MY FATHER TAUGHT MY EX HUSBAND HOW TO BEAT ME

[@yvonneodul8291]

I like the way Pastor is allowing her to speak without interfering

[@suwakukoyi5765]

It's better this way, so it. An flow.

[@SamuelAgnes-di4rl]

Same here

[@EkeminiDOVM11]

This is why we need an effective Child protective system in Nigeria cos this doesn’t make sense at all! The bruises on a child and no one is held accountable?! Wow! Thanks for sharing this story Ma gives me more fuel to fight for innocent children 🙏🏾

[@ijeomaiheanachor6780]

I relate your comment are you a social worker

[@EvaOreva]

Yes ooo It’s important Cos too many parents are terrible at parenting

[@julianaivyagyekwena6969]

I pray God's complete healing of your soul and family. Amen

[@sandraphilip5149]

This woman needs a deep healing. Allowing her to talk without interruption was also a start process of healing

[@MissMumbuaKasyoki]

I know...May Jesus heal her.

[@deolaronipede372]

🥹🥹

[@NomsLoots]

This comment is so kind yet so profound 🥹♥️

[@ChaanaEjoga]

The way she laughs saying her ordeal is a sign of trauma. One can see from her gentleness that she's a loving person despite all she's been through

[@giftowhor283]

She’s traumatized already. The way she smiles helps in relieving the stress. That’s a coping mechanism

[@KennethNgedo]

It could also be the peace and joy of the lord. I believed she is indeed healed

[@mayoressoflife]

It's the smile and laughter of victory

[@lollypop8632]

100 percent!

[@dorcasalabi4430]

Honestly, she is really sad. I pray she heals soonest.

[@bekkyamanda4646]

This story is the worst I've ever heard of. I have said it, and I'd continue to say it over and again, Children are gifts from God, but you must not have them. Parents are the first god that these children will ever know. Please, in the name of God Almighty. Young people, if you know you have not already laid out plans to do better, please do not have children. Stay single and focus on your God. For you to have a child, you must have the capacity to invest your time, finance, love, and patience in that child/children. Children are not furniture, they are flesh and blood, they are God's own. You have no business having children if you are not ready to invest in them physically, mentally, spiritually, socially, emotionally, and all. Every time I hear of how parents fail their children (this being the worst), my heart keels over. You can marry and choose to have no child, nobody will kill you. But I pray the wrath of God on anyone who only desires to have children and torment them in the name of being their father or mother. In all this, thank you God for being a Father, Friend, Comforter, Healer and all we ever need when we need You; because who can take this kind of pain and not curse their existence and lose it all together. Abba, My Good Father, thank you. Thank you because Tina's story is still being written, and it only gets better. I pray that her joy and laughter will multiply. I pray her business flourishes and that you give her all that it takes to raise David as a wholesome man (Your standard). From now on, Abba, let her be known for Joy, Peace, and Love.

[@blessingshugaba5050]

More reason why my husband and I have decided to have kids at least 4 to 6 years after our wedding. Its been three years now and still counting. I will not forgive myself if I allow my child pass through the preventable hardship I passed through as a child. It affected my education and now,my husband is the one sponsoring my education. Though my siblings and I experienced Love growing up.

[@MrsGiant]

Amen!

[@9icegirl555]

Amen!

[@narkiethemidwife]

@@blessingshugaba5050 i thought am the only one who has thought about this…I would rather not have a child than bring a child into this world to suffer the way I did. Hmmmm

[@sazaberg]

You said it all

[@hetty_dips]

Your story is just like mine.. That man is not your dad. I later knew that mine wasn't. Even till date, they have not told me officially that he is not mine. He caused the distance between myself and my siblings... Till date I don't know my dad's family 😢 I wished my story was different. I wanted love affection from my family. But thank God for Jesus and the holy Spirit.. it's sooooo sweet to trust in Jesus.

[@Adebowaleeyyarts]

Yes, I understand what are talking about, I watch many of such stories from paternity court. The mother and supposed father have a secret to keep. Check well you will find out more.

[@priscillaamaka1527]

Hmmmm...I am glad you are fine now. Thanks to the Holy Spirit

[@Araplenty]

I know a father who will readily tell her daughthers husband to divorce her if she misbehaves Even at a slightest misunderstanding

[@super_buchi]

Stay strong and Glory to God

[@Pearlyn-gy3hy]

My sentiment exactly. I think he's not her biological child. Sis, I pray for continued blessings for you and your son.

[@lilacsweet16]

Apostle Femi your ministry is distinct and I pray for more grace. I pray for the protection of your heart against vicarious trauma as people offload their toxic situations on you. Stay strong in the Lord ❤❤❤❤

[@emmanuelvictoria5039]

No matter what the world say No matter the imperfections in the church Church is my place of rest. I will never leave the church of Christ

[@lyfteen01]

Remember that church is not the physical thing but we are the church. I will rather say "Christ is my place of rest" not church. You will be surprised at what some pastors/ churches will do to you. I pray no one gets trampled by the church, talking from experience.

[@sandraolufemi6568]

​@@lyfteen01but shebi it's still the human beings that make up the church that hurt u? Like u rightly said, church is only a building so you're contradicting yourself.

[@reneechery9903]

Good choice, but don't forget you are the church !

[@Anita-d3z]

How is she sharing such pains of her life and still keeping up with smiles........... God's mercies will not cease from you sis

[@tinaocheni2684]

Amen

[@TchouameniMelissa-le7zw]

It get as pain go do u

[@oladeleadetounzainab2373]

Some open wound no dey pain again.

[@zoey4301]

Amen

[@sylviemorgan9770]

Everyone is different.

[@ewaoluwadamilolabello6885]

One of the reason why I detached from my father till date. Even now, he knows nothing about me, and with this story now, I'm happy I made the decision to stay far away from him. Some fathers are "fillers", and deserve to be "filtered" for life. This story seems to be relatable - in my case, my dad never wanted me to go for my tertiary education, burnt all my clothes, and so much more. Melo melo la fé so🤷🏾‍♀️ Thank you, Tina for sharing your story! Thank you, Pastor Femi Lazarus for this platform of people sharing their journey of life and living🙏🏾

[@adazzsthoughts]

Holy Molly!!!

[@Joy-yt7ek]

This lady is strength personified! See how calm, articulate, and logical she's analysing and recounting her experience without much emotions. Nah woman you be abeg!

[@tinaocheni2684]

@@Joy-yt7ek God bless you 🥰🥰

[@godlydabara7060]

If she broke down, would it change the fact that na woman she be?

[@Geneka617]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@godlydabara7060They are talking A you are talking Z. Honestly God really gave her strength to withstand it all. She’s amazing

[@onyedikaokonkwo6357]

Yes, she is a woman, but this have damaged her, i can see it in her eyes, she exhausted I wonder what gave her strength

[@MaguiM263]

This is not strength.....this is someone who is deeply wounded...

[@Misst211]

Her demeanour is that of a brave but fed up woman. how is she even smiling after everything? God of marriage please help us to not have to go throw this. may God give u strength Ma'am

[@johnpaulifeanyi5172]

Just watch out, you see that your son David, he will be your evening blankets, the world will hear his success stories

[@tinaocheni2684]

@@johnpaulifeanyi5172 Amen🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@imolearemilekun1472]

Parental favouritism is a big pandemic we’re not ready to talk about

[@Empressblessing]

Like very annoying nonsense How can a parent have a favorite child, dem for just born na

[@WinifredOdenigb]

Fact na why I no blame Joseph’s brothers in the Bible because why papa go love only 2 children out of 12 but then again it is well

[@TheOfficialCounsellorAbby]

Ha!!!!! If we start this topic, we won't close sha😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ovilifavour1869]

Honestly true I have been a victim of this for years but I just learn to look away from them

[@ewenedeojevwe2316]

God bless your uncle, he will never lack help❤

[@Handmadevixen]

Honestly i wish this lady could hear or read this, take your child from that family, they are using him to hold you hostage. Keep your child close to you before they teach him malice, take care of you first before you worry about others that do not give a damn about you. Because whether you like it or not, they wouldn’t care about you once they’re back on their feet. You can love them from afar o, but abeg try and build yourself biko

[@tinaocheni2684]

What have i don to deserve so much love

[@olufunmiqueenaarinola1766]

My prayers are with you sis oh Lord!

[@prettyozoza8608]

God will heal you in Jesus name

[@Being.Benedicta]

You are loved darling, always remember that you are precious in Abba's eyes...May the Almighty perfect his healing upon your life. Stay blessed and I wish you loads of happiness henceforth...I love you ❤ Isaiah 43:1-7

[@TheRefinersVesselsNetwork]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ We love you 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@victoryagara6146]

You deserve all the love sis 🥰

[@temconstance1245]

See how she hides her tears with laughter and smile 😢😢😢😢

[@Flo4Keeps]

Coping mechanism...it's so heartbreaking 💔 mannn😢

[@bridgetetu5521]

exactly!

[@VeraQuartey]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@precious5596]

Goodness! I remember when she gave her testimony and how she said Pastor's message 'Breathe' prevented her from committing suicide. Then Pastor asked the congregation to contribute for her if they felt led to. Thank God for the gift of God's servants oo. Omo. This story be like Nollywood movie. The trauma is too much. Only God can mend and heal from this.

[@g1stconsult]

Apostle femi Lazarus, please help us follow the lady for mentorship till she get a loving home. She deserves to be loved

[@tinaocheni2684]

Apostle Femi Lazarus and his wife Pastor Mimie are the best parents that any one could ever ask for 🙌🙌🙌🙌 God used them to help me heal...they have done so much and still doing a lot more behind the scenes.

[@juliette7776]

@@tinaocheni2684God bless you sister

[@adeyemiadenusi2105]

​@@tinaocheni2684Our prayers and thoughts are with you..Thank God for healing. He will also perfect that which He has started. What the devil planned to use to break you, God will use it to make you. Thank you for hanging on❤❤❤

[@Seun4Jesus]

Hallelujah ​@@tinaocheni2684

[@dival9605]

​@@tinaocheni2684❤❤ God bless you and continue to keep you.❤❤❤

[@sandylove7713]

She needs to watch Dr. Ramani on narcissistic abuse, she is an empath, so if she doesn’t learn skills on how to set boundaries etc, she will continue to fall victim to narcissist. She really needs to put her mental health first. She should not leave her child to anyone.

[@lindaforetia8624]

True!!! She has to watch Dr.Ramani on narcissism. She needs psychotherapy to heal,set boundaries, and protect her mental health.

[@agadamary3841]

Her Dad must be an Igala Man. Igala Men will not change. They are the same. They have good women( Their women can submit to any length) but their Men??? They are hostile, not loving, very proud people. My Father has that hostile spirit with pride too. The funniest part is that, they go to church more than pastors! Till now, I can't do full 48hours under my parent roof because fight will break out on the 3rd day between my Dad and I. Infact, I blocked her on my phone and my husband's phone because he will cause a fight between us. He's always happy when you're sad. I blocked him straight. Since 3years plus (after my wedding day) i haven't gone to visit them because there's no reason to do that. I thank God i didn't marry from them. Affliction will not rise the second time and God compensated me with a good Husband (Yoruba guy in whom I found a father and husband in him. He's Godsent). I celebrate you my sister, you're a warrior. You have won.

[@tinaocheni2684]

It's true about most Igala men.. But we can change narrative by raising our kids differently....

[@sarahekundayo9421]

@tina, the love of Christ flows through you

[@grace2.026]

@@tinaocheni2684The cycle can only change if the men also change. Unless it’s a 1 parent household the father has great influence on his children

[@angelaenyo4303]

My dad was good but my mom had Favorite and wish my immediate kid sis was the first daughter and I’m the first daughter I’m also igala also my siblings checked my glory and have been after my life spiritually hmm it’s a long story I receive spiritual attacks every day and my mom is telling me to come to the village that’s their plot o so they’ll finish me

[@happinessogbuinya5194]

​@@angelaenyo4303are you for real

[@janetinnocent870]

The man isn’t her biological father and her mother had to agree to whatever he asked her to do before he married her. He’s a monster and her mother is an accomplice in the evils done to her. I salute her courage and tenacity not to be broken by the trauma she went through. I pray for complete healing and recovery for her in Jesus name.

[@tamiausten873]

Even biological father's can be like this. My father casually says my husband will beat me over food, I've never even dated before. It just shows that if I get beat up in a relationship, my dad will not side me. This year, he beat with the curtain rod and gave me a scar on my right shoulder for no good reason. I'm 23, you'd think I'd be allowed to make my decisions. I just said I didn't want to make my hair where he wanted me to and he thought I meant something else, he proceeded to beat me with that rod. Last week he said he regrets sending me to school; the only thing I can point to that he did well as a dad. The reason for this was he came back late at night and asked me to carry some that is quite heavy, I'm a lady of course it would be challenging. I was even shocked, I had to ask "where to"? He got offended by my question, even as I carried it. I almost fell down due to the weight. That night I decided I won't let him say his usual unprovoked nonsense and I defended myself. He asked if I was offered a job, that's how I will say no 😂😂😂 gaslighting is his go to (I've already done the thing he asked me to do😮😮😮). I told him I'll only say no if I can't do the job 🤷🏾‍♀️. He got angry that he was abusing me and I had the guts to respond. I had to pause because he acts different in private and it was too late for me to escape. He has also accused me of prostitution because I don't like cooking 😂😂 (I was like 16/17 then, no make up, deeper life dressing, what was the reason 🤦🏾‍♀️). He also said it's because I don't always sleep at night 😮, so insomnia is due to promiscuity? He told my cousin that I joined a cult (I was in Jss2 then, I allegedly joined in jss1 in my previous school). After this, I was possessed and needed deliverance (all this while I was 9-11). Meanwhile, I've made a lot of money for him as a Chess youth champion. Now as an adult, I realize that the crumbs he gave me, including the job he got for me are my right and not just because he's my dad. I went to public school, I did well in school, I made money for him, I didn't have good clothes (my mom was managing to buy), he asked me to return the one I bought and criticized the ones my mom got. I've suffered self esteem because of the necessities I lacked growing up, so the phone he bought for me last year is just a repayment of dept he's owing. I've just realized for real that my father doesn't like me and has just been using me, he wakes me up at midnight to type letters for him like a PA, but I get no payment. I don't think he can stand when I look good, never heard a compliment from him about my looks, just him castigating me for wearing random items or polishing my nails. He gets so triggered over me making certain styles of hair and I noticed I looked my best then.

[@adeyemiadenusi2105]

​@@tamiausten873I had a very hard time reading through this. I pray that God will continue to strengthen you to be strong and to succeed in life. What was meant to break you, God will use it to make you ❤❤

[@zizibelle2753]

@@tamiausten873omo! This is a lot to take in. Praying to God for your strength and your success in life. Ensure you never end up with the same man coz sometimes the patter continues. You must be different from your mother who allows abuse of her innocent child. This is terrible

[@joannaikhanoba4165]

​@@tamiausten873 It's so surreal that people like this really exist and carry this mindset.

[@bukolaakinde7811]

Honestly, that man is not her biological father. There is more to it that her parents didn't want to open up to her..

[@Eoet_2027]

I just noticed that she has a KZbin channel, where she advertised her business. The name of the channel is Tina Ocheni.

[@ameniconnecttoallthetestim5831]

She is actually someone I know

[@ini2108]

Pls can you share a link, I search and couldn't find

[@ini2108]

Searched sorry

[@Eoet_2027]

@@ini2108 youtube.com/@tinaocheni2684?si=RKsSBXUerlS2xnUL

[@SarahJones-bi5bd]

ok

[@TheRefinersVesselsNetwork]

Excerpt she is currently married, could you kindly remove that MRS from her name, so a good husband can find her.❤❤❤ She deserves spousal LOVE again 😍😍😍

[@45media85]

She does and she's a beautiful lady.

[@jjabb]

He said Ms Tina.

[@TheRefinersVesselsNetwork]

@jjabb - Thank you for noting that. However, what I was referring to is What is Written on the Name Slide shown intermittently before, during and after the interview. People are carried away by the story that they may not hear the 'Ms' in the conversation but stick to the MRS they saw. SEEING IS POWERFUL.

[@mich8999]

Once you are or were married you are still officially MRS.

[@TheRefinersVesselsNetwork]

@mich8999 - Even after a Divorce? Mrs who, then?

[@traditionalhomecooking8284]

Wow I was thinking my family was the worst family ever until I started watching this channel. OMG I cry 😭 i Laugh 🤣 I screamed 😮 may the Lord restore and heal our brokenness 🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@adewunmiadebayo6775]

Thank God for this platform. It’s an eye opener and you know why some people behave a type of way. Abuse and pain is so deep in Nigeria. Now, I understand why a lot of people act a type of way.

[@tamarakeipreyedekpen1007]

You are right. Most families in Nigeria are dysfunctional

[@toluoyelakin7694]

The way the Apostle was able to sit down and listen to her is amazing. I dey vex for the father as I dey hear her story

[@Oge2.0]

This woman has truly suffered. See how tired she sounds 🥺

[@michaelkwasimensah]

She's really suffered

[@BennethChidinma]

She is a weak story teller.

[@dianarose6126]

I realized, she’s too tired, exhausted and has no emotions even tears , nothing, 😢she cant even look Apostle in the eye! Low self esteem God help her to overcome

[@Blessing.I-df1pf]

@@dianarose6126honestly 😢

[@Kr8tiva]

Yeahhh!!! She sounds tired. 😭😭😭

[@ussahdaniel942]

I cannot say how many times my heart broke, listening to this story. E come be like somebody beat me, or bullied me. I cannot explain. Lord thank you for saving her

[@karoogoro]

This has made me realize dat marriage is not just about love but indeed background check is a must. I felt really broken hearing her story may God heal her completely 👍🙏

[@ogwuchemercy6761]

Background check is very important ooo

[@justinaoruekpeti7727]

This story makes one emotional. It shows the power of God's grace and love. It's well with you my sister

[@eseosaabbe3251]

How does one heal from all of these? Please Lord heal her completely 🙏🏾

[@ogwuchemercy6761]

Only God knows how I would have been dealing with each and everyone of them now olune

[@akinolaoluwaseun4328]

Amen my prayer too

[@olufemiadebayo2954]

My Jesus is still changing lives. Attending regularly a church where the word of God is being taught through the Holy Spirit is so vital.

[@lovenwanna6018]

She is so beautiful…may God continue to strengthen you. You will excel and your story will bring hope to people.

[@NiaXai]

Jaw dropping testimony, thanks Pst Femi for creating a safe place for people to share, learn and be encouraged.

[@divinahkemunto9148]

My mum did the same to me too and she's my biological mum... healing is the hardest journey for me 🙏 God heals the heart 🇰🇪🇰🇪

[@mahershalalbaz]

That part about patriarchy and owning your children and lacking accountability is so true about Africa..thank you Apostle Femi for daring to dig into an area we don't talk about in Africa and thank you lady for being so brave. You deserve love..respect, care and safety from people you love. I know it will take a long time to get through the trauma.. may God help you in your journey.

[@revothomas9343]

Nigeria please

[@tolulopegideons4724]

If she says she is healed, I agree sir. She laugh at the issues and not break down and Love sustains her - She is an epitome of Genuiene Love!

[@enitanagbeke8280]

I am more pained about a woman that bore you and gave birth to you watch a monster hurt you out of his own madness.your mum is worse.If you dad does not understand the pain of childbirth,what about your mum.what kind of submission is that.He will be held accountable for the way he treated you.Just stay strong and prove him wrong.

[@lilianoha3553]

omo, the same thing i kept asking, what sort of submission was she submitting that she couldn't protect her own child from the mad man? how can she call herself a mother?

[@mutshidzimulelu2991]

The mother is worst seriously

[@motolani.0924]

I thank God for churches like this and Pastors like Pst Femi Lazarus. I can imagine if she was in church that day ad aall the pastor was preaching was give give give, people like this will not mind pouring out their pockets and still going home to execute their suicidal plan. May our pastors be true shepherds that will be sensitive and genuinely concerned for their flocks. God bless Ms Tina and heal her completely in JESUS NAME. Thank you sir, Pst Femi for being a true leader

[@oyewumiaderonke1183]

Narcissistic father 😊

[@oyewumiaderonke1183]

Your ex was a narcissist too

[@oyewumiaderonke1183]

God bless you PST. Femi Lazarus

[@ruthmichael2834]

Amen

[@ruthmichael2834]

Amen!!!!!!

[@gracepeter6592]

Abuse and pain is so deep... To think that I was in the same class with Tina all through secondary school and had no clue.. She's one very strong and resilient lady i know...and always keeps up with the smile.. I celebrate your courage and the love of God flows through your heart sis.. Much love❤

[@tinaocheni2684]

@@gracepeter6592 Amen love 🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@TheDinma1]

Everyone involved in this should be arrested!!!!!

[@safehaven83]

I agree

[@elizabethmichael1392]

Real ooo

[@mercysimeon7667]

It would shock you to know that there are people going through worse. Having parents who are illiterate is something crazy!

[@ezeracheal8452]

Very crazy

[@igabonny]

These stories teach me one thing in life, as long as i am still alive i will always be grateful to God no matter what situation

[@esthermoundi3057]

Be strong sister. Your smile is a strength. You will never lack, David your son will never lack, be healed , remain healed and continue healed in Jesus name! Please an advise, from this moment, be far from what you call your family. They are not at all. Be strong daughter of the most high!

[@mrnatha]

At this point we need a website or page dedicated to evil families to avoid! May God keep us safe and guide us right, May we be led by The Holy spirit and full of discernmet

[@akwachi7217]

Agreed 💯

[@minad8206]

Like a Facebook page, that says should I marry this family?

[@lindaforetia8624]

We need a database.

[@agubisiarthurrich9064]

😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@olorunfemijoshua7753]

I don't want to say this, but i need to say this, her father must and her husband must be jailed.

[@Kizzybassey]

Honestly the father is the weapon formed against her

[@bluebrown5566]

Africa is not yet ready for this kind of truth. Just like we have people that are wicked in the society those people can be someone parents and no one should judge the children especially if they have gone through trauma.

[@GinaOnaghise]

Jailed for life !!!!

[@EstherLipenga]

Must be jailed yes yes

[@NomsLoots]

Absolutely.

[@omoboyelabake9480]

Wow I'm in awe of this God 😭😭 He is LOVE, He cares, He heals the broken hearted. What an intentional God. Thank God for placing his servants in the church for the healing of his people. The church is indeed a hospital where people who are hurting find refuge. May anyone going through any similar trauma find healing in you God, please grant them victory in Jesus name 🙏

[@ogarjoshua6433]

Kai😢 God will completely heal you my sister , telling this story without been emotional you are a strong woman, you went through a lot

[@tofunmiayoola5455]

God bless Apostle Femi Lazarus in Jesus precious name

[@ImooaRoseline]

watching this with tears in my eyes, I pray that the lord whom you believe in comes through for you big time.

[@WakaWithTox]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@edithigbinovie8008]

My daughter may God wiped away all you went through and give you a new heart to forgive everyone that hurts you. The God that shows up to rescue you will never live you or forsake you, He will put an end to everything that will cause you sorrow in Jesus mighty name Amen.. Please stay alive for your son and the purpose of God for your life. It was the devil that engineer all that you went through so he can have your soul, but God is wiser than him I am a grandmother your story touched me to my bone and God have reasons for keeping you alive till this day, so that you can share your story for others to stay alive. God bless you, He is your helper that will also locate you with desperate and destiny helpers. Thank you Apostle may your grace be multiply and the oil of God upon you head will never run dry thank you so much Man of God to God be the glory ❤❤❤

[@tinaocheni2684]

@@edithigbinovie8008 Amen... thanks Momma 🥰🫂🫂🫂

[@FaithOtokhile]

Thank God for the gift of Apostle Femi Lazarus to this generation. God heals and mends broken hearts

[@GraceMagaji-zl9or]

Glory be to God for what he has done🙌for apostle to preach that sermon that got you, your healings it means our GOD IS A GOOD FATHER 🙌 though our earthly fathers may fail but GOD NEVER FAILS 🙌🙌. Thank God for your life apostle, God continually keep You Amen🙌

[@JesusIsKing2677]

May these people watch this and see the pain they’ve caused someone. 😢

[@45media85]

They are narcissists. Narcissists have no empathy. Her mum is a victim of psychopathic abuse. The abuser being her dad. This is why I fault the unbalanced "submission" message. When it comes to marriage, I really avoid most Nigerian preachers, bar a few. I listen to men/women of God with a marriage where there's a healthy balance not foolish submission. Like apostle said in this message, the patriarchy in Nigeria has no accountability and l don't understand how women submit to a man who has no accountability in his life, abuse will be inevitable. So many women submitting to abuse, which is sad. It is not biblical but the Nigerian church has made it sound okay.

[@obinewuifunanya5935]

Do not leave your child for a second with anyone that hates you. They will poison his or her heart against you one way or the other.

[@ngozijessyca9921]

She provided for them and fixed things, as she unconsciously sought their acceptance and hoped for them to finally like her. Just like any toxic relationship, they will still remind you that they didn't ask you to do all those things

[@ruthuwa2470]

She wasn't really giving for them to like her, she is naturally a good person......she have a good heart n a giver.

[@mariaclement5964]

She does not owe them anything

[@priscillaamaka1527]

She needs to priorities herself. Self love is very crucial. They can never love her even if she dies for them. They are evil. She needs to focus on God. Her true healing comes from Him and also take care of herself and boy.

[@Whoisthatgirl2121]

Sounds like a narcissist She sounds like the family scapegoat

[@ngozieze5819]

@@ruthuwa2470 She is actually trying to buy their love and acceptance unconsciously. As Jessyca said, that is typical of what people in toxic relationships do - try to make themselves small to not offend their oppressors and being overly good/nice to their own detriment.

[@ayenititilayo8225]

I honestly don't know what to say. This is heart wrenching, nobody deserves this!!!!!! The Lord will make your peace permanent and bless you with your own family.

[@jenniferbenstowe6805]

I don't understand the level of submissiveness that would make a woman not shield her child from a monster😭😭😭😭😭

[@edithigbinovie8008]

You say my mind what kind of useless submissiveness is that God have mercy 😢

[@mariaokoi7800]

I swear! Watching it made me angry with her. I felt deep sympathy at the beginning but towards the end, I was so angry with the way she was letting herself to be kicked down continuously. 😡

[@adeidowu3573]

True. It’s sad that some women are just dogmatic. Why have a child you cannot protect? Very shameful.

[@GinaOnaghise]

@@mariaokoi7800when you grow up with constant intimidation you get used to it . I wanted to be angry at her too but it’s not her fault .. She doesn’t know anything else other than being shut out and intimidated

[@whitecloudstravels8239]

It baffles me

[@theMoney-Hub]

This made me cry a lot. There are many girls and boys going through abuse right now, Lord please help them o...

[@tinaocheni2684]

@@theMoney-Hub Amen 🫂🫂

[@gregmarychannels2949]

Amen

[@Ola44006]

Your story is similar to mine, thanks for sharing. I promise to keep thriving😢 I won’t give up💯

[@utahbrushes176]

Awww the way you kept cool narrating your story is heartwarming 🥰Thank you sir for this show…. The first video I felt led by the HolySpirit to watch was”None of our family’s were at our wedding “ And I was blessed to subscribed

[@NgomeKeddyeduke-zr4xt]

That’s the same video that led me here and I can relate to both stories because it’s my reality too .. But I thank God I’m holding on his love ❤️

[@hannahaluko6131]

This is wow, I couldn't just hold back tears Thank you so much Apostle for what you are doing for this generation I love you Sir

[@azunnaebubechi4969]

No apology, your younger brothers ARE DAMAGED. Future apologies to the women who will be their wives. Sisters you both are in for a big war.

[@adedoyinbadejo679]

By God's grace, they will find Christ and become new creatures

[@ogwuchemercy6761]

​@@adedoyinbadejo679I pray so because of they are idoma, they will continue with the same character of their father. Am an idoma and I can tell this Lady is idoma from the way she's talking

[@queenesther3059]

​@@ogwuchemercy6761the lady is igala not idoma,but what does it even matter where she is from?

[@chikanzevinepath6606]

6mins in I was already in tears, nobody should ever suffer like this not from your family 😢. I thank Abba for your healing sis, this is just the beginning of happiness in your life. Thank you Apostle for obeying every instruction of God.

[@olasumboalakaadam629]

In a sane country, even now, the man will be picked up and locked up

[@smartkidsandlearningacadem5662]

I cried watching your story 😭 May you find true healing in Jesus mighty name 🙏

[@agbabiakaruth5259]

This made me tear up and connect back to the past...God is truly in the event of our lives

[@GraceDemi-kh9dp]

I don't think the man is her biological dad. This is really cruel.

[@theroyalcheffromfoodmatter2331]

Tina's story looks like mine just that I was loved by my father before his sudden death that year...... I wish I can have the courage to share my story publicly for the first time. I thank God for his love. What a good program Apostle Femi Lazarus, I have always loved your preaching. Thank you.

[@lindaschreuers1700]

From the moment she started talking I could hear the secret tears pouring from her inner spirit. It’s the baddest of all when the heart begins to shed tears because it’s invisible. I feel your pain Tina ! But please see the bigger picture that God has destined you for greatness and even the demonic altar from your household knows this!!! Gods hands will uphold you!! His eyes will continue to watch over you and David! You are a conqueror!!!! Pray and forgive ur family 0:10 but keep ur distance until Jesus says so❤ Just did a transfer to your account, pls accept our token. Love you ❤

[@ewenedeojevwe2316]

Awwnnnn God bless you ❤

[@nkechianyaoha4146]

Jez I still have goose pimples hearing this story. I am in for the last part. You truly deserve it. A super Woman indeed

[@adebimpeadetunji9732]

Hmmmmmm, I can tell you most Nigerians are going through a lot, especially when it come to the issue of LOVE trust me. You can not give what you don't have.

[@theprintperfect]

Very right!

[@funkeoloko4892]

YES!!!!

[@NgiforSandra]

It's not only Nigerians ohh. Come to my country and here or see what people are going through too😢.

[@Debbiebunmi73]

God will surely grant you eternal peace and joy. David will give you all the joy your parents failed to give you. Keep being strong. You are indeed a warrior ❤️ 💙

[@diskood6123]

Thank you Apostle for this interview. Tina, you are a beautiful soul and I wish you all the best in life! Super proud of you girl, you’ve got this👏🏾 God bless you both.

[@girlmellaceus]

Thank you dear Tina for an AMAZING testimony. You're right about healing showing by not breaking down when telling your story. Tina you're a survivor and with Christ in your heart you've totally frustrated the devil. Glory! Keep going forward with healing!!

[@dianeadewole217]

Church is not a scam. Thank You, Lord, for the Cross.

[@omawumirunsewe792]

This program is mind blowing Sir. God will continually support you, preserve you and give you the strength and wisdom to win more souls to God's kingdom. Amen

[@MiaAnena22]

My biological father's blessing is not for me and am okay with it. A man who has resented me since childhood, a man who denied me every basic right to the extent of thinking I would turn out wayward and worthless. I am glad I was able to stand up for myself at 19, told him to his face what I thought of him and walked out at 20. I am glad I made a life for myself away from all that toxicity. Cutting him off is still the best decision I have ever made in my life and for my peace of mind. Lemme hear someone telling me that nonsense of honoring and respecting such a parent

[@jesuschristmyherochannel]

Forgive your father ❤

[@MiaAnena22]

@@jesuschristmyherochannel Forgive him for what? I beg don't come preaching what you don't know

[@jesuschristmyherochannel]

@@MiaAnena22 sweetheart, the Forgiveness is not for him, rather it's for you dear

[@HumaniUzeh]

​@@MiaAnena22Forgiveness is not relationship.

[@ngozieze5819]

It takes mental strength to walk away from such toxicity, which you have. Some people are so docile in nature naturally. which is what I observed in this lady who shared her story. Her mom is also that kind of docile person. I pray God brings people around her who would strengthen her. I pray you keep thriving and may God punish that your father and other men like him who are out there destroying their children's lives.

[@agbadamashiomolara7705]

This so touching😭😭😭, you are truly a strong woman. I pray that God will continuously bless and protect you sis. Thank you pastor femi for this platform, God bless you sir.

[@NGWESENNGAAJEJR]

Just finished listening from Cameroon 🇨🇲🇨🇲. I believe i am encouraged 🙏, going through life isn't easy especially when your background is faulty but through your story and testimony i KNOW God is still faithful...

[@tinaocheni2684]

God will do yours soon 🙏🙏

[@LGMI9]

The patience Pastor has to listen to these stories without interfering God bless you Sir People are going through stuff

[@narkiethemidwife]

I was wondering how she wasn’t crying whilst narrating her story only for her to say at the end that she’s completely healed….that really explains it cos if it was me I can’t finish the story cos tears will take half of the time….shes really a strong woman. I pray God will bless you so much that those people will come back begging for your forgiveness.🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@tinaocheni2684]

Amen🙏

[@ngozieze5819]

Does this person that is sitting there looking so tired and her voice sounding so weak look like a picture of total healing? The damage they did to her runs so deep, and I believe she has only just begun her healing journey.

[@omotopeawoleye9534]

This is so touching, I pray that God perfects her healing.She is so strong to have shared her life stories.

[@AdeyinkaAdegbaju-o1g]

I’m grateful to God for reaching her with light. Her story is so intense, no one should pass through such. God be with her. Our government needs to do better to protect children and vulnerable people

[@annbotson4728]

This is hatred from childhood to adulthood....in all round..... this lady is very strong both mentally, psychologically....her story is very touching.....see the way she keeps smiling all through.....

[@nerecollins7829]

“It’s our brothers house” with 1 room and a parlour lmao!!

[@DanielAboagye-vk8dw]

Ths is real life story is just so revealing and inciteful on what people have been through. God bless you sir.

[@NkemUmezinne]

I doubt if she’s her father’s biological daughter. The trauma she went through is too much. May God heal her completely.

[@ollienuuha9919]

This is the comment I was looking for

[@euniceigboke5971]

I am wondering same thing

[@hannahchiamakaejimofor2571]

Yeah true .. probably

[@minad8206]

Or the mother got pregnant out of wedlock and he was forced to marry the mother, so he's angry that she's the pregnancy that ruined his life

[@ireneodame-adusei8741]

It’s her story,she is telling it as it happened to her.If you come from a loving and supportive family,be grateful.

[@tessystephen5346]

God help us and deliver children from wicked and unreasonable parents. My mum was bitten to death by her mother and senior brother after giving birth to 7 children. God bless you, sir, for your good works.

[@modupeahmida3252]

God bless pastore Femi, the 1st time a friend talked about the hatred her dad had towards her, i thought it was a lie, until the father did some things, bringing these stories here is really good for people to know things happen, and people that experienced this, to know they are not alone.

[@baridakarajoyb5588]

Your mother is the first and last person to blame…. Parents will just hurt children and still expect apology from them.😢😢😢

[@damilolagrace4655]

This is my father you are talking about.

[@EstherUugo]

Life!!!!!

[@olorunfemioluwafunmilayo8491]

emotional blackmail

[@Gift-eo7hy]

Jesus only when i thought i have been through hell and carrying my tramua like bags only for me to listen to this and see that she has really been through a lot When she was smiling and telling the story i was almost tearing She is strong, beautiful and great God will bless her with a better husband Jesus!!! At least i know my both parent love me so much even though they failed in many ways

[@dumoprincewill3912]

Grown man like me de watch this thing de cry omo thank god say i de alone me way be strong man.

[@omohstyles2128]

So sad😢

[@maricolkzz.akamkchannel8000]

😢😢😢

[@estherodetunde5562]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@telimawokoma456]

Hmmmmm things dy happen for this Nigeria oooo😢😢😢

[@ucheMo]

It's her smiles for me against all odds

[@JulianaOluwole]

Honestly.

[@mamososomapolanka3697]

But the pain from her voice

[@ucheMo]

@@mamososomapolanka3697 yea, the pain is obvious, but my dear, na to burst cry from beginning to the end. It’s not easy smiling and sharing her story, these kind of people are extremely quiet

[@atuanita9368]

I pray I find the grace to tell my story someday. Thank you Apostle for this platform 😢

[@onifadebolajesutito4519]

Thank God Jesus, who heals us from all hurts. Church is a place of Restoration. Apostle Lazarus, more impact and relevance. I love and celebrate you dearly. This is another dimension in the Body of Christ that find healing to the Soul of men. Thank you sir.

[@iyanuoluwaadeniran3280]

If it means anything sister, Happy New Year to you, i will say it a million times if you want. You are not alone, i also went through a similar case, but by the grace of God even though every day may be a struggle, we will hold on to the Hope of glory in Christ , that if He is for us everything will turn out good. Much love to you and to David

[@eseosasarahosahon7506]

I must say the truth, you are a strong 💪 woman. I went through a similar story. Just that, I had a good, and strong family who backed me up. Today, God has remembered me, and I'm outside the country teaching. Most of the time I come across Pastor Femi's teachings online, it boasts my faith in Christ, and it has also helped me to discover myself, and I'm still discovering myself. Thank you, sir, and God bless you for your good works. To Lady Tina, women like you, go through storms, because you have a whole lot in you that the devil 👹 doesn't want to come to reality. Keep Being Strong 💪 the Lord will see you through.

[@StellaIhechu]

Thank God you’re healed. You don’t have a family with them, accept it!!! Then focus on your growth for yourself and taking care of your son. May God give you grace