRose]

It kills me how he has hit women, but he doesn't want to deal with the trauma of a woman who was abused... Just wow. This dude is sick. He is a menace and abuser.

[@tankiebot704]

Plenty of context where hitting people is fine.

[@acutelilmint8035]

He should be at rested😊

[@acutelilmint8035]

@@tankiebot704 tells me u are an abuser. Only time u beat someone is if they put your life in danger like someone robbing you

[@tankiebot704]

@@acutelilmint8035 no its not, there are plenty of other contexts too. Crying abuse means nothing.

[@abbiereynolds8016]

​@@tankiebot704 What do you mean "pLenTy"🤪 There's literally only one instance where it's justifiable, and that's self defence. Get out of here with your "plenty"🙄

[@KingNaMean]

He doesn't want a traumatized woman because he wants to be the one to traumatize them

[@nickb6425]

It's funny cause that statement itself, is understandable... but if you're part of the problem, like dude.

[@crazymadstriker766]

The guy deserves to get jumped

[@sgnibble1]

Thank you! I practically said the same 👍

[@monas]

I'm absolutely certain that guy is on the DL. I've always been suspicious of him. All the other guys say the same crap but they seem straight. But something is off about that guy

[@WhiteSage2]

​@@monasTrue or his still in the closet so his angry about it

[@Netherwolf6100]

Regardless of your gender, if someone places their hands on you to hurt you; *LEAVE!* End of the Goddamn Story. As a child who grew up on that environment, Fuck every single last person who tells people to "endure" physical violence and abuse.

[@champsammy13]

I also grew up in such an environment. My mom taught me that if I even think about putting my hands on someone then it's time to leave that relationship.

[@JL-ow5hp]

Right, like people are forgetting basic manners.

[@unknownname8591]

Well first involve the cops, then leave. Gotta deal with that abuser the proper way!

[@lightskinprivilege]

I hate they think a person should “endure” something like that because you have two parents in a home and that’s better than having a single parent. smh.

[@Erinb8185]

​@dayo it's your life, your call, but I agree with Aba. Never hit someone- even if you are a small woman with a big guy. To me that shows that you can't control your behavior. Huge red flag.

[@lindaneggaz8877]

I love how they all talk about relationships while they aren’t married and they don’t invite people who’s married over 10 years

[@japanties5324]

As someone who watched my mother go through abuse by my father my entire childhood until when it finally ended when I was 14 years old... I don't think anyone should endure that shit. I don't give a fuck if people say they should stay and endure it for religious reasons or any other excuse. No one should have to endure pain like that. Especially from someone you thought loved you and cared for you.

[@bellatrixlestrangeone1651]

Preach just made me realize something deep and redefine my definition of which lines should never be crossed. For me, hitting or getting hit was the line. Now I realize even the screaming and name-calling should also not be okay. I've always had partners who would say shit and I'd excuse it and say they're just angry. But I'd never do that myself. Never gonna take that again. Never thought about it like that. Thank you so much.

[@chrischris7003]

👏 👏 👏 👏 Good for you!

[@minarhassan]

​@@CEWIII9873 what? Everyone has a choice to not use a degrading language especially not on their partner. One Couldn't go in a different room or take a walk to cool off and thought name calling was the best way to go? C'mon man! I hope you were being sarcastic because that's a crazy mentality. There's no excuse for such kind of behaviour and let's not encourage it by giving excuses.

[@janemel0]

Yep, that's verbal abuse. A slippery slope. I had an ex who was very emotionally abusive and manipulative, would stalk me, threaten to kill me, even choked me, but prided himself on the fact that "he never hit me" 🙄 It was a gradual increase of intensity over years and I've vowed to never put up with that type of behaviour again

[@janemel0]

​@@CEWIII9873What a fucked comment. You clearly have no idea about boundaries and self-control.

[@ll2323]

Yes! I’ve been telling my parent for years this!

[@animalkingdom867]

Physical abuse in any form ,be it marriage,friendship or any situation is unacceptable

[@daemok4752]

only physical abuse ? more like any freakin form of abuse is unacceptable. If it reached physical abuse then it was wrong way before that point. and to be clear, the whole "but he didn't get hurt" is just as bad as the "just endure"

[@RobinXlone]

any kind of abuse nigga. even drug abuse should not be tolerated stop tryna save ppl let em suffer alone

[@insantic2197]

@Illuminated by The Most High Stop undermining physical abuse.

[@MENACE-km6bd]

​@Illuminated by The Most High Right! A man should be able to smack his wife in the face for talking back, just like he would his son.

[@rubickr]

Physical abuse is the language of cowards. If you have the urge to physically inflict damage on someone, you can go into the ring and legally take it out with someone same size

[@kassia6087]

My mother endured a physically abusive relationship until the man pulled a gun on her. She left and made me promise to leave anyone that hit me, even if it was just once. Thank you guys for doing the research and calling this out. It’s very nice to see men of integrity on this platform. Please keep up the good work.

[@neonnwave1]

I'm willing to bet the only reason 'Mr. Endure' moved to Japan is because he knew the women there wouldn't speak up about him abusing them. The reason is because in Japan, people tend to keep things to themselves because they don't want to be a burden to others. Worse is that if someone is a victim of a crime, chances are their own family will give them shit because it 'looks bad' upon them. So basically I'm theorizing he knew his victims wouldn't fight back and he could get away with anything. A monstrous coward.

[@emilierae36]

THIS! I live in Japan. These people are so private and so kind, I can imagine it’s embarrassing and very difficult to come forward

[@jennalud4748]

Coward!

[@JL-tn1kv]

i'll beat his ass since i'm in tokyo

[@kladies3021]

Do you think he's a passport bro.🫣

[@jennalud4748]

@@kladies3021 yep

[@retrozip]

He reminds me of bullies in school. The type who would pick on and punch you, but when you retaliate he acts like the victim

[@momelendez9691]

Facts

[@Freetimeofyuni]

"No no teacher, we just played funny game with each others. It's a joke 😇" 🙈

[@FallenMerick]

We call that a "Cry Bully".

[@inyarays]

As a woman, It’s refreshing to see men speak up against other men who abuse women. For years I thought all men abused women to some degree until I became an adult and interacted with the world. Thanks you guys for speaking up❤

[@massojupiter3436]

You say refreshing like it isn't a cultural thing to not hit women.

[@ItsThicc]

😂🤣

[@slipshot3948]

You say "refreshing" as if it doesn't happen often. Then you say "for years I thought." So hare you having this revelation right now? Otherwise, why would it be "refreshing" to hear? You just sound like a man hater who held/holds irrational/illogical views.

[@TheGreySage0]

Wtf are talking about men always do that,it's time women start speaking against women who abuse men,so far if you are a man and you are being abused any women who say anything against are tarnished with same brush look at JD. Despite overwhelming evidence to show she abused him ,anyone especially women who says she abused him is a misogynist.

[@andreabenton7798]

I’ve seen situations of when a man is abused by a woman. And both women and men defended the victim. To say no one talks about it is not true, you’ve just been in areas where people don’t talk about it. The only dumbasses who defend abuse are the people who make light of it, which goes both ways again.

[@ASZSephiroth]

Toxic behavior needs to be called out. Nothing can stay hidden.

[@kandakemichelle]

At 20. It was my ex-husband one time and we divorced. That was all I needed to know. Our son was two and he graduates this year. 🎉 He did not grow up in a house of violence. ✨ I would rather face the shame of divorce than stick around and find out.

[@bigcockedman714]

i wonder who started it..

[@emerginggorilla]

No shame in keeping yourself and your son in a healthy household. Take pride in having the balls to make that tough choice. You certainly have more than some coward whod punch their partner.

[@juntoringo]

No shame that I can see, except your ex’s for lifting a hand.

[@dustinairola4301]

@@bigcockedman714 “Who finished it?” is the more important question.

[@A.girl.]

@@bigcockedman714 "big cocked man" pfffft yeah right, you don't even have balls talking like a child smh

[@melikamsdi5978]

My mother endured my dad beating her to death constantly infront of my face. There was blood everywhere. He would sometimes beat me too. As a result, I'm always afraid to make boundaries for other people and Its really hard for me to stand up for myself whenever I should, as if I'm scared to make things go escalated. So there you go folks. Don't even endure it for your children. It will make them traumatised and it will be so hard for them to socialise like a normal person.

[@thezu9250]

I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you are in a safe place now. If you can afford it, I hope you got some good quality therapy. Things like EMDR can really help as this type of trauma makes your body hypervigilant. So you not only have a psychological reaction but a physical reaction. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@alexavasquez1992]

Same. I was constantly assaulted by my aunt and mom as a kid. They used to punish me for not giving my uncle back massages and not letting my uncle sit me on his lap. It's taken me until just now in my 30s to learn how to stand up for myself enough that I finally have friends who care about me. And I had to pull through to this point hard for the sake of setting a good example for my kids. I have had cancer an an autoimmune disease come out of nowhere too, which there is now a lot of research bringing attention to the fact that these diseases have a strong correlation to childhood trauma

[@grace.stewartt4224]

I’m so sorry 💔

[@notme1255]

What he really means by women "without previous relationship trauma" is really that he wants a naive chick who won't recognize his red flags and will take his bottles and fists without really knowing how wrong that is.

[@blueberrypancakes7330]

Facts.

[@5050TM]

BINGOOOO

[@misha-lo9nx]

he wants women without previous relationship trauma but...traumatized a woman in the club by smashing a bottle in her face for rejecting him 😶 he is the trauma!

[@ogulcandursun1665]

of course mate traumatized people are usually defensive so you cant easily let anything slide with them let alone hitting lol.

[@rebeccahowe5607]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@yahussain1272]

Physical abuse is worse for kids, they witness their parent getting beat by the other parent it takes a toll on their mental health and of course the victim themselves suffer both physically and mentally. My cousins saw their mom get beat up every day by their dad, now my cousins live with trauma…and my aunt now has ptsd.

[@med1827]

Aba with the receipts is like a breath of fresh air... Keep exposing these sort of people👍

[@thegamingkitchen8429]

Dude literally became a red pill 💊

[@jameshill8493]

It’s crazy how dudes are just leaking whole group chats

[@sandlotkrew8778]

@@jameshill8493 Goes to show you some of these dudes don't subscribe to the sh*t their red pill leaders are preaching... Why else expose it ?!

[@BusinessSkrub]

​@@jameshill8493 don't say dumb stuff if you don't want people to find out. The age of the internet is too unpredictable and too soft, somebody's gonna say something. Don't write nothin down you don't want people to see

[@GFTCNJ]

@@BusinessSkrub Asking men not to behave like women is too much, I agree.

[@RASTA-BABY]

There is absolutely no reason to hit your spouse. Physical abuse and adultry are both good reasons to walk away from a toxic relationship.

[@T..C..M]

“Physical abuse and adultry are both good” wow, what a quote!

[@summerrose8110]

​@@T..C..M That's not what that person meant.

[@kylelaforest9919]

@@summerrose8110it’s what he said

[@purgatorysan9381]

@@kylelaforest9919not what he said

[@kylelaforest9919]

@@purgatorysan9381 who gives af I still hit women anyway

[@dealphawolf]

"I think once is too many" 100% agreed. And the reason is simple: If they're willing to hit you once, they're willing to hit you again. Especially because if you stay after being hit once, they're gonna think they can get away with it and do it again. If they do it once, they can do it again.

[@baileybayyy]

I was literally saying the same thing “once is too many”!! Normal people would all say the same! If your partner abuses you in any way both physically or mentally, that person is no longer standing with you on your side.

[@thegreatestever913]

🤨, I don't think u know how people are 😂. I'm not saying punch someone every time they piss u off but people deserve getting hit sometimes

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

Fully disagree tbh My dad slapped my mom one time in my life but she had it coming 100%. She said something to him in public that was extremely foul and over the line. Something designed to hurt and humiliate him publicly and something a loving spouse, who had his trust, should never say. I felt 0 pity for my mom, and I wanted to slap her myself, she got off relatively easy in my opinion. If it was anybody besides my mom saying it to him they would have caught an ass kicking. So no, there are reasons to hit a woman, hit a person, and I witnessed it with my own eyes and ears. Nothing is absolute

[@baileybayyy]

@@Captain_Insano_nomercy you do realize that why there’s a saying that goes “a man should never lay their hands on a woman” right? I know it might sound like crazy to you because you think whatever your mom did was justifiable. But a man has the maybe 10x if not more strength than any woman can handle that’s why there is that saying… a man who can’t control their anger and lash out anger with action towards the person over words is dangerous and needs a lot of self therapy and healing to learn to control emotions.

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

@@baileybayyy respectfully no, you didn't hear what my mom said, you don't know the setting, or the reason she said it. You're looking at this like a woman, not like a person. I would have slapped anybody saying that to my father; be it man, woman, or child. Disrespect is disrespect and betrayal is betrayal. He gave her one slap, not a three piece combo and a head kick. Not ground and pound. He was controlled, he could have done far worse to her and chose not to, I wouldn't have blamed him for giving her 3 slaps tbh. Also, saying men are stronger than women is like saying water is wet. Obviously

[@kittikat_]

That guy doesn’t want a woman who has trauma because he wants to do all the traumatizing! 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@xshesyourqorqeousxx3]

it's so interesting hearing that men think that domestic violence is" rare" or an 'extreme example", beating someone is an extreme thing to do, but it's not that raw in occurrence, it actually happens more than people think.

[@alexisdogbo7958]

I guess some people are just delusional.

[@deistormmods]

Well they're not actually wrong, domestic violence is still rare. In divorces, it's not a common that DV is a for a divorce. He was wrong about enduring though. If you are getting physically abused, leave.

[@bobthebuilderhecanbuildit]

this isnt men’s opinions, this is a few stupid men’s opinions. its not super rare or common either

[@JohnDoe-vw4zf]

@Dei 1 in 10 is not rare for abuse in relationships 1 in 4 divorces happen because of abuse *how is that rare?*

[@superfarful]

Yeah it's so rare that he has done it himself

[@MeHoyMinoy-cv3ps]

Physical abuse is the worst thing a relationship can have and it is the worst thing a child can see.

[@ethannicosia979]

Honestly it and the adultery were probably equally as confusing and bad to see.

[@MeHoyMinoy-cv3ps]

@@ethannicosia979 both bad, i really don’t think they’re equally on par with one another though.

[@ethannicosia979]

@@MeHoyMinoy-cv3ps I suppose it depends on the degree of both. It all spirals together and leads to more and more.

[@music0cool]

@@ethannicosia979 Uh...no. Just no. Lmao.

[@ethannicosia979]

@@music0cool when the adultery is brought into your house with lots of drugs, yeah it fucks your brain up on par. You don't know my childhood experience. It's not a fucking contest.

[@carrethenry6237]

Saying "every relationship has conflict" as a justification for abuse is like saying "everybody lies" as a justification for being dishonest. Just because it's inevitable doesn't mean it isn't wrong and certainly doesn't mean it should be escalated to extremes

[@quesadilla9957]

Honestly it’s comparable to saying “everyone lies” meaning “perjury is okay” 😂

[@ElysV135]

Abuse is a crime in most countries, so let's just apply same logic on all crimes...I mean, let's just say to murder victims they just should have endured 🤷

[@Justanothercog24]

Whenever someone says "everyone does it", it's just a huge red flag of personal admission. Those types just use their projections to minimize & normalize their own behavior in their head instead of holding themselves accountable.

[@redwall1521]

in this day, when "abuse" can mean anything from emotional to physical, and not just your typical yelling or hitting, but when stuff like asking your partner to do the dishes counts as abuse in both forms because "I don't feel like it" and "it makes my skin wrinkly", then yeah, I take everything anyone says with a grain of salt. A pretty big collection of grains.

[@quesadilla9957]

@@redwall1521 I don’t know what kind of people you’re surrounded by that would label washing dishes as abusive, but nonetheless I don’t see how that factors into physically assaulting your wife. 🤦‍♂️

[@Maanyaaz]

That guy trying to gaslight the shit out of people who watched and heard him say to endure physical abuse is so scary as af. I am not surprised that he hits women.

[@nimfall]

Woman are beaten from centuries nothing new

[@AncientOne222]

If my spouse punches a wall during a disagreement with me I am leaving that relationship because that is a precursor to them punching me. DO NOT ignore the signs of a spouse who cannot emotionally regulate.

[@johnsnow9307]

lmao your degree and vast life experience tell you this with utmost certainty?

[@aramdojong114]

my partner of 5 years punched a wall and kicked things during an argument, but he calmed down and apologised after. We talked about it being a problem and that it's not something that I would tolerate ever again, especially once we're married with kids. I think it might be something to do with his autism that he needs to physically let his rage out to things, but he hasn't done it again so far.. We're also considering couple counselling (once we've saved up enough money) so that we could argue in a healthier way and not let it escalate to that level again. Bottom line is, I'm not saying that you should be completely ok if your partner punches a wall in a disagreement, but I personally think it's not a lost cause if they do

[@yasminogbu8929]

Walk away! That’s a huge red flag

[@adaezenjoku7527]

@@johnsnow9307 certainty is not the point. It’s high likely hood, it signs that tell you to watch out. Too many women go through domestic abuse, so being cautious is not an issue

[@AncientOne222]

@@aramdojong114 I work with people with all forms of disability, violence of any sort is unacceptable, you are gaslighting yourself by using his autism as an excuse, then your self by saying you all need couples therapy. Are you punching walls and tearing up stuff? If not walk away. As women we have a problem with living in fantasy land when it comes to men instead of seeing them for who they are we see them as who we want them to be “if only we could fix him” “ if only we give it time” “ if only we go to counseling” If your relationship requires counseling it’s not a relationship either of you should be in. FYI all abusers apologize and give some sob story to reel you in emotionally, he is testing your tolerance level.

[@ericatheempress6698]

Domestic violence is not rare like those guys try to make it seem. I feel like we can all name a man or woman that's been physically abused. Both my parents are guilty of doing it too each other, I'm glad they divorced

[@GLoLChibs]

Hell we house male DV victims. We're always full and helping guys and their kids when we're full, and that's in a very rural area.

[@thirstaefortae5057]

If you need a division focused on DV, then it’s definitely not rare… what’s scary is that often these abusers are often righteous and religious

[@kauswekazilimani3736]

​@@thirstaefortae5057 It's insane. Some people know about the love the person has for them; and the familial and economic ties make it very hard for them to hold them accountable. Beat the people they love but wouldn't do shit to a stranger.

[@twistede3454]

I know many women who've been abused by men. I know one man as well, also by men. It's not rare.

[@vibez2806]

​@@thirstaefortae5057I mean religious people make up most of the population, ofc most dv abusers will be religious

[@idjilju2835]

It baffles me how folks not even in a long-term relationship or married feel the need to act as relationship coaches.

[@ChelleSimon]

I say that all of the time. I just don’t get it. As someone who was in a 5 year relationship, went thru the single party girl life and now I’m in an almost 10 year relationship with 3 years of that married these people all sound like fools to me. Their expectations of relationships are so far off.

[@elusivemayfly7534]

Lol, that’s a great point. I’ve been married 10 years and am sure I know nothing compared to my parents, who have been married 50 years. I’ve noticed the people who know the most about something-anything-are often more humble and slower to speak because they understand the complexities of the topic

[@MilahanPhilosophersCorner]

Agreed.

[@cindys6775]

I've been married 30 years, we've never had a fight. We've had disagreements and little arguments but never have we hit each other. That's no way to live!!

[@ladyvanda]

4:46 A guy tried to pick me up in a bar a few years back and I told him I wasn’t interested and when I left he followed me and smashed his full glass of beer on the back of my head. I’d never met this guy before, didn’t even know his name. That shit’s wild. These types of men need to learn to control their emotions, srsly.

[@meh3766]

This is quite the tame response. I hope you were there with friends, and I hope they broke some of his bones.

[@leehalloway8787]

I hope that you were able to press charges on his ass.

[@skullzies785]

i hope that douche nugget got charged.

[@ladyvanda]

@@leehalloway8787 @meh Thank you, seriously. I was alone (I wasn’t even in the bar I was just walking home from work on the sidewalk). The dude on the patio started talking to me and I made the mistake of stopping. He set up a whole plan about a romantic date and I said no thank you and left. He smashed the glass on me (and soaked me in beer) by the time I was walking on a dark street, 1/2 block from my apartment. I got injured but could handle it, I was covered in beer, but seriously at that time all I wanted to do was go home. I’m not bringing this up to complain or to imply that this is normal behavior for men. Unfortunately, I think there’s a tiny minority of men who act this way, ruining flirting for everyone - especially for the vast majority of men who are decent. It would have been nice to get this man to stop his unhinged behavior, but I had zero evidence other than a head injury and a soaked dress. So I just didn’t look back, went home, and got to the first aid kit. I think there’s probably 0.1% of dudes who are unhinged this way - it’s just enough to poison the well for everyone else…

[@coralreef4338]

I've been in my relationship with my boyfriend since I was 16, now going on 7 years. I'm 23 . Not once have me or him taken a swing at each other or have physically ASSAULTED (YES IT IS ASSAULT) each other in any way, shape or form... Normalizing staying in abusive relationships sounds like something an abuser would say....

[@TheTGOAC]

"23" LMFAO

[@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397]

When I was a child, my mom punched my dad and when the police came after she called them, they arrested him. He got out after a few months. He was being held with ho evidence at all. The same exact thing could never happen to a woman. People talk a lot about men abusing women but not the other way around. I don't know if MLD meant to say what he said, but definitely do not stay in an abusive relationship, more so if you're a man in a heterosexual relationship because she has the entire society government on her side by default.

[@coralreef4338]

​@@TheTGOAC indeed , 23..lmfao??? I guess 23 is funny, you know what's funnier..... 24 XD rofl (yes , I'm being sarcastic ) 🤌

[@coralreef4338]

​@@loveisthemostpowerfulforce1397 I completely agree and am sorry for what happened to your father but the argument has nothing to do with men being accused of abuse. They're argument is if you are in a relationship that is abusive, there is substantial reason in of itself to divorce that person. Abuse is never a response to any problem. Period . Once again I'm sorry that injustice happened to your father. Abuse should happen to no one or any creature of any existence. Stay strong out there ❤

[@MENACE-km6bd]

​@Illuminated by The Most High Exactly! Americans are weak! Men need to smack their wives and wives need to smack their children. Especially after a hard day of work! Blow off the steam with a good whooping. The world would be a lot happier if we opened family fight clubs.

[@captivated388]

Preach makes such a good point. We need to learn how to argue/disagree better. Screaming and name-calling and degrading is a place no couple should be or allow themselves to be; let alone getting physical. A healthy relationship has disagreements but a healthy relationship doesn’t have a place for degrading words and behavior, even during an argument.

[@dashinhayes]

One thing that works for me if I'm having a disagreement with a partner or somebody close to me, I bring my energy down speak deliberately and give eye contact, lol if your still snapping after that we just don't click nd never gonn get nowhere

[@Cuunke]

It’s actually Peaches now

[@ne0nmancer]

I just deny sex for a month

[@alqhhi-zen6534]

Preach’s story at the end of the video and the message really spoke to me. As someone who’s parents have had a turbulent marriage that ended in divorce, I really need the wisdom to take a pause when I’m worked up, before I say something I might regret. And this can be applied not just with a partner, but with anyone. Thank you, Aba and Preach!

[@Ichifate]

How many women have "endured" and died because of creeps like him? Too many. This the type of guy that got women saying it's "all men".

[@ArgentAnarchy]

I was raised Baptist and rural. I used to deeply believe in endure and commit forever. But after living and enduring too much from far too many while trying to endure. I must admit you are all right. Don't ever endure as a man or a woman don't ever endure. Don't even wait for violence if they just refuse to match the respect you give them, leave immediately it's not just your life being damaged being to committed. You endure too long even once and it will almost guaranteed destroy your trust in all people for the rest of your life. Don't tolerate being abused physically, mentally, or emotionally for anyone no matter how much good you see in them no matter how much you care. If they are treating you as lesser they will never regret it, let them go. They will not ever stop you will be told you must like being treated as less than you deserve. Never endure.

[@off6848]

One should endure at all levels of life.Many areas of life are abusive and oppressive not just relationships, school, work, health. Always endure or wither and die

[@missp498]

Yes emotionally stable people who have no traumatic experiences do this, the first sign of problems they are out because they are not afraid of being alone and know they can find someone better. This should be the advice don't accept terrible behaviour from bullies. EVER!

[@Luca-pz2pv]

What you said about being rural and baptist reminds me of something I read once. It's a woman recounting her story of abuse. Basically she went to her church's pastor and told her that her boyfriend was beating her. The pastor basically told her that they need to get married. Once they get married they will have allowed God into their relationship and God will fix it. She took the pastor's advice and the beatings didn't stop. If anything they just got worse. She went back to the pastor and he basically told her you have to wait. God sometimes takes his time but God fixes everything. So she waited for 3 years and decided she wasn't going to endure anymore because he beat her so badly that she almost saw God. Forgot to add this part but The lady later learned that the pastor himself was hitting his wife and kids

[@oag2167]

"Endure forever" is not Biblical. It's sad people are buying into that notion because of fake Christians on a podcast. Lots of people need to start actually reading the Bible instead of substituting with "alpha" men who beat women because they're afraid of men.

[@valhalla6991]

@Aba N Preach Please pin this comment ☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻

[@LynnnnnnnnnN]

As someone who grew up seeing my mother physically abused I can tell you, divorce would've been better for her and us 3 kids. It sealed my fate. I swore to never get married or have kids that a man could abuse and I never did. When I was old enough I had my tubes tied to make sure

[@Strafuzz]

You could of married a kind and gentle man though 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@cryse_rox]

@@Strafuzz I’m sure you’re one of the good guys 🥱

[@Strafuzz]

@@cryse_rox nah not putting myself in that bracket. You tired? Or just jaded?

[@elisejackson2854]

@@Strafuzz some men start out nice so it’s understandable to be wary.

[@nadamustafa512]

​​@@Strafuzz what a loser you are

[@reshadegaming6285]

Something is seriously wrong with men's content online. Makes me feel like I've been in a bubble when it comes to my daily interactions with guys. If online is indicative of real life at all, I really feel for the women out there who encounter these guys.

[@HolyHusky]

Not all the red pill content is bad, majority of it is very helpful and insightful. But when it gets taken over by clowns like this, it starts to get a bad rep.

[@reshadegaming6285]

@@HolyHusky Not all for sure but IMO because of how social media algorithms work, the worst content becomes the most popular. This stuff sets all men's content back. Can't even mention men's self improvement nowadays without people thinking of this.

[@samwallaceart288]

I work with a lot of guys; some older with wife and kids, some younger guys; and NONE of them talk like the red pill guys. The vast majority of people don't even need to _think_ about this shit, they just naturally know that people should respect each other. I see a ideology podcaster and all I see is someone who's too immature and antagonistic to hold a day job.

[@gh0rochi363]

Online isn't indicative of real life. That's why I like this channel because they are more like how people are in real life. The stuff you see on line redpill, liberal woke stuff etc is not a thing in the real world and many young people who don't live online don't even know all this stuff is going on.

[@pragashgnana597]

I'm a Christian who grew up in a violent toxic family and my mind is all messed up now at the age of 29. Please don't stay in that relationship for the sake of your kids, personally I wish my parents got divorce but whatever

[@allyrah5145]

Agree with you 100%

[@JojoJojo-tr7hd]

I'm sorry man, I feel you. I grew up in a Christian household (my parents have different denominations) and it often hurts me when such a thing or cycle happens like my Parents hitting each other or being yelled at for not being good at grades. It led me to suicidal thoughts and the redpill shit like this just made it worse. So are my fake "friends" at school. At least I'm taking steps to recover, the whole thing led me to question if I have victim mentality or if I'm being unheard or can't tell the difference between taking responsibility or being the one to be blamed.

[@nicolaus_xo]

It is one thing to have the intention of wanting to better men with good advice to lead them in the right direction, but NEVER should you take advice from a man who will tell you a woman to endure abuse. Absolutely sickening.

[@GLoLChibs]

This is why I shake my head when I hear other men say they want submissive women and demand respect. What exactly did you do to warrant respect from each and every person? Money and a business doesn't automatically make you a respectable person. Are you actually deserving of submission? Responsible with it? Fair? Compassionate? While the good guys do outnumber the bad, its always the shit men I wouldn't want anywhere near my sister always going on about wanting submissive women.

[@maam-yj8ph]

Exactly. If you have to announce yourself as a nice, respectable, trustworthy person, that's proof of your inability to organically command the respect you seek.

[@kimberlyporter9555]

When you said, are they deserving? Are they responsible, fair, compassionate I knew you'll make a woman very happy one day. You get it and these old ass Christian 'alpha' males will always be unhappy in their relationships. Nevermind that alpha/beta dynamics only exists when certain animals are imprisoned and forced to engage. In the real world you run for safety or avoid that person entirely because nothing makes you want to stay. Alphas are always chasing after people and conflicts when the rest of us sigmas want nothing to do with them. They're the neediest of the needy. They have to bully or pay people for time and attention.

[@theworstcatholic7247]

While that on one hand is true, that just means that chicks shouldn't then decide to be with the men who aren't deserving of respect either. Don't get with a man if you aren't willing to trust him in that way. Like men who get with girls whose got a BC in the double digits. No crap the relationship was likely going to end in failure. Don't trust those you shouldn't. Doesn't mean that respect and submission from your chick isn't necessary for a healthy relationship. Don't date the unrespectable, if you chose to date them, you should be capable of respecting them. There's accountability for both parties there.

[@jessieca48]

⁠@@theworstcatholic7247 you forget to mention that people who are “not respectable” don’t present themselves in that way initially. people can and do misrepresent themselves on purpose, and especially in the beginning of relationships.

[@pjm6496]

Steven Crowder comes to mind. That video of him berating his wife was bizarre, demanding she be submissive. Seriously 😒

[@guilloryanastasia2463]

Someone should report him to his local authorities and get him arrested. Too many Japanese women don't report things out of fear for looking bad for them and really that's how men get away with this.

[@brigittecourson]

These passport dudes go over to Asia so they can beat up the women and sexually exploit them more easily than western women.

[@lovejunkie490]

Apperently, it's already to the court

[@music0cool]

The cops prob dont care. Violence against women and a general misogynistic mindset/culture is pretty rampant in many Asian countries- Japan, Korea, China. I mean god, remember when China threw infants away just for being female a few years back? And people say we dont need feminism anymore. Makes me sick.

[@Rachel-ju5vt]

I "endured" it for a long time for the sake of my daughter. I thought that if I changed everything I possibly could about me, the abuse would stop. I wouldn't "deserve" it anymore. I thought I was the problem for a long time. In the end, my daughter and I (while pregnant with baby #2) were kicked out of our home...locks changed.

[@carmensandiego4270]

I’m sorry 🙏🏼❤️

[@peterssister421]

I'm so sorry you had to live through that. Sending love and light ❤️

[@airfixx_8952]

Bless you and your kids...... As tough as it no doubt is to bounce back; I hope you can all find solace in the fact that you're all better off out of there.

[@sweettea3879]

I've read many comments of people sharing their story of witnessing domestic violence between their parents as a child. Between the abused and abuser, it was always the one who "endured" they harbored the deepest lack of respect and resentment. This whole "endure" mentality is disturbing bc abuser is the one who wins favor.

[@Jojo-pv3uf]

So it stopped because he kicked you out? 🤦🏾‍♀️ you should be embarrassed to share this story.

[@gimmieyogrits]

No one should "endure" abuse in a relationship, thats a wild take.

[@darbyohara]

Then a large majority of men should leave the relationship cuz a large portion of women are abusive. Abuse isn’t just physical

[@purplepeach11]

@@darbyohara THEN FUCKING LEAVE. No one is telling you morons to stay.

[@michal31131]

​@@darbyohara None should stay in a relationship the don't feel safe in, preferably finding this out before marriage and kids.

[@darbyohara]

@@michal31131 no shit. Especially before kids.

[@xxshanxx4290]

@@darbyohara obviously this applies to men too. no one deserves to be a victim of abuse regardless of gender

[@classycassi20]

As someone who has been in an abusive relationship, I could tell the second he said to endure it, that he hits his women

[@Justanothercog24]

Same! Once you've seen the red flags in action, they become full-blown neon signs you can spot from a mile away. It reminds me of the Johnny Depp case. As soon as the news broke about Heards allegations, all I saw was the makings of an abuser's smear campaign. You can't unsee it once you know the signs.

[@BigMacLawson]

yep

[@aveclasse17]

sorry you went through that

[@orshabaal8990]

Preach is so real for talking about how he sets boundaries from the get go because he knows things can escalate and it's not just "some monsters" who can find themselves in that type of situation.

[@justmecoconuts8427]

Im an advocate for working things out and second chances but i could never in good conscience tell some body to "endure" a physically abusive relationship. At most i say "separate", "mental health" and "counseling".

[@Frawljob]

Exactly. This guy is such a clown I’m glad people are calling him out.

[@CEWIII9873]

Well I had to "endure" this comment

[@rendezvous777]

I've been married for four years. We don't argue, yell, or insult each other about any topic. We definitely don't get physical. If my wife started doing any of that, I'd leave.

[@chrislong8559]

Bro it's natural to argue or discuss. It's actually unnatural to do the opposite. How are you going to know where the other person is coming from unless you have a lil bit of arguing? Two people that shut down because their afraid to argue is not healthy. One or both of you are suppressing your views or viewpoint on a subject because your afraid of the others reaction.

[@rendezvous777]

@@chrislong8559 it's not unnatural to not argue. Arguments are typically defined by a heated or angry exchange. You should control your emotions and have a civilized conversation about your issues.

[@ericapaquette9624]

​@@rendezvous777 i think that person ment "disagree". Which is true. It's normal to disagree/argue your "view point" HOWEVER to what degree is the question such as belittling and physically attacking shouldn't be acceptable.

[@chrislong8559]

@Erica Paquette ding ding ding.....what do we have for her Johnny lol(if you've heard that soundbite). Exactly 💯 everything you said. Like I was saying I've known couples who do that and it's always one walking on eggshells because they were afraid to disagree. I'm talking about regular arguing, nothing bad or really heated.

[@damedusa5107]

You are in a very unusual relationship, seems you found the one. Most even good relationships, people argue. So I suppose it’s a good thing that you have.

[@TheRadicalUnknown3]

I swear, Aba and Preach are the only creators I know of that actually have independant intergrity. These guys will last because their takes are their own, not because their takes coincide with a particular movement.

[@deistormmods]

I can't agree. Aba did snake FnF.

[@chefboiardeeznutz9881]

​@@deistormmods snake ?

[@deistormmods]

@@chefboiardeeznutz9881 Yeah, I have my issues with Myron. But it's not cool to go to someone's house you were invited to, squash the beef, act like everything is cool, and then make a hit piece days later. That's just low.

[@cdo...49283]

​@@deistormmods FnF are disgusting mysognistic pieces of s***. Why would meeting them mean you can't call them out?

[@GFTCNJ]

@@deistormmods It’s cowardly and fake.

[@lisaroy2144]

I'm not active on social media, so I didn't know who this person was, but I just realized that I know Mr Endure! I matched with him on a dating app, and he asked me for my number so we could have a phone call, but I told him, "You can call me on the dating app". He was preparing his new apartment to have a set at home and asked me to come to check it out. I wondered if he was trying to make it in the entertainment industry, and he said he was famous somewhere. Then, he said offensive things that gave me a deeper look into his head, but I can't remember precisely what prompted an answer from me, like, "Hun, I think you're looking for a girl with daddy issues, and I'm not it", and he went ballistic! He called me names and started calling me crazy, and I hung up on him and blocked him. Watching your video, I was like, I know this guy, and once you showed the leaked chat, my heart sunk to my feet. Damn, I really dodged a bullet.

[@Ruby66-ez4xh]

Are you in Japan ?

[@yoskiullyterd9910]

😮

[@matthewharrell3598]

My first long term relationship started when I (m) was 17 and she was 21. After about a year we had a seemingly normal argument that was escalating to a place I thought was dangerous. So I decided I was going to put some distance between us and when I grabbed my keys she wigged out and started shoving me and trying to block the door. Eventually everything calmed down and we went back to normal. I should’ve known then that was a huge red flag. Within the next year a similar argument happened and when I tried to leave this time I was met at the door with a kitchen knife to my throat. I had to grab both her arms and throw her to the side to get away. After I left and calmed down I felt like I had been in the wrong for grabbing and pushing her aside because Im a man and had about 100 lbs on her. I felt guilty and ultimately ended things because I felt guilty and thought I needed to fix some things with myself. That stuff messed me up for a while. It definitely always escalates!

[@sweettea3879]

My goodness- that could've went even worse with that kitchen knife! Did she face any legal consequences?

[@renaakatsuki9960]

​@@sweettea3879Don't feel guilty. A knife is a knife no matter how small or weak the person is. You saved your life. That's what matters. Stay safe brother.

[@seignee]

holy shit. im so sorry you even thought for a SECOND that you were the party in the wrong here. even if you are physically stronger and you do have a responsibility to discern when to wield that power, that does not give the woman any fucking right to pull that shit on you dude. hopefully you found someone who respects you. i am so glad you got away from that person. dear god. what a crazy bitch.

[@lolazal1]

Red flag number one was you being only 17, when she was 21.

[@jice7074]

Yep, I had a gf start hitting me and I grabbed her arms and moved her away from the door and left, but I left marks on her arm. She called the police and when they came to my apartment I explained how it went down and they told me they had previous problems with her physically fighting BF's. I never talked to her again. Nowadays I'd probably end up in jail.

[@manoftomorrow5987]

I'll never stand for that abusive shit. My mom left my abusive dad when I was 4 and i NEVER once in my life blamed her me growing up fatherless or expected her to "endure". From a young age I hated that man...and will always do.

[@nsbdbsbsbdbzbz8555]

You understand your mom could have just lied right?

[@hotlinewav]

@@nsbdbsbsbdbzbz8555 just because your mom lied to you about how much she loved you and that youre such a handsome boy doesnt mean everyone's mom lie to them 🤣 top tier projection

[@nsbdbsbsbdbzbz8555]

@@hotlinewav i said it COULD HAVE HAPPEND, its very usual. Clown

[@nicktanner8231]

@@hotlinewav Amber Heard never existed, believe all women. My friends sister said she remembers you and that time you touched her inappropriately. Be expecting a call from the state shortly 🙂

[@abbiereynolds8016]

​@@nsbdbsbsbdbzbz8555 You understand that his mom could have been telling the truth, right?🤪

[@sanaxluv8036]

There was a movie that came out in 2020 in india called "thappad" which means slap in hindi. The story was about a woman who was resolved to divorce her husband because her husband hit her once and everyone around her including her own parents, her in laws, the husband, even the lawyers was trying to persuade her to not do it, saying it's just a slap. There comes a very poignant scene where the woman says " Just a slap magar nahi maar sakta" which means just a slap but he can't do that. Then she later explains how just one slap can foreshadow years of violence, control, silencing. A*u*e is a*u*e doesn't matter if it lasts for 1 second or 1 year, every victim should have the right to speak and we as a society should make sure that we facilitate such an environment where all the victims feel free to speak up.

[@uurone_]

@@CEWIII9873 that's dangerously a problem

[@rcflem]

Big talk from the boomer with no caps, no punctuation, comma-splicing like a sixth-grader. Go back to school, indeed. ​@@CEWIII9873

[@Mrs.SimonifYouNasty]

@CEWIII9873 I'm just asking, but do you agree with endure? Do you also feel like women should be quiet about abuse?

[@spiceyblueroyalhoney1225]

@@CEWIII9873 Oh wow. Not only are you advocating for abuse, you're racist too. You say you had school yet you're so uneducated that you think every culture is beneath western culture and can't tell the difference between them. You assume the person talking to you is an Arab with no evidence because they disagree with your nonsense.If you assumed he was an Arab because he replied under a comment about an Indian movie, then you don't know the difference between an Arab and an Indian. So much for the education you aquired.

[@punnypuns5103]

He thinks he is a high value man. While he might see himself as a 'high value' man, true value is measured by how you treat others. Abusing women doesn't elevate your worth; it only highlights your lack of respect and empathy. True strength lies in kindness and respect, not in belittling or mistreating others.

[@King_Of_Games]

9:43 There was a girl I dated, and that I adored I guess for a joke or comedic relief in front of her friends. She slapped me. After her friends left, I looked her directly in the eyes and told her “ don’t ever slap me again I don’t put my hands on you.” I never really got over it, and I just broke up with her. I no longer could respect her as my partner If somebody slaps you or hits you, it’s an immediate red flag and just get out that shit will escalate or you’ll lose respect for yourself or them if it doesn’t escalate

[@humblecrabd6981]

good on you. someone who is comfortable putting down their partner to entertain others is no respectable person. good riddance, hope you found someone far better

[@nannoreul]

Next time do it immediately and, yes, infront of her friends, because you shouldn’t let it slide in public. It communicated that it’s partially acceptable and you’ll maintain the facade. Don’t even give them that.

[@immigrant3221]

Thats a beta male reaction, she humilated you in front of everyone, and you sucked it like a weak @@$ male, wooow

[@King_Of_Games]

@@nannoreul i’m a guy I don’t know if you’re a girl or guy but talking about any topic in front of a group of people makes people think they’re invited to talk on peoples behalf or they might want to include themselves in the way I say something then go argue that I don’t have to be rude or I don’t have to be upset or it’s not that serious so on and so forth talking in private addresses, the real situation versus a theater show Especially a guy talking to a girl about this somebody will be quick to defend the girl Which makes for more pointless conversations. The goal is not to embarrass her just to make a point.

[@grace.stewartt4224]

💯💯

[@qesther1241]

There is never just 1 incident. It will only get worse if the person stays in that relationship.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 13 years. We were both young and inexperienced when we got together, so I thought he'd grow out of it with age and maturity. He did not. Instead, it only changed form to become more insidious. He also started listening to redpill content and bringing the ideology into his behavior and our relationship. I went down that particular rabbit hole to see what it was all about and realized it would never get better. So I left one day while he was at work because I was genuinely afraid of how he'd react if I broke up with him to his face since he had anger issues and was already physically violent a few times over the years. Best decision ever. I've since found a real man who treats me with love, care and respect.

[@AngryHandstands]

Thanks for talkin about the way conflict escalates, Preach. Sometimes it has felt lonely to think there are lines that shouldn't be crossed, even before physical violence. My family grew up in such a way that made it seem like physical violence was the only line. Felt like normal conflict to be yelling and insulting. It's a real, real bad precedent to set for a kid. When it comes to any conflict in any relationship, even friendships, you need to know how to navigate struggles without accruing unnecessary damages.

[@silverpkgmoney]

For all these people who are in toxic and abusive relationships need to walk away and not run and get away from that toxic & abusive person and also get a restraining order against them if they come near you and thank you guys for bringing this topic up and everybody let’s get Aba & Preach to 2Million subscribers bro and then to 3Million subscribers bro

[@UnknownFlowz]

I KNEW IT, theres just NO WAY someone who says that type of shit, doesn't partake in those same activities 💀💀

[@bigrichie6766]

That mf was INSTANTLY hated too, at some point during the livestream someone literally donated like $1000 to have him stfu💀

[@trev6664]

MLD getting clowned by the whole of the internet within the span of a couple days after not but 2 public appereances on these cringe RP podcasts is truly a gift.

[@cckmanofsteel2393]

RP meaning "role playing" as good people

[@deistormmods]

@@cckmanofsteel2393 Genuine question, what's wrong with the RP? Do you have issue with certain individuals who speak on it, or the descriptions of the redpill itself?

[@adamtwarowski1053]

Its like Mel is cursing him with her mere presence lmao he cant help but say stupid shit around her

[@slowboy89]

@@deistormmods Why not both?

[@trev6664]

@@deistormmods The ideology is just about as cringe and damaging to female/male relationships as modern feminism. As a former redpiller I can confirm that its mostly cope for hurt men and leads them to create more hurt women. Modern feminism does the same to women. And the "pick me" female redpillers are just as disingenuine and untrustworthy as the male feminists.

[@WhatAWonderfulWorld808]

You know, I was only 6 when I witnessed my father about to murder my mother. I'm glad my uncle was there to stop it. I'm more so glad that she didn't "EnDuRe" the abuse.

[@adlaiblack0]

These Red Pill dudes are falling one by one.

[@Kgfhff]

Theyre a massive joke

[@tony_5156]

Redpillers being super sus? I’m not surprised

[@nickb6425]

Someone who was like "she gets hit? Stay! I get cheated on? Leave!" Being abusive? Not surprised at all

[@deistormmods]

I don't get this point. Even Destiny, a "bluepiller" had accusations of SA from women. Being sus is not a redpill thing.

[@stephencox8723]

Aba was the first to point this out but this is the mirror image of the feminist movement.

[@josephjames335]

@@deistormmods True but if I had to bet I’d put my money on the guys who wake up every day to bash women on the internet are way more likely to be abusive

[@10colej]

@@josephjames335 bashing women? They bring them on the show by their own choice they choose to be there they are not forced and he doesnt bash them, simply they have discussions about the dating climate and differences between men and women and sometimes it comes off as “bashing” if theres a disagreement or it hurts the womens feelings or if it sounds blunt. People dont want to accept reality but a lot of the shit they say on their podcast is true. They dont bring women on to bash them they might tell a promiscuous hoe her behavior wont land her the guy she wants but is that stating facts or is that bashing? Yea go back to virtue signaling pls

[@intric4te]

i had nightmares for years as a child after me and my mom left our abusive father. the first memory of my life is of seeing him trying to kill her. the logical conclusion of abuse is death, and physical abuse eventually escalates to that point. not surprised to see the dude talking about the way he wants to murder women in such graphic, gory detail. reminds me of an ex who used to taunt me w violence, everything from beheadings to the gouging of the eyes. he, too, thought abuse should be "endured" due to the sanctity of marriage.

[@solutionsforabrightfuture3579]

Remember we as men do not see you as damaged goods. I see a woman who is less likely to take a kind and caring man for granted.

[@Justanothercog24]

Yep. Ppl want to use the excuse of "divorce negatively impacts children"... growing up in a violent household does way more damage than divorce. It can subconciously set a person up for a lifetime of horrible relationships in that they either become the perpetrator, the victim or even both. Once abuse starts, the home is already broken.

[@Justanothercog24]

@@solutionsforabrightfuture3579 here's the thing though... when a man looks at a single mother, he doesn't see or even consider the WHY. He only sees HIS own assumptions of her. He only sees the labels. I don't know how many times I've had to hear that I'm "used up trash" for having to do this alone. Or hear how "men don't want baggage" & "you picked wrong". No idea as to how much time I spent on blaming myself & sorting my own baggage so I could leave it in the past. Only to have it repeatedly thrown in my face in the now by men. They have no idea that I'm a single mother because his father slowly lost his mind over the course of yrs & left me NO choice but to protect our own kid from his father. & his father? Lol he gets all the room in the world to play the "victim card". "Women are evil", "the courts are one-sided"... nevermind the fact that he openly admitted in court that he threatened our son's life AND actually tried to justify it like it was a normal Tuesday activity. My looks don't matter. My skills don't matter. My body count doesn't matter. My personality & values don't matter. Men only see "used up trash" & there's absolutely NOTHING I can do about it.

[@solutionsforabrightfuture3579]

@@Justanothercog24 sad to say far to many bitter men look at single mothers that way. For myself I have genetic issues I don't want passed on. A single mother is a perfect match for me. Be careful but don't give up on finding a good stepfather for your kid or kids. You are not damaged goods.

[@Animeow08]

@@solutionsforabrightfuture3579 well a lot of women are at fault too cause once the relationship gets sour, all of a sudden it’s “her” kids even tho the guy has been a step father to the children. They don’t care if the man has formed a fatherly bond with the kids.

[@RaihannaJallow]

Yasss Preach, the name-calling, the screaming and stuff is how it all starts...

[@leriava]

When I saw that first video with Melina on the whatever podcast I thought "on the example of abuse, these guys see themselves in the position of abusers and so they think the victim should 'endure'. When the example changes to cheating, they see themselves as the victims so they think divorce (or worse) is suddenly acceptable." They don't have consistent or empathetic views because they wanna protect themselves only in either situation.

[@marfookydodo]

Undead Chronic did a whole expose on MLD, John is an absolute creep. He filmed little girls at Disneyland and has a history of beating women. What a man to learn how to be a man from!

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

"He filmed little girls at Disneyland" I had already gotten that vibe from the dude. When you look at those kinds of people, there's just something off about them that you can't put words to. They look a certain way. Greasy and slimeball came to mind before he even opened his yap.

[@benjaminjane93]

Jesus Christ I remember just this week commenting something like "It's only a matter of time before we find out something about these guys" Feels good to be right.

[@thebrander2238]

Aba, you are absolutely correct about the screaming and name calling! That's how the whole shit escallates to hitting! If you and your woman can't discuss things in a civil, respectful manner, you shouldn't be together!

[@aida_4247]

That was preach

[@Leslie_Knope]

Physical abuse is as bad, if not worse, than cheating in terms of divorce to me. LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. Don't stay and think it was just one time, don't take that chance. Too many women are dead now because they stayed. Don't ever let him hit you twice. Once is too many times.

[@GingeRenee]

Exactly. I stayed with a mentally ill man for 14 years, I had two sons with him. He tried killing me drunk one night and also hurt our 3 year old in the attack. I should have left after the first time but they desensitize you and you end up thinking it’s just a normal relationship with issues. It almost cost me my life and I’m lucky to be alive today because he almost succeeded that night but by the grace of God I got away before he finished the job. It was horrifying. I’m now happily married to a wonderful man who never disrespects me like my ex did. My ex ended up offing himself a year after I left with the kids. I had gotten full custody of the kids and a restraining order against him for us and had moved hundreds of miles away from him to keep me and my boys safe. He was very unwell mentally and I always had a feeling he was capable of killing me and the kids and offing himself. Thankfully he was only able to end himself when he finally went full mental breakdown. Sad he couldn’t of gotten help but thankfully everyday for my new life for me and my chidlren. No one should ever endure physical, mental or emotional abuse.

[@philwill0123]

Its worse. Someone cheats on you, you have the option of leaving. Your partner beats you, its to deliberately trap you in the relationship

[@KP-us5pq]

I can’t imagine telling anyone to endure any kind of abuse. Man or woman your life can be endangered if you stay in something like that!

[@MusMasi]

the stress alone could kill you or the deep depression.

[@Naistov]

That is terrible. I remember when I pushed my bf away from me once and that was enough to make me feel like total shit. It goes both ways. Men and women, please keep your hands to yourselves. Learn to verbalize your issues and work things through. Learn the best way to overcome hardships with your partner and communicate that🙏🏼

[@based-ys9um]

Abuser

[@dareshiro]

Agreed with preach completely. Made me rethink about how I have faced arguments growing up too and has me reevaluating who I need to be. My parents are abusive in both senses and before they got physical, there were definatly other boundaries that were crossed to get there. As an adult now I show em that I have boundaries and will act on em. That if you value our relationship even a bit, shits gotta change cuz imma leave your ass even if it hurts

[@bosoxno201]

Been married to the love of my life for 18 years now. We met at 17 (she was a foreign exchange student from Germany) and have now been together for longer than we were ever apart. I really can't understand how anyone with any love for another could put them through shit like this. Physical, psychological abuse is abuse and should never be normalized to the degree that MLD (I'm guessing it's an acronym for "Major League Dipshit") attempted. If backpedaling were an olympic event, He'd top the podium. @ 10:07 Preach is absolutely right to support your stance despite you not being married, Aba. I don't need to be an oncologist to understand that cancer is a pox to our planet

[@bravingbrivatebrian]

Guys like this aren't capable of love because they hate themselves so deeply

[@totallynotdsl8507]

Honestly, the last few minutes of Preach preaching 🥁 is the best relationship advice I've heard from the internet since the video "a tale of two brains" and that's a four hour+ video of trying to understand your partner, this is what good parenting looks like, love you guys❤❤❤

[@thinlizzy9032]

Amazing how this guy says he doesn't want a "traumatized woman" in his life but a woman has to "endure" a mentally unstable man abusing her... somebody please humble this man

[@y0shimoshi]

This is insane. I honestly believe we are so desensitized to this type of shit. That no one will be taking this seriously. How is this guy even allowed in this platform? Right now I'm trying to think of ways to shield my son from this platform cuz this is getting insane. So many "men" preaching this type of shit. And the more controversial, the more views they get. Wow .... 💔

[@thistles]

When there’s a void, grifters fill it. Find good male role models for him, and he will be able to recognize the garbage.

[@0doublezero0]

And in the real world they will be telling your son to "endure" when a woman smacks him. The only place that addresses abuse of men is this platform... Ironic...

[@y0shimoshi]

@0doublezero0 I hear you, that's what society has been teaching us for a long time. And that's not something I want my son to go through. I've always taught him to defend himself regardless of their gender. Women can be abusers too.

[@liquidgod5606]

You can only shield a kid for so long, so you're better off introducing him to the inevitable bullsh*t he/she will be able to find online and help them understand and differentiate between weak and foolish acts

[@thefelicits]

Solid gold take, thank you. Guys who say women should endure abuse want to foster a culture of tolerance for violence against women. And I think even punching a wall is intimidating and abusive. I'm with the guy on the left - don't let it escalate, don't even yell at or insult someone you love. Maybe it's hard for some people to control their emotions but there's no excuse for crossing the line of physical violence

[@justv7370]

This guy is a PRIME example that not all men age like wine ☠️

[@crazymadstriker766]

Yea but he was never wine in the first place💀

[@justv7370]

@@crazymadstriker766 lol facts 💯

[@JohnSmith-vr8wk]

Leave wine around long enough it turns to vinegar

[@justv7370]

@@JohnSmith-vr8wk 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Im deaad

[@justv7370]

@@linguafiles_ Im legit crying to these comments y'all are funny as hell🤣🤣🤣

[@laignermassey3631]

He doesn't want damaged women when he's the type to cause the damage... smh.

[@WhiskeyTang0]

I told my girlfriend the other day that even if your in martial arts, your chances of combating a man are very slim. She agreed and mentioned that why abusive women go straight for the mind and are rarely physical. It was a good conversation, and when seeing this we concluded that nobody should ever have to be in that situation. Telling someone in a abusive relationship to “endure” is the same as telling a heroin addict to “keep shooting”. It’s pointless and leads to chaos. I hope that man develops common sense before he makes us look worse.

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

My mom was very emotionally and mentally abusive in my youth, and she said something to my dad once, publicly, that was positively foul. She intended to hurt and humiliate him and he slapped her across the face. One time that's it. I never saw him do it besides that one time but honestly my mom had it coming. She intended to publicly humiliate him and I didn't feel bad for her. That's why to this day I'll never condemn a man for hitting a woman until I know the reason why. My dad was the one who took the criticism and he was treated like a villain, but I don't think he was in the wrong

[@MusMasi]

Statistically though many women are abusive physically as well, for those who live in countries and cultures where its currently viewed as a crime or disgusting behavior to ever lay your hands on a woman even in self defense they will use that to their advantage. Towards men, their children or in the cases of same sex other women as well. I am not saying men are saints either far from it. A lot of the more serious injuries and even deaths occur when men get physically violent in comparison, but any level of violence usually takes a mental toll.

[@sonderson6363]

@@Captain_Insano_nomercy say you’re abusive without telling me you’re abusive

[@Captain_Insano_nomercy]

@@sonderson6363 tell me you're biased without saying you're biased. When it's two people you love, you have to be honest, you can't default. My mother did something wrong first because she wanted to provoke my father, she got what she wanted and deserved tbh. Doesn't mean I hate her, or that she's a bad person, but she was in the wrong

[@weaveandwelfaretookblackme]

​@@Captain_Insano_nomercy I mean women still are no match for men physically but here you go oh wow I'm a victim males are victims it's always the woman's fault😂😂 You should have chose better how about that choose better loser