Muslim Parents in need of desperate advice 😰 (Full Podcast)

We sat down with Shaykh Wesam Charkawi from Abu Hanifa institute to discuss all things related to Muslim parenting in the modern day.
00:00 Introduction
00:50 What is the role of a Muslim parent today?
06:30 Distinguishing between the role of the mother and the father
10:30 Success within single parent families
19:00 Generational impact on parenting styles
22:00 How to measure success while parenting
27:15 The use of punishment within discipline
31:50 The dangers of emotional escalation
41:00 Balancing between being a parent and a friend
46:19 The dangers of social media on our children
55:00 Providing halal alternatives to our children
58:30 The personal spiritual toll of being a parent
01:03:50 Blameworthy diversion from Allah
1:06:00 Community involvement as a parent
1:12:06 Practical tips for every Muslim family
1:19:00 Closing remarks
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[@OnePathNetwork]

What piece of advice did you find most beneficial? Post the timecode below 👇

[@kalsoumkhan6648]

At 22:00 onwards wonderful 👌 but especially 25:00 couldn’t agree more on being emotionally in tune with our children. We can’t let their emotional imbalance control ours, our job is to guide them gently… has made me calmer towards my 2 year old (my fourth child alhamdullilah but I seem to be losing patience, so this reminder really helped me, I can’t let his melt downs melt me… love it) we can’t take their anxieties/angers personally

[@kalsoumkhan6648]

15:40 this story always tears me up in a sweet way 🥲

[@amorboucenna7193]

One of the best video i have watched very beneficial advices masha'allah

[@teffygr5947]

• Allah is always first - • Caring for your own and others will nurture the way in which Allah will take care of you and those you love, especially with what we can't control - • Islam is adherence, submission and acceptance - • The importance and benefits of emulating our Prophet s.a.w. - Options of Hijarah - • Set up your home - * Have a Musualah * Have a good library: Quran Seerah: Men, Women and Children around the Messenger Hadith * Do things together • Having and nurturing a loving relationship with each other 24/7 • Clear Info - guidance, actions, consequences

[@tanvirahmed325]

1.06 : community involvement as a parents.

[@crooklyndodger8171]

SubhanAllah. I'm sitting in my room bout to cry because of my children. I can't bear them anymore vallahi I'm so exhausted. I feel like I'm losing sanity sometimes. This video came exactly when I needed it alhamdulillah.

[@user-ol9km6kq4e]

May Allah make it easy for you and reward you for you're patience.

[@hopenomatterwhat9728]

Ameen

[@allhealingcomesfromallaah]

Allaahumma Aameen! 🤲🌏🕋

[@user-qq3rj3dk2p]

You are suffering because of islam.... You will definitely find peace once you leave islam....

[@malihamohammed1792]

@@user-qq3rj3dk2p Islam brings peace not suffering..

[@mmml991]

MashaAllah this video really resonated with me and my idea of how parenting should be, I can’t really say I was raised in this fashion when it was really almost the opposite and I have seen the dangers of what this way of parenting could lead to based on my experience of it with how I handle things, how I envied other kids relationships with theirs and how I saw MY parents while growing up, at some point Astagafurullah I even started to hate them because of the disproportionate amount of anger and violence as opposed to love and guidance, and that made me very hesitant about opening up to my parents about issues I was have at school where I didn’t have anyone to protect me from those that would hurt me and I couldn’t report to the school because even when I was that young I knew it would beat no fruit and with no older siblings at home or an older sibling like person around to confide in I was completely alone and felt I had no support at home and in school at the beginning of it all, and what’s worse is I knew I then had just myself so I had to be the one to defend myself and would have too but I couldn’t because I knew if I did the school would tell my parents how I was in that type of situation I wouldn’t receive any support or comfort but would instead worsen my situation back home so at that point it went from me being alone at home and school to both places being against me and because of that helplessness at some point I was even questioning life itself but out of fear of going to jahannam I decided to bear with it a little longer till I graduate and go to university abroad where I can be at peace finally and separate myself from that family and school.But Alhamdulillah as I grew up I started thinking for myself and I saw that even without showing it how they should have my parents did love me and I decided to forgive them and let go of all the hate and resentment I had in me from all the abuse and the absence of the will to live I had had at that point in my life, But I am thankful for them instilling that fear of Allah in me because even though my iman was low I had that fear and along the way Allah guided me from the road of destruction and ruined I was headed to because of how my personality was warping to that of compassion and understanding of the bigger picture of why people do what they do. And now I’m someone who fears no one (not parents, former oppressors or more powerful individuals) but Allah and someone who shows more love to my parents and serve them more then I did before because I know they didn’t know what they were truly doing (because I know if they ever did know the situation I was in and how I felt they would be deeply saddened), and the best qualities have gain and am improving upon is being someone considerate of others (looking from all points of view and likely reasons for certain behaviors of others) and a longing for a stronger iman because I’m absolutely in love with this religion and in complete agreement with it the more I learn from it because it fulfills me and gives me proper direction and I am so thankful to Allah that I’m experiencing this so early on in life because I know if Allah hadn’t put certain things and ideas in my path so early on because if not I would have been one of the worst of people with the most evil tendencies and ways of thinking (which I’m still culling from me person till this day, but it does get easier the more I learn and put things into practice). All this and I’m only just in University Masha Allah

[@mahdianimates7241]

Indeed Ma sha allah. Jazakallah Khair for sharing this with us. You have mentioned a personal story to help some of us connect to it and thorugh your journey in life, You have faced multiple challanges yet you remained strong and Allah did guide you become a better person. You had no human support,which is really just beyond explaination of how deep the pain and struggle was. You were even merciful and understanding to not hate your parents bur rather serve them and be mind and compassionate to them. You story has many lessons, Allah is always here so do not lose hope and fear Him, Be compassionate towards your parents and believe that there is a good ened to every journey of hardship if you strive fo khayr. Once again, Jazakallah Khair!!

[@BlueSkyFluffyClouds]

Jazakumullahu khayran khatira. What an amazing podcast. May Allah grant me the wisdom, motivation and istiqomah to implement those amazing nuggets of knowledge into action. May Allah grant us all harmonious, happy, Sakinah households ❤

[@MuhammadIsmail-tk7hb]

Please pray for me Allah grant me a job then I can support my parents

[@lalucimot5946]

May Allah make it easy for u

[@Karim_Napaai]

Allah grant you your hearts request and fill it with barakah for you and your family. Amin 🤲🏿

[@sameeranjum3733]

Jazak Allah Brothers! It’s a very powerful Podcast I ever came across, what the most Muslim parents needs, to practice the Islam at home the way Allahs Prophet (may peace be upon him) taught us.

[@mohammedIbnsadiq]

Whoever spends his time guarding his money; out of fear of poverty, is already poor!.” - Ibn al-Jawzi

[@mmml991]

Thanks to all the brothers and sisters that sat through my long story (with all the grammatical errors I probably made), I just couldn’t help but tell it because of the emotion I felt from this discussion.

[@kalsoumkhan6648]

One of the best advise from an Islamic perspective I’ve come across !! Thank you so much for this, wonderful wonderful reminder and motivation to keep grinding at this parenting game. May Allah reward you all Immensely, Allahumma baarik lakom ❤️❤️❤️

[@sehar0821]

JazakAllah khair. I wish I had this mindset when I raised my kids.

[@omersayeed1547]

After a long time, such a deep conversation took place, where all the aspects related to parenting were discussed absolutely fantastic, especially when the host and Sheikh touched on the psychological and spiritual categories and challenges and reasonable sounding solutions in light of Islam. May accept the podcast and viewers as well, a guide to straight path. Ameen

[@tanvirahmed325]

May Allah blessing you all.

[@Racoon_movies]

Subhana'Allah wa bihamdhi, Subhana'Allah la'adhim ❤️

[@Emal789]

So much needed conversation!!!

[@Bruce_Wayne01]

Jazak ALLAH brother's 🌹🌹

[@naiz9983]

Jazakillah khairn

[@3boys1family]

Jazakum Allahu khairan for the very important and needed topic!

[@roubaissa6996]

Ma sha Allah. This was very beneficial.

[@mohamedshahin2009]

May Allah reward you paradise جزاكم الله كل خير

[@official_potato8323]

Assalamualaikum! This video is very insightful, thanks so much!

[@javariaahmad7072]

This is very insightful 👏 really helpful 👍

[@joseelanorro1152]

Beautiful video mashAllah, The sheikh speaks amazingly mashAllah

[@Muslimaonly]

Amazing advice mashallah. Love this video - Jazakullah kheir

[@minalkb4045]

Beautiful advices for both parents and futur parents MashaAllah

[@subhani1162]

bara ka allahu feekum ! amazing 👍

[@MT-uh9mv]

Jazakullahu khairan for this

[@nanamkdroubi731]

تبارك الله عمل رائع

[@zareenapakermohd5194]

MashaaAllah Alhamdullilah this is EXACTLY what I’m looking for and need!!! Tks sooooooo much and it’s so apt because I AM desperate🥲! Also the questions posed by the extreme left host are spot on👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾. Thanks again for doing this guys and your guest speaker is so lucid Alhamdullilah

[@alyazfar6958]

20:28 This is a big problem. It is okay to fail. Because success and failure is given by ALLAH (swt). Unfortunately after an occurrence we are drowned by a lot of negative words and judgements and that by our parents too.

[@azbc9303]

Thank you!

[@tanvirahmed325]

Ma sha Allah. Keep going on brother.

[@MuslimHomeschoolersUnite]

جزاكم الله خيرا

[@tanvirahmed325]

Ma Sha Allah

[@TheWeatherStudio1]

Great podcast! Very relevant to today's society.

[@jahidulalam5466]

Love from Bangladesh

[@MA-gm3wd]

MashaAllah watabarakallah

[@DC-ek6ib]

Bismillah! I love the quality of your video and the camera yas 2160 Pixels!!!!! Wow I love it

[@sheharasaterninas1815]

Allahumma Barik

[@Mar-Gor]

Alhamdo li Allah, he give as Hidayah even if we make sins. we ask always allah forgiveness

[@yul9737]

Good podcast and good sheikh. it is very difficult to educate children, especially in the western cultural environment. if you have tried, the last thing is to ask Allah swt for help to take care of our children at tahajjud prayer, Allah willing, become a good and successful child like the prayer of prophet ibrahim to many of his descendants become prophets. With our prayers as parents have a sense of optimism and confidence

[@OnePathNetwork]

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[@abdualrefaee109]

MashaAllah

[@cucinasi]

social media makes your child needing to create 2 identities - real world identity and virtual identity - which is a really difficult and challenging thing to do for a child with limited skills - advice to delay them as much as possible with staged, strategized, slow and gradual exposure until they can take off their "support wheels" and ride the bicycle independently. -Tips- *good library and prayer (musalla) corner* *dedicated laptop and phone charging/use corner* -- books/figurines/crafts on - Allah's names and attributes - Prophet Muhammad - women around the messenger - men around the messenger - children around the messenger - heroes/heroines in islam - hadith "read-aloud"/readings --- *family tradition* - do things together/experience things together --- - eat together - salah together - hiking together - masjid together - community work together --- for a 2-parent household (may Allah give you strength and smiles, single parents/single caretakers) - love your husband and love your wife. mindfully showing grace and kindness and playfulness to each other through ups and downs is a really powerful tool for a child's upbringing. (be mindful on the age of 4-7 years where they generally start getting awareness) - dads and moms, its tough. but thats among the many nature of ibadah. and dunya is designed to be a test before the barzakh realm. (note to self as a mother of an almost 2 years old daughter)

[@ispartali3210]

Masallah

[@Boubacar-Basse-dev]

May Allah reward you all ! Also where did you get your art ?!

[@jewelweed6880]

Yes! Delay introduction to social media. Foster critical and independent thinking skills first and give them time to form who they are and then slowly introduce it in stages. Teach them how to keep themselves safe. How to balance their time. The quick videos and easy dopamine can shorten attention spans and that's not good. Some people argue - and I might be phrasing this wrong - that if you protect them, when they are grown and independent they will go nuts and rebell by doing all these thing they were taught not to or were not allowed to do. But I know that's not always the case. So I wonder what causes one to grown up and totally rebel and give up large chunks of positive stuff they were taught, when another grows up and any rebellion is...less personally damaging or extreme.

[@daasguy99]

An honest advise. Please don't talk and cut off your guest it breaks the concentration of the speaker and the listener. We have examples of sahabi( R.A ). They listened to Rasool Allah p.b.u.h in absolute silence. Please don't take it as an attack but an advice to by fellow brothers. May Allah improve us in all aspects and except our efforts in the way of Allah. Jazakallah Khair

[@saajiddaya2152]

Good advice. Best feeling is to just let wiser people speak (not saying that Kamal and the other guy aren't wise, they're much wiser than me, but compared to scholars, we're all just students). I'm not exaggerating. It just feels good to be given advice to. Like you're being molly coddled and taken care of. If anyone gets what I mean

[@RayOfHope8]

❤️❤️❤️

[@RamatuBello-uz1br]

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakatuh. Please do include me in your prayers, i want to raise children who will be a very good ambassadors of islam and also to get a job so i can help many people out there

[@sajjadhussain.]

In Pakistan one company name Timelenders they have some workshops about Strategic Vision, Strategic Time Management, Sleep Management, etc and its according to ISLAM they created now they start Strategic Parenting if someone knows urdu they can learn and teach in English because my life is changed with Strategic Vision, Strategic Time Management, Sleep Management as Muslim so I am waiting for Strategic Parenting they will start soon .

[@tehmina4349]

Could someone tell what the books he recommended were?

[@daliasultana1310]

What is the name of this sheikh?

[@farahdiba4233]

As a single mom sometimes I feel my parenting is not gonna work .. sometimes so hard . Maybe I can't explain everything properly. He's only 7 years old. But I don't want my relationship to be ruined with my boy. But he goes to islamic school. He knows about faith alhumdulilah..I feel something he will always miss out from me . I feel I'm not giving him proper parenting.

[@uswomanmothers]

Try your best,Ask Allah to help you to guide him and to make him righteous.I have some of your feelings,we just want them to be good.Duas duas duas,

[@farahdiba4233]

@@uswomanmothers Jazakallah

[@Idris.1994.Norway]

Don’t know your situation but what about remarrying your ex? If he is a good muslim man.

[@farahdiba4233]

@@Idris.1994.Norway he's not ..that's why the problem started.

[@farahdiba4233]

@@Idris.1994.Norway and also he moved on. he's married now. And I don't want to experience again same situations.

[@JustMusaTM]

First 🥇

[@zeeshanriaz9074]

What is the name of sheikh?

[@raniaa5949]

‏سلام

[@kevibushi6664]

Alla is good nevre no as for facy feed

[@JustMusaTM]

There's really no one in the comments

[@trajictempr8574]

Now there is

[@zohrasiddiqi4729]

Department of Education??? Don’t forget schools support trans teachers in the name of freedom of expression.May Allah protect our Children. Islam has all the answers for parents and children.

[@mohammedjafer9265]

You can find Umar r.a hating on those we settle in a disbelieving land

[@zazak]

Assalamualaikum ... stop referring to a child as a kid and children kids... that is for those that worship the baphomet.. we are human not goats...

[@tanvirahmed325]

May Allah blessing you all.

[@nanamkdroubi731]

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