It’s funny when you stop drinking you end up watching loads of these videos. They give excellent reassurance that you are in the right path. Thank you.
@maurovelez65472 жыл бұрын
Guaooo thank you for your comments… is exactly my own experience… clean for 6 months and I love to watch to keep myself motivated
@benoitgagnon57652 жыл бұрын
WoW we are 3 😊 Me too, I enjoy watching these video. 238 days clean
@footprintsinthesand2009 Жыл бұрын
Yes. I'm irresponsible and hurt myself & others while drinking. I'm responsible and want to nurture relationships while sober. It was a huge struggle for many years - off and on. The legal trouble, poor health, deflated pocketbook, fear, not being trusted by those I care about, and so many other negative aspects of drinking are not missed! Yes. We are on the right path.
@dewetbritz57154 жыл бұрын
12 days sober yeah yeah!!
@anthonywhite99124 жыл бұрын
Still clean bro? I'm 109 days and I HATE alcohol with a passion..... I know that I will never go back to drink again which is liberating. 365 days now!!
@anthonywhite99124 жыл бұрын
@Charles Smith some people can't have one..... One is too many...... One hundred is not enough. And once you have made the decision to stop... alcohol loses its attraction.
@MrSupersmokesum4204 жыл бұрын
Today is my day 1 it's hard to stop😔
@anthonywhite99124 жыл бұрын
@@MrSupersmokesum420 it's not that hard if you accept alcohol has no benefits to you at all
@callesierra4 жыл бұрын
De Wet Britz good luck and God bless.
@beccas.77623 жыл бұрын
126 days sober here, woot woot!
@musicalear13 жыл бұрын
Fantastic, keep going x
@hardel20083 жыл бұрын
Hope you still going well 😊
@terraalbritton64053 жыл бұрын
Wow!!!! So proud of you!!!!
@panda590434 жыл бұрын
I let go of smoking in my 40s and alcohol in my 50s. Drugs provide a short term excitement but bring you down to a dark place.
@evelynbaron20044 жыл бұрын
One of my musical heroes is the late Tom Petty who as a private man didn't reveal until late in his life his involvement with various substances -- I believe his saving grace was music; it trumped everything and prevented disaster, although after divorce he went through darkest period, and emerged. The fact that he died of an accidental overdose due to hip fracture was not about addiction, rather stubborness in the face of adversity -- tx for important observation -- a lot of people experiment and like you draw back -- I quit smoking with no problem and why I ended up an alcoholic is a different journey that no-one knowingly embarks on. Tx again
@davidhumphries11463 жыл бұрын
@@evelynbaron2004 i don't get you. He was perhaps privately addicted to fun drugs, then he died from a legal drug overdoing it? Yeah, overdoing the dosage.
@georgedavis43624 жыл бұрын
Coming up in my 8th year of sobriety!
@whatwillbem68254 жыл бұрын
Wow! 👍🏼... wish this was my son....
@gazitopal55643 жыл бұрын
Cool
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
That is so awesome!! Proud of you!!! You give me hope...not for me 🤗😊👍🏼 thank you!!! Take care
@anthonywhite99123 жыл бұрын
At the end of my 1st year sober be so proud of myself after 8, but I can wait. Don't want to be another 7 year's older just yet!!!
@Ronnymikkonen26863 жыл бұрын
Great! I'm now 27 months!
@David-jd5lp4 жыл бұрын
I was a terrible crown royal drinker. I drank over a fifth a day. I have been 8 years now without a drink. I do say that I am proud of myself. You have to really want to quit.
@Eddie531725 жыл бұрын
32 days without a drink 🤗
@naomi62125 жыл бұрын
How are you getting on?
@badactor34404 жыл бұрын
Keep going Eddie
@badactor34404 жыл бұрын
Update?
@scottowen20564 жыл бұрын
This is 6 months ago. How are you doing now?
@NelsonVanDweller4 жыл бұрын
He's now dead
@josephmckenna39778 жыл бұрын
I'm only 18 days in residential rehabilitation unit and 18 days dry,early days I know but it's the start of a difficult journey, best wishes to you all x
@kirstytv8 жыл бұрын
+Joseph McKenna Well done and good luck on your journey to healing xx
@trisix995 жыл бұрын
Best wishes my friend.
@backyardsk8ter5 жыл бұрын
Did you get withdrawals? If you haven’t or you haven’t experienced DTs, don’t keep going. I just finished getting out of mine and I was my muscles were spazzing out and had to be hospitalized. They said I was close to a stroke. And I’m only 20. That’s no good Edit- don’t keep going in general not just if you haven’t withdrawn. 🤣☠️. You’re lucky they let you have a phone at residential.
@scottowen20564 жыл бұрын
Joseph McKenna Joseph McKenna Hey Joseph, how are you getting on? Your comment is now 3 years old so I hope you’re doing good my dude.
@psyzone1664 жыл бұрын
did you relapse, how is it going?
@stanleycostello96106 жыл бұрын
Recovering alcoholic here. Sober for 14 years. When I was drinking, I didn't want anyone to know. Now that I am sober, it doesn't matter anymore. My family, friends and associates all know about my problem and I get support from them.
@Davidpriest1155 жыл бұрын
Did the PAWS symptoms go away?
@stanleycostello96104 жыл бұрын
@@Davidpriest115 PAWS didn't have much of an effect on me. My sponsor (I could call him any time) helped me a lot, especially when I got over the physical symptoms.
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Awe...🤗 there is real life hope...bless you!
@h.p.dominocus4 жыл бұрын
Day 5 for me!
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
👏🏼 I’m proud of you!!!!!
@concong41833 жыл бұрын
H. P. Dominicus Day 5 for me, too. This is my 2nd serious attempt. I stopped at 55 for two and a half years but was hit by a major crisis and slowly slipped back into it. Won't be complacent again, fingers crossed. Feeling good again and eating.
@wendycarter57183 жыл бұрын
May 1st 2021: You still strong ??
@concong41833 жыл бұрын
@@wendycarter5718 Still strong here.
@h.p.dominocus3 жыл бұрын
@@wendycarter5718 I still slip up here and there but overall my self control is way better than it was before. Thanks for asking
@ymatT6017 жыл бұрын
He looks really healthy.
@clovis48913 жыл бұрын
don't ever think that you've won . stoped for 31 years and started back . now 72 and still fighting it.
@conradbrown30022 жыл бұрын
Hope you're doing alright man. Hang in there
@mrJinsudbury9 жыл бұрын
Thank you SO much for this interview- both the host and interviewee. I'm 35, have had EXACTLY the same problem and repercussions as this chap. I've wasted job opportunities, lost so much time and have neglected friends and family. It's a nightmare but ive been watching endless You Tube vids to find someone exactly like me and here it is. Thank you.
@kirstytv9 жыл бұрын
I'm glad it helped. I have over 150 guests stories of healing and hope on KirstyTV please watch and you will find universal shared truths x
@s-progaming52139 жыл бұрын
Iv'e just come out of alcohol detox after drinking heavily throughout my 20's, I don't know when I became dependant but I was drinking vodka in the morning's and throughout the day just to feel 'normal' for at least four years. I have just become sober and because of what iv'e done to my liver and I can never safely drink again. I'm 31 years old, these video's help me to continue to realise how much in common the 'functioning' alcoholic has and why I can never, ever drink again. It's just not worth it.
@kirstytv9 жыл бұрын
Matt Nevens Yes never :) good on you for recognizing it kx
@s-progaming52139 жыл бұрын
KirstyTV just an update, ive been sober for nearly 5 months now :)
@andrewdods22365 жыл бұрын
KirstyTV will do ! :-)
@brendar93637 жыл бұрын
This is a very good interview. Great questions and she allows a full, intelligent answer. Thank you both.
@caesar3498 жыл бұрын
Wow his story really is relatable, and a lot more profound than the typical recovery stories.
@ralph75454 жыл бұрын
My thanks to Allan 4 sharing his story. It helps many people including myself.
@gungaldin9 жыл бұрын
I was doing the same 9 years ago. I am now 56 and sober the 9 years. Life still sucks at times as giving up the drink does not automatically give you a perfect life. But I stay true to myself now. One thing not mentioned is intervention. I knew and admitted to myself I was an alcoholic and was very sick but I just didn't want to give up because the recovery drinks felt so good. Plus my entire life and the pub life was all I had. One day I was at home after a 3 day bender feeling very sorry for myself and my sister and husband came to visit. Their intention was to have a talk and gently intervene. They got to me at a weak moment and I agreed to have a go at sobering up. After 6 week of rehab I am still sober. My point is, family and friends should at least have a go. You never know how the person feels at that moment and it might just be receptive. The other point is I grieved over the booze for a long time. When the physical cravings subsided my mind would not let go. But, time does the job. I think that period was the most difficult for me. It's genuine grief for the life you once had minus the sickness. One thing I never let go of though is the memory of how I felt when in the depths. I think back to the worst 3 day hangovers and that settles me. Those memories are almost too vivid. I can't say I'll never drink again, just not today thanks. Good luck to all of you. The pain of letting go has its rewards eventually even though in the initial stages of giving up life seems just too hard. It does get better with each day.
@brentseano3448 жыл бұрын
thankyou
@andrewdods22365 жыл бұрын
Cheers :-)
@clintjohnson81405 жыл бұрын
Congrats
@shellym96574 жыл бұрын
gungaldin well said
@namastetyson62674 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏽❤️
@lindarobinson40685 жыл бұрын
Well done Allen you look great x Alcohol is poison and nearly ruined my life too.
@jamesshielssoberlife.37013 жыл бұрын
Five and a half years sober on 15th October 2020!
@danderson14626 жыл бұрын
That's my life... I need to stop but really hard
@ckay90064 жыл бұрын
I hope you managed to 👍
@AP-nx6xo3 жыл бұрын
BruteForce85 hello it’s my day 2 sober... alcohol is ruining my life... I’m starting AA today... I need help.. when I’m drunk I do coke and I’m going to be broke ... I’ll have to avoid all my addict acquaintances.. all the best
@frankyfernandes16893 жыл бұрын
All the best bud 👍
@heatherchamberlin78773 жыл бұрын
Heard of the drug, Naltrexone? The Sinclair Method? Antabuse?
@jeanbarahona99398 жыл бұрын
i am an alcoholic.....i stopped drinking for 6 days...but i started today....again....and its true its my pride which makes me keep doing it.....i work a lot but as soon as I'm off go get something to drink.........my breakfast is a 40 ounce reserve steel....i truly agree with this man.....my girlfriend is back and trying to help me......i have lost so much money, because of my drinking
@ctmjr20125 жыл бұрын
Hi man. Do you a favour. Please, definitively, cut it out. Say never again to yourself. Keep the distance to the bottle and to places where you drank. It's time to begin again. Good luck man
@roxannececala75325 жыл бұрын
I was just reading listening to this video, I hope you are sober now, and I will pray for you!
@anthonywhite99124 жыл бұрын
Please get some help.... drinking alcohol to excess is dangerous for your health. The sooner you kick this evil substance the better. Once you have quit you will wonder why you didn't do it earlier.
@orbonds36034 жыл бұрын
Stop or youll lose the girl soon
@jamesfarmer38454 жыл бұрын
Start every day taking 3 shots of aristocrat. Vodka, hard. I hope you're doing better now, I'm now starting to try
@lurkster19743 жыл бұрын
Sorry this is so long but is primarily to anyone in the very early stages of giving up. I'm on day 3. A couple of weeks ago I went from way too much to nothing too quickly and was sweating buckets and shaking like I was in a major earthquake. I had to cover a cup of tea or coffee with a tea towel if I was carrying it up the stairs to soak up what was being spilt. A weird one was major phobia of crossing busy roads when I was coming down too quickly. I'd avoid them like the plague. I'd need to drink before I tackled them, and I had to because the off-licence (I'm a Brit) was on the other side of said road. I was on a bottle of vodka or 3 bottles of wine a day. Be careful about going from that level (not saying anyone is) to zero too quickly. My typical immediate detox 'shake pattern' was they would kick in around 8 hours after stopping, and last for around 12 hours. I'd need half a bottle of wine to get anywhere near to them receding. No sleep, tossing and turning, get up without purpose, try again, etc. etc. all night, mind spinning negativity. It's all relative I know but this time, over the course of 6 days this time I went 1 bottle of vodka, 2 wine, 1 wine and 2 beers, 4 beers, 2 beers, nothing. As I say, I'm on day 3, albeit over a period of 8 days gradual cessation. Pretty good 8 hour sleep (but no REM, skimming the surface) simply because I'd barely slept at all for several. Early this morning I climbed my local hill and watched the sun rise, no physical detriment (other than general fitness of course!), it was lovely. Alcohol is still very much on my mind, It messes with the brain's synapses, it's a chemical neurological reaction as much as simply 'thinking about it', the brain has become so accustomed to the booze. Which makes me feel better about it, knowing it's not just the 'mad monkey'. Apparently Magnesium and vitamin b1 (niacin) supplements are really good in the initial days to help alleviate withdrawal and to aid with the body resetting. It has totally screwed my life. A few years ago I had a successful career and was mortgage-free. I left my partner because I could no longer stand her company before it become toxic for our two beautiful daughters (killed me leaving them but on balance the right thing, if I sort my shit out that is...) - for now I am borrowing money for rent from family and I am on benefits, looking for work - when I can be bothered to because I've been drinking, blocking it all out This demise has happened over several years but what a (please excuse my language) fucking cunt 2020 has been! Covid lockdowns and isloation has exacerbated it all - I lost my most recent business because of the virus - plus barely seeing my beautiful daughters (I left my ex-partner the house and currently live in a hovel), plus I had treatment for skin cancer earlier in the year, etc. etc. etc. (me me me!). The temptation to block out the pain of all that with more alcohol on a daily basis is about as rational as Donald fucking Trump, but it's there, niggling away like a bastard. But believe me, it just compounds problems. I could relate to so much of what this guy was saying. I avoided two £15 parking tickets early in 2020 and just before Christamas, had to pay baliffs £730. What a twat. I've had enough of this bullshit, I'm out for good. Wishing good luck to all those who feel the same - let's weather the storm together (with support too - AA and 12 steps?) and the clouds will eventually lift. Onwards and upwards one and all!
@gerontius1934able3 жыл бұрын
Hows it going with the fight Stu? I'm a fellow brit just finished my first month off the booze. Totally know where you are coming from with the withdraw symptoms, they are horrific to go through. i lost 28lb's in weight because i just couldnt face food while withdrawing.
@lurkster19742 жыл бұрын
@@Daybreak575 Ah thanks for posting and being honest dude (or dudette). I'm ok, hit granite rock bottom in early May following a massive months-long relapse (what a dick), went cold turkey and ended up having a seizure, 6 hours in A&E on a drip. Immediately put myself up for detox, only 10 days but in a very controlled and medically monitored environment. I'd been really sceptical about AA/CA, etc. but knew when I came out it was merely the beginning. I now have a great sponsor, begin step 6 of the 12 tomorrow and it's finally beginning to click. Where are you? I'm UK. I could give you a link to one of the great online meetings I attend (BST). Sometimes we need to it to hit HARD when we thought it couldn't hit any harder. I'm with you buddy x
@grimlund9 жыл бұрын
I think he is right. Deep down every alcoholic realize that the thing they do is not normal. Now that I´m sober I realize that I never really denied that I had a problem with the booze. Just because you are addicted doesnt mean that you ar a moron.
@KeithCarey338 жыл бұрын
Bless you. Tonight I asked a buddy to be my sponsor. But, I told him to make me work for it. Had 2.5 years clean, but now I need to work because I will be dead soon. I'm a fabulous drunk, which is good for my audience, but terrible for me. Too old for this crap.
@londongirl26037 жыл бұрын
grimlund so true lol.
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@derkaiser420 Жыл бұрын
This guy is telling my story. I would wake up at least two hours before I needed to so I could get drunk before work. I would always be sick and would have to drink throughout the day. I alway thought I was a failure and I thought I couldn't be loved. Honestly, I haven't found the right woman but that is okay. I am happy where I am at right now, without dying anymore.
@anoshya4 жыл бұрын
Asking for help is so important..it saved my life 30 years ago
@Heneggsboss4 жыл бұрын
Exactly. You gotta want it.
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Omg gosh!!!! 30???? That’s so awesome!!!👍🏼👍🏼
@brianbyrnes8924 жыл бұрын
This is my experience. Once I hit 30 I got sober completely. I tried all the drugs. Know how they all feel. No point in doing them anymore.
@punishedexistence9 жыл бұрын
I'm 35 myself and have the same thing. Everything this man said describes me perfectly. I've drank every day since I turned 21. I was a good boy. I never drank in high school and not really even in college. Once I turned that age, it was open season. I still drink, every single rotten day and I want to stop *so* bad. I don't drink whisky, voka or wine. Just beer. But alcohol is alcohol, and it *will* kill you. Once you find a reason to drink, you're trapped. And to get out of that trap is the biggest struggle in anyone's life.
@madsbaag10369 жыл бұрын
***** My story is the same as yours and the guy abbow, but i am 8 month sober. The way I got sober was on antabus and then I took it day by day. Being sober your mind will try to fool you into drinking and you need to be aware. You need to get a mindset that is telling you that alcohol is poison for you. For me it has been a very rough ride getting sober, but I wouldnt switch it for alc. I am much happier without it. The first 6 month is hard, but in time it gets easier and easier. In a month time im running a Marathon and I would advice you to exicise as it gives you the kick that you dont get from alc. Take the decision, get sober and stay sober. M
@kirstytv9 жыл бұрын
***** yes it takes great self work. To understand that reason and do the healing so you can move on with your life and fight the addiction x
@kirstytv9 жыл бұрын
Mads Baagø Congrats n 8 months and good luck on your continued journey x
@madsbaag10369 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot and thanks for adding the videos :-)
@kirstytv9 жыл бұрын
Mads Baagø Thanks honey we have over 100 up now check out the channel xxx
@shannonb45064 жыл бұрын
I’ve been sober 7 months and It’s hitting me like a ton of bricks that I just wasted at least five solid years of my life. The existential dread is relentless when I think to myself that when this issue began I had my youth on my side...now I’m approaching 33 with no partner, no kids. A career, but barely. The thought that I drank my best, most fertile years away is soul crushing, especially because I did this to myself.
@debdennis53734 жыл бұрын
Well, just don't waste the next 5.
@sillkthashocker4 жыл бұрын
33 is still so young.
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Awe...it makes me soooo angry how the addiction STEALS precious time!!!😡
@alexrobinson48212 жыл бұрын
I’m 23 and I’m worse than this man in the interview I’m scared I’m going to die all the time & constant vomiting
@fanofthe80s66 жыл бұрын
Im 55 and just had to leave a career after 38 years, the fear of that has sent me into a nightmare situation where i'm drinking heavily each day this has had a devastating impact on all aspects of my life, i have lost my driving licence and a relationship which was both new and extremely rewarding. I can empathise wholely this man
@kirstytv6 жыл бұрын
I hope you will get yourself to an AA meeting this week friend. Get help sooner rather than later. Email me kirsty@kirstyspraggon.com for some resources i can send.
@bw36224 жыл бұрын
There is no shame in admitting a problem and asking for help. Nobody sets out to become an alcoholic, but a new study suggests that 1 in 8 adults over 18 are alcoholic. I am one of them myself but 100% clean & sober today! Ask God to show you the way out and HE WILL!
@cookeeee19626 жыл бұрын
Some believe alcoholism is a Demon, I'm one of them.
@visam285 жыл бұрын
I really think it is too. The demon wants us to be destroyed.
@robertoel16525 жыл бұрын
I believe the same thing it's a demon it's in there waiting to destroy you I am dealing with one my soul
@naelyneurkopfen97415 жыл бұрын
There's a reason they call it "spirits".
@TeamDrif-Tastik5 жыл бұрын
Demons dont exist. The demon is yourself.
@andrewdods22365 жыл бұрын
Энхболд Ганзориг always ?? Not quite
@zoe96327 жыл бұрын
Perfect explanation of addiction!
@MrEd-ri5kh4 жыл бұрын
Last drink was New Year's Eve! Its still a fight!
@bettyboo19274 жыл бұрын
Well done! How’s it going?
@PercivalBlakeney4 жыл бұрын
It's going to be, never forget though, active addiction is even worse. Waking up without a hangover, being able to get behind the wheel of a motor vehicle without worrying about being breathalysed, the simple self respect that comes from not having had an alcoholic drink... these are the gifts of sobriety.
@johncoll44563 жыл бұрын
When you wake up on Monday don't drink on that day. When you wake up on Tuesday don't drink that day, and so on. All you have is today, don't drink today.
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Awe...your honesty gives me hope for a loved one...thank you! Don’t give up!!! You’re WORTH IT...
@bluewhite90043 жыл бұрын
This illness is like getting in the ring with Mike Tyson you will never win so stop fighting. Try AA the solution is there. Good luck.
@kirstytv11 жыл бұрын
Yes a very important message to get out there. Addiction destroys lives.
@beccas.77623 жыл бұрын
If I had seen this 7 years ago when I was in total denial about my alcoholism, I wouldn't have taken this seriously. Now I'm 4 months sober and relating to every word he says. Thank you.
@trisix995 жыл бұрын
Loved the interview. I can relate 100%
@mikeyg66313 жыл бұрын
I put the bottle down 12 years ago. I stopped when my son called me out and asked why I was drinking so early in the morning. Funny thing is I hadn't stopped from the night before. I took everything alcohol involved and dumped it down the sink. The recovery had its challenges. However when you hit a day without drinking.... thats a victory!! "One isn't enough and there is never too many"
@eldona77474 жыл бұрын
Incredible vulnerabilty. It takes strength to publicly do this (to me). I don't do breakfast drinks but i struggle with what is right for me. You're right, its all in the mind, ego. Kudos to you!
@standwithsteve10 жыл бұрын
This is so great! I am glad to see more and more people opening up to this problem and shareing a message of recovery. I remember spending my first 5 years on AA meetings 3 times a day 7 days a week being lead to belive that I would have to go the rest of my life and that never sat well with me. I realized I was through and never wanted to drink again no matter what. I took a chance on living life outside the rooms of AA but I wish I would have had success stories at my disposal like we have now. But life is amazing and you are creating an awareness that is well needed. I just celebrated 12 years back in Aug 2014 while I was speaking in Toronto Canada so I know anything is possible when you want it bad enough. ..Thanks for the inspiration and showing me recovery is alive and well. #StandwithSteve
@kirstytv10 жыл бұрын
Thanks Steve Dorsey I am so happy for you. Yes we need more stories to help support one another kx
@amirajones99014 жыл бұрын
This was my story too..I loved this
@Johnphilips123410 жыл бұрын
It must be so hard to be an alcoholic . Or actually rather to be a recovering alcoholic.. It seems everyone in society drinks and conspires to make other people drink so it must be so hard to stay on the wagon. I think recovering alcoholics who manage to remain sober for the remainder of their lives are absolute heros! I mean that really does an iron will! After all, it's not like crack or heroin which ISNT served in every restaurant, corner shop, supermarket etc....!
@kirstytv10 жыл бұрын
Yes Matt Stocks it is a lifelong battle and journey for many kx
@checkmarkdatter17858 жыл бұрын
Especially if your genes are littered with addiction & you realize at 23 you can't have a single drop of alcohol for the rest of your life. Every day is a battle
@kirstytv8 жыл бұрын
+Anarcho Sharko Once I got happier I found I no longer craved addictive substances. When I was numbing emotions I craved them all.
@checkmarkdatter17858 жыл бұрын
I know it will get easier the more I persevere but it's no doubt a terrible age to deal with it as alcohol is central in almost every social setting. These videos help more than you probably know though thank you
@kirstytv8 жыл бұрын
+Anarcho Sharko I'm really glad they helped. We have over 100 on KirstyTV. What I have learned is that numbing the trauma, pain, emotions is very common no matter what the story. The best thing you can do for yourself is learn healthy coping skills. Meditation, excersize, things that bring you peace and joy. Journalling. Art etc... Also make sure you find like minded people. Join local meet up groups for shared interests. Get involved in sports, I thought I was terrible at art and not creative and bad at sport. I now find I love to journal and run and play beach volleyball...who knew? let down the self judgments of what your good at and should do and explore and have fun x
@willneverforgets33415 жыл бұрын
It starts very gradually, and events in life make you drink more than you should, and more often than you should, until you reach a point where you believe alcohol helps you endure the day... It then can take years to realise you have a problem, and once you acknowledge it, it can take some time until you reach a point where you decide you need to actually do something about it. Usually the approach is to moderate the amount, which is impossible and the spiral continues, until one day you have a real bad event where you say to yourself you need to quit... This is the most important moment. After that you only need to do it, and ask for help if you need.
@tjfreak8 жыл бұрын
it's been 31 years for me,I can't even explain why.I was addicted & sick with liquor as it gets,couldn't conceive or want to entertain the idea of a "life" without drinking,it was unfathomable to me.I won't say things are "so much better" I'd by lying.I'm still the same person,same self defeating tendencies,fears, anxieties,antisocial behavior,poor self esteem.Things just do just suck,no gettin around it .It's better in the way that I'm not in that twisted,sickening,living hell,drinking alcoholic nightmare & all that accompanies it ,ONE thing i'd say,if the willingness to change & there will be necessary changes,big ones & un popular changes.. you know.. the "do i really need to do this" changes,don't happen,i't will probably be a rough ride,it has to be an entire life change…
@marysmith8013 жыл бұрын
Same here. 25 years sober. Still self-serving
@marysmith8013 жыл бұрын
Meant to say self defeating. Not much has changed for me in 25 years but it so much better not to have the added misery of alcoholism.
@eatgrass1237 жыл бұрын
This guy is awesome. So motivational.
@janelledankhazard972111 жыл бұрын
Yes addiction is at epidemic proportions and we need to talk about it more. I loved Allan's story.
@lulumargaret6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Allen..your story is helping many for sure. Bless you. Bless Kirsty too.
@highpriority40153 жыл бұрын
the worst thing you can think of in the fight against alcoholism is to talk about the reasonable sufficiency of consumption
@emh88613 жыл бұрын
Trying to find the right dose.
@evelynbaron20044 жыл бұрын
OMG this is my story so well articulated. I never take one sober day for granted -- I know C19 has been a great stress for us all and AA as an afflliation(sp)of like-minded souls has provided community in a time of isolation but however one gets sober I applaud us all the hardest thing in the world and the most essential - wonderful way to begin the day before taking out my dog for a long walk, unthinkable when I was drinking. Best wishes to all!!!!
@TheCondor3009 жыл бұрын
Great honesty... thanks!
@anthonywhite99124 жыл бұрын
Alcohol is an evil substance. 4 months sober and not craving it at all. I hate everything about alcohol and will never go back. 1 year sober now!!!! Yee haw 😁
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
I would LOVE to hear those words come out of my 37 year old son’s mouth...😔
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
And by the way thank you!!!! I’m proud of you!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👍🏼👍🏼
@anthonywhite99123 жыл бұрын
@@whatwillbem6825 It's taken many mistakes and nearly destroyed my life to get me to this point though, wish that I realised this much earlier though. Thanks for the kind words.
@Wildmanmercury4 жыл бұрын
Wow, I love how he describes his alcoholism. So articulate. Really identify.
@kirstytv11 жыл бұрын
Thanks gorgeous yes Allan is an amazing man and his story of recovery and addiction is very couragious kx
@itsjustme93544 жыл бұрын
7 days sober 🙏
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Wow!!!!👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@catherineholden3183 жыл бұрын
sobriety is wonderful
@alanvaughan56454 жыл бұрын
This is so good and accurate. I’m 11 months sober and am so glad I’m not doing what i was a year ago, life is immeasurably better now and so much easier, rewarding and less anxiety filled.
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Wow!!!! 👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@tonysanta12404 жыл бұрын
I hope this man isn't only 45. But I'm appreciating those laughter lines.
@stephenfermoyle14984 жыл бұрын
How does he look so good WOW
@TallMama3214 жыл бұрын
Stephen Fermoyle right
@bigjohnson96064 жыл бұрын
Because he's sober
@stephenfermoyle14984 жыл бұрын
TIME WASTED !! EXACTLY
@bartstarr23714 жыл бұрын
That first morning swig of bottom shelf taaka vodka is the cleanest best pleasure.
@sillkthashocker4 жыл бұрын
the cleanest, best pleasure.
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
😔
@MusicAndOtherColors8 жыл бұрын
Keep up Allan ! Thank you for sharing your story !!!!!!! I have an alcoholic brother... i don't know what to do to help him out, there are no support centers where i live..... trying to find a way through internet..... i wish i could send my brother this video without having him getting mad at me !
@MusicAndOtherColors8 жыл бұрын
I wish you with all my heart to continue all the way to freedom !!!! You can do it ! All that you seek is within you Zeke Barajas, keep up without judging yourself, feel blessed for all the experiences you created, use them to heal you! Allow yourself to be free forgive yourself, move on, life will lead you in other places when you're "awake" Love yourself!
@kirstytv8 жыл бұрын
Perhaps a gentle email letting him know that you love and care for him deeply and though he may not be ready yet you wan't him to have access to resource for when he is. We also have an online course go to kirstytv.com and look at (shameless class) it is all online with therapists. You could even do it together. xo
@MusicAndOtherColors8 жыл бұрын
Oh ! Thank you! we did write a letter with my mother at the past.... it didn't work ...not yet at least.... i don't know if i can live at the same place with him anymore, till he accept the offer to help him.... he is getting worse everyday..... i trust life, but i need some guidance on this one, i need help too and i don't know where to get it from... thank you for your advice, i 'll check it out !
@kirstytv8 жыл бұрын
There is Al-anon groups for families of alcoholics. I would start going to the meetings you will get guidance and support on how to handle this and not enable him etc.. also. xo
@londongirl26037 жыл бұрын
MusicAndOtherColors just send it. I know he will get upset but it will make him think. I wish someone grabbed me and sent me to rehab 4 years ago.
@TheMindIlluminated3 жыл бұрын
Was never a full blown alcoholic, but I am a little over a full year without a drink, and used to be a drug addict; 2 years without my drug of choice. Feels good.
@lvteachme9738 жыл бұрын
Don't plan life; it does work.
@stephanietaylor753211 жыл бұрын
Another great episode Kirsty - addiction effects so many families and Allan's story is really powerful.
@CrawlSpaceSolutionsCharleston7 жыл бұрын
Stephanie Taylor
@wherbert754 жыл бұрын
10 months no drink
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Omg!!!! There is hope for my son....🤗 thank you thank you
@cynthiahicks19093 жыл бұрын
"Know that it can be so much better." Amen my brother.
@tonyedwardsutton11733 жыл бұрын
3 days so far after 10 years in China and almost dying many times. Wish me luck, tried it many times and failed. No infrastructure here to help the many many alcoholics. So it’s tough.
@petithibou18913 жыл бұрын
25 days sober
@bb-od9ku3 жыл бұрын
Hows it going
@US_ARMY_25_INF._DIV.4 жыл бұрын
I have learned that I may always have insane thoughts.....the difference now I don't let those insane thoughts turn into an act or action......as long as they stay inside my head and I don't act upon them I will always live a better life…...wished I had known that 40 years ago.....
@joshie19565 жыл бұрын
This is just to send good luck to all you guys and gals who are trying to give up the booze, and also to those who are on the wagon, here’s wishing you success in reaching and maintaining your goal. Love and Peace to every one of you. 🕊🕊🕊
@ruthvigil57683 жыл бұрын
Two years, eight months sober.
@AvisWrentmore Жыл бұрын
That was a great interview Allan. So proud of you and all your accomplishments. Always your friend....Avis
@ericboehmer83513 жыл бұрын
Great knowledge... be careful Depending on just AA . Lots of grumpy..do it this way....or else old guys there . ..at most meetings....Not All...most....They forget there is only ONE rule to be a Member.... The desire to Quit drinking Alcohol. So my words to All with a drinking problem... is to do whatever works for you... 🌬🌌🌠🧘♂️ good Luck 2 All ❤
@kentcoon1220 Жыл бұрын
This may seem weird but I'm 63 and everyone I've ever known either was on drugs or was a drinker I have never met a true sober person and that is 😢
@HLO-rq9oo8 жыл бұрын
I am 22 years old. ive been drinking since I was 17 first time I drank was a full bottle of vodka. I have been trying to help myself to stop but I can't. I cant go a day without the booze, I always need my daily sip of beer, I wake up drinking beer before I go to sleep I drink, I have lost my job, my friends have drifted away from me because of my addiction, ive never had a girlfriend or anything like that because of my drinking problem, I want to change, I want to stop drinking but when I go a few hours after not drinking I get really sick, if I quit im not going cold turkey.
@The_Prodigal_Daughter7 жыл бұрын
Research Campral and Naltrexone. Campral has saved my life and has taken away those terrible cravings. Good Luck....
@goddog477 жыл бұрын
It's not as hard as you may be telling yourself, just try stopping and do something else that is positive. Arm yourself with all the knowledge that you can get your hands on. Go to a meeting and just be a fly on the wall for a while, get FIT, eat healthy, try meditation, anything that is a positive activity is going to inspire you not to drink anymore. Also don't put yourself in any situation where you will be tempted to drink for a long period....... That's how I did it and now I don't have a problem staying sober......Goodluck and godspeed!
@londongirl26037 жыл бұрын
6699H8LO i am only getting this now. Have u stopped drinking?. U are too young for this. Please find some help. If u want to chat let me know. I will send u my digs and chat on wussup. Find aa. Go to hospital try to get a detox.
@middyonexx6 жыл бұрын
Campral saved my life too, I was 1 litre rum 40%alcohol a day sober now
@truthsquad79486 жыл бұрын
Hey man, I’m 37, I drink for 10 years, recently I stop for 30 days, I felt really good. How did I do that, I watched certain videos, Google stop drinking expert
@PHANTOMZ0NE7 жыл бұрын
Ah Kirsty. So sweet of you to come back.
@armedyams9 жыл бұрын
I just quit my professional job through a text message to my boss who asked me if I was okay after not showing up for days on end. Last time this happened, about two months ago, the head of security showed up at my house and took me to the hospital. I'm terrified.. when I sober up my heart is going to be beating fast and aching. The worst part about it is that I still need to finish the work I've been doing for this company, which I dread terribly. Maybe it's time for a new career. I guess I'll probably be working at McDonalds now, anyway.
@hangsambo128 жыл бұрын
I thought I was the only one who got the tight chest,sore heart, beating too fast when I sobered. I quit my job before Christmas because of my addiction. It's tough brother, but if you really want it, you can stick with it. Reach out, don't be stubborn, exercise is great, go for a long walk.
@jonprude25575 жыл бұрын
Ya know, everyone, this why we want to be poets...no professional-job and free booze!
@stephenfermoyle45783 жыл бұрын
THIS MAN....WOW i saw this a year ago..cannot believe how good he looks i hope he is still doing well
@musicalear13 жыл бұрын
Bless you man, well done x
@josefadams6474 жыл бұрын
Great interview
@sekrath4 жыл бұрын
for me nothing could stop it until I got cirrhosis. went to the meetings, that didn't help at all. Allan had a great story to tell.
@fit30524 жыл бұрын
How did you know you had cirrhosis?
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
That’s what happened to my daughter n law...her eyes turned yellow and her stomach filled up like she was pregnant...she almost died...
@Initium10007 жыл бұрын
I need help. My organs (gall-bladder I think) hurts when I drink but I'm so addicted that I still drink despite this horrible pain it gives me. I'm 40 and I've been addicted since 34. Can anyone recommend a cost-effective group? AA? I used to be a good social drinker, I don't know what happened. Fuck, it's hard looking in the mirror at an addict.
@kirstytv6 жыл бұрын
I hope you will get yourself to an AA meeting this week friend. Get help sooner rather than later. Email me kirsty@kirstyspraggon.com for some resources i can send.
@alicefaith22596 жыл бұрын
craig beck
@willneverforgets33415 жыл бұрын
Have you done anything? How are you?
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
My son is right there with you...and the sad part is how he JUDGES other’s...I know deep down it’s himself he’s talking about...right now he’s on the verge of losing the best job he’s ever had...no one can do this part for him but him...I sure hope you’ve taken steps to do something about this...I really do...makes me sick...when he’s sober he’s such a great guy...that monkey on his back controls him..that demon...take care your comment...is why I’m commenting...he just left to work...I hope to god he’s ok...take care...
@autumnmeadows40794 жыл бұрын
thank you for this interview. We saw so much of the terrible thing that went on with our loved one. I still do not understand it and I am not sure that he understands it. He is in a rehab facility now, the anger and fear is still there. I hope he really wants and will stop this time.
@SavingSoulsMinistries7 жыл бұрын
i went on a month long bender after i turned 21 but since then i dont really fuck with alcohol unless the social situation basically requires it. Growing up with an alcoholic father really put it into perspective for me at a young age. i do thoroughly enjoy smoking marijuana however
@BhutanBluePoppy5 жыл бұрын
He should play Bill Clinton in the movie; he looks so much like him!
@howardmanley33883 жыл бұрын
I’m 37 years sober now because God made himself real to me , there’s no more crucial moment in a persons life then when he or she is encountered by god , that moment sets in motion the rest of one’s life ...( is sure did mine )
@ericgraham174610 жыл бұрын
Allen im a twin i am doing the exact things i thought i was the only one.....great. video
@kirstytv10 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing eric Graham I am glad you see your not alone. That is why I started the show to share stories to give hope. We have over 100 shows up now on KirstyTV I hope it helps kx
@edwardcalcutt34173 жыл бұрын
Beautiful interview thank you :)
@bb-od9ku3 жыл бұрын
18 days
@phillipwhite47413 жыл бұрын
20 days sober here
@pbetftdi4 жыл бұрын
A lead in the form of an interview. Great idea!
@d_d888887 жыл бұрын
what's his first and last name? I'd love to send him an email! Thanks for the post!
@badactor34404 жыл бұрын
19 days
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👍🏼🙏🏻
@joeytortice19659 жыл бұрын
Oh! my God, Allan, I'm in that same boat right now! I think I need help! I am 31 years old, I started drinking when I was 21 years old. I've always wanted to become a movie producer but sadly I've failed.
@ChrisHell4209 жыл бұрын
Joey Tortice Sorry to hear that man! Get well! i'm trying my self
@joeytortice19659 жыл бұрын
But I won't let my addiction keep me down, I'll keep on trying, but thanks on that comment.
@ChrisHell4209 жыл бұрын
Same here brother!
@joeytortice19659 жыл бұрын
I've work'd with this one Chef, and he told me that he had that same problem.
@matthewleary51638 жыл бұрын
+Joey Tortice Idrank all the time but last 5 years totally out of control bottle and a half vodka a day 6 or 7 beers.Was hospitalized for about 17 days touch and go for a while.Went to rehab relapsed went again relapsed tried to commit suicide.I now go to group therapy 3x per week and a therapist once a week it is really helping been sober 9 months now but diagnosed with cirrosis and hepatatic encolapathy.Pls get help asap all the docs and nurses I have met were so nice and understanding.Good luck Be strong you are not alone.
@Angel-pj8jc6 жыл бұрын
all you guys and gals are marvelous
@joanberry21433 жыл бұрын
Addiction is so very cruel and heartbreaking!
@sling2474 жыл бұрын
Thank you Allan.
@andrewdods22365 жыл бұрын
I really get this guy. I had everything planned, and then life and people, and my growing awareness .... things went astray ... and now, things just happen as they will. Ain’t nothing we can all do about it. Go with it , enjoy the vagaries and mystery of Life :-)
@jamesalexandertaylor9074 жыл бұрын
I drink.3 bottles of wine a day want to get off but raging anxiety and shakes when i do plus sweats and raised heart rate. Love to go.to rehab but cant afford it plus my ex finds out she would use to disturb my custody with my child but would love to just stop. Get drugs to help with the withdrawels and just rest x
@kathyaronson21044 жыл бұрын
Are you O.K?
@jamesalexandertaylor9073 жыл бұрын
@Charles Smith oh thanks so much for that charles, came clean to my parents who have been very supportive,.went off work with stress managed to cut down to bottle and half to 2 a day and now making a valient attempt to go 1 bottle a day for 5 days then zero see how i go. But thank u for your kind comments. All the best my friend
@Prada3103 жыл бұрын
How many bottle per day are you at now?
@jamesalexandertaylor9073 жыл бұрын
@@Prada310 I'm happy to say none at the moment in fact 2 weeks today since my last drink starting to feel so much better ;)
@rebeccaturton42785 жыл бұрын
Want to know how to deal with the shame. He still very methodical
@markg.42465 жыл бұрын
Go to meetings, clean house, and help others. That is the best way to deal with shame. When people SEE that you are living differently, the trust will be restored.
@catman35524 жыл бұрын
Everybody has a vice. I don't smoke,I don't do drugs,don't gamble,etc. I like my beer. And when I do drink,it's later in the evening. I have never gotten up in the early morning to start drinking till I pass out. I work,take care of my elderly father and his house of animals. I don't have time to drink 24/7. Allan apparently had a serious problem. I wouldn't let myself get that bad.
@Quiche5434 жыл бұрын
Why would you watch this then? What is the intrigue for you?. I never drank in the a.m. either, but still developed a drinking problem. There's more to it than when or even how much a person drinks.
@whatwillbem68253 жыл бұрын
Lorraine Baker much more...😡
@exeuroweenie5 жыл бұрын
Jesus,how can you wake up with vodka? I have enough trouble with quadruple espressos.
@thedistinguishedpeasant485 жыл бұрын
It isn't funny, but that is hilarious!!
@XXLKnowitallXXX4 жыл бұрын
Back when I was a little off the wagon, I would drink beer in the morning, hard alcohol in the morning is absurd, you’d just wanna fight the first person you talk to lol.