My Father's Secrets-Danica Hubbard

Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Danica Hubbard, an author of a book on sexual abuse titled Sex Offender: My Father's Secrets, My Secret Shame.
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[@morganhubbard8004]

This is my mom. I encouraged her to reach out to Mark to talk about her story, given the empathy, love and open discussion I consistently see in the comment sections of his videos. I'm thankful to see that this comment section contains not only support, but also views and experiences that differ from my mom's perspective. This discussion is important, and if my mom's voice can offer a platform for anyone to discuss their own trauma and experiences, I believe a valuable purpose has been served. For the majority of my life, I didn't know about her father, as she wanted to protect my sister and I from the pain she experienced and the confusion of her relationship with her father. I've had a hard time delineating the positive, optimistic and outgoing woman I've always known as my mom from this person who's experienced such difficulty and strife navigating a relationship with a father who has done the unthinkable. As someone who never knew my grandfather, it's simpler for me to bury his memory as a sick man who did evil things in his life. I understand my mom's experience as his daughter, as someone who knew him first as a father before knowing him as a sex offender, is inherently different from mine. I hope this discussion has brought my mom, and anyone else viewing this video with a family member who is a sex offender some semblance of peace, or at the very least an understanding that they are not alone. Here is a link to her book, if anyone is interested in learning more about my mom's story. A portion of the proceeds are being donated to Prevent Child Abuse America. www.amazon.com/Sex-Offender-Fathers-Secrets-Secret/dp/1638604045/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2XPLJSBE2YPXQ&keywords=sex+offender+my+father%27s+secrets%2C+my+secret+shame&qid=1669040241&sprefix=my+father%27s+secret%2Caps%2C147&sr=8-1

[@marylougeorge1385]

Thank you for encouraging her. ❤️

[@esthomas904]

Your mother is so beautiful. This was such an interesting interview. Just purchased the book.

[@martinamaud9762]

You are both so beautiful and courageous and thank you for encouraging your mom as its helping us ...this uncomfortable gnarly open wound of a subject has enabled much needed discussion with a view to breaking the cycle of abuse that is destroying too many lives ...love and peace to your family 💝

[@tdedmantd]

Your mom is brave. You must be very proud of her!

[@heathernikki5734]

Your mom thought your predator grandfather having to change his jogging route and being cat-called was somehow inappropriate. She made excuses at every turn. As someone who was touched by someone like her father, I found her constant excuses deeply offensive. And just because a man flashed her once doesn’t mean she knows what ANY SA is like. I have BPD and C-ptsd, it’s effected my entire life. She needs therapy, not a platform to make excuses for Daddy Dearest.

[@jaiwhy5212]

As a victim of molestation by three different people, I have ZERO empathy for her dad or anyone else who commits these crimes. The amount of years I’ve spent trying to cope with what happened to me is astounding. I will have to continue pulling myself out of my mental hell for the rest of my life. I don’t care how hard their life becomes once they’ve been caught. GOOD. The ptsd they leave their victims with is way more difficult than any crap they have to deal with after.

[@SlimKeith11]

Thank you for sharing Jai. I'm so very sorry you had to go through those experiences. I hope you can find peace. You deserve it.

[@J0SHUAKANE]

You must be careful when fighting monsters that you, yourself, do not become a monster.

[@oneeks5908]

I agree with you. Wish you peace of mind. ❤

[@PiggyAzaleea]

100% Well said. Sorry you went through that. ❤️‍🩹

[@pamelapalmer2832]

I totally agree with you. I'm sorry you went through this. If my father was a molester, I would change my last name. I personally don't want to watch this interview so I'm jumping off here. May you find peace ❤❤❤

[@rachelwelch5548]

My dad sexual abused me started at age 3. Any one who abuses a child should be locked away for life.

[@sm3296]

My beautiful innocent sweet loving granddaughter is three. I would kill anyone who damaged this in her. I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s heartbreaking.

[@negusdawoo]

Explain why that is

[@krisflynn7974]

​@negusdawoo if you don't know the answer, you eouldnt understand even if told. My bf would love a legit career in dismembering pedos

[@terrytownsend5583]

@@sm3296you probably wouldn’t

[@terrytownsend5583]

I disagree.

[@UnknownError304]

I'm a father of two girls. Anyone that harms a child and fails to protect every child in sight deserves to be unalived.

[@ToniannLagreca]

100%

[@mikepxg6406]

"unalived" is not a word....

[@mmtruslow]

Of course it isn't. People are just going out of their way to use all these drone like cliches. ​@@mikepxg6406

[@WendyHannan-pt7ez]

I agree, there’s no place on earth for these monsters.

[@studiomarilaura910]

As a sexual abuse victim, this interview really upset me. She never once acknowledged the damage her father brought to so many children. Rather than trying to convince the world we should have tolerance for these monsters I’d ask Ms.Hubbard to concentrate on healing herself. It is horrible knowing your father is a monster who caused enormous damage to so many. It seems Ms. Hubbard is deflecting the tremendous pain he caused her. Working to humanize abusers is not the answer. It seems she hasn’t acknowledged her anger. He abused her with his crimes as well. Like murderers and thieves people like her father chose their actions. So many of Mark’s videos show the immense damage to the lives of victims. For some it is a death sentence. Help the victims first. The perpetrators deserve their punishment. PS a 19- year-old having an affair with a 15-year-old who lies about her age is very different than a 40-year-old man molesting 6-year-olds.

[@liadhainsmith]

I am 30 and coming to recognise that I believe my dad is a narcissist, I have dated narcissistic abusers myself and initially believed other childhood trauma led me that way but I now think it may have more layers to it. Watching this and hearing her speak about him and his achievements, those installments he wrote etc. I was immediately thinking he's a narcissist, he is just a narcissist. I have been realising over the last year or so that my dad always had my brother and I excuse/explain away his ways so much and we still do it. I think she has been groomed her whole life to see him in this way, and to excuse and explain away his behaviours. Reading your comment it just hit me. I dont justify her at all but I understand it and it's very sad. I agree with you

[@melp723]

I agree. I found my blood pressure rising with her response to Mark’s suggestion about castration. 😑

[@nataliamoritzyogawellness]

Wow, I’m glad that I am not the only one upset. She is just trying to make her dad a nice guy. Delusional needs therapy

[@chantelletrembath3345]

Right...... I'm not watching this one, thanks for the heads up 👍

[@robinl.970]

Right. When she said she asked what ppl think of a sex offender and then she holds up a pic of her dad, I was like and??! Him grooming and abusing children is what makes him trash, disgusting, all those other things the ppl mentioned. The fact that he was also a good father to her doesn't negate the horrible things he did or even balance them out. In fact, in my eyes it makes him more of a monster bc he had a child at home that he loved and protected but cared nothing about the other children who needed love and protection FROM his abuse. It's awful. And when you are an adult and you have sexual feelings toward a child, the burden is on you to get that fixed by any means. If therapy works, great. If not, you should be the first one asking to be castrated. It's not normal and it doesn't just go away. Offenders will begin with small behaviors and work their way up, all the time knowing they are committing atrocities and ruining lives. I think we all can differentiate between a 19 year old and his 16 year old girlfriend having consensual sex and a 60 year old man groping a 6 year old child. Not all sex offenders are pedophiles but pedophiles will get zero sympathy or tolerance from me.

[@oob4699]

“Your world becomes very small when you’re on the registry.” As a victim of rape and sexual abuse, the world that I could function in without fear before collapsed completely after experiencing this type of violence. The limitations put on released sex offenders are a million times less than what they deserve. No sympathy.

[@chamanigunasekera8345]

My first thought when she said this is: yes, absolutely it should, they shouldn't be allowed to be in contact with anyone!

[@user-wj9ic1ey9m]

👏👏👏

[@leeshybaby9541]

They should be deleted

[@BrekkaJones24]

"The world is so small for them" boo fucking hoo. Hell has plenty of room for her piece of shit daddy

[@davideaton1704]

Does not work. California in the 80s pushed for the Death Penalty for murders in the hopes it would reduce crime. After it passed in the following decades crime sky rocketed. 3 strikes and your out law same thing. It is important to find the root of the darkness. Media sure does not help when it sexualizes minors. Example the Olsen Twins had a countdown to when they turn 18 all over the Media so they can do Playboy.@@leeshybaby9541

[@shahwilloughby4603]

As a 52yr old woman who was sexually abused as a little girl I have no sympathy for ANYONE that thinks it's ok .. to have sex with a child. Or ANYTHING inappropriate with a child. It has affected my whole life. I can't forgive and I definitely will never forget.

[@jillybean3688]

That's absolutely horrible. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. 💔

[@robinrios4715]

Agreed, it’s a black plaque that NEVER goes away, it affects my marriage still today and I’m 58 years old

[@susanmorgan4151]

Truth. Thank you.

[@joey2748]

I was a victim of sexual abuse as a child in some of the worst ways imaginable and will not repeat the words to describe it here. The only thing I can say about this is, from experience, not beign able to forgive will ultimately never let you forget. S you are right about that. You will never forget but, if you ever wanted to you could forget if you can truly forgive. It took me 30 years to truly forgive my abusers. But the day that I truly did, it was like a scene in a dick van dyke movie scene. Ya know like you can start seeing the magic and happiness in everything and everyone and not all the negativity of the world. I know how that must sound but it is really just a metaphor for how my life has changed since that day I forgave. Every day now I am more observant but I'm starting to see more positivity than ever before. And also my radar for the bad people has drastically improved to the point where they don't even get close to my life anymore. Please don't think I'm judging or being harsh because I am not trying to, I wanted to share my experience with people because every day a person forgives their abusers is a day the world gets just a little bit better. And these days, the world needs that more than ever and as much as possible. I'm not religious at all but I can agree with one thing that it stands for and this would be it. Forgiveness is key for the wild to heal.

[@shawnahall7656]

Yuck 🤮 usually people who have been a victim as children end up doing same thing to there children...sounds like illuminati bloodline ,they are like that.. main thing is to forgive who hurt you...the truth says there is no future for the wicked proverbs 24:20.

[@censoreverything8072]

No one “accidentally” clicks on a CP website. You have to go out of your way to find them and a forensic analysis of their devices will show how long they visited and whether or not they opened and viewed files. And law enforcement doesn’t track down someone who clicked on a website one time. They come after you for a reason. Those mothers are in denial. Their tears should have no impact on their sons’ sentences. Castration for all of them.

[@Dee-me6ju]

AGREED

[@RiahBrooks-to6rb]

Exactly!!!

[@riotbae_9000]

You know this from first hand experience?

[@censoreverything8072]

@@riotbae_9000 I work in a cyber unit for law enforcement, so I unfortunately know more than I wish I had to.

[@jojocaitlin8508]

​@@riotbae_9000 no babe its common sense... these things aren't just there, you have to search for them. Everyone knows that, if it were easy to find it'd be easy to catch.

[@toeachitsown2050]

Judge people by how they treat those vulnerable to them. Not by how many marathons they ran, how good of a provider they were, or how fun they were. True character shows behind closed doors.

[@osajohnson1957]

I see your point. But to add some context, at that age these events inflict massive neurochemical surges, time after time, altering the structure of the developing brain. The result is automatic comparmentalizing in every human encounter. It shows in how we may tell our story.

[@christincameron6065]

Like she wasn't a full adult when she found out after years of memories. That's still her dad. I can't believe I have to explain this🥴

[@ira7630]

But he treated his daughter well

[@leeshybaby9541]

Exactly

[@leeshybaby9541]

​@@christincameron6065she literally has her own children.... and she's trying to justify what he did to others children..m if it was to her own children I highly doubt she would go through so much mental gymnastics to try and justify her father.

[@MsBRETTB]

Can't imagine how many children he abused on his international trips. Made me sick. If I knew my father moved and didn't register as an sex offender, I would call the police. The protection that was given to him is sickening.

[@Kinikia95]

I caught that too! Would have taken him down to the registry office.

[@jkatttt1699]

Yes I can't believe Sue glazed over his trips to Thailand as if that's not exactly why late he was doing there

[@claudiaschneider5744]

@MsBRETTB: almost the same happened to me with my older brother - his wife knows about it - still protecting him - and trying to blaime me - it was too late to get him to jail bc of the status of limitation (10 years) - fu... all his religious dogma - a perpetrator stays a perpetrator- once he starts abusing one single child....

[@carsongibson5145]

​@@claudiaschneider5744there shouldn't be a statute of limitations on that. There isn't a time limit to the number of years you've suffered due to what was done to you. Your sister in law is in denial, easier for her to blame you than accept what he is.

[@carsongibson5145]

I'm sure she would've felt differently if she or one of her daughters had been a victim of his.

[@Chelsie399]

I understand her being conflicted by her relationship with her dad, but she’ll never know the damage that’s done with sexual abuse with children. It has a lifetime effect not only the victim but the generations that follow.

[@bellabella1670]

I agree 100%, she will never understand. Being molested is a little different than escaping molestation and having to endure an investigation.

[@byloyuripka9624]

​@@bellabella1670 very true her insinuating she understood what being a victim meant or that she is one enraged me

[@PatriciaHenry]

Exactly. It destroys children forever. So sickening. 😢

[@DrAlexisM]

She does know because she was a victim of CSA herself.

[@paigeycakey5061]

She does know, she’s simply explaining her experience and not speaking for others. I have a father the same, it’s difficult to explain but they are still your father nothing changes that. She’s not cheering him on, she’s explaining how it affected her while also acknowledging his wrong doings.

[@professionalbummer3274]

She was flashed by an old man at the age of 6: "i was assaulted" Her father 'touched' a 6 year old 'on her underwear': "i know it wasn't as bad as penetration or inappropriate touching-" She's still in the fog defending her father and downplaying his behavior while not holding another predator of equal danger to the same standard. Hope she opens her eyes one day. ETA it's weird when she's asked if she was hurt by her dad and she says, "no" but then goes on to talk as if she's unsure if he groomed her by....being her dad? She's all over the place.

[@lukethornbrough1500]

She’s allowed to be all over the place. I can’t even imagine going through a fraction of what she had

[@deannab9511]

That's what he admitted to, who knows how many victims he created.

[@lorrainekay13]

@@MsLindseyjane Exactly, Layers my. #$$ They have a hierarchy. My dad used to say...."Having sex with a child that can't talk yet....now THAT"S sick".

[@christincameron6065]

Empathy. Have some.

[@alwayschristine4712]

I hope so too. Pedophilia is a crime. It is not a mental illness. It is a crime, and there is no cure. Calling it a mental illness reduces the stigma of being a pedophile. If I didn't know any better, I would say that she's trying to get the public to believe that it's really not as bad as it is. Many pedophiles are survivors themselves.

[@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere]

“Your world becomes very small, it’s very hard to find a job, dating…” very interesting that what she sympathizes with about her father are the very same things that victims and survivors struggle with, as we see told in so many other stories told on this channel. Horrifying.

[@vallesdroid]

Exactly I’m like am I actually hearing her fee sorry for his surroundings while these poor victims are in mental torment.

[@jennjespersen-jr3yg]

He made a choice, that child didn’t. Arrogant and privileged.

[@bettywith2girls]

As a girl, you are automatically in awe and love your daddy...and will excuse a lot of stuff they may have done in your childhood. Especially if your mom isn't such a nice person to you, as a child, as your dad was, in her and actually, my case also. But now, as an adult, she should see things differently as far as her dad is concerned, and it i-s kind of shocking that she doesn't.

[@EpicFamilyQuests]

I was in high school when I found out my dad had molested my 6 year old cousin. I don't care how much good my father did in his life. It doesn't cancel out the bad. It tore my family apart at the time. These monsters are selfish and sick individuals. I understand we can still have love, but I want nothing to do with people like that. Especially having kids of my own. I just want to protect my babies.

[@tinkertailorgardenermagpie]

Yes & it seems a waste of your love to give it to THEM. I’d rather give love to other victims, even as strangers, than to a father who did what hers did.

[@MsTygame]

If any person reading this has kept a secret of being sexually abused, please talk to someone. It was never your secret to keep and you don’t have to keep this inside. There are so many people who understand.

[@kellyyork3898]

It never ceases to amaze me how young girls can be so attached to their fathers that they can forgive them anything, even murder, especially when their fathers are on their deathbeds….they will run to them, even if they haven’t seen them for years, and sit beside him and hold his hand while he’s dying….and forgive him just about anything. And of course these men know just how to manipulate their daughters, just like they manipulated everyone else. Makes me sick to my stomach.

[@lee-sq6ob]

AMEN

[@osajohnson1957]

Did you have a father growing up? Was he good to you?

[@kellyyork3898]

Yes. He was a decent man. My grandfather was also a very humble and honest man. Neither were anything like this monster she had for a father.

[@Cut3M3xicana1998]

You can forgive but not accept what they did.

[@teelee4097]

​@Cut3M3xicana1998 No reason to forgive them! You can also never forgive people and STILL be free of carrying the burden of being victimized contrary to popular belief.

[@cyn4246]

I worked in a prison for many years until I retired and I can tell you we did a sex offenders groups for inmates on the yard, and in fact, IF they wanted to ever be released they HAD to come and show the parole board that they had attended the groups and completed them. They also had to ADMIT to the parole board exactly what they had done. They had to tell the story from beginning to the end and had to accept responsibility, which most do not want to do. If they did not, then they would not be released as it showed that they were in denial. A lot of inmates also refused to come as they didn’t consider themselves like some of the others. They also did not want to be known as attending a group like that, and inmates are very astute in knowing what groups are going on in the prison yard. Some inmates thought they were better and they did NOT want to accept what they had done. It seems they wanted to minimize their part in it. I do NOT believe they can be rehabilitated after working with them over 20+ years. They are opportunist and given the chance to reoffend they will, especially if they do not think they will be caught. I despise them for what they do and how they have wrecked lives with their behavior. I am a female in an all male group of maybe 40 or more guys and it was very interesting. The ones that bothered me most were when they tried to make excuses for WHY it happened. I was drinking, I was on drugs, the little girl came over and sat on my lap and touched me or I don’t remember how or why it happened. A lot of excuses. They know, but want to remove themselves from this ugly scene. These men should NEVER be let out. You cannot rehabilitate them. She tried to say over and over it’s a mental illness. She can call it what she wants, but QUIT making excuses after excuses of why her father did what he did. I personally do NOT think she did a good job on this as she made far too many excuses and the victims don’t just suffer when the incident happened. It’s a life long struggle for many. I would not buy her book as it was to one sided for the pedophiles and the sickness. Castration is NOT going to stop it. It’s in their nasty minds. Castration won’t fix the problem. It’s still in their mind. They deserve nothing better. That is why they need to stay locked up and away from anyone they can do that too. Let me tell you, we had some really old men that were pedophiles in prison and they were in wheelchairs and they still preyed on the young, vulnerable men when they came into the system. They would buy them canteen, cigarettes and other things to get to have oral sex with them. Again I say, they are opportunists!!!!!!!!!! You can’t fix these people!!!!!! That’s what people need to know. They make you think they are better and like most, they turn to the Bible in prison and behave to get an earlier release, but make no mistake the recidivism rate is so high and it’s a revolving door. As soon as they get out they go back to their old ways! This is speaking from 20+ years in the prison system.

[@melallen9828]

While I agree with most of what you say, I think this probably says a lot about the prison system.

[@cyn4246]

@@melallen9828 I do not think you can fix these people so they have to be locked up. People will tell you anything you want to hear, but what they say and do are two different things and these pedophiles are opportunist. They CANT be fixed.

[@melallen9828]

Yea, I understand what you're saying, my father also worked in the prison system for many years. I shouldn't have said the prison system specifically.. I should have said our whole system. I'm not sure what the answer is, but having them waste our resources in this way is not it.

[@harmony7377]

So do y'all think/have you ever pondered that this is spiritual? Like a spiritual parasite? No empathy for the host-like a zombie-their just not safe. I just usually can come to an understanding-this problem-and the fact it is so prevalant-makes no sense. None. Her father was a Dad-and disassociating and harming children his own child's age/grandchild's age. It's just so f'd up. I get most choices-not this one.

[@maureencousins6538]

The sex offender may be a person as she says, but the victim is a person too. There is a big difference between a 15 year old who looks 18 and a six year old baby by comparison. This woman is full of excuses for paedophiles...next she will be defending rapists!

[@zarathustra007]

Her father got way less than he deserved. She manages to still make a lot of excuses for him. Like she was groomed to do it.

[@auntylinda7640]

She loved him. 😢 Still does. 😢😢 He was a very charismatic, fun loving guy. But it was an act. She can't come to terms with how that shit of a man ruined so many people's lives😢😢😢

[@Rfp601]

My sister does the exact same thing

[@bettywith2girls]

As a girl, you are automatically in awe and love your daddy...and will excuse a lot of stuff they may have done in your childhood. Especially if your mom isn't such a nice person to you, as a child, as your dad was, in her and actually, my case also. I a-m surprised, as an adult now, how many excuses she makes for him and other potential sex offenders, though.

[@Rfp601]

@@bettywith2girls that’s basically what my sister experienced

[@jbailey1898]

"How can we help people when we hate them?" ❤ Such a charged subject. I was abused, but have 'mostly' overcome my shame. I know my abusers were sick and broken. I can't help but feel sorry for them and hope for them to find find healing and escape the shame too. At the same time, the self loathing and mental illness problems I have endured because of what they did is huge. I can get to a place of hate and anger very quickly. I only know this, my peace comes when I remove the anger and try to show love to others and do good things with my life.

[@BiggPink333]

My Grandpa fell in love with my sister. Never touched her, just wanted to run off with her and get married. My mom still brings him around...... people are sick.

[@GrandmaEllen]

That is not love. That is pedophilia.

[@M_K_M_K_M_K]

Dear Lord……

[@vanessa9024]

Wow

[@AndyHorcasitas-ck6dn]

Gtfo?! So the mom is alright with her own father being attracted to her daughter?

[@BiggPink333]

@@AndyHorcasitas-ck6dn Yeah, living in denial for years until he admitted it. Now we just don't talk about it.

[@samm3114]

I work with victims of childhood sexual abuse and I've seen first hand the life long effects of this herendous crime. Some choose to leave this world than deal with the emotional HELL they experience. And their loved ones carry the suffering. Offenders do not deserve empathy.

[@noOnionswithoutTears]

What about the offenders who were horribly sexually abused themselves? Hurt people hurt people. Somehow the cycle has to be stopped. What you are saying is a paradox.

[@cynthiaconnors183]

The cycle is stopped by breaking the DNA chain.

[@martinamaud9762]

Treatment would be for the protection of children and adults who’s might be sexually assaulted not for empathy for the offender …..let’s not throw the baby out with the Bath water here

[@tinasmith7630]

@@noOnionswithoutTears Not all hurt people hurt others. Sme learn that the pain inflicted on them, they wd never want 2 do the same 2 inflict on others.

[@noOnionswithoutTears]

@@tinasmith7630 Not all, but an incredible number. And just "wanting to be be a good person" doesn't stop the cycle of abuse, Ask any psychiatrist. America just throws everyone in prison. Look around...how is that working out for the country? I've benign 12 Step since 1989. I have worked with many many people who have been in this cycle. I was SA'ed in high school. I am not talking from a place of no experience.

[@SharonNolfi]

The sexual molestation of children is a crime, not a mental illness. The sad part is that these people are released from prison only to offend again.

[@AR-cw4he]

It is Mental Illness

[@lilolmecj]

Likely in many cases it is both. I feel certain Danika only has a very small piece of this story.

[@col.cottonhill6655]

Many of the elites and leaders who run the world are pedos, that's why

[@MarieSantini0607]

It’s both, like Psychopathy. Not all people born with the brain of a psychopath will commit crimes, as some pedophiles acknowledge they have a problem and seek help. It’s the ones that decide to act on their instincts that are in jail; but there are thousands of potential molesters out there.

[@col.cottonhill6655]

@@MarieSantini0607 sadly way too many who have acted on their instincts are not in jail.

[@franbeller5897]

Mark, now that Danica has tried to convince us that her father was a saint it would be a good idea to interview some of his victims, all of whom she seems to have forgotten

[@marjoriemoser3961]

Man do I understand where you’ve come from! My own father was inappropriate to me. I was adopted from newborn. I loved my father. But growing up in this family was very confusing for me. And my mother knew. I was made to promise never to tell anyone. My mother called it…” airing the family laundry “ My father too dropped to his knees when I confronted him about what he did to me. He was six foot three or four. Very tall. Very charismatic, taught Bible classes, Boy Scout leader, involved in the city council of our home town. He was a building contractor. And the reason given to me by my mother was, her form of lifestyle would be affected if I told the secret. Her lifestyle?!?! My life was frustrating and confusing since I was three years old. I never felt normal. I felt dirty all the time. My brother who was also adopted, held the attention of both our parents. I was invisible. My brother could do no wrong. And he was always encouraged to participate in scouts, baseball, soccer, karate, boxing. Whereas I was not allowed to participate in anything. Until finally when I was in the eighth grade , I joined our churches girls softball team. My father was our coach. To keep him at a distance, I began to pull out my hair. He loved my hair. So I destroyed it to ugly myself. He never approached me again. I knew he was living in a hell that he created himself. My mother kept pushing me toward him, to have dinner just the two of us. I guess she thought her efforts would cause us to dialogue with each other. But I had nothing to say. I could not talk to him about what he did to me. I’m 65 years old now. And I’ve shared my story with only a few people in my hometown. I have no idea if they believe me. My father was so admired and looked up to at that time. So well thought of throughout our town. Having begun to pull my hair out at age 13, people began to ask my mother what was wrong with me. She told many different stories to cover the truth. She did not want people to judge herself or my father. I held in the secret until I was 28 years old. My stomach had been sick for years!

[@M_K_M_K_M_K]

I am so sorry that was done to you.

[@1955dmb]

Your story really emphasizes the importance of realizing that sex offenders don't come with a certain 'look'. I'm really sorry you were treated this way. Feeling invisible is terrible. When you share something this dark and devastating, it must be hard for people to know how to respond to, especially after the fact. Whether they believe you or not does not change the truth. I hope and pray you have been able to heal.

[@coffeeonkeyboard1810]

I get it. unfortunately... My mother was a stay at home mom of 5 children. How you go 20+ years while abuse is right under your nose without knowing is perplexing to this day, as she is 97 and i am in my 60's. But in the end, I feel she did know on some level, she knew, yet explained away the unexplainable as it was too much for her to believe. But what would she have done if she faced reality? Her social standing gone, her money train gone. (bear in mind this was through the 50s 60s 70s) we had made some tacit decision to "protect her" for whatever reason and now we realize that was wrong. But we were children - "who would believe us?" was what i routinely heard from my sisters. Mom didn't even believe it when one of my sisters told her to her face. Mom dismissed it as my sister having a tantrum, and hurling ridiculous accusations.

[@1955dmb]

@@coffeeonkeyboard1810 It's sad all the way around. I'm in your generation and I know our mother's generation experienced a different reality than we did. I'm sure they felt trapped, especially if they had a lot of children to be responsible for. Most women didn't work outside the home. How would a mother manage working with 5 children to care for without major help from family? But from a child's perspective, you deserved protection!! There could have been better healing if your mom had been able to acknowledge what happened, but maybe it was too terrible for her to face. It would be hard to live with all of these years, and I agree with you, she must have known. I guess it's possible to block out things we can't accept. I'm always so impressed with the people who learn to forgive the unforgivable. I've heard of people forgiving someone for murdering their child. They have such a peace about them. They are usually Christians. I think the Lord asks us to forgive because He knows that when we do, we are the ones who receive the blessing. We can be at peace about something very terrible which is much better than living in bitterness. It seems to me that while it is still very perplexing to you (as it should be), you have also been able to realize the position your mom was in. Just from the wording of your comment, I think you have worked through it and I hope and pray it has made you stronger. I learned something when my daughter was given a terminal diagnosis. She was given a powerful suggestion to only give herself and 5 minute pity party daily. Face it, recognize the seriousness of it, cry about it and then go about your day. I used that suggestion while she was dealing with the cancer and I have continued in the 12 years since she went Home to Jesus. I can't say I'm successful every day, but I think it is a very useful tool. I'm really sorry your childhood had to be like that.

[@coffeeonkeyboard1810]

@@1955dmb thank you for such a very thoughtful response

[@aliyamoon80]

I was sexually assaulted at age 9. No one believed me. I grew up to be a child advocate. I volunteered with youth, and made sure that my charges knew what abuse was

[@del-marmare1646]

Keep up the good fight. Rooting for you.

[@Chris-rv5mm]

God bless you with healing.

[@billbradleymusic]

Have you abused anyone? It's the hard question no one asks. You do realize that the abused are multitudes more likely to be abuser's, right? And many child advocates use it as cover to get closer. I'd never suggest that is your case but it is factual.

[@pinnacleproductions6275]

I was abused at 3-6, then was taken advantage of by a woman at 11-13. I told my family but it was like they didn’t want to hear it or didn’t believe me. I was so angry with my family for years for not taking me seriously. It wasn’t family but family friends that did it. I hope I can be of help to someone some day. I have donated to organizations like RAINN but idk if they truly help ppl.

[@kimberly9754]

@@pinnacleproductions6275 I hear you and I believe you. I am so sorry you experienced that trauma. Have you ever thought about joining a support group?

[@notever_everytime5074]

Girl, ain't no one ever "accidentally" clicks on a sex trafficking website or child sexual abuse materials. One needs to LOOK for find those types of things. Any family member of an offender who tells you otherwise is in deep denial. Child rapists are monsters, period, straight up. The family of such persons deal with them the same way you deal with any other monster / murderer / sociopath / psychopath. You stay away from them, you cut them off, and you move on without them as if they were dead.

[@Jenny-uv4dl]

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!

[@k33k32]

I get what you are saying. My thought is this. Young adults and teens are notoriously impulsive and curious, especially about sexual stuff. In addition they are unable to completely understand the consequences of their actions. I can totally see a teen deliberately clicking on something nefarious without understanding the consequences of that action to themself, or what the actual material they clicked on really represented (the pain and suffering of a young person). Obviously it is a deplorable crime that cannot be ignored. But, I can see how there are tiers, or levels, of offense and might suggest different societal responses.

[@shawnahall7656]

@@k33k32 So wrong the.most high gave us choices ..he is from a sinful pedifile bloodline that needs repentance!! Bottom line he got what he deserved!

[@gutssubz8232]

Sorry but this isn't true. I know of one boy as a 7 yr old kid clicked on a pornographic website by accident. For whatever reason something took over his mind and he would go back to that site. At age 15 he was a complete wreck. Completely numb. All kinds of different mental health issues. Couldn't even go to school let alone receive anything positive from it. But I think what is important in these scenarios is that they are RARE and often people pick on very rare and unsual scenarios to make a point saying, "See, it is possible". We should talk about the other 99.9% because they are the ones we should be stopping.

[@notever_everytime5074]

@Guts Subz there is a massive difference between clicking on an adult porn website, and clicking on a child sexual abuse material site. The former are regular unprotected sites linked to Google, with click through ads placed all over the internet. The later are not connected to search engines or major servers and must be found by word of mouth (forums), or by knowing their dark web addresses. They are hosted on private servers and you have to be actively seeking them, and gain their trust over time to be allowed access. This has been the case for since the mid 2000s. No seven year old in the current age is going accidentally come across child sexual abuse material online. They can find it stored on a device, if someone has carelessly stored it.

[@ExhibitBanks]

I’m a daughter of sex offender as well and I was in denial at first because I truly couldn’t believe this person that I’ve “known” all my life could do such a thing. But when I finally came to terms with it , it broke me because I was a victim myself so to know that he didn’t want anyone to hurt me but was hurting other(s) made me so angry and confused. And I loved my dad I just had to love him differently after that.

[@byloyuripka9624]

youre mind has been created in a terrible way, just like the lady in the video 😪

[@rhondasmith7413]

My heart goes out to you. May your path be lighter 🙏

[@HumanityIsDisgusting]

Pedofiles will only abuse their own children if they see them as an object so they have no guilt and empathy inflicting abuse on their own kids. They're also opportunist so they'll decide on a victim based on how likely they believe they'll get away with the crime, and they also have their own age, ethnic preferences. That's why your father didn't do anything to you.

[@tinamarie393]

It’s incredible how mesmerized and infatuated she is with her father. She described him as if on a high pedestal and keeps going on and on about the amazing man that he was….even when she speaks of her mother it’s minimal and not as grandiose. Amazing! She’s truly in denial and it’s a shame that she can’t see the similarities between what her father did in comparison as the neighbour guy who essentially did the same thing! People’s perception is off putting sometimes 💯🤯

[@crystallin7713]

That is because she ran away from that neighbor guy. She was super lucky. I am sure there would be a whole new perception if she didn't.

[@paigeycakey5061]

It’s still her father, you wouldn’t understand. I also have a father on the register and it absolutely destroyed me, but he’s still my father. It shouldn’t reflect on the family around them who didn’t know. And also that is the topic of convo on the video.

[@orpha9031]

I was in the beginning of my junior year in high school. That summer I had been raped. Our teacher asked us to write about our summer. We would staple the papers shut and we would open them at the end of the semester. Then write about how we felt about what we had written. My letter to myself was so profound, it changed my life. Thank God for teachers who make a difference. Thank you for your story, Danica. I wish you peace.

[@marylougeorge1385]

I'm happy for you. What a blessing those special teachers were. Even at The 71, the thought of those exceptional few bring me joy.

[@luvangelmyers2731]

🙏🏽❤️Love to you! It was pretty much the same for me. I told s/o in school. It ended in a terrible family divide. But I don’t regret it because I STOPPED IT!! Not just me, but other girls. Can’t remember the teacher’s name, but THANK YOU!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@bobjary9382]

Thats an amazing thing! , you were very fortunate to have such a wonderful and insightful teacher.

[@lindboknifeandtool]

I never got my letter. I wrote one in elementary. Said we’d get it in highschool

[@marylougeorge1385]

@@bowiemass Happy Thanksgiving!

[@manueldelush9716]

As the son of a convicted sex offender. The outer body experience she described when her dad confessed to her is exactly what happened to me when I was told of my fathers crime. I was on the phone to my sister, I heard what she said and then the next thing I knew I was face up on my kitchen floor. These crimes truly destroy families, not just victims families but also the families of the offender. I will never be the same person I was before that phone call.

[@idab6864]

And even still, it's only a fraction of what the victims actually feel. Your reality was displaced, but the victim's realities were shattered.

[@manueldelush9716]

@@idab6864 Absolutely, I can't imagine the pain the victims felt. It is such a destructive crime

[@abeliever7029]

I wisb you healing. Remember, you did not commit the crimes. Contrary to what a portuon s of humanity belueve, you are suffering greatly. Not to take away from the victim, who are the innocent party and deserve our sympathy and prayers. I cant help thinking, how incarnation can help these members of society. I feel a secure mental health facility, would produce better rehabilitation results than prison.

[@shannongreer6194]

Soooo sorry!

[@sparky2390]

Sorry you have to deal with the tremendous pain of your father’s crimes/sins :( I do hope you find some healing eventually 🙏

[@user-nc7ui2if4o]

When she said her father talked a lot about his upbringing in this “blue collar factory family” and the death of his middle brother, it really makes me think he (the father) was paving the way (as an adult, telling this stories again and again about his childhood) as a potential excuse that can be used later in case he gets caught. It really rubbed me that way, I might be wrong but I have seen this behaviour/pattern in people who later do something wrong. Absolutely disgusting.

[@jennypenny8159]

Besides the “death of his brother” part, I felt like his path sounded like 50% of the population. I struggled and didn’t do well in college. Does that give me license to commit the most heinous of crimes? I kept waiting to hear about how he was molested as well. What a piece of sh!t.

[@lauraloveee]

Absolutely agree

[@jaetracy8539]

It’s got to be tough to be biologically related to a sexual predator. Being hardwired to defend and love even abusive parents can affect our otherwise objective judgement. As a survivor myself, I think punitive Justice is absolutely necessary. Each child harmed has a lifelong trauma that never fully heals. Sex offenders absolutely belong in jail, and almost always re offend if released.

[@lilpoohbear653]

its crazy how concerned she is/was for her dad and yet he had ZERO concern for her,,,heartbreaking

[@grinsRwins]

I wonder if she saw every act her father made with every kid with her own two eyes, would she describe him focused on any achievements he made in life. It's funny how people hold such high regard for what a person does for work rather than who they truely are as a person.

[@idamartinez8863]

Totally agree with you.

[@angelapeters9358]

They use children to gain access to other children

[@firstmedtech]

I think she is just describing the dad she ‘knew’, loved and admired. The shock of what he really was is still too horrific to get close to. She is telling her story.

[@TheRetroWoman80]

Because this world is status driven, not truth driven.

[@grinsRwins]

@@TheRetroWoman80 not everyone

[@paytonhale7811]

I’m going to offer a viewpoint. I am the child of a murderer who is in prison for life. He killed his ex wife’s boyfriend and shot her but she survived. It is suchhhh a conflicting feeling when you know the dad that you had versus the crimes he committed. My mom and I visited him in prison, we emailed him and called him. We stayed in touch from when I was 13 to about 17 years old. This is such a tragedy for her and I feel her pain. She probably still to this day loves him for being her “dad” but despises him for what he did.

[@kayybabyi]

I know this is a older comment but my dad was murdered last year. The man who did it is like 58 years old and I’m not sure if he has kids… but I do wonder if he does have kids do they still talk to him? How did he treat them growing up? Do they feel sad or mad at him? I do wonder how it must be being in ur shoes, seeing this comment made me sympathize more tho because it’s not your fault ur dad did what he did and u now also have to live with that.

[@kayybabyi]

Crazy how one action can cause so much hurt to so many and change so many’s life’s!

[@ariasworld9991]

She gave herself so much into this just so she could defend what her father did...such a shame 😳

[@TheViolentTeddy]

She's not defending him. She's acknowledging that people are complex creatures with many different layers. I think she was fair in everything she said.

[@pippadawg7037]

@@TheViolentTeddy Oh she defended him and other sex offenders. Sex offenders are the least complex people on the planet. All those layers are fake. Sociopaths fascinate normal people because they are so different from us but if you meet one, you realize there is nothing in there and nobody is home. They are as empty as a drum, and as shallow as a puddle. She claimed he had an illness and sex offenders do those things for "a reason" and how "they think they are unlovable." The reason they do things is because that is what they want and they think they are unlovable because they are incapable of the feeling. She described his not so sad childhood and his sad small world as a convicted sex offender. Cry me a river. She also distanced herself from the horrible things he did by saying things like, "this whole time he was sex offending." like he was offending sex not harming real human beings- children no less, little girls by lying to them, threatening to kill their parents and pets, if they ever tell. Gaslighting them by claiming they will go to jail and their parents will hate them. She defended him and the crime as well. I know when someone is defending someone. You can't gaslight me on that or with the claim she was "fair." She was unfair, biased, and downright scary.

[@withlovefrommoi]

When she said he worked INTERNATIONALLY 😱 all I could do was imagine how many victims this man really has all over the world that he’s traumatized if there was so much just in his local life. Lord 😮

[@bipnmoggy833]

That was my immediate thought too

[@hereitis.2587]

Yup! Asia, where buying children can be easy.

[@karrieb7814]

Same

[@bereatha1]

This man is an animal and the worse kind of sex offender. Castration is too good for him. Anybody who molests children deserves to burn in hell. She just doesn't get it. Bless her heart.

[@heathernikki5734]

Gross! Wonder if he ever went to Thailand!

[@cwok1760]

I’m the victim of child sex abuse from a relative. The most triggering part of this interview is the empathy she has a for a person who does these atrocious crimes. Lock them up and throw away the key!

[@alexie101010]

Yes!!!!! Same here! It was actually making me nauseous. She needs therapy because she OBVIOUSLY has a lot of things to work through. I don’t think she should be writing a book because I feel like a lot of her mindsets are harmful to SA survivors

[@theresalayton9286]

Same here from multiple relatives, I think these worthless pieces of trash deserve to be put under the prison

[@sharonchristian8508]

I think SA's should be summarily executed. My SA was still offending when he was so elderly that he was not able to function as a sexual being. Denial is a great defense mechanism. If does nothing to help those being offended against.

[@riniks112]

When you retain empathy for yourself. You see the perpetrator as someone who is lacking. They pass down the work to heal to someone innocent as they once were.

[@nishashawn2021]

You lack emotional maturity and it caused you to misinterpret what she as the daughter was feeling.... the very same person who had her back when she was offended...turned around and offended others... Can you imagine the mix of emotions??? Of course she had to find a middle ground of peace. Don't judge her for it...

[@kathrynboswell3344]

I was drawn to listen to the entire discourse, due in part, to the gentle, honest, unpretentious sharing. It is rare these days, to see someone simply share - doing her best to answer the questions presented. To be so vulnerable, speaking her truth, having devoted many years to learn about and integrate the truth of what happened - is very inspiring to me. Thank you.

[@ninarenee3956]

I have been truly soaking in your new content with these stories. It is beyond “entertainment” and closer to educational. Thank you Mark for bringing these people and their stories out of the dark and into the light where healing can occur.

[@jnm2088]

A trauma specialist I was listening to said that it’s actually not healing when you start doing the “but he/she grew up this way blah blah.” That unless that person is in front of you telling you their story, you’re not supposed to justify it for them. Healing is about feeling it, throwing it away, and growing.

[@kimmylou3230]

Thank you for sharing this. 🙏🏽 I never thought of it that way.

[@idamartinez8863]

THANK YOU!

[@wendyWERKKZ]

The connection she tried to make between cancer and pedophilia , I wanted to vomit, it’s IS a disorder but that was also a teach . They need mental help yes but if they committed the crime then the time is absolutely due

[@angelapeters9358]

Right! Most of us grow up poor it don’t make us wanna SA kids!!!

[@kristinborchers5564]

You lost me at "They are still people and a prison sentence isn't moving the needle". The prison sentences need to be more harsh without the chance for a lesser sentence. There is NO excuse for S/A of any type. Period.

[@etlanguagesproofpositive9843]

Eh. Honestly we need to look at society and why these people become who they become. There are solutions better than prison. Preventative. I think that’s what she meant

[@kristinborchers5564]

@@etlanguagesproofpositive9843 I completely agree with that. But once the crime has already been committed, sentencing needs to be more harsh. It's extremely too lenient regarding SA.

[@ladennayoung2939]

​@etlanguagesproofpositive9843 That is what she meant, I'm sure. It is terrible how people tend to fail children.

[@kristinborchers5564]

@@KCBfly25 Agreed, 100000%

[@elianamaresca8090]

I think the fact that the SA is happening, there is nothing being done to correct the behaviour. These people are sick and do need help, but yes once the act has taken place they need to be in jail and also helped while there

[@coasterking5777]

I’m in disbelief. I’ve heard her give sympathy to her father and mother’s of sex offenders- I’m still waiting for her empathy for the VICTIM. They carry scars you cannot see forever. Astounded.

[@kenzierocks1240]

I’m late to this, as I’ve been watching quite a few interviews. I, honestly, thought this was a horrible interview. I just wasn’t impressed. I thought, at the beginning, that I would be interested in her book, but…by the end, I was no longer interested. I am astounded at her lack of empathy towards the victims, as well. Mark asked her a couple of questions that, IMO, he didn’t really get the answers that he had in mind. Not being realistic…like in a state of denial and, to me, she needs some therapy. She has her own children, yet trying to justify what her father did to the children of others. What if it had been her children?! Her “pain and trauma” isn’t even a FRACTION to that of what his victims experienced and, to act like it is, is insulting might be wrong but I don’t view seeing a naked man in the shower as SA. I’ll never forget when I was about 5 YO (many moons ago lol) my mom left me with a neighbor, who just so happened to be a very close friend of my mom’s. I was standing in her kitchen (she was cooking) and her husband (a strange person and they ended up divorcing) took a shower in the bathroom right off the kitchen and he came out and jumped in front of me naked. It’s like the image is burned into my brain and wish it wasn’t. It’s a very vivid memory. He scared me. My mom’s friend kind of chuckled but I’m sure it embarrassed her because the situation embarrassed me; HOWEVER, I hardly describe that as SA. It didn’t scar me for life but, of course, everyone views and gets affected differently but I, personally, wouldn’t categorize it as SA/molest*tion. It could’ve led to that if she hadn’t gotten the heck out. Makes me wonder IF, somehow, she’s confusing this man with her own father and she made the story up because she didn’t want to believe it was her father🤷‍♂️I could be way off but just seems like a strange story…and I stress that it’s just MY opinion(s).

[@spiderrgutts]

i was adopted by a family but got touched by my adopted mom’s grandson who was 24. i told the family what happened and they all blame me. i was 14-16. they said i destroyed their family. i don’t feel bad. child abusers don’t feel bad doing it, why would we care how they feel being locked in prison for life..

[@celticwarrior777]

Exactly

[@quespanish]

‘He was a *pious* catholic’ - he did not feel much piety for his victims, only for his sexual gratification. Her denial awakes my hate.

[@divingduck1970]

Me, too. This interview really pissed me off.

[@ToniannLagreca]

​@@divingduck1970same. She like idolizes her father and down plays her poor mother. Her father is a sick sick man and her denial is just as sick.

[@sherrycallaway6578]

Yes...mine too!!! 😠

[@lms1068]

It's like she excuses everything he did, because he's her Dad. So he prayed for the children on Sunday, so preyed on them on Monday.

[@lvhao5105]

You heard that part too? I wondered if I was the only one who heard that bit.

[@imani_malik_L7777]

Her cloaked language ("sex offender") makes it easy for her to slowly move the bar over until the criminal is now the victim. There is no worse crime than taking a childs innocence.

[@davideaton1704]

Yea there is by a million miles which is capital staute "Murder". This is why our laws put it as a capital crime because the majority does not give a sheeet what you think.

[@seraphale]

I think it's a reach to say that she's okay with what he did. She's having trouble reconciling the person she knew and loved with horrible crimes that she wasn't involved in. That is her experience, it doesn't make her complicit.

[@ladennayoung2939]

​@seraphale Yes. I agree. I hope people try to be more kind towards her. There were secrets that my family had kept for many years. I just now find out about a lot of things. I hate these things happened and wished someone would have tried to expose it and put a stop to it years ago.

[@imani_malik_L7777]

@@seraphale Don't straw man me. Of course shes not okay with it. that's why she is trying to soften the language.

[@imani_malik_L7777]

@@ladennayoung2939 she is not the victim here. no one is coming after her. your point is moot. I appreciate the transparency from her story, but this is her cross to bear, it is what it is.

[@mdlopezPDM]

I'm a child sexual abuse survivor as well and buried my secret for over 40 years. My father and cousins were my abusers and I grew up loving them, but always feeling wierd around them. I didnt like the long hugs and felt really uncomfortable being alone in a room with them as an adult and didn't know why. Then last year a family member I was close to was convicted of a sex crime on a child and the shock of learning what happened caused my pandora box to open wide and flood my mind with disgusting memories of the abuse that started at age 4-10. I am 1 year into my healing journey and have detached myself from my father and cousin...(the others are deceased) The triggers, the PTSD, and confusion are always present and hard to manage at times. They come in waves and sometimes tsunamis. Its very hard though Im not gonna lie, but when I listen to another survivor tell their story it kind of empowers me to share pieces of mine as well.

[@ShanonleeeLeonard]

May peace be with you sweetie. I was SAd by my dad and others. All it did was turn me into a raging chronic alcoholic with several mental illnesses. I will always b in a prison bcause of this. Prayers to you!! 🙏🙏♥️

[@chlo7427]

When they mentioned that trailer park in St. Pete -- where i grew up and was sexually abused for years, my heart dropped. I never knew so many were housed there, but it all makes sense now. Im finding comfort in watching these videos and hearing thesd peoples stories. Means a lot to feel seen.

[@Parrotgirl-Tattoo]

I live in hillsborough county & i am shocked at the amount of preds in central florida, especially st Pete. 😳

[@nangel270]

Her confusion about her father (she still loved him but yet hated what he did) is understandable because she was groomed also. She was a large part of his maintaining his facade. She said herself that he was an actor and good at wearing a mask. There was no love but he merely played the part of a father. She was used and is unable to accept that due to her grooming. She is a victim in that sense.

[@brandimyhren6317]

Agreed. He lied and was not who she believes he was. He is her father biologically but he and everything about what she knows of him is all a big fat lie a show all done to protect hisself and anything done that she thought was to show love was not love. It was done for himself not for her. It’s a twisted and completely disgusting and foul way to treat others. Unforgivable.

[@KAM-my8nb]

In the video and even in this chat the term grooming is being used in the wrong context. Her father did not groom her. She was not being exploited. She describes him as Disneyland. A runner who should not be categorized and should be entitled to things after prison. She glorifies him and keeps in touch with him. I’m sure she would have been singing a different song if she was at the hands of him at night. And she’s a school teacher. Like what’s wrong with her!! Not to mention he marries a young girl after her mom died. He’s a disgusting paedophile. And she’s no better trying to capitalize off this. Of course it’s easy for her because she’s no victim. If she wanted to make a difference. Donate the proceeds to a childhood sexual assault centre. But by no account are you are no expert!!!! You need to walk a mile in these shoes to understand!

[@nangel270]

KA M Sure thing expert. Who says I haven’t walked in those shoes?

[@samuisun6684]

@@brandimyhren6317 She is also in denial about the mother, for sure she caught him doing something to the daughter at a younger stage that she doesnt remember,, and that is why they had a strained relationship...It is a hard thing to confront that the man you chose to have children with is a pervert. But i am sure she made excuses to herself the same way the daughter is making excuses in this interview.

[@pennyglisson4450]

@@samuisun6684 !!

[@janstewart512]

What she doesn't focus enough on is the psychological damage done to the victim. In my case I was 13 years old and it has had a profound negative impact on my psyche for the last 51 years. I could not tell anyone until I had a daughter and at that point I told my Mom what had happened as I never wanted this person to ever be around my daughter. It was a relative and I had to tell someone at that point.

[@kyam3331]

²½ ⅛

[@BrooklynPerson30000]

i think she offers a unique insight that is equally as important as talking about the trauma

[@countryhorseluvr]

Agree, seems like a lot of victim shaming, “why didn’t they say something?” Because they were terrified, humiliated, ashamed, scared, devastated, because your great marathon pervert dad just molested them… 😢might feel different when it happens to grandchildren etc.

[@xochi8560]

I concur 🙏

[@poeticallysavage1649]

Jan , I don’t think she can focus on someone else’s damage when she is focused on the damage it did to her. I am sure she has thought about the psychological damage done to the victim, but she came to mark to tell her story, not the victims or her fathers !

[@felixedwardz5459]

My dad is a pedophile and a child rapist. He never spent a day in jail and faced no consequences. No matter what your relationship to them is, refusing to completely disown them and insisting that they are in any way a victim or giving them an excuse puts you on the same level as them. There truly is a special place in hell.

[@kinesis4868]

They shouldn’t be coming out of prison it should be an automatic life sentence

[@powderandpaint14]

The truth is that offender's that commit "lesser" crimes against children are likely to go on to commit more serious ones if they're not stopped. So yes those who commit minor offences should be treated seriously and they should stay on the register.

[@johnglow7845]

Yes getting away with it emboldens them gives thrm a sense of accomplishment.

[@carynmartin6053]

And it's a reinforced theme by getting away with it

[@maddart4445]

Mmmmm Thailand big red flag. I’m sure he enjoyed that trip.

[@brandimyhren6317]

Should be locked up .protect the weak and innocent from abuse. It’s never going to stop until those who commit crimes against children and elderly are locked up forever it will continue to happen and broken adults who don’t ever get treated for their abuse grow up and repeat or commit violent crimes against children and elderly. It’s a fact. Very rarely do they grow up to have productive lives if they go on untreated. It’s horrible .

[@seldom_seen8713]

@powderandpaint....That is not true.

[@Sarah-lb8cs]

I have a problem with calling pedophiles sex offenders. You can get put on the sex offender registry for urinating in public. Messing with children is very very different and should have its own list.

[@lisacramer154]

They do.... they label them as Predators in FL.

[@Aivottaja]

That's the problem with the registry system.

[@TheSamanthaDaisy]

TRUTH

[@jhawks8999]

No you can’t. That’s ignorant

[@Star3marie304]

Also not every pedophile is a sex offender and not every sex offender is a pedophile. A sex offender is someone who has committed a sex CRIME. The definition of a pedophile is someone who has a sexual attraction to children, it doesnt mean they are an offender or have offended. Because of the way our society is, there is such a stigma against pedophilia YET our society and culture sexualizes children from a very young age, so it's a very hypercritical, strange and sick dichotomy many people do not pause and think about. They immediately go to and think in extremes. Its much more complex and gray, it's not so black and white

[@tw7231]

“ do you just turn your back & walk away?” YES. ABSOLUTELY. Why was there ANY hesitation?

[@jenniferhiggins9018]

Thank you for adding this voice to the conversation. This is such a hard subject there are so many emotions here. So much anger. All of those emotions are valid. Each individual who has had their life shattered by this kind of abuse has to go through their own process to rebuild and whatever they have to do is valid. There is another side though that we really have to think about and that is how do we break the cycle of abuse? Part of breaking the cycle is opening up communication and clearing the shame, making sure people have the tools to cope with what has happened to them and move beyond the shame and anger. The anger that we as a society have towards these crimes is part of what keeps victims silent and prevents people from getting the help they need. We have to be willing to talk through and understand why this happens. Understanding why someone did what they did does not take any of the fault or blame away. These are the tools we use to end the silence and shame so that the next generation of kids will be able to admit they were abused and break the cycle.

[@MarthaMcCrum]

He didn’t get down on his knees in grief after he touched the little girl. Only when he got caught.

[@luliawka]

I am sure it was the another perverted grooming of his own daughter

[@jacquelinemuqui]

Facts

[@superbherb7947]

Didn’t she say that he turned himself in?!

[@skylady64ish93]

@@superbherb7947yes she did. Maybe they were onto him and he turned himself in before they came after him.

[@LMNRocks101]

My father abused me. When it was finally out, there were two sides, people who loved him and didn’t understand or believe, or people who couldn’t handle the level of evil he had committed. As a child, I was stuck in the middle. As a child having to navigating adult, complex problems and emotions was damaging as well. I hated my father, and longed for the man I wanted him to be. I had people tell me I needed to not talk about it because it could tarnish his name. But the children that have these evil acts done to them are scarred. Never the same. It changed everything within me, still as an adult I have to deal with his actions. The children don’t get to redo their childhood or get their innocence back, why should an offender be given such grace? Also, my father would give my mother cash for Christmas and her birthday. That was so odd.

[@ninobrown9564]

It wasn't your fault. I hope you find peace and are able to heal from the abuse.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Tarnish? HIS name? H.E. all by himself has utterly ruined his name forever HIM No one else Certainly not that child

[@annesamson5489]

Another one with the cash gifts -interesting

[@wenlav76]

makes me wonder if the gift of cash was hush money.

[@ladyj6278]

Do you think the cash was "hush money" as on some level, these women must have a modicum of suspicion as to what is going on under their roof? Not judging, just asking the question. I truly hope you are able to find some happiness and comfort in your life. Good luck for the future.

[@Crow5853]

My grandfather went to prison for rape when he was 17. It was an act he committed with a couple of other men. My grandfather was a full blown alcoholic. When he wasn't drinking he was kind and full of humor. But alcohol was like poison to him. My mother and grandmother sat me down and told me of his prison time when I was about to go to high school. They were afraid someone might tell me there. He was in prison for a couple of years because he was a youthful offender. It's a long story with other family members effected profoundly by his disease. I too struggle with feeling profoundly at odds with having loving memories of my grandfather and knowing the kind of violence he was capable of.

[@danicahubbard177]

It’s Father’s Day and I have chosen today to collectively respond to thousands of comments and over 1 million views of my SWU interview several months ago. As the author of Sex Offender: My Father’s Secrets, My Secret Shame, one of my main purposes in sharing my story was to help families of incarcerated loved ones and reach an audience that includes anyone who has dealt with loss and trauma. On days like today when many families are celebrating fathers, there are also families who feel alone and abandoned because of choices their fathers have made. I am grateful to Mark for inviting me to Los Angeles for a SWU interview, but in reading some hostile comments, I was shocked and saddened by the outrage toward me for sharing my story. The title of my book contains the word “shame,” and opening up to the public naturally triggers compelling reactions. I can’t control how people respond to my story. I understand it may be impossible to listen to a sensitive topic of sexual abuse and not hold hate or judgement for the perpetrator. However, telling my story does not make me an apologist or dismiss my disdain and repulsion for sex offenders. I loved my father, but I hated what he did. I knew my father for over 30 years as my father, not an evil, disgusting, wicked child molester. It was a jarring surprise for me when he was arrested and went to prison. When a loved one is incarcerated, it may feel like you have lost everything - your future and your identity are blown up as it relates to that person you once thought you knew. It is a web of lies to unpack. It is hard and uncomfortable to accept a man who was also accused of being a monster. Finally knowing my father’s crimes had such an impact on me that I could not acknowledge his existence for years. I felt overwhelmed, confused, angry, upset and depressed. I lost someone I loved, yet he was still alive. To be clear, I am not an apologist for sex offenders. I have not made excuses for my father, but instead shared what I knew of his background, trying to understand how good can turn to evil. I am not in denial that my father was a convicted sex offender. I condemn my father’s horrible actions and feel extraordinary pain and loss for his victims. Being the daughter of a sex offender involves juggling a lot of contradictions. I believe he was punished in prison. He died in prison. His actions involved consequences for me, our family, friends and beyond. What he did was an abomination to young innocent children. I understand and have lived with his crimes that trigger anger and loathing. During the SWU interview I also spoke about my horrible encounter with a neighbor who attempted to sexually abuse me, however, please realize this interview was edited. I did not talk about how I was raped by another man. I did not talk about how I have gone to therapy. I did not talk about a lot. I was asked in the interview to focus on my father as I knew him before we found out the truth. It wasn’t until I was an adult and mother of my own children that I learned the truth about my father and his previous acts of grooming and assaulting child victims. I had no idea. I have faced the unpleasant consequences of my father’s actions for decades. It wasn’t until I extensively researched and wrote my book that I started to understand the overwhelming evidence of his vile actions of abusing children. I didn’t avoid this reality, but instead faced it head on with interviews, presentations and publishing a book for all to see. Facing the truth is an excruciating, disturbing and traumatic experience. I did not repress memories of his behavior because I did not experience his behavior, but many of his victims did. I hope my story continues to spark dialogue that educates, informs and facilitates a pathway to understanding what it is like to be the daughter of a convicted sex offender. It is incumbent upon us as a community to ask questions on behalf of millions of child victims. Taking time and space to consider what is posted on this SWU platform with grace and humility is part of the communication process. I believe we can still be compassionate while insisting criminals pay for their crimes. Of course the victims of these crimes deserve the most healing and protection. Sales from my book will be shared with Prevent Child Abuse America, a non-profit organization dedicated to the primary prevention of child abuse and neglect. Thank you again for reading with resilience! www.amazon.com/Sex-Offender-Fathers-Secrets-Secret/dp/1638604045/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

[@christianmom4745]

Well said. It’s clear you suffered deeply by what your father did and anyone who thinks you are supporting what he did obviously didn’t read your book or really listen to the interview- quite possibly because of their own trauma, but not because you were not clear- you were very clear that you were and are disgusted and hate what he did. Blessings for your heart to continue to heal… and for all children of incarcerated parents and all victims of crimes.

[@Wtfsince1982]

Human existence is infinitely more complex than any of us want to admit. I admire your strength and grace in handling this delicate subject. I love my father so much, I can’t begin to fathom how difficult your situation is or how I would feel if I discovered such a thing. I wish you the best of luck in your life. ❤

[@elpanchosancho2314]

I swear I've seen you in a porn. Was that you on backdoor moms 3?

[@dilarasharipova9313]

Was you raped at 5? 6?

[@dilarasharipova9313]

Надеюсь он горит в аду! И будет страдать вечность.

[@nativeamericanfeather9948]

As a child I was abused,unwanted,neglected,& molested by 5 different people. I fought demons as a child alone. I left at 15 & been on my own since.God saved me ♡ He loved me when I was unloved,carried me when I my small body was too battered to walk,he came into my heart and life as a young child and saved me. He reminded me that I had a purpose when I was told I was a mistake. I encourage anyone that has been hurt to please never let the dark hide the beautiful light of life. It's beautiful and a gift♡ don't let evil dim your light. Speak up..tell your story..get involved to help other children that are being hurt. Hugs to this woman. May she find inner peace♡

[@annaak7849]

Beautiful words. Sending love.

[@pjams2745]

Child abuse is an epidemic in our world. The amount of people who have been abused as children is disturbing. There should be zero tolerance for this shit. The abuser should never know a day of peace.

[@martinamaud9762]

There is zero tolerance but it’s still epidemic as you say ….pushing it further into the dark is where it grows …we need to face it bring it out into the light to see it and uproot it ….uncomfortable as that is going to be

[@joeramos4489]

agreed

[@tamaradanielle1296]

I agree. The whole time she was saying, he’s on the sex offenders registry so he can’t have a social life, he can’t date, people would bully him, his jogging route would get changed…. I saying “good, good, good, GOOD”. he shouldn’t even be out in public

[@thematriarchy2075]

Well, why is it an "epidemic" you think? Would there be a correlation between taboo subjects/shame and the amount of sexual abuse going on? How about giving children way more opportunity to talk about this and also talk about their body? If our body is something to feel shame about, same as sex is a subject that is not easily talked about, especialy in American culture, how do children feel ok to tell adults what's happening? The abused can become the abuser if they never get the chance to talk about their trauma. There's an interview on this channel with a man, Mike i think, who is a SO, but when you listen to him, not judging, but listen, you can understand how he became the abuser. Pitchforkers do not help people, they just make it worse.

[@Laysea89]

@@thematriarchy2075 THIS 💯❤️

[@amandathornhill4538]

I'm trying my best to remain open minded and have empathy and I know this person is not meaning to defend her father, but she is. It's a really, really hard watch. My heart goes out to the victims that this interview triggers.

[@r8chlletters]

Until it’s your dad you can’t really understand. What it costs someone to honestly examine something of this magnitude and still have love in their hearts belies the struggle to (not forgive) but to know and to shine a light. That is a person of great bravery and someone who has lost a lot to get from grief to understanding. Thank you for sharing this interview.

[@silviahflores3367]

Definitely no excuse! Everyone has a sad/ traumatic childhood... it is not an excuse to harm innocent children. All sex offenders need to just be done with. Period.

[@zatskya]

Agreed!

[@Jonny-eu7le]

Done with? Does that mean dragged out in the desert and shot? Fine by me

[@maryreid3387]

I mean "Agreed"-.

[@jbsikes6841]

Not everyone has such a childhood

[@justyeeeeeetit]

My dad grew up in poverty & never abused me. She can tell the sad story of her father all day long & I won't sympathize for him. She never went into detail of his crimes only his life. Which shows she isn't giving the victims a voice on their abuse. Only giving the voice to the abuser. This video made me very upset.

[@browneyedgirl4637]

My uncle molested/raped almost every female and male in my family until I pressed charges against him. His secret was then out. Even still his mother my grandmother still accepted him and forced any of us who wanted to see her to have to put up with his presence. She blamed us kids saying we dressed to provocatively with our tank tops and shorts as child younger than 10..younger than 5. Ugh!! When she died we told our uncle to leave and never come back. He stripped her house and left an ugly message on mirrors of her house before he left. I have not had contact with him since. I once saw him as a homeless man. He had a sign that said “God saves” and “Jesus saves” while he pushed a cart. He should be in prison. What he did to me was just the tip of the iceberg of victims he created over his lifetime. It tears up a family. It leaves a forever scar on every person. So sad.

[@luvangelmyers2731]

👏🏾👏🏾GOD BLESS YOU!!🙏🏽❤️

[@ramzue1728]

Cap alert ⚠️ 📢 👀

[@cute4real846]

My older cousin, the molester in my family had several victims including me. So did his molesting father who molested my mother and his daughter among others. Happened to me only once but I’m scarred nonetheless. I had to go to family functions and see his face. I hated him so much that when he died I would not go to his funeral. I’ve never said all this out loud. I remember my mother blamed me…I was 6.

[@browneyedgirl4637]

@@cute4real846 it is terrible that family does that to each other. They should be the ones who have our back. I hope you find peace.

[@sunkissed6413]

I am so sorry you went through this! I’m heartbroken for you 💔

[@cheycheyasmr7887]

this is a horrible hill to die on. this message that shes spreading that pedophiles deserve a second chance, especially after the years of abuse she’s described, is sooooo so harmful especially knowing that her dad reoffended after being let out. she should have cut off her dad, this is horrible. this whole dialogue of sympathy towards him gives absolutely no thought to the actual victims of pedophilia

[@jennyadee913]

As a Mother of 4 daughters and a Grandmother of a grandson I have taught them to trust that if they feel a sensation in their gut about someone to trust it . A teacher wanted my oldest to stay after school. She told me she had a spinning bad feeling when she was with him. I trusted her gut and did not allow unsupervised after school time. He was arrested years later for sexual misconduct.

[@Dandisa]

The way she excuses sex offenders is typical “clicking on the wrong button… ending up on a sex trafficking website” um excuse me? That’s not how it works. Even if you miraculously end up there by accident, they’d need more than one click of the “wrong button” to convict you

[@Lifeszebarbie]

I just commented the same thing. That part was gross and a stretch for undeserved compassion. Along with many other things she said. Ew.

[@Dandisa]

@@Lifeszebarbie I found your comment! I’m so glad you noticed that too.

[@cloebell1]

i was wondering abut the validity of that comment, thanks for speaking out about it!

[@powderandpaint14]

It's almost impossible for someone to just click the wrong button and end up seeing it anyway, you have to go on the dark web ect. No-one just stumbled upon that kind of content!

[@whereverigothereiam3078]

She is his victim too. Her loyalty and love for him are heartbreaking.

[@mrs.copeland]

Agreed

[@carolinedozier5430]

Agree

[@SpiceyKy]

Amen 🙏

[@heathernikki5734]

No, she isn’t 🙄

[@LT-eq2th]

@@heathernikki5734 yeah she is. Just a different type of victim.

[@MEL2theJ]

Thank you for the interview Danica Hubbard and SWU

[@pjmendoza8871]

Not only does this affect the victim but the family. I'm a husband and the shit my wife is going through haunts me.

[@sugahbabydoll1]

When you call addiction and or sexual abuse / pedophile a "disease" not a "choice," then you're removing a person responsibility from their own actions.

[@clairelevasseur4745]

This^ 100% this.

[@grinsRwins]

It is a adult capable of making decisions she's talking about ..mental illness is such a bullshit approach pisses me off so much , castration all day

[@mamadude505]

❤❤❤

[@probablynot1368]

I’m concerned that the act(s) of sexual abuse may be pushed into the realm of obsessive compulsive disorder, which will then be justified as a “disease”, rather than a behavioral “choice”.

[@t.texastimmy1022]

Would you say the same for those people who walk willingly down the road to addiction?

[@ebbiesweetngood9966]

She is in the beginning of the grief process which involves a lot of denial. Now I would like to hear from her again later when she realizes the predator who her father IS . She probably hasn't even processed these "Thailand" trips. And the fact that these great gifts weren't only for her, but to help him feel better as well. Got PTSD working with SOs so hopefully she has love surrounding her when she reaches Depression and Acceptance

[@kimjohnson1755]

Right?!

[@bobbyologun1517]

The offenses are the real person. The toys, the Disneyland persona even the crying half admission are the act.

[@irinahodakovsky4086]

Are you sure you don't just want her to hate him more? The reality is that he was her dad and the man she experienced was a good man. This is a very good example of the struggles the children deal with, the confusion in the head. This is what it means being the child of an abuser. My dad was an alcoholic, he was the reason for so much pain and death in our family, and yet inside him there are two men: the demon who tormented us and the man who was tormented by his demons. One of these men I hate and the other I love wholeheartedly. This is just what our psyche has to deal with as children of abusers. She may never hate her dead as much as you wish she would hate him, and she doesn't owe you that. Her dad wasn't all bad. No one is. He deserves love, too. Without love there's no chance for him to recover ever from this. If there's no possibility of love available for him, then there's no remorse possible from him. This is the other side of the story.

[@patrickmcpartland1398]

​@@irinahodakovsky4086found the pedo right here

[@krm7059]

I’m sure as hell her perspective on her father being a sex offender would completely change if it was her daughters he was touching.

[@laamiroly]

I agree with Mark. Castration ought to become mandatory not only for ALL sex offenders but for men who impregnate women with NO intention of supporting their offspring. And while castration may not eliminate it wholly, it WILL diminish it.

[@knittnpretty]

I truly began listening with an open mind. I got lost in the weeds of excuses somewhere in the middle. As a survivor of child SA, I can tell you that the emotional damage is forever. Why don't we tell? Why did Danica's childhood friend not tell? Because her father was a master at his craft. He left that friend doubting her reality. Trying to understand a sexual experience that she wasn't old enough to understand never mind put it into words. These predators can NEVER be cured or rehabilitated as evidenced by her father's "second chance". Castration is the only way to go. Not interested in reading the book, I have heard enough.

[@LovePrettySunsets]

Satanic Ritual Abuse survivor? SRA?

[@nishashawn2021]

Adding context to a situation isn't a excuse. She didn't excuse his behavior at all during the interview.

[@krampusthunderstick3729]

Well, that's 100% not true since we have evidence of predators that have been rehabilitated into non offenders. Not to mention pedophiles who have NEVER offended.

[@echofoxtrot2.051]

​@@krampusthunderstick3729They're all disgusting monsters who should be dead! Why should they live when they made my life a living hell for years???? Why do they get the mercy that they never showed me??? Why do they get humane treatment from you when I was a child who was tormented? Why do you feel compassion for the monsters who destroy the lives of the innocent. Pedophilia is the worst crime a person can commit or even conceive of doing! You are better off being murdered than to have to live after extensive abuse. It makes living not seem worth it. It changes everything.

[@Codercamp]

She did excuse his behaviors when she said why didn’t they speak up!

[@isabellel7677]

She has sterilized the horror her father caused so she can live with it - IMO. She could be reporting on this in so many other ways, in so many other moods, but instead, she elects to focus on how misunderstood and good he was - otherwise. "Otherwise" doesn't get a vote in the face of destroying children. And perhaps I am the only one, but I felt an underlying message of "she knows more than we know" because of her experience. I imagine her reading our comments and walking away feeling like we "just don't get it."

[@alisha_madariaga]

This is an incredibly insightful comment. I really like what you said about “sterilizing” what he did so she can cope. I could definitely see how that could be true.

[@kellyhannah5933]

I agree. She’d feel very differently if he had done something to her daughter. That is something you never get over. Watching my daughter go through pain every day year after year is so difficult. If I could get rid of the person that did this to her, I would in a heartbeat. And I’m a very non violent person. But not where my child is concerned.

[@LaLA441000]

It's called grooming.

[@bethmyles-geddes4699]

@@kellyhannah5933 I’m so sorry for your daughter and the terrible times for your family . I 100% agree she speaks about the crimes from a distance , like a case study -she admits that someone challenged her academic detachment and yes if his crimes had directly affected her ie her daughters I think she would have a different POV Her rationalising a male sexual drive out of control as illness and a problem of impulsivity and not adhering to rules is partly correct but the other side is these men have operated in an environment which reinforced a supremacist entitlement to sex . They say sex crimes are about dominance and not sex but there’s all kinds of levels to this ie in a competitive alpha world the grooming and procuring of a teenage girl is highly prized , this is about signalling dominance to other men whereas the grooming and procuring of younger children is furtive and secret and is projecting their inner inadequacy onto their victims. This has always been and her dad glided through life unchallenged. This entitlement is now a problem and is called toxic masculinity The truth I believe is that no matter the origin of her dads impulses he repeatedly gave into them because he could and any conscience was gone He destroyed many lives and families and he didn’t have to , he was caught then reoffended -he was made aware of his crime but chose himself first. Her book I think is about her own struggle to love a ‘monster’, she could be speaking from a place of Ptsd

[@bethmyles-geddes4699]

@@kellyhannah5933 fundamentally she loved 1 version of her father , he deceived her as much as he did his victims and that’s the inner struggle she doesn’t want to face

[@ermelindarrenja8162]

That she tried to excuse and humanize her dad's actions, is DISGUSTING. They don't deserve kindness.

[@dustydonna]

Her dad is a child molester and she's talking about it being hard for him dating and being called vile names. She needs a realty check. This one is angering me so much. I have NO sympathy for this child molester. They should be locked up for life as they do not change.

[@ladyv890]

She is still speaking like she is detached or in denial...I do feel like she is telling only the " half truth" as she describes. Also, her long winded replies to answer a simple question like "how old are you?" seems like she is holding back. Understandably, this is a hard topic.

[@stevendenny5667]

I was abused at 15 by a man in his 60s. 5 years later I was diagnosed with schizophrenia, I've battled drug and alcohol addiction since shortly after my abuse. 11 psychiatric ward hospitalisations too. Not all of my issues stem from SA but it plays on my mind every day. At 37 now I only just addressed the issue with a psychologist but no amount of therapy can alleviate the issue. I told a nurse in the psych ward when I was in my 20s, but he dismissed me and said it was 'sexual experimentation'. This made me carry even more shame and guilt and secrecy until I finally spoke to the psychologist this year who believed me. I'm not a pitchfork wielding, mob mentality person, and I forgive my abuser, but once anyone is found guilty of sexual abuse of children, there should be a mandatory life sentence.

[@WendyDahling3]

I’m sorry you went thru horrible trauma. I’m glad you survived! But I agree offenders should never get out of jail. I don’t think they can be rehabilitated.

[@travissys3504]

Please try to hang in there, friend. You are not alone.

[@publius9350]

Similar situation. I want to kms. If you want a buddy for catching the bus send me a direct message.

[@sharondanya]

im so sorry about what you went through. the nurse should get better training to know how to deal with these situations

[@jacquelinemuqui]

At 15?! Wait what?

[@stephanelandry]

I can relate to this lady so much when she said: ''I love my Father, but I hate what he did''

[@barleyteaa]

Her calling castration “cruel” because of how the sex offenders’ mothers would feel is insanely ironic and delusional

[@janedoe1146]

I was going along listening to this video and Danica's story. Ok, she loves her Dad. When she started making excuses about his childhood and maybe that's why he decided to dominate and harm children Danica lost me. I had quite the dramatic upbringing as many many others have and a whole lot of us did not go and take our anger out on children. Danica appears to be in deep denial about her father. He ruined people's lives and there is no way in hell i'm going to feel sorry for him. One thing i learned about people: "Be careful who you give your sympathy too". Also, i'm for castrating sex offenders. It's a cure for society. And innocent victims.

[@jennbearcat4484]

That’s the exact point she lost me as well.

[@o.m.g7277]

Still... It is her opinion, and not necessary the truth.

[@thickemsup1135]

castration doesn't stop deviant behavior, only death does

[@sarahholland2600]

All the psych research & statistics do show abuse is very often, a generational cycle of learnt behaviour. Children who grow up in abuse or violence can ( not always) become desensitised & see the abuse as a norm they model & repeat. Or, they can repeat it in an attempt to take back their lost power & avoid their victimhood. ( I did child psychology as part of my teaching degree) .

[@lilolmecj]

I think there is room to listen still, because possibly she can give us insight. As we see again and again perpetrators don’t fit into a certain type. They can appear as the school janitor all the kids love because he is funny, a teen volunteer at the church, or adult volunteer. The one thing she said that is a big key, if a person who does not have children has all sorts of kid friendly things, and always wants kids around , be there all the time. The FREAKING MOTHER KNEW! I am very sad for this woman because I feel quite certain that she was also one of his victims. Both directly and indirectly.

[@Lindsey1010]

What a roller coaster of emotions for the interviewee and watcher. As this is her father I could understand the love she has and the disappointment she must feel but it sounds like she is still being groomed by his memory of the façade he wanted her to know. My heart is to the victims including his family.

[@christinaprn]

“….she’s still being groomed by his memory.” Wow, that was a great insight. You hit the nail in the head. Danica is very intelligent and articulate, but she does not see her father as the evil person that he is.

[@bellabella1670]

🔥

[@cedjeffski5947]

That is the point really, that it is confusing dealing with evil within someone you loved/love. My take is that she has yet to relinquish feeling for her father to some degree, even though she knows it's wrong. @@christinaprn

[@faithwilkins9902]

We had a man in our rural town who every parent knew. He would lure the less cared for kids into his home and abuse them. One day years later the abuser was found out in the back of high school gym with his throat slit. The perp was never arrested and the monster in our community was never missed.

[@SimplyCandaceLove]

My 5 yr old daughter was SA’d by her father and this women really triggered me. And the fact she wrote a book with her mindset is disgusting.

[@katella]

She said "my father was a pious Catholic" she said with a straight face...

[@RezValla]

No Catholic would molest a kid

[@katella]

@@RezValla don't say that to any of the thousands of indigenous children who were forced into the church run re-education concentration camps called "residential schools.

[@janecoe9407]

IT IS POSSIBLE HER DAD WAS ABUSED AS A CHILD. BY A PRIEST.

[@samuisun6684]

@@janecoe9407 and...? there are many abused children who actually grow up and are staunch advocates for the absolute right of the child to grow up not being touched and molested.

[@Sunny-xc9kv]

Child abuse is rampant in the Catholic Church. That’s not surprising.

[@bcc7777]

Yes, sex offenders are people...but they need to be locked up forever. FOREVER.

[@KelseyDunlevy]

👏This is the most succinct, best response I've seen to this video.

[@sabrinashelton1997]

at least

[@RosieWilliamOlivia]

We have to be careful with that because sex offender is a broad term. In some states an 18 year old having sex with a 17 year old can get charged with being a sex offender and have to register for life. That's insane. I personally think anyone harming little children should be killed but I think beyond that we need to be discerning.

[@sarabrown56]

Sex offenders need to be volunteered for living organ donation, blood and plasma donation and every hard work/dangerous assignment like toxic waste cleanup. They have to actually give back in the biggest way possible.

[@mileysong1117]

Monsters NOT human.

[@cheyloo]

This is the best, most informative interview so far. I'm going to find her book and read it. Thank you, Danica, for being so open with such a personal story.

[@boriscruz9912]

Amazing Interview....thanks Very educational

[@angelicarmts]

This was such a strange conversation. I understand that this is from her point of view but I have NO SYMPATHY for anyone who chooses to sex offend. Regardless of their upbringing, he made a choice to do that OVER MANY YEARS and yet didn’t get caught. I feel sorry for her because she truly wants to paint a different (not so bad person) image of her own father.

[@anthonysnider2118]

I feel the same way about single Mothers! She took everything from me.

[@tl9055]

👍

[@markatag2680]

​@anthonysnider2118 how is a si gle mother the same as having a serial sex offending father ruining countless lives?

[@chamanigunasekera8345]

I agree, this is such a strange conversation. I can understand the denial and struggle of loved ones of sex offenders, but I don't think that should be a reason for empathy towards the offender themselves. I did not understand the point she was trying to make against castration as the punishment; it made no logical sense. By that same logic then a mom would feel bad for her child going to prison or getting any punishment for any crime, so does that mean no one should be imprisoned? Certainly if there is anyone that society needs to keep away and be protected from, its sex offenders.

[@ladyj6278]

I agree with you 100%, I was expecting a lot more when I started out viewing this but this woman is trying to gloss over the most heinous aspects and is still in a degree of denial. If Danica truly and honestly felt the weight of her father's actions, I doubt she would have the strength to sit here and try to explain it..... there is absolutely no justification.

[@twinsma14]

How about “dad” was a whole narcissist. A person with any empathy toward another human would not be sex offending and replacing a wife simultaneously and then invite his daughter to comedy show, to meet her new mother from the grocery store. Disgusting behavior. Don’t make excuses for him or even try to understand it. I’m sorry for her pain.

[@chrishenicke2052]

I’ve never figured out what makes an adult prey on children sexually…. It’s hard to understand. I’ve never looked at a child and thought to myself I want that! Thank God! I pray for all these people!

[@PussyCat7419]

I posted a comment months ago, and so many brave, wonderful people have replied to me. I can't change what happened to me, but we can change the lives of children/adolescents around us. Please do not be afraid to speak up and protect and support young people suffering through any kind of abuse.

[@PussyCat7419]

My stepfather molested me, my friends and God only knows how many young women my entire childhood. I told my mother and anyone who was an adult in my life, but nobody helped me.....only called me a liar. My uncle who molested all of us was finally convicted and sent to jail after my cousin found out that he was molesting her daughter. All of the elders in the family knew he was molesting all of us nieces, but no one did anything about it. I learned as an adult that my real father raped my cousin when she came to visit us at 16 years old. Of course, no one believes her. I do. I know she is 100% telling the truth. Why do these wives and family members protect these animals? Thank you Danica for standing up and telling the painful truth about your family history,

[@elaibesummers906]

@Theresa sorry you experienced such trauma in your childhood. You are not a liar and spoke your truth. If we keep quiet, the generational curse just continues in a family. I managed to speak my truth only 3 years ago. One of my abusers my half sibling excused himself by saying "I make him sound like a pedophile". Thank God I was not there when he spoke those words, as God help me! I don't know what I would have done. These vile types of human beings are beyond sick.We have to speak up. People and family members don't want to believe anyone in the family can commit such a heinous crime. I will continue to speak my truth, I wont be silenced. We are strong, courageous survivors. I pray continuous healing over your life.

[@momomba]

my friend and her sisters were abused by their father, their mother knew the whole time but told them “my dad molested me too, we have a great relationship now though, you’ll get over it” it seems that their mom was in denial and if she acknowledged how messed up it was for her kids to be abused then she would see how evil her dad was too. fortunately both my friends mom and dad were arrested and put in jail

[@elaibesummers906]

@Morgan Nelson I can not understand why parents normalise it because it happened to them and allow it to happen to their own children. In my case, my dad caught my half sibling with me at 9 yrs old and they never spoke to me or called the Police. My parents are both deceased now. To this day, I can not get over it! How? I do not let it define me as a person and have forgiven myself, I was a child. Glad the parents were sent to prison.

[@triciabgirl3935]

It ran in my family too, just like that. The denile is insane. Why are the young girls the blame? People are disgusting

[@elaibesummers906]

@Tricia Bgirl Sorry you went through such trauma in your childhood. I can't get past it, and the fact in my case my parents did nothing although they knew. I pray for continuous healing over your life 🤗

[@ryanmichelle6624]

I watched an interview with a female corrections officer and she said some of the "nicest, calm, and well mannered " ( use those words loosely) people are sexual predators. So when she describes her father as fun and charismatic etc ..it doesn't surprise me. That's why they are able to get away with horrible crimes for so long. The devil isn't always the monster you think .. I really can't vibe with her sounds like she's making alot of excuses for him...Just my opinion...relax..also... I COULD CARE LESS IF A SEXUAL PREDATOR CAN'T GET A JOB, DATE OR HAVE FRIENDS!!!!

[@waterox73]

Agree with all this. She seems way too focused on his rights and reputation not the massive amount of damage he caused. Then she adds a perky "Oh and buy my book!"

[@WindTurbineSyndrome]

Many authors do interviews to hawk their books. The daughter wrote on comments all proceeds go to a sex abuse awareness charity

[@bettywith2girls]

@@WindTurbineSyndrome That's not true. You are right that many authors do interview to hawk their books...but as the daughter wrote, "A PORTION of the proceeds are being donated to Prevent Child Abuse America.", not all proceeds. A portion can be 1% too, as far as we know.

[@Mellie433]

Thank you so much for this interview. I unfortunately think some of the negative commenters looked at this interview wrong. It was very informative and thank you for helping the families. They did not do the crime.

[@terrylovesenegal]

The amount of mental illness and child abuse is staggering. This is affecting everyone directly or indirectly, particularly those abused who have to find a way to survive, and live a 'normal' life. Good on you Danica for doing all this research. Glad you listened to your daughter and shared your story.