My Battle With Anorexia | Dave Chawner | TEDxClapham

Using comedy as a tool to remove the stigma surrounding eating disorders Dave uses comedy to engage audiences and explain his battle with anorexia. He talks about his tour 'Over It' and experiences of talking publicly about his struggle.
Dave is an award winning comedian and campaigner who received critical acclaim last year with his UK tour 'Over It - Death, Anorexia & Other Funny Things'. Using comedy to get people talking about more taboo topics Dave takes a satirical look into his anorexic past to raise awareness of eating disorders. Appearances on BBC, ITV and Channel 4 he is a comic that makes you think as well as laugh
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@nyfriom]

Am I the only one that thinks that they should teach about Eating Disorders on school, I think SO many lifes could be saved like this

[@DaveChawner]

+jatniel cristia I completely agree Jatniel. It's a real shame, and something I am working on at the moment. It's a great point

[@lourdeslozanoalonso4145]

jatniel cristia Im so sad saying this but, in my city, they teach us about eating disorders, and at least 70% of my classmates suffer from some of them

[@RandomPerson-ml8ej]

jatniel cristia they did that at my school but it was awful and so basic. They were basically just explaining the different eating disorders and then they were like "love yourself and don't compare yourself to photoshopped models in magazines". Like thanks i'm cured.

[@ellabiddy4741]

jatniel cristia I live in Georgia, USA and they talk about it. Not enough and only 2 days a year for 8th graders and that's it, but a little bit.

[@salzwell25]

We had talks about eating disorders 17 years ago at school but it only gave me ideas. I was struggling with depression and anxiety so I was predisposed.

[@brianbouman6468]

finally a video about anorexia that actually is *about anorexia* instead of our low weight and *not only about female anorexics* as of females are the only one. I have been ignored so much about my eating disorder just for the fact that I am a guy. thank you!

[@DaveChawner]

+Brian Bouman Thank you so much Brian, that is a very kind thing to say. It is not really a physical, it is a mental thing - I completely agree.

[@brianbouman6468]

+Dave Chawner You're welcome :)

[@caughtcrjfever2107]

Dave Chawner you're really good looking

[@caughtcrjfever2107]

Dave Chawner are u actually gay or was just joking

[@romycullen17]

I'm really sorry about that Brian :( hope you're doing okay

[@maggotm5750]

his little smile and laugh omg

[@DaveChawner]

Hehe! I just did one when I read that. Thanks

[@terra3524]

Yah that laugh is infectious!

[@liyueyue5922]

why are the most beautiful and good people affected with terrible things? this guy is so sweet, funny, genuine. I hope he knows this.

[@DaveChawner]

Aaah, thank you Sophia, that's too kind. (I'm definitely not beautiful though!) Thanks so much for such a lovely comment though

[@trinitylivingston1286]

To help inspire others to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

[@ferminromerodetorres]

Terrible things definitely don't affect only the most beautiful and good people. Yes. This guy is funny and maybe genuine. Maybe sweet, I don't know what he tastes like. I'm not funny, I'm not beautiful, I'm not good and ... for the other you would have to ask someone else as well. What I can assure you is that all of us who go through an ATT like anorexia look terrible and our moods are far from pleasant in general. Unhappiness doesn't sit well with anyone.

[@kaleslut5764]

I love your cute high-pitched giggle (and, like, on a more serious note, I really appreciate you giving this talk)

[@DaveChawner]

+kaleslut Ah, thanks so much, that's really kind (I do giggle a lot!)

[@toddsmith1969]

@@DaveChawner I hope you never stopped!

[@janetprice8724]

The right hospital, the right therapist, years of work and I am recovered. Age 18 - 46 were pure hell, 46 - 53 work in progress and 54 till now (65), wonderful. Never give up!

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thank you so much for being so beautifully honest. Keep going and don't give up. Thanks so much for commenting

[@Janet_Price]

@onmy computer2020gal - my health deteriorated enough for me to realize I needed help and not from any family member!!! I couldn't use my voice so I used my body - all to get attention from my family/husband.... When I realized I had to do this on my own, I went into the treatment. To this day, my family is still silent on the issue and though they may be my blood relatives, they are not my real family. We get together only once per month - it that - and I'm okay with that. I've learned that most family members choose not to change their behaviors to help the family become more healthy and cohesive. It takes a strong person to tackle an eating disorder, and I'm one strong woman!!!

[@dominique2693]

I so empathise.I lost 30 years of my life to annorexia.The wounds run very deep.

[@chadh7830]

That’s a beautiful story, Janet, thank you for sharing. If you don’t mind sharing insight, my father is 61 and currently facing a life threatening eating disorder and will not eat enough. We’ve tried getting him to work with dietitians and health coaches but he’s quite delusional and sincerely believes he knows better than everyone around him about health so he ends up not making any progress. He’s at a point now where he needs to be put into a treatment center but we fear we will never be able to convince him to do so. So we’re trying to figure out the best way to approach the situation, it seems like if we approach it lightly he will blow it off, but if we do it aggressively he will push back. However, considering what’s at risk and how far it’s gone, I fear our only option is to be aggressive and try to get him into a center at all cost. I’m just afraid the only way he’ll actually do it and make a change is if he decides to on his own. So any insight you can share would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

[@Janet_Price]

@@chadh7830 - Hi Chad. I'm so sorry you're father is suffering as well as the rest of the family. An eating disorder, at its core is not about food ~ it's about communication and control. When we cannot communicate our feelings effectively ~ or the one's who hear the communication are not listening, we use our bodies. Other people use drugs, alcohol, exercise. Begging your father to eat will not solve the problem. Yes, food is essential and without it we cannot live. Asking your father to communicate his feelings is a better place to start. Was there something that happened a while ago that caused him to restrict? What happened in his life that caused him hurt, anger.... I could not get better around my family ~ they preferred me sick ~ it's so much easier to be sick than healthy. Does your father see a therapist? If you can talk to your father about feelings rather than food, you'll be better off. Being in a treatment center is not a bad idea, however you father will not get better for his family members, he has to choose health for himself. Keep in touch ~ an eating disorder is so complicated. Janet

[@SkylerJade]

I love that you were able to make jokes that were funny but not offensive. I really really enjoyed watching this. I've been struggling with anorexia for almost two years and it really is shocking how many people don't understand. I might show this to a few people. I think it could help. Thank you.

[@DaveChawner]

Skyler Jade Thank you so much Skyler, I can't tell you how much I appreciate that. I really hope it does help. All health, happiness and fun to you

[@beegood1215]

Good luck sweetheart. You are worth it. Believe in yourself and get a cat. My cat helped me through the hardest times.

[@capcutedits.picxchrselnaha7065]

...been struggling with anorexia for 4 years yet I'm still pro Ana after hospitalizations....what is wrong with me.... well, one more pounds and I'll be a 5 ft 59 pound 12 year old female

[@bluesolo6209]

I'm only 15 and I have had anorexia for 4 years and this is the first time I don't feel alone (in my disorder). Hes the first person who has made me laugh and feel comforted while listening about anorexia. Thank you for this. He inspires me to keep going in recovery and keep trying.

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much for being so honest. You really are NOT alone. Honestly, more people understand it than you think. And, I know nothing, but it's really helpled me to think of recovery not as losing the Eating Disorder but gaining back yourself. That sounds wanky and soppy, but I think it's true. I really hope it gets easier for you

[@phillipzhou766]

Blue Solo I'm currently struggling with measuring every piece of food so good on you

[@thegreenmanofnorwich]

You're not alone. Whether or not it feels like it, identifying that something in your thought processes isn't quite as it should be, and being able to make it, that's an absolutely massive step.

[@yahney-marie]

hi, it's been three years , you're eighteen now. amazing how time passes, no? i hope you're doing even better. u r stronger than u know ʕ •ᴥ•ʔ

[@bluesolo6209]

Yahney-Marie honestly shocked when I opened this notification. I am honestly doing so much better, probably haven’t relapsed bad in 2 years. Crazy that I thought it was a huge part of my life, and now it’s something I barley think about. I still have issues when it comes to my body and eating, but not the same. Thanks for commenting that, meant a lot to me.

[@bearjew6645]

I’m a male anorexic and I loved hearing him talk about his experience, I live his personality

[@holdensnow7130]

I am a guy who developed anorexia, and this relieved me so much knowing that I am not alone.

[@DaveChawner]

You really aren't mate. There's a lot more than you would think. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment and all the best to you

[@trinitylivingston1286]

Yeah, you're not alone. Many men and women suffer with this.

[@evad2010]

improver さぺウ me too. Had it when I was 20 and now again at 46

[@sarahalicia3951]

He is adorabel! And i think , he has found a lovely way to talk about mental illness without making People feel guilt, shame, fear, anger or maybe trigger them. This giggles just open up your heart.

[@DaveChawner]

Aaaah! Thanks Sarah, that's so kind. Everyone likes a giggle!

[@Jade-yb8og]

I saw Dave on a documentary about men with eating disorders the other day and he's officially my new favourite person. Thanks for speaking out Dave! The mental health community needs more people like you.

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, bless ya! Thank you so so so much, that's so kind. You are my new favourite person too. Thanks so much

[@hairysusan8483]

What documentary?

[@nrannia]

aw he's so cute

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thanks Rannia, that's so kind of you

[@DaveChawner]

Aaah, thanks so much, that's really kind and I really appreciate that.

[@monicavanca845]

Seriously though.. He has this amazing personality and cute laugh

[@saraconner7721]

Most entertaining Ted talk I've seen, and best Ed experience video on here. Hats off to your talent on stage, and for your continued success in your recovery!

[@DaveChawner]

Sara Conner Thank you so much Sara, that's so kind and I really appreciate it

[@jillianferebee8182]

I loved this talk. It was funny but you got your point across. You did amazing.

[@DaveChawner]

+Jillian Ferebee Thank you so much Jillian

[@kathleenlaub5119]

Get's the point and seriousness of anorexia across in a very comedic way. Very grateful for the reference comparing the rate of ED and suicide. Thanks for spreading the awareness 👍

[@DaveChawner]

+Kathleen Keenan Aaaah, thanks so much Kathleen! Unfortunately it does have a high mortality rate. I really appreciate your comments though

[@lennonw.8279]

really wish we had someone like this come to out school and teach this, I have an eating disorder and it's scary and I think I could've prevented myself from thinking like this if my school talked about it instead of the same drug talk every year

[@DaveChawner]

+lennon w. Thank you so much. I am looking into doing schools talks at the moment. If you can think of ANYTHING that would have been useful to you my email address is [e-mail]. If you have the time and any thoughts on what would be useful I would love to hear from you

[@romycullen17]

Been in recovery for years and I know this is a serious matter but he's hilarious. I haven't laughed this much in months.

[@romycullen17]

there I go crying at the end. One of the best talks on the topic.

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, bless you hun, keep going and don't give up and keep laughing

[@trinitylivingston1286]

Yeah, he's pretty funny. It's serious, but what helps people cope with the issue is to make jokes about it.

[@MyahhYup90]

this is the ONLY person who makes me feel better when I'm having a specifically bad day.. everyone knows me as the funny friend and my anorexia is the one thing that I can't seem to laugh about but he helps me.

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, I am so sorry to hear that, but it really is too kind, thank you so so so much. I hope you have help, and are on the right track

[@MyahhYup90]

Dave Chawner thank you (:

[@allijenn9488]

This is my favorite TED talk! I love this so much, especially since you're a male speaking out about the illness.

[@DaveChawner]

+Alli Jenn Thanks so much Alli, I really appreciate that, it's really kind of you

[@Thefitty]

I love Dave Chawner 's humor. no one takes such a lively engaging approach. Truly a great entertainer and actor (and I study acting!). I'd love to see more of his speeches.

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thank you so much, that's so kind. I really appreciate that.

[@brazibeall]

I'm doing a dramatic interpretation (acting piece) over anorexia and watching this inspired me so much. I do not and have not had any food disorders in the past but seeing this in such a way actually made me see how the jokes can tie into this subject without making it offensive. Thank you, and keep up what you're doing. You're an inspiration to many, including me.

[@DaveChawner]

+Brazi Beall Thank you so so much, that's so kind, and I wish you all the best with the project. If you need any further help my email address is [e-mail]. All the best

[@asher64061]

Dave, thank you for this. I'm in nursing school and we discussed eating disorders a few weeks ago. I know I have a problem with food and believe that I may need to talk with someone, thanks for you inspiration

[@DaveChawner]

+Ashley Schmidt Hi Ashley, I am so sorry to hear that but BEAT have loads of resources online to help - www.b-eat.co.uk/ thank you for being so honest and open. All the very best to you and I hope you get the help you want

[@thomasmurphy9532]

100% respect man...great advocate for male eating disorders full stop💪

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much Thomas, right back at ya! I really appreciate that.

[@gracietrg2812]

Absolutely inspiring. My hat goes off to this man.

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks Gracie, that's really kind

[@gracietrg2812]

I applaud you for telling your story, and educating others in such a humorous way. Eating disorders are often commonly misunderstood, but the way you spoke was conversational and intriguing and opened up a dialogue that so many choose to avoid. You truly are an inspiring person, and I wish all the best for you in life.

[@hannahofhorror]

This guy's hilarious, and also incredibly endearing. Happy to see people talking about EDs, particularly men. It's strange that even in 2017 - almost 2 years since this was posted, in fact - anorexia is still discussed as though it were an extreme diet or a way to describe a person's weight. Thanks for sharing.

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Hannah, that's so kind. There's still a lot of work to be done, but I couldn't agree more that anorexia is NOT an extreme diet or a fad. Thanks so much for commenting, you're too kind

[@jessicaissinger]

I just absolutely fell in love with his soul and his speech and his passion. Ugh I feel as though talking informatively about eating disorders is very hard. It's hard to show insight on such an illness and the struggle that lasts a lifetime because people only think of anorexia in extremes. People don't have to be dying for them to receive help. I love this speech I died laughing so many times!!!!

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thanks so much Jess, that's really kind. If it is helps, something someone once told me, 'you can drown just as easily in a puddle than you can in an ocean'. Eating Disorders aren't about the extremes, they're about people struggling, so size is irrelevant. Glad you liked the video, thanks for such a lovely comment and making me smile!

[@kisielcytrusowy]

You are wonderful. I respect you so much for speaking of your own problems the way you did, that's incredible.

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much Ala, that's really kind, I really appreciate that.

[@qwirky1709]

That Manorexia bit has me wheezing 😂😂 I love how he managed to take this serious topic and make it funny

[@DaveChawner]

Hehe, thanks so much, that's really lovely to know

[@t-bodebates7119]

I swear this audience isn’t laughing enough. This guys is hilarious (and now I will find and stalk him on all his socials). I guess it’s probably hard to understand if you can’t relate.

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much, that's really lovely of you. And, thanks so much, please feel free to stalk away, that's very complimentary. I've also got a book out if you're interested (but I don't want to sound all egotistical and hard-selly!) but just thought I'd let ya know. More than anything, thanks so much for such a lovely comment

[@menheal2255]

Dave is amazing to be fair. He helped me online when I was feeling unwell. Even though I was angry with him, as I was in so much pain. His kindness melted my pain, and his kindness cooled the flames of my anger. Personal thanks to Dave. Mike

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Mike. I hope things are a little easier now and as tough as it sounds, keep going. Don't give up, don't give in. I know that sounds fluffy and cringe, but things will get better

[@ojou.artist]

Thank you for doing this talk. I'm delighted to see someone talk about the disorder rather than the low body weight.

[@DaveChawner]

+Ina Szu Thanks Ina. Yeah, for me it wasn't really about the weight, or even about the body, but much more about the addiction, obsession and control. It was a distraction from life that took me out of the day-to-day worries that we all have. I genuinely thought it was helping at the time. I now realise I was wrong

[@junenovae]

Seriously they haven't laugh as much as I did at all. He is so funny!! And yet he is still able to raise awareness and talk properly about anorexia. Good job, it's so great to see someone who can easily speak about this, without any shame. The first I ever was able to laugh about it freely was (weirdly enough) in hospital and I remember thinking it could be such a good way to raise awareness, so I'm glad you did it cause I think very serious subject can be taken very seriously even with a bit of a laugh

[@DaveChawner]

You are too kind, thank you so much June. I hope you're better able to cope now and I can't thank you enough for such a lovely heartfelt message (I'm currently working on next year's show about mental health and despairing at how unfunny it is, so this is perfect timing!) thanks so mcuh

[@monicaabbashashemi697]

Dave Chawner Hi Dave I'm a big fan of your stand up! And I loved your red talk! You said that your working on another show for next year? Is it going to be another red talks show, or something else? Ps; much love if you are still in therapy, I am currently recovering as well!

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thanks for asking hun. It's going to be a show on mental health (rather than mental illness) and will be touring around the UK at The Edinburgh Fringe, The Brighton Fringe, The Leicester Comedy Festival and numerous other festivals inbetween. I'm on twitter @DaveChawner or the links to all my gigs are on www.davechawner.co.uk Sorry for coming across so salesy but thanks for asking

[@soniczforever5470]

I have anorexia thank you for making me laugh. 😊

[@ahmedalhusseini9589]

I admire his way of speech..

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Ahmed

[@oliviadenhollander2441]

This is the best tedtalk/speech thing I've ever heard on anorexia. Funny, engaging, but gets the point across. Well done.

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Olivia that is so kind of you and I really appreciate it. Thanks so much

[@trinitylivingston1286]

Yeah, same here.😗😗

[@Palrao]

Never actually got further in symptoms than a non specified eating disorder (the weight never went so low as to comply with the diagnosis due to some external Control factors which ended up protecting me) yet I related to everything you said... thank you for putting it so lightly and yet so truthfully... I hope more and more people gain conscience of what lies beneath this...thing that ends up becoming a haunting. best wishes for your Quest :)

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Anorexia (as I'm sure you know) isn't about weight. You can easily drown in a puddle as you can in a lake! I hope you are 'in a better place' now

[@wrld-sq5pe]

Loved the way you talked about the issue! Accurately put, too. Great talk :)

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks Gina, that's really kind of you. All the very best to you

[@ianbeale4589]

Can I just say how well you put this. The way you got across the reality of ED's and how they can affect anyone and everyone but still made it interesting and funny in areas. It was the perfect balance of comical and serious. I take my hat of to you for how amazingly you have done this. I'm so glad you're better now and I know ED's never really leave us fully and it's a fight every day but we can fight them back and not let them control us any longer. Thank you so so much for this amazing presentation. Wow.

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Maddie for such a lovely message - it means such a lot and is really kind of you. I agree that those ED thoughts leave a residue but the longer you fight them the easier it gets. I really appreciate your lovely message and can't thank you enough

[@kaiblinn6347]

The end part really got to me. I'm in a very confused place between early recovery and a bit of a relapse and hearing you say that you know you can cope with this disorder gave me hope. I will have this for the rest of my life, but I don't have to let it bring me down. Thank you for your strength and heart.

[@DaveChawner]

+Bailee Blinn Not at all Bailee, thank you for such a wonderful message. All health, happiness and fun to you. (It really is worth it, keep going and don't give up)

[@NicolaFeustel]

This is so lovely to watch and you get the message across so well. Good luck with your recovery. I wish more people were so honest! X

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much Nicola, that's so kind of you. I do hope it helps and all the very best to you

[@patricialoughran7900]

wishing I could like this hundreds of times. definitely left me in tears.

[@DaveChawner]

+Patricia Loughran Thank you so much Patricia, I really appreciate that.

[@loveaims]

the fact i have watched this over 10 times now proves how much i love this😂 thank you SO much for speaking out, this will hopefully raise lots of awareness. anorexia and all eating disorders. this is honestly amazing💜

[@samwright7229]

This is my favorite thing on the internet. I'm honestly quite grateful for this video. It's possibly more motivating towards recovery than anything else I've seen. I think it's the humor and the /life/ that speaks to me.

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much Sam, and keep going towards recovery. It is worth it, so keep going and never give up

[@felicityaeh]

Thank you so much for this, it is one of the best talks I have ever watched. I personally suffer with an eating disorder and have done for almost 2 years now. My school gave us 'lessons' on eating disorders when I was in year 9 but it was just mainly not true, I go to a girls school so they felt obliged to say something and no mention of anything other than simply not eating was mentioned. So many people in my year don't realise men can suffer as well and don't understand how complicated it really is. You deserve so much more recognition, you get a really needed and serious point across while still making people laugh and I think that is so wonderful.

[@DaveChawner]

+oliverlaurasykes Thanks so much. Really sorry to hear that you have had an eating disorder too and that people weren't that understanding. I am currently looking into doing schools workshops on the subject to hopefully help. If you have any ideas on what you think would be useful my email address is [e-mail]

[@anonymousginger929]

I love seeing someone talking about it in a humorous sense. It is a serious topic, yes, but I really appreciate that he found the humor in it. I avoid making jokes about my ed, because they usually end in someone scolding me, or telling me it makes them uncomfortable for me to joke about it. I love that I'm not the only one who uses humor to help process it!

[@DaveChawner]

You definitely aren't. Humour is just a way of making sense of things, don't ever feel ashamed about something that you have no control over. Thanks so much for such a lovely comment and I hope you are well

[@Shatashah]

I really enjoyed your speech, Dave! You're an outstanding comedian and I absolutely loved the way you addressed such a delicate topic: you managed to engage the public with your witty jokes and at the same time you openly talked about a very dangerous and painful illness which is too often overlooked. Thanks for being so brave, and good luck with your recovery :)

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Carla. That's so kind and I really appreciate it. I'm working on a new show about recovery at the moment, and what that actually means, so this really is some amazing encouragement. You are so kind

[@Kwinie]

Thanks for this Dave, how inspirational and witty. I no longer feel as alone as I have been. As I left home at the age of ten, I managed to hide my anorexia and other mental health issues from my parents till now, as I am never home for more than a week. I am 29 and have been trapped for the past 15 years. I hope one day I will be able to open up to my parents. Thanks again, you are an absolute star. X

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thank you Kwinie. You really are not alone. If you want any help, www.b-eat.co.uk/ is a great place to go for info. I wish there was more I could do to help, but you really are not alone at all.

[@JustinDBKidrauhl]

I enjoyed this talk more than I thought I would. There's something appealing about this presenter, the way he thinks, his jokes, his moves are so fascinating. I'd love to have a conversation with him one day. We can discuss about eating disorders (since I have one, too) and then about funny and deep things. Anyway, I wish him good luck in his life. :)

[@DaveChawner]

+Rania Channeraul aaaah, thanks so much Rania, that's really kind. If you did ever want to chat my email address is [e-mail]. Thanks for such a lovely message

[@leoderothschild7560]

Dave. You're a brilliant comedian, speaker, and all-round human being. I count myself incredibly lucky to call you my friend. You deserve all the health and luck in the world, and as big a platform for your crucial message as possible. You're an inspiration, man. Never stop. Big love, Lx

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so so much Leo my friend, that's so kind of you and more than anything it's about the amazing support of wonderful people like you and the power of sufferers to work together to help each other. All the very best to you mate and hope to see you soon

[@sarahhenderson9608]

I think this is such a great idea to combine comedy and such a serious topic. I have struggled with anorexia for 4 years and am recovering. To see this was so amazing for me! I laughed out loud and it made me feel like I wasn't the only one in the world who was going through it. And you are right Dave, people know nothing about eating disorders. You are doing an amazing thing by spreading awareness in this way. Keep up the good work! :)

[@DaveChawner]

Aah, thank you so much Sarah, that's so kind, I really appreciate it. All the very best to you with ongoing recovery, and thanks for such a lovley sunny message

[@shivanid1576]

Thank you for what you're doing; we need more people like you. So glad that you're on the road to recovery :)

[@DaveChawner]

+Shivani Desai Thank you so much Shivani

[@ichigomentos]

Dave Chawner Dave, this was amazing. Thank you for sharing your story with the world. I have been battling anorexia and bulimia for eight years now and seeing another guy talk about their struggle with eating disorders, and in such a humorous way; made me really happy. The only word that made me cringe was: addiction. When you said it, I was like "NO!" I have heard that word thrown around to describe eating disorders, and it feels like such a cop out. Like you know, eating disorders are severe and complex mental illnesses, not an addiction. With that said, I know every one who has ED, experiences and looks at it in their unique way, and I truly hope I didn't come off as an asshole. I just get on the defensive when I hear addiction and eating disorders in the same sentence.

[@DaveChawner]

ichigomentos Thank you so much for your really kind comment and feedback, do you mind me asking why that was? If you would prefer to talk privately my email address is [e-mail] - I always welcome feedback and never want to offend

[@shntib]

I shared this with my friend who had an eating disorder and he enjoyed it as much as I did! This video really made him happier; love how you addressed it humorously + informatively. Glad you're getting better! xx

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Shanti, that is so kind. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. If he wants to talk my email address is [e-mail]

[@shntib]

I'll be sure to let him know!

[@sapphohxrself]

This is so special to me. I’m telling my mom about my eating disorder on Thursday. This made me a little less scared. Thank you

[@thatclassygirl5094]

This was an amazing speech! I have never actually struggled with an eating disorder but this stills hits close to home, not sure why... Thank you so much for doing this!

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thanks so much, that means a lot. I really appreciate that, thank you

[@saralopez3884]

You are a beautiful person. Thank you so much for talking about this subject! You are a wonderful human being.

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thank you so much Sara, that's so kind. You're a wonderful human being too!

[@tkoa8700]

Found this just a few days ago and am able to relate to what you shared, so well. It’s brutal and the road is a long one - third stretch so far - but it’s always nice knowing I’m not alone. Appreciated the humor as well!

[@DaveChawner]

You really aren't alone Thomas. Thanks for such a lovely comment and keep going, it really is worth it

[@oldenoughtocrackabrickinyo6366]

he could be a great comedian

[@DaveChawner]

+ObsessedWithMUSE Thank you so much, that's really kind.

[@DAPage-qq8xh]

Dave, you've managed to create something that combines comedic genius with the cold hard realities of male anorexia. I too have suffered with this illness for the past 7 years and can relate to your experiences on an incredibly personal level. I was diagnosed as a 15 year old and came within seconds of losing my life, before beginning my pilgrimage along the 'recovery road' at the Huntercombe ED Unit in Staffordshire. You are an inspiration not only to myself, but to all who have been bound by the crippling shackles of this vile and debilitating illness. Having seen this video at an incredibly difficult time for myself, I can only say thank you for giving me a timely lift and a bit of perspective. I can't praise you enough for your courage and hilarious, light-hearted take on this extremely difficult and traumatic issue. Keep doing what you're doing mate!

[@DaveChawner]

+Dean Page I'm so sorry to hear that you have suffered Dean, but thank you so much for your kind words. All the very best to you for ongoing recovery and all health, happiness and fun to you

[@rebekahjohnson329]

I absolutely loved this talk! Probably my favorite talk on eating disorders I've ever seen. I especially loved your point about breaking the stigma surround eating disorders and finally talking about them. I find it so hard to open up and talk about mine with other people for fear of judgment, but you showed me it's okay to open up. Thank you so much for your humor and honesty 💜

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Rebekah, that's so kind. I know it is tricky to open up, but once you do it's amazing how many people understand. There are so many people out there, who are finding it so difficult to cope. You are not alone and you can learn to cope better with it. All the best to you hun

[@rebekahjohnson329]

Thank you so much! :)

[@sarawiersma4531]

I am recovering from anorexia too, still got a long way to tgo but I am getting closer and closer! You totaly inspired me! For real.

[@DaveChawner]

sara wiersma Thank you so much Sara, all the best with recovery

[@gabigold3387]

You're brilliant! I had such a laugh with this. This is a great way to raise awareness. This was inspiring. I'm my self am trying to kick myself into recovery, but Im scared, so seeing people that are recovering really gives me hope. Thank you and good luck!

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Gabi, that's really kind. I know it can be scary, and it for me, it felt like I was losing something. But, it's been so unbelievably helpful, I really can't recommend it enough. If you want to talk my email address is [e-mail]

[@Insideleagueofpsychos]

I don't think the audience were loud enough! He is fantastic. Had me laughing and crying.

[@danssaddimple9133]

male eating disorder sufferers definitely need more awareness! this was a really good talk, he's very brave :') i love his personality, so funny! and he's handsome too haha. i wish him all the best in life

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thanks so much for such a lovely comment. That's so kind. And right back at cha - hope you're doing OK and all the very best

[@SameShirtDifferentDay]

He's freaking adorable

[@DaveChawner]

Hehe, thanks Victoria, you're making me blush!

[@0RatRoomProductions]

Honestly, this video is beyond eye opening. When I see my therapist on the 10th, I'm telling her what's going on and asking to see a dietitian. That coffee loading bit really scared me. I already had really naturally low blood pressure my whole life and some days, especially when I'm fasting, I drink pots of coffee. I've been passing out, my fingers keep turning blue, I can't feel my hands and feet half the time, and I'm cold and dizzy constantly. And I'm literally just noticing how bad that really is. Thanks for making this, it means a lot to a lot of people, I'm sure. You might have actually just saved my life, I had no idea how bad this was getting until right now.

[@DaveChawner]

+Phenix Gunchou Thank you so much for your honest message Phenix. I wish you all the very best with the therapy and the dietician - it'll be exciting to start getting your life back. All the very best to you and thinking of you when you start getting help

[@daninye8082]

Honestly I needed this so much, it really hit home. You're also hilarious, thanks so much love

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much Danielle, I'm really glad you enjoyed it

[@daninye8082]

Is there any way to contact you? I'd love to know more of your story, if you are willing to share. If not, hope everything goes well for you! :)

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, bless you, thank you. Yes of course, it's [e-mail]

[@MadCupcake38]

Hi Dave, It's so lovely to see a TED talk on this subject that is both funny and serious. I have been struggling with Anorexia since I was 17, I'm 19 now and have been in recovery since January this year and its a daily battle and I'm trying to get myself out of a relapse right now and watching videos like this is so inspiring and reminds me I'm not alone. Raising awareness and tackling misconceptions of this mental illness is so important and I really admire the work that you're doing with MGEDT. I actually know Paul Donald who is the founder of MBEEDS if you're familiar with his amazing work. Really looking forward to your comedy show at the Edinburgh Fringe this year. Me and a close friend of mine are coming to your show on the Thursday :) I'll be the one with the eccentric clothes and the bright red hair haha! Really hope things are going well for you Dave, you deserve it so much!! All the best, from Ashleigh xxx

[@DaveChawner]

+MadCupcake38 Thanks so much Ashleigh, it was lovely to meet you in Edinburgh, please stay in touch and I hope you are well (I might be coming up there again to do the show soon!)

[@ElowenFaye]

He seems so quirky and yet so authentic! I bet that even though not everyone in this room has an eating disorder , still everyone can relate in a way because he's talking about fundamental things such as shame and the fear of not being good enough. Things we all share. And isn't it crazy that shame looses all its power once you stand up and have a solid laugh about yourself? Thanks for sharing your story, Dave and filling the room with your bright colors! :)

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you Pia. What a wonderful message. That's so kind, I really appreciate you taking the time to write it. Thank you so so so much

[@shulifer]

What a lovely guy! This is the humour I needed about this topic. Representation is so important. That little laugh and smile omg, I wanted to hug him lol

[@DaveChawner]

Hehe! Thank you so much, that's so kind.

[@hay.joy.2001]

I remember the first time that I listened to this Ted talk was in 2020 when I was at the peak of a really bad eating disorder myself. And I somehow came across this again several years later, now in 2022, and all I can hope is that this man is continuing to recover. ED recovery isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s still with me even today

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much for such a lovely message Haylie. I just found it half a year later and I'll be honest it caught me completely off guard and I was really touched. Thank you so much for thinking of me - I'm doing great thank you. I'm so sorry to hear you have experience of this, but I hope you're going in the right direction. You take care of yourself and thank you so much for such a lovely thoughtful message

[@hay.joy.2001]

@@DaveChawner I’m so glad to hear you’re doing better! And I appreciate your kind words as well.💕

[@yuvrajpandey3804]

I'm also fighting anorexia.... And your smile is like a medicine for me brother.... !!

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much Adhiraj. Most importantly KEEP FIGHTING. It get easier, honest. Plus it is worth it

[@carryon4123]

I LOVE YOU. I was watching this video in the train, but I still couldn't keep myself from laughing quite hysterically sometimes (whilest trying to muffle it which just made it worse). Thank you so much for putting this disorder into words. I actually teared up at the end because I feel so embarrassed about it all, and it felt really good to hear you say that we shouldn't be. Also, great point about not really changing our mentality around mental health since the Victorian times - EXACTLY THAT. Overall a big thank you and good luck carrying on!!

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Jolien, that's so kind of you (and muffled train laughs are the best!) I know it's easier said than done, but you really shouldn't feel embarrassed to have experience of this - no one chooses to have Eating Disorders or any mental illness, and therefore no one should have to feel ashamed. I hope it gets easier for you, and thank you for your lovely comment, I really appreciate it

[@carryon4123]

Thanks for taking the time to respond! :)

[@philipisphun1986]

Such an important topic and you spoke about it really well. It brings back a lot of memories for me. It really touched a nerve.

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much. I'm so sorry it dragged up a lot of memories. Hope you're OK

[@DollSally]

Dave, thank you very much for this. I've been battling with bulimia for five years now and was feeling really miserable today. You made my day: you're very funny and your courage is admirable. Feeling a bit less depressed now. You know, I often wonder whether there is an actual way out of it or just some tricks to suffer less. What do you think? Love from Italy :)

[@DaveChawner]

+DollSally Thank you so much for getting in touch. I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling right now. I am not medically trained and will be honest am still going through therapy right now. But I think you are right on both accounts - there are definitely ways to suffer less. There are hints, tips and tools in order to cope with this and not feel like you're dragging it round with you all day every day. As for a way out, I think there is and there isn't. I have learnt so much from my experience, and even though some of it is truly a shit experience, it has taught me more understanding, compassion and patience. It is a part of your experience so I don't think you will ever be able to shake it off and forget about it, but that's not a problem. Experience makes us who we are and learning from that makes us stronger. It is an ongoing process, as is life, and for that there is always something to learn

[@tomservo8065]

Thank you for making this video. It's so important to raise awareness about eating disorders and how they can affect anyone. I have issues with eating myself and this video was inspiring

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, Tom, mate, that's so kind. Thank you so so so much, I really appreciate that. I hope you're OK at the moment and managing to cope.

[@ellahennessey6139]

Loved hearing about eating disorders from a guy's perspective! Your talk reassured me that anorexia is a legitimate issue and not simply vanity like I sometimes believe and criticize myself for. Thanks for making me laugh while fighting the stigmas of mental illness, and I hope you remain on the road of recovery:)

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Ella. It really is a legitimate issue. No one would chose to have an eating disorder. It is proven to be a complex psychological, social and physiological disease. It's not about wanting to drop a couple of pounds. Don't listen to that voice illegitimising your illness

[@katharinabuccarello2132]

I actually love the way you're talking about the ed and I laughed so much even if it's such an important theme. You managed it to make the right balance into it. Great! 👏🏻 Also you have my full respect for talking about it and go out with your experience. Thank you!

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much Katharina, that's so kind.

[@alexandragiesbrecht7270]

This was incredible you are an amazing comedian and your message is so important. Thank you.

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Alexandra, that is so kind and can't tell you how muhc I appreciate that

[@alexandragiesbrecht7270]

Dave Chawner a pleasure! You're doing great work:) (the vegetarian+Atkins diet bit cracked me up because that's actually something I did 😅🙄😂)

[@ameliabrittain158]

I love his energy and humor. He is making the most of his life, and he is able to take the bad stuff and make something good of it. Top notch guy.

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thanks so much Amelia, that's really kind of you, I really appreciate it. Cheers for being lovely

[@saravandeneinde]

I love the way you talk about it. It really takes courage to talk about this. I also love the humor. Hope you're well.

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much, that's really kind of you, I really appreciate it

[@dalibofurnell]

Well done for telling your story with laughs and much respect to you raising awareness in this way x

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so so so much Dali, that's really kind of you. Thanks so much

[@marionky]

Famous male anorexic: Daniel Johns, Australian musician, Silverchair - Ana's Song

[@DaveChawner]

I know, beautiful song, he is an amazing ambassador. More people need to know about him. Thanks

[@Kikuye]

marionkentucky Yep, I thought of him too (though I didn't know his name, but knew the song), when he said name a famous male anorexic.

[@trinitylivingston1286]

This is the first person that I actually about that has had anorexia except for one girl. The rest are all fictional characters. Anyway, I feel less alone now than I ever have.

[@WanSyazlina]

love his talk ^_^ he's absolutely entertaining and gave out a good message

[@DaveChawner]

+Syazlina Aasim Thank you, that's so kind of you, I really appreciate that. (look the little emoji too!)

[@francinefrancine6871]

Thank you Dave for this inspiring talk. You are a strong person for talking in front of people about this. You also make it known that Anorexia and Mental Disorders are very Real. Thank you for this. You're an excellent speaker with a great sense of humor.

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, thank you so much Francine, that's so kind of you to say. Here's hoping more people talk out and it all gets a little easier. Thanks so much

[@davidk.1089]

its really interesting to hear your story. I think its really interesting that your able to get up on stage as a comedian. I have a lot of anxiety and panic issues and my way of dealing is avoidance. getting help with that. but anyways, thanks for sharing your story!

[@DaveChawner]

+David K. I think I have no dignity to lose! Thanks so much for your lovely words and I hope the anxiety and panic gets better

[@rahel712]

Love your video, made my day, thanks so much for your honest words!

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much for such a lovely message Marie :)

[@RandomPerson-ml8ej]

His laugh is so cute!

[@DaveChawner]

Hehe! Believe me it can get annoying!

[@evaluna9989]

I love this video! Glad i came accross it! I've recently recovered from anorexia and i think your video was very relatable and informative and very very funny! amazing:)

[@DaveChawner]

+Eva V Thanks so much for such a lovely response Eva, I really appreciate that and all help to you with ongoing recovery

[@chiarabeth2]

I strongly believe the ability to see the humour in one's own struggles is one of the greater forms of therapy. It's a serious issue and needs more awareness, but crafty comedy on serious issues is so important when it is done as intelligently as it is here. This video both made me smile and also made me feel less alone in this illness.

[@DaveChawner]

+Chiara Beth Thank you so much Chiara. That's so king of you, and I hope you don't feel alone anymore. I am glad you didn't find it offensive and hope it helps. All the very best to you

[@deborahbellis2312]

Thank you! I teach this stuff to college students. To see a man discuss this so candidly... beautiful.

[@DaveChawner]

+Deborah McCafferty No way! Funnily enough I am looking at doing schools talks. I would love to do one. My email address is [e-mail] if it is something you were interested in talking about more?

[@deborahbellis2312]

+Dave Chawner it would be a bit of a commute (Northern California) but if you're in the neighborhood... :)

[@LifeIsCrazyButImOk]

I watched this a while back because I was just looking up eating disorders out of the blue. I don't really think I have an eating disorder, but I'm obsessed with counting calories and occasionally I'll eat less than 1000 just because I feel bad about how I look that day. I just don't know what to do about it, and it's hard to even think about talking about it someday. I'm scared because I've gotten dizzy multiple times in public places with friends and it's scary to not know what to say or how to deal with it. I am rambling on, but my point is I really liked how informative this video is, and the comedy was fantastic! Great Job!

[@DaveChawner]

+Rain Mcdoniel Thank you so much for such an honest comment Rain. Beat have loads of resources online and in person. Here is a link - www.b-eat.co.uk/support-services - all the very best to you with ongoing recovery and I hope it gets easier to talk, it really does make it more manageable

[@trinitylivingston1286]

I like how he can be funny, but serious and not offend others. He seems pretty cool, nice, and cute. I have struggled with eating problems and other mental/physical health issues in the past. Some of my former high school teachers helped me through them though. I'm glad that they were around and they were there for me more than my parents. I live in the U.S.A. and mental illness is still regarded as something that you have to be ashamed about at least by certain people. It has gotten better, but I still have some "friends/family members" who act like their ashamed of me because of my mental/physical health and eating problems which in turn makes me embarrassed to reach out. I don't want to be seen as weak or weird for doing so. After listening to your story, I think that I want to reach out for help, so thank you for sharing your story.😗😗

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much for such a lovely message Trinity, and I really can't recommend you getting help enough. It really is so much better. I know it sounds trite, but recovery really is worth it. I'm not saying it's easy, but it is more sustainable and it is worth it in the long run. You should never have to be embarrassed about that which you can't control - anorexia is a mental illness, it's not a choice. Unfortunately you didn't choose to have it I know this is really cringe, but I wrote a book about recovery, it's called 'Weight Expectations' and using comedy and actual tangible coping mechanisms to try and give guidance on how to try and get better. I really hope it helps. You are not alone and you are not 'choosing' anorexia.

[@trinitylivingston1286]

@@DaveChawner thank you, I guess you could say that about any other mental illness though, right because I have a few of them but now I'm not as embarrassed about them.😗😗

[@wannabewoozi6652]

I’ve been struggling with atypical anorexia for a while now, and I’m scared of recovery. But this made me decide I deserve to eat a little more tomorrow, and this video helps me handle the mental stress.

[@DaveChawner]

That's amazing news. You can absolutely do it. Try baby steps, don't overwhelm yourself and try to enjoy it. Thanks so much for such a lovely comment and I really hope you're doing OK. It can and does get easier.

[@wannabewoozi6652]

@@DaveChawner I attempted recovery on my own, and even tho I stopped pretty soon, I still want to thank you for giving me the courage to even attempt recovering. I nearly started crying when I saw you responded to my comment, just because I'm so grateful for the courage you give me. Thank you so much.

[@zebracorn9184]

My English teacher’s grand daughter is 15 and in the hospital with anorexia. Her heart rate is 36 and I’m so scared for her. I guess I relate too much because I’ve had an eating disorder for 4 years and I know how much guilt and pain she must be feeling and god I’m so anxious and I want to cry even though I never even met her

[@baileybray3856]

definitely one of the biggest reasons i got help. love this guy.

[@DaveChawner]

Ah, that is so kind, thank you so so so so much. I hope you are well

[@michellecheaib4385]

Very brave and inspiring to be so confident about this. I aspire to be as confident one day

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Michelle, and I hope you feel comfident to speak out soon. If it makes it easier, I've been talking about it for years, and it really does get easier. Start with people you can trust. If you want to chat my email address is [e-mail]

[@georgiasocratous3560]

Respect! Thank you so much for this.

[@DaveChawner]

+Georgia weasley Thanks so much Georgia, that's really kind of you. I really appreciate that

[@SerenaToxicat]

I LOVED this. One thing: I wrote a book about this illness, and stated how much I hated the term "Manorexia.' LOL

[@DaveChawner]

Thanks so much Serena, that's really lovely. Thanks

[@HaliRaap28]

I loved this and the way you spoke about it. I wish more people could see this. This shows anorexia is a real problem and not just some made up problem for 'girls/models who just want to be thin'. This is a real illness and I believe you definitely opened peoples eyes as well as gave them a laugh like you did for me 😊 I love your attitude and your smile! So cute. Hope all is well your way!

[@DaveChawner]

Thank you so much Hali, that is so kind of you. And, you're right, this is not something that is made up and is DEFINITELY not just something models or girls get. Thanks so much for the lovely support and all the very best to you

[@HaliRaap28]

Dave Chawner youre welcome 😊 all the best to you too! Unfortunately people are close minded and dont see anorexia for what it is. But I believe this video explains it perfectly and everyone needs to see it. Its so much more than weight. Its an obsession and about the control you have. Its definitely a mental illness. It consumes you and I applaud you and everyone else that overcomes it. Takes a strong person to do so.