My Ex Is ANGRY I Told Him That His Children Are Not My Problem r/Relationships

[@SethUnwell]

15 years old and using the N word??? At a 10 year old???? He knows EXACTLY what it means and intends FULL harm by saying it.

[@trashotaku]

Fr, I wouldn’t be surprised if he grew up to be a neo-nazi and/or went to jail multiple times if he’s willing to use hate speech and physical violence against a 10 year old girl, even more so his 10 year old stepsister

[@MammusaEinki]

the 15 year old did know the N-word. The mother herself tells us that her 10 year old did not know the N word nor its meaning so how could the child know the n-word is a slure? I am not saying it didn t happen only taking ther mother at her word that her child did not know this slur - ergo she must have told the child.

[@SethUnwell]

@@MammusaEinki did you read my comment or just replied without doing so?

[@owl7072]

​@@MammusaEinkiyou realize as she gets older that she would inevitably find out what it meant right? She's 10, if he knows it at 15, chances are she will soon as well if she didn't already, either through school or because he keeps saying it and she wants to know what it means. No matter what, she _will_ find out, and then she's going to sit there wondering "why did nobody stop him from saying this terrible thing to me". If it was Op who told her, not only does it give her an actual fair chance to stand up for herself because she's now aware it's wrong, but it also tells her that Op knows it's wrong and is on her side enough to make her aware.

[@MammusaEinki]

​@@owl7072 You react out of the assumption that this really happened. I however doubt that this ever happened.

[@buckeyenative1365]

I can't wrap my head around someone dating a POC if they dont like POC. And then make a baby with them?! That poor little girl. I hope therapy helps her and mom heal over time.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

White guys like excotic women who are meek and traditional. Thats why they go for POC women thats why incels love asian women. Thats why they get mail order brides. OP wasnt meek enough or he decided he wanted a "real" woman and a "real" family and got a white single mom. Fetishization is just gross racism. Its why the slave owners kept the pretty young black and mixed girls in the house with them. They like that control over their inferior.

[@trashotaku]

Fr, why would you engage in anything romantic or intimate with a race you don’t like? Obviously you’re a POS for being racist but still, wtf?

[@TarynBell]

Happens more than you can even imagine

[@trashotaku]

@@TarynBell which makes it even more stupid and baffling

[@candypettynettie487]

I've seen it plenty of times in my family.

[@Number-vt1fl]

You should never be on the fence when it comes to protecting your kid.

[@MammusaEinki]

neither should you teach your kid slurs.... they are all POS exept the kid.

[@SherriLyle80s]

If -father- sperm donor was any good, he would protect his child from any abuse, but obviously he doesn't protect her and his stepchildren see that as a way to get permission to abuse his child. Shame on him.

[@MammusaEinki]

So you do not think that teaching your child to be racist is abuse? I do.....

[@Fingerscrossedout]

​@@MammusaEinkisure, but thats not the point this person is making

[@c.b.h1151]

I just can't understand how some fathers do this, just shack up with a new family and it's like the "original" kids suddenly don't mean anything to them anymore. It's so sad.

[@denisethompson168]

Story 1: What a POS the dad is, especially after learning the step brother was being racist to his daughter. OP definitely needs to protect her child. The abuse would only get worse.

[@MammusaEinki]

Excuse me but the daughter did not talk about racism before the mum brought it up...... not everything is racist..... and he said the n-word and the daughter did not know what that means? This means that she was told by her mother - manipulated - to say it was racist. If not for the mother she would never have connect the n-word with racism - remember she did not know what it meant and hence could not have connected it to racism unless someone told her...... Shame on you mum and shame on you dad......

[@Me-wk3ix]

@user-gi6cx8ik4s How is someone using a literal racial slur as they commit violence against someone not racist or racially motivated?

[@LivBee.]

@@MammusaEinki Shut your mouth and try using your brain. If a child doesn't understand how to detect racism yet, how would they even know. It's the same way that when a child is acting weird or expressing discomfort, they may ask if they've been "touched" anywhere odd and have boundaries and social norms explained to them. That is not manipulating, that is letting a child know the importance of sharing information in a safe space. Is it okay to call anyone slurs as long as they don't know what they mean? Should OP let her child be raised in a racist and abusive household lest she get accused of manipulation?? HOW CAN SHE TALK ABOUT WHAT SHE HAS YET TO HAVE BEEN INFORMED OF?? HOW LONG WAS SHE EXPECTED TO BE A VICTIM?? UNTIL **YOU** DECIDE SHE'S READY?? This is a mother, this is her child. Her child told her about how she felt unsafe and what she experienced, her mother gave her the proper vocabulary. Shame on you for being such a misinformed cunt.

[@MrJpaynebb]

​@@MammusaEinkithe 15yr old definitely knows what that racial slur means and that's why he uses it towards OP's daughter. Her father knows he used it and is trying to pass it off as no big deal. The same man who doesn't think a 15yr old bullying a 10yr old is a big deal also.

[@keyonwillis2191]

@@MammusaEinki it sounds like you don’t even know what you’re talking about

[@KCohere33]

It sounds like new wife doesn’t want the daughter around and is speaking through him. What a garbage excuse for a father he is. I feel bad for his daughter because she loves him.

[@trashotaku]

Fr, so heartbreaking

[@lynnw7155]

Story 2: The fiancee knows better than anyone that sometime you have to just shut up and put up with your parents strictness until you can legally/safely get out. I didn't date until I left for college because I would never bring anyone home to meet my father (he hated everyone and would have embarrassed me/chased any boy away).

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

No offense but Thats not the same as having all your privileges taken away for a search result. It's pretty easy not to date.

[@Alpha-omega-beginning-and-end]

Im sorry but they could have at least slipped a note under the door saying “we’re on your side, need to act like we are on mom and dad’s side till we can get you out” Not doing at least that makes them the assholes

[@flamelily2086]

Story 1 That poor little girl. Her father is ready to throw her away rather than protect her from her abusive step brother. I am sure his new wife pushed to have the child kicked out of the family. I hope OP gets full custody of her daughter. Story 2. Exposing 15 year old as gay to the entire church is extremely cruelty. Her parents are wrong and the sister needs to be protected from them.

[@poohbear4515]

“Sniff” “sniff” …what’s that smell? Hmm…it smells like ‘favoritism’ with a hint of ‘cruel father’ stank. It’s sad for the daughter, but he did give her the best choice to not go over. That way she doesn’t have to deal with the racist, horrible stepfamily and racist, enabling, horrendous excuse of a father, asshole. I hope karma strikes him extremely hard.

[@trashotaku]

Exactly, he was already a scumbag for cheating on op and getting another woman pregnant, but to then enable his children’s awful behavior towards their half/stepsister is absolutely vile. He can take his “real kids” and F off. I also suspect the AP to have also been terrible to OP’s daughter given how she blew up on op for saying her kids weren’t OP’s problem

[@yaapokuaboateng3075]

Years from now this man will be complaint on Reddit about the fact that his daughter is NC with him 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Kris-wo4pj]

If i was the 15 yr old sister. I wouldnt believe a word the brother and sister in law said to me after those two weekends. Theyd obviously be trying to trick me in my mind to ruin my life. Theyd obviously be just as shitty as my parents and their creepy church friends.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Story 1. In the US, even if granted, terminating parental rights does not erase arrearages. Any back child support is still owed, and future child support must be paid unless said child is being adopted.

[@maskedclover2451]

If they said NOTHING to Story 2's little sister during that trip, they do realize she's never ginna believe they're on her side now right??? They went along with the whole ass thing for a weekend and promised to come back! That poor girl. Her whole world must feel like its been shattered.

[@sushmitaraodesaraju6330]

Yeah, I have a brother like this too. I approach him in tears for help, as I was dealing with immense parental pressure and saw no way out (at the moment), and he blamed me for still living with my parents after graduation. Moving out wouldn't have helped my situation at the time, and would've only made it worse, which he knew. A few years later I tell him that I'd been dealing with depression and su*cidal thoughts for a decade, he acts surprised that I didn't tell him sooner. Just like OP's fiancee, my brother loves me very much and wants what's best for me, but what good is that love if you don't help your sibling out of a situation like that? That poor girl is left all alone thinking she has no one to turn to in her own family. If her parents are monitoring her phone/internet access, it is safe bet to say they've cut her off from her friends and any form of moral support she has. She probably doesn't even have a reliable source of income of her own to rely on. I only hope that she perseveres, and doesn't do something to drastic or fall into despair.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

It boggles my mind that so many people are dead-set in the belief that terminating one's parental rights absolves them of having to pay child support. That would be abusable as f*ck, and if it were true, you'd have a hell of a lot more dads (and some moms) out there making kids, abandoning them and getting off scot-free.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

The difference is who enacted it. Voluntary relinquishment of parental rights can stop or prevent the establishment of child support. However, if the state/ territory takes it then they are responsible to continue prior agreed upon support. Most do not invoke it simply because it would make them look like assholes

[@zimazimna6269]

The last op was infuriating

[@kateemma22]

They really posted this update despite it being clear they did NOTHING. You want claps, buddy? You want some hugs and praise?

[@lisawhereisthecultjam]

Story 2: The heterosexual couple probably made the sister feel even worse and the OP was absolutely exhausting.

[@icecreamnoodles3742]

Weirdest, red flag take on Story2. Any honest ally looking for YOUR benefit after asking YOU what you want, is the best thing you can get in this situation. You seem hyperfocused on sexuality and that is extremely unhealthy. It doesn't matter who we or the people around us love/feel sexually attracted to, genderwise. But about who truly cares for us and who we care about too. Religious fanatics are horrible and the situation can/could easily explode. And you have to be extremely careful when trying to help anyone out of those circles without being cut out entirely, loosing all connection and possibility of helping the kid to get out of that situation. That means making sure you can't be legally cut off from the kid you're trying to help and weaseling into the "good graces" of the people and the cult/church until you have the kid/person with you in safety.

[@tamarasmith9060]

Wow, the kids in both stories are in bad situations. 😢

[@mindyschocolate]

That second story: that poor kid.

[@Me-wk3ix]

Seems like brother and sister-in-law weren't too worried. In the end, it was more about the golden child brother and his trauma than what the sister was going through. If they had stood up for the sister, and the parents then cut them off, at least the sister would have had that much and would have known she was supported. That would have been something at least.

[@nemeinshirwell9981]

Kid coming out story/ Look up emergency placement or plan to go to the church thing and film everything for the court. Film the abuse and sue the church if you can

[@cami1700]

The sperm donor from Story 1 is the type of person that should never be allowed to reproduce. What a piece of crap, disowning his own daughter for the sake of his "new, real family". UGH. I hate men like this. An on the top of that, he's racist and he's FULLY AWARE of what he's teaching his stepson, and allowed the abuse - physical and verbal - to happen.

[@ircillo351]

Last story was so irritating!!!!! I feel bad for the little sister, it sounds like she didn't get any help at all, and now isn't allowed to go to college or use her phone???? This is when y'all need to step up the most!!! Sister's probably thinking you're no better than the parents, and honestly she wouldn't be wrong. Also, fiancé is gonna uninvite EVERYONE from that church??? If you uninvite your parents, sister isn't going either. Fiancé is essentially abandoning her....

[@rox3725]

Rage bait.

[@shadesofjade]

22:27 way to go Reddit! /s way to endorse Christian extremism. I really hope this op realizes that not stepping in at all, they’ve convinced this poor girl that she’s got no one in her corner. If they didn’t really communicate that they were there in support of her being gay, then she will assume they were there to see her humiliated and can and really should resent them for doing fuck all.

[@shadesofjade]

I say the above as someone who went to an extreme fundamentalist church (The Church of God, under the leadership of bishop Nabors, then bishop Jackson and *then* The Chruch of God: Reformed under the leadership of bishop Wilda. I’m a Demisexual Bi-Romantic woman. And the the amount of hatefulness described as love is astounding. They will smile at you face, and tell you that you will go to hell if you don’t do exactly as they say. Oh! And apparently if you don’t weep like your heart is broken, for you are filthy dirty sinner and everything you have ever done *should* be enough to make you sick to your stomach and you should be ashamed for even breathing air. I actually got that talk at church camp at 16. By the bishops’ wife Eva (Hey girl! How’ve you been? What y’all did to my granny [she was a pastor for 4-5 decades and they revoked her license and kicked out all the old people who would have had something to say about them breaking rules, called disfellowship instead of shunning]was enough to send you and all your associates in that little church gambling ring y’all got going on, to hell for *eternity* and I *will* see you there 😊) Eva Jackson. Oh! And this was while I was struggling with the fact that I had been molested at 10, and had asked how to deal with that. I got a resounding ‘I don’t know’ from 5 of the older women. Which…just phenomenal leadership there! /s

[@dianabialaskahansen2972]

Story 2 was horrible. Sounded like they were ready to do anything to help the poor girl, but in the end they did absolutely nothing. There are resources to help LGBTQ+ kids, but instead OP and fiance were just passive and allowed the abuse to continue.

[@ashassassin]

Ugh, both of these just left me feeling so disgusted. The first story, i hope the mom never lets that poor excuse for sperm donor near her daughter again. Protect your child at all costs. Story 2, i agree with the last comments it really feels like op did nothing to support the sister. They couldn't have gone to the bathroom together at lunch? Slipped her a note? im sure the brother could've thought of some way to speak to her... but please op, please, help get that girl emancipated.

[@only1one1me]

Story 2: Silence is seen as acceptance. By showing up, attending the church service, and saying absolutely NOTHING to the kid, OP and her husband just cemented herself as an unsafe person in that kid's head.

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

The golden child did not want to lose his status

[@jakeand9020]

Right, because speaking up and being cut off from any potential contact with the sister would have helped her so much more. You seriously don't understand, him losing his status as the golden child also means losing any potential way to help her. That said, his now having to deal with his own "trauma" and as such being unable to help the sister is more than a little sus.

[@only1one1me]

@@jakeand9020 I don't think he should have said anything to the parents. But quietly/secretly telling the sister she had his support would have been helpful.

[@colbylawson5331]

@@jakeand9020 Speaking up about shit is much better than keeping your mouth shut. If people actually spoke up, the world would be better.

[@jakeand9020]

@@colbylawson5331 Not if the alternative is actually DOING something about it.

[@Zaddy-Lu]

My parents discovered a love letter I wrote to a gf when I was 16. I was homeschooled in an isolated religious community. I was sent through an exorcism (not the catholic kind) then forced to be on house arrest til I turned 18. I feel for the younger sister, but I don't know how much OP & her husband can do to help her except be there as an ear & a shoulder and make it clear to her that she's perfect the way she is, and that they love and accept her.

[@neil999ish]

The op in the 1st story needs to take action now!, before the bullying abuse turns into something worse!!!

[@darcel841]

Terminating your parental rights does NOT remove child support.

[@ruthsaunders9507]

It can. Depends on the circumstances and what agreements the parents have.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Story 2: those parents are pure evil

[@annem7806]

Send an Uber to the church to rescue her. Back door by restroom? Fiancee needs a therapist asap! Tell him space for his sister is always available. Right brother is afraid if his parents.

[@thebigmystery7841]

The racism by white parents is something so wild to me. My husband works at a gas station and had a white lady with a little mixed toddler in line. She starts yelling at him calling him the N word and everyone was really uncomfortble by it. One man who was white (relevant) called her out saying it was awful she was talking that way to her own kid. She yelled that its her kid and she can say it because their baby dady is black. He tells her its still not okay and she rags on him saying "like you have any right to talk to me about it" so this genuis of a man goes "Alright, bet. Let me get my wife." And he leaves, to swiftly come back in with his raging, very black wife. Basically tirades on her saying shes disrespectful, ignorant and every colorful thing you can think of while the lady and her kid ran out a bit in embarressment as she cusses at everyone. Glorious.

[@hodgeelmwood8677]

Imagine calling your stepkids your "real children" and rejecting your own biological child, all because you're pissed at your ex! If his daughter ever gets married, watch this a-hole show up and demand to walk her down the aisle because "it's my right."

[@izzisart]

Story 2: So they did... Literally nothing. Okay, I get not taking her somewhere else as not to risk kidnapping charges, but they dialled it back WAY too much! If they want to be a safe space to the girl, they needed to speak to her before the service and say that! Otherwise by attending, it just looks like they agree with the parents!

[@LooseDeuce]

S1 Update 2, that was a plot twist that would make m night shyamalan blush.

[@TraceyBoyland]

Last story how can the parents stop the daughtfrom going to college. At 18 she can break free from them. Tuition is not a good enough incentive.

[@gogetablack5384]

Her parent was probably gonna do it originally ,but then changed they mind after Fu doing out she was gay. And she herself most likely has no way to pay for it herself. So she probably doesn’t have a way to go to Collage unless some other family members pays for it.

[@TraceyBoyland]

@@gogetablack5384 student loans. It's a bitter pill to swallow but🤷🏾‍♀️

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

She is 15

[@Zaddy-Lu]

"10 years from now he'll be beeming & bragging about the grandbabbies she and her wife have" Is a very optimistic outlook. Some/many of us with parents like that have had our children disowned as well.

[@QueenSix811]

Any link to the second post? I want to keep an eye out for another update. I’m worried about the sister

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee, hope you are enjoying your weekend 👍 Have a Fun weekend everyone 👋🤗

[@aduckofsomesort]

An individual on their own cannot terminate their parental rights to a child. That is why a person who has been baby trapped cannot just get out of it. Both legal parents have to be involved in the termination of rights for one of them.

[@TheDarwinProject1]

Last story, OP said that they didn't get to talk to the sister because she was in her room the whole 1st day, but why didn't they just go knock on the door & ask to talk alone in the room? If they were worried about being overheard in the room, one of them can go talk to her while the other distracts the parents away from being near the room. Or they could have written to each other on paper & OP/partner could take the paper with them? Or even use one of their own cell phones go use a notes app to "talk"? The idea of slipping her a burner might have worked with the right hiding spot, like outside the window in a plastic bag in the gutter or up in the titles of the ceiling. There are tons of hidden space products online that might have worked to hide a burner phone! It didn't feel like OP was putting a lot of effort into helping the sister tbh.

[@invisigoth510]

Last story update prediction: Fiancé is actually gay & the trauma is from praying him straight

[@BreakingSynyr]

My thoughts too. And about how the church members asked how he was doing based on it having happened to him.

[@pippo17173]

Oh boy can't wait for the post to derail on op complaining she was lied and screwed and sister will be forgotten.

[@MyMSLS]

Story 1: Go for the jugular, momma. Let your baby know that you will not stand for anyone mistreating her, including her sperm donor.

[@girl1213]

Story 1: I can see this going to court just so OP can protect her daughter from her step-siblings and her father. I'd for him to try that "kids will be kids" argument on the judge OR prove just how disinterested he is in daughter. But in the end, the judge will tell him and his wife the same thing: that OP is *not* responsible for their kids, just her own.

[@sapphicgeek24]

"We want to help my fiancé's sister and we're going to do that by doing absolutely nothing!" The sister 100% believes that OP and fiance agree with the parents. I understand fiance needing his own treatment, but because they just sat there and watched it play out sister will never trust them. How hard is it to lean over and whisper to her at some point "we support you. We'll help when we can."?

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

How unfortunate. OP and fiancé have some real issues to deal with. Children’s services need to be involved to represent your fiancé’s sister. Painting all Christian people with one brush is just as bad as reprogramming someone for being gay. Is it me or did bro and Fiancée just stand by and actually did nothing to help the situation

[@raz7573]

They stood by and did nothing in the end, unfortunately.

[@gabinathan5499]

COULDN'T OP +HUSBAND CALL THE C.P.S +ADOPT THE SISTER OF OP'S HUSBAND

[@imHurtCobain]

For the second story, that is definitely kidnapping. As long as she's under 18 you can't take her anywhere without the parents permission, even if the daughter wants to go

[@gigga143]

S2: So after all that they basically did nothing… didn’t get her a burner, didn’t find a way to speak to her, went to the church to basically support the prayers to fix her, and most likely she knows they’re around to set the “heterosexual couple” example. it’s no wonder after that OP’s fiancé feels he needs therapy because he know they both failed his sister.

[@LaviniaKing-hz9ue]

--- You are right to protect your child. Dad is a piece of fecal matter. Just get a lawyer and get full custody. Press charges on the 15 year old, when he goes to detention he'll be on the other end of bullying.

[@AceFoxx70001519]

Story1: the step brother committed a literal hatecrime under US law, I hope he gets the maximum punishment, 15 year olds can be tried as an adult.

[@TarynBell]

Sorry 1 broke my heart

[@videofan1010]

I feel sad for the girl 😢

[@JasperCatProductions]

I think the fiancé is gay too…….

[@nightdweller6446]

S1. Nta and the first commentor nailed it. Sounds like the voice of experience, hope OP listens.

[@wdowa82]

Story2 what she describes is not like a church, it is rather like a cult.

[@jessilynallendilla5014]

2: this whole story reads as "we tried nothing and are out of options"

[@redundantnspeechless]

Hahahahaha

[@niyablake]

Terminating your parental rights does end all future child support

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

If it did then so many men would do this especially those who were tricked into paying child support for someone else's kid

[@niyablake]

@@NakaidaBeauzec You need permission from the mom or court. It still stands terminating your parental rights ends child support

[@gabinathan5499]

IN MY OPINION OP IS A GREAT MOTHER SWITCHING TO EXTREME MOMA-BEAR MODE TO DEFEND HER DAUGHTER.

[@paolaaishi6529]

I don't get why OP did not went to police right away, and even doubting pressing charges until she heard about the slur.

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

Op should apply🎉to court to alter custody arrangements

[@zmmmmkm]

Why I am so glad i dont have to co parent. Peace of mind. 😂😂😂

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Child support- The difference is who enacted it. Voluntary relinquishment of parental rights can stop or prevent the establishment of child support. However, if the state/ territory takes it then they are responsible to continue prior agreed upon support. Most do not invoke it simply because it would make them look like assholes

[@CreditR01]

1 - This is horrifying. I'd push for full custody. Ex sounds like a total POS. Take steps to minimize custody before your daughter is seriously hurt.

[@zmmmmkm]

At 15 you know better. I have a 15 year old so i definitely know this

[@Emi_TheWinged]

Last story, that sister not crying or anything is actually scary, to me it feels like she is numb. After something like that +the religious trauma because we know she has religious trauma, since her brother do and he was a golden child. I would be worrying that she is really depressed and or as risk of suicide. This looks very bad. And op + husband didn't help her at all the commentors are right. From her perspective it's pretty much as if op was in on the whole anti gay/religous bs with their parents. They didn't even talk to her ffs

[@sushmitaraodesaraju6330]

That is exactly what I thought. Lack of emotion and social isolation are the biggest indicators of depression. Not to mention that she was outed to a whole community against her will, probably cut off from any friends/moral support she has, and most importantly, her parents just ripped away any hopes of a future or an exit strategy by denying her college. She could still try to apply by herself and go to college, but I'm pretty sure that keeping the entire application process hidden from the parents is impossible. And she believes she's alone in her battle against her psychotic parents. A mental and emotional state like that is extremely dangerous, and pushing through it requires immense fortitude. I only hope and pray that she doesn't do something drastic and perseveres through it. And I hope OP and her fiance get their heads out of their asses and actually help that poor girl.

[@cpaul9269]

S1 - OP is missing the whole point - her daughter is being abused, if she is telling the truth. Get evidence from her, as the commenter suggested. One would think if the phsyical abuse is real, there would have been/would be visible evidence of a fall down the stairs, for chrissake. I would not be ALLOWING my daughter to go there again until this was resolved. Why would OP be upset about him actually suggesting that?! WTF?! EDIT after update - well, holy shit. That poor kid. that evil man. good for OP for following up. wow.......

[@inloveharmonypeace6797]

I am your bigest fan on Spotify 💕💕💕💕 You are my go to on my smartphone :)

[@ArthropodJay]

not me just realizing that youre using kings row overwatch winter as your bg

[@Markee]

I had no clue it was that but the first video I used it someone immediately clocked it 😂 more of a Valorant gamer myself anyway

[@ArthropodJay]

@@Markee nah nah you gotta start slipping in random video games now, see how long it takes em to notice.

[@jennifersilves4195]

Isn't a forced public outing illegal? It's abuse.

[@gogetablack5384]

For people complaining for Op and her husband not talking to the husbands sisters are idiots. It’s sound like the legitimate had no way to do it without either getting caught or with a higher risk of getting caught. If if they did get caught the husbands parents would do everything in their power to prevent OP and the husband to met husbands sister, it is not for their benefit.

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

They still don't meet the sister because the husband wants to maintain golden child status and is now using supposedly past trauma he is gaslighting that's why he either doesn't have any or he doesn't trust his wife

[@pippo17173]

The post legit gives the energy of the husband not wanting to loose his status or in the most nuclear possible update, op's husband is gay and this trauma will get it out.

[@justinburgard4700]

What was the point of the last story for OP to pat himself on the back for helping while not actually doing a single thing to help?

[@johnbradbury8610]

Stoy 1, NTA for what she said, but a huge AH for not removing her daughter from the situation. Instead she asks reddit AITA.

[@notevenlistening6072]

She did. She removed her daughter from the situation using advice she got after reaching out on Reddit. That advice helped her act in a deliberate and thought-out plan, which achieved her goal. How is she the AH for that?

[@SCP01986]

@@notevenlistening6072 Women always wrong according to these types.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@SCP01986 that's bullshit, your answer says a lot about you. I'm pointing out how sad it is that a parent would ask "AITA for saying something mean to my racist ex who is allowing my daughter to be abused? If your child is being abused, you don't wait to see what the internet says.

[@johnbradbury8610]

There are a lot of dumbass men out there. Unlike you, I call out both genders.

[@thehoogard]

That one commentator writing mission-directions as if voice-recording was not a thing. Jesus.

[@lmyr101]

I'm still reeling over the...it's not relevant comment...whaaaaat????

[@Kattlarv]

While it would UTTERLY scorched earth: Being a butthole: I WOULD have told my daughter to break the other kids stuff, eye for eye. And: Handed her pepper spray or something. Blast the stepson. Where did she get it? Her dads ofc. Whoops! Not my problem! Though: As said: Would have a likely chance to backfire hard.

[@mbyerly9680]

The commenter with the suggested text places too much attention on the fact that it is a text. That's a red flag that she's collecting evidence. Don't show your hand.

[@LeannahW]

well that last one hurts...I also grew up in church. But yeah, let's just say I was 14 and made to be a slut/awful/to blame when a 21 year old guy posted a pic of me in a bra. I tried to get it taken down but it got circulated and I was punished. I carried that for years

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

why keep the child support and the kids goes to see a toxic destructive male with abusive steps with the B he took up with. because that rotter teen boy will escalate. child needs to be taught she can love him but he's dangerous and not to be around

[@Eva-Libi]

On the second story, the prayer thing. Wow! I am sooo angry right now. I am a Christian (follower of Christ). What that dad did to his daughter was nothing to do with prayer. It utterly disgust me. John 17 now that IS prayer. Anything to do with God and His blessing us with prayer IS 100% voluntary. You DO NOT frogmarch a 15 yr old who is vulnerable in public to be “prayed” for. ODL (oh! Dear Lord) help! One of the reasons Our Lord Jesus Christ came was to reveal To the people who believe Him THE Truth. One of said Truths IS thanks to Him, the Spirit of God IS here in Jesus Name, to lead us into all truth, to teach us all things, to show us what is to come. And by Him, we cry out Abba Father to God. We have personal access to all of God. So if the dad had an issue about his daughter he should have: fed himself on Jesus (the word of God) and prayed until he received revelation from God himself. But what did he do? Ran straight to human being. Which IS something God teaches us not to do. Then punishes his 15 yr old daughter for being human, because EVERYBODY struggles with their sexuality. Does the dad expect any reward from his daughters Abba Father who IS God? I hope not because what God teaches us IS if you cause one of these little ones to sin against Him, it would be better for you that a milestone be put round your neck and you be cast into the sea. Unfortunately this is what religion ends in because they always leave out/forget the most important part: God, Himself, who He IS, that He has defined Himself for us. We get to accept or reject. God sent His Word in the flesh for us, our Lord Jesus Christ. He has already been and the Spirit of God IS already here. WE have the privilege of choosing Him, He IS Perfect and would NEVER force Himself on anyone. Shame on these parents, they are in desperate need of help, the Holy Spirit kind, I hope they wise up and get Him. Nothing but Love, Peace and healing to OP and his sister, IJN Amen I promise you sunshines, God IS not the problem, we neeps (silly and messy humans) and our lack of revelation on who He actually IS the real problem. That can ONLY come directly from the Holy Spirit IJN Amen and Amen x Much Love & Peace, Peace to ALL from Scotland

[@MammusaEinki]

Story 1: Wouldn't a 10 year old who repeatedly got punched kicked and pushed down stairs have some bruises? the mother did not even mentioned that the kid had bruises. Just don't be naive.

[@DoveDay]

What lol why would she need to say her child had bruises it’s implied that she would have bruises duh I’ve seen your comments ur just a racist so kindly stop

[@selinalee1077]

The thumbnail has me laughing hysterically and it’s not even that funny

[@kiraalexandraruizburgos1236]

🦐

[@carboy101]

The dad is definitely a POS but what kind of mom doesn’t know the man she had a kid wit didn’t like her like that? Mom doesn’t sound that bright and dad doesn’t sound that bright either

[@fink2878]

This isn't a well discussed topic but can be very common - there are a lot of biracial not just white man, black one but also black man, white woman that will be in a realationship but the moment they break up or something goes wrong the they will start with the slurs and hate speech. I have had this happen to me and heard this from others but at the end of the day it can be experienced but we can't aautomatically assume everyone is like that. Especially when some that are racist don't show any signs until things don't go their way or they don't feel the need to hide it anymore.

[@sAMiAm1]

Because they hide so well. I was closed friends with a couple for years until shit hit the fan and we were all mind blown. The guy found out online, he showed it to us all. None of us got racist vibes from her. & They have a child together as well. SMH This stuff can really make you paranoid afterwards.

[@aduckofsomesort]

They really would not have been charged with kidnapping.

[@jackieg5661]

Love your videos.. But you read so many comments

[@BisexualBeauty]

The first story...talkin waaaay too much...just send a text saying exactly what u said b4...ur son is abusing our daughter and let him go from there but constantly sayin IN TEXT...IN TEXT is sus and he may catch on.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

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[@erikahammer4337]

First?

[@daniellebenfield95]

Second story..... There is absolutely nothing wrong about those parents wanting their child being gay. Mind your own damn business and let the parents be parents. You have no right to interfere. Good for her parents.

[@andrewi.crocker8675]

What are you talking about? Did you not understand the story?

[@aaronmccloskey7108]

@@andrewi.crocker8675 Danielle is always here making backward comments, I'm just glad as a society we have at least realized lobotomizing kid because of internal wiring isn't helpful. hopefully someday people like Danielle and the 2nd OP's Mil/Fil will realize all their doing is traumatizing kids. until then baby steps

[@NakaidaBeauzec]

And the prize for prime idiot goes to Danielle who is projecting again, definitely needs to learn comprehension or therapy maybe both. The parents were against the gay child you numpty