My Girlfriend Is Bad With Money, She Won't Listen To Me!

[@TheRamseyShow]

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[@midwestrustwarrior]

Dude reached out and got some years and years of wisdom. The girl and kids aren't your problem bro. Leave and never look back.

[@inorbit5701]

Zachary Amen brother this woman is using this dude! He needs to DTB !!

[@tcb1017]

Zachary right on. Plenty of samon out there who will be on board. Amen !

[@tequisaholloway1738]

I agree with u, he needs to leave that loser. She's using him

[@beaucannington8616]

Finally, really good advice for men. This woman is NOT his wife, and this is NOT his family. Just walk...this situation will only get worse.

[@gmarie3053]

John did so well. Dave wouldn’t of said this

[@OTOWN2STOCKTOWN]

Dave goes on to simp as always with loads of excuses on behalf of the poor girl..

[@exvan3571]

Marry her! Adopt another man's children! Man Up (tm)!!

[@AtomicQuotient]

Agreed. Never take on someone else family and responsible especially if the person here doesn't respect him or care. What get yourself into this situation in the first place. I would walk

[@AtomicQuotient]

@@exvan3571 Yeah right, manning up is walking not staying ..sometimes been tough is the best thing he could do.

[@Rob--]

At 29, 19k is not enough to take care of yourself. Get a new job, get a new girl.

[@avocadogaming3942]

that is less the 10 an hour at full time RIP

[@treelover1050]

NO. LEAVE THE GIRL. GET MORE EDUCATION. GET A BETTER JOB. THEN MAYBE FIND ANOTHER WOMAN WHO SUPPORTS HERSELF AND SEE IF LOVE COMES & YOU HAVE A FUTURE TOGETHER. DON'T LIVE TOGETHER.

[@JazzyMarineVet]

New job..no girl...yet! :-). Cant afford her

[@richprokop5155]

19k at 29?? That is poverty...WAKE UP N FIND A BETTER JOB...

[@aliciab6193]

When he said he works late nights as a security guard....I was like yep and so she cheats on you and uses your money and uses her kids as leverage to guilt you into doing everything. I had an ex like that. They don't ever get better. Leave and marry someone decent then have your own kids.

[@calebmallen]

@@Austenfan177 nailed it!

[@LisaLisa-je9dz]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@singerjo5791]

What makes you think just because he works night means she is cheating. That’s a stupid assumption.

[@bebop504]

I'm glad John was honest with him. This situation is not right for him. He should leave her. He's being manipulated by her; she already has him thinking that's his "family" when it's not even his kids.

[@DragonguyA]

The thing is, I bet if he leaves, she's going to sue him for child support or something like that

[@Tiger-zo2gn]

If he leaves and she gets social assistance, she might be forced to get child support. So men and sometimes women should be careful when getting involved with a single parent who is poorer .

[@christinebutler7630]

They aren't his kids, he does not.owe child support

[@heathmcconnell3901]

@@christinebutler7630 In theory, that's correct. In practice, if she files paperwork saying that he is, it then becomes his problem to prove that the kids aren't his.

[@sarahscalpel561]

@@heathmcconnell3901 and even if you have solid proof they aren’t yours some courts are hella insane and put step parents on the hook for kids that aren’t theirs…

[@amandadean3948]

She’s lazy...leave her. If her own flesh and blood doesn’t inspire her to want to try harder to have a better life, you’re definitely not going to make a difference!

[@TheGomez1105]

It may be time to end the relationship before she ends up pregnant then he will be in a even worse financial position.

[@bertha4304]

An "accidental" pregnancy. Classic babytrap situation.

[@catholicfaithofmine2664]

If her kids are not motivating her to provide for them or have goals for her and them why would she be motivated for you? She's looking for a free ride where someone else does all the work and she reaps the rewards without lifting a finger. Why would you want to be in that relationship? Your committed she is not.

[@froggore52]

Leaching off her boyfriend, leaching off my tax dollars. Sever.

[@mycupoverflows7811]

"She helps with the groceries with her food stamps." Ummm no, that's the rest of us helping with our tax dollars.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

...is he getting laid out of the deal he has now?

[@amandadean3948]

Yep!!

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

@@Austenfan177 This happens a lot.

[@1967davethewave]

Amen!!! You said it perfectly.

[@midlifecrisis7888]

@@Austenfan177 he’s a simp.

[@tigerak02]

R U N

[@Damien8212]

Not now, but right now!!

[@offroadvehiclelover]

Like TODAY!

[@triad6425]

OMG I never thought I would hear such a straight FACTS coming from the Dave Ramey show. Thank you Dr. John for a tradcon you have my respect..

[@tcb1017]

Now you know why he is the best and mucho rich also. He is another Dr. Phil but in a different way Amen !

[@DualityMan]

Steven, please learn about Sunk Cost Fallacy. Understand that your only value in that household is a financial one, remove yourself from that situation and Focus on yourself First, everything else will fall into place for you and the right person for you will eventually come along, Patience and Perseverance is key. Wishing you the best.

[@CP-ud6rt]

Perfectly said.

[@britneeg]

The sunk cost fallacy is the first thing I thought of. Don’t throw good time after bad.

[@bmausmus]

Run! Get out of there! She expects you to pay her way through life, and that's not going to change as long as you're doing it.

[@b_bogg]

I was in this same situation! Prayed on it and finally left and now got a good God fearin woman in my life now and hallelujah!

[@ke6264]

Congratulations

[@kevins7974]

Get rid of her!

[@kennethhasuik8042]

Red flags going off huge red flags. Never make someone else's money issues yours if they're never going to work on making them better.

[@elmarsupial6483]

Major red flags, leave!!! Leave!!! RUN AWAY!!!! Don't listen to Ramsey pick your stuff and leave, don't get her pregnant!!!

[@Je.rone_]

Within only seconds John gave you more than enough reasons to leave, but your actually living it so I'm sure you can think of more reasons why you should leave.

[@TheDjcarter1966]

Dr John dropping the truth bombs

[@santafilipina9020]

Work on your self-esteem. You need a girl without kids from another man. Then you two can build your own family together. You are just an ATM to your current gf.

[@Jdb63]

@@valeriezaric They can pair up with other single parents

[@santafilipina9020]

@@valeriezaric my comment was specific to this guy's situation. It wasn't an attack towards single moms and dads. And I would easily tell a single woman or man to pick a better partner if your money habits are polar opposite. Same for divorced people.

[@lawv804]

Don't invest in someone else's kids. Guy barely has money to eat. The woman sounds useless and will likely shack up with any guy willing to shell out some $$$. Where's the kid's father? Dude needs to leave her and work on himself. Once he has his own life together he can explore dating again, hopefully with a woman that has her head on straight.

[@FreeAgent797]

Im so relieved Dave didnt side with the woman on this one like he usually does. Good advice.

[@Margatatials]

he never sides with financially supporting your live in girlfriend. Thats your roomate

[@Neddie2k]

Well the woman hasn’t called in yet.

[@ironmonkey1512]

I've found the capacity for a person to make major changes is very rare.

[@The1JBanks]

She’s for the streets!!! Focus on your life!!!

[@jlebrech]

Gucci bags are for single women

[@sarahscalpel561]

@@jlebrech and for girls who work to buy their own Gucci bags…

[@calebmallen]

Someone had to say it! 😆

[@untouchable360x]

He needs to get rid of her and work on himself. He needs a career. $19k a year won’t attract quality women.

[@LittleMopeHead]

You got me on the first half though.

[@Jdb63]

@@jordanhatten5180 It's harsh but its the truth

[@untouchable360x]

@@jordanhatten5180 What's a better solution?

[@calebmallen]

This poor fella can only afford the low hanging fruit. It's time to do better!

[@Coach__B]

What are you doing?! It's not your family!!! It never will be.

[@aolvaar8792]

??? Never?

[@signsofthetimes886]

@@aolvaar8792 never

[@karinhansen4281]

If they don't marry, she remains on foodstamps

[@McDad-ix3jm]

When he leaves, she tells the boys it's his fault money is tight

[@lj38cloud]

scary thought. realistic even MORE so :O

[@neededtobesaid4275]

Surprised Dave didn't start with "You're not a family. You're roommates." She has children but no child support?!? That needs to be addressed too. If the father(s) are alive, and not in prison then they MUST be put on child support. Make sure that you're using birth control because her next step might be to trap you!!!

[@RJRussoVids]

“I live with my girlfriend and HER two sons.” Simp tax is expensive my man. 😏

[@commanderchopchop7290]

😂😂😂😂

[@knowthyself8233]

You were crazy 🤪

[@bertha4304]

But at least Chad had fun making them!

[@ryanmedows6072]

Bro, just leave. The father of her children need to pay those bills. You're making payments on a car SOMEBODY ELSE is driving.....

[@Barb6106]

He said she was already on food stamps..so she is already expecting others to take care of her so she can do whatever she wants and not be an adult. And we all are taking care of her too with our tax dollars! Love the advice to cut and run. It is hard because he has this false sense of responsibility…just no.

[@stevenporter863]

Dude, life is hard enough without two strikes and one hand tied behind your back before you start.

[@cutandgo]

Great and sound advise. I hope he listens and follows. There is nothing to invest in a pocket full of holes.

[@talyahr3302]

John kept it honest and real. Love that about him

[@fauxbro1983]

Dude. Get out of this relationship

[@danielsjohnson]

Giving her the choice of agreeing to a budget and getting more hours at her own job while he works his or else he's gone was a good idea. He wants the relationship to continue but he's not stupid. If she really values the relationship she will say yes. You can tell Dave and John had to think about what the best possible solution was in this bleak situation.

[@Jamaal225]

Tell me you’re a Simp without telling me you’re a Simp💀😂😂

[@eriknobles3946]

Steve needs to exit stage left and focus on Steve

[@calebmallen]

Poor ol' Steven is being played for a fool. It's time to pack the bags and start walking, and leave the simp'in to the next gullible dupe she latches onto, 10 minutes after he's gone.

[@DK-lc8gf]

DUMP HER! She’s playing you for a fool!

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

I AM SHOCKED!!!!! Dr. Platitude must have finally watched some red pill content! I'm floored!!!!

[@And1one757]

Im shocked i thought for sure he was gonna sugar coat blue pill right back in the tiger pit

[@a-a-ronbrowser1486]

Hahaha I came here just to see what they would say.

[@lonestarrk9308]

She will replace him shortly after he walks away. There is a real problem with men not knowing their worth in this country. He deserves better.

[@johndone8045]

There is no budget for 19k income

[@pawelwisniewski6849]

Dave: that’s a backward terrible joke Also Dave : he he he he 😂

[@Mysticprimus]

Take care of yourself she's just taking advantage of u it's not worth being with someone who's not responsible enough with money

[@plants4thewin]

"my little family" 🤣....RUN FOREST RUN!

[@raustadt]

Played that game for 30 years. Divorced now. I would stay away, I should have. Consider your are lucky to see it now.

[@angelaonthego]

There are so many good women who are craving a man who wants to be a partner and build with him. Even though he’s broke-he wants to improve and can go far.

[@curiouscat3384]

This is why you should never move in with someone until you've been through a year of seasons to learn how they operate under different circumstances. This sweet man deserves better and I like Dave's approach

[@NeyJ]

Dr. John has quickly become my favourite co-host.

[@sabersworn]

Yeah, John has always been my favorite co-host. I know he can get a bit overly philosophical at times (which I like, but some people don't). But he generally has good advice and experience. And he's blunt about some things that other people want to tip-toe around.

[@jones2277]

me too!

[@mraa4950]

You can’t change someone’s spending habit unless they want to change their own

[@jeffferguson69]

I’m sending some red pill in this video lol. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@ev8681]

Not sure where all that hate for single moms comes from in the comment section but take it from another single mom: Steven if this does not radically change you need to leave. Only two years together and already in a financially dependant position, without caring about her financial future, that's a huge red flag you should not ignore. You know why she doesn't care about budgeting? Because she probably looks at it being your problem. The first years of your relationship should be great and fun, not a burden.

[@TheJacali]

As someone who came from a single mother household. I was one of those two boys. This guy should run in the opposite direction. Let her sort herself out on her own. Or better yet with the help of a good church and Jesus Christ. It’s not this guy’s responsibility to take care of these boys. He can make new kids in a few years with someone with less baggage and less mental problems.

[@david100483]

I really hope this fella fixed or moved on from this situation, that is no way to live. I’m glad I grew up with “old school” parents that thought me good values and work ethic! I’ll never forget hearing “you don’t work, you don’t eat” from them lol

[@markbrown5117]

Man this Dr. is really on point here.

[@SerErryk]

My Dad used to say, "There's a sucker born every minute."

[@millsathn]

RUN STEVEN RUN

[@stephenshelton4267]

I'm not used to the Ramsey team doing anything but going full simp mode. Good work!

[@calebmallen]

They've turned a corner, it's a whole new strategy 😆

[@a-a-ronbrowser1486]

They must have started checking the tone in the comments

[@jimroscovius]

I will NEVER understand staying with a moocher like this!!

[@NeededGR13F]

Ppl don't have self-esteem.

[@jimroscovius]

@@NeededGR13F "This girl is ripping me off, stealing my stuff, and taking all of my money. Should I stay with her?" NO NO NO!!

[@aliciab6193]

Because they use the kids as leverage to guilt you into doing things that they trick you into believing is best for the kid

[@jimroscovius]

@@aliciab6193 I have no apathy for moochers like that. Doesn't bother me in the least to say "goodbye".

[@EsiriE]

“Love”

[@bluejedi723]

if she won't listen, cut your losses and walk away

[@tomm8025]

Hahaha! Would Dave be anywhere near as patient & understanding if the guy were the problem?? I think not!

[@DoctorSmartyPants]

Caller needs to set a boundary for himself to be in the relationship. I totally relate to that.

[@Whitericeinmysalad]

I don’t feel any sympathy for him. He is letting her use him. Their not even his kids. He should find a woman who will appreciate him.

[@wichaelmeston1492]

Some guys just don’t know any better. Lack of self esteem & self worth makes you do stupid things.

[@stevenporter863]

@@wichaelmeston1492 Dude, you sealing my name? Kidding you 😉

[@MrTmenzo]

Her badonkadonk must be mesmerizing.

[@bryzen6515]

Call child services and leave bro, she is clearly using you and doesn’t care about her kids. Wake up and RUN 🏃‍♂️

[@dmz489]

RUN WHILE YOU CAN!

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

The relationship is dead end and they are dead beats .

[@mikeshaw4610]

Move on, she does not share your beliefs.

[@mle011]

Break up with her and leave the situation. Things are not good and you are in no way obligated to stay with her. You’re not married or engaged. It’s boyfriend/girlfriend, you don’t need to feel bad about thinking about yourself and putting yourself first and leaving.

[@mkeptrangli]

$19,000 a year at 29 years old? That’s a bit over $9 an hour working 40 hours a week. That’s poverty level wages. Minimum wage where I live is $14.13 an hour. This guy needs to find a new job asap. Living on that salary is impossible.

[@darthstructure7370]

RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@darksydesamy]

Dude. Just cut these toxic relationship off. Go find a girl that is more responsible and actually cares about you. Also find someone with no baggage from a previous relationship.

[@vperrino88]

Move out. Stop playing house. Don't get married to an individual who cannot take care of themselves. A spouse is someone who is strong and contributes to a relationship, not who drains a relationship.

[@Troonielicious]

Live separate, you on your side and her on hers

[@RidingWithJahv]

Where's Kevin Samuels?

[@greencase]

simping.

[@canadianbird1185]

Taking on two kids and trying to change someone's behavior are mountains of hurdles lad. I'd rather find someone who's responsible for the finance/kids and where you can start easier. Life is not a game

[@ajones8008]

security guard is simping for her kids...

[@guycoder]

Poor guy doesn't realize he is the budget...

[@Robert74450]

I have 26.5 years to a psychopath who was also a narcissist and I put him thru undergrad he went to the military to pay for his medical s hook we managed to save 700k he hid it all quit working left me with 200k two kids to finish raising and stayed out of work until the divorce was final I got 90k and 200k debt that was the divorce he makes over 400k per year. Now he preys on our daughter and she is on two mental health meds it has taken me years to get over it and not really sure I am

[@a-a-ronbrowser1486]

Wow, what a train wreck

[@lionheart93]

Guys like this man run away far away

[@littlehousepineywoods5352]

Those poor kids. Adults - do better!. 😥

[@2unknown]

Serve that man a giant RED PILL!

[@rodneyevans8362]

Wake up! If the kids are not yours walk away. You need to focus on yourself. You don't make enough money to take care of yourself!

[@rorexc]

sheeesh leave her. She can't help herself. You can barely provide for yourself at 19k year.

[@alexxp4683]

Leave before you get her pregnant..

[@VK-el3of]

Cut your losses bro. Some people just can't be helped. Shes obviously into this lifestyle.

[@random-nz7dy]

Buddy. come on. Stop being a putz. Youre being used. when she gets bored of you, she's gonna jump the next dude. Get out and cut your losses. Run faster than you've ever run, my dude. And news flash to the writer and anyone reading. Theres no we until you're married. your girlfriends kids are not your family, until you're married. They're your roommates kids.

[@bkay1535]

Leave before she decided she wants a baby.

[@emmanuelagyemang3738]

DON’T SAVE HER….SHE DON’T WANNA BE SAVED!!

[@NeyJ]

First things first rest in peace Uncle Phil.

[@emmanuelagyemang3738]

@@NeyJ who?

[@NeyJ]

@@emmanuelagyemang3738 oh never mind 😂 you perfectly quoted a song lyric

[@emmanuelagyemang3738]

@@NeyJ lol I didn't even know that

[@j.m0ney133]

Sounds like they need some counseling. If that doesn't happen it times for him to walk. Easier said then done though. I get the feeling he loves those little kiddos.

[@georgeahacker]

Where does the coin come for counseling?

[@kathygarner8897]

But where is the ACTUAL father?? Noone asked about him- where he is, what he's contributing, etc. I'm surprised that was not brought up.

[@j.m0ney133]

@@kathygarner8897 good point 👍

[@georgeahacker]

So baby daddy pays for counseling?

[@calebmallen]

@@kathygarner8897 , father, or fathers? 🤨

[@richthepup]

Forget the woman and kids that aren't his, my man needs to get his income up. He doesn't even have the option to leave, he can't afford to!

[@Ria24Ria]

Exactly!!

Set financial boundaries. Never let a girlfriend abuse you financially. You should have never cohabitate with her. Move out now! She’s a parasite ! If you move out then she has to wake up and be held accountable. People often get a better work ethic when they have to.

[@hotandsoursoup2664]

Stop playing Captain Save-A-Ho

[@JOESUBA122]

Dave and his host are just so nice 😂😂😂

[@bitcoinmaster3634]

Leave!!!

[@MsLucky443]

Do not move in with girlfriend/boyfriend. Just my opinion

[@spritely2158]

Get a job at McDonalds good god how are you making $19k a year what are you working 10 hours a week?

[@MattheMatthew]

Run, bro…

[@davidcox3076]

I believe a very wise philosopher addressed this very issue many years ago in song: "Fifty Ways To Leave Your Lover".