My Biggest Fear In Life

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Here's the books, they're affiliate links, I get like 50 cents or something. amzn.to/2lsx3Bv - Daily Stoic. amzn.to/2mp6qOf - Obstacle is the way. amzn.to/2mYFBkb - A Guide to the good life.

[@Olegatorse]

I would recommend How to Think Like a Roman Emperor by Donald Robertson if you're interested in stoicism. I find it less "motivational" but more interesting than books written by Ryan Holiday.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

@@Olegatorse roger that

[@manictiger]

I've been homeless. It's worse than you can imagine, especially if it's winter. Shelters are always filled and if you get a flu, get ready to DIE. Your imagination usually exaggerates, but in this case, it probably underestimates. On top of all the horrible experiences, you also learn how little people care about you. As Louis C.K. said, "learning who your real friends are is a HORRIBLE experience"! It's even worse when you figure out that no one is your friend. Your imagination can't understand what it's like to sleep behind someone's business on a smelly couch some other homeless guy used, unsure of if you'll get arrested for trespassing. Your imagination can't understand what it's like to be stranded and starving, to the point you break into a fairgrounds restaurant to find food, only to find a can of coke and drink that, because it's better than nothing. Your imagination can't understand windchill factor -20F. It can't understand the feeling of, "we don't have any space". The sinking feeling in your heart, when you think you're done for. This is it. This is the ditch you die in.

[@hwilliampolenz6713]

@@manictiger A tip, I used to work at a 7-11 and they throw out a TON of food that would otherwise be edible (for reasons of "freshness"). I used to take home a bunch of free food each night instead of throwing it out (with the owner's consent, of course). Now, I'm not saying you should go dumpster diving at a 7-11, but that's what I would probably do if I had to. Another note, Seneca the Younger had recommended pushing yourself as low as you can, ie, going homeless for a while, just to practice it. The idea is that if you can survive without your normal dependencies then you will be that much stronger and that much more prepared for the inevitable slings and arrows of life.

[@manictiger]

​@@hwilliampolenz6713 At the time, I was WAY too far away from any restaurants, where people usually leave food out. It was also down-pouring. Not only did I need food, but I needed a roof. I wound up sleeping in an animal stable, because it was the least likely location to get me caught. I figured someone might be back for that cooler full of sodas, so sleeping in that restaurant would be a terrible idea. That was day 1. I didn't even know about shelters at the time, but if I did, I still wouldn't have been able to make the distance without getting severe hypothermia.

[@paulallen04105]

I personally know no one, who has the fear of not being able to affort health insurance for yourself or family. As a European I can't understand how you can still have this system. It's medieval.

[@marcuskif]

Yes ....yes it is

[@Kia-y5n]

1)never finding love and dying alone 2)not making enough money and/or not having a fulfilling job. I dont want to be a slave to my bills

[@spacemeter3001]

Yeah I kinda have the same fears. 3) Just not being good/smart enough

[@Luis444Felipe]

I've been thinking the exact same thing these days, must be a september thing.

[@HairyPixels]

Don't marry just for love, that's only a part of the equation.

[@siimmy14]

Hairy Pixels also don’t marry just for money. Because money does not buy happiness. You’re in marriage to get through and build a life together.

[@siimmy14]

morena 4) having long term health issues that would stop me from enjoying life

[@floridahiker1503]

Hi Joshua, I’m 61 and I never worried about being homeless until the 2008 recession when I saw homeless people everywhere. I remained fearful of being homeless until I met a homeless man who has lived here in the Florida woods for 12 years in a tent with his dog. He turned down housing because they wouldn’t allow his dog. I deal with depression with hiking, music and prayer. I wish you well.

[@martinasikk6162]

I feel for you, I have also fear for homelessness. I have no reason for that. You have overcome your fear, so be proud of yourself. I wish you all the best. 🇸🇪🇪🇪

[@Dragon-yw4xw]

Your voice is shaking when you talk about difficulties you parents came across. In Chinese Confucian, that's called Filial Piety. You care about your parents, they should be proud of you.

[@FranzBinder20]

The US have to fix their healthcare system. It's absolutely not normal for a rich country that its citizens all live in constant fear of going bankrupt if they get sick. I can't even imagine what feeling this must be.

[@rofrofrofrofrof]

One major political party wants healthcare for all and is willing to pay the taxes involved and the other party is much more concerned with self gain and self fulfillment and is not willing to help all the citizens by paying more taxes. To be fair though, the european countries that do healthcare well are much MUCH smaller than the US, and healthcare is a LOT harder with 360 million citizens.

[@rofrofrofrofrof]

@ source?

[@HairyPixels]

@@rofrofrofrofrof I already work the first 3 months of year for the government, guess who's going to be paying for "free" healthcare? Also please don't compare USA to Europe as 40% of our population is non-white plus an additional 10-20 million illegal immigrants.

[@HairyPixels]

@ Illegal immigration is crushing but our system is over regulated. I can go to the dentist in Thailand and see an actual menu of services and prices so why can't I do that in America? Imagine how expensive food would be if they didn't show us the price until we were checking out.

[@e.l.5402]

@@HairyPixels US economy is the best in the world. You could easily afford Healthcare. What have the 40% non whites to do in this equation? 10-20 million are around 5% of the population. That's almost nothing

[@AcctistaZ]

Guess what. I have the same fears and I’m only 23. It’s only normal wanting to protect your people. Guess that is a global constant

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Indeed

[@R3DI5C00L]

21 here and same fear, as my parents neither have good health nor income. It won't be easy but I'm confident I'll be able to help them, but the fear is absolutely global, most developed nations have both health issues and lower class issues sadly.

[@shortty7618]

Same here bro I’m 23 and I think about the same shit

[@Alfram]

22 here and same for me. I look at the positive side, the main reason I’m concerned for my parents’ well being is because I love them. They raised me well and sacrificed a lot for me. Idk if I can say most families have these bonds, so I’m grateful I have them

[@superretro3907]

@@JoshuaFluke1 24 and feeling the same xD

[@coolwinder]

Thank you for your honesty, I learned a lot from you!

[@BoiledKoolaid]

That man is so lucky to have you as a son. You're an amazing guy, Joshua. Keep your head up bro.

[@catagec]

Thank you for your transparency Josh. I wish you all the best!

[@postnubilaphoebus96]

I'm so thankful the youtube algorithm suggested your videos to me! You don't sugarcoat anything, get to the point, and talk about the real issues. So many people make videos that people want. You make videos that people need.

[@tri-city466]

Good shit here. Better than 100% of the other motivational speeches out there.

[@Theberner0]

Thanks a lot for sharing , you are the most down to earth youtuber best of luck bro !

[@JoshuaFluke1]

No need for luck, that's not dependable lol

[@Theberner0]

😂

[@adeolaogunleye7965]

If you do pay for his health insurance, and things didn't realy work out after doing so, you will be happy that you tried your best. You are still a young man and can lose everything and build yourself back up in a short matter of time because you are a smart individual. These are the memories you will cheerish of him when he is not around.

[@monolithworldline]

Good comment.

[@Lunarek]

Joshua, I love you man. Keep up the good work. We're all rooting for you!

[@xaviercainion7881]

Videos like these always seem to come out right when I need to hear them. I can relate with what you’re saying about fear of not spending time the way I want. Thank You.

[@spacemeter3001]

What I like about your channel is that you're not bullshiting around get straight to the point and talk the truth. I wish all the best for your dad and hope you'll have enough time to spend together.

[@watcbd]

Oh my god, thats my biggest fear too. I've got a good work ethic, I'm frugal and I'm good at saving money but I'm so afraid of some sickness taking everything away from me financially.

[@lukesimms99]

A video with your in depth thoughts on stoicism would be awesome.

[@burakq8149]

i discovered you around 1 week ago which is so late, the thing i can say that - you are the only youtuber who is honest , thoughtful and productive. i wish you the best!

[@Elizabeth-mf3dn]

That’s a huge responsibility. You’re doing the absolute best you can. It’s too bad that sister of yours can’t help out your folks too. It’s not fair for it all to be put on you, but you won’t have any regrets in your life because you put in the effort to sustain them.

[@amit_patel654]

I totally feel you dude. I'm also afraid of losing my dad one day. I lost my mom to cancer in 2015 (it happened suddenly with little warning). Ever since then, everyday I'm afraid of losing my dad, despite him being in decent health. I envy that you're able to financially help your dad too, as I'm not able to help my dad that way atm. I work as a front end developer for a small startup in a small town as a contractor, but it pays just enough to pay my bills (I don't have any savings anymore). I'm planning on getting my JS and React skills up so I can get a better job next year so I can help my dad. That fear is something that is always there, despite that it never comes true.

[@shahabemami4275]

keep going man

[@amit_patel654]

@@shahabemami4275 thanks man. I'm trying, but some days it's tough.

[@zeppelin2032]

Your Grindreel videos are by far my favourites, nothing but truth...we all can relate with truth. Stay strong and keep it up man (Y).

[@metal_helm]

I am a migraine sufferer too. Unless you've had them, you can't comprehend the pain behind them. Sometimes you literally can't think because the pain is too intense.

[@KlassicKent]

I love your first statement on how everyone is going through something. I always tell myself everyone is the way they are for a reason. Whether it’s just a shitty day or something long term, justified or not, empathizing with other people allows you to learn to let things go.

[@SuperMatt2112]

Hi Josh, Man, I really love your channel, I just discovered you today but I really like your calmness and how you offer the voice of logic, in today’s as you may already know, many people are in fact reacting emotionally rather than logically with whatever situation or conversation they may be in, reacting emotionally is never helpful for anyone as it never solves anything. I’m a gay guy so don’t freak out on me LOL, I know you’re not gay but man, so far, I literally love everything you are seemingly about, your calmness, cool, collective and have a depth to you that I really admire and like, unfortunately, these traits are not often found in many people these days and I find this especially true in the gay community, I actually despise the gay community because it’s all so phony and pretentious, for the most part the gay community has very little depth to it and I am a man who needs substance and meaning, I’m not meaning to blanket statement everyone and put them in the same category, but from my personal experience, it has a lot of growing up to do. Anyway, again, I know you’re not gay and that’s cool, but I can still appreciate and admire you just the same, from everything I have heard from you, in my eyes, you are absolutely perfect as well as handsome. Please don’t take offence to this, I just like to point out good people that I witness in this life like yourself. I find you to be a wise man and eager to expand your experience on your journey. I’ll now leave you with the following quote as sort of reflects what you were talking about in this video and I can only hope that it finds you well. Peace… Keep up the great works and messages. "It is only by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure. The very cave you are afraid to enter turns out to be the source of what you were looking for. " ~Joseph Campbell

[@kfzenjoyer]

Hey man, lots of respect for talking about these topics the last weeks. I hope your dad gets better and I hope you can cope!

[@pascal5238]

Thanks for sharing this Josh! My mum was sick for years and I was afraid of the day that she would die. When she finally passed away im March 2017 it was hard, of course, but less painful than I had imagined. So I think the Stoics are right, when they say that our fears and imaginations are often much worse than what it's like in reality.

[@GrowthMindsetProductions]

One of the main reasons why I like your channel is because of how *real* *and* *honest* you are. It is motivating to see you make progress and grow as an individual. Two thumbs up here my friend =)

[@lewismartin4306]

Your videos are so refreshing. Good luck with everything Josh

[@8cyber.muse8]

Thank you for opening up & book recommendations. I can relate to this fear in some way or another. All the best wishes for your father & to the many more moments that you're still able to enjoy with him while it's possible.

[@ampo2004]

What I really like about your videos is that you speak and sound very humble, great man keep the good work greetings from México!

[@alexisidro]

Great book that I will definitely check out, josh. Think Like a Warrior is another good book. My personal fear is loneliness in the long term. Sending good vibes to you and your family for good health

[@JoshuaFluke1]

No worries about being lonely. Become ok with being with yourself.

[@raulh5008]

I remember a professor recommended "A Guide to the Good Life" to me, and it was one of those books that really put things into perspective. It allowed for me to come to terms with some life struggles I was facing at the moment.

[@GrowingForever]

Most people would have bailed on their parents. You are a good person.

[@Kuroganemk2]

He did lol.

[@EnriqueGonzalez-qo5hn]

@@Kuroganemk2 Yeah that comment didn't age well. I can't blame Josh for bailing, though.

[@KeltoiMagus]

Or a sucker, there are alternatives to shouldering the cost.

[@imthejorgej]

Everyone has their own fear, your fear is something I also have. The reality is too harsh at times. You just have to take one day at a time. Something I realized when my life went downhill a year ago. Inhale, exhale and take one day at a time! You can do this Joshua!

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Thats all there is to it

[@imthejorgej]

@@JoshuaFluke1 know that you have a community who supports you!

[@Mainbwana]

As long as you are working on being your greatest version, you have nothing to fear Josh. Your parents greatly appreciate you. The bigger the adversity, the greater the legend.

[@stevevorass]

I truly appreciate your wisdom and advice Josh. Thank You.

[@chessdominos]

Very emotional and real. Thank you.

[@theloniuspoon]

im canadian and this pains to hear me man, your fears are real though and its a bad system that such a hard working young entrepeneur like you should have to spend his lives work to save his parents life, or potentially not even have enough to cover it under health insurance. shit is unfair and unjustice.

[@henrikillsit352]

Almost finished with my boot camp after a previous career, and wanted to share my fear with you, and it shares a relation to your fear. I come from a low rung is society, poor. My parents did everything they could to give me the opportunity to start my adult life better than they did. Naturally I squandered all of their efforts. But as a father now, their is no greater responsibility. Whatever greatness I may achieve in life, the base is always giving an example for my children to follow. At a certain point, you accept that the past lead you to this point, it’s up to you to pick up the torch, relight it since you burnt it out, and carry on leading the way. You can’t control the outcome, you just learned where you failed in a combined history of your parents short comings, to produce a better result for the next generation. Keep your head up, it’s the human condition. The learning curve will always be more rewarding than the perfect algorithm to solve life.

[@martinasikk6162]

Very well written. 🇸🇪🇪🇪

[@smoothbeak]

A lot of good philosophical ideas in this one, nice job Josh

[@salvadorsandoval1720]

Thanks for the book recommendations!

[@abdallahhadjallah1465]

Respect.

[@shibakaneki555]

Hi Josh, Your words are talking to me, two years ago we discovered a tumor in my father's brain, it is a cancer. From this time, I see how heavy the treatments are and how he is changing over time. I understand how you feel, I mean, I really understand because my biggest worry is to see someone else dear to me having something like that, or get it myself. It is something really hard to face, to see your father suffering & changing like this and I still don't know what tomorrow will be made of but we have to move step by step and not over react too fast. One thing I can tell you from my experience: with his cancer, his lifespan was estimated at something like 5 to 14 months. And it is more than 2 years already. So nothing is decided, but what I noticed from my father is that he quickly accepted his condition and stays positive with it. This is his way to fight it and I deeply believe that being positive can really help A LOT. I don't know what to say more to cheer you up but, it is hard, really hard, and you will have your own ups & downs due to that as well and we have no other choice but go through it. You are doing the right thing at the moment and don't forget to keep energy & time for you as well because you cannot help people if you don't have anymore energy. That's a tricky balance to find, but you will find it. Good luck Josh!

[@martinasikk6162]

Very well written, a stoic mindset. 🇸🇪🇪🇪

[@quantummath]

Good for you bro, and for your parents who have brought up a responsible son.

[@apancia]

Would love to hear more book recommendations from you. Being homeless is also one of my fears. Expecially now. My parents work the kind of jobs that can't be done remotely. If they loose their jobs I will be the only one to provide money. I know this probably won't happen but it definitely makes me stressed.

[@toldnuggets1476]

its amazing how similar my own fears are. down to the T. I also did this exercise of imagining myself homeless as the greatest fear. I also fear going back to corporate. I also fear not being able to take care of my parents and/or them ruining me financially.

[@su-1337]

Thanks man I've somewhat similar Frears thanks for sharing and showing the way.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

I'm not sure if I do in fact 'no da wea' I just do my best

[@su-1337]

@@JoshuaFluke1 haha you do.

[@chriss2295]

You are THEIR kid. Just do the best you can do.

[@tulliusagrippa5752]

Sensible as always. Well done lad. You’re a great inspiration.

[@TheLollercaster]

12:23 - ,not just you mate, the older you get, the more people you lose around you and it makes you think that your loved ones are treated the way you want them to be (spending times with them even when you are going through some busy periods etc.)

[@peanutbutterjam9501]

Man, healthcare in the US is incredibly terrible. I live in Canada. I never knew folks in the US had to pay to call an ambulance or go to the emergency room until I watched people in the US film their experiences. The lack of security sounds like it takes up so much mental space.

[@ourtechlife4017]

My sympathies for your father. You do a lot of good work man keep it up.

[@remix2die4]

Thanks for opening up. My biggest fear is that I feel I might never be smart enough to be a great developer, maybe good but not great, especially being self-taught. I understand slower than everybody else. I stay away form JS frameworks and focus only on vanilla JS, jQuery, HTML and CSS. I feel like I am making progress but at a slow and steady pace. If I don't succeed, I ended up jobless and homeless and failure is not an option.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

You got this man

[@remix2die4]

@@JoshuaFluke1 Thanks :)

[@TheDailyNoobs]

Awesome Vid

[@HebrewsElevenTwentyFive]

Very profound video. Thank you for the book suggestions! 🤙🏾 For anyone interested in another great book: Marcus Aurelius' Meditations is incredible!

[@DaggerSaint]

I found this video very valuable, thank you for sharing Josh, have a good one.

[@elizabethchambers312]

Your videos are real & down to earth-I can appreciate that in this modern fake world we live in today. Thanks for the book suggestions, they look worthwhile! Have a beautiful blessed day! 🥰

Sorry to hear about it, I wish you and your family the best. And don't even break a single sweat over Instagram profiles they are objectified and clueless on why and if they are miserable.

[@chad.andersen]

I have the same fear. My dad has had some serious medical issues himself and I’ve been trying to support him and mom as much as I can.

[@jessicasulaiman8295]

thnks for sharing and sharing the books that have helped you.

[@lifewithmissmc]

I share your greatest fear and struggle with anxiety disorder as a result. Thanks for the book recommendations.

[@skywing4992]

Listening to this in class instead of working lol.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

I know the feel

[@Gazaryt]

Every single fear can be boiled down to fear of death. It's all that is, fear of death

[@theahime]

holy shit same bro, i fear all those too. feels relieving i'm not alone, as silly as it sounds

[@gregtheflyingwhale]

1) fear itself 2) forgetting what I fear

[@martinasikk6162]

Anxiety. I wish you all the best. Get tool to handle i. More and more people have anxiety in the western word. 🇸🇪🇪🇪

[@Brucelee89896]

im only 21 and had to buy health insurance for my chest surgery. Is 500$ a month for a decent insurance that covers my surgery. It includes me and my parents

[@HairyPixels]

How much if you paid cash?

[@MjMetalhead]

Well Josh everything DOES work. I'm 60 yrs and taking care of my 87 yr old dad who has alzheimers. Diagnosed at the beginning of pandemic plus he had another heart attack..it ends up flowing very well...there is a higher power involved with everything. Once u accept that, everything flows....

[@martinasikk6162]

Acceptance is a stoic mindset. You are doing what you must the best way you can. 🇸🇪🇪🇪

[@VicenzzoCK]

Wish all the best to you and your family!

[@ashtonwall5518]

Refreshingly real. Great work man.

[@jacobevergreen7074]

So much respect for you. I hit the subscribe button. I hope it helps

[@NikolettaMuhari]

I have the same fears + not earning enough money to start a family safely.

[@AlreadyButtercup]

The Obstacle is the Way is available for free as an audiobook here on KZbin.

[@jessejamesb]

"If your'e going through hell, keep going" thanks, keeping that one

[@leanhnguyet71]

We're lucky to have parents staying around out there with us in this life and they're lucky to have our back contribution with love ...

[@centurion8158]

My biggest fear in life is becoming homeless, everytime i see a homeless person on the streets it freezes my nerves not like they scare me, but the situation they are in oof... nodoby seems to give even a shit about them and it's like if they're not even human beings and part of this society anymore

[@kphorce]

My fear honestly is that won't be able to take care of my parents. I her you man keep your head up. New sub.

[@EduardKaresli]

You're doing great man, keep going!

[@djb6313]

It’s so sad that the US would have a health system that would put its citizens through the choice of pay rent/buy food or get medical treatment. You’re a good man for trying to do what you can for your parents. There’s a wisdom to you that points to you having an ‘old soul’ and love how you still keep growing.

[@meshue1697]

Time is the most valuable thing,, you can give

[@Darkest_of_Winter]

If you ever need to talk, hit me up. Been where you are now.

[@einarabelc5]

Monetizing the fear of not being able to monetize....The obstacle is the way.

[@TheJoker083]

Not a lot of people can post a video talking about something deep like that.

[@PonthusPyronneau]

Josh, you might be one of the most mentally tough people I've seen. I watch your vids a bunch when I go through my rough patches.

[@dragonarch0]

Thats what makes your content so great bro. May God bless you and your parents and hope your fears never come true. As a random guy who is regular here, I can only wish the best for you.

[@JoshuaFluke1]

Thanks anon

[@MaybeSomeoneful]

I have the same kind of fear, I'm racing the clock as well. Thanks for sharing, Joshua. I appreciate it.

[@neilericksson6989]

You can only do your best and make the best decisions with what you know at the time. You can never second guess the future.

[@batman4797]

God be with you Joshua

[@epitome641]

I understand the health issues are the baddest thing in our life HOPEFULLY WE DO OUR BEST FOR OUR LIVES

[@christinea8763]

Josh - I love that you're making your own (moral) choices and looking for solutions while avoiding complaints... although I think there's a difference between whining and complaining and it's the former that's problematic. But: Don't you think you're being too hard on yourself? How are you going to have the time to build your future social circle if you hold yourself responsible for your father's well-being? I want my dad to live forever and all, and it's been hard just moving forward to figure out what I want. I wish you could stop giving time in visualizing your fears and invest more time dreaming about the best outcomes. You know it's our imagination that serves as the first step to materialization. Take care.

[@justinTime077]

Not having time’s a bitch too i hear you. I just try to accept the laws of the universe and find a way to embrace it.

[@JC-qd3ss]

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

[@winaura4117]

I'm just a stranger on the internet, so perhaps this comment doesn't have a lot of weight but I wanted to say that your parents are incredibly lucky to have you as a son. A lot of people out there have not set themselves to the same standards you have and while you might feel that there's so much more you want to provide, what you've done so far is truly admirable. I try to follow the principles of stoicism as well and will definitely checkout the resources you've mentioned ❤

[@JoshuaFluke1]

I appreciate that

[@Morrowindur]

Thank you!

[@yashsolanki069]

I have the same fear and really sometimes don't know what to do?, thanks for sharing and showing way to deal with it🙌

[@rexlex1736]

I lost my job and had to help my mother take care of her two widowed sisters who had severe health problems. After they died my mother's health problems began. I took care of her several years until she died. Sickness and death were all that I knew for almost ten years. The tough times were difficult to endure, but I learned to take life just one day at a time. Adversity is something we will all confront sooner or later.

[@TylerMcWilliam]

I thought my mom was fine and healthy until she collapsed one day. She was gone before she hit the ground. In some ways I think I'm lucky for never having to deal with the long term stress of taking care of older parents, but grinding without their support can be a challenge.

[@loganross4774]

Our greatest fear is fear itself. But I will take away the quote you've shared. Fear is biggest in our imagination I believe that in a situation more opportunities present themselves to use for coping and that we are so much more capable than we give ourselves credit for an important circumstance that requires our all. I have faith in myself and I have faith in you too..

[@muhammadyousaf786]

I understand and I really appreciate your efforts that you are doing for ur dad.. I know it's very hard to face multiple challenges at the same time..but time never remains same.. I hope you will not mind if we as a KZbin family/friends can be a support in your dad medical treatment...we all can be helpful

[@JoshuaFluke1]

It's not what the video is for

[@muhammadyousaf786]

@@JoshuaFluke1 my apologies