My Ex-Wife Is Ruining Our Lives

My Ex-Wife Is Ruining Our Lives
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[@Jackisthebestdog2023]

This guy will get to the point sometime around 2040.

[@kayem9909]

😂😂😂😂

[@FreeSpirit47]

He's going into story after story to paint himself & current wife as victims, painting his ex-wife as the wicked witch of divorce.

[@Dragonfruit260]

bwahahaha 😹😹😹

[@mio.giardino]

That’s what the x2 playback button is for 😉

[@theoriginalkrabbypatty]

Ex-wife doesn’t want you but she doesn’t want ANYONE ELSE to have you! My husband went through the same thing and I never engaged and he didn’t either.

[@santafilipina9020]

This is why I am scared of dating again because of crazy exes. I don't speak to my exes -- period. Once, I dated a man who still had some sort of an entanglement with an ex and it turned me off. Bye bye!

[@vidareggum6118]

I agree. If you don’t have a child together, there is no reason to keep an ex in your life.

[@TisHotMessHistory]

He called on the behalf of his wife and her feelings about his ex-wife, but he should have been calling for himself. His new wife will not be happy to hear him say that he still wonders about what could have been with his ex. And poor Dr. John - he just wanted this guy to get on with the story!

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

Yes!!!

[@ammeg3404]

Facts!!! From the time he started I was saying he’s a bit too concerned over this petty behavior and quite honestly it’s giving “relationship overlap” energy. He’s trying to use 2021 to make her look crazy but he wants the attention. If she eased off what are you calling about in 2024? Stchuuups!!!🙄

[@shanchan8247]

Hes not really over his ex, he was cheated on and still wants to know why. He needs to understand that there isn't always going to be closure. And sometimes people do cruel things because they can. He needs to stop looking for an answer from his ex. His current wife is going to get tired of being his afterthought

[@AshleyLebedev]

Agree.

[@Prismalpink]

Exactly. People are never gonna tell the truth and people shouldn’t be so naive. I spent years thinking I could talk things out with friends and get issues resolved like in novels and stuff, but that’s just not how reality works.

[@yambagnelson9987]

Ex probably wanted to be with someone who could tell a story in under an hour.

[@texasdazzlers]

This guy has the storytelling skills of an 8-year-old…and apparently the maturity of one as well.

[@BREEZYM6015]

I know what I want to say but it often doesn't come out right. What can I do? 😂

[@alluringbliss4165]

That s not nice

[@TheNomadicSunny]

@@alluringbliss4165welcome to the internet

[@ADHDpancakesurprise]

Love it when the first comment I see is such a succinct summary 😂

[@MostBoringNameEver]

Ugh SAME!! It's terrible. ​@@BREEZYM6015

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

and the new wife probably can’t stand the old wife because she knows HE’S NOT OVER THE FIRST WIFE! It would surely bother me too, but I’m smart enough not to make that mistake!

[@Spike_is_awsome]

Idk I think we could have used more backstory

[@eurekahope5310]

A few more details such as vehicle type, when the home was purchased, if the neighbors were home, etc. 😉

[@danieltanner5804]

Agreed. How old are the kids, do they still share custody, if so, with how many of the kids. Etc

[@grateful7420]

😂😂😂

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Yeah Dr. John did too! 😂

[@yota8325]

​@@danieltanner5804he said 2 of the kids live with him and 2 are grown and live out of the home

[@gilbertraya8344]

Underlying issue is that he is a weak man, got cheated on, and still can’t stand up for himself. It’s ruining his life and every life connected to his life. His ex wife continues to disrespect him EVEN THOUGH SHE CHEATED ON HIM.

[@user-vj4vl7le4y]

What do you expect? For her to disrespect herself? Yeah right, women always blame men. Then date some black dude and they bothe become racist and the rest of us get blamed.

[@jji7667]

Yowza. What you say is probably true but damn you brutal bro. Let the man heal.

[@BamaBeautyBackup]

Nailed it!

[@LaFlor718]

@@jji7667i think the hard part here is, how is someone going to learn how to heal without acknowledging certain weak points and addressing them? Sometimes a little tough love can go a long way.

[@patriciaalbertson5183]

Cheating is disrespect!

[@mustangthings]

This story is boring me to tears.

[@JustinCase780]

I fell asleep and I am at work.

[@semosancus5506]

This guy is a whiner. I'd probably like his ex.

[@7RB373]

omg, ME TOO! on and on and on....

[@lawnerd80]

I put it on 2x and skipped ahead and finally gave up at minute 9 something....

[@KathleenMcNe]

I gave up and stopped listening at 1:45.

[@lav7161]

Great advice from John. Stop letting it be a problem by completely dismissing everything she attempts.

[@cajbaf]

I agree in stop letting it be a problem but dismissing everything?? Absolutely not..I would take every legal action against her that I could do to show her I/we are not going to continue to let this go on.

[@lindawilson4625]

I think the guy still has feeling for his ex. There lies the problem.

[@elainewalkden1723]

Example of why I would never have dated a single father.

[@laladesy7352]

Agreed

[@GAFB1122]

What if the single Dad's kids are all adults. Does your rule still apply?

[@BREEZYM6015]

​@@GAFB1122I'll date a single mom if her kids are 18 or older. She's not a single mom at that point.

[@GAFB1122]

@@BREEZYM6015 I wonder are you are parent? I understand your comment but you are off base about one thing. Parents are always parent regardless of how old their kids are. So a single mom or single dad of a 25 year old is still a single mom or dad. So I ask again, are you a parent?

[@marksyoutube2244]

Yep, I feel the same way about single mothers.

[@bettysmith4527]

I will never understand why people marry, have a miserable divorce, AND THEN SIGN UP FOR IT AGAIN!!

[@dream_on_sammi]

I know! I did it once and that was enough for a lifetime. It’s been 26 years since my divorce and my ex passed away two years ago. He was on his third marriage. Me? I’m one and done.

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

Agree! It wasn’t all him, I’ll admit that…I choose peace from now on, for me that means I’m alone…I refuse to take that risk ever again.

[@cajbaf]

​@@dream_on_sammi Yep 32 yrs since my divorce. I swore, never again

[@charlottehawthorne2664]

Often because toxic people think everyone else is the cause of their issues. Then remarry, remarry, remarry. Or day, date, date blame everyone else and don't realize they're the common denominator. Rather than work on themselves they're constantly looking for a "partner" will tolerate their bullshit. That's why old men date young women whom are too naive to understand their partner is abusive and controlling, and tolerate it for alot longer. Until they get older and grew sick of it, divorce. Then he looks for his latest victim... oh new wife/partner. There are women who do this too. I've known of a woman who was on her 5th husband...

[@raspberrykissable]

People are free to choose. One isn’t more right lol

[@yogaqueen1527]

How did this story make it on here? Staff dropped the ball

[@Ja50nkAt]

She cheated and she's still making him unhappy afterwards! This woman is a witch! (B)

[@stephaniegarcia-ty5my]

Never get involved with someone with an ex like this. Please run

[@Kimberly-bi3wu]

This is why EVERY divorce should wait 5 years (or more) to remarry or date. It takes time to heal and untangle and get therapy and analyze the breakdown/your own issues. Also, if there is children, they will also benefit from the time to heal and just "be" prior to merging with a new step parent/family. (I say this as someone who is year 7 from a divorce and has yet to date because my kids are my first priority).

[@JudePi-jx7yo]

Aparently most people who remarry do it within 3 years.

[@lauriep6831]

I agree with you. I think many parents go for relationships soon after divorces to fulfill their own needs/wants, not those of their children.

[@RepentImmediately]

People who have kids should not be dating. Why is it so hard for people to focus on the kids they forced into the world?

[@elkejansevanrensburg4692]

Facts!

[@jborrego2406]

​@@RepentImmediately lot them , want to date to have there so called bf /gf to pay crap for there kids, an be free Nanny babysitter

[@9liveslisa]

Scott is too nice. There are times in life when you need to draw a line in the sand and set boundaries and stick to them. Chances are his wife is never going to change. Don't put up with her bad behavior and drama anymore.

[@TheSunshinefee]

learn from this, women. before you date someone ask yourself if he has emotional luggage. has he dealt with it? is he still angry about how his life went down etc.. if not, you will pay the price and it will cost you your peace - happiness - wealth, beauty, and more.

[@GAFB1122]

Hey sunshine... I fixed it for you. And you're welcome! (I call out one sided comments regardless of who [man or woman] is making them.) learn from this person. before you date someone ask yourself if the person has emotional luggage. has the person dealt with it? is the person still angry about his or her life went down etc.. if not you will pay the price and it will cost you your peace - happiness - wealth and more

[@TheSunshinefee]

@@GAFB1122 no need to fix it. write your own statement if you want to teach people something. I wrote this for women and that's why I wrote it this way. i am not interested in teaching men !

[@alluringbliss4165]

True. He was not ready

[@GAFB1122]

@TheSunshinefee Ahh so you're one of "them". Got it. There is no hope for your kind.

[@anthonyamato6367]

Dating someone with baggage, emotional or not, is actually a much bigger risk for men.

[@KathyClark-us9op]

Something don't add up. If she cheated, she wouldn't be upset. I don't think the whole story is being told. Show up at the wedding and events without your current wife. It is for your kids not for your wife or ex. You will be hurting the kids.

[@eljoshsfgaming6335]

She’s probably upset that he’s a weak man and can’t stand up for himself. It’s a power trip type thing. She could also be a narcissist. When narcissists lose control over situations or people they get angry and lash out. He’s “moved on” (not really, but he did get remarried) and in her eyes that’s her losing control. So she bullies him and his new family in order to maintain that sense of control, since she knows he’s a weak man and won’t do anything about it.

[@yota8325]

No cheaters can definitely be pissed when their ex moves on. Cheaters aren't usually nice people so ofcorse they will try and still have control over there ex if they can

[@RepentImmediately]

You've never heard of man cheating and still wanting to control his spouse?

[@frankjesusd]

Nahh my ex cheated on me and she is still pissed about the divorce. She's pissed that I filed for divorce, stopped spoiling her, and I'm having a better relationship with a prettier, smarter, and more educated woman.. even though she told me that I'll never find someone better than her.

[@ivankrushensky]

Not sure where you're getting this idea that cheaters can't be upset. I had a cheater gf (just a wife, not a gf) that I left. She promptly got knocked up by some other dude (not the one she was cheating with), but for years after she had this baby and was married would randomly show up at my place, contact me randomly, on and on about all kinds of turmoil. She never took it to a level that required a restraining order, but it was obvious that she was upset I had moved on. Cheaters have low self esteem- they have no problem cheating, but God forbid you move on with life.

[@laurasaura4944]

Ee I can't I'm moving on havnt got th patience for this 1 lol

[@WillowB-dn6if]

OMG, this is painful to listen to. I haven’t a clue where I am in this story, I give up 2:21 into this 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

[@guzlemuzle]

The thumbnail and the title don't correlate...

[@BREEZYM6015]

The thumbnail is just a picture of Dr. John. Not sure how that doesn't correlate.

[@LipstickNWhiskey]

@@BREEZYM6015I think they mean the title in the thumbnail and title of the video.

[@nicole09999]

There’s way more than the guy is saying. Doesn’t add up. He did something to tick off the ex.

[@user-pn6rd6fv9w]

If someone rambles on and on like this and not getting to the point they’re not telling the whole story

[@analozada9475]

This is why I NEVER dated guys with kids. Too much drama and baggage. Specially when I never wanted kids myself. And even if the ex is super cool, it’s still lots of chaos and you’ll never be a priority as a spouse cuz the kids will come first as they should.

[@19katsandcounting]

My bestie married a man with kids. 20 years later, she wished she hadn’t. She brought on a lot of her own problems. Women always think they’re better than the ex. lol

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

They don’t get along because he’s a baby…she’s never going to change, they are never going to like each other. This is stupid, let it go.

[@dcantrell5584]

Spit it out already!

[@sharonscain7673]

You cannot control what your ex does and how she acts! You on the other hand can control what you do! Don’t expect your children to pick and choose! She is her mother and you are her dad! You are putting your children in the middle and in the hot seat! Your children love you both! Just love them back!

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

The current wife has anger towards the for former wife? He’s triangulating…and he’s in a sh$&y marriage and now blaming the former wife…yet again!🎉

[@RepentImmediately]

He's extremely feminine.

[@neisci]

No one needs to hear all that! Get to the point Sherlock. The now wife, should have known better than marrying a man with baby mama drama. With that said, he enjoys the chaos. Some people enjoy having others fighting for their attention, and this is one of those cases.

[@angiefreeman240]

The sad part about dealing with horrible exes is that is makes you long for the day your kid is grown so you don't have to deal with them (the ex) anymore instead of just enjoying their childhood

[@anjibrazell]

Nope.

[@dakotasikes6690]

It shocks me he brought someone around his kids after 3 months they didn't date long enough for this to fully sink in for his new woman and I can almost guarantee if she could she wouldn't have married him , I'd love to hear her side cause I bet she's mad at him and the whole situation

[@BenadrylBillFPV]

Love your show, actually just picked up building a non anxious life and I’m already halfway through in a day 😂 amazing read

[@laladesy7352]

I completely agree with JD. If you don’t have a legal agreement expect chaos. Her turning around claiming the other kid isn’t illegal and it seems like that’s what he’s bitter about. Blame yourself and move on.

[@mermaid2014]

Correct, it wasn't written down and he got screwed.

[@ivankrushensky]

Or just modify the decree. It should have been in black and white to begin with. In order for it to be worth his time modifying, he would need to be saving loads of money on his taxes. But from the sounds of it, these kids are grown. So kind of a moot point and waste of time by now.

[@danieljohnson4418]

Me: "What time is it?" Caller: "Why don't I first explain how to build an analog clock . . . ."

[@anitalegrange9956]

Great video! Remind people life can be that simple

[@denisesalles7248]

This isn't new - I saw it yesterday. They guy is very whiny.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

Two or three highlighted segments from the full show appear the day after the full show. If you go to the home page you will see the pattern.

[@denisesalles7248]

@@davinasquirrel7672 TY!

[@BrettMaverick]

His wife ruined his old life and is now trying to ruin his new life. I think it’s fair to be a bit whiny

[@Hatbox948]

My daughter married a guy whose ex was a constant problem. She even moved about 1/4 mile from them and stopped by often to visit her son. It destroyed the marriage.

[@RepentImmediately]

She was trespassing and they allowed it.

[@Hatbox948]

@@RepentImmediately He did. He always took his ex's side, and so did his parents. You wondered why he and the ex just didn't stay married.

[@19katsandcounting]

@@Hatbox948sounds like he had two wives. Bonus.

[@fg6418]

I wanted to hear more of the drama that led to the restraining order

[@skateata1]

I don't have any crazy exes thankfully. But I'm scared of getting one if I start dating again.

[@sassysister8552]

I'm sorry dude Spit it Out!! I shut it off getting lost, staying engaged.

[@orphanl]

I would love to watch more of those stories, but I never realized how hard it is apparently (and under stress) to tell a story.

[@sandramorton5510]

Good advice Dr.

[@jhonilocran6077]

It sounds like hes the one still upset.

[@nell6913]

It's like Super Chicken always said 'You knew the job was dangerous when you took it Fred'.

[@heidigone]

I wish I could get help with something. My ex's mother, who I love dearly, is 80 years old. My ex died a few years ago, and she misses him terribly. She talks about him a lot, and she's sad that no one ever brings him up. She's afraid that people forgot all about him. I don't want to tell her how abusive (sexually, physically and emotionally) he was, to me and many others, because that will hurt her more. He was absolutely evil!! My problem is that I love her so much, and I talk to her regularly, but hearing about my ex just triggers my pain all over again. I don't know what to do.

[@semosancus5506]

She raised a monster and you love her?

[@shanchan8247]

She knows her son was a monster, she wants you to lie and tell her he was a good boy. Don't go there!

[@LB-gz3ke]

I'm sorry for everything that you experienced with your ex. My mother is also 80. She sometimes does and says things I don't like. But she isn't going to change. And I cannot walk away from her, she is my mother. So, I think if you want to keep loving your former MIL, you can just tune her out when she glorifies her son or try to change the subject as quickly as possible. Or you can tell her you divorced him for a reason and don't want to talk about him. Which will probably not work. Or you can walk away. It seems harsh, but she is 80. She isn't going to change.

[@tbrigorman]

Just tell her you can't talk or hear about him... it's hurts you too much. That's an honest statement.

[@heidigone]

@@LB-gz3ke This is excellent advice. Thank-you!

[@CuteNP]

I think callers need to be screened before they’re actually allowed on air. Some of them are so painful I can’t bare to listen. I’m clicking out.

[@sherryd3299]

His new wife signed up for this. She new the first time they picked up the kids together and the ex tried to break them up. She has lost her right to complain. She new he had a crazy ex from the beginning.

[@BigHeartNoBS]

SET BOUNDARIES AND DON'T BE A NOODLE

[@fancynancy2888]

Noodle 😂

[@BassBwoy3]

Not gonna lie, the more of these bitter divorce/child involvement situations I hear, the pickier I get with any woman I even think about dating. Divorce with kids and a bitter ex-wife sounds like a life sentence.

[@JustinCase780]

Discovery ID episode in the making.

[@cajbaf]

Love that channel...will be on the lookout 😂😂😂

[@omotayosatuyi252]

You watch that channel to? What's your favorite murder documentaries?

[@FreeSpirit47]

The whole exes ought to get along with each other is assumed. It can happen with some effort; it rarely happens naturally. In my case, I'm a polyglot working as a linguist. The ex-married a woman with such a thick accent, most people can't understand her. I'm sure she's a lovely woman, I don't want to feel like I'm on the job, trying so hard to understand her. The ex-wanted me to become friends with her after they started shaking up. It would have been torture to try to understand whatever she had to say. So I told him: 1. If you want me to go out to lunch with her, you will have to pay my rates, it will feel like I'm at work. 2. You two are shacking up, not married. If I shack up with someone (not likely) would you want to go to a ball game with him? He never asked me again. Then, they got married. The new wife was jealous of mine & the ex's daughter. He had promised to help our daughter with college. He let the new wife talked him out of it. Our son lost his job in an economy downturn. The new wife talked the ex into NOT allowing our son to stay with them temporarily. I found out he was couch surfing from one friend apt to another. The second wife is very financially comfortable, she & the ex have a very large, beautiful home. I only had 2 bedrooms. One was my BR, the other was a sitting room. I turned it into a bedroom for my son to stay in until he got on his feet. The exes wife never wanted children, never had any. She seemed to be jealous that the man she married did have children. Me? I stayed as far out of it as I could while also helping my kiddos when they needed it. It's not always the first wife who is the bad person. According to what the ex & wife # 2 said about me, they said I was jealous of the 2nd wife, not true. They told a few of our mutual friends that I abandoned our children which what I did was the opposite. I helped our children when the ex-turned his back to them to please the second wife. Such a tangled web. Moving 600 miles away from that mess was the best thing. I'm still there for my children, just want to stay as far away from the ex & his garble speaking wife.

[@user-st6nt4ou6f]

Why dies rhe cureent wife have to settle the ex? Its his problem. He should handle this😡

[@thenutrientwhisperer3700]

It’s best to refer to the X as the X, not my X. Using the phrase the X makes it once emotionally removed. It’s much better that way.

[@rgfrank1668]

This man should never write a book.... more frustrating to listen to than the actual problem

[@JETTSTACHI]

Why do you keep saying that's what the new wife signed up for? Who signs up for misery?

[@RepentImmediately]

Women who marry men with kids.

[@sharonscain7673]

Misery loves company! Choose not to be her company! You cannot fix or change another person! Live your life and be happy! Let your ex be her miserable self! Be an overcomer!

[@countcoupblessings979]

I had to let go of an opportunity to be with beautiful hearted person... because his ex is certifiable, lives to create narcissistic , sociopathic suffering...and 2 of her young adult kids believe & act from her flavor of vindictive. The level of abuse had been phenomenal. There just was no way to have boundaries enough, for it not be living in a mine field.

[@19katsandcounting]

Glad you wised up for yourself and let him go. You can’t save everyone. Some people have a social cancer that is malignant. As you know cancer doesn’t discriminate.

[@jamyengland8895]

I’m a stepmom of three children (24, 20, 18) and one biological child (21). My husband’s ex-wife and I are decent to one another because of the kids. I have my opinion about her and things can get challenging. I’m so thankful we can get along.

[@19katsandcounting]

Hope it was worth it for you. I don’t feel sorry for women who marry single dads. The ex will always pull rank over you no matter what delusion you concocted in your head about you think you’re better than her.

[@Guitarlvr01]

The new wife sounds like she gets really riled up by all this and that’s not good.

[@cajbaf]

It just sounds to me like this guy needs to grow a pair. If he was this wishy-washy in the first marriage, I can see why he is divorced.

[@lavenderandgold8588]

this is probably a dumb question but i can't figure it out! how and where do you watch his show live?

[@RepentImmediately]

It's not aired live. The edited shows are uploaded as premieres which you'll see the date and time for if you subscribe.

[@lavenderandgold8588]

@@RepentImmediately how are people calling in then?

[@user-yb9ef8in8p]

Why does he care if she hates her?

[@tshandy1]

But wouldn't you be far more worried if your wife and ex-wife were besties?

[@L4anK.]

I think it’s important for you guys in the comments to approach this with compassion. He struggles with storytelling here but he made the effort to call to try and fix things. He messed up in thinking this leans more on his current wife and ex wife. And also, he’s not fighting the advice John is giving him. Both can be true

[@countcoupblessings979]

No one has to like being targeted. Maybe it'd help , to have a stronger sense of his being the shield for the new home life . For him to be more Pro active and supportive . She's probably more upset because she may feel alone in her position.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

Stop reacting to her baiting. He says he is not, but he and new wife clearly are reacting in whatever way. There is a technique for dealing with narcissists (not saying the ex is one) called 'grey rock'. You do not react at all, no matter how many buttons they push. Eventually she will have to stop, because it gets her nothing, no reaction from him and new wife, and it begins to look really silly just doing the one sided thing. He and new wife have to change the situation, and grey rock is the way to go.

[@ivankrushensky]

You are 99% correct. My wife was previously married and he acts exactly like this. Been ignoring him for 12 years now...... yet he still continues to find ways or reasons to try to push buttons, generally surrounding the child. And he's still being ignored. Why he continues, who knows? But the more you respond to a person like that, the more they will carry on. That part is correct. Will they ever fully stop? That remains to be seen in my situation. There will always be a time where we need to be around each other- wedding, graduation, etc. unfortunately.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

@@ivankrushensky Yes, I guess some people will never give it up. My mother is a bit like that with my father, brings up BS from 50 years. At least they both decided to go no contact, better for everyone, all that stupid nonsense. Once your kids are of age, the contact should become quite minimal. There will still be the odd event of awkward, but at least not regular exposure.

[@krissyhenderson4089]

I married an older guy with adult children and I've never even met his ex we have been together 6 years, we have a 3 yr old, his son doesnt talk to his mom cause she beats people with dinner plates and screams a lot idk 🤡

[@michaelcoffey8404]

I’m on the ex wife’s side, this guy is the absolute worst

[@gabyaguirre3100]

My god..... Just say what!!!!

[@jam20230]

This guy is still very much in love with the ex-wife, but doesn't want to admit it. He hasn't gotten over his heartbreak. Sad that he got married before he went through a self healing journey. Jumping from one relationship to another with love from the previous one never ends well. The new woman knows it deep down in her heart and that's what got her hating his ex, whom he is much more deeper in love with.

[@Wolfyd-ug8cz]

Sounds like he wants back with his ex and is trying to find a reason to be upset with his current wife.

[@nancyzehr3679]

this sounds familiar. as the mad ex. my ex was a dead beat dad. yah. i wanted him to be accountable. pay support. visit. also claimed kids for tax credit. infuriating! nope. he started a new family. left us in the dust.

[@laurasaura4944]

Could of made that story so much simpler lol by the time he got on to the second sentence I forgot th first lol took too long to get it out sorry

[@user-vj4vl7le4y]

Enjoy your story tellers boys. Cool story either way.

[@darrell9313]

1:14 in and stopped... figure everyone in this story is suffering... sorry to hear..

[@katwaugh1686]

I get the feeling he is trying to let it go to the point he is not allowing his current wife to vent her feelings. At least let her know you understand how awful your ex is.

[@Dina72920]

16:50-I definitely wouldn’t miss my own daughter’s wedding because her mother might cause a scene. Absolutely not. Be there for your daughter and new son in law and ignore the ex. Do not engage whatsoever. Sure it sucks but missing your daughter’s wedding would be a huge regret.

[@MoonriseJT-Official]

Ladies stay away from single dads!!🚩

[@krissyhenderson4089]

My husband was a divorced dad, they're my favorite type 😂

[@steffibaker6121]

This guy needs to get into counseling so he can move on from the ex. But he won't. He can't and won't let go and neither will the ex. They are trauma bonded. The new woman should have run when the ex unloaded on her at the first meeting. She shouldn't have married someone with so much unfinished business with the ex. This second marriage will likely end up in divorce.

[@Nayahpooh012]

Dating men with children is not the most ideal and it comes with baby mama drama. Unfortunately the women who choose these men (myself included) have to be prepared for the shenanigans of the previous woman is not bitter and immature.

[@accountfrozens]

Take a shot everytime he detours from the main story

[@act4z]

Answer to original question: Both read Wednesday Martin’s Stepmonster

[@terrigelbaum8066]

She sounds like a very disturbed person. She needs help.

[@user-st6nt4ou6f]

I feel sorry for the current wife

[@user-bf6zy5lh2e]

I think his ex wife has made him into a stuttering mess!! And she cheated, have her keep her distance, before you know it the kids will be old enough to visit when they want , in peace.🤗🙏✌️

[@lordtyrus1]

Dude. Introducing your kids to a woman you only known for a few months? Wtf

[@juliekaye363]

Maybe he was the one who cheated

[@xtermnation7654]

I’m dating a married but separated (not legally) woman for 8 months. We started talking just after she left him by chance. Her dad was my neighbor and passed away and she split from her husband and moved into her dad’s house next to me. We hit it off really good. Her husband blew a gasket when the realities of being separated kicked in. Her being with me, me being around their son, etc. Btw she conveyed to him for years that he needed to change and didn’t and then she finally left. He’s harassed and ridiculed her since separating for 8 months now. He’s been hostile towards me. The problem is that she is so passive and too nice when it comes to all of this. When I tell her you need to put him in his place, tell him how it is. Which btw she would hide so many things from him about us and how serious we are and how much I’m around their son etc. and when I try to tell her that’s not the way to go about it she says things like well I don’t want to deal with the drama and I don’t want to push him away because he’s still there for me and I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t want to be on bad terms etc. It’s a very difficult situation. If I press too hard about it she says well I didn’t intend to be in something serious again it just happened and I’m not ready to do what you’re asking. You signed up for being with someone that is newly separated etc. He’s gotten a lot better than before but we are still very dysfunctional because of his behavior and we still just aren’t free to be a normal couple if that makes sense and it’s very annoying. I have a lot of anger and frustration towards the situation.

[@ShogunateDaimyo]

Is this guy ever capable of getting to the point...?! Danggg

[@19katsandcounting]

Hard to feel bad for women who marry single dads. You automatically sign up for a competition you know you already lost with his ex and his kids. Maybe if he was a widower it could be considered.

[@krissyhenderson4089]

I married a divorced guy I've never even met his ex their kids were grown idk what I lost but cool 😂

[@19katsandcounting]

@@krissyhenderson4089 so why are you commenting then if it doesn’t apply to you? There are exceptions to every generality.

[@krissyhenderson4089]

@HollyMurphy3 yeah I guess I just didn't have the time or energy to want to deal with all that. Her own children and siblings don't even talk to her so guess it's a weird situation 😆

[@camcuts7643]

This dudes story telling is unbearable

[@kimberlyl2622]

Get to the point!!!

[@T-CainesZR1]

Get to it ... damn. Some ppl should tell stories

[@BREEZYM6015]

He could write a book. 😂

[@mermaid2014]

His ex will continue until the children turn 18, at the minimum. They turn being a miserable hater into a full time job. Hubby hasn't shown me a message from her in years. It helps a lot! I only communicate with her when needed, and she could blather at him all she wants. (She literally has to have the last word in any conversation!) As passionately as people love someone else, they can passionately hate them as well! Why did he jump right into another marriage so soon?!

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

#2 is a sh$&y position to be in…

[@RepentImmediately]

​@@SuzanneQuew-vc4usI get approached by married men all the time...in my opinion, being a wife is a terrible position to be in. All an attractive woman has to do is treat a married man with common courtesy and he's willing to risk his marriage.

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

@@RepentImmediately same here! And they don’t think there’s anything wrong with it if he’s in a “sexless” marriage…I wrote “sexless” because it might not even be a problem or he probably doesn’t even ask his wife for more sex or tell her it’s a problem…how do I know? My ex told me our sex life was fantastic, then he cried to his mistress that I was cold to him!

[@xtermnation7654]

Isnt it frustrating that your partner won’t put them in their place though? In my situation the arguing and bickering and drama makes me feel like they are more in a relationship than we are. Her ex husband gives her such a hard time over her moving on from their separation, being with me and having me around their kid. Then if I say your not being straight up enough with him it’s well I don’t want to hurt him or push him away because he’s still there for me and I want to be on good terms etc.

[@tbrigorman]

I can't follow what he's saying. Can anyone help me?

[@BREEZYM6015]

Well you see...It was like this...The other day....wait, let me start over. Confused? 😂

[@deniseohalloran2040]

😂😂😂😂

[@SuzanneQuew-vc4us]

#2 for a women is a shi$&y spot to life in, no???

[@ivankrushensky]

pun intended?

[@jamesshelley7432]

here we go

[@futurefunk88eddins96]

Some men will never learn. They just keep going on blissfully ignorant of what awaits them. Or they know and try to convince themselves this time will be different.