Marriage Be Hard Podcast | Chance & Tabitha Brown

[@RO-je1hp]

Chance is a man of few words, but he be spittin gems.

[@kerrissedai6857]

I can see what she saw in him.

[@tricialewin6972]

For real for real 🙌🏾

[@poshway7904]

Oh...Kay! Straight up facts 💯 👏🏾👏🏾

[@fshepherd8149]

You took the words right out of my mouth!

[@ChefNico]

Facts!

[@WilliamsTanisha]

The way Chance just want to be with Tab...❤️

[@tinyking11]

YES. 🙌🏽😍 That’s the type of love I want.

[@Shae_3]

She told the story of the early days and she use to ask him about marriage and it didn’t happen and she stated she got to a point she didn’t care about asking him about it anymore she “just wanted to be with him.” 🥰Your comment made me think of that. Them just wanting to be with each other is pure and beautiful

[@melodyreyneofficial]

I love that !

[@zirconiaalleyne2089]

Chance's perspective on quarantine was hilarious 🤣 "You need a break? Let me go stand in the front yard!" 😂

[@heistruth2865]

😂🤣

[@willyblu2]

Right?!! Yes Chance!!!

[@loveshine04]

I was the same way hahaha

[@alldopethings]

I love to hear Chance speak. He only speaks when he has something to say.

[@nicolejames3054]

A lesson to be studied 💯

[@heistruth2865]

@@nicolejames3054 I was just about to say something similar to that...I want to be more like that...

[@Shae_3]

He been a police officer for probably about 15-20 years. He definitely learned skills that studies people.

[@katwalk2663]

So important

[@theunyet.curatedlife]

He’s very much like my father stern in the face , a man of few words but gives the best advice and shares great words of wisdom.

[@queennyla1]

I’m OBSESSED with how still and intentional Tab gets when Chance is speaking. WOW!

[@Journey2sanctification]

A man who is lead by God, who prays for and leads his family to Christ will most definitely have a woman in a daze. It is so beautiful to see it! I agree with you!!!!

[@shnnajones6201]

I love it. I respect her for that so much ❤

[@Iamtamika1]

I love this about them. I believe she’s learned this from Chance because he expects her full undivided attention and so she gives it back in return ❤

[@JussMeko]

Yaassss it’s the respect that she is able to have for him❤️

[@bangieb9499]

Rigghhhtttttt!!! #RESPECT #KING/QUEEN

[@wendycampbell1949]

Chance and Tab are a perfect balance. He supported his family as a police, she then supported her husband to help bring his vision to life. Chance is about to blow up also. His vision is needed for our boys.

[@Shae_3]

At that just beautiful and wholesome 🥰😍

[@princessbc9791]

I think Chance gets nervous when Tab comes in the room because she always says, "My husband can do anything and he can be anybody he wants to be." She is so uplifting to him that he doesn't want to let her down...IMO. That is very sweet.

[@Shae_3]

Awwww that is so sweet🥰

[@thenitty-grittyhosea4875]

What Chance said is so important because if the marriage is not in tack than the house the kids and everything else suffers! Kudos Chance

[@candicescott8214]

My mama has always told me don’t do things in a relationship that you aren’t willing to maintain!

[@mspayne32]

As a woman that desires to be married and loves love this was EVERYTHING!! I just love watching black people that are positive and not full of drama talk so candidly about their marriage journey. Thank you so much for this!

[@asheyashhhh]

😅😅

[@etrinaatterberry5801]

The comment that Chance made about longevity being the marker for a successful marriage, but not liking the way the longevity looked in the marriages he was witnessing was a "LOUD DOUBLE CLAP and SPEAK THE THING" for me...

[@bonnietaylor7303]

Chance doesn't speak often but when he does, you need to listen. I enjoy their balance. Tab is a breath of fresh air.

[@theultimatefoodie2666]

Not Choyce causing issues over fixin the plate. 😂 It be your own kids!!!

[@thekaerichtexas]

I used to do that to my mama too, she always made my stepdad plate, I hate it, I was the same way as choyce

[@SunsFlowerCreations]

That was hilarious😂😂😂

[@Iamtamika1]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@lynnpearson4933]

I really hate that it took me 7 months to watch this. This was EVERYTHING! So many gems to pull from here. Come August, I’ll be married 26 years and I can testify 🗣MARRIAGE BE HARD!!!!!!

[@melissawarfield]

My husband (late, died January 9, 2006) and I had a marriage made in heaven. We only had one argument. After that we talked out problems. We're married for 19 years. He died from brain cancer. I miss my one and only. Great video 😊!!

[@sjg5994]

God bless that!

[@vannielouis]

That was over 15 years ago

[@kgreer1127]

Idk why listening to y’all talk about marriage make me feel at peace that me and my husband are not as bad as I thought. Reminded me to be still, pray and always communicate

[@chicenalee4459]

I JUST watched a Love Hour episode of them as I do every few months. NO WORK will be done tomorrow until this is over. I MEAN THAT!!!

[@Love_intentionally_]

I second this! It’s Fri-Yaaaay anyway. I didn’t clock in to work. 😂

[@chicenalee4459]

@@Love_intentionally_ Listen...I am sitting here refreshing every few seconds like we don't have an entire 15 minutes to go. They might come on early and I don't wanna be caught in work related activity and miss ANYTHING

[@everythingalyb]

Same and same! 😂

[@Chin715]

​@@chicenalee4459 Is that a live?

[@aliciacheekphd]

I’m an OG fan of Kevin. I remember the first video with Melissa when they did the story of how they met and people were dogging her in the comments saying she didn’t look like she wanted to be there. Lol she probably didn’t 🤣🤣

[@annesther726]

I know! It's so interesting to go back to Kev's 2013 videos and see how Melissa has just blossomed! 🌸

[@makreviews2146]

Yeah it’s so amazing to see her growth. I went back and saw one of those early videos and she was very uncomfortable on camera. Several of those Love Hour videos early on were audio only with a picture of them. I don’t think she really ever wanted to be on camera but with time and experience she’s a pro now. 💪🏾

[@QueenMLA28]

@@makreviews2146 this is my 1st time seeing their videos, and I'm like she's really good. She must have grown a lot, because she's a pro to me!

[@rrober23]

That doggone Tab and Chance know they be teaching and reaching the people! I must’ve hit rewind so many times 😂 amazing as always Kev and Lis…love this platform

[@laugh_til_ithurts]

The fact that they kept Kev’s blooper in the beginning 😂😂😂😂😂 Marriage Be Hard and so does Podcasting lol love y’all!

[@latoyacouncil1001]

I love everything about this episode. From Chances openness, to the way Tab looks at him while he speaks. Beautiful example of honest loving marriages ❤

[@michaelbickjr]

Kev be forgetting all those times he teased Tahir for his mess ups! Now he is reaping what he's sowed! 😂😂

[@MsJae-md3ep]

Exactly!!! 😂

[@hopemcdowell6738]

Listen yall!!!! As a single person, listening to discourse like this helps me in preparation to be the wife I want to be. I want to thank both couples for your candor and example. So many nuggets in this interview from both couples! Thanks again for this!

[@rakystalewis9431]

MY EXACT SAME FEELINGS🙌🏾❣️ THE PREPARING🙌🏾

[@seriouslyshirley]

Yes, they are a great couple to learn from. I love them.

[@heistruth2865]

Wow Chance..."You can't always live with me, but you can always rely on me. But I'm not a bail out." I LOVE the wisdom, the perfect combination of truth & grace!

[@MoCo1007]

David A. Arnold clarified that "it ain't for the weak" relates to anything that is worth doing. HIs marriage/family was worth doing x 10000000000.

[@ashleeedwardshale8091]

🕊

[@Heyy_Sirii]

I enjoyed quarantine too. My husband and sons being home all of the time was bliss.

[@thekaerichtexas]

I support everything tab does and has going on!!! She's a class act

[@cjlc06]

Just had this conversation with my daughter at Walmart, she's in college and was shocked I didn't pay for her laundry detergent, etc. Lil girl slide your debit card into the card reader and let's go! Lol!!!

[@Stayspiritual8]

I'm hollering 🤣🤣🤣 Gone ahead and slide your debit card into the card reader 🤣

[@theprofitpenthouse]

I’m on year 11 married and 19 together!! Marriage definitely “be hard”! It’s literally a decision to do life with a person unconditionally!

[@Khadijah_time]

“Unconditionally”? 🤔 I’m on my 27th year and marriage definitely be hard. But it’s a daily choice for us both. I know for sure there are conditions for me to continually make that decision though. Just to name a few, respect, loyalty, emotional intelligence/availability, maturity, and commitment. Nothing in my life has been unconditional except for the love I have in my heart for the children I bore from my uterus. I completely understand that all marriages are absolutely not the same, but I don’t understand having no conditions on maintaining it in general.

[@theprofitpenthouse]

You are absolutely right. Maybe unconditional was not the correct term because there are definitely conditions. I mean…deciding to love someone in spite of their imperfections and when it’s hard to.

[@Khadijah_time]

@@theprofitpenthouse Thanks for the reply. I understand and completely agree.

[@Evita425]

Let me get me a Chance. His personality is everything

[@anniehall1919]

Chance and Tabitha the most real and genuine couple on the face of the earth. I love how they don’t try to impress people. Just being who they are is very impressing!❤️

[@mrsbrownsugarsweetz]

I love Fridays with Tab and chance. It should be a talk show. When my son was a kid he was sweet, then he became a meanager, then he graduated and I cried because I didn’t want my baby to leave, Covid hit and he came back hm, but what I learned through all of it is to always cast my cares on the Lord. God cares about the things I care about and He knows I’m not strong enough to handle something happening to my child. So I gave both of my kids to God and left them there. There are no hands safer than His. Now they go and come as they plz. Stay for days or weeks away from hm and I just pray, keep them covered, cover whoever they are with or wherever they are and let go and let God.

[@amandahenderson1278]

Baby!! This interview was everything! If you married or getting married this is a must watch!

[@SunsFlowerCreations]

That plate fixing though 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I actually love fixing my husband's plate but with all these kids we've had back to back, he's lovingly fixed my plate numerous times too 💗

[@jessicawillis3]

I’ve been loving these Marriage and Hard conversations! Can we get a marriage be hard comedy show?

[@jck_777]

dont push them... tryna pile too much into one thing. they already talk about the stress of having to do that in so many other areas. let's just appreciate this gift they gave the way they gave it✨

[@jessicawillis3]

@@jck_777 I know it’s unlikely. But it’s wishful thinking.

[@leeann2831]

In my single season and taking all the notes. These conversations are necessary and important. Thank you.

[@queeni9ja]

The vegan life is good to the Browns! Chance over there looking like a whole Gen-Z kid! Benjamin Button thangs! I love these two couples! I love how my favorite black couples are friends in real life…y’all gotta get the Nwigwe’s and the Perry’s on next!😅🥰

[@angeljosephs30]

Yess the nwigwe’s!

[@christthelord91]

Yuppp

[@lisacox3750]

Yes!!! Both of those couples would be great.

[@kaylalindsey2363]

I love Tab and Chance. This was the interview I didn’t know I needed, so many gems dropped.

[@michellelove8146]

That quarantine was a blessing to me and my family. We strategized, loved, and enjoyed each other and did not skip a beat monetarily. Even when I got COVID, God covered me. I remember YEARS ago saying "I just want everything to stop!" I felt like I was on a continuous merry go round and I wanted to get off because I was so busy. I felt like God did that for me lol

[@lalalittle3900]

Yes, this right here! God answered, and gave you a reset.

[@michellelove8146]

@@lalalittle3900 Amen!! He really did.

[@pmccray551]

You speak facts. My husband and I are introverted and really did need the time together. God, gave the world a chance to literally stop, smell the roses and look at whats happening and been happening around you.

[@michellelove8146]

@@pmccray551 Yes he did! I'm glad you and your husband had the chance to refresh as well!

[@muvamekaspeaks]

This series on “Marriage Be Hard” is everything ‼️‼️‼️ Thank you 🙏🏽

[@veegood6404]

"My foundation is me and her." --Chance ❤🙌🏽

[@heistruth2865]

I love how Tab said people say "marriage goals, couples goals...but she asks you sho?".... Wise!

[@TamarraPresley]

Chance is a solid dude. Love you both.

[@ladydee9624]

I'm so glad y'all started off the discussion with the responsibility to also show the upside of marriage. Outside of the social media highlights, most marriage discussions these days don't make marriage seem desirable AT ALL. As Melissa said, the effort to be honest, or simply to vent 🤷🏿‍♀️, is definitely becoming a deterrent to those of us that are unmarried. I think at this point we all get that 'Marriage be Hard', but surely the good outweighs the bad or else no one would do it. God wouldn't have blessed and ordained it. Right? As a single person, I can say more balanced discussion on the joys of marriage, and its challenges, would be appreciated. All that to say, this discussion, and this series, is GREAT!!!!!! 🤗

[@francisw3456]

Chance! With the nail 🔨 on the head! Just because your examples have been together decade, doesn't mean it's great! I want to LIKE my husband in the end! This is soooo good! Kev and Melissa, I got my book! We "aren't just gonna be married" Kev! Yessss! THAT part! Lawd, that last nugget from Chance-ACTIONS!

[@lifewithdeedee3392]

I love love love both of these couples because they keep it real. They don't pretend to be perfect like these other couples

[@bridgetteyelder77]

Longevity doesn't equal happiness. Love that part. I too desire a marriage where I have a friend in my mate where we are able to communicate in both good and hard times. GREAT INTERVIEW!!!

[@wtfrlly]

We need a part two honestly

[@chillma63]

My husband and I got married at an older age but still had sooo many problems but for us it was because we fell in lust and lust don't last especially when one spouse gets sick, we also didn't talk about important things that are lasting.

[@sjg5994]

That's the key at any age.....talking things out.

[@Smi4ari]

I love when Tab talks about knowing each other and that being a weakness for others in quarantine. The blessing and beast of marriage is definitely knowing the good and bad of the other person and I think successful relationships fall on wanting to be friends with your spouse.

[@KatherineLovelis]

Absolutely loved this interview. I’ll be married 10 years on Feb 1. Got married at 18, now 28. We are still learning but I feel like we’re almost at that stage where like Chance said, things are established. I have 5 kids ages 9,6,3,2,&1 😅 I’m nervous for when they hit teenage years 😩😂 I have 2 girls and 3 boys. Pray for me haha

[@detroitsmooth7520]

This was an amazingly awesome show...I will be 56 in July and currently ready to really be in a committed relationship with Marriage being the forefront of the conversation. The Browns have given me hope to stay encouraged.

[@loveafrica97]

My momma got married at 29/30 and she’s not a fan of people getting married yoing either. She encourages us to live!! Also, love that these couple are actually friends

[@chanelmapendo3761]

You and I gotta have the same mom then, bc she told me the exact same thing 💀

[@Trice_Marie84]

The way Melissa slapped Kev’s phone 😂

[@Acolst7]

Loved this so much. Every piece of shared thought was wisdom, to me. With no representation of Black Love growing up these talks provide that. It’s comforting.

[@MsMysB]

I like the idea of the notebook and I think it would be a great idea for Chance to write a book on managing time in your life and relationship. #Team Chance 🙏🏽

[@blazebrown9102]

"Marriage Be Hard" by Kevin and Melissa Fredericks Chance = "You Can't Live With Me Forever, But Can Rely On Me" "Tap Back In Foundation" Tab = "My Daddy Said" "We Got Married Young So Your Kids Don't Have To" "Don't Start Nothing You Don't Want To Maintain - You Can't Make Your Own Plate" Kev = "Couldn't Eat Them Js" "Don't Want A Long Suffering Marriage" Melissa = "Reality Of Adulting" "I Do This Out The Kindness Of My Heart"

[@ladybingham222]

Tab=It was hard because we didn't know who we were... I accepted it so long because I didn't know I didn't like it.

[@winniewalker4402]

I felt that in my spirit! My mom told me the same thing! Tabitha verbatim, that was me . Been married 31 yrs and this maybe happened 5 yrs ago! Loved it

[@ericawoods5694]

My husband and I went through the same thing. He told me to stop calling my grandaddy for everything

[@KatzScratch]

Tab and Chance are such great guest. I can't seem to commit to full episodes but i was this time. I'm always surprised when Chance talk and realized he is NOT Mr. Tabitha Brown. Together, they are great entertainment

[@omarileedelegance]

MELISSA AND CHANCE PERSONALITY IS JUST LIKE MINE…..I’M OBSERVANT TO EVERYTHING…… BE BLESSED KINGS & QUEENS

[@shirionjohnson7935]

Chance, had a change of heart when you showed him that check🤣🤣🤣

[@mscmullins1]

I love that I am getting to know Melissa in this light. Incredibly refreshing and my goodness how you've spoken to the core of me. Of course, I love Auntie Tab but I vibe more with Melissa and Chance in my personality make up. The gems dropped in this episode is bible worthy!!!

[@EvaAnika]

One thing I love about Chance. Chance didn't let Fine suppress his maturity, character, and development.There are some Fine men who are only Fine. No depth at all. They rely on looks. He is a 3 dimensional man.

[@tamirajohnellestyle]

Respect to Chance for not relying on Tabithas Father

[@wejohnson9101]

PHENOMENAL!! I picked up so many gems that were dropped on relationship/marriages and raising children. Thank you both for being so genuine and REAL!! The transparency is what helps others relate to you, see themselves and take notice of what changes need to be made in our own lives! God's continuous Blessings! 💕

[@reikomyles1495]

The wisdom, knowledge, and experiences these couples convey are valuable counsel.

[@yourneighborhoodalien]

When Chance said he and Melissa are alike it reminds me of tank and angel because tank will be on the chance and Melissa side and angel is on the tab and kev side. It’s a really nice friendship dynamic. Very rare.

[@CherieButler]

This was beyond beautiful...this conversation was one the record books.

[@WilliamsTanisha]

I love the story of Choice being the drama.

[@TalkingWithTasja]

I haven’t even watched the full episode and I already love it. Also… Melissa and these HATS!!! YEEEAAAASSSSSSS!!!!! I absolutely love it!

[@jaehazel1]

Omg I am Choyce and I need to apologize to my parents 🤣 🤣

[@mariaberry8611]

My husband & I grew closer during quarantine also. We live very busy lives & I miss our down time together.❤

[@hazelboyce7230]

This video is a whole freaking vibe. So many gems were dropped. Thanks to the entire team for this production.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@sharondajones9401]

That was absolutely awesome, I love both of you lol, all of you all made some great points, and most of all you made us laugh. Marriage is hard, but it is the most rewarding, loved that concept. When you’ve been through something with someone and you can come out on the other side, and say she or he is still my friend and I am still in love with them, that is a blessing, hands-down. Thanks for this conversation.

[@gurlye87]

So enjoyed this video! You guys are a vibe! Can’t wait to see more of your content! Thank your for sharing you lives with us!

[@pamk1967]

Chance knows how to make it Plain when he does speak 🤣😂🤣 I loved this!!! Tabitha is Always Amazing ❤️❤️ Marriage is Hard, but True partnership with communication can make it navigatable💕✌🏾 Great job Kev and Liss!!!❤️❤️

[@Dr.K.Harris]

This was phenomenal. The sincerity and thoughtfulness of responses. Thank you for sharing such empowering gems.

[@lisasmith1146]

I love the way Melissa paraphrases! She speaks very well💕

[@DestinyXL28]

I’m late as hell but i love the way you can tell they have this eye communication like we got eachother and how his name along with kids creates a wonderful sentence Chance, Chosen,& Quest! “Tab Took A Chance, Got Chosen,& They Been On A Quest Ever Since.”

[@vp_alternative_living5672]

I’m not gone lie… I Love Kev and his wife and I LOVE Tab and how she is with her husband. This was amazing!!!!

[@loveshine04]

Thank you for being so real. Relatable.

[@rjoy81]

Melissa snatching that phone from Kev!!!!🤣🤣🤣 I loved this. Both beautiful couples! I'm really enjoying this series.

[@nita7929]

I love when tab said she puts her husband first! Most people say it because it's a trend but putting your kids first can definitely play a part in the demise of a marriage. Take care of the foundation and the structure won't give way.

[@faceupstudios01]

This was absolutely amazing! Thank you so much for this LIGHT! The world needs this "we" need this. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! My wife and I are 14 years strong (8 years married) and we are best friends. She is just like Chance "i wanna hang out with my wife and only my wife right now" lol we got to a breakfast spot or lunch spot or just go for a drive to reminisce or talk about our future dreams together AND we don't have a notebook but we have notepads lol lol. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Imma bout to watch the next episode!

[@sjg5994]

I'm late seeing this but loved it! My daughter is 25, working a real job, living in another city and I'm ALWAYS like....Where is she? Is she ok?".....lol!

[@hadiyamascoll8305]

Love both couples. You all are amazing. I enjoyed every moment of this, thank you all

[@keilahdf]

Chance & Tab talked about the differences in their children and how with their son they’re in a better place, it’s because the best way to raise your children is through showing an example of a healthy marriage. When the marriage is doing well, you see it through the kids ❤

[@jarnettamcabee9632]

I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEE THIS ENTIRE PANEL❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ THEY GIVE ME SUCH A SMILE!

[@angeliquejackson2482]

I enjoyed this podcast with you all. I was married for 20 yrs and it was long suffering. Too young and didn’t know what I wanted or liked nor did he. Lord I’m alone but not lonely. The words of wisdom loved them all.

[@deannalawson268]

Excellent interview from both couples!!!

[@mildredduffie6587]

I have been married 30 years, got married at 21 and husband 26. I thank God for my pastors cause baaaabyyyyy, it took God. It is such a blessing n rewarding. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

[@channel44online]

Man I can relate to Chance. All I want in a relationship is MY time. 100% of you for my allotted time (10min, 15min, an hour or 2 hours).

[@askalwoldekidan6609]

I am crying. I love how chance is so voulnerable and open and honest and ... I love how you too love each other

[@HappyHeartsHome]

I always enjoy listening to Chance-he speaks only when his words truly matter.

[@Lovethyneighbor35]

Same Tab! I love quarantine with my family. My husband and I needed that slow down

[@coranika1ify]

When Tab said Chance don't trust the kids cuz he ain't known them that long 😂😂😂😂😂 BIG OL FACTS 💯

[@lashuandracrawford5318]

The fact that I just realized at 31 years of age and married for 3 years I have no one to look to for a healthy marriage. And then to add to that I’m married to a woman so I really don’t know what it is suppose to look like but I know it will be me and her until the end! ❤️

[@focused0002]

Ladies...you both look stunning! Skin FLAWWWW-LESSSS! 💚

[@sweetazzpiew8490]

I believe being forced to be quarantined together as a couple/family, you know living in a state of a certain amount of fear and stress about possibly getting sick, worried about finances and how and if a couple/family is going to be able to stay a float causes stress, and thus causes tension between the couple..Some of us don't have the ability to deal with the unknown and we lash out towards each other that can definitely breakdown the union marriage/family..We have to deliberately in so words go out our way to be kind to each other and lean and depend on each other..Knowing the power of unity, trust, and grace towards each other is vital..I am a 64 year old single woman so I was alone during quarantine..I worried about my adult children and my grand baby staying safe and COVID free, because it was scary and I found myself spooked sometimes because of all the people who were dying!! I did a lot of praying, praying, praying..It was sooo sad 😢And then two years into the COVID crisis my daughter and my G-Baby caught COVID and I had to stand strong in faith!! My daughter was stressed out because she was at home with her very active 1 1/2 year old daughter 24/7..My children was worried about me, because of my age and health conditions..So COVID was a trying time, Oh but God showed us mercy and grace and brought us through it 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾